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148: Rosie A. revisits
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šø Figuring out figuring out. An attempt at direct access.
š¹ Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs):
The figuring out part, the others. see notes.
Uncomfortable with meditation
Set up to fail
Blanking
Fear of hurting others
RejectionĀ
ā¬„ Rosie shared her parts list: Ā
Exile:Ā
Alone cuz me partĀ
Sad/lonely/shame/terrified becauseĀ
bad/difficult/burden/problem/wrong/misunderstood Ā
Managers/Parts trying to get it right:Ā
Figure it out, the managerĀ
Articulate oneĀ Ā
CaretakerĀ Ā
Smiley/Laughing GirlĀ
Donāt know what Iām doing so freeze partĀ
Rational teenagerĀ
Blank oneĀ
Push through part Ā
Firefighters/Parts coping with having gotten it wrong:Ā
Shut down/sullen oneĀ
trying not to need anything
emotional withdrawerĀ
Growler āback off I canāt do/be better!āĀ
Figure it out, the firefighterĀ
The empathizerĀ
Talks me out of my feelingsĀ Ā
The fixer - emotional pursuer
š What I'd like to do differently:
Ā Direct access, not something I feel very confident with, although I think I do it implicitly with more ease. Ā
Ā Loving these calls with Rosie; I feel I'm at my growth edge, she's patient with me, and has enough experience around this work to have already tried whatever approach comes to me first.
Ā We chat a lot outside of these sessions, trying to understand what each of us can change to make our work more effective.
Ā I was full of assumptions in this call, my own figuring out parts. Maybe I identify with her too much? I make (too many) comments, in my own attempt to identify with figuring out. Is that building trust, making parts feel comfortable? Or is that blending?
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