You Can Handle Anything!
381 episodes - English - Latest episode: 25 days ago - ★★★★★ - 60 ratingsWelcome to the "You Can Handle Anything" podcast! I'm your host, Shira Gura, and I know firsthand how negative emotions can trap us, preventing us from fully enjoying life’s moments and the people around us. But I also know that while experiencing emotions is perfectly normal, staying stuck in them is a choice we make.
In this podcast, you'll discover how to master your emotions in any situation, ensuring you can stay calm, in control, and confident, ready to handle whatever comes your way.
This transformation is possible through five simple steps with The Unstuck Method.
Let's dive in and learn how to free ourselves from emotional stuckness and embrace a life where you truly can handle anything.
Learn more at: www.shiragura.com
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224: Consider falling forward
August 08, 2021 03:30 - 23 minutes - 38.4 MBHave you ever felt like you totally messed up? I'm sure you have. It happens to all of us. When this happens, most people feel awful about themselves and don't know what to do to just feel better. In today's podcast episode, I share how this recently happened to me and I walk you through how I got unstuck from it. Tune in to hear more. www.shiragura.com
223: Consider giving the benefit of the doubt
August 03, 2021 11:10 - 18 minutes - 30.7 MBIt's quite easy to get stuck when you're on vacation. And it's even easier to get stuck when you're visiting family. I got stuck this week with an interaction I had with my mother (who graciously gave me permission to share the story on this week's episode). Tune in to hear the story and how I got unstuck by giving her the benefit of the doubt. www.shiragura.com
222: Interview with Krista Luzio
July 26, 2021 21:19 - 42 minutes - 68.5 MBI had the privilege to interview Krista Luzio on this week's podcast. Krista Luzio lives in Chicago and has been practicing law as a medical malpractice defense lawyer for the past 13 years. She is a mother of two younger children, is a writer, artist, and musician. Krista found me via this podcast and contacted me soon after she learned about her husband’s infidelity. Learn more about Krista's story, how she has learned to navigate the challenging and surprising situations that have sho...
221: Consider a Hug (Being Loving)
July 20, 2021 04:47 - 15 minutes - 25 MBA few days ago I visited two young men who were brutally attacked during a senseless and heinous hate crime. There were family, friends, and community members at this gathering to show support for these young men. At one point, there was a request for everyone present to introduce themselves, share where they were from and anything else they would like to add. This is where I started to get stuck. Tune in to hear how I got myself unstuck and the positive result that followed after. ...
220: Being Assertive
July 13, 2021 04:05 - 10 minutes - 18.1 MBThis week, I continue on with the story I began last week. Now only will you hear how I got CLEAR so I was able to move forward, you will hear a sincere apology to my husband. Getting unSTUCK and Getting CLEAR is never about putting someone else down in order to make you look good. But in last week's episode, I am afraid I missed my intention and so I publicly share that process with you as well. www.shiragura.com
219: Consider Assertiveness
July 06, 2021 04:52 - 18 minutes - 30.6 MBThis week I'd like to share with you a story about my garden. Or, shall I say, a garden project that I wanted to create. But, the truth of the matter is, the story has little to do with the garden and has almost everything to do with my relationship with my husband. The situation didn't go as I would have liked it and in this week's episode I share with you how I got unstuck. www.shiragura.com
218: Interview with Ayelet Kagan
June 28, 2021 18:10 - 41 minutes - 67.5 MBTune in to this week's episode where I interview Ayelet Kagan. Ayelet is a 28-year-old woman originally from Israel and has been living in Germany for the past few years studying and performing opera. She recently enrolled in The 6-week Emotionally Equipped Journey. In this interview, she shares her experiences about the Journey specifically related to the impact it had on her mental health. www.shiragura.com
217: Creating Boundaries
June 21, 2021 18:22 - 13 minutes - 22.8 MBSetting boundaries is an essential tool for living the life you want to live. Setting boundaries is something you do for yourself as a way of protecting yourself. Boundaries are not about controlling another person and they are not meant to be created as a way to manipulate other people. They are about setting clear limits so others know where you stand on things. Tune in to this week's podcast episode to learn more. www.shiragura.com
216: Being respectful
June 15, 2021 07:55 - 16 minutes - 28 MBHave you ever been in a situation where someone is disrespecting you? What do you do? How do you act? Tune in to this week's Emotionally Equipped for Life podcast to learn more. www.shiragura.com
215: Self-respect
June 08, 2021 08:24 - 19 minutes - 32.7 MBFor whatever reason, it is often easier to commit to other people than it is to commit to ourselves. We get stuck in lots of thoughts and emotions (it's not important, missing it for one day is no big deal, no one will notice, etc.) which not only leads us to inaction, it leads us to not fully respecting ourselves. Tune in to this week's episode to learn more about how you can create more self-respect in your life. www.shiragura.com
214: Considering learning a new language
June 01, 2021 13:36 - 16 minutes - 27.9 MBAfter the recent war, the Muslim woman from the village down the road from the community where I live requested a gathering. Women only. To meet one another. To emote. To share from our hearts. To find commonalities. And to simply start a dialogue of peace. Those of us present believed there is no other way. At that meeting I got stuck on shame and embarrassment, but got unSTUCK when I made an important decision. Tune into to hear more.
213: Interview with Beatie Deutsch
May 25, 2021 08:39 - 55 minutes - 90.5 MBDo you know what you need to be to go from "non-runner" to "runner" to "national champion"? You need to be emotionally equipped! Tune in to this week's Emotionally Equipped podcast to hear from Israeli national marathon champion (mother of five young children), Beatie Deutsch, and how she gets herself unstuck during challenging runs and emotionally challenging races. www.shiragura.com https://www.facebook.com/marathonmother https://www.instagram.com/marathonmother/
212: Appreciating what you may not love
May 17, 2021 22:44 - 23 minutes - 38.5 MBWe are given opportunities to appreciate every day. We often think the only things we should appreciate are the things we are grateful for. And yet, we can also learn to appreciate the things we may not necessarily grateful for at first glance. Because even in those places (and sometimes especially in those places) exist the most opportunities for growth and learning – and therefore, can be things we learn to value and appreciate. Tune in to this week's podcast to learn more about wh...
211: Appreciation vs Gratitude
May 10, 2021 13:53 - 14 minutes - 24 MBThis month, I invite you to practice being appreciative. At the latest gathering of the Emotionally Equipped Circle, one of the participants asked me if there is a difference between practicing gratitude and practicing appreciation. Tune in to this week's podcast episode to hear my response and to explore where you may want to challenge yourself to practice being more appreciative in your life this month. www.shiragura.com
210: Interview with Ayalah Gura
May 03, 2021 19:46 - 31 minutes - 50.8 MBI have been podcasting for nearly four years. My show has more or less been a solo show. Yet a couple of days ago there was something tugging at me to interview my 19-year-old daughter before she enlists into the army. Tune in to hear how learning and practicing my self-help tools supported my daughter to be emotionally equipped and empowered during the extremely challenging situations she had to endure during the selection process. *Join me for a free masterclass (From Emotionally Equip...
209: Pure Joy
April 27, 2021 07:08 - 17 minutes - 29.5 MBLast week's episode was dedicated to understanding the concept of quasi-pleasures. This week, tune in to learn more about how decreasing (or eliminating) the number of quasi-pleasures in your life can lead to creating pure joy in your life and in your relationships. The doors to the 6-week "Emotionally Equipped Journey" are now open! Be sure you are signed up to my newsletter to learn more details and for registration. Click here to do so.
208: Quasi-pleasures
April 20, 2021 06:18 - 15 minutes - 25 MBThere are two ways to experience joy in your life. One way is with what I call "quasi-pleasures." In this week's episode, I share what "quasi-pleasures" are, how they are incredibly abundant in our lives today, and in which ways they can (and do) affect us. If you're looking to experience more joy in your life, tune in to this week's episode! www.shiragura.com
207: Joy during turmoil
April 13, 2021 11:51 - 16 minutes - 27.3 MBMy father-in-law passed away this week. The death was actually a tragic one. And still, I found pockets of joy during this time. Tune in to learn more and get inspired as to where you may be able to find joy during tumultuous events in your life. Sign up for the unSTUCK Challenge!
206: Question Everything
April 06, 2021 05:21 - 16 minutes - 27.5 MBFar too often we get into the habit of living our lives in certain ways without giving it too much thought. In a way, we walk around half a sleep, even if knowing that "waking up" would actually improve our lives in countless ways. One way to get out of the habit of being yourself is to question everything. While it can be scary to do so, I do believe more often than not, the benefits of doing so outweigh the risks. Tune in to this week's Emotionally Equipped podcast to learn more.
205: Practice Makes Possible
March 30, 2021 12:07 - 23 minutes - 38.1 MBYou are in for a treat today. While I had plans to share my weekly episode with you, a good friend of mine reached out to me with an epic situation she experienced yesterday and she told me how she used The unSTUCK Method and The CLEAR Way to help her through it. She said it would be a great story for the podcast and I welcomed her to share her story with joy! I hope you enjoy Esther's story about "practice makes possible." When you're done listening, I welcome you to tune back in to ...
204: Breaking traditions
March 23, 2021 06:37 - 17 minutes - 28.4 MBAccording to Google, tradition is the transmission of customs or beliefs from generation to generation. I am sure you have lots of traditions in your life. Many of them have probably been passed down to you generation to generation, and others may have been traditions you created on your own. The question is, at which point do you keep a tradition, just for the sake of keeping it, even when it no longer has meaning in your life or when it makes no sense at all for you to keep it? Tu...
203: Trust your tools
March 15, 2021 19:04 - 16 minutes - 28.1 MBWhen you learn about the mind, you realize something curious: that the mind often innocently works against you. You would think that your mind should be working for you, and in a way it does - when it keeps you safe and out of harm's way. But often when the mind is doing that, what it's also doing is keeping you back from evolving and living to your truest potential. So rather than depending on your mind when you get stuck, I invite you to consider depending on your tools. Tune in to...
202: Emotionally Equipped
March 08, 2021 20:11 - 18 minutes - 29.3 MBBeing emotionally equipped means possessing simple and practical self-help tools that have the power to efficiently and effectively support a person in coping with emotionally challenging life situations. Are you emotionally equipped? Tune in to hear more and join me over on Instagram to continue the conversation. https://www.instagram.com/shiragura/
201: Between Unknowing and knowing
March 01, 2021 19:02 - 20 minutes - 32.1 MBLife is like a jigsaw puzzle. We're always in the process between unknowing and knowing. And even when the puzzle is complete, the truth is, we simply start all over again with a new puzzle. The question is: Who are you being in the process? Tune in to learn more and get emotionally equipped and inspired with the jigsaw puzzle you are currently working on in your life.
200: On Self love
February 22, 2021 20:02 - 25 minutes - 41.5 MBIn celebration of my 200th episode, I decided to go a little vulnerable on this episode. Instead of teaching about self-love, I decided to share a story of where and how I recently had to get myself unSTUCK from self-loathing and instead deliberately choose to love myself. So many people fall into the trap of self-resentment. It's far too easy to believe we aren't good enough, we aren't perfect enough, and we aren't worthy. And yet, self-hatred will never get you anywhere. Tune in ...
199: 3 words to improve a relationship
February 16, 2021 05:04 - 30 minutes - 49.1 MBIn this week's podcast episode, I share with you a new tool I've been working on behind the scenes with my husband for about a year. This is a tool that has powerfully supported our marriage and therefore, I wanted to share it with my podcast listeners. This tool is different from my other self-help tools (The unSTUCK Method and The CLEAR Way) in that it is meant to be used by both parties involved, rather than just one. Tune in to learn more and if you do try out this tool in your rel...
198: Getting unstuck from self-sabotage
February 09, 2021 10:13 - 25 minutes - 42.7 MBDo you ever feel held back by things you want to do or goals you want to achieve? There's a name for this. It's called "self-sabotage" and there's a simple reason why this may be happening to you. It has to do with your feelings. The good thing is, it is possible to live a life without self-sabotage, if you know how to avoid it. In this episode I teach you 3 simple, but power ways to do so. Below, please find the other podcast episodes I refer to in this episode. The Lower Brain:...
197: On Being Loving
February 02, 2021 05:19 - 37 minutes - 60 MBIn any and every relationship, you have the choice to be loving. No matter what the circumstances are around you, no matter how other people are acting, and no matter how other people are being, you can choose to be loving. You don't have to let other people determine the way you want to show up in the world. How you show up in the world is always your choice. Tune in to this week's episode to learn more about where and how you can practice being more loving in your life.
196: On the Courage to be Self-Expressed
January 26, 2021 07:59 - 26 minutes - 43.6 MBSo many people have a fear of being self-expressed. Which makes a lot of sense. It's only natural to want to be liked - and when you are self-expressed it exposes you to the possibilities of people creating negative opinions of you. The problem is, when you don't allow yourself to be self-expressed, your emotions get bottled up inside of you - until at some point you can't hold onto those feelings any longer - and you just automatically burst. It takes courage to be self-expressed. ...
196; On the Courage to be Self-Expressed
January 26, 2021 07:59 - 26 minutes - 43.6 MBSo many people have a fear of being self-expressed. Which makes a lot of sense. It's only natural to want to be liked - and when you are self-expressed it exposes you to the possibilities of people creating negative opinions of you. The problem is, when you don't allow yourself to be self-expressed, your emotions get bottled up inside of you - until at some point you can't hold onto those feelings any longer - and you just automatically burst. It takes courage to be self-expressed. ...
195: On the Courage to Make a Shift
January 18, 2021 17:50 - 25 minutes - 42 MBWhen you are feeling stuck, you are probably "being" someone you don't want to be. You get hijacked by your emotions and your emotions take control of the real you. But when you go through the process of getting unSTUCK, there's an opportunity for you to shift. To shift out of who you were being and into the person you truly want to be. It's simple, but not easy. Tune in to this week's Living Deliberately podcast to learn more. And sign up for today's webinar at: www.shiragura.com
194: Stuck on What Other's Think of You
January 11, 2021 21:27 - 22 minutes - 36.4 MBDo you ever get stuck on caring what other people think of you? It's a very common human behavior to do this. We come from a tribal background where fitting in literally often meant a matter of life or death. But there are lots of problems with this: *You may not ever be able to change to their desires. *If you are able to change, you'll become someone who you're not. * You can't control other people's opinions anyway. In the Living Deliberately community this month, we...
193: Say "No!" to New Year's Resolutions
January 05, 2021 07:22 - 26 minutes - 42.6 MB2021 has just begun. And with it comes lots of feelings of excitement and hope. Many people around this time make New Year's resolutions. Unfortunately, statistics show that New Year's resolutions don't work. And that's because New Year's resolutions are devoid of the secret to creating change. The secret is not so much about the actions you take, but rather about something else entirely. Tune in to learn more and to see what YOU can do this year to create the changes and improvements ...
192: Trusting the process
December 28, 2020 21:35 - 26 minutes - 43.1 MBThere are two ways to look at life: That it's happening to you, or that it's happening for you. When you look at life from the latter, you realize what a gift it is. Each of us is on our own healing journey. It's very easy to feel fearful, uncertain, or hopeless when you aren't getting the results you want or hope to see. But staying in difficult emotions like that will only keep you stuck. Getting unSTUCK and trusting the process will open your heart and mind to realize that lif...
191: On Generosity
December 21, 2020 21:07 - 20 minutes - 29 MBThis month, the Living Deliberately community focused on practicing generosity in their lives. But have you ever stopped to consider what really is generosity? Is generosity just a willingness to give support and help, or is something more? Do you need to feel generous in order for something to be considered an act of generosity or are your feelings about it irrelevant? Tune in to hear some thoughts I've been pondering this month and the conclusion I came to regarding what generosity...
190: How to Feel on Purpose (Deliberately)
December 15, 2020 03:44 - 28 minutes - 40.1 MBMost people erroneously believe that it's the things outside of them (like, the people and circumstances in their lives) that cause them to feel the things they feel. But, the truth is, feelings come from within. Feelings are generated by the thoughts you choose to believe. No one and nothing can make you feel anything you don't want to. What you feel is always a choice. The power is always within you. Tune in to learn more about creating feelings on purpose! Don't forget to su...
189: How to Be Mentally Prepared to Be an Organ Donor
December 07, 2020 08:50 - 23 minutes - 32.5 MBBy looking at the title of this episode, you may be quite surprised by the topic. But, I encourage you to tune in as I have two powerful stories for you regarding getting CLEAR in order to avoid getting STUCK that you don't want to miss! Shira Gura is an award-winning author and authority on emotional health and well-being with over two decades of experience in the wellness field. Her background as an occupational therapist, yoga instructor, and mindfulness teacher led her to create two ...
188: Getting unSTUCK from anxiety
December 01, 2020 06:16 - 24 minutes - 34.7 MBDo you experience anxiety sometimes? A lot of people do, whether they realize it or not (or whether they want to admit it or not). And the truth is, people are feeling anxious now more than ever. Anxiety is a difficult emotion to experience and most people aren't equipped to cope with it. And so, they resist feeling the anxiety, so they don't have to feel that difficult emotion. The problem is, resisting your feelings never helps you feel better. Ever. But, there is another way. ...
187: Getting unSTUCK on Thanksgiving 2020
November 23, 2020 19:46 - 17 minutes - 25.1 MBI was speaking with my parents the other day who told me that because of Corona restrictions, they are most likely going to have to spend Thanksgiving without family and friends this year. I'm sure they are not alone in feeling stuck with the reality of the situation due to Corona/COVID. If you are feeling stuck as well, tune into this episode to see what you can do. I welcome your responses to the episode in an iTunes review, response on my website, or sharing a comment on Instagram.
186: On Maintaining Your Emotional Well-being
November 16, 2020 16:53 - 16 minutes - 23.1 MBMaintaining your emotional health and well-being is just as important as the other things you work to maintain in your life, such as your car, your physical health, or your job. Good emotional health and well-being isn't a birthright. It's something that needs to be cultivated on a daily basis. Tune in to hear about some of the things that I do to maintain my emotional health and well-being. I'd love to hear more about yours. I welcome your responses inside the Living Deliberately Fac...
185: How to get unSTUCK from partner's unpleasant habits
November 09, 2020 19:56 - 18 minutes - 25.7 MBIt's certainly not pleasant to live with someone you believe has a disgusting habit. What should you do? Try to change their habit? What if they don't have the power to change it? How is it possible to go on living with someone you feel so ashamed about? Tune in to learn how you can get unSTUCK from feeling disgust about your partner's disgusting habit.
184: On its NOT about the goal
November 02, 2020 20:08 - 14 minutes - 20.4 MBLast week (episode 183), I shared about creating "crazy" goals. This week, I share with you why it's not about the goals. No, my intention is not to confuse you, but rather it's to challenge you to look at your own life and realize where does your sense of purpose really lie - in achieving the goal or in becoming the person you want to become while on your way to achieving the goal. Tune in to learn more. I'd be grateful to hear your comments!
183: On Crazy Goals
October 26, 2020 20:27 - 21 minutes - 30.4 MBLiving Deliberately is about playing it big. It's about giving yourself permission to dream. It's about taking leaps of faith. It's about creating crazy goals to stretch and evolve you into the next best version of yourself. Tune in to this week's episode to learn why you may want to consider creating crazy goals in your life.
182 On Group Challenges
October 19, 2020 20:29 - 15 minutes - 22.6 MBIn my private community on Facebook, I lead monthly group Challenges. Tune in to this week's podcast episode to learn more about what these Challenges are about, why you may want to consider participating, and the next steps you need to take in order to join my community. www.shiragura.com
181: On the most important thing in your life
October 12, 2020 20:19 - 16 minutes - 23.4 MBI recently posted a question on Facebook in three different places and was fascinated by the responses I received. "If you could name one thing, what would you say is the most important thing in your life?" How would you respond? Tune in to this week's podcast episode to hear my response. It may catch you by surprise.
180: On Optical Illusions
October 06, 2020 03:57 - 20 minutes - 28.6 MBOptical illusions occur when the brain perceives something that in reality, may or may not exist. The way we perceive things in the world is not only what we take in with our eyes, but how our mind interprets that information. Many people are familiar with optical illusions in the form of artwork, but have you ever considered the optical illusions that exist in your life? They do exist and they are boundless. Tune in to this week's episode to learn more about optical illusions and ...
179: On missing the mark
September 29, 2020 08:47 - 12 minutes - 17.5 MBYesterday, I sat in solitude in the forest near my home for the purpose of reading through the journals I wrote in over the past year. The purpose of this exercise was to remind me of where I "missed the mark" (and also a reminder of where I "hit the mark.") Tune in to hear why you may want to pick up a journaling practice (if you don't have one already). And why you may also want to create a yearly tradition of reading through your journals for the purpose of sharpening your efforts of ...
178: Adult Responses
September 22, 2020 11:32 - 16 minutes - 23.7 MBWhen you get triggered, there are only two options of responding: 1) With a childhood reaction, or 2) With an adult response. Adult responses are defined by how you consciously choose to show up, not necessarily how others behave. They're about how you choose to respond, despite how others act. They are powerful because you are not dependent on others for your emotional health and well-being. Adult responses are about taking full responsibility for your own happiness (as well as ...
177: On Childhood Reactions
September 15, 2020 09:55 - 24 minutes - 33.9 MBWhen you get triggered, there are only two options of responding: 1) With a childhood reaction, or 2) With an adult response. Many of us respond with childhood reactions because that is what we are most familiar with and have more experience responding in this way. Yet, childhood reactions typically do not help us, they do not help the other people involved, and they don't help resolve the situation. And yet, we often continue to express ourselves with childhood reactions nonethele...
176: On Moments in Time
September 08, 2020 11:03 - 14 minutes - 19.9 MBLiving Deliberately is a framework for living. It includes understanding the big picture of what it is you want to create - (Episode 175) And the moments in time that comprise the time as you go from "here" to "there." Identifying and visualizing what it is you want to create or change can be very exciting. But, if you don't keep in mind the moments in time that you will face along the way, you may not only get stuck, you may not know how to get yourself out of the pitfalls you find yo...