You Can Handle Anything!
371 episodes - English - Latest episode: 14 days ago - ★★★★★ - 60 ratingsWelcome to the "You Can Handle Anything" podcast! I'm your host, Shira Gura, and I know firsthand what it feels like to get hijacked by your emotions, keeping you from fully enjoying the moments and people in your life. In this podcast, I'll bring you into my world through personal stories, showing how you can make more deliberate choices in the face of everyday emotional moments, ensuring you handle those situations without regret. After all, your life is built on moments. And I'm here to help you make the most of them.
Learn more at: www.shiragura.com
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362: When Things Don't Go As Planned
April 09, 2024 10:35 - 12 minutes - 15.3 MBHave you ever had a day where your simple plans just don’t pan out? Not the life-changing ones, but the daily stuff: a walk, cooking a specific meal, finishing a task. Out of the blue, things happen, and what you wanted to do just can’t be done. When that happens, you face a choice: stick with the frustration or move past it. Every moment gives you the power to either react on autopilot or respond with intention. In every moment, you have the power to choose. Just yesterda...
361: Consider Being Self-Expressed
April 02, 2024 11:21 - 14 minutes - 17.2 MBIn this episode, I share a personal challenge from my son's Bar Mitzvah day when everything was set up wrong. Faced with frustration and the dilemma of speaking up without causing conflict, I turned to The unSTUCK Method. Discover how I navigated this tricky situation, ensuring a joyful day. This 14-minute story could change how you handle your next difficult conversation. Remember, you can handle anything.
360: Consider Not Being a People Pleaser
March 26, 2024 12:22 - 13 minutes - 15.6 MBHave you ever caught yourself worrying too much about what other people think? This happened to me last week while I was getting ready for my youngest son's Bar Mitzvah. I was busy making plans and found myself stuck on worrying about what my friends would think of my decisions. This worry made me super anxious and I just couldn't shake it off. It's something we all go through, but it's definitely something to keep an eye on. Trying to make everyone happy might seem like a good ide...
359: Consider There's Some Truth to That
March 19, 2024 12:13 - 12 minutes - 14.1 MBEver been called out and it hurts? It feels mean and makes you want to fight back. Everything goes so quick, and you feel like all you can do is get mad. But there’s a way to deal with it. If you notice you're getting upset, you can work through those feelings. This is what learning to "get unstuck" with The unSTUCK Method is all about. Doing this, you can calm down in no time, stay in charge, and think before you respond. This is what I did when my kid said something that made...
358: Consider Just Manage Yourself
March 12, 2024 11:58 - 8 minutes - 10.1 MBIn this episode, I explore the pitfalls of disappointment and unsolicited advice. Discover why managing others often leads to neglecting our own needs and how The unSTUCK Method can help. Join me for a personal story about trying to "teach" my husband a lesson, and learn why letting go is key. It’s an 8-minute listen with insights that could transform your day. Tune in now for strategies to improve your relationships and enjoy life more. www.shiragura.com
357: You Can't Know Everything
March 05, 2024 12:07 - 9 minutes - 11.7 MBHave you ever had the experience where someone asks you to do a favor for them - and you gladly help out - only to realize you didn't succeed exactly the way the request was intended? I just hate it when that happens. It's like no good deed ever goes unpunished, right? When that happens, it's so easy to get stuck on self-judgment, self-criticism, and guilt. But the truth of the matter is, you can't always know everything all of the time. Things happen. And instead of staying stu...
356: Consider It's Not Your Story
February 27, 2024 12:16 - 11 minutes - 13.7 MBHave you ever wanted to jump in and help when you see something happening to someone else? It's totally normal! But sometimes, it's not our place to fix everything. I recently saw something happening between my husband and my son the other night at dinner. At first, I wanted to step in, but I caught myself. Instead took myself through The unSTUCK Method. It helped me realize that it wasn't my problem to solve. By staying out of it, I let my son handle it on his own. And you k...
355: Consider Helping a Friend
February 20, 2024 10:00 - 26 minutes - 21.1 MBOver a decade ago, I created The unSTUCK Method to help me manage my emotions in real time. This tool has transformed my life. Now, I coach others using this method to break free from the emotional triggers they face. Supporting someone this way can profoundly impact their life. This week's "You Can Handle Anything" podcast features an excerpt of "unstuck coaching." Yet, the coach isn't me—it's a character from a book! Listen to an interview with my friend and author, Esther Gold...
354: Patience is a Choice
February 13, 2024 14:31 - 12 minutes - 14.9 MBHave you ever found yourself caught between the excitement of working toward a goal or a new project and the anxiety of awaiting results? You're not alone. In our fast-paced world, patience often feels like a forgotten virtue. But what if I told you that embracing patience could be the secret ingredient to not only achieving your goals but also enjoying the journey along the way? Reflecting on my own experiences, from the anticipation of childbirth to the development of significant p...
353: Stuck on Excitement
February 06, 2024 11:06 - 10 minutes - 12.9 MBIn this episode of "You Can Handle Anything," I delve into a less talked-about phenomenon: getting stuck on positive emotions like excitement. It's common to find ourselves overwhelmed by excitement, impacting our daily routines and priorities. I share my personal experience of navigating this excitement trap, and how I used The unSTUCK Method and The CLEAR Way to ground myself and prevent emotions from taking the reins. Tune in to discover how you can recognize when you're stuck in a ...
352: Consider Being Trusting
January 30, 2024 09:42 - 15 minutes - 18.2 MBWhen someone triggers you with rude or insensitive words or actions, it's natural to wish it hadn't occurred. The challenge lies in acknowledging that it DID happen. Refusing to accept reality leads to unnecessary suffering. While you may dislike the event or find it perplexing, embracing trust in the present reality facilitates a smoother journey. Practicing being trusting is something the members of my community, The Living Deliberately Circle, and I explored together this month. ...
351: Let Them Be Disappointed
January 23, 2024 13:13 - 10 minutes - 12.6 MBEver wondered why managing emotions "in the moment" in tough situations is crucial? When you don't, you can get hijacked by them, leading to behavior you later regret. And that can lead you to get trapped in a stuck cycle, holding onto negative emotions and feeling like you just can't let go. And, of course, over time that doesn't only impact how you feel about yourself, it impacts your relationships and how others feel about you. This is exactly why having a reliable tool for those...
350: Your Highest Self
January 09, 2024 11:56 - 10 minutes - 11.9 MBHave you ever gotten upset and acted in a way you later regretted? It happens to all of us. Even in those quick and tough moments, remember: you can choose how you react. I recently asked my husband, for the fifth time, to put something away. His reaction seemed too much, triggering me to react like I used to. But this time, I decided to be my best self. Hear more about this story and how to show up as your highest self in the latest episode of the "You Can Handle Anything" podca...
349: How to Handle Anything
January 02, 2024 12:36 - 15 minutes - 17.9 MBLife is full of triggers that can make us feel stuck in a whirlwind of emotions. But guess what? "You can handle anything." But what does that actually mean? It means so much more than just "dealing" with things. And when you truly comprehend what this is all about, you learn how to be less reactive and in more control. Discover the real deal behind "you can handle anything" in this week's "You Can Handle Anything" podcast. Plus, I'll share a personal story about how one of my...
348: When People Forgive You
December 26, 2023 09:14 - 14 minutes - 16.8 MBHave you ever found yourself in a situation where you wronged someone, and they chose to forgive you? It's an indescribable and uplifting sensation, isn't it? Recently, I had the privilege of experiencing this profound power of forgiveness firsthand. Just a couple of weeks ago, I unintentionally offered unsolicited parenting advice to a friend during a challenging time with his son. Recognizing my mistake, I took the initiative to send a sincere apology that evening, and to my relief...
347: Why You Keep Getting Triggered
December 19, 2023 12:46 - 11 minutes - 13.6 MBEver find yourself pondering, "Why do certain people always seem to trigger me?" Ever feel like mastering self-control should be second nature by now? Ever entertain the thought that you might be the sole person repeatedly grappling with triggers? Embark on a transformative journey with this week's episode of the "You Can Handle Anything" podcast. Gain insights into why questioning the nature of triggers may not be the most constructive approach. Discover a more empowering question...
346: The MOST Important Moment
December 12, 2023 12:24 - 11 minutes - 13.4 MBHave you ever considered the impact of each moment in our lives? It's a chance to make some profound choices – like deciding what to think, how to feel, or who we aspire to be. The thing is, these crucial moments often slip by without us truly seizing them. Ever catch yourself thinking things like, "This moment doesn't matter anyway"? Those thoughts can lead to making excuses and giving up on both ourselves and others. Tune into this week's episode of the "You Can Handle Anything,"...
345: Choose Your Feelings
December 05, 2023 10:17 - 15 minutes - 17.8 MBEver wondered if you could actually choose your feelings, steering them in the direction you desire? It might sound improbable, especially when emotions seem automatic and beyond our control. I pondered this last night while attending a national basketball game in Israel amid the current war with Hamas. The weight of the ongoing conflict triggered a flood of emotions, making it feel like I wasn't in control. However, in that moment, I made a deliberate choice – and everything shifted...
344: Satisfaction
November 28, 2023 09:36 - 17 minutes - 20.7 MBHave you ever caught yourself thinking, "I'll be satisfied when this happens," or "I'll be happy once I achieve that goal"? Or perhaps you've found yourself waiting for someone else to change before everything gets better. It happens to the best of us. Life doesn't always unfold as we expect, and it's easy to fall into the trap of postponing our happiness or contentment until certain conditions are met. Unfortunately, this often leads us to overlook the richness of the present moment...
343: Your Stories
November 21, 2023 13:48 - 27 minutes - 31.9 MBFeeling that familiar frustration of being out of control? You're not alone—it's a common experience. But let me share a little secret: it's not a reflection of you; it's the stories you tell yourself that take the lead. Discover the art of reclaiming control by making intentional choices with your narratives. In this week's "You Can Handle Anything!" podcast, we're diving into the realm of real-life stories—some from my own experiences, others from my husband and students—offering ins...
342: When People Disappoint You
November 15, 2023 12:34 - 15 minutes - 18.6 MBEver felt that sinking disappointment when those close to you fall short? Whether it's your spouse, child, co-worker, friend, or even a stranger, the frustration of trying to change them can be overwhelming, only to realize it's beyond your control. The urge to alter someone else often traps you in a cycle of frustration and disappointment. But, the key isn't changing others; it's introspection. Reflect on how disappointment might inadvertently relinquish your power, leading to self-...
341: Mourner's Guilt
November 07, 2023 13:00 - 19 minutes - 22.4 MBMourner's guilt, also known as survivor's guilt, is a natural response that can follow the harrowing experience of surviving when others did not. It can affect anyone, regardless of their sensitivity levels, and it often brings feelings of depression, anxiety, and, of course, guilt. Join me this week on the "You Can Handle Anything" podcast as I dive into the depths of mourner's guilt, discussing its impact on individuals, especially as it relates to the events of October 7th in Israel. ...
340: React Less, Respond Better
October 31, 2023 13:09 - 9 minutes - 11.3 MBWe all have those moments when our reactions happen automatically, almost like a reflex. It's a part of being human, a natural thing we do without even realizing it. But guess what? We always have a choice about how we react to the things that bother us. Sometimes, though, making that choice isn't easy, and that's when we need some handy tools to help us make better decisions. Think of it like building a muscle. When we practice responding thoughtfully instead of just reacting, we ge...
339: On Feeling Judged
October 24, 2023 09:51 - 12 minutes - 14.1 MBIf you've ever felt like people were judging you based on how you look, the way they react, or what they say, you're not alone. It's easy to get upset and defensive when this happens. I recently faced a situation like this when I received an unexpected email. Instead of reacting quickly, I used The unSTUCK Method to respond thoughtfully. I realized that just because someone says something about me doesn't make it true. These situations are common, but it's powerful to remember that...
338: Make Every Moment Count
October 17, 2023 10:44 - 13 minutes - 14.8 MBWhen you get triggered, do you ever find yourself sweating the small stuff, spiraling out of control, or turning into someone you don't even recognize? What if you could make every moment count and stop your emotions from taking over? How would your life change? In this week's episode of the "You Can Handle Anything" podcast, catch an insider's perspective on life during the current war in Israel and discover how you can minimize the "wars" you face in your own life by making every mom...
337: Emotionally Balanced
October 10, 2023 12:11 - 20 minutes - 23.2 MBWhat does it mean to be "emotionally balanced"? Is being "emotionally balanced" even something we should strive for? How can you become a more "emotionally balanced" person? In this week's episode of the "You Can Handle Anything" podcast, join me on a journey to discover how you can cultivate greater emotional balance in your life, starting today. Click here to save your spot at my next LIVE workshop, “Manage Your Emotions with The unSTUCK Method!” Click here to grab your FREE Cha...
336: Celebrating My 50th Birthday
October 03, 2023 07:50 - 11 minutes - 13.3 MBI'm turning 50 this month, and I've chosen a unique way to celebrate - by sharing the gift of music with the world. I'm passionate about composing music, and I've written many tunes over the years. However, most have never been professionally recorded or shared. For my 50th birthday, I've set an ambitious goal: to record and release one new tune every week for 50 weeks. It's an exciting journey ahead. But I need your support. Professional music recording has costs, and I can't cover...
335: When Someone Causes You to Doubt Yourself
September 26, 2023 14:36 - 10 minutes - 12.4 MBHave you ever encountered a situation where someone's words or actions planted a seed of doubt in your mind, causing you to question yourself? Getting stuck in self-doubt can be challenging, especially when it's triggered by external sources. Tune in to this week's "You Can Handle Anything" podcast to hear how my 15-year-old son navigated the self-doubt that was planted in his mind by his own sibling. Click here to save your spot at my next Live Workshop, The "Getting Unstuck" Experien...
334: Taking On Other's Emotions
September 19, 2023 12:35 - 11 minutes - 12.8 MBHave you ever noticed yourself absorbing other people's emotions? It's as if their bad mood or their entangled stories become your own, leaving you feeling powerless. This dynamic can often make you feel like you're handing over your personal power to someone else. In this week's episode, I share a personal experience where my husband was feeling irritated, and I found myself on the brink of taking on his emotional baggage. Discover how I applied The unSTUCK Method to break free fro...
333: Not Everyone is Supposed to Like You
September 12, 2023 10:41 - 12 minutes - 13.8 MBDo you ever worry about how others perceive you? Have you ever held back from speaking your mind because you fear disapproval? Discover the power of The unSTUCK Method in this week's "You Can Handle Anything" podcast. Learn how to navigate your thoughts and emotions, freeing yourself from the trap of overthinking. Remember, getting stuck is a part of life, but staying stuck is a choice. Tune in now! Click here for more details and to enroll in “The unSTUCK Experience!”
332: The "Silence Negative Self-Talk" Challenge
September 05, 2023 08:27 - 1 minute - 1.74 MBJoin me in a FREE 3-Day Challenge called "Silence Negative Self-Talk." This is a fantastic chance to interact with me in real-time, pick up some new techniques I haven't talked about on this podcast before, and discover more about how you can be part of my community. Don't miss out! Enroll now by clicking here. I'm excited to have you with me for the Challenge.
331: How to Silence Negative Self-Talk
August 29, 2023 11:15 - 13 minutes - 15.9 MBOur minds often linger in the past or drift into the future. During these moments, we engage in a silent dialogue with ourselves. Sometimes it's a supportive coach, but at other times, it turns critical. In this week's "You Can Handle Anything" podcast, I shared a personal experience where my inner critic got the best of me when I was at a speaking event in Chicago. I'll elaborate on this journey during the upcoming 3-Day "Silence Negative Self-Talk" event, starting September 5th. ...
330: How to Handle Feeling Left Out
August 22, 2023 14:42 - 13 minutes - 16 MBHave you ever felt the sting of exclusion? That moment when you see friends or family together, and you weren't invited, leaving a pang of sadness? I recently had such an experience, a fleeting encounter that could have soured the moment if I hadn't employed my trusty tool, The unSTUCK Method. During a family trip to the shore, while strolling along the boardwalk, I spotted a group of relatives gathered together, and I wasn't among them. Initially, disappointment washed over me, foll...
329: It's Not My Story to Tell
August 15, 2023 13:31 - 11 minutes - 13.3 MBHave you ever found yourself in a situation where someone probes you with a question, seemingly seeking some intriguing tidbit, and you feel the pressure to share in response? It's a scenario that often leads to post-conversation regrets. But what if you could reclaim the power to say nothing at all? What if you could take a moment, pause, and consciously decide whether that question deserves your response? In this week's "You Can Handle Anything" podcast, I unveil two enlightening ...
328: Poor Me and Self-Pity
August 08, 2023 13:26 - 15 minutes - 18.6 MBHave you ever caught yourself trapped in the cycle of saying "Poor Me"? Do you sometimes find yourself succumbing to self-pity when things don't go as planned? It's a common inclination to allow external factors to dictate how we perceive the world around us—a state I refer to as our "way of being." How you show up in the world is not only a reflection of your internal state but can also influence those around you. Join me to discover how I overcame the "Poor Me" mentality and ...
327: Consider It Isn't About You
August 01, 2023 13:56 - 14 minutes - 16.6 MBHave you ever faced the challenge of someone being rude without knowing why? It's a common and uncomfortable experience that can leave us feeling stuck and unsure of how to respond. Recently, during my trip to Poland with my son for the European Little League Baseball tournament, I encountered a situation where my son was surprisingly rude to me. It was more than just a little rude—it was downright uncomfortable. His dismissive gestures, disapproving looks, and questioning my presenc...
326: Consider They Can Handle Things, Too!
July 25, 2023 14:53 - 14 minutes - 16.9 MBIn life, we often encounter situations where people seek our assistance, even for tasks they are fully capable of handling themselves. It can be challenging to resist the urge to step in and help, especially when they guilt-trip us into doing so, leaving us torn between being supportive and enabling their reliance on us. And yet it's possible to get unstuck from feeling guilty and consider they can handle things on their own, despite the discomfort. If you find yourself frequently "r...
325: Hang On!
July 18, 2023 10:39 - 15 minutes - 17.3 MBHave you ever found yourself caught off guard by someone's unexpected words or actions, leaving you at a loss for how to respond? Those moments can freeze us in our tracks and often lead to regrettable reactions later on. I recently experienced such a surprise while traveling in Poland with my son, who is participating in the European Little League Baseball tournament. In this week's episode of the "You Can Handle Anything" podcast, I'll be sharing the story of what unfolded next. ...
324: It Could Always Be Worse
July 11, 2023 14:49 - 15 minutes - 18 MBHave you ever caught yourself uttering phrases like "It was awful," "It was the worst," or "I wouldn't wish this on anyone!"? It's easy to fall into negative patterns of thinking, genuinely believing that things couldn't possibly get any worse. But what if that assumption isn't entirely accurate? What if things actually could get worse? I invite you to consider this not because you desire things to worsen, but because it might help you shift your perspective and find gratitude for w...
323: How to Handle When People Get Mad At You
July 04, 2023 13:58 - 13 minutes - 16.4 MBWhen someone gets angry at you, how you respond can impact your relationships and inner peace. If you've ever felt stuck, defensive, or excessively apologetic when someone expresses disappointment with something you did (or something you intend to do), you're not alone. The other person's behaviors (and our reactions to them) can lead to resentment and affect our well-being. Learn how to break free when people get mad at you and how to engage confidently with them on this week's "You C...
322: Live. Laugh. Learn.
June 27, 2023 20:00 - 18 minutes - 21.4 MBHave you ever felt like the obstacles in your life are never-ending? Join me as I share with you 5 real-life stories from forgotten IDS at the airport to tech issues, Uber mishaps, and credit card fraud, and how you can cultivate a "live, laugh, learn" mindset when faced with emotional setbacks. Gain valuable insights into how you can get emotionally unstuck and practical tips to empower yourself and find your way forward, no matter what the situation. And remember, you can handle anyt...
321: Living Deliberately
June 20, 2023 15:18 - 12 minutes - 15.1 MBWhen it comes to creating meaningful changes in your life or pursuing your goals and dreams, it's common to feel stuck. Despite having well-crafted action plans, diets, or strategies, many people find themselves unable to make progress and ultimately give up on themselves. The reason behind this recurring pattern is often the lack of a solid foundation. To truly transform your life, you need to start at the core. At the foundation of any change lies your ability to navigate the "moment...
320: How to Handle Any Conflict
June 13, 2023 12:29 - 20 minutes - 23.6 MBWhile some may perceive conflict as inherently negative, what if we challenge that notion? What if conflicts are actually a normal part of relationships, and the key lies in learning how to effectively resolve them? Join me as we explore three empowering ways to navigate conflicts, allowing you to approach them with clarity and confidence, and turning them into opportunities for growth and connection. No more confusion or uncertainty when faced with a conflict - you'll be equipped wit...
319: You are Not Responsible for How THEY Feel
June 06, 2023 10:16 - 14 minutes - 16.9 MBHave you ever found yourself overwhelmed by the emotions of others? Here's a gentle reminder: You are not accountable for the emotions of others. Period. Far too often, we shoulder the burden of others' hurt, sadness, and anger, believing it is our responsibility to fix everything and ensure everyone's happiness. However, it is vital to acknowledge that each person is responsible for their own emotions. Redirect your focus to what you can control: your own feelings and emotions. By...
318: Let Them
May 30, 2023 14:33 - 15 minutes - 18.4 MBHave you ever felt hurt by someone's words or actions? In this week's podcast episode, I share stories from three of my students who faced similar situations of feeling hurt by different people or experiences in their lives. Discover a simple strategy to get unstuck, overcome hurt, and regain control of your emotional well-being with just two simple words. Listen now! Click here to save your spot at the Workshop! Click here to check out my free class.
317: UNSTUCK LIVE! (WORKSHOP!)
May 23, 2023 08:12 - 12 minutes - 15 MBIf you often find it challenging to manage your emotional reactions when triggered by others, I have an incredible opportunity that you don't want to miss. Join me LIVE for a transformative 2-hour workshop called UNSTUCK LIVE. During this interactive workshop, I will teach you, step-by-step, how to PRACTICALLY go from feeling emotionally "stuck" to becoming emotionally "unstuck" in any situation, at any time. Here's why you should seize this chance to take control of your emotional well-...
Feeling Stuck? Take a Stop
May 16, 2023 12:52 - 10 minutes - 12 MBIn challenging moments, our emotional reactions can often catch us off guard. We find ourselves triggered and, before we know it, caught up in an over-exaggerated response that we later regret. But what if there was a way to break free from this cycle of emotional reactivity? In this week's episode of the "You Can Handle Anything, podcast, I highlight the essential first step of getting emotionally unstuck: taking a moment to "stop" and notice. Join me as I explore a powerful story t...
315: Five Qualities to Recognize When You're Feeling Emotionally STUCK
May 09, 2023 15:40 - 12 minutes - 14.7 MBDo you find yourself reacting negatively when someone pushes your buttons or upsets you? If so, you're not alone. It's easy to get emotionally triggered and become stuck in your emotions. In this episode of the "You Can Handle Anything" podcast, we explore what it means to be emotionally stuck and how it can affect your life. Whether you're attached to a particular emotion, can't let go of being right, or feel like the situation should look different, recognizing when you're stuck is the f...
314: 3 Keys to My Success
May 02, 2023 11:16 - 14 minutes - 16.9 MBWhen it comes to success, how do you define it? Is it something you feel you've achieved in your life? Or do you feel like you're always striving for it, but it's just out of reach? In this episode, I'll share my own approach to success, which may surprise you. We won't be talking about the usual measures of success, like wealth, status, or popularity on social media. Instead, I'll introduce you to a different perspective on what success truly means. As an emotional well-being coach, ...
313: How to Handle Sadness
April 25, 2023 06:07 - 28 minutes - 21 MBIn this week's episode of "You Can Handle Anything," I chat with Sharon, a caregiver for her mother with Alzheimer's. Sharon shares her experiences of feeling overwhelmed and struggling to manage her emotions, which sometimes spill into her interactions with others. She learned practical strategies to save the moments and not let sadness turn into anger or negativity. Join us as we discuss how to manage emotions and handle challenging situations with grace. Tune in and learn from Sharon'...