Live IFS
427 episodes - English - Latest episode: about 15 hours ago - ★★★★★ - 2 ratingsInternal Family Systems live sessions & demos. Free and open-sourced peer-work. This is not therapy. We claim no expertise and sell nothing but hope.
Homepage Apple Podcasts Google Podcasts Overcast Castro Pocket Casts RSS feed
Episodes
25: Angela A. - first call
December 23, 2021 14:40 - 37 minutes - 34.7 MB🔸 An analyzing part has a good deal of input, but we'll talk again and I'll be better prepared for it : ) 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Angela has a part that wants to reach out to her ex on the anniversary of their still-birth. And another part telling her no, thats not ok, that this feeling needs to be eradicated. Its in her stomach its afraid she will get conned again. And that if she feels this, she'll feel everything and be overwhelmed. It softened up. It wants...
24: Stacey A. - first call
December 23, 2021 14:40 - 30 minutes - 28.7 MB🔸 Great for a first call, I direct us toward the protector instead of the exile. Worst audio quality but it improves dramatically after the first ~25 episodes. Thanks for your patience 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Irritable, anger stomach vulnerability sending energy out, not in child proof 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help IFS reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itunes YouTube
23: Fernando A. revisits
December 23, 2021 14:39 - 1 hour - 81.2 MB🔸 I make assumptions and push my point too much. Sorry, Fernando! 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Anxiety, but it is protecting from a heavier part: chaos chaos Is a purple sparkling cloud that says “you don’t like me/want me around!” It would rather be exploring the options and being adventurous It needs Fernando to I’ll listen to it and make a chaos list and have more fun exploring the next chapter of his life 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I think I have too ...
22: Jo A. revisits
December 23, 2021 14:39 - 56 minutes - 52.6 MB🔸 With an exile here. We're now at the point where we hardly have to exchange words. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): The falling part. Falling backward. The part that clings to a rollercoaster instead of throws hands up. its in her chest. its a little girl, huddling, hugging her knees, too afraid to look up. the world is just too scary. rather be on the rollercoaster, arms up, playing, screaming! it needs jo to do that job, and look out for conflict. 🎓 What I'd like ...
21: Colleen A. - first call
December 23, 2021 14:38 - 33 minutes - 31.1 MB🔸 Notice the shift from "explainer" to compassionate, I love it. An author and podcaster in to horror, halloween... 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): The righteous anger part. It's red, it needs to be grappled with. She has outlets, but it can still overwhelm when shes with people. In the heart. Its afraid for the hurt younger girl, she is helpless., she is misunderstood and vulnerable. It would rather be writing and fighting the good fight! 11 years younger than realit...
20: Christopher A. revisits
December 14, 2021 22:43 - 52 minutes - 48.5 MB🔸 I found this conversation difficult. Christopher gets into story-telling, analyzing, and my patience dwindles. But there was a shift somewhere in the convo, and we did meet and hear from parts! 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): The loop. The ocd constant reminders re safety Lives in neck Afraid he wont get the message Rather be solving other problems 3 years old Needs him to care about safety! 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: When the conversation is hard, I want ...
19: Jo A. revisits
December 14, 2021 22:43 - 51 minutes - 47.4 MB🔸 Efficient! 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Curled up in chest. It wants her to work, creatively, to overcome depression. Thinks shes 32 cuz thats when depression got bad, suicidal It wants to go to the beach Let the teen out to play! 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I started getting coachy toward the end. Before IFS, I did some professional "coaching", and I could talk about habits all day. It's always hard for that part of me to sit quietly when the subject co...
18: Dawn A. - first call
December 14, 2021 22:42 - 29 minutes - 27.6 MB🔸 Dawn is a visualizer, which makes for a good story, and can make my role easier. She has no trouble connecting and communicating with her parts. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Angry ball of fire Its afraid wicked step mother will harm her family and get away with it It wants to just be fire of passion, to go to projects. And it wants some compassion. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Get calmer, do more meditation before hand. And I forgot to ask about timeline....
17: Fernando A. revisits
December 14, 2021 22:42 - 55 minutes - 51.7 MB🔸 Our second call. The first one broke and is probably lost forever. It starts a little slow, but gets good! 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Worry. its like a shadowy person right in front of him, blocking the way. Normally frustrated toward worry. Afraid he will get hurt. We didnt go to exile, but offered to. Worry wants to call bravery! 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I should probably insist, parts are more like full individuals, not just a single emotion. I n...
16: Clare A. - first call
December 14, 2021 22:42 - 42 minutes - 39.6 MB🔸 The lost Episode! This is the first IFS session I recorded for a public audience, before the podcast was conceived. I had been doing regular peer work with others for less than one month. Clare is a friend. This is our second time working together like this. This is also the only not-over-the-phone session (as of Dec '21), we are sitting together in her kitchen. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: 🙏PLEASE help IFS reach more people. S...
15: Jarvis A. revisits
December 03, 2021 12:12 - 52 minutes - 120 MB🔸 Great convo, I think we were both in an excellent space. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Dull ache in lower back... maybe to do with imposter syndrom, fear of letting people down, especially when they back him. Feels nervous. It would rather be at peace and working in the academic and corporate side of his life, not protecting from the perceived attacks that come with being 'just an athlete' / 'dumb jock' It thinks he is 29 - when he had a lot of major decisions to ...
14: Christopher A. - first call
December 03, 2021 12:12 - 49 minutes - 114 MB🔸 A suicide attempt left him with a traumatic brain injury. He has names for many parts, including the part of himself that tried to kill him, and which he says he killed... He references his diagnosis of bipolar and OCD, and is well versed in CBT. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): The "afraid i might try to kill myself again" part. (He has a lot of judgment about that, that it shouldnt exist, even though he knows it is looking out for his safety) It would rather be cre...
13: Andrew A. - first call
December 03, 2021 12:12 - 39 minutes - 90.5 MB🔸 Andrew brought a lot of curiosity and came alive in this call, but we didn't get past the frame of wanting to explain and "overcome". 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Sweaty hands and feet, tight shoulders Afraid of feeling too good. has to suffer It just wants to retire, and it wasnt to be remembered. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Getting comfortable / confident in naming what I'm seeing. It's extra difficult for me with first-timers. ----- 🙏PLEASE help IFS...
12: Chloe A. - first call
December 03, 2021 12:10 - 27 minutes - 62.6 MB🔸 Chloe's experienced w energy work, is able to connect with and work with her parts quickly. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): The trouble knowing where to go part, the "believe in me" part vs the "doubting" part. we worked with both Age: 7 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Chloe was analyzing parts' responses, and the responses were quick, like she was in a hurry or distracted. I wanted to say something but didn't feel like I had that connection/contract with her. ...
11: Jo A. revisits
December 03, 2021 12:09 - 47 minutes - 108 MB🔸 As usual Jo goes deep! Unburdens an exile 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): 15 yo protector / exile, fear of abandonment. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Establish more connection. We were both a little confused with direction, in future I'd like to just name what's happening, and if she is in self-energy, ask her what's next. ----- 🙏PLEASE help IFS reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here -> Itunes YouTube
10: Pattiya A. revisits
October 14, 2021 13:05 - 1 hour - 145 MB🔸 We meet an exile, and it's very sweet. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): The pain and sadness of feeling not pretty enough, always jealous. She wants to supress it But theres a small part, behind her, tugging at her. A child It has a lot to show her - her father let drug users into her bedroom. She hugs the exile, it enters her heart, a pillow fight, they go to jupiter. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Be more direct in addressing storytelling / analyzing part --...
9: Jo A. revisits
October 14, 2021 13:05 - 1 hour - 155 MB🔸 We meet an exile - Jo unburdens Queenie! 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): This part feels hopeless. Pointless. Stuck. Sad. Empty In the chest. There are protectors saying this isnt worth it. Age ~10. The rabbit. She protects the infant. Needed someone to talk to dad, and wake up mom. Shes safe at the lake house now. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: ----- 🙏PLEASE help IFS reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here -> Itunes YouTube
8: Mike A. revisits
October 14, 2021 13:05 - 1 hour - 190 MB🔸 So glad to hear from Mike again, I suspected from the first call that we could do great work together. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Feeling directionless. causes pain in his chest. still feeling of pointlessness. its afraid of the monster of fear and anger and retaliation. but. that part is afraid of another part. afraid of another monster, a self destructive one, anti social. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Show more compassion ----- 🙏PLEASE help IFS reac...
7: Shecoya A. revisits
October 14, 2021 13:05 - 1 hour - 138 MB🔸 A fun call - How we get there is a little tricky; we spend some time discussing a recent tough event before identifying the target part. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): The ""must speak up"" part in the throat, balancing the heart and head. It's afraid she will ignore it, and not express herself. It would rather be dancing! And expressing through music! It needs her to focus on her ""work"" from the universe, which comes through music and other expression, and take ...
6: Pattiya A. - first call
October 14, 2021 13:04 - 43 minutes - 99.3 MB🔸 Lots of positive energy! For context, Pattiya is just out of high school and working to support herself living alone. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: ----- 🙏PLEASE help IFS reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here -> Itunes YouTube
5: Shecoya A. - first call
October 14, 2021 13:04 - 33 minutes - 75.7 MB🔸 A hula hooper and meditator - We went deep fast, but without disclosing details. I love that about IFS; the self leads and heals, not the practitioner. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: ----- 🙏PLEASE help IFS reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here -> Itunes YouTube
4: Robin A. - first call
October 14, 2021 13:04 - 48 minutes - 110 MB🔸 Thrilling! He has a DMT flashback, and feels high... Robin has never done this, but we touch all the bases. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): The lazy, hunched over, ""on the computer"" part. And The soldier. Judgy, keeps teasing him, calling him a loser, lazy bones! The lazy part is tired, and reveals the child who was forced to do painful physical therapy. Hed rather be making money, and just wants to be left alone Age: millions of years Needs: left alone, and yeah...
3: Jo A. revisits
October 14, 2021 13:04 - 54 minutes - 125 MB🔸 Advanced! Jo is a pro, we move through the steps efficiently and always go deep, typically meeting multiple parts. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Teenager ""fuck it"" part, is free! Busy elf / slave part. Cant take a break cuz the monster (her father). But also cuz worth is derived from productivity The elf goes to the beach : ) 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: ----- 🙏PLEASE help IFS reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here -> Itunes YouT...
2: Mike A. - first call
October 14, 2021 13:04 - 41 minutes - 95.2 MB🔸 I felt like we weren't connecting... then he opens up, having 20 year old memories of trauma and the death of his brother... He wants to do it again! 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Part working against him, not motivating. He hates it. Because things feel pointless Thinks he's six. Thats when his big brother died.... 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: He was quiet, I got nervous. Should have spent more time building connection. ----- 🙏PLEASE help IFS reach mor...
1: Jarvis A. - first call
October 14, 2021 13:03 - 29 minutes - 66.6 MB🔸 We start with a 'problem in the world'. We transitioned quickly into his reaction, and working with it as a part. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Shoulder tension, griting teeth. frustration It's trying to keep his kids safe, and also to let him love to stay more open. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I was rushing, hesitant to go deep. Don't know why. Maybe intimidation, Jarvis seems very professional & high achieving, gets my ""not good enough"" parts buzzing....