You Can Handle Anything!

322: Live. Laugh. Learn.

June 27, 2023 20:00 - 18 minutes - 21.4 MB

Have you ever felt like the obstacles in your life are never-ending? Join me as I share with you 5 real-life stories from forgotten IDS at the airport to tech issues, Uber mishaps, and credit card fraud, and how you can cultivate a "live, laugh, learn" mindset when faced with emotional setbacks. Gain valuable insights into how you can get emotionally unstuck and practical tips to empower yourself and find your way forward, no matter what the situation. And remember, you can handle anyt...

321: Living Deliberately

June 20, 2023 15:18 - 12 minutes - 15.1 MB

When it comes to creating meaningful changes in your life or pursuing your goals and dreams, it's common to feel stuck. Despite having well-crafted action plans, diets, or strategies, many people find themselves unable to make progress and ultimately give up on themselves. The reason behind this recurring pattern is often the lack of a solid foundation. To truly transform your life, you need to start at the core. At the foundation of any change lies your ability to navigate the "moment...

320: How to Handle Any Conflict

June 13, 2023 12:29 - 20 minutes - 23.6 MB

While some may perceive conflict as inherently negative, what if we challenge that notion? What if conflicts are actually a normal part of relationships, and the key lies in learning how to effectively resolve them? Join me as we explore three empowering ways to navigate conflicts, allowing you to approach them with clarity and confidence, and turning them into opportunities for growth and connection. No more confusion or uncertainty when faced with a conflict - you'll be equipped wit...

319: You are Not Responsible for How THEY Feel

June 06, 2023 10:16 - 14 minutes - 16.9 MB

Have you ever found yourself overwhelmed by the emotions of others? Here's a gentle reminder: You are not accountable for the emotions of others. Period. Far too often, we shoulder the burden of others' hurt, sadness, and anger, believing it is our responsibility to fix everything and ensure everyone's happiness. However, it is vital to acknowledge that each person is responsible for their own emotions. Redirect your focus to what you can control: your own feelings and emotions. By...

318: Let Them

May 30, 2023 14:33 - 15 minutes - 18.4 MB

Have you ever felt hurt by someone's words or actions? In this week's podcast episode, I share stories from three of my students who faced similar situations of feeling hurt by different people or experiences in their lives. Discover a simple strategy to get unstuck, overcome hurt, and regain control of your emotional well-being with just two simple words. Listen now! Click here to save your spot at the Workshop! Click here to check out my free class.

317: UNSTUCK LIVE! (WORKSHOP!)

May 23, 2023 08:12 - 12 minutes - 15 MB

If you often find it challenging to manage your emotional reactions when triggered by others, I have an incredible opportunity that you don't want to miss. Join me LIVE for a transformative 2-hour workshop called UNSTUCK LIVE. During this interactive workshop, I will teach you, step-by-step, how to PRACTICALLY go from feeling emotionally "stuck" to becoming emotionally "unstuck" in any situation, at any time. Here's why you should seize this chance to take control of your emotional well-...

Feeling Stuck? Take a Stop

May 16, 2023 12:52 - 10 minutes - 12 MB

In challenging moments, our emotional reactions can often catch us off guard. We find ourselves triggered and, before we know it, caught up in an over-exaggerated response that we later regret. But what if there was a way to break free from this cycle of emotional reactivity? In this week's episode of the "You Can Handle Anything, podcast, I highlight the essential first step of getting emotionally unstuck: taking a moment to "stop" and notice. Join me as I explore a powerful story t...

315: Five Qualities to Recognize When You're Feeling Emotionally STUCK

May 09, 2023 15:40 - 12 minutes - 14.7 MB

Do you find yourself reacting negatively when someone pushes your buttons or upsets you? If so, you're not alone. It's easy to get emotionally triggered and become stuck in your emotions. In this episode of the "You Can Handle Anything" podcast, we explore what it means to be emotionally stuck and how it can affect your life. Whether you're attached to a particular emotion, can't let go of being right, or feel like the situation should look different, recognizing when you're stuck is the f...

314: 3 Keys to My Success

May 02, 2023 11:16 - 14 minutes - 16.9 MB

When it comes to success, how do you define it? Is it something you feel you've achieved in your life? Or do you feel like you're always striving for it, but it's just out of reach? In this episode, I'll share my own approach to success, which may surprise you. We won't be talking about the usual measures of success, like wealth, status, or popularity on social media. Instead, I'll introduce you to a different perspective on what success truly means. As an emotional well-being coach, ...

313: How to Handle Sadness

April 25, 2023 06:07 - 28 minutes - 21 MB

In this week's episode of "You Can Handle Anything," I chat with Sharon, a caregiver for her mother with Alzheimer's. Sharon shares her experiences of feeling overwhelmed and struggling to manage her emotions, which sometimes spill into her interactions with others. She learned practical strategies to save the moments and not let sadness turn into anger or negativity. Join us as we discuss how to manage emotions and handle challenging situations with grace. Tune in and learn from Sharon'...

312: How to Handle Guilt

April 18, 2023 15:01 - 15 minutes - 17.2 MB

Do you ever feel guilty? I'm sure you have. Guilt is one of the most common emotions human beings feel. There are LOTS of reasons why we may feel guilty at any given time. One reason you may feel guilt is when someone lays their "emotional baggage" on you and makes you feel at fault, even when you're not to blame. Tune into this week's "You Can Handle Anything" podcast to learn about a very important consideration when it comes to freeing yourself from guilt so you can get emotionall...

311 "I'm Not Judging You, But..."

April 11, 2023 07:28 - 15 minutes - 17.9 MB

"Have you ever had an experience where someone says to you, "I'm not judging you, but..." And despite their cautionary words, you feel TOTALLY judged. And because you feel judged, you feel hurt, you get defensive, and you react with quick comebacks you later regret? What if the next time someone says to you, "I'm not judging you, but..." - you have a different response? Do you think that's possible? Tune in to this week's episode to learn more. Click here to get on the waitlist f...

310: How to Handle Lack of Appreciation

April 04, 2023 15:44 - 8 minutes - 10.3 MB

Have you ever waited for a "thank you" that never came? Maybe you went out of your way for someone or maybe you gave a gift to someone, but the words "thank you" never left their lips. Not being appreciated can be hurtful because you know YOU would never do such a thing to THEM! When the "thank you" doesn't come, you may try to drag the "thank you" out of them or complain to them or try to teach them a lesson. But does that work? Or does it make things worse? Tune in to this week...

309: Under-Feeling

March 28, 2023 12:17 - 15 minutes - 16.7 MB

Do you ever find yourself involved in one activity when you know you should be involved in another... but you can't seem to just get away from it? Like when... You finish off a box of cookies when you know you should be cleaning up the kitchen You stay late at work even when you know you should be spending more time with your family You scroll on social media even when you know you should be going for a walk This kind of behavior happens to all of us. The solution seems obvious. JU...

308: Addictions, Habits, and Patterns

March 21, 2023 11:35 - 16 minutes - 18.6 MB

If you want to... Improve a relationship Stop emotionally reacting when you get triggered Stop procrastinating Stop "eating" your emotions Live a happier, healthier life... You likely need to change some of your habits. But you also may need to change some of your patterns. Or you may need to change BOTH. What's the difference between a habit and a pattern? And how are each of them impacting you? Tune in to this week's "You Can Handle Anything" episode to learn more and ...

307: Get Your Relationships Back on Track

March 14, 2023 06:56 - 4 minutes - 5.4 MB

Have you ever found yourself getting into petty arguments that turn into huge fights… And you wish you could just stop the bickering and move on? If so, I want to invite you to join me inside: MY 3-DAY FREE CHALLENGE: GET YOUR RELATIONSHIPS BACK ON TRACK! Discover 3 Powerful Steps to Break the Cycle of Arguing and Reconnect After a Fight If you ever find yourself… Fighting over trivial matters that get totally blown out of proportion Wasting time waiting for someone to apologize...

306: On Self-Pity

March 07, 2023 14:18 - 23 minutes - 25.9 MB

Do you ever pity yourself? In other words, do you ever portray yourself as a victim (whether of circumstances or of other people’s behavior) in order to gain sympathy from others? I think we all have a tendency to play the victim more than we'd like to admit. And yet, playing the victim doesn't empower us. In fact, when we play the victim, we give our power away. Tune in to this week's episode to hear how when I got pulled over by the police last week, I deliberately chose NOT to pla...

305: Consider It Wasn't Meant to Be

February 24, 2023 08:56 - 14 minutes - 17.3 MB

Surprises can be great. But they can also feel awful. Especially when you are surprised by something you didn't expect to happen. Your default reaction to something negative you didn't expect to happen is often automatic rejection. Your automatic mind goes to a place of not being able to accept reality as it's presented to you at that moment. And yet, resisting reality is what gets you stuck. Tune in to this week's episode to learn what you can consider the next time you get surp...

304: Feeling Inadequate

February 21, 2023 11:23 - 12 minutes - 14.7 MB

Have you ever had the experience where... Someone says something to you that on the surface doesn't seem like a big deal, but you take it to heart, or when... Someone tries to get clarity from you, but you take it personally, or when... Someone is being judgmental and you start to second guess yourself? All of these situations have the potential to create a feeling of inadequacy in you. The words people say can often make you feel "less than," incompetent, or even worthless. What...

303: Being Overly Apologetic

February 14, 2023 10:50 - 11 minutes - 13 MB

Are you the kind of person who tends to overly apologize? Over-apologizing is when you say "sorry" when you don't need to. This could be when you didn't do anything wrong, but you take responsibility for it anyway. Like when... The waiter brings you the wrong order and you apologize for the mistake. Or you apologize for bothering the clerk at the store, even though it's their job to assist you. Or maybe while checking out at the supermarket, the cashier's machine breaks, and you ...

302: The Big Picture

February 07, 2023 12:47 - 11 minutes - 13.5 MB

When you get emotionally triggered, a story automatically forms in your mind. And when that happens, you feel absolutely right about your story and your reaction to it feels totally justified. The problem is, you don't always know the full story. And there always is more to the story than what you believe. Tune in to this week's episode of the "You Can Handle Anything" podcast to learn more about why it would be advantageous for you to learn the whole story before you emotionally rea...

301: How to Handle Nervousness

January 31, 2023 14:55 - 12 minutes - 14.2 MB

Do you ever experience feeling nervous? Like when... You have to have an uncomfortable conversation with a friend, You need to write a difficult email to a co-worker, You want to share your thoughts, but you get nervous about what people may think of you. Getting stuck on nervousness can completely sabotage that moment. And the more moments that get sabotaged in your life, the more your quality of life will get diminished. Tune in to this week's episode to hear how you can get CL...

300: Living Deliberately

January 24, 2023 10:37 - 14 minutes - 17.3 MB

Join me in celebrating my 300th episode, hear more about my experiences leading the "Move Past Grudges" Challenge for almost 2,000 women around the world, and learn more about my program, Living Deliberately. *Click here to sign up for my FREE CLASS on your emotional reactions and why they are not your fault! **Click here to follow me on INSTAGRAM!

299: Walk Away

January 17, 2023 10:43 - 12 minutes - 14.3 MB

Have you ever been in a social situation where : Someone tells a joke and you didn't get it There's a conversation going on, but you're not being included Someone is talking about a subject you know little to nothing about And you feel incredibly awkward in that moment and you don't know what to do about it? Tune in to this week's podcast to hear what you can do the next time this happens to you. *Click here to learn about my program, The unSTUCK Method, and get started right away...

298: You Can Change Your Story

January 10, 2023 09:21 - 17 minutes - 20.2 MB

We walk around with stories all the time. Stories about other people and stories about ourselves. There are two problems with this: Most of the time, we're not even aware that we're walking around with stories, and Many of our stories don't serve us well, and yet we continue to grasp onto them anyway. Tune in to this week's episode to learn more about what stories you may be telling yourself and how you have the power to change them. And when you do, you'll learn how to have much m...

297: Lingering Emotions

January 03, 2023 12:10 - 11 minutes - 13.9 MB

Think back to the last time someone said something hurtful to you. Can you recall how that felt? Do you remember holding onto negative feelings about that person? Well, if you did, I want to reassure you... that is normal. It's natural to want to be liked and it hurts to be treated coldly. And yet, if you're feeling stuck on hurt, chances are your emotions are lingering. And that's likely because you haven't completely gotten unSTUCK. This is what happened to one of the members...

296: "I Can't Stop!"

December 27, 2022 16:50 - 15 minutes - 18.1 MB

Have you ever found yourself saying: "I CAN'T STOP!" And by that I mean: You can't stop yourself from saying something You can't stop yourself from reacting when you get triggered You can't stop yourself from giving advice (even when it wasn't requested) Tune in to this week's "You Can Handle Anything" podcast to learn how you actually CAN take a stop, even if you think you can't. *Click here to learn about my program, The unSTUCK Method, and get started right away! **Click her...

295: Living Deliberately - Cheryl's Story

December 20, 2022 09:52 - 11 minutes - 12.7 MB

This week on the "You Can Handle Anything" podcast, I share with you a story from one of the students inside my Living Deliberately community. Tune in and see if you can find yourself in Cheryl's story. *Click here to learn about my course, Get unSTUCK, and get started right away! **Click here to get my FREE CLASS on why having emotional reactions is not your fault! ***Click here to follow me on INSTAGRAM!

294: How to Handle Rude People

December 13, 2022 11:03 - 15 minutes - 17.9 MB

I received a question from one of my students who is enrolled in my course, Get unSTUCK. Belinda, from Australia, asked me how to handle rude people. In this week's podcast, I answer her question. I invite you to tune in and find yourself in Belinda's story! Click below to tune in now! *Want to enroll in my course, Get unSTUCK? Click here to enroll right away! *Want to sign up for my FREE CLASS? Click here to get started! *Want to find me on Instagram? Click here to follow me!

293: Let Go Of The Need To Be Right

December 05, 2022 11:27 - 13 minutes - 15.9 MB

Have you ever been in a situation where you accidentally trigger someone else? Like maybe you interrupt them, finish their sentence, or perhaps simply respond to something they said, but they weren't interested in your response. If you've ever been in such a situation, you know how frustrating it can feel. And that's because you didn't have any intentions to trigger them. It just happened. But they blame you anyway. Can you imagine... Letting go of the need to right - for the s...

292: Go Gentle On Yourself

November 29, 2022 12:12 - 9 minutes - 11.8 MB

It's very easy to look backward and get mad at yourself. For not being better. For not doing better. For not being perfect. And yet, unless you are learning something from those past experiences, beating yourself up about them doesn't help. In fact, it only keeps you stuck. That's why it's so essential that you know how to be kind to yourself. And hold yourself in self-compassion, no matter what happened in the past. Tune in to this week's episode to hear my story and to see ...

291: Taking RESPONSE-ABILITY

November 21, 2022 09:33 - 11 minutes - 13.3 MB

When you get triggered, it's normal to react automatically. Which may look like blaming, complaining, or losing control. That's not your fault - that's just your brain's way of protecting you. But... What if you could take RESPONSE-ABILITY instead? So rather than having a knee-jerk reaction, you respond deliberately? Tune in to this week's episode to hear how you can start taking more response-ability in your life. *If you want to learn how to better handle the everyday emotion...

290: You Can Handle Embarrassment!

November 15, 2022 14:55 - 12 minutes - 14.7 MB

Have you ever said or done something that caused you to feel embarrassed? Do you ever get worried about what others think of you when you mess up in public? Do you ever feel self-conscious about the feeling that someone else is evaluating you? Feeling embarrassed can be uncomfortable, and yet there is something you can do about it, and you can certainly handle it Tune in to this week's "You Can Handle Anything" podcast to hear more! *If you want to learn how to better handle the ev...

289: You've Got the Wrong Story!

November 08, 2022 16:39 - 19 minutes - 23.4 MB

I have a story for you today. But guess what? I bet you have one for me, too. Do you know how I know? Because as humans, we walk around with stories. All of the time. Some of those stories benefit us. But, many of them do not. And when they don't, it's your responsibility to change the story (if you want to feel better at any given moment). Tune in to this week's podcast to learn why you may want to consider checking in with your stories because you may realize you may be w...

288: Think Twice

October 31, 2022 11:12 - 16 minutes - 18.6 MB

When we get triggered, we react. But what is the true cause of that reaction? Is it the trigger or is it our thinking about the trigger that causes us to react? There's a difference between the two and knowing it is the difference between night and day. Tune in to learn more and see how learning the truth can impact your life in powerful ways. *Learn how to better handle the everyday emotional situations in your life! Click here to sign up for my FREE CLASS to get started!

287: Doing vs Being

October 25, 2022 07:42 - 14 minutes - 17.2 MB

The natural way to go about solving the problem is to actually DO something about it. The problem is, that approach may help in the short term, but it may not get to the root of the problem, and hence, it may not ever solve the problem. Tune in to this week's episode to learn more about the concept of "BEING" and how your ways of BEING can be a powerful force of change in your life! *Learn how to better handle the everyday emotional situations in your life! Click here to sign up for my...

286: Urges

October 18, 2022 16:17 - 16 minutes - 19.6 MB

Do you ever have the urge to offer unsolicited advice? Do you ever have the urge to check your phone? Do you ever have the urge to finish off people's sentences? I'm sure you've experienced urges in your life - and I'm also confident you've experienced them when it comes to food and eating. I'm sure you've experienced this before - and definitely when it comes to food and eating. Acting on urges will not only not serve you in the long-term, but it will also cause your urges to grow ...

285: Thinking, Fast and Slow

October 11, 2022 14:03 - 16 minutes - 18.6 MB

For many people, when they feel stressed or anxious or overwhelmed, they turn to food to soothe themselves. Why do they do this, if they know at the end of the day, it's not good for them? The answer has to do with how we think. In this week's episode, I introduce you to the work of Nobel Prize winner, Dr. Daniel Kahneman and his theory on decision-making. Join me this week in learning more about how you make decisions, and how that decision process may be working against you. *If ...

284: Getting rid of Emotional Eating

October 04, 2022 11:59 - 13 minutes - 15.3 MB

Do you eat more when you feel stressed? Do you eat when you’re not hungry or when you’re full? Do you eat to calm or soothe yourself when you’re feeling sad or disappointed or frustrated or anxious? Do you regularly eat until you feel stuffed? Do you feel powerless or out of control around food? If so, you may consider yourself an emotional eater. Tune in to this week's episode (the first of a 4-part series) on getting rid of emotional eating! *If you want to learn how to bette...

283: Consider Keep Showing Up

September 25, 2022 07:00 - 17 minutes - 20.3 MB

When was the last thing you committed to something, but didn't follow through on? ALL judgments aside! This is not about being perfect, but rather it's about waking up to noticing the excuses you may be making in your life (whether you are aware of them or not) that are holding you back from being the person you truly want to be and living the life you truly want to live. In every moment you have the opportunity to make a choice. It's just that sometimes we make excuses for why we ca...

282: Consider No Shame

September 20, 2022 07:02 - 17 minutes - 20.2 MB

Have you ever had the experience where you said something you wish you hadn't? Or you made a decision you later regretted? If so, you might be familiar with the feeling of shame. I can tell you from personal experience that shame is one of the worst things you can ever feel. Tune in to this week's episode to learn more about how you can handle shame better in your life. *If you want to learn how to handle the everyday emotional situations in your life better, click here to sign up ...

281: Consider NOW is the best time as any

September 13, 2022 11:47 - 14 minutes - 16.1 MB

When you feel a strong emotion coming on - whether you're feeling anxious, sad, frustrated, or annoyed - it's quite easy to get sucked into holding on to that emotion. Or, as I call it - getting "stuck." But the truth is, with every stuck spot comes a choice. You can get emotionally unstuck from the emotions that tend to hijack you, and NOW is the best time as any to do so. Tune in to this week's episode to hear more. *And, if you feel like your emotions are controlling your life, ...

280: The 90 Day Deal and an interview with Paula Spack

September 06, 2022 11:11 - 21 minutes - 18.8 MB

If you could challenge yourself to do one thing for 90 Days, what would it be? One of the members of my Living Deliberately Circle decided to commit to 90 days of exercising - 20 minutes a day. The journey that she traveled on during this time wasn't necessarily to reach a goal, but rather to strengthen the relationship she has with herself. Tune in to hear Paula's story! To learn more about my group coaching program, Emotionally Equipped for Life, visit: www.shiragura.com

279 Emotional (Disordered) Eating

August 30, 2022 16:51 - 32 minutes - 37.5 MB

There is an emotional element to everything in life. And that includes eating. As humans, we have a tendency to want to avoid feeling uncomfortable emotions - and that resistance can lead to us numbing our emotions. Some people have a tendency to turn to alcohol or drugs or social media or Netflix to avoid feeling hard feelings. And others turn to food. And I'm one of those people. Emotional (or disordered) eating can lead to serious health problems. Unfortunately, most people tu...

278: Transfer of Learning

August 23, 2022 12:27 - 12 minutes - 14.1 MB

"Transfer of learning" is a psychological concept that occurs when people apply information, strategies, and skills they have learned to a new situation or context. But what does transfer of learning have to do with your emotions? Check out this week's episode to learn more and to hear how you can start to apply this strategy in your life in order to create new habits and have more success with reaching your goals! *Get started with learning more about getting "Emotionally Equipped for...

277: Live on Purpose - Live Deliberately!

August 16, 2022 16:50 - 17 minutes - 20.8 MB

If you want to create a change in your life, you need to learn how to live your life on purpose. If you want to create a new habit or reach a goal, you need to learn how to handle the small moments that comprise that experience. And this way of living is what I call, Living Deliberately. But before you get started, you first need to learn how to handle the everyday emotional situations of your life. Tune in to learn more! Click here to enroll in my free class today! Find me over ...

276: Let People Surprise You

August 09, 2022 15:03 - 15 minutes - 18.4 MB

Bring to mind with whom you are close - whether that's a spouse, parent, sibling, neighbor, boss, client, or friend. How well do you think you know that person? You may tend to believe you know everything about that person. The problem is, when you live from a place of "all-knowing," you limit the possibilities for that other person. But, when you get CLEAR ahead of time, you stay open to what else may be possible. And in doing so, the people in your life may surprise you! Tune i...

275: Creating Boundaries

August 02, 2022 19:07 - 19 minutes - 22.7 MB

What if a neighbor comes by your house each day and expects to sit and have coffee with you, but you're not interested? Or what if a family member calls you every day and expects to speak with you at times that aren't good for you? What do you do? The answer can be found in this week's podcast. And the practical part can be experienced in this month's online workshop, The 3-Step Approach to Creating Healthy Boundaries. Contact me via my website (or DM me on Instagram) for details!

274: How to have a GREAT vacation

July 26, 2022 02:06 - 15 minutes - 17.9 MB

When you go on vacation, do you ever think about how you can set yourself up for having the best vacation possible? In this week's episode, I share my thoughts on how to do just that. You may be surprised as to what I have to share! www.shiragura.com/freeclass https://www.instagram.com/you.can.handle.anything/

273: Question Everything

July 19, 2022 18:02 - 13 minutes - 16.3 MB

Would you say you are a person who: a) reacts automatically to things and makes quick decisions, or b) questions what you see and hear, and takes your mind to respond to things? When we live on autopilot and react quickly to things, it has the potential to get us stuck. But, when we learn to pause and question things (what others say, including what we say to ourselves), we can live more proactively and stop making complaining, blaming, and making excuses for not living our best live...

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