121: Ian A. revisits

🔸 This is different. I try to make good on my commitment to followup with an exile, but that "shoveler" was from the wrong notes, wrong caller. Sorry, Ian. Still, Self is present & we make progress, but how many of us are in the room…?



🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs):

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:

Ok I need a better note-taking system. 

As a student, I see so much to unpack and review in this call... 

Yes I had suspicions from the start when it seemed too easy to go to this exile. And then I talked too much, from naive optimism that maybe all was well. In hindsight, obviously, there was a lot I could have done differently there. 

I didn’t feel like I had the right language or the freedom to say what I was seeing sooner. And perhaps my own parts are ashamed or resentful of what I am calling the “no problem” part.

 But I did see it sooner, as “how does he feel?” was never answered straight, or in the use of “I think…”.

 I was just winging it with the “go journal on it” suggestion. I didn’t know how else to work here. I could have gone direct access, etc, sooner. 

Finally, thinking “should I just say what I see?” Cuz I feel like that’s the least I can do. ""If I fail as a 'practitioner', in that moment, I can at least be an honest witness."" 

I'm praying we hear from Ian again, I want to get this right. 

**UPDATE** He just texted me the list! 

Here it is:

 **Jibberish**  

- Excitement of death 
- Routine announcements 
- Routines 
- 10 year old being in routines 
- Being tired of excitements, all kinds 
- Never too late vs death 
- Never too late vs never trying 
- Excitement seeking and avoidance 
- Avoidance of bad experience, and good ones because the 10 year old felt inadequate   
- Being offered things and rejecting them, despite a fun excitement being involve

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