UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
811 episodes - English - Latest episode: 20 days ago - ★★★★★ - 4.5K ratingsUnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone breaks down the centuries of sexist socialization that causes us to struggle with self-doubt, burnout, and anxiety.
Hosted by Master Feminist Coach Kara Loewentheil, J.D., founder of The School of New Feminist Thought and author of Take Back Your Brain (Penguin 2024), each episode teaches you how to turn down the noise of societal expectations, turn up the volume on what YOU really want in life, and change your thinking to make sure you go get it.
This podcast is an essential resource for anyone eager to embrace a life free from limiting beliefs and societal constraints.
If you ever find yourself asking questions like…
*Why am I so anxious about stuff that isn’t a big deal?
*How can I stop overthinking everything?
*Am I selfish for wanting my life to look different?
*Will I ever feel comfortable in my body?
*Am I a bad parent?
*How can I ask for more money at work?
*Can I stop people-pleasing?
*How can my partner and I communicate better?
… then you won’t want to miss an episode.
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Episodes
UFYB 88: Complaining
July 04, 2019 07:00 - 13 minutes - 14.4 MBJoin me today as I give you a short and sweet episode on the behavior of complaining, and why it's so detrimental to you both physically and mentally. I challenge you to try out this diet and see if the results make a difference in your life! Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/88
87. Loneliness
June 27, 2019 11:00 - 22 minutes - 30.3 MBJoin me as I unravel the concept of loneliness and give you some new ways of thinking about it that will help you see the bigger picture. There are areas of this particular feeling that we're apt to misinterpret, so hopefully, this episode gives you some insight into how you might just be thinking about it in an unhelpful way. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/87
UFYB 87: Loneliness
June 27, 2019 07:00 - 23 minutes - 22.3 MBJoin me as I unravel the concept of loneliness and give you some new ways of thinking about it that will help you see the bigger picture. There are areas of this particular feeling that we're apt to misinterpret, so hopefully, this episode gives you some insight into how you might just be thinking about it in an unhelpful way. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/87
86. Trauma
June 20, 2019 11:00 - 30 minutes - 42.5 MBToday, I'm digging into the idea of PTSD and something you may not have heard of before - post-traumatic growth. I'm giving you a clear description of what trauma actually is and how you can help yourself get through it. There are some really important key points I'm sharing today that will help you work towards emotional resiliency to change your experiences going forward. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/86
UFYB 86: Trauma
June 20, 2019 07:00 - 30 minutes - 27.5 MBToday, I'm digging into the idea of PTSD and something you may not have heard of before - post-traumatic growth. I'm giving you a clear description of what trauma actually is and how you can help yourself get through it. There are some really important key points I'm sharing today that will help you work towards emotional resiliency to change your experiences going forward. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/86
85. Parenting
June 13, 2019 11:00 - 26 minutes - 36.7 MBTrying to find the balance in dealing with a child, while setting boundaries and expectations can be tricky, especially because you can't control their behavior - even if you think you can. Join me this week as I outline the three key points to consider when setting boundaries with your kids so you can be a parent without all the emotional drama that comes along with being one! Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/85
UFYB 85: Parenting
June 13, 2019 07:00 - 24 minutes - 23.2 MBTrying to find the balance in dealing with a child, while setting boundaries and expectations can be tricky, especially because you can't control their behavior - even if you think you can. Join me this week as I outline the three key points to consider when setting boundaries with your kids so you can be a parent without all the emotional drama that comes along with being one! Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/85
84. Talking to Yourself
June 06, 2019 11:00 - 18 minutes - 25 MBDr. James Gills is a brilliant ocular surgeon who said, "I talk to myself more than I listen to myself," and when I heard this, it stopped me in my tracks. Most of us know that listening to others usually does us good, but we don't realize that we also often listen to what our brain tells us to think. Today, I want to shed some light on how you can start to talk to your brain in a proactive way that will positively change the discourse in your mind. Get full show notes and more information ...
UFYB 84: Talking to Yourself
June 06, 2019 07:00 - 17 minutes - 16.9 MBDr. James Gills is a brilliant ocular surgeon who said, "I talk to myself more than I listen to myself," and when I heard this, it stopped me in my tracks. Most of us know that listening to others usually does us good, but we don't realize that we also often listen to what our brain tells us to think. Today, I want to shed some light on how you can start to talk to your brain in a proactive way that will positively change the discourse in your mind. Get full show notes and more information...
83. The Thought Ladder and Thinking V. Believing
May 30, 2019 11:00 - 20 minutes - 27.5 MBAs we try to change our results, we often try thinking new thoughts. I'm exposing why just thinking a new thought isn't going to have the same effect as truly believing it, and why this is crucial to grasp when you're working on your thought ladder. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/83
UFYB 83: The Thought Ladder and Thinking V. Believing
May 30, 2019 07:00 - 18 minutes - 18 MBAs we try to change our results, we often try thinking new thoughts. I'm exposing why just thinking a new thought isn't going to have the same effect as truly believing it, and why this is crucial to grasp when you're working on your thought ladder. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/83
82. Generating Positive Emotion
May 23, 2019 11:00 - 14 minutes - 20.4 MBListen in to uncover how you can set out to create positive emotion from scratch. Applying this concept is going to give you a more embodied experience of your emotions and strengthen the connection between your thoughts and feelings! Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/82
UFYB 82: Generating Positive Emotion
May 23, 2019 07:00 - 13 minutes - 14.3 MBListen in to uncover how you can set out to create positive emotion from scratch. Applying this concept is going to give you a more embodied experience of your emotions and strengthen the connection between your thoughts and feelings! Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/82
81. Pain & Illness
May 16, 2019 11:00 - 22 minutes - 30.9 MBJoin me today, my chickens, as I teach you some tools and ways of thinking about pain and chronic illness, or acute illness. I have some great resources to share that may be able to help you reduce or eliminate the physical pain itself once you stop believing that it means something is going wrong. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/81
UFYB 81: Pain & Illness
May 16, 2019 07:00 - 22 minutes - 21.4 MBJoin me today, my chickens, as I teach you some tools and ways of thinking about pain and chronic illness, or acute illness. I have some great resources to share that may be able to help you reduce or eliminate the physical pain itself once you stop believing that it means something is going wrong. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/81
80. Judgment V. Curiosity
May 09, 2019 11:00 - 13 minutes - 18.6 MBOn today's episode, I break down why judgment is not serving you, especially as you embark on your thought work journey, and how practicing curiosity instead will open you to a much richer experience. The difference between judging your thoughts and having curiosity is a huge shift: curiosity doesn’t assume to know the answer. Curiosity doesn’t evaluate if something is good or bad. Curiosity doesn’t have an opinion. Curiosity pays attention. Get full show notes and more information here: h...
UFYB 80: Judgment V. Curiosity
May 09, 2019 07:00 - 12 minutes - 12.8 MBOn today's episode, I break down why judgment is not serving you, especially as you embark on your thought work journey, and how practicing curiosity instead will open you to a much richer experience. The difference between judging your thoughts and having curiosity is a huge shift: curiosity doesn’t assume to know the answer. Curiosity doesn’t evaluate if something is good or bad. Curiosity doesn’t have an opinion. Curiosity pays attention. Get full show notes and more information here: ...
79. Attachment Styles and Personality Tests
May 02, 2019 11:00 - 18 minutes - 25.7 MBThere is a downside to categorizing ourselves by personality tests and attachment styles. Before we learn to manage our thoughts and choose them on purpose, having a diagnostic of those thoughts can have a detrimental effect on our belief in our ability to change. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/79
UFYB 79: Attachment Styles and Personality Tests
May 02, 2019 07:00 - 17 minutes - 17.6 MBThere is a downside to categorizing ourselves by personality tests and attachment styles. Before we learn to manage our thoughts and choose them on purpose, having a diagnostic of those thoughts can have a detrimental effect on our belief in our ability to change. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/79 Join The Clutch today for a community of like-minded feminists: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/theclutch/
78. Resisting V. Allowing Negative Emotion
April 25, 2019 11:00 - 17 minutes - 23.9 MBJoin me on this episode to discover how to start implementing the practice of truly allowing your negative feelings. Baby steps are crucial in working on your skeptical brain, and starting here is going to help you tremendously with your self-coaching. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/78
UFYB 78: Resisting V. Allowing Negative Emotion
April 25, 2019 07:00 - 16 minutes - 16.1 MBJoin me on this episode to discover how to start implementing the practice of truly allowing your negative feelings. Baby steps are crucial in working on your skeptical brain, and starting here is going to help you tremendously with your self-coaching. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/78
77. UnFuck Your Brain Year in Review Top 3 Lessons
April 18, 2019 11:00 - 23 minutes - 32.2 MBMy goal of replacing my salary through coaching has shown me that even positive thoughts can keep you stuck, and plateaus can happen to all of us. Massive thinking is one of my biggest takeaways from this last year, and I'm exploring how up-leveling your current mindset has to happen at every stage of your life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/77
UFYB 77: UnFuck Your Brain Year in Review Top 3 Lessons
April 18, 2019 07:00 - 21 minutes - 20.6 MBMy goal of replacing my salary through coaching has shown me that even positive thoughts can keep you stuck, and plateaus can happen to all of us. Massive thinking is one of my biggest takeaways from this last year, and I'm exploring how up-leveling your current mindset has to happen at every stage of your life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/77
Level Up Your Thought Work with The Clutch
April 15, 2019 14:00 - 22 minutes - 17.6 MBIntroducing: The Clutch. An online feminist coaching community where you can learn how to create true, authentic confidence in your own heart and mind - and bond with other bad-ass women who are doing the same. The world is always coming at you, with new challenges. But now you have somewhere to go. Anytime. Anywhere. For anything. And a community that has your back. Because you’re always going to be a woman in a society built by and for men. You’re always going to need advice, feedback an...
76. Anger + Something New
April 11, 2019 11:00 - 20 minutes - 27.6 MBOn a previous episode, I talked about the distinction between positive and negative motivation and action, and the way we're taught that negative emotions lead to positive actions. Many of us think our anger will motivate us to take actions, believing this will change things, but I'm hoping to share some insight that will shed a little light on why this is a mistaken thought pattern. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/76
UFYB 76: Anger + Something New
April 11, 2019 07:00 - 19 minutes - 18.5 MBOn a previous episode, I talked about the distinction between positive and negative motivation and action, and the way we're taught that negative emotions lead to positive actions. Many of us think our anger will motivate us to take actions, believing this will change things, but I'm hoping to share some insight that will shed a little light on why this is a mistaken thought pattern. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/76
75. Massive Thinking
April 04, 2019 11:00 - 16 minutes - 22.1 MBIf you're confused or frustrated because the steps you're taking aren't working or getting you any closer to your goals, I'm giving you the answer today. Discover where you might be going wrong in your endeavors to get what you want. What I'm sharing today may seem obvious, but you'll be surprised when you slip back and catch yourself relying on actions alone to create your results. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/75
UFYB 75: Massive Thinking
April 04, 2019 07:00 - 14 minutes - 14.6 MBIf you're confused or frustrated because the steps you're taking aren't working or getting you any closer to your goals, I'm giving you the answer today. Discover where you might be going wrong in your endeavors to get what you want. What I'm sharing today may seem obvious, but you'll be surprised when you slip back and catch yourself relying on actions alone to create your results. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/75
74. 100 Episode Review - A- Work, Let it Be Easy, and Compound Interest
March 28, 2019 11:00 - 20 minutes - 28.1 MBTune in as I reflect on the biggest gifts podcasting has given me and how I've worked on them to create a successful seven-figure business! Text your email (all lowercase) to 347-997-1784 and reply with "instagram" when prompted for the secret password to follow me on social media and get links to a couple of articles I wrote! Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/74
UFYB 74: 100 Episode Review - A- Work, Let it Be Easy, and Compound Interest
March 28, 2019 07:00 - 24 minutes - 22.9 MBTune in as I reflect on the biggest gifts podcasting has given me and how I've worked on them to create a successful seven-figure business! Text your email (all lowercase) to 347-997-1784 and reply with "instagram" when prompted for the secret password to follow me on social media and get links to a couple of articles I wrote! Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/74
73. Starting with Action + Giveaway of Feel Better and Get Sh*t Done
March 21, 2019 11:00 - 24 minutes - 33.3 MBWhere you're most commonly going wrong in your thought work and why the answer to your questions never lies in simply choosing the right action to take. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/73 To help you on your path to becoming your best selves, I designed a workbook called Feel Better and Get Sh*t Done! Text your email address to 347-997-1784 and then text "feelbetter" when it prompts you for the secret password.
UFYB 73: Starting with Action + Giveaway of Feel Better and Get Sh*t Done
March 21, 2019 07:00 - 22 minutes - 21.3 MBWhere you're most commonly going wrong in your thought work and why the answer to your questions never lies in simply choosing the right action to take. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/73 To help you on your path to becoming your best selves, I designed a workbook called Feel Better and Get Sh*t Done! Text your email address to 347-997-1784 and then text "feelbetter" when it prompts you for the secret password.
72. Your Skepticals: Cognitive Bias, Neuroscience and Negative Thoughts
March 14, 2019 11:00 - 21 minutes - 29.2 MBI'm taking a slightly different route on the podcast this week, bringing you a metaphor that is going to act as an amazing tool for your thought work. Today, I'm using neuroscience to demonstrate the real power of your brain and why confirmation bias exists. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/72 Text your email address to 347-997-1784 for a worksheet that you can use to help adjust the prescription on your skepticals. Reply with "skeptical" (all lowe...
UFYB 72: Your Skepticals: Cognitive Bias, Neuroscience and Negative Thoughts
March 14, 2019 07:00 - 21 minutes - 20.4 MBI'm taking a slightly different route on the podcast this week, bringing you a metaphor that is going to act as an amazing tool for your thought work. Today, I'm using neuroscience to demonstrate the real power of your brain and why confirmation bias exists. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/72 Text your email address to 347-997-1784 for a worksheet that you can use to help adjust the prescription on your skepticals. Reply with "skeptical" (all lo...
Get My Reading List: Corrected Instructions!
March 07, 2019 19:50 - 1 minute - 4.29 MBGet a copy of my recommended reading list by texting your e-mail address to 347-997-1784. You'll get a text back asking for the secret password, which is "reading" (use all lowercase!)
71. Love + Reading List Giveaway
March 07, 2019 12:00 - 25 minutes - 35.2 MBI see so many erroneous beliefs around the feeling of love and I'm going to clear them up on today's episode. What I'm uncovering on this podcast may be a little unsettling at first, but will really set you free in your relationships with others, whether they are someone you love so much you couldn't bear to lose them or someone you hate and never want to see again. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/71 Get a copy of my recommended reading list by te...
UFYB 71: Love + Reading List Giveaway
March 07, 2019 08:00 - 29 minutes - 26.8 MBI see so many erroneous beliefs around the feeling of love and I'm going to clear them up on today's episode. What I'm uncovering on this podcast may be a little unsettling at first, but will really set you free in your relationships with others, whether they are someone you love so much you couldn't bear to lose them or someone you hate and never want to see again. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/71 Get a copy of my recommended reading list by ...
70. Clean v Dirty Pain (Breakups, Death, etc)
February 28, 2019 12:00 - 24 minutes - 33 MBDiscover the difference between clean and dirty pain, and how embracing this concept can diminish so much unnecessary suffering in your life. Emotional pain and misery are bound to come up, but this tool is going to help you flow through it with less resistance. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfckyourbrain.com/70
UFYB 70: Clean v Dirty Pain (Breakups, Death, etc)
February 28, 2019 08:00 - 22 minutes - 21 MBDiscover the difference between clean and dirty pain, and how embracing this concept can diminish so much unnecessary suffering in your life. Emotional pain and misery are bound to come up, but this tool is going to help you flow through it with less resistance. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfckyourbrain.com/70
69. Listener Q & A Vol. 13
February 21, 2019 12:00 - 28 minutes - 39.7 MBOn this episode, we’re covering topics of dealing with unsolicited advice from others, what to do when you’re someone who’s being “rude,” and body image issues. Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfckyourbrain.com/69
UFYB 69: Listener Q & A Vol. 13
February 21, 2019 08:00 - 27 minutes - 24.9 MBOn this episode, we’re covering topics of dealing with unsolicited advice from others, what to do when you’re someone who’s being “rude,” and body image issues. Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfckyourbrain.com/69
68. Regret + Glow Conference
February 14, 2019 12:00 - 23 minutes - 32.2 MBJoin me today as I break down the three elements of a regret thought pattern and share how you can start feeling better today by changing your thoughts. You don't have to change what happened in the past. You only need to change how you think about it. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfckyourbrain.com/68
UFYB 68: Regret + Glow Conference
February 14, 2019 08:00 - 24 minutes - 22.9 MBJoin me today as I break down the three elements of a regret thought pattern and share how you can start feeling better today by changing your thoughts. You don't have to change what happened in the past. You only need to change how you think about it. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfckyourbrain.com/68
67. The Struggle Bus (How to Deal with Negative Emotions)
February 07, 2019 12:00 - 20 minutes - 27.7 MBYou don't have to change your negative thoughts right away - it's okay to sit with them for a bit. I like to call this the Struggle Bus. You might be struggling with some negative emotion, but you're still moving forward. You're still showing up to do everything you need to do. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfckyourbrain.com/67
UFYB 67: The Struggle Bus (How to Deal with Negative Emotions)
February 07, 2019 08:00 - 18 minutes - 17.8 MBYou don't have to change your negative thoughts right away - it's okay to sit with them for a bit. I like to call this the Struggle Bus. You might be struggling with some negative emotion, but you're still moving forward. You're still showing up to do everything you need to do. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfckyourbrain.com/67
66. Listener Q & A Vol. 12
January 31, 2019 12:00 - 21 minutes - 29.4 MBOn this episode, we’re diving into topics like addressing things that are outside of our control, social anxiety and insecurities, meeting your own needs, the five love languages, applying thought work to physical pain, and more. Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfckyourbrain.com/66
UFYB 66: Listener Q & A Vol. 12
January 31, 2019 08:00 - 19 minutes - 18.9 MBOn this episode, we’re diving into topics like addressing things that are outside of our control, social anxiety and insecurities, meeting your own needs, the five love languages, applying thought work to physical pain, and more. Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfckyourbrain.com/66
65. Listener Q & A Vol. 11
January 24, 2019 12:00 - 23 minutes - 32 MBJoin me this week as I answer questions about what I think about antidepressants and other medications, dealing with Trump supporters, boundary violations, thought work around “toxic” family members, people pleasing, and more. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfckyourbrain.com/65
UFYB 65: Listener Q & A Vol. 11
January 24, 2019 08:00 - 21 minutes - 20.4 MBJoin me this week as I answer questions about what I think about antidepressants and other medications, dealing with Trump supporters, boundary violations, thought work around “toxic” family members, people pleasing, and more. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfckyourbrain.com/65
64. How to Believe Harder
January 17, 2019 12:00 - 18 minutes - 25.1 MBJoin me this week to learn how to believe new things harder. I share the three mistakes I see in thought work when people are not believing hard enough and how to get past them. Believing new things on purpose is work. It's going to feel like work. That's the good news. Because the good news is if it feels terrible sometimes, you're doing it right. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfckyourbrain.com/64