UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
811 episodes - English - Latest episode: 20 days ago - ★★★★★ - 4.5K ratingsUnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone breaks down the centuries of sexist socialization that causes us to struggle with self-doubt, burnout, and anxiety.
Hosted by Master Feminist Coach Kara Loewentheil, J.D., founder of The School of New Feminist Thought and author of Take Back Your Brain (Penguin 2024), each episode teaches you how to turn down the noise of societal expectations, turn up the volume on what YOU really want in life, and change your thinking to make sure you go get it.
This podcast is an essential resource for anyone eager to embrace a life free from limiting beliefs and societal constraints.
If you ever find yourself asking questions like…
*Why am I so anxious about stuff that isn’t a big deal?
*How can I stop overthinking everything?
*Am I selfish for wanting my life to look different?
*Will I ever feel comfortable in my body?
*Am I a bad parent?
*How can I ask for more money at work?
*Can I stop people-pleasing?
*How can my partner and I communicate better?
… then you won’t want to miss an episode.
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Episodes
UFYB 154: Ghost Patterns - Anxiety, Fixation & Survival
October 08, 2020 07:00 - 19 minutes - 18.9 MBIs your brain haunting you? Most of us experience ghosts of old anxious thought patterns even after we’ve used coaching to feel more confident and secure. In today’s episode, I’ll teach you why these sparks of anxiety are so persistent, and what you can do the next time you experience a “haunting.” Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/154
153. Copenhagen & Croissants
October 01, 2020 11:00 - 22 minutes - 30.7 MBYou would never go to a toy store for a gala dress, so why do you stay with someone who’s afraid of commitment, when you’re looking for a life partner? Why do you seek validation from a parent, when they’ve never once approved of your choices? In this episode, I’ll teach you how to stop seeking validation, love, and approval from people who will never give it to you - and how to give it to yourself, instead. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/153
UFYB 153: Copenhagen & Croissants
October 01, 2020 07:00 - 22 minutes - 20.9 MBYou would never go to a toy store for a gala dress, so why do you stay with someone who’s afraid of commitment, when you’re looking for a life partner? Why do you seek validation from a parent, when they’ve never once approved of your choices? In this episode, I’ll teach you how to stop seeking validation, love, and approval from people who will never give it to you - and how to give it to yourself, instead. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/153
152. Hope & Commitment
September 24, 2020 11:00 - 25 minutes - 34.5 MBAre you feeling hopeless, afraid, despondent, or angry at the recent passing of Ruth Bader Ginsburg? In today’s podcast, I will teach you how to take hopeful action even when you aren’t FEELING hopeful, by using the coaching model to generate feelings of commitment. Hope feels good when it happens to arrive, but commitment will create a revolution. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/152
UFYB 152: Hope & Commitment
September 24, 2020 07:00 - 23 minutes - 22 MBAre you feeling hopeless, afraid, despondent, or angry at the recent passing of Ruth Bader Ginsburg? In today’s podcast, I will teach you how to take hopeful action even when you aren’t FEELING hopeful, by using the coaching model to generate feelings of commitment. Hope feels good when it happens to arrive, but commitment will create a revolution. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/152
Your Body Image Breakthrough
September 22, 2020 07:00 - 1 minute - 4.47 MBWhen you don’t like the way you look, it can be hard to think about anything else. That’s why I’m teaching you my three best body image hacks in a free webinar this month. You don’t have to change your body in order to free yourself from critical thoughts, you just have to apply these tools to your life. I’ll teach you exactly how on Sept 24 at 3 p.m. ET - just text your email address to +1-347-997-1784 and use the code word “body” or visit unfuckyourbrain.com/body to register.
151. Maximalism
September 17, 2020 11:00 - 20 minutes - 28.3 MBDo you wish your life looked more like those minimalist Instagram homes full of light and clean lines and constraint? In today’s podcast episode, you will learn about the patriarchal underpinnings of minimalism and why I embrace MAXIMALISM instead. Tune in to get a taste of what life could look like if you stopped restricting yourself and gave yourself permission to be as colorful, loud, and abundant as you wanted. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/151
UFYB 151: Maximalism
September 17, 2020 07:00 - 18 minutes - 18.3 MBDo you wish your life looked more like those minimalist Instagram homes full of light and clean lines and constraint? In today’s podcast episode, you will learn about the patriarchal underpinnings of minimalism and why I embrace MAXIMALISM instead. Tune in to get a taste of what life could look like if you stopped restricting yourself and gave yourself permission to be as colorful, loud, and abundant as you wanted. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/...
150. Compromising: How and When
September 10, 2020 11:00 - 18 minutes - 25.1 MBWomen are socialized to compromise our needs and happiness behind the needs of family, friends, even strangers. At the same time, we’ve also experienced situations where compromise is helpful and growth-promoting. In this podcast episode, you will learn a few simple questions to ask yourself so that you will always know when to compromise and when to stand firm. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/150
UFYB 150: Compromising: How and When
September 10, 2020 07:00 - 16 minutes - 16.4 MBWomen are socialized to compromise our needs and happiness behind the needs of family, friends, even strangers. At the same time, we’ve also experienced situations where compromise is helpful and growth-promoting. In this podcast episode, you will learn a few simple questions to ask yourself so that you will always know when to compromise and when to stand firm. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/150
149. Diet Culture, Internalized Oppression, & Fat Bias - My Story
September 03, 2020 11:00 - 33 minutes - 46.3 MBMost of us are so steeped in fatphobia that we don’t even realize it exists…and yet it impacts every aspect of our lives, from what we think about our bodies to what our doctors tell us when we are sick. Listen in to learn how I used thought work to overcome my own internalized fatphobia, and how you can set yourself free, too. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/149
UFYB 149: Diet Culture, Internalized Oppression, & Fat Bias - My Story
September 03, 2020 07:00 - 32 minutes - 29.3 MBMost of us are so steeped in fatphobia that we don’t even realize it exists…and yet it impacts every aspect of our lives, from what we think about our bodies to what our doctors tell us when we are sick. Listen in to learn how I used thought work to overcome my own internalized fatphobia, and how you can set yourself free, too. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/149
148. Intuition
August 27, 2020 11:00 - 22 minutes - 30.4 MBListen in this week to discover why the framing of intuition as something you use to categorize an experience doesn’t serve you, how it gets confused with feelings of anxiety, and the role of cognitive bias here. You need to examine the assumption that you should act on something without question if it’s coming from your intuition, and I’m guiding you through this process today. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/148
UFYB 148: Intuition
August 27, 2020 07:00 - 20 minutes - 19.4 MBListen in this week to discover why the framing of intuition as something you use to categorize an experience doesn’t serve you, how it gets confused with feelings of anxiety, and the role of cognitive bias here. You need to examine the assumption that you should act on something without question if it’s coming from your intuition, and I’m guiding you through this process today. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/148
147. Listener Q&A Vol. 17
August 20, 2020 11:00 - 26 minutes - 36.2 MBListen in today to get a taste of what it’s like to join The Clutch where I coach every single week on topics like body image and thought work. I’m doing a listener Q&A to coach on some of the most frequent questions I get sent. If you’re loving what you’re learning here and want a chance to have your questions addressed, come join us there! Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/147
UFYB 147: Listener Q&A Vol. 17
August 20, 2020 07:00 - 24 minutes - 23.1 MBListen in today to get a taste of what it’s like to join The Clutch where I coach every single week on topics like body image and thought work. I’m doing a listener Q&A to coach on some of the most frequent questions I get sent. If you’re loving what you’re learning here and want a chance to have your questions addressed, come join us there! Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/147
146. Using TW Against Yourself
August 13, 2020 11:00 - 27 minutes - 38.4 MBListen in this week to discover if you might be using thought work against yourself. There are two main ways that I see this play out very commonly, and I’m showing you why using thought work within these contexts can sometimes bring you awareness, but ultimately they are longer paths to getting to that point. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/146
UFYB 146: Using TW Against Yourself
August 13, 2020 07:00 - 25 minutes - 24 MBListen in this week to discover if you might be using thought work against yourself. There are two main ways that I see this play out very commonly, and I’m showing you why using thought work within these contexts can sometimes bring you awareness, but ultimately they are longer paths to getting to that point. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/146
145. Mental Flexibility
August 06, 2020 11:00 - 21 minutes - 30 MBJoin me this week as I show you what mental flexibility is and why this skill is crucial in thought work. I’m outlining the irony that exists in resisting being challenged or in trying on a new contradictory thought, and why accepting, allowing, and holding space for two conflicting beliefs is what will help you move into alignment with the thing you want to become or have. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/145
UFYB 145: Mental Flexibility
August 06, 2020 07:00 - 19 minutes - 19.2 MBJoin me this week as I show you what mental flexibility is and why this skill is crucial in thought work. I’m outlining the irony that exists in resisting being challenged or in trying on a new contradictory thought, and why accepting, allowing, and holding space for two conflicting beliefs is what will help you move into alignment with the thing you want to become or have. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/145
144. Get Out of Other People's Models
July 30, 2020 11:00 - 17 minutes - 24 MBJoin me on the podcast today as I show you when it’s useful to think about other people’s models, when it’s not, and why. Making your mental and emotional state contingent upon what other people might be thinking, feeling, or doing is useless and a waste of energy, and my goal is to show you that you never have to know what someone else is thinking to decide what you are going to think. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/144
UFYB 144: Get Out of Other People's Models
July 30, 2020 07:00 - 15 minutes - 15.6 MBJoin me on the podcast today as I show you when it’s useful to think about other people’s models, when it’s not, and why. Making your mental and emotional state contingent upon what other people might be thinking, feeling, or doing is useless and a waste of energy, and my goal is to show you that you never have to know what someone else is thinking to decide what you are going to think. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/144
143. Radical Self-Love & Self-Care
July 23, 2020 11:00 - 24 minutes - 33.6 MBJoin me this week as I show you the power that lies in practicing radical self-love and exquisite self-care, why it is a radical subversive act, and how liberation from an oppressive ideology is an inside job. Radical self-love is where change has to start, and it’s a tool that will give you the emotional resources and mental freedom to transform your life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/143
UFYB 143: Radical Self-Love & Self-Care
July 23, 2020 07:00 - 23 minutes - 22.2 MBJoin me this week as I show you the power that lies in practicing radical self-love and exquisite self-care, why it is a radical subversive act, and how liberation from an oppressive ideology is an inside job. Radical self-love is where change has to start, and it’s a tool that will give you the emotional resources and mental freedom to transform your life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/143
142. Are You Underacting or Overacting?
July 16, 2020 11:00 - 29 minutes - 40.9 MBJoin me today as I share the nuances that come with being an overactor and an underactor, and the antidotes for each type of behavior. Both types are self-critical and often feel miserable about their goals, and I’ll be showing you how balanced action is the key to your own growth and appreciation for the journey, no matter what you may be working on. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/142
UFYB 142: Are You Underacting or Overacting?
July 16, 2020 07:00 - 27 minutes - 25.5 MBJoin me today as I share the nuances that come with being an overactor and an underactor, and the antidotes for each type of behavior. Both types are self-critical and often feel miserable about their goals, and I’ll be showing you how balanced action is the key to your own growth and appreciation for the journey, no matter what you may be working on. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/142
141. Closure
July 09, 2020 11:00 - 23 minutes - 32.1 MBJoin me today as I show you what true closure is and how to get it. I’m outlining two things that many people believe will bring them closure if they had it, why these things are just lies our brains feed us, and the only thing that is really in your way of being happy right now. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/141
UFYB 141: Closure
July 09, 2020 07:00 - 21 minutes - 20.4 MBJoin me today as I show you what true closure is and how to get it. I’m outlining two things that many people believe will bring them closure if they had it, why these things are just lies our brains feed us, and the only thing that is really in your way of being happy right now. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/141
140. Selling Yourself on Your Thoughts
July 02, 2020 11:00 - 22 minutes - 30.5 MBJoin me on the podcast today as I show you why you have to sell yourself and commit to watering, nurturing, and growing the new thoughts you’ve planted in your brain to make your visions and dreams come true. You’ll inevitably have mixed results along the way, but that’s just part of the process. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/140
UFYB 140: Selling Yourself on Your Thoughts
July 02, 2020 07:00 - 20 minutes - 19.4 MBJoin me on the podcast today as I show you why you have to sell yourself and commit to watering, nurturing, and growing the new thoughts you’ve planted in your brain to make your visions and dreams come true. You’ll inevitably have mixed results along the way, but that’s just part of the process. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/140
139. Let's Talk About Sex Vol. 2
June 25, 2020 11:00 - 16 minutes - 22.4 MBToday I'm showing you how thought work can be used in various scenarios to improve your sex life and your physical experience of sex. It’s not all biology, your thoughts have a huge impact on the sexual dynamic between you and your partner, and your experience of sex overall. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/139
UFYB 139: Let's Talk About Sex Vol. 2
June 25, 2020 07:00 - 14 minutes - 14.8 MBToday I'm showing you how thought work can be used in various scenarios to improve your sex life and your physical experience of sex. It’s not all biology, your thoughts have a huge impact on the sexual dynamic between you and your partner, and your experience of sex overall. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/139
How to Rock ANY Day
June 22, 2020 07:00 - 3 minutes - 5.63 MBMany of us are trying to work remotely, adapt to new safety guidelines, and participate in social change. With all that’s going on, it may seem difficult to get out of bed, let alone stay on top of everything. That’s why I’m teaching a simple four-step process that will help you feel calmer and more productive everyday. The free webinar is on June 26 10 a.m. ET - just text your email address to +1-347-997-1784 and use the code word “rock” or visit unfuckyourbrain.com/rockanyday to register.
138. Let's Talk About Sex Vol. 1
June 18, 2020 11:00 - 20 minutes - 27.7 MBListen in this week as I share a technique that I’ve found effective in connecting to your sexuality by embodying your own desire. This can feel uncomfortable and it may bring up strong emotions for you, and that’s totally okay and normal. The great thing about this work is that you can take it as slow as you want, without anyone else being involved. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/138
UFYB 138: Let's Talk About Sex Vol. 1
June 18, 2020 07:00 - 18 minutes - 18 MBListen in this week as I share a technique that I’ve found effective in connecting to your sexuality by embodying your own desire. This can feel uncomfortable and it may bring up strong emotions for you, and that’s totally okay and normal. The great thing about this work is that you can take it as slow as you want, without anyone else being involved. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/138
137. Defensiveness & Shame
June 11, 2020 18:18 - 23 minutes - 32.5 MBJoin me today as I show you what is actually happening when you feel defensive, and how shame feeds into this feeling and prevents you from consciously digging into your thoughts. Anxiety, shame, and defensiveness are signals for you to get curious, and cluing yourself in and asking the right questions will allow you to see where you might be out of alignment and make changes. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/137
UFYB 137: Defensiveness & Shame
June 11, 2020 14:18 - 20 minutes - 19.8 MBJoin me today as I show you what is actually happening when you feel defensive, and how shame feeds into this feeling and prevents you from consciously digging into your thoughts. Anxiety, shame, and defensiveness are signals for you to get curious, and cluing yourself in and asking the right questions will allow you to see where you might be out of alignment and make changes. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/137
The Role of Thought Work in Living with Racism: A Conversation with Erika Royal (UPDATED)
June 08, 2020 11:00 - 49 minutes - 46.9 MBJoin us today as Erika shares her experience of navigating racism and her own journey of finding her voice to speak up and have difficult conversations as a black woman. You’ll hear how learning the coaching tools has impacted her life, and she illustrates the nuances of how she uses thought work to process her experiences, allow her emotions, and take action. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/junebonus2
136. Anti-Racist Thought Work for White People
June 05, 2020 17:19 - 47 minutes - 65.1 MBListen in today to discover the most productive ways for you to be an ally and to make anti-racism a practice. I’m showing you how to use thought work to start questioning your belief systems. There is no one right way to do this, and creating guilt and shame for yourself never results in transformation. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/136
UFYB 136: Anti-Racist Thought Work for White People
June 05, 2020 13:19 - 44 minutes - 38.7 MBListen in today to discover the most productive ways for you to be an ally and to make anti-racism a practice. I’m showing you how to use thought work to start questioning your belief systems. There is no one right way to do this, and creating guilt and shame for yourself never results in transformation. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/136
TW & Anti-Racism Resources + Free Coaching Call
June 02, 2020 18:08 - 12 minutes - 17.7 MBWhat I think the role of thought work is in moments like this and how we can use it to process challenging times and create change in the world. I also address how white people can use thought work to get curious about our thoughts and to get honest about our own internalized racism. If you are a white person listening to this, I invite you to stay with me on this episode and to trust what I’m saying today so that it can be a tool for individual liberation and help us contribute to social c...
TW & Racism Resources + Free Coaching Call
June 02, 2020 14:08 - 12 minutes - 13.5 MBWhat I think the role of thought work is in moments like this and how we can use it to process challenging times and create change in the world. I also address how white people can use thought work to get curious about our thoughts and to get honest about our own internalized racism. If you are a white person listening to this, I invite you to stay with me on this episode and to trust what I’m saying today so that it can be a tool for individual liberation and help us contribute to social...
135. Embrace the Suck
May 28, 2020 11:00 - 23 minutes - 32.9 MBToday I'm sharing two big reasons why you need to embrace the suck. We’re going to experience it at least 50% of the time anyway, so why not accept that and move through the world knowing that it sometimes sucks to be a human? There is no perfect way to do this, and willing to stay present is a skill that will help you embrace the other 50% that is full of joy and happiness. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/135
UFYB 135: Embrace the Suck
May 28, 2020 07:00 - 22 minutes - 20.9 MBToday I'm sharing two big reasons why you need to embrace the suck. We’re going to experience it at least 50% of the time anyway, so why not accept that and move through the world knowing that it sometimes sucks to be a human? There is no perfect way to do this, and willing to stay present is a skill that will help you embrace the other 50% that is full of joy and happiness. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/135
134. A Year of Thought Work Vol. 3 - Money, Money, Money
May 21, 2020 11:00 - 50 minutes - 69.9 MBThis week, I want you to hear from some of my Clutch students who have used thought work to change their relationship with money. I love that they each bring a unique perspective on this topic, coming from various fields and industries, and every single of them has used what they’ve learned in The Clutch to create a more abundant financial mindset. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/134
UFYB 134: A Year of Thought Work Vol. 3 - Money, Money, Money
May 21, 2020 07:00 - 50 minutes - 43.6 MBThis week, I want you to hear from some of my Clutch students who have used thought work to change their relationship with money. I love that they each bring a unique perspective on this topic, coming from various fields and industries, and every single of them has used what they’ve learned in The Clutch to create a more abundant financial mindset. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/134
133. Your Financial Value & Worth
May 14, 2020 11:00 - 26 minutes - 36.3 MBThis week I illuminate the importance of this work in feeling secure in your moral value and worth, and why you, as a human, have inherent and intrinsic value just for existing. It’s no surprise that women tend to experience a lot of emotional drama when it comes to financial conversations or discussing their economic worth, and I’m untangling all of this on the podcast today. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/133.
UFYB 133: Your Financial Value & Worth
May 14, 2020 07:00 - 24 minutes - 22.9 MBThis week I illuminate the importance of this work in feeling secure in your moral value and worth, and why you, as a human, have inherent and intrinsic value just for existing. It’s no surprise that women tend to experience a lot of emotional drama when it comes to financial conversations or discussing their economic worth, and I’m untangling all of this on the podcast today. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/133.
132. Pleasure First Principle
May 07, 2020 11:00 - 19 minutes - 26.2 MBYou can experience pleasure whenever and however you want, without permission from anyone else. I’m diving into how women don’t spend time on things we truly love, and why we’re not encouraged to take real pleasure seriously. Taking the time to create and experience pleasure is the best thing you can do for yourself, and I’m showing you how today. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/132
UFYB 132: Pleasure First Principle
May 07, 2020 07:00 - 17 minutes - 17 MBYou can experience pleasure whenever and however you want, without permission from anyone else. I’m diving into how women don’t spend time on things we truly love, and why we’re not encouraged to take real pleasure seriously. Taking the time to create and experience pleasure is the best thing you can do for yourself, and I’m showing you how today. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/132