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Internal Family Systems live sessions & demos. Free and open-sourced peer-work. This is not therapy. We claim no expertise and sell nothing but hope.

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75: Molly A. revisits

May 17, 2022 20:03 - 50 minutes - 115 MB

🔸 It's magic! Molly unburdens the 10 year old who saw her father being arrested, and never saw him again 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): The protector is disappointment in the pit of the stomach. Wants emotional balance.  The exile is 10. Never got to grieve. Now she can. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help IFS reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itunes YouTube

74: Jo A. revisits

May 11, 2022 13:00 - 33 minutes - 75.6 MB

🔸 Something new! Jo says check-ins aren’t happening for her. I suggest we kinda do one together, and ask her to lead. It seems to work. This is self leadership. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - The teen - chest - sad about the dog dying - needs to be held. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: my goal was to follow up on checkins, and I did. Im happy about this call 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help IFS reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment ...

73: Parker A. revisits

May 10, 2022 04:00 - 1 hour - 74.2 MB

🔸 Topic: Sex. Language: NSFW. We meet at least 5 parts in this call. Robert is big into IFS. We have a chatty “about IFS “ rapport , not as structured as most sessions     🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs):  The 16 yo. Angry, out for vengeance. Here to fuck & fight. How does he relate to the 13, 7, 18 year old parts?     🎓 What I'd like to do differently:         ----- 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give...

72: Casey A. revisits

May 09, 2022 11:51 - 1 hour - 226 MB

🔸 An 'emergency' call. Casey is so distraught, slept for one hour last night. Seems past parts work opened the lid, revealing more unhappy parts. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - protector: “we gotta get out of here” - afraid of pain of disconnect, "they all hate you, they all think you’re crazy." - wants to be a good dog, belly rubs. Not tied to a tree barking. - exile: 4 year olds - neglected feeling, no interaction. Has to save her father - needs someone to look ...

71: Me, James revisits

May 02, 2022 15:20 - 48 minutes - 111 MB

🔸 Molly's first time as practitioner! And I brought a not-easy one to her. We do a debrief at the end. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - go spend money part - Behind me, pushing off the diving board - afraid I’ll miss out on life - rather be making a wish list - thinks I’m a teen or twenties? - needs me to do regular practice. Weekly wish list making 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help IFS reach more people. Subscribe, give a...

70: Molly A. revisits

April 30, 2022 10:15 - 59 minutes - 137 MB

🔸 Clearly Molly does her homework! We dive in with the part that slices in w guilt whenever she’s having fun. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - "Your family had it rough, who do you think you are, having fun?"  - core. Belly, right down the middle  - fear of losing the memories, losing lessons, disrespecting family struggle  - rather be honoring it all, the good and bad  - age: 20 years older than molly  - needs to journal. To write a letter to her, to memorializ...

69: Jo A. revisits

April 28, 2022 13:52 - 54 minutes - 124 MB

🔸 Jo gets the know a numbing part, and unburdens the depressed part it protects. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): the depressed part has spent so much time in the dark. seems like a 12yo. wants to go to the lake house and be free, joyful 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I was working on specific responses to protector fears that I studied this morning. But when it came up I stumbled. 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help IFS reach more people. Subscribe, give ...

68: Parker A. - first call

April 27, 2022 16:18 - 40 minutes - 92.1 MB

🔸 With an IFS therapist for months, but no exile unburdening… we talk to the part that is angry at his therapist. Most callers don’t have a baseline of work with other IFS practitioners to compare. I'm excited to get feedback! 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - angry at therapist, distrustful of women - tightness in the jaw, a scowl, eyes rolled back - afraid of being judged, unwelcome in a tribe or relationship - rather be using its strength as confidence - thinks he ...

67: Casey A. revisits

April 25, 2022 13:16 - 1 hour - 144 MB

🔸 The tired part relaxes, the “you fuck up part” shows up. We get to an exile and do some unburdening. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - behind eyes, throat, cheat  - afraid it won’t be safe, will be thought of as stupid  - relaxing by the pool, taking in the details of the flowers.  - thinks shes 28.  we then go to exile - a boy, 6 or 8, and maybe a teen... and he has a companion too 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Judging by her affect, I think a scared par...

66: Richard A. - first call

April 21, 2022 23:01 - 51 minutes - 117 MB

🔸 Richard knows this part, and has experience with somatic therapy, but not working with an IFS practitioner. (Though we did a session a few weeks prior via text!). This is a textbook convo, just meaning I don’t deviate from the script, and he responds in the most typical way. And that’s not to take away from the insight or depth, I think it added to it. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - Like metal cubes, nagging him to fit in, be as expected  - upper mid back  - af...

65: Molly A. revisits

April 19, 2022 09:00 - 51 minutes - 118 MB

🔸 Molly's moving quickly, consistently meeting and working with parts on her own. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - Anxious, lonely, codependent, - in head and throat and chest - afraid molly won’t lead right, wants external validation - young - needs to be listened to more 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I was working on following up from last week. Then didn’t. And just felt off today. But I did 30 mins of prep. 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help IFS re...

64: Jo A. revisits

April 17, 2022 09:00 - 47 minutes - 43.7 MB

🔸 Part: "hurry up, no time for parts check-ins." But then we meet the starving prisoner, and do a nice unburdening. Sorry about call quality, I'm driving. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - in prison and seem to be starving laying on the floor but once Joe started talking to it.… - It revealed that yes it had just been kind of starving for her attention, affection - thinks Jo is 12 years old 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: the beginning, insisting on circling back...

63: Aizhan A. revisits

April 15, 2022 09:00 - 50 minutes - 115 MB

🔸 This is self connecting with parts! 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Multiple parts. - The ones that want to immigrate. - The ones that want to stay and fight. - And the ones that are still so sad about a lost friendship 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: a lot I could do better. It’s hard with time zones, language barrier, culture barrier, and even just time delay of device. But it’s coming along 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help IFS reach more people. Su...

62: Sonya A. - first call

April 13, 2022 20:30 - 47 minutes - 43.8 MB

🔸 A lively convo. Sonya knows this dictator part all too well. I get into some explaining, as this part is very no-nonsense and has little trust in being led by self. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): The Dictator. - Tension in the neck, head, shoulders, everywhere - Fear that the whole system is doomed, psychotic, irrational - Rather be relaxing - Thinks she is 5 or 10. - Needs a rational approach. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I was working on connecting pre-ca...

61: Casey A. - first call

April 09, 2022 14:08 - 57 minutes - 131 MB

🔸 Casey is a friend. A compulsive-eating part won’t speak, then vanishes entirely. Perservering, she finds something miraculous. We laughed! We cried! 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - The grasping, frantic part compelled to eat, it takes over. The Tasmanian devil - Afraid she will die. Won’t have fun. - rather be exploring, out meeting people, time without kids - thinks she’s 4? (maybe a different part said that) - needs to be listened to and brainstorm fun stuff 🎓 ...

60: Molly A. revisits

April 03, 2022 10:00 - 40 minutes - 37.3 MB

🔸 Minds blown! This call has it all. She thought the part was her! And I love hearing that she's doing the work with the 6-year-old. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - The militant, the mountain, the wall. black and white, director of all decisions.  - spine, ever present  - afraid of other parts taking over, no safety  - rather be reading a book  - thinks She’s 12  - needs decisions to be in alignment, healing all parts 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: If it ...

59: Jo A. revisits

April 01, 2022 10:00 - 31 minutes - 29.2 MB

🔸 Efficient! Fear around feeling so good! 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - afraid part, teen  - afraid Of going back in the world, facing rejection, depression  - dancing  - needs jo to be on the lookout Re: trusting too quickly and giving away too much 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Today I wanted to shake things up with Jo, and make sure to check in with her about what we might do differently, how it's working for her, and I promised myself that if I was f...

58: Me, James revisits

March 30, 2022 09:00 - 50 minutes - 46.7 MB

🔸 I'm very surprised to go to this place so fast. You can hear my energy shift when I realize the exile. Unburdened! 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): The part that keeps me from reaching out! And the one it protects…  - solar plexus, feels bottled up  - afraid of not being seen, requests being lost - rather be exploring w my self. Holding hands - Age 4 - needs me to explore more, to hold its hand, and to be that person when it’s time to reach out. To take that burd...

57: Aizhan A. revisits

March 28, 2022 10:00 - 1 hour - 63.9 MB

🔸 A new approach - we're meeting at not-around-midnight for Aizhan. Parts from past calls still came up, but she has more Self energy to stay with each and get to know it better. I’m learning how they show up, in what order, and why. Yes, tired part, there’s lots to be done, I think we’re up for it. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help IFS reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment h...

56: Emily A. revisits

March 26, 2022 09:00 - 1 hour - 71.8 MB

🔸 An exile wants proof, and is answered. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - a part like w teddy bear.  - sternum  - afraid of being tractionless, the bridge isn’t built, the car goes down in flames  - rather be on the beach flat, grounded  - age of part maybe 7 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help IFS reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itunes YouTube

55: Aizhan A. revisits

March 24, 2022 09:00 - 1 hour - 57.3 MB

🔸 Tension here! She's losing trust in me (or a part is). Are parts of mine reacting? 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - Sadness, anger, inadequacy, the rational part, the numbing part, the "tired of therapy" part… 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: My aim was to target target target. I think, in the last minute of the call, we did that. 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help IFS reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itunes YouTube

54: Jo A. revisits

March 22, 2022 09:00 - 49 minutes - 46.1 MB

🔸 A 5 year old exile brought back from a dark place. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - The judge part that lives in the head and gets mad at her for laying around, watching TV etc.  - It would rather be relaxing in a mumu 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I say textbook, but can that also mean "just going through the motions"? I forgot to mention anything at first but I was thinking about efficiency and not wavering as much on my questions and also asking some of ...

53: Me, James revisits

March 20, 2022 09:00 - 51 minutes - 48 MB

🔸 So nice! I'm surprised by an unfamiliar part after I show up with what I assume are the usual problems that I either don’t want to face, or already have… 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs):  Judgy about screwing around w things of little significance   back of neck, head  waste of life, potential   needs me to put it on the calendar, take our time together more seriously. calendar a walk just with it at least once per week, don’t waste time on retreats… work hard pl...

52: Molly A. revisits

March 18, 2022 09:00 - 59 minutes - 55.3 MB

🔸 Whoa! I won’t ruin the suspense but it’s a great one, and only our second call! 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - A shadowy figure…  - anxious, chest..  - afraid Molly can’t handle it, Will have regrets…  - We can’t see the age at first…  - needs Daily check ins. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I was working on having a less-flat affect, I don’t think I succeeded. What I’d like to do differently in future is get the age of that part! It’s so important and I...

51: Emily A. revisits

March 16, 2022 09:00 - 1 hour - 64.7 MB

🔸 A celebration! An exile she hadn’t met before, unburdened. I say very little in this call. A good template for how to do IFS solo. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - like a raccoon or cat, scared of the unknown, scared of Emily leading herself.  - rather be celebrating  - needs daily checkin and go to fun places 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: A most organic conversation. In the past I’ve felt like I’m playing chess with parts, having to be very sharp. This wa...

50: Aizhan A. revisits

March 14, 2022 09:00 - 1 hour - 57.1 MB

🔸 We're way off-script! Starting with tears, and a cacophony of parts vying to be heard. Despite the sadness, fear, doubt, Aizhan communicates with and holds parts. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I don’t know. I went off-script very early but felt like I was in the right space to do it, and the convo seemed healing in the end. 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help IFS reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment her...

49: Jo A. revisits

March 12, 2022 10:00 - 1 hour - 74.1 MB

🔸 "If the sadness comes out, we'll be punished. It's not ok to be sad"... A protector is comfortable being uncomfortable . We try a couple new approaches with a familiar exile, the teen. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - busy pacing, insisting. It lives in the head. - a few protectors. The fear that Jo won’t know what to do with this sad part when she works with it - the sad teenager is in her throat. - It needs Jo to witness more - wants to be on the beach. And the p...

48: Me, James revisits

March 10, 2022 10:00 - 52 minutes - 48.5 MB

🔸 Jo is practitioner! And guess what, I'm nervous! Nervous I might want her to do something differently and not know how to say it, or that I won’t be able to go deep enough because I’ll be focusing on her practitioning. Nervous about losing respect of listeners and peer-workers by sharing these parts of me. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - The part that doesn’t want to ask for help. In the chest. Heart. - deeper fear is more like grief of not having community, and t...

47: Molly A. - first call

March 08, 2022 10:00 - 28 minutes - 26.6 MB

🔸 The most efficient call? Too efficient? The longing sounds exile-y to me, and I’m being more insistent about not going to exiles with first-timers. Thankfully, this isn't our last call. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - The part that wants her to move on, move past this longing feeling - in The throat - worried she will get sucked back in to abusive relationship - rather be on the beach, but also an equal, it’s decisions respected - thinks she is 13 - need to be lis...

46: Emily A. - first call

March 06, 2022 12:00 - 50 minutes - 46.9 MB

🔸 Emily has significant IFS experience! She is quick to touch-in to a vulnerable exile part. Still, I encourage her to stay with the protector: the witness. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - The part at the bottom of the stairs - it’s protector, the witness, standing by - a quivering in the sternum, like after crying - thinks Emily is 16 - needs a voice 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help IFS reach more people. Subscribe, giv...

45: Jo A. revisits

March 04, 2022 10:00 - 1 hour - 68.7 MB

🔸 A scary clown with sharp teeth in her stomach and shoulders, afraid of the monster. Thinks she’s a teen... We're going in. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - the exile is a teen, chained up in a train car. - Can’t be playful. Became religious fanatic instead. - Been there too too long, wants to be silly - wants to scream it out, they go be in the woods, safe and calm and fun 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Textbook! 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help IFS ...

44: Me, James revisits

March 02, 2022 10:00 - 51 minutes - 47.5 MB

🔸 Jo is Practitioner! I'm still nervous, but the session is smoother. A familiar exile (fear of success?) shows up, and I vow to go straight for it.. Next time. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - the part that shrugs its shoulders about prioritizing a project "fix back pain". - It's too busy, doesn't have the info, nor the permission to concentrate - Age ~28-30, apprx when i started getting serious about prioritizing projects. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: From ...

43: Aizhan A. revisits

February 28, 2022 10:00 - 20 minutes - 19 MB

🔸 Not an IFS session, this is what it looks like when we decide not to do IFS. We're both early risers, and because our time zones are 11 hours apart, we're going past-bedtime. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - The part longing for connection… - And the sleepy part! 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I was practicing using bookmarks from last time. Maybe I need to practice *not* connecting so much with some people. Because if we talk about the project and the commun...

42: Alinda A. revisits

February 26, 2022 10:00 - 43 minutes - 40.1 MB

🔸 Powerful. She's new to IFS, she's in tears, and still the intuition is there, Self knows how to heal. We meet the part that is not ready to allow grieving. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - tightness in shoulders, neck. - afraid of going back to dark, broken place. Afraid of the secret, that Alinda won’t be able to love - rather be reminding her of her progress - needs To see the self care and the reminders of how hard the fight was. 🎓 What I'd like to do different...

41: Lisa A. - first call

February 24, 2022 22:52 - 45 minutes - 42.2 MB

🔸 A fast paced first-call. Fun! We meet a protector and its exile, dealing with the pain of being alone. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - The part is frustrated. It’s in the head, behind the left eye, and in the throat. - It’s afraid that it’s the only one running the show, and the other parts aren’t doing their job. - It’s afaid of Lisa being lonely, sleeping alone for the rest of her life by not finding relationships. It’s afraid of not having the independence need...

40: Alinda A. - first call

February 21, 2022 12:35 - 39 minutes - 36.7 MB

🔸 Alinda is ready to meet younger parts, but it's our first call, so I’m being cautious & insisting that we spend some time with protectors. There are some tears, but I think we did great! And maybe I finally did the right thing w that upfront presenting fear! 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - A crushing feeling in chest, avoiding the work - afraid she will learn too much, not be able to handle it - rather be helping her handle it! - thinks she’s 6 - needs her to be m...

39: Me, James - first call

February 19, 2022 21:00 - 48 minutes - 45.3 MB

🔸 Jo is practitioner! I'm nervous! How much should I share on the pod? How much should I guide Jo? It's a lot to think about. This was recorded in August '21. James-as-client calls sat on the shelf longer than most. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - the sneaky, do anything to get out of work part. sorta 5 year old, sorta teen, 22 year old... - he has his back turned - hes afraid i will literally gather dust, if life is so boring - he wants BIG fun. and more exercise -...

38: Jo A. revisits

February 18, 2022 20:29 - 1 hour - 59.7 MB

🔸 Jo meets the battered woman, the grandmother, who can only clean and clean and hope to not be battered! We set her free! I'm short on time on this one, but still a good call. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - The pain in the stomach for the part that feels something in the stomach - The exile was a young person in a cage. Not very responsive. But Jo knows what to do. - This exile had experienced some terror and needed to vomit 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: 😀C...

37: Will A. revisits

February 15, 2022 20:58 - 37 minutes - 34.3 MB

🔸 NOT an IFS session, instead we talked *about* IFS, & how to check in. I give some instruction. The First half of call is just hearing from him, how he’s doing. He sounds great! 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Experimented with a new breathing exercise to relax before call. I think was effective. Will try 2x next time. 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help IFS reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itun...

36: Aizhan A. revisits

February 15, 2022 20:58 - 50 minutes - 47.1 MB

🔸 We get more targeted this time. Aizhan goes to an exile to be with it in the way it seemed to need. We discuss changing external circumstances. At the end we talk a little bit about my personal practice and how we can work more together! 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - Tension, pounding in the heart - longing for community, connection - would rather be exploring - needs Aizhan to keep listening, and maybe change external circumstances 🎓 What I'd like to do differ...

35: Jo A. revisits

February 15, 2022 20:49 - 1 hour - 66.3 MB

🔸 We start with a 15 year old, learn about a 10 year, and finally find the curled up 3 year old. Exile: Unburdened. I'm a little lost in the beginning feel like our handling of the exile was textbook. Helps having worked together so much! 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - 3 year old. - Hiding, like curled up under bench - fear of father, feeling like can’t do anything right - needs to scream it out 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLE...

34: Shecoya A. revisits

February 15, 2022 20:49 - 44 minutes - 40.9 MB

🔸 She's back! I'm a little covid-y in this one. If the ending seems more awkward than usual, it's because we decided to talk non-IFS stuff, so that was cut out. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - The resentful part. It starts with what she sees but feels like it’s in her hands. - it’s afraid that if she doesn’t share things with someone, they'll forgotten. It’s tired of starting over. - it would rather be positive, and see her doing more yoga and hula hooping and movin...

33: Aizhan A. - first call

February 15, 2022 20:49 - 1 hour - 57.5 MB

🔸 Aizhan is in Kazakhstan (and perhaps the first subscriber to the podcast!) The time difference presents some challenges. And I forgot to write a description of this call after recording it. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help IFS reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itunes YouTube

32: Zoe A. revisits

February 15, 2022 20:49 - 29 minutes - 27 MB

🔸 I'm nervous because I think I did a bad job the first time we talked. It helped that I expressed that to her pre-recording. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - The part that tells her it’s silly to feel not good enough to do art - in the head, heavy - fears letting her be vulnerable - rather be helping her to do art! - needs patience. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I was determined not to go into scared/exile place in beginning, and did a lot of practice around ...

31: Will A. revisits

February 15, 2022 20:49 - 1 hour - 56.9 MB

🔸 Parts + parts + parts. We start with the target: a numbing part. But others won't step back. We go through the process with a different part, but another is present… We get to a joyful place in the end 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - Parts don’t trust of the self. - first the numbing part, bt then anger - Feels like it’s in the head - afraid of the numbing - would rather be helping him build confidence - doesn’t know his age 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Ju...

30: Will A. - first call

January 18, 2022 14:40 - 1 hour - 55.9 MB

🔸 Will is not entirely new to IFS. His parts have names already. I'm hesitant to work with the 3 year old at first, so we spent some time picking a target. Ended up with his protector after all. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - An older part named Will, who seems to have something to do with this pain in the chest. - He's afraid if he doesn't act as shield or freeze, they'll be hurt. - He'd rather be playing, loving, and protecting and a positive way - Thinks Will (c...

29: Jen A. - first call

January 18, 2022 14:40 - 33 minutes - 30.6 MB

🔸 Is this outgoing part a firefighter? No trouble tapping-in, always interesting when working with someone for the first time. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - The outgoing, need to connect part - Heart, jaw, stomach - Fear of being alone - Rather be creative, and allow her to just be - Age: teens - Needs to be listened to 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help IFS reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: ...

28: Jo A. revisits

January 18, 2022 14:40 - 1 hour - 61.1 MB

🔸 Understanding the weed smoking part, protecting her from the depressed, lay on the couch part. We get to know them both and the external family they may be connected to. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - depressed lay on couch, despondent, like mother. - it's afraid of her father. afraid of the whole world being so difficult - rather be going to amusement park going on a roller coaster, singing dancing… Being around people - needs Jo to spend more time with it...

27: Zoe A. - first call

January 18, 2022 14:40 - 55 minutes - 51.6 MB

🔸 I'm a little shook, feeling out of my depth here. Zoe presents with wanting to know an inner child. This one sent me back to the drawing board. #1: do no harm. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - Scared Inner child. And the part telling her to grow up. - Grow up part is above her - Its afraid she will go out and be hurt, shes too vulnerable - Thinks shes 7-8 - Needs reasurrance 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I talk too much. not enough questions, not enough trus...

26: Angela A. revisits

January 18, 2022 14:39 - 47 minutes - 43.5 MB

🔸 There is a scared child in there. Our 2nd call, we go deeper, but still building trust. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - The part that wants to withdraw from everyone and everything - It is in the throat like something hard to swallow - It’s afraid if it doesn’t withdraw, she will be broken. - It is a teenager - He would rather be looking out appropriately. - It needs her to check in and it needs her to acknowledge it and validate it… 🎓 What I'd like to do differe...