Stop Drinking and Start Living
341 episodes - English - Latest episode: 4 days ago - ★★★★★ - 87 ratingsDo you ever feel like you've out growing alcohol, that you are longing for a deeper connection to life? If alcohol is keeping you playing small and feels like the one area you just can't figure out, you are in the right place. I'm a holistic alcohol coach who ended a 20-year relationship to alcohol without labels, counting days or ever making excuses. Now I help powerful women just like you eliminate their desire to drink on their own terms. In this podcast, we will explore the revolutionary approach of my proven five-shifts process that gets alcohol out of your way by breaking all of the rules, and the profound experience that it is to rediscover who you are on the other side of alcohol. I am so thrilled to be your guide. Welcome to your journey of awakening
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Ep. # 27 In Service Of with Willo Sana
June 05, 2020 07:00 - 57 minutes - 39.3 MBSend us a Text Message. This engaging conversation with guest, Willo Sana, is such a wonderful companion to our invitation of Confronting The Story (ep.26). We talk about her spiritual awakening as the catalyst for changing her relationship with alcohol, which propelled her forward to creating the frame work for which to lead from. The pure science behind the pathways of the brain that create belief from a false pleasure and how can you find your deep center and your own knowing inside, an...
Ep. #26 Confronting the Story: Week 2, 40 Days To Freedom From Alcohol
June 03, 2020 07:00 - 54 minutes - 37.6 MBSend us a Text Message. HOORAY! YOU ARE DOING IT! As we dive deeper into our 2nd week of our program from Self Sabotage to a Sacred Journey of the Self, the need for deep contemplation arises. This is the pivotal pillar of the healing journey. Through confrontation of the stories which shape our reality, we are able to start to see what is not actually true. We can name it and it begins to loose it's power over us. For our purposes it comes much of the time from subconscious shame around al...
Ep #25 Parenting, Sobriety & Choice w/ Keely Rademacher
May 29, 2020 07:00 - 49 minutes - 34.4 MBSend us a Text Message. Join me for a beautiful conversation with Artist and Mother, Keely Rademacher. We discuss the deep parallels between Sobriety and Parenting. How midst and compassion to change are LEARNED behaviors, and discovering choice is part of the journey of growing awareness. We discover that the masculine dominated culture is the opposite way to support TRUE, lasting transformation and that finding the Mother within, is how to meet yourself where you are with open arms and a ...
Ep. #24 Answering The Call, Week 1: 40 Days To Freedom From Alcohol
May 27, 2020 07:00 - 41 minutes - 28.4 MBSend us a Text Message. YES!! 40 Days To FREEDOM!! Today we explore recognition. It's time. Show up, commit. You have NOTHING TO LOSE. You know what your life looks like with alcohol. It's not getting more fun, interesting or surprising you with new results. Why not take a closer look? You are here, you have already heard the call of your highest self, she is ready and waiting for you to answer. What if, the next 40 days of your life, just by committing, by taking indecision off the plat...
YOU ARE INVITED! 40 DAYS TO FREEDOM FROM ALCOHOL STARTS 5/27!
May 25, 2020 20:00 - 20 minutes - 14.5 MBSend us a Text Message. Live on the show! We dive deep going from self sabotage to a sacred journey of the self! For 40 days I will take you through transformational journey to reclaim your power and rewrite your story around alcohol. If you believed that this was the 40 days that could change the rest of your life, it will! ARE YOU READY..... 🌹To blow your mind? 🌹To claim your worth? 🌹To END Self Sabotage? 🌹To see that life has more to offer than your WILDEST DREAMS? 🌹To start FEELING B...
Ep. 23 Who Am I Now? with Dina Schaefer
May 22, 2020 07:00 - 1 hour - 43 MBSend us a Text Message. I surrendered myself to myself... ... Have you ever heard anything more inspiring? Dina talks about how when a person blacks-out, it's like our highest self saying, see ya later, call me when my temple is ready! ... This episode you DON"T want to miss. By her own rules, through the process of Maturation, Dina shares with us her heroic journey of learning to trust herself again, finding freedom from the Mother within and claiming her self worth after a deep dive into...
Ep. #22 Spiritually Deficit w/ Mary Wagstaff
May 20, 2020 07:00 - 54 minutes - 37.3 MBSend us a Text Message. Searching for God on the internet? (PS...she's not on instagram) ... In this episode I talk about my own personal spiritual deficit. How I live a parallel life of yoga and drinking for 20 years. How I was seeking meaning to life through the next new adventure, technique, or THING, Only to find a dead end, in an empty bottle of tequila. The true guidance is never outside of you, yet the inner voice that gets overshadowed by the oh so noisy world, including Social Med...
Ep. #21 Expanding & Exploring with Tina Quinn
May 15, 2020 07:00 - 46 minutes - 32.3 MBSend us a Text Message. In this episode I have a very touching and intimate conversation with the delightful, Tina Quinn. Tina speaks to deep loss and grace saving tragedy. How she is propelling herself forward with: "The belief that I can ______!" I love an open invitation to dive deeper into what's possible, now that alcohol is no longer holding you back. She learned that asking for support is about understanding that the ebb is part of the flow. This episode really relates on a deep lev...
Ep. #20 Moderation is NOT the key.
May 13, 2020 07:00 - 27 minutes - 18.9 MBWhen you are trying to solve for the problem of alcohol, moderation solves for the symptom, the ACTION, which is the drinking. As much as you want alcohol to be different than it is, moderating now, will never solve the ROOT CAUSE of your drinking which are your THOUGHTS and the conditioned pattern created in your mind, emotions and body around your beliefs of alcohol. There is a voice inside calling you home. She doesn't need to moderate. She does what serves her most, and leaves the rest. ...
Ep. #20 The Key To Moderation
May 13, 2020 07:00 - 28 minutes - 19.8 MBSend us a Text Message. When you are trying to solve for the problem of alcohol, moderation solves for the symptom, the ACTION, which is the drinking. As much as you want alcohol to be different than it is, moderating now, will never solve the ROOT CAUSE of your drinking which are your THOUGHTS and the conditioned pattern created in your mind, emotions and body around your beliefs of alcohol. There is a voice inside calling you home. She doesn't need to moderate. She does what serves her mo...
Ep. #19 Beyond The Veil With Melissa Robin
May 08, 2020 07:00 - 39 minutes - 27.2 MBSend us a Text Message. In this episode we talk of all things ritual that make room for the feminine to THRIVE. The wonderful Melissa Robin shares about spontaneous sobriety after a sweat lodge experience, cacao medicine, embodied healing and the masculine hustle. Don't miss this beautiful soul share her inspiring story and magic. I am so blessed to know of this sweet Goddess Si-STAR! Thank you so much, Melissa. xoxo A sacred way to explore your divine feminine is through one of Melissa's l...
Ep. #18 Facing Resistance & Happy Mothers Day!
May 06, 2020 07:00 - 32 minutes - 22.2 MBSpecial Mother's Day Intro Surprise! This episode is dedicated to my beautiful Mother, Shannon Thompson, for whom, none of this would be possible. My life and love have blessed, thank you. WIth Change Comes Resistance, the only way to move forward is to walk through it. A refusal to accept change, in this case your relationship to alcohol. The first step to facing resistance is to acknowledge that it's happening. Alcohol becomes a way of life, to move away from alcohol is to accept a new wa...
Ep. #18 Facing Resistance & Happy Mothers Day!
May 06, 2020 07:00 - 32 minutes - 22.5 MBSend us a Text Message. Special Mother's Day Intro Surprise! This episode is dedicated to my beautiful Mother, Shannon Thompson, for whom, none of this would be possible. My life and love have blessed, thank you. WIth Change Comes Resistance, the only way to move forward is to walk through it. A refusal to accept change, in this case your relationship to alcohol. The first step to facing resistance is to acknowledge that it's happening. Alcohol becomes a way of life, to move away from alco...
Ep. #17 Deep Knowing with Meghan French
May 01, 2020 07:00 - 59 minutes - 40.7 MBSend us a Text Message. In this episode we talk to the upbeat and inspiring, Meghan French, who is by far living her best life. Meghan shares how her sobriety has truly created a deep sense of inner knowing, trust and freedom, in a way she hadn't experienced. How moving through a break up, dating and quarantine have been exponentially more fun and manageable because of the work she has put in and the real form of self love, care and compassion she is now able to offer herself. How loss of o...
Ep. #16 Cultivating Self Trust
April 29, 2020 07:00 - 45 minutes - 31.3 MBSend us a Text Message. The current theme in all of my work in some form, is creating self trust. As simple as it sounds, the concept runs deep and the implications of how it will not only change your relationship to alcohol, but shape your life are astounding. If the definition of Trust is a firm belief in the reliability, truth, ability, or strength of someone or something, in our case, the self. How will we ever tap into innate wisdom when alcohol completely overrides, every factor tha...
Ep #15 Rebuilding From The Ground Up With Kelsey Irish
April 24, 2020 07:00 - 48 minutes - 33.2 MBSend us a Text Message. In this episode we hear from the lovely and straight up, Kelsey Irish. We the talk about starting from the ground up and how ditching alcohol (and labels and rules) is the best tool to support major transition, that honesty is the only real requirement for change, creating a new level of focus and finding the ultimate freedom, one night friendships, living a life of intentions vs. being along with the ride, and how changing your relationship to alcohol is a natural p...
BOUNS: Pause Before You Pour: A pre-drinking check-in.
April 23, 2020 01:00 - 12 minutes - 8.53 MBSend us a Text Message. Your relationship with alcohol is a conditioned habit. A auto pilot response to a number of stimulus and cues in your world. Just like brushing your teeth or driving a car, drinking has become what you do without much thought. To change any part of our routine, or to create a new habit, we must slow down enough to watch the habit unfold in real time. I created this deeply relaxing guided check in, for you to take a moment to tune into YOU, before you choose a drink. ...
BOUNS: Pause Before You Pour: A pre-drinking check in.
April 23, 2020 01:00 - 11 minutes - 7.66 MBYour relationship with alcohol is a conditioned habit. A auto pilot response to a number of stimulus and cues in your world. Just like brushing your teeth or driving a car, drinking has become what you do without much thought. To change any part of our routine, or to create a new habit, we must slow down enough to watch the habit unfold in real time. I created this deeply relaxing check in to take a moment to tune into YOU, before you choose a drink. By doing this, you will be in the place o...
Ep. #14 The Privilege Of Emotion
April 22, 2020 07:00 - 28 minutes - 19.7 MBSend us a Text Message. In this episode we explore the Privilege Of Emotion. Our emotional body is our internal navigation device where we can choose to detach from circumstance or story and be with what is, free of judgement. It is from this place where we can harness the super power of observing the emotions and expand our awareness of the truth of reality. In both desired and undesired situations, alcohol creates and false sense of reality, taking away to privilege that we have to seek ...
Ep #13 Pregame Pep-talk with Erika Hicks
April 17, 2020 07:00 - 49 minutes - 34.3 MBSend us a Text Message. In this candid conversation with Artis, educator and creator of thirsty4spirit.com, an amazing blog and instagram page where Erika offers spiritual guidance for practical applications to becoming the "Catalyst in Guiding your own evolution". She asks are you "ARE YOU THIRSTY 4 YOUR SPIRIT WITHIN?" Implying a spiritual deficit present for many people who struggle with alcohol. This is something I agree with entirely. We continue to fill a void and search for meaning o...
Ep #12 Someday You Won’t Want To (drink) Either with Matthew Graham
April 15, 2020 07:00 - 47 minutes - 32.8 MBSend us a Text Message. In this very special episode, I interview my beloved life partner, Matthew Graham, about next leveling his life by going all in on drinking, what happened to Dad, quitting drinking in an enabling relationship, how one thought will make or break your outcome and quality of life, and how living alcohol free in quarantine is the key to less fear and anxiety. To schedule a personal strategy session with Mary: email [email protected] Changing your relationship t...
BONUS: Meditation for waining moon.
April 14, 2020 07:00 - 15 minutes - 10.7 MBThis is the final phase of the moon meditations. These can be used any moon cycle, so if you are just discovering this, I invite you to go back to the new moon meditation and set your intention for that lunar cycle and see what opens up! For today, grab a candle and a journal. Take some time to reflect on the past month to see what has been useful and what is ready to be burned. What is the flickering light in the darkness that keeps calling you? Are you willing to get still and quiet to hea...
BONUS: Meditation for waining moon.
April 14, 2020 07:00 - 15 minutes - 11 MBSend us a Text Message. This is the final phase of the moon meditations. These can be used any moon cycle, so if you are just discovering this, I invite you to go back to the new moon meditation and set your intention for that lunar cycle and see what opens up! For today, grab a candle and a journal. Take some time to reflect on the past month to see what has been useful and what is ready to be burned. What is the flickering light in the darkness that keeps calling you? Are you willing to g...
Ep. #11 Ditch The Vacation Mindset With Amber Stephens
April 10, 2020 07:00 - 52 minutes - 36.2 MBSend us a Text Message. Amber Stephens courageously shares her story of shame, trauma and perseverance. How she thought drinking alcohol was the key to her hardcore, badass self, only to end up right where she started every time. When she said ENOUGH and took her life into her own hands, digging deep into the divine feminine powers that live within, she was able to find, strengthen and now share, the power and privilege is it is to be Alcohol Free and live a life without excuses. If you, l...
Ep #10 Expanding Resilience
April 08, 2020 07:00 - 39 minutes - 27 MBSend us a Text Message. In this episode we explore why quarantine time is an amazing opportunity for anyone who as been wanting to quit drinking. It's such a powerful time to show up to a brand new reality and expand your capacity for resilience from tapping into your own internal resources. The normal association triggers of your day to day may have changed greatly, and instead of creating new ones around alcohol, you can explore new ways to be of service to your life, mind, body and soul....
BONUS: Meditation For The Full Moon
April 06, 2020 21:00 - 21 minutes - 14.7 MBSend us a Text Message. There has never been a better time to explore the nature of reality. Letting the natural world support your deeper connection and understanding of who you are, and why it matters that you live into an abundant life, where love and light are the guiding forces leading the way. Let this full moon bring into view for you what IS innately true and what is acquired knowledge, find what best serves your life and the collective. Enjoy. Reach out with questions or for 1 one ...
Ep #9 Association Triggers
April 01, 2020 07:00 - 33 minutes - 23 MBSend us a Text Message. This episode is CRUCIAL to understanding your relationship with alcohol. How to mitigate and understand why uncertainty and stress in this current moment may be bringing up the desire to drink. To move past the power of the conditioned mind you MUST understand how it works and why, even after years of living Alcohol Free, you may STILL have urges or cravings. This is a tool to help greatly in the early stages of AF living, you may not yet be in full believe that lif...
BONUS: Meditation for the Waxing Moon
March 30, 2020 22:00 - 17 minutes - 12.1 MBSend us a Text Message. With some extra time on your hands, let me guide you through a practice of uncovering the nature of the self and of reality. Take a guided journey to an ancient land where the energy is full of possibility. When we are changing our relationship to alcohol, it's easy to take every thought we have as FACT and TRUTH, because we have been thinking that thought on auto pilot for so long. This practice allows you to create NEW thoughts on purpose based on your intention fo...
Ep. #8 Your Life Intention
March 27, 2020 18:00 - 35 minutes - 24.3 MBSend us a Text Message. In this episode I teach you how to create your own personal manifesto for QUALITY CONTROL of your life. This is the exact language that comes from your HIGHEST and BEST self from which all GREAT decisions are made. In a time where the ground feels shaky in the world and you are changing your relationship to alcohol, having the VOICE of your highest self is the one certain thing you can count on. The more you practice it, the more it becomes second nature and guarente...
Ep. #7 Quarantini Anyone?
March 25, 2020 07:00 - 28 minutes - 19.4 MBSend us a Text Message. In this episode we explore what is certain, how to understand your emotions and be OKAY with what you are FEELING. Why a pandemic is the perfect time to stop drinking & MORE importantly REMEMBER your BIG WHY to NOT drink. Why Alcohol is Fuel to the fire of fear and anxiety and can actually make a current situation worse, not to mention lower your immunity. In this moment your personal responsibility to be in the best physical, mental and emotional health possible, f...
BONUS: Meditation For The New Moon
March 23, 2020 23:00 - 22 minutes - 15.5 MBSend us a Text Message. In light of the chaos happening in and around us, I decided to release a four part meditation series corresponding to each phase of the moon over the next month. This practice will be a tool to anchor you into what is CERTAIN, what is real, who you are and your deeper connection to the outer world and your inner elements as a part of the web of earth. Please take this opportunity to set an intention and find some quiet, alone time to dig deep into your power and reme...
Ep. #6 Living Today For Your Future Self with Kaylyn Dawley
March 18, 2020 07:00 - 37 minutes - 26.1 MBSend us a Text Message. Ep. #6 Living Today For Your Future Self Today’s Episode is our first interview with one of my clients and sweet friend, Kaylyn Dawley. We talk about why getting alcohol out of her way was the key to her living her dreams of becoming an entrepreneur, how she has used the same process to help support her struggle with depression & anxiety and lots of laughs about why alcohol just isn’t cool anymore, LOL, (and never really was). Kaylyn is the co-owner of Action Jacks...
Ep. #5 Rise Above The Noise
March 11, 2020 07:00 - 35 minutes - 24.1 MBSend us a Text Message. In this episode we will talk about the final shift to get alcohol out of your way: This includes the two main factors in the ability to overcome all adversity, in our case: alcohol. The first player is you; your internal resources. A reminder of how powerful you are once you can hear yourself think or just be. The next, is the supportive other. We are all born with internal resources, AKA, your intuition and perseverance. This is the ability to advocate for ourselve...
Ep. #4 Throw A Better Party
March 04, 2020 12:00 - 20 minutes - 14.1 MBSend us a Text Message. There is no better version of anyone you can be besides yourself. Learn how to throw a better party than Booze ever could. In this episode I talk about taking the Curious Observer next level and tapping into the power of CHOICE. This is where you become the INTENTIONAL CREATOR of your life. Deciding how you want to show up in the world ON PURPOSE. Asking what am I getting out of alcohol that I can't do for myself? It’s time to start practicing new thoughts about what...
Ep. #3 Got Curiosity?
February 25, 2020 20:00 - 19 minutes - 13.7 MBSend us a Text Message. In this episode I will talk about the place inbetween DRINKING IS LIFE to A LIFE WITHOUT ALCOHOL. When you are deep in the throws of daily drinking, or alcohol being the "IT" thing for you, you can't imagine your life without it. Curiosity is the place where you can live that doesn't create further attachment nor impossibility. You have to bridge the gap between your current beliefs that nothing will ever be the same without booze and that alcohol is irrelevant to yo...
Got Curiosity?
February 25, 2020 20:00 - 18 minutes - 12.9 MBIn this episode I will talk about the place inbetween DRINKING IS LIFE to A LIFE WITHOUT ALCOHOL. When you are deep in the throws of daily drinking, or alcohol being the "IT" thing for you, you can't imagine your life without it. Curiosity is the place where you can live that doesn't create further attachment nor impossibility. You have to bridge the gap between your current beliefs that nothing will ever be the same without booze and that alcohol is irrelevant to you. Curiosity is an amazin...
Ep. #2 Ditch The Judgement!
February 25, 2020 20:00 - 23 minutes - 15.9 MBSend us a Text Message. In this episode, I will talk about the 2nd shift in my 5 Shifts Process to changing your relationship to alcohol, how to set the judgement aside and tune into the witness. It’s impossible to see all of your beliefs from the same perspective in which they were created. Our judgement or interpretation of the outer circumstances of life is how we view our world. It is those same thoughts that create our feelings and how we show up in the world, our actions. In order to ...
Ditch The Judgement!
February 25, 2020 20:00 - 21 minutes - 15.1 MBIn this episode, I will talk about the 2nd shift in my 5 Shifts Process to changing your relationship to alcohol, how to set the judgement aside and tune into the witness. It’s impossible to see all of your beliefs from the same perspective in which they were created. Our judgement or interpretation of the outer circumstances of life is how we view our world. It is those same thoughts that create our feelings and how we show up in the world, our actions. In order to change your relationship ...
Ep. #1 Breaking Up Is Hard To Do...(or is it?)
February 25, 2020 19:00 - 20 minutes - 13.9 MBSend us a Text Message. In this episode I will talk about the 1st shift, of my revolutionary 5 Shifts approach to getting alcohol out of your way. Somewhere along the line, we have decided alcohol is different than changing other relationships, we want it to magically just all go away overnight, but it doesn't. Just like an ex-lover, your life has been wrapped around your relationship with alcohol and takes some unraveling. By knowing this, and the belief that you are moving towards freed...
Breaking Up Is Hard To Do...(or is it?)
February 25, 2020 19:00 - 18 minutes - 13 MBIn this episode I will talk about the 1st shift, of my revolutionary 5 Shifts approach to getting alcohol out of your way. Somewhere along the line, we have decided alcohol is different than changing other relationships, we want it to magically just all go away overnight, but it doesn't. Just like an ex-lover, your life has been wrapped around your relationship with alcohol and takes some unraveling. By knowing this, and the belief that you are moving towards freedom, will expedite the pro...
Welcome Trailer!
February 25, 2020 01:00 - 8 minutes - 5.78 MBSend us a Text Message. Congratulations for showing up with curiosity and possibility that there is a better life waiting for you on the other side of alcohol. During the journey of rewriting my relationship with alcohol, I dove deep into the uncovering the real truth about how the collective story about alcohol, is one more circumstance keeping people isolated and in pain. I discovered that taking your sip is far from the first step of the process of getting alcohol out of your way. We wi...