UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
811 episodes - English - Latest episode: 20 days ago - ★★★★★ - 4.5K ratingsUnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone breaks down the centuries of sexist socialization that causes us to struggle with self-doubt, burnout, and anxiety.
Hosted by Master Feminist Coach Kara Loewentheil, J.D., founder of The School of New Feminist Thought and author of Take Back Your Brain (Penguin 2024), each episode teaches you how to turn down the noise of societal expectations, turn up the volume on what YOU really want in life, and change your thinking to make sure you go get it.
This podcast is an essential resource for anyone eager to embrace a life free from limiting beliefs and societal constraints.
If you ever find yourself asking questions like…
*Why am I so anxious about stuff that isn’t a big deal?
*How can I stop overthinking everything?
*Am I selfish for wanting my life to look different?
*Will I ever feel comfortable in my body?
*Am I a bad parent?
*How can I ask for more money at work?
*Can I stop people-pleasing?
*How can my partner and I communicate better?
… then you won’t want to miss an episode.
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Episodes
UFYB 113: Listener Q&A: Goals, New Year Resolutions, Dating, Love & Sex
December 26, 2019 08:00 - 17 minutes - 17.2 MBI hope my answers are helpful in getting you into the new year with a well-managed mind to create all the results you want. I’m sharing my thoughts on unrequited love and whether it’s a problem, the basis of libido and sexual attraction, and how to ask better questions when it comes to creating anything that you want in your life. Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/113
112. Vulnerability & Intimacy
December 19, 2019 12:00 - 22 minutes - 31.5 MBJoin me this week as I break down how true vulnerability creates intimacy in your life, and how to practice it. The only person who can make you feel vulnerable is you, so I want you to take this work and think about how you might be inflicting your own emotional pain. Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/112
UFYB 112: Vulnerability & Intimacy
December 19, 2019 08:00 - 21 minutes - 20.2 MBJoin me this week as I break down how true vulnerability creates intimacy in your life, and how to practice it. The only person who can make you feel vulnerable is you, so I want you to take this work and think about how you might be inflicting your own emotional pain. Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/112
111. Listener Q&A - Work + Self-Regard
December 12, 2019 12:00 - 20 minutes - 28.2 MBI’m answering work and self-worth related questions today, and I’ve seen a link across almost all the questions I’ve received. You might think these questions don’t relate to your specific circumstance if it’s not something you’re dealing with, but I’m sure you’ll find a common thread in your own life when you listen to my answers. Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/111
UFYB 111: Listener Q&A - Work + Self-Regard
December 12, 2019 08:00 - 19 minutes - 18.7 MBI’m answering work and self-worth related questions today, and I’ve seen a link across almost all the questions I’ve received. You might think these questions don’t relate to your specific circumstance if it’s not something you’re dealing with, but I’m sure you’ll find a common thread in your own life when you listen to my answers. Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/111
110. Dating, Perfectionism & Anxious Attachment
December 05, 2019 12:00 - 25 minutes - 34.3 MBThis week, I’m taking a topic I’ve discussed on the podcast before a step further. Attachment theory is something you might believe in, or you might not, but I think it’s useful to discuss it to see how it’s affecting your relationships, especially in terms of your dating life. Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/110
UFYB 110: Dating, Perfectionism & Anxious Attachment
December 05, 2019 08:00 - 24 minutes - 22.8 MBThis week, I’m taking a topic I’ve discussed on the podcast before a step further. Attachment theory is something you might believe in, or you might not, but I think it’s useful to discuss it to see how it’s affecting your relationships, especially in terms of your dating life. Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/110
109. This Is the Part Where...
November 28, 2019 12:00 - 12 minutes - 17.5 MBListen in today as I bring you a short and sweet episode, but one that is so powerful in changing how you perceive your story and what might be going on for you right now. Using this thought whenever you’re struggling will help you see that you can handle any emotion and that nothing has gone wrong. Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/109
UFYB 109: This Is the Part Where...
November 28, 2019 08:00 - 12 minutes - 13.5 MBListen in today as I bring you a short and sweet episode, but one that is so powerful in changing how you perceive your story and what might be going on for you right now. Using this thought whenever you’re struggling will help you see that you can handle any emotion and that nothing has gone wrong. Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/109
108. When You Feel Triggered
November 21, 2019 12:00 - 29 minutes - 41 MBJoin me this week as I share the process I use when I feel triggered to grow and learn more about myself. I want this episode to act as a reminder that taking actions to move away from what feels bad isn’t a solution, and that there is so much missed opportunity when you do this. Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/108
UFYB 108: When You Feel Triggered
November 21, 2019 08:00 - 30 minutes - 27.4 MBJoin me this week as I share the process I use when I feel triggered to grow and learn more about myself. I want this episode to act as a reminder that taking actions to move away from what feels bad isn’t a solution, and that there is so much missed opportunity when you do this. Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/108
107. Dealing with Uncertainty
November 14, 2019 12:00 - 28 minutes - 38.5 MBListen in today as I give you a different perspective on the fear of uncertainty and how you can start to slowly let go of it. You don’t have to be terrified and let it stunt your growth. In fact, you can discover a whole new way of using thought work and stretch yourself in ways you never would have imagined. Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/107
UFYB 107: Dealing with Uncertainty
November 14, 2019 08:00 - 26 minutes - 24.2 MBListen in today as I give you a different perspective on the fear of uncertainty and how you can start to slowly let go of it. You don’t have to be terrified and let it stunt your growth. In fact, you can discover a whole new way of using thought work and stretch yourself in ways you never would have imagined. Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/107
106. Listener Q&A Vol. 16
November 07, 2019 12:00 - 24 minutes - 33.7 MBThe questions I've received over the past week were so interesting and thoughtful, and I’m excited to address these topics on the podcast today. They range from how thought work aligns with the concept of mindfulness, questions about coaching others and how I facilitate coaching sessions, to whether there is a right or wrong reason to practice thought work. Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/106
UFYB 106: Listener Q&A Vol. 16
November 07, 2019 08:00 - 24 minutes - 22.7 MBThe questions I've received over the past week were so interesting and thoughtful, and I’m excited to address these topics on the podcast today. They range from how thought work aligns with the concept of mindfulness, questions about coaching others and how I facilitate coaching sessions, to whether there is a right or wrong reason to practice thought work. Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/106
105. Listener Q&A Vol. 15
October 31, 2019 11:00 - 21 minutes - 29.3 MBThe topics I’m covering range from general questions on classic thought work issues to some more specific questions from life coaches that I think will be super helpful to all of you. From the importance of niches, the belief that external factors could make you happy, to letting go of your emotional childhood, I’ve got it all covered today. Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/105
UFYB 105: Listener Q&A Vol. 15
October 31, 2019 07:00 - 19 minutes - 19 MBThe topics I’m covering range from general questions on classic thought work issues to some more specific questions from life coaches that I think will be super helpful to all of you. From the importance of niches, the belief that external factors could make you happy, to letting go of your emotional childhood, I’ve got it all covered today. Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/105
104. Performance Anxiety
October 24, 2019 11:00 - 23 minutes - 32.3 MBIt can be absolutely crippling and produce more anxiety than necessary, especially when we preemptively think about how we’ll feel when we have to get out there and perform. So this week, I’m approaching this concept from a slightly different perspective to show you what it really is, how we often exacerbate this negative feeling, and how to start resolving it. Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/104
UFYB 104: Performance Anxiety
October 24, 2019 07:00 - 23 minutes - 22 MBIt can be absolutely crippling and produce more anxiety than necessary, especially when we preemptively think about how we’ll feel when we have to get out there and perform. So this week, I’m approaching this concept from a slightly different perspective to show you what it really is, how we often exacerbate this negative feeling, and how to start resolving it. Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/104
103. Abundance & Scarcity
October 17, 2019 11:00 - 31 minutes - 43.2 MBIf there are things you want to achieve in your life or business but you’re worried about the expense, or not having enough time, or whether it’ll all work perfectly the way you imagine, today’s episode is for you. I’m highlighting these thoughts that have been running in your mind day in and day out, to help you look at them, and decide if you want to keep them. Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/103
UFYB 103: Abundance & Scarcity
October 17, 2019 07:00 - 30 minutes - 27.6 MBIf there are things you want to achieve in your life or business but you’re worried about the expense, or not having enough time, or whether it’ll all work perfectly the way you imagine, today’s episode is for you. I’m highlighting these thoughts that have been running in your mind day in and day out, to help you look at them, and decide if you want to keep them. Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/103
102. Internal Bias & Being a Better Ally
October 10, 2019 11:00 - 29 minutes - 40.3 MBIn this episode, I’m outlining my beliefs on internalized biases. We all have them, whether we’re conscious of them or not, as we live in a society where people have explicitly or implicitly taught us certain biases. It can be difficult to accept the thoughts we deem to be wrong or ugly that we’ve internalized about ourselves or others, but rejecting them is far from useful. Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/102
UFYB 102: Internal Bias & Being a Better Ally
October 10, 2019 07:00 - 28 minutes - 25.9 MBIn this episode, I’m outlining my beliefs on internalized biases. We all have them, whether we’re conscious of them or not, as we live in a society where people have explicitly or implicitly taught us certain biases. It can be difficult to accept the thoughts we deem to be wrong or ugly that we’ve internalized about ourselves or others, but rejecting them is far from useful. Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/102
101. The Human Ecosystem
October 03, 2019 11:00 - 23 minutes - 32.6 MBThe human ecosystem is a concept that I developed early on in my own thought work journey when I was trying to change the behaviors I didn’t like in the people around me - especially my partner at the time - but keep the ones I did. Sound familiar? Today, I’m taking a deep dive into this concept to show you how it applies to anyone in your life, including yourself, or any circumstance you experience. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/101
UFYB 101: The Human Ecosystem
October 03, 2019 07:00 - 21 minutes - 20.5 MBThe human ecosystem is a concept that I developed early on in my own thought work journey when I was trying to change the behaviors I didn’t like in the people around me - especially my partner at the time - but keep the ones I did. Sound familiar? Today, I’m taking a deep dive into this concept to show you how it applies to anyone in your life, including yourself, or any circumstance you experience. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/101
100. The Infinite 1%
September 26, 2019 11:00 - 20 minutes - 28 MBJoin me this week to discover how the infinite 1% tool can shift your mindset completely. The difference between not doing anything and doing something 1% is huge so I hope you embrace it and start implementing this in your life because you will see some amazing transformations. Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/100
UFYB 100: The Infinite 1%
September 26, 2019 07:00 - 19 minutes - 18.5 MBJoin me this week to discover how the infinite 1% tool can shift your mindset completely. The difference between not doing anything and doing something 1% is huge so I hope you embrace it and start implementing this in your life because you will see some amazing transformations. Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/100
99. Fear and Safety
September 19, 2019 11:00 - 30 minutes - 41.7 MBJoin me this week as I break down the way we process the feelings of safety and danger. These feelings are no exception to thought work, and it’s something we need to work on to teach our lizard brains that our perception of our safety is our responsibility and can be managed. Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/99
UFYB 99: Fear and Safety
September 19, 2019 07:00 - 28 minutes - 26.2 MBJoin me this week as I break down the way we process the feelings of safety and danger. These feelings are no exception to thought work, and it’s something we need to work on to teach our lizard brains that our perception of our safety is our responsibility and can be managed. Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/99
98. Listener Q&A Vol. 14
September 12, 2019 11:00 - 23 minutes - 31.7 MBOn this episode, I’m covering some really common themes that I see a lot. If you’re working on your social anxiety, if you’re struggling in your relationships, or having anxiety-producing thoughts in the middle of the night, this one is for you. Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/98
UFYB 98: Listener Q&A Vol. 14
September 12, 2019 07:00 - 24 minutes - 23 MBOn this episode, I’m covering some really common themes that I see a lot. If you’re working on your social anxiety, if you’re struggling in your relationships, or having anxiety-producing thoughts in the middle of the night, this one is for you. Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/98
97. Unconscious Commitments
September 05, 2019 11:00 - 26 minutes - 36.2 MBDo you ever find yourself consciously committing to a new goal or habit and then failing at it? I think everyone can relate to, at some point or another, trying to do something new and it seemingly just not working out. This week, I’m introducing you to a concept I call unconscious commitments; understanding this is going to be life-changing in getting more clarity on why you sometimes have a hard time achieving your goals. Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfuckyourbra...
UFYB 97: Unconscious Commitments
September 05, 2019 07:00 - 25 minutes - 23.4 MBDo you ever find yourself consciously committing to a new goal or habit and then failing at it? I think everyone can relate to, at some point or another, trying to do something new and it seemingly just not working out. This week, I’m introducing you to a concept I call unconscious commitments; understanding this is going to be life-changing in getting more clarity on why you sometimes have a hard time achieving your goals. Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfuckyourbr...
96. Beginner’s Mind
August 29, 2019 11:00 - 20 minutes - 27.7 MBThis week, I’m introducing you to a concept I first learned in yoga – beginner’s mind. I’m all about growth and evolution, and as humans, we naturally want to advance in anything we do. With that in mind, I’m delving into why learning to cultivate the beginner’s mind is crucial to actually improving your skills and advancing in your abilities. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/96
UFYB 96: Beginner’s Mind
August 29, 2019 07:00 - 20 minutes - 19.4 MBThis week, I’m introducing you to a concept I first learned in yoga – beginner’s mind. I’m all about growth and evolution, and as humans, we naturally want to advance in anything we do. With that in mind, I’m delving into why learning to cultivate the beginner’s mind is crucial to actually improving your skills and advancing in your abilities. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/96
95. Aging Anxiety
August 22, 2019 11:00 - 36 minutes - 49.8 MBOn this episode, I'm diving into why some of us - mostly women - struggle with the reality of aging. I'm exploring all factors, from our cultural stories and stereotypes to the archetypes of women that play into our identities as we move through different stages of life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/95
UFYB 95: Aging Anxiety
August 22, 2019 07:00 - 36 minutes - 32.8 MBOn this episode, I'm diving into why some of us - mostly women - struggle with the reality of aging. I'm exploring all factors, from our cultural stories and stereotypes to the archetypes of women that play into our identities as we move through different stages of life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/95
94. Thought Avoidance
August 15, 2019 11:00 - 22 minutes - 30.9 MBWe're desperate to run away from old thoughts that make us feel bad, and I'm going to help you see if you're frantically trying to drive your brain in a new direction. Today, I'm showing you how you can give yourself a fighting chance to truly change your thoughts by squarely looking them in the eye. Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/94
UFYB 94: Thought Avoidance
August 15, 2019 07:00 - 22 minutes - 21.6 MBWe're desperate to run away from old thoughts that make us feel bad, and I'm going to help you see if you're frantically trying to drive your brain in a new direction. Today, I'm showing you how you can give yourself a fighting chance to truly change your thoughts by squarely looking them in the eye. Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/94
93. Problem-Addiction
August 08, 2019 11:00 - 25 minutes - 35 MBDiscover how you might be subconsciously sabotaging whatever problem you're facing. I'm sharing why this is actually normal and how you can start to solve it for good. Working through this is truly one of the keys to unlocking the possibilities of your own life. Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/93
UFYB 93: Problem-Addiction
August 08, 2019 07:00 - 23 minutes - 22.3 MBDiscover how you might be subconsciously sabotaging whatever problem you're facing. I'm sharing why this is actually normal and how you can start to solve it for good. Working through this is truly one of the keys to unlocking the possibilities of your own life, so come join us in The Clutch if you need more support on this topic! Get full show notes and more information here: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/93
92. Numbing + Compulsive Behavior Vol. 2
August 01, 2019 11:00 - 19 minutes - 26.1 MBI've got two tools that are seemingly straightforward in helping you break any of your ingrained numbing habits, but it's going to require lots of practice in order to use them to your advantage. Breaking habituated patterns takes effort because most of the time it's happening unconsciously, and it often makes us feel anxious when we act against our own will, which is why these tools are going to be challenging but life-changing. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuck...
UFYB 92: Numbing + Compulsive Behavior Vol. 2
August 01, 2019 07:00 - 18 minutes - 18.4 MBI've got two tools that are seemingly straightforward in helping you break any of your ingrained numbing habits, but it's going to require lots of practice in order to use them to your advantage. Breaking habituated patterns takes effort because most of the time it's happening unconsciously, and it often makes us feel anxious when we act against our own will, which is why these tools are going to be challenging but life-changing. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuc...
91. Numbing + Compulsive Behavior Vol. 1
July 25, 2019 11:00 - 25 minutes - 35.6 MBWorking on bringing awareness to compulsive behaviors means being able to enjoy these activities mindfully, without the end goal of numbing. I'm focusing on the distinction that exists, and why we feel the need to get a break from our feelings, which is totally normal. Stay tuned because next week, I'll be teaching you how to start changing these habits if you want to. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/91
UFYB 91: Numbing + Compulsive Behavior Vol. 1
July 25, 2019 07:00 - 24 minutes - 23.1 MBWorking on bringing awareness to compulsive behaviors means being able to enjoy these activities mindfully, without the end goal of numbing. I'm focusing on the distinction that exists, and why we feel the need to get a break from our feelings, which is totally normal. Stay tuned because next week, I'll be teaching you how to start changing these habits if you want to. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/91
90. Perfectionist Fantasies + Tomorrow Thinking
July 18, 2019 11:00 - 29 minutes - 40.2 MBThis week, I'm addressing perfectionist fantasies and tomorrow thinking. I'm discussing how they work, why we indulge in them, and the consequences of staying stuck in this cycle. If there is any area of your life you're working to better or achieve something in and it isn't working, I can guarantee that this is probably the reason why. I urge you to listen to this episode closely, a few times over if necessary, to stop making plans you know you won't keep. Get full show notes and more inf...
UFYB 90: Perfectionist Fantasies + Tomorrow Thinking
July 18, 2019 07:00 - 32 minutes - 29.6 MBThis week, I'm addressing perfectionist fantasies and tomorrow thinking. I'm discussing how they work, why we indulge in them, and the consequences of staying stuck in this cycle. If there is any area of your life you're working to better or achieve something in and it isn't working, I can guarantee that this is probably the reason why. I urge you to listen to this episode closely, a few times over if necessary, to stop making plans you know you won't keep. Get full show notes and more in...
89. How to Increase Your Productivity
July 11, 2019 11:00 - 21 minutes - 29.4 MBThis week, I'm helping you see why you're not getting as much done as you'd like and how to deal with the discomfort of having to actually practice focusing in your daily life. If productivity and multitasking are things that are holding you back, this episode is for you. It's not going to be easy, but try out my tips for focusing today and I can guarantee your life is going to be transformed. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/89
UFYB 89: How to Increase Your Productivity
July 11, 2019 07:00 - 20 minutes - 19.3 MBThis week, I'm helping you see why you're not getting as much done as you'd like and how to deal with the discomfort of having to actually practice focusing in your daily life. If productivity and multitasking are things that are holding you back, this episode is for you. It's not going to be easy, but try out my tips for focusing today and I can guarantee your life is going to be transformed. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/89
88. Complaining
July 04, 2019 11:00 - 15 minutes - 21.4 MBJoin me today as I give you a short and sweet episode on the behavior of complaining, and why it's so detrimental to you both physically and mentally. I challenge you to try out this diet and see if the results make a difference in your life! Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/88