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165: Jo A. revisits
December 27, 2022 09:27 - 41 minutes - 38.4 MB🔸 The room full of babies, we dive straight in and do some unburdening. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Time will tell ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itunes YouTube How to leave a review - iPhone 👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionairre
164: Daniel A. revisits
December 25, 2022 09:26 - 1 hour - 62 MB🔸 Daniel is all in. He's developed the habit of regular parts work, is cataloging them all, deciding who to go to next. I'm deadweight! ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itunes YouTube How to leave a review - iPhone 👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionairre
163: Rachel A. revisits
December 23, 2022 05:35 - 1 hour - 59.3 MB🔸 That exile is still happy! (Though a part wants to feed her answers). We do half an unburdening with the lonely tween. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): The lonely tween, boy trouble. "Not worth knowing" and "feeling sorry for myself" 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Im encouraged by this success and Rachel’s pace. She has been doing 2 sessions per week with me, so I'm hitting the gas too. But, maybe that's causing me to make mistakes (she shut down when I pushed ...
162: Aandraya A. revisits
December 21, 2022 19:32 - 1 hour - 64.6 MB🔸 Work with the overachiever seems to have paid off. Now we meet the cause of the migraines. **Aandraya texted me 5 days after our call: migraine-free ever since! *** Sorry about the audio. Both recording devices malfunctioned! 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): The angry part Head, neck shoulders Afraid of being pushed around, of being absent from personality Thinks she's 8-10 Needs to be acknowledged 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: We're having fun, and I'm...
161: Anne A. - first call
December 20, 2022 05:00 - 44 minutes - 40.3 MB🔸 Anne plans to coach using IFS and is ready to work with the big issue threatening her marriage. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): You're not worth it. They'd be better off if you weren't here. The wall on the chest, the cell Afraid of heart break Rather be loving everyone Thinks Anne is 8 Calm, and for her to work with Pride, and for a mother-daughter date possibly involving horses 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I feel like some of my worst work happens whe...
160: Jo A. revisits
December 19, 2022 20:51 - 52 minutes - 48.1 MB🔸 A different approach leads us to the overwhelmed woman and the people pleaser. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Overwhelmed, too much to do Afraid of being hurt if not busy Thinks she’s 15 Needs Jo to establish boundaries, not invite the wrong people in The people pleaser also thinks she’s 15 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Again inspired by Derek Scott recently, I decided to try to “cover more ground” by offering more frequent guidance. Keep trying differen...
159: Daniel A. revisits
December 16, 2022 08:13 - 1 hour - 62.3 MB🔸 "I never felt like anyone was there for me because I never felt like I was there for myself" Daniel followed up with me after the call saying “... seems like the blank paper as an intermediary works very well now, I'm connecting with parts with enough of distance to not get overwhelmed when I'm doing it alone. Kinda like a safety barrier"" ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscri...
158: Rachel A. revisits
December 12, 2022 09:27 - 1 hour - 73.6 MB🔸 Exile #2: "The sling and everything" (Rachel was exhausted after our last call. Turned out to be covid.) 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Anxiety and fear want to keep things in order The 5 year old 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I'm feeling more confident in going to exiles now with Rachel. I have parts saying both "too fast" and "too slow"... so... just right? Rachel said she had been through some exile unburdening with an IFS therapist before. We'll see h...
157: Rosie A. revisits
December 10, 2022 09:25 - 50 minutes - 46.2 MB🔸 Protectors on hiatus. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): The infant. Less than one year old Infant can't say what she needs, but Rosie has some ideas. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Who can really understand what an infant wants? Maybe no one. And every one. ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itunes YouTube Ho...
156: Aandraya A. - first call
December 08, 2022 09:02 - 1 hour - 58.4 MB🔸 Aandraya's "wonder woman" part is losing hope; after 25 years of migraines, and 10 years of Lyme disease, the anxious-avoidant "just stay sick / in bed" part is taking over. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): The high performing, high achieving, problem solving part Head, tension in face Fear: never enough, not worthy Thinks she 8 12 Needs patience. Baby steps. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I'm not well-rested, kinda headachy, fortunately Aandraya picked up...
155: Jo A. revisits
December 06, 2022 10:15 - 38 minutes - 35.5 MB🔸 A room full of babies, and a critic we've met, but haven't quite helped. I'm driving and somewhat scattered, fortunately we combine self energy. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): The New York / Italian manager / critic Rather be sailing 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Sorry Jo and listeners, I was dealing with technical and scheduling and climate difficulties. ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help In...
154: Daniel A. revisits
December 04, 2022 09:16 - 1 hour - 58.9 MB🔸 Putting others first brings out feelings of victimhood. We also spot "against forgiving myself" / "the underdog", "the emperor", and the exile behind them all. FYI when I say "we've talked for almost an hour", I'm not lying; I cut the pre-session chat out of most calls. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Get more sleep. ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating...
153: Rachel A. revisits
December 03, 2022 05:00 - 1 hour - 87.1 MB🔸 It's time to bring that little girl home from the hospital. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Protector: You shouldn't be that way Throat Fear of being seen as stupid, and of being left along 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I could have talked less. She liked being reassured that her responses were normal, so I took those opportunities. ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems r...
152: Zach A. - first call
December 02, 2022 09:58 - 1 hour - 64 MB🔸 Zach's been in therapy since age 16 and just left his Level 3 IFS practitioner after 6-7 sessions. We spend less than half the call doing parts work. The rest is questions and guesses. I use all the analogies. Lots of skeptical parts. Lots of parts wanting to jump in. ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itunes YouTube How to leave a revie...
151: Hanna A. revisits
November 29, 2022 05:00 - 55 minutes - 50.6 MB🔸 Hanna believes she is neurodivergent, but getting a diagnosis in her country is extra challenging, so without a diagnosis she prefers to stick to this general label. We talk to parts in the system related to being organized, daily functioning, and so-called "adulting", otherwise known as EF (executive functioning) deficits, which I know well in myself. From my understanding of it, her experience with these parts typifies the daily struggle of people who have not found support for EF defici...
150: Jo A. revisits
November 28, 2022 10:09 - 57 minutes - 53 MB🔸 Lots of protectors upfront. We work systematically, bringing some fresh insight from a 3 year old. We cover new ground like dealing with possible false memories. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I said something about killing the father, which triggered a "feeling judged" part in Jo. I was genuinely curious and we’ve worked together so much... Was it a misstep? ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems r...
149: Daniel A. revisits
November 26, 2022 09:06 - 59 minutes - 54.2 MB🔸 The anger and the anxiety. We let them play. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I told Daniel it would be fine for him to be late to our meeting, having forgotten that I had a pro scheduled to record right after. I was alerted to that mid-call, and it destroyed my focus. That's why I just kept deferring to him. If you're there, you got this. ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subs...
148: Rosie A. revisits
November 24, 2022 09:03 - 1 hour - 58.3 MB🔸 Figuring out figuring out. An attempt at direct access. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): The figuring out part, the others. see notes. Uncomfortable with meditation Set up to fail Blanking Fear of hurting others Rejection ⬥ Rosie shared her parts list: Exile: Alone cuz me part Sad/lonely/shame/terrified because bad/difficult/burden/problem/wrong/misunderstood Managers/Parts trying to get it right: Figure it out, the manager Articulate one Ca...
147: Rachel A. revisits
November 22, 2022 09:57 - 1 hour - 60.2 MB🔸 Rachel is overwhelmed. We talk to anger, and circle exiles. I introduce the "self like" caregiver concept. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Just using my judgement about going ahead vs not. I suggested we go for "angry" even though she brought up "scared" first. It seemed like the more protective of the two. ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or commen...
146: Ian A. revisits
November 20, 2022 21:52 - 1 hour - 57 MB🔸 Recent public speaking is stressing Ian's system. We perform an exorcism. (kidding!) 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): The domineering angry lecturer at the podium Afraid others will fail if they don't get the message Rather be enjoying natural conversation Thinks Ian is 34 (older than real age). Sees lots of ages in audience of subjects Needs a friend 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I'm feeling unusually calm and clear-headed, need to figure out how to repe...
145: Jo A. revisits
November 18, 2022 09:09 - 45 minutes - 41.5 MB🔸 A failed drug test provides a nice opportunity for parts work. We go straight to a 15 year old exile. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Sad being excluded from community age 15 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I'm sick today. IFS helps ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itunes YouTube How to leave a review - iP...
144: Luke A. revisits
November 16, 2022 09:07 - 54 minutes - 49.6 MB🔸 Now what? 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I had to keep attending to my own sad part: "Well, guess you don't need me anymore". More importantly, for me, is recognizing that this is also my frontier, I genuinely don't know what's next. But that's not anxiety, that's me. ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itunes YouTube How to leave a...
143: Daniel A. - first call
November 14, 2022 08:59 - 51 minutes - 47.4 MB🔸 "Just being compassionate turned this little kid completely around." Daniel is relatively new to IFS. We meet lots of parts. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): The overworker Right shoulder Afraid of being a loser on the street, aka worthlessness Needs to do more IFS 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Improve how I deal with explainer/analyzer parts. Sometimes I just let them run and then shut down so as not to react from irritation. But with a first time caller, ...
142: Brandon A. revisits
November 12, 2022 08:56 - 43 minutes - 39.9 MB🔸 The twelve year old feels lost in space, the drive to fill it protects, the organizer responds. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): The judge of that ball of energy. Fears being scatterbrained, and its social consequences Rather be organizing, integrating Needs to be listened to! 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: (I mention watching the clock as Brandon typically calls from work on his lunch break, not because I'm trying to get rid of him.) I asked ""feel towards...
Pro: Percy Ballard with Molly #2
November 08, 2022 09:03 - 1 hour - 78.9 MBPercy is a Harvard-Trained Psychiatrist, IFS Psychotherapist, and soon to be sex and relationship coach. His work with Psych Garden includes Psychedelic / Ketamine-Assisted therapies, though he believes many medications are overrated when compared to quality talk therapy. He cofounded Implicit Bias from the Outside-In, and worked with Black Therapists Rock, Fathers Uplift, and the IFS Collaborative. He has a first degree black belt in Karate and extensive experience with Indo-Tibetan medit...
141: Rachel A. revisits
November 06, 2022 09:03 - 1 hour - 56.8 MB🔸 Worthlessness leads to anger leads leads to tears. We're covering a lot of ground, and contacting an exile, though parts blend with each other and Self. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Through much of this call I was pulled between teaching, yielding, and going forward. That first-time targeting of an exile may be the trickiest of all. ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE ...
140: Jo A. revisits
November 04, 2022 08:00 - 37 minutes - 34.1 MB🔸 Jo: I can't do check-ins on my own. Me: prove it. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Fear, three year old Head, clinging Afraid of not being able to help other young people or parts to be continued... 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itunes YouTube
139: Rosie A. revisits
November 03, 2022 04:00 - 52 minutes - 48.2 MB🔸 Rosie came back! I demonstrate yet again that the practitioner doesn't have to be very clever for IFS to work; the healing comes from you. Let's get to know this reactive part. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Reactive to being told its not doing it right, among other things Afraid of choosing between non existence and being along Rather be expanding creatively Thinks she's 6. Accepting her real age would cause grief Needs 3 weeks of attention. 🎓 What I'd like ...
138: Luke A. revisits
November 02, 2022 20:56 - 58 minutes - 53.8 MB🔸 Why do I do this? It's been a month: has Luke's work with the exile paid off? With a bundle of new diagnoses, is parts work relevant? And about this addict part... 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itunes YouTube
137: Alexander A. revisits
October 30, 2022 08:11 - 51 minutes - 47.2 MB🔸 A part that hates disappointing people, including me. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Around the heart Afraid of being cast out, socially Rather be brave and act as advisor Age: didn't ask, but there are connections to 8th grade 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I'm torn between following the script and improvising. I just worked with Emily Kerpelman and enjoyed her intuitive style. But then I worry I'll be wandering for no good reason, and I'll drift too far ...
136: Brandon A. revisits
October 28, 2022 07:13 - 48 minutes - 44.2 MB🔸 Brandon does it his way. I feel like a passenger on an excursion far from the beaten path, but with a driver I trust completely. I play 'count the parts' and just enjoy the ride. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): The 7 year old wants to break the rules, throw eggs The 12 year old is afraid he'll look an idiot, and that Brandon isn't responsible enough to be around the 7 year old. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I thought I took us off course, targeting the outer...
Pro: Emily Kerpelman with me, James
October 26, 2022 07:19 - 59 minutes - 54.6 MBEmily is a Personal Development Coach and Level 1 Certified IFS Practitioner. Her coaching method is centered around listening, providing guidance and clarity, honesty and transparency. She sees coaching not as therapy, consulting or teaching, but a combination of all three. Website: https://ek.coach 🔸 James investigates physical wellbeing, the parts that fight over his time spent on it, and the one who feels guilty. ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat...
135: Jo A. revisits
October 24, 2022 07:14 - 47 minutes - 43.2 MB🔸 ""You're not allowed to have fun"" part, we learn more about where that comes from. Plus babies. But first a followup: the ""no boundaries"" part got a win! I get the feeling that the closer Jo gets to caring for babies, the better, and we're full-on here. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): You dont get to have fun part. Jaw, throat Afraid she will end up back in the psych ward Rather be dancing, or playing at the casino Thinks shes 5 or a 15 Needs someone to take...
134: Rosie A. - first call
October 22, 2022 07:13 - 1 hour - 55.4 MB🔸 A whirlwind of parts. I scramble for footing. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Alone, not good enough → Prove I'm good enough → Blank out the emotions. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Yes I sincerely enjoyed this conversation, yes it was challenging, and I think I made plenty of mistakes. What do you think? Total failure? Moderate failure? A part says: "Weak. I should have stayed the course, I jumped around too much, following each part that came up." Anothe...
133: Rachel A. - first call
October 20, 2022 07:10 - 1 hour - 57.8 MB🔸 Rachel sees an IFS therapist, but thinks they may have hurried through some steps (protectors before exiles). We get to know those protectors, and it's wonderful. We explore some aspects of the process more deeply; perhaps a good illustration for anyone new to IFS. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): The projecting into the future part Afraid of being alone, not good enough Rather be relaxing Thinks shes ~5th grade Needs what they all need 🎓 What I'd like to do dif...
132: Curtis A. - first call
October 18, 2022 07:07 - 41 minutes - 38.2 MB🔸 Productivity > stress > freeze > flatten/avoid. Amazing how similar these patterns are in so many of us, and how profound an introduction of Self is to that cycle… But what’s in that snow globe?? 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Freeze, chest, fear of the system collapsing like an old building Rather be free Thinks he’s 6 Flatten/avoid/distract, similar fear. Rather be socializing, enjoying nature. Thinks he’s 4 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Was that seco...
131: Brandon A. revisits
October 16, 2022 08:56 - 48 minutes - 44.4 MB🔸 We aim for the angry firefighter, but managers don't want us to go there. The exile is so close. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: My response to repeated blending was to stay quiet, non-reactive. I would have been more by-the-book, and guarded more against blending, if I didn't trust Brandon's process and know he's doing the work. That's why I was doing more commentating, trying to provide context and reassure parts. What do you th...
130: Jo A. revisits
October 14, 2022 08:55 - 47 minutes - 43.5 MB🔸 New parts? Sexual harassment triggers Jo’s firey protector, who could relax if this “afraid to set boundaries part” wasn't so afraid… these parts are young young, we do some unburdening 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): This second part, exiley, is like a holocaust victim. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a ...
129: Luke A. revisits
October 12, 2022 08:52 - 1 hour - 63.6 MB🔸 The Exile. We’re at full power. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): The exile, the boy in the sandbox Age 4 or 5 Needs are simple 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I almost lost it! Hooray for the buddy system! ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itunes YouTube How to leave a review - iPhone 👉 Find your ACE score...
128: Elena A. revisits
October 10, 2022 06:17 - 51 minutes - 47.4 MB🔸 A part says “your crazy”, but an irritated protector doesn’t want us to go there. It then reveals an exile of helplessness. We also meet a scared part, and the exile behind “crazy” of loneliness. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I learn so much from calls like this. She shows up with multiple parts but sees and expresses each so clearly. With her intuition and experience about how to work with them, she suggests approaches I wouldn...
127: Ian A. revisits
October 08, 2022 09:06 - 1 hour - 60.3 MB🔸 Got 'em! 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Exile: "I've been waiting here all my life" Age 10 It's not ok to just be yourself, to fuck up, to not know 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: We could have talked less. We were excited. And now I'm more certain than ever that calling-back to last convo, exile, is maybe the most important thing I can do. Keep holding the thread, the space for the exile, until caller is ready to take over. ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedba...
126: Brandon A. revisits
October 06, 2022 09:04 - 53 minutes - 49 MB🔸 The anger. The isolator. The little boy. The disassociator. Bullied, misunderstood, alone, yelled at, bored. We got a great map, and make contact with the exile. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: (Here is the shoveler that I confused with Ian call # 121) His responses were slow I had lots of time to think of 5 next questions, so I'm not scrambling, but still not so sure. Brandon is committed to self work, IFS, etc. I trust his intui...
125: Jo A. revisits
October 04, 2022 06:40 - 41 minutes - 38 MB🔸 The little boy is at it again. Busy busy. Some wandering around trailheads, then connection is formed. We both try to get creative around killing that monster. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): busy boy chest neck jaw Have to stay busy or the monster comes 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I'm rusty from a couple-week hiatus, don't want to do that again. ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal ...
124: Luke A. revisits
October 02, 2022 18:17 - 49 minutes - 45.1 MB🔸 Rage shows up when it's not wanted. How is it connected to the sprinter, the panic, the black hole of worthlessness? And did he have that convo with his wife? 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Rage Clenched jaw, tense face Fear of the panic Rather be competing athletically Something happened at age 6. Needs more physical play and challenges, more spontaneity 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: At one point I said something like “I appreciate the detailed explana...
123: Alexander A. revisits
September 30, 2022 06:35 - 43 minutes - 39.5 MB🔸 What does a firefighter see? 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Addicted to internet/YouTube. right side the terror… rather be relaxing age 0? needs more! More time, more love. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: The past day or two, I've been intensively studying and diagnosing a chronic health issue of mine. Surprise! The more we love ourselves the more we can love others. What I'd like to do differently: more of that ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James:...
122: Jane A. - first call
September 28, 2022 08:10 - 1 hour - 65.6 MB🔸 Jane's been with an IFS therapist for 6 months, so when she shows up today with an exile, we go straight through. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): 2nd grade, guilt, shame. Having to be an adult back of throat afraid of not being acknowledged, understood, not being able to enjoy the things she loves, her sister's wellbeing needs to hang out with Self, free to sing and dance 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: First time caller. Did i spend enough time and ask the ...
121: Ian A. revisits
September 26, 2022 08:44 - 1 hour - 59.1 MB🔸 This is different. I try to make good on my commitment to followup with an exile, but that "shoveler" was from the wrong notes, wrong caller. Sorry, Ian. Still, Self is present & we make progress, but how many of us are in the room…? 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Ok I need a better note-taking system. As a student, I see so much to unpack and review in this call... Yes I had suspicions from the start when it seemed too easy ...
120: Jo A. revisits
September 24, 2022 10:34 - 41 minutes - 38.2 MB🔸 Jo reports some healing since contacting the baby; what a shift In this protector! We do a lot of just talk about IFS. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): The part that doesn’t want to do checkins Head, shoulders Afraid important stuff won’t get done and so we won’t be loved Rather be at the beach Needs Jo to do the checkins! 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I committed to following up on the baby. The baby is my client. This maybe not the most connecting conver...
119: Luke A. revisits
September 22, 2022 09:31 - 1 hour - 63.5 MB🔸 Is LiveIFS a cult? Deception, marriage. Parts are still a'rumblin', but compare this to our first call. He's doing the work; will it pay off? 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): The part that omits/deceives In the jaw/face, numb Afraid of being unlovable, afraid of the unknown in other's thoughts Needs to have this conversation with wife. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Plenty of cause for concern here! I'm committed to not pushing. I'm not selling James, and I'...
118: Alexander A. - first call
September 20, 2022 10:28 - 51 minutes - 47 MB🔸 What is boredom? We start with a big bundle and quickly zero in, creating a new relationship and insight with a protector. Afterwards, Alexander asks some great questions about IFS and I share some tips for anyone just starting their parts-work journey. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Butterflies re: the end of summer and the golden hour Chest Fear of wasting life, fear of boredom Thinks he's 12 Needs to be met with again, to figure out what's next 🎓 What I'd l...