You Can Handle Anything!
381 episodes - English - Latest episode: 25 days ago - ★★★★★ - 60 ratingsWelcome to the "You Can Handle Anything" podcast! I'm your host, Shira Gura, and I know firsthand how negative emotions can trap us, preventing us from fully enjoying life’s moments and the people around us. But I also know that while experiencing emotions is perfectly normal, staying stuck in them is a choice we make.
In this podcast, you'll discover how to master your emotions in any situation, ensuring you can stay calm, in control, and confident, ready to handle whatever comes your way.
This transformation is possible through five simple steps with The Unstuck Method.
Let's dive in and learn how to free ourselves from emotional stuckness and embrace a life where you truly can handle anything.
Learn more at: www.shiragura.com
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272: Release Expectations
July 12, 2022 16:15 - 15 minutes - 17.4 MBDid you know that it's your expectations that get you stuck? If you didn't have expectations, you would never get stuck. Have you ever stopped to realize that? But the question is, is it possible to live your life without expecting things? Is that a realistic way to live? Tune in to this week's episode to hear more. Click here to take my FREE CLASS on Getting unSTUCK! www.shiragura.com/freeclass
271: How to Accept Something You Don't Accept
July 05, 2022 15:31 - 18 minutes - 21.2 MBWhenever you get stuck on feeling frustrated, disappointed, angry or any other difficult emotion, it's likely because you don't accept the situation. You may not articulate it in that exact way, but it's likely that's what you're actually thinking. Tune in to this week's episode to hear how you get unSTUCK from accepting something you otherwise don't accept. And please share your comments with me over on my website or on Instagram. www.shiragura.com https://www.instagram.com/you.ca...
270: Don't Take it Personally
June 28, 2022 08:50 - 15 minutes - 18.2 MBWhen someone else is upset or disappointed in you, it is very easy to take things personally. It actually seems natural to take things personally, specifically when you are somehow involved in the conversation or interaction with that other person. And yet, taking things personally is actually a choice. The truth of the matter is, how someone else is reacting, what they are saying, and who they are being, has nothing to do with you. It only has to do with them. I know that may be h...
269: Past/Future Thinking
June 21, 2022 07:29 - 16 minutes - 19.5 MBI have a question for you. Where do you think you spend most of your time? In the past? In the present? Or in the future? Tune in to this week's episode where I share my thoughts about how staying stuck in the past and in the future is not a very effective way of living, nor do you need to live that way. To learn more about gettting unSTUCK in the moment so that you can LIVE in the moment and be able to handle anything, visit me: Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCQF_AtIaCg...
268: Consider a Retreat
June 14, 2022 09:37 - 19 minutes - 22.2 MBI recently participated in a 3-day silent meditation retreat. I returned home feeling calm, rejuvenated, grateful, joyful, and perhaps most importantly, more self-aware than when I went into it. The power of self-awareness is essential for your self-growth and development, and attending a silent retreat is one of the best ways you can access that awareness. Tune in to hear some of my personal experiences from this retreat and my invitation to you to consider taking yourself on a retrea...
267: Getting Unstuck from Shame
June 07, 2022 13:03 - 19 minutes - 22.4 MBHuman beings are much more similar to one another than they are different. And yet we walk around as if our life experiences are totally unique to us, even though, the likelihood is, that most of the people around you are either experiencing similar (or the exact) things as you or b) they are afraid to be vulnerable and let you know. In this week's podcast, I explore the concept of shame and walk you through the process of getting unstuck from it so that shame doesn't hold you back in ...
266: The Tools Work (When You Use Them)
May 31, 2022 06:11 - 19 minutes - 22.4 MBThe unSTUCK Method is a powerful emotional well-being tool that empowers you to go from "stuck" to "unstuck." The tool is effective, efficient, and reliable. It is simple to use. And it's easy to remember. And you can use it at any moment. Everything is going for this tool. And yet... even if someone learns the tool, they can still get stuck. How? Because they can forget to use it. Tune in to hear two stories of what happens when you use (or don't use) The unSTUCK Method in...
265:The REAL reason most people don't achieve their goals
May 24, 2022 11:16 - 16 minutes - 18.4 MBDo you know that only about 8% of people actually achieve their goals? That's quite a small number! Do you know why that number is so small? If you're looking to create a change in your life (like improving a relationship, your physical health, or your time management), you don't want to miss this episode! Tune in and share your thoughts with me!
264: You Always Have a Choice
May 17, 2022 09:24 - 19 minutes - 22.4 MBWhen someone hurts you, do you think you have a choice as to how you feel? When someone pushes your buttons, do you think you have a choice as to how you react? When you get mad at yourself for not being perfect, do you think you have a choice as to how you think about yourself? Tune in to this week's podcast episode to learn about the important differences between a reflex, a reaction, and a response, and how understanding the difference between these three concepts can change the way you th...
263: Celebrate the Small Wins
May 10, 2022 09:22 - 15 minutes - 24.4 MBWhen you set out to create a change in your life, whether that's improving a relationship, getting healthier, or improving your self-confidence, there's a certain excitement that comes along with that dream. And while that excitement is exhilarating, it doesn't last. And that's where most people get stuck and end up quitting. But it doesn't need to be that way. Do you want to know one of the best-kept secrets to success in life? It's celebrating the small wins. Tune in to this we...
You Can Handle Fear
May 03, 2022 05:41 - 26 minutes - 41.9 MBWhere do you experience fear in your life? Do you have a fear of... Being judged by other people? Not being able to handle your triggers and losing control? Messing up your children's lives and never being able to repair them? Fear is the most pervasive emotion we feel as human beings. And yet, most of the fears we face are not real life and death situations. Rather, they are fears we create in our own minds. But, if we can learn how to manage our fears, we would be able to l...
261: You Can Handle Uncomfortable Conversations
April 26, 2022 06:13 - 15 minutes - 24.2 MBHave you ever had to have an uncomfortable conversation with someone but you avoided it because you were nervous you wouldn’t be able to handle it? Or you were afraid of what their reaction may be or that you may hurt them unintentionally? Avoiding difficult conversations is something a lot of people do. But the truth is, if you know HOW to handle an uncomfortable emotion, it's actually not as difficult or as scary as it may seem. In fact, having difficult conversations can feel empowe...
260: You Can Handle Stress (Part II)
April 19, 2022 11:37 - 8 minutes - 13.9 MBWhen you are headed into a future moment that you are anticipating or feeling nervous or worried about, what do you do? I'm talking about anything from having an uncomfortable conversation with someone to heading into an important meeting to needing to speak in front of a crowd - and even to going into a stressful work week. How do you mentally prepare yourself for those challenging situations? Me? I get CLEAR. By getting CLEAR I go through a step-by-step process that empowers me to ...
259: You Can Handle STRESS
April 12, 2022 15:39 - 11 minutes - 17.7 MBFeeling stressed is something we're all too familiar with. And when we feel stressed, we don't have any qualms about expressing that to ourselves and to the people around us. "I'M SO STRESSED!" But, what's interesting is, when you stop to really notice what you're actually feeling in that moment, there may be a feeling that is even more accurate than feeling "stressed." We tend to clump our emotions together in only a few categories (like stressed, angry, and frustrated) which is pro...
258: An unSTUCK Marriage
April 05, 2022 12:26 - 25 minutes - 41.6 MBIt only takes one person to change a relationship. That being said, when two people in a relationship are both working on themselves individually and they share a common framework and language to communicate with each another, well, the sky's the limit for what's possible in that kind of relationship. Tune in to hear some powerful words from Collen and Alan Jones, a married couple who recently went through the Emotionally Equipped for Life course together. If you feel inspired, be sure...
257: Consider Giving Them the Benefit of the Doubt
March 29, 2022 19:14 - 10 minutes - 16.3 MBHave you ever been in a situation where someone snaps at you? What do you do in those situations? It's so easy to get stuck on frustration or disappointment. That's what happened to me last week when my husband told me I made a mistake about something. That is, I almost got stuck, but I caught myself. Instead of getting upset with him, I got unstuck and considered giving him the benefit of the doubt. What could have turned into a "war" turned into nothing at all. Tune in to this w...
256: Take a Pause
March 22, 2022 14:13 - 12 minutes - 19.8 MBIf you want to get unSTUCK, you've got to learn how to pause. The pause is the foundation for your emotional health and well-being. Tune in to this week's "You Can Handle Anything" episode to hear how the pause helped me get unSTUCK in actually creating this episode, and how it can help you get unSTUCK in your life, too. And be sure to get on the waitlist for my course. The doors to the next course open soon!
255: What's Your Story?
March 15, 2022 12:25 - 19 minutes - 31.2 MBHuman beings live in stories. That's what it means to be human. You may not realize you live in stories, but you do. In fact, you live much more in "storyland," than you do in "factland." And while sometimes those stories can serve us, often they don't. And that's when we get stuck. Tune in to this week's episode of the "You Can Handle Anything," podcast to hear how I got myself unstuck from the story that I couldn't enroll in a course that I really knew would benefit me, and hear ...
254: Just Do It!
March 08, 2022 15:29 - 11 minutes - 19.2 MBWhat is your biggest fear? What is something that you avoid because you're afraid you can't handle it? Maybe it's having a difficult conversation with someone or making new friends or leaving a job, or even a relationship. How is avoiding serving you in your life? Can you see how avoiding may actually be keeping you back? Where can you imagine getting unSTUCK and getting CLEAR so that you can face the fear and get to the other side? That's what I did last week while I was on a re...
253: Get CLEAR! (And then, do it again and again!)
March 01, 2022 13:08 - 11 minutes - 18.8 MBAnytime you go into a future moment (no matter what that future moment is), it's an opportunity to get CLEAR. The mistake is that most people think it ends there. But, it doesn't! If you want to live an awakened life, it's important to keep getting CLEAR, moment by moment, so that you are mentally prepared for anything! Tune in to hear how I got CLEAR twice in a row before heading into a dance party with my husband. www.shiragura.com Find me on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/shi...
Get CLEAR! (And then, do it again and again!)
March 01, 2022 13:08 - 11 minutes - 18.8 MBAnytime you go into a future moment (no matter what that future moment is), it's an opportunity to get CLEAR. The mistake is that most people think it ends there. But, it doesn't! If you want to live an awakened life, it's important to keep getting CLEAR, moment by moment, so that you are mentally prepared for anything! Tune in to hear how I got CLEAR twice in a row before heading into a dance party with my husband. www.shiragura.com Find me on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/s...
252: Give yourself a break
February 22, 2022 07:24 - 13 minutes - 21.1 MBDo you ever get mad at yourself? *For making bad decisions? *For reacting automatically? *For not showing up as you said you would? This happens to all of us. But if we don't practice some self-compassion, we'll just continue staying stuck on being mad at ourselves - and that certainly won't get us very far. Tune in to hear more about how you can start to cultivate self-compassion in your life. Learn more: www.shiragura.com
251: The Power of the Pause
February 15, 2022 12:15 - 12 minutes - 20 MBWhen you feel stuck, pausing feels like the last thing you want to do. Instead, your mind (in its way of innocently wanting to protect you) will prefer to stay stuck. Your mind will prefer to stay right, to have the last word, or to stay in the status quo, rather than make the effort to get unstuck. And yet, doing any of those above things won't get you any closer to getting unstuck. Do you know what will? Taking a pause. The pause is powerful - way beyond its simplicity. And it'...
250: Think outside the Amazon box
February 08, 2022 09:20 - 12 minutes - 20.3 MBHow good are you with gift-giving? I don't know about you, but I sometimes get stuck on buying gifts. And while you can turn to Amazon (or other online stores) to make the gift-giving process quick and easy, I invite you to consider outside the "Amazon box" the next time you need to give a gift. Tune in to this week's episode to see how I considered thinking outside the "Amazon box" when it came to coming up with a gift for my sister for her 50th birthday, and how you can, too. You can...
249: The Legitimacy to Feel
February 01, 2022 10:41 - 20 minutes - 34.3 MBHuman beings are complicated, and living a human life is hard. We are built on many levels: the physical, mental, spiritual, and of course, the emotional. And as human beings, we are meant to feel the full spectrum of emotions. And there is no one person who has more legitimacy over their emotions than another. When you believe you don't have the legitimacy to feel something, that's the moment you will likely get stuck. Tune in to hear how my daughter responded after a horrific army ...
248: Falling Forward
January 25, 2022 14:59 - 20 minutes - 34.4 MBDo you know what you can expect from anything you do in life? You can expect to fall off track. Falling off track is simply part of the process. There is no one (and I mean no one) who achieves success without falling off track. The problem, most people consider falling off track a "failure" when in truth, it is not. And because they see it as a "failure," they quit while they're ahead, rather than getting unstuck from the feelings of embarrassment, shame, and self-doubt and then get...
247: You Can Handle Anything
January 18, 2022 05:48 - 7 minutes - 13.3 MBCan I tell you a little secret? You can handle anything! Now, what that means (and what it doesn't) you'll hear on today's episode. Be sure to grab a seat on the free masterclass I'm offering this week on this very topic! Click here to register. (Space is limited.) I hope to see you there!
246: Forgive Yourself
January 09, 2022 06:59 - 14 minutes - 24.5 MBI screwed up. I mean, I really screwed up. It wasn't like an "end of the world" screw-up. But, it was a screw-up, indeed. And boy did I feel dumb. And embarrassed. And mad at myself. But I got unstuck by forgiving myself (because I didn't think the other option was any better). Tune in to hear the story and how you can be inspired with getting unstuck in your life. You can join me in the daily game by clicking here. To join my FREE masterclass and choose the time that wor...
245: Obstacles are forever
January 04, 2022 12:18 - 13 minutes - 23.2 MBWhat is one thing that irritates you in your life? Maybe it's a person or maybe it's a bad trait or habit that you're trying to kick, but can't. We all have one thing or another. And we all have been in a place where we wished that thing would just go away. If you ever stopped to wonder why your problems never go away, there's a reason. In fact, there's a good reason - and one you should know about. Tune in to this week's episode to learn more and how this knowledge can make mak...
244: A Reflection of 2021
December 28, 2021 10:43 - 19 minutes - 32.7 MBThe foundation for being Emotionally Equipped is the "pause." My tools, getting unSTUCK, getting CLEAR, and Living Deliberately work best when you know how to incorporate taking pauses throughout the day, moment by moment. In addition to this, I am a big proponent of implementing additional pauses in your life: weekly, monthly, and even yearly. This is a great time to take a pause, reflect on the past year, and look ahead into the coming year. Join me in hearing my yearly review and ...
243: Consider Not Being So Judgmental
December 21, 2021 10:43 - 12 minutes - 20.9 MBWould you consider yourself a judgmental person? I know I don't. And yet, I know I am. And the truth is, I know you are, too. We all are. We can't help being judgmental - that's just how the mind works. In fact, the job of the mind is to have an opinion on things - that's how it keeps us safe. And yet, being judgmental often doesn't serve us, nor does it serve others in our lives, which is why it's worthwhile to practice being non-judgmental as often as you can - for your sake, a...
242: Don't be a victim
December 14, 2021 14:39 - 18 minutes - 30 MBDon't you hate it when bad things happen to you? It's so hard and frustrating and irritating! You just want to blame everyone for it, right? The problem is, when you do this, you end up playing the victim. You throw all your power away and you get stuck. Have you considered ditching the "victim" mentality and picking up a "hero" one instead? Tune into this week's Emotionally Equipped podcast to hear more. And don't forget to sign up for the waitlist for my course, Emotionally Equi...
241: Consider It's Not About You
December 06, 2021 19:20 - 18 minutes - 30.9 MBWhen someone is angry, consider it's not about you. Even if you are part of their story, their anger has nothing to do with you. Their anger has to do with them. Their emotions are generated from within their own minds and they are responsible for them. You can help deflate their anger, not by changing who you are, but by accepting this truth. Tune in to this week's episode to hear exactly how I did just that. And be sure you sign up for the waitlist for the course: Emotionally Equi...
240: When you're wrong
November 30, 2021 12:49 - 11 minutes - 19.9 MBSometimes we make mistakes. And when we do, we need to own up to them. And hopefully, the person we wronged will forgive us. But life can be funny sometimes. Because sometimes the mistake you thought you made, wasn't perceived as a mistake. It was just perceived as an action you did - that had no bad intentions tied to it. But, getting to that place of knowing can be tricky. Tune in to this week's episode to hear how I got CLEAR when I thought I totally blew it with my husband ...
239: Nip it in the Bud
November 23, 2021 12:07 - 11 minutes - 18.9 MBEvery time we get stuck we have a choice. Get unstuck or stay stuck. It's really as simple as that. But, as humans, we complicate things. And so, rather than getting unstuck, we choose to stay stuck for any number of reasons. But the choice to get unstuck always exists. Always. Tune in to this week's Emotionally Equipped podcast where I share how I nipped a stuck moment in the bud, and how you can, too. www.shiragura.com
238: Celebrate your success
November 16, 2021 14:46 - 14 minutes - 24.7 MBDo celebrate success in your life? And by that, I don't mean big successes, like running a marathon, losing a ton of weight, or finishing a Ph.D. Rather, I mean the small successes that you had to overcome in order to reach the big ones. Like your early morning runs, or pausing before you eat so you can make a mindful choice, or focusing for a certain amount of time. Those actions are no less worthy of celebrating than the big wins, and yet, so many people don't even consider doing s...
237: Interview with Nancy Ellen
November 09, 2021 10:37 - 22 minutes - 37.5 MBOn today's episode, I had the privilege to interview Nancy Ellen, a graduate of the Emotionally Equipped for Life course. In this episode, Nancy shares why she chose to enroll in the course (despite being a licensed psychotherapist and having a lot of professional knowledge and experience), offers an inspiring unstuck story, and talks a bit about her experiences inside of the Emotionally Equipped Circle. Enjoy! www.shiragura.com
237: Interview with Nancy Lubars
November 09, 2021 10:37 - 22 minutes - 37.5 MBOn today's episode, I had the privilege to interview Nancy Lubars, a graduate of the Emotionally Equipped for Life course. In this episode, Nancy shares why she chose to enroll in the course (despite being a licensed psychotherapist and having a lot of professional knowledge and experience), offers an inspiring unstuck story, and talks a bit about her experiences inside of the Emotionally Equipped Circle. Enjoy! www.shiragura.com If you'd like to get in contact with Nancy, you can fi...
236: On integrity
November 01, 2021 18:53 - 17 minutes - 28.3 MBThis is my husband. A couple of days ago he participated in the Jerusalem Marathon. My husband came in 8th place. And he's 50 years old. Boaz (my husband) didn't run a marathon for nearly 5 years. His injuries kept him from achieving his goals. But, his injuries didn't keep him from showing up. Through pain, disappointment, horrendous weather (both extreme hot and cold), early mornings, and lots of other sacrifices, he kept showing up. Every. Single. Day. He was being dedicated. He was being...
235: Consider think twice
October 26, 2021 06:35 - 14 minutes - 24.3 MBMy husband is planning to participate in the Jerusalem Marathon this week - and I'm so excited for him. It's been a long time coming and a lot of blood, sweat, and tears to get to this point. The thing is, my husband and I don't live in Jerusalem. We live about two hours north of Jerusalem which means if he wanted to create the easiest morning for himself, it would be best if my husband stayed in Jerusalem the night before. Tune in to hear the story of what happened when he asked me ...
234: Release your expectations
October 19, 2021 06:45 - 13 minutes - 21.8 MBThe only reason we get stuck in the first place is due to unmet expectations. The truth is, we don't even realize we're walking around with expectations half the time, but of course, we are. And it's those expectations that end up hurting us. But, when you practice releasing them ahead of time, you can avoid getting stuck. Tune into this week's episode where I share a story about helping my children release their expectations while we were on our way to the circus.
233: Consider offering acknowledgment
October 12, 2021 07:06 - 12 minutes - 21.3 MBA couple of weeks ago my husband and I went on a retreat. He surprised me with a totally unexpected gift. And for that I acknowledged him. Tune in to hear the story and why acknowledging the people in your life is a practice you may want to begin to start cultivating in your life. Take the quiz! www.shiragura.com/quiz
232: Consider getting a buddy
October 05, 2021 07:37 - 39 minutes - 64.6 MBA few days ago, I participated in one of the biggest open-water swimming events in the world: The crossing of the Sea of Galilee. It was an exciting and exhilarating event. But the best part was that I shared the experience with a friend. Tune in to this week's episode to hear more about our experiences and how we got mentally prepared for it.
231: Consider being wrong
September 26, 2021 10:52 - 13 minutes - 22.1 MBSometimes we go into future moments believing we know what will happen. In fact, we often do this. We do this because the mind likes things to be predictable. And in that fashion, the mind will predict what will happen based on what it already knows from past experiences. The problem is, when we go into a future event closed-minded, we aren't open to other possibilities occurring. Tune in to hear how I released my experiences after returning home from a trip and because of that I didn'...
230: Consider Not Taking Insult
September 21, 2021 07:21 - 14 minutes - 24.8 MBIt's so easy (and so very common!) to get insulted. And yet, you actually don't have to. There is another way to live which is so much more freeing rather than getting stuck on insult. Tune in to this week's episode to hear my story of how I got myself unstuck from insult, and how you can, too! www.shiragura.com
229: Help someone get unstuck
September 13, 2021 11:32 - 16 minutes - 27.1 MBHelping someone get unstuck can be nothing short of magical! Tune in to this week's episode to hear how I coached my son to get unstuck from a sticky situation he got in with his brother. www.shiragura.com
228: Consider doing this work with a someone you love
September 07, 2021 10:57 - 21 minutes - 35.2 MBThere's a lot of power in doing this work with the people you love. There is nothing like speaking a common language with them, and by that, I don't mean your mother tongue. I mean the language of getting unstuck. This week, my husband surprised me by modeling getting unstuck and he also inspired me to do the work I knew I needed to do. Want to get Emotionally Equipped? Enroll in my course today by clicking here.
227: Consider living with no regrets
August 30, 2021 12:51 - 14 minutes - 24.8 MBThere's nothing worse than living with regret. All of us have done things, said things, or acted in ways in the past that we wish we hadn't. But, living in regret doesn't help one bit. I got stuck on regret this week and in this week's podcast episode, I share that story with you and how I got unstuck from it in hopes that it will inspire you in your life to do the same. Subscribe to my newsletter and stay up to date with my podcast, blog, and courses: www.shiragura.com
226: Getting CLEAR before a vacation
August 24, 2021 03:30 - 14 minutes - 24 MBWhen you go on vacation, you most likely anticipate having a great time. But, what if things don't go as planned? Before heading to the New Jersey shore with my family, my husband and I got CLEAR so that we could avoid getting disappointed on something we got stuck on in the past. Tune in to this week's episode to hear that story and to learn how you can get CLEAR in your life, too. www.shiragura.com
225: Consider radical acceptance
August 17, 2021 01:05 - 20 minutes - 34.1 MBIf you are feeling stuck, there's a good chance you are standing in judgment: whether that's judging yourself, judging someone else, or judging something. When you can learn to practice radical acceptance, you can learn how to move from a sticky and uncomfortable situation to a better and more beneficial place. Tune in to this week's episode to hear my story and how I got unstuck from judging my mother. www.shiragura.com