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217: Aandraya A. revisits
April 19, 2023 08:04 - 1 hour - 55.5 MB🔸 Simple, but not easy. When parts try to do IFS. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Task master. Angry, intimidating. Tired. Adrenaline, vibrating through body, jumping out of skin Afraid of getting in trouble, moral judgement, thinks she's 8. Demanding mother, parent separating, chaos. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I could sense it, but didn't put words to it. I picture Derek Scott identifying "story teller", and finding other routes in, but I didn't have ...
216: Theresa A. - first call
April 17, 2023 08:49 - 1 hour - 63.9 MB🔸 Yearning for romance vs Stop trying. Eyerolling wants patience. We glimpse multiple exiles? *Theresa has ADHD, is into body-work and has listened to lots of LiveIFS 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): We had to stop listening to music, become an adult. No space or time for those emotions Despair Dramatic, hard to manage, enthusiasm is inconvenient Inconvenient child = too much 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Reminiscent of my convo with Bill Tierney. Isn't th...
215: Olivia A. revisits
April 15, 2023 08:12 - 1 hour - 92 MB🔸 "You can't handle what I have to say... Who are you to even do this?" The cringe, the doubt, the exile. Round 2. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): It didn't realize the 24/7 stuff was unfair "Can never do anything right" 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: The "do that with your therapist" comment is a reference to an unpublished part of the call, she mentioned doing some goal planning with her therapist. I was shaky, feeling that cringe detector standing too c...
214: Jo A. revisits
April 13, 2023 11:24 - 47 minutes - 43.6 MB🔸 “You’re too broken to live in this world” gets between Jo and her work with an exile. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Wizard of oz Dad gave him this job 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Sick again today! Brain not work good. I promise I’ll figure it out. (Update: March '23 - I figured it out!) ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating,...
213: Jo A. revisits
April 13, 2023 10:24 - 1 hour - 60.6 MB🔸 Jo forgot what part to check in with, I think that's new. An indication that we are onto something very important? We learn about the stepdad. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Buzz lightyear and the teen who fights him. ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itunes YouTube How to leave a review - iPhone
212: Jo A. revisits
April 13, 2023 09:24 - 53 minutes - 49.1 MB🔸 The part that plays dad! 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I don’t know why we didn’t find this sooner… Maybe we're missing something in the unblending process? I think finding this part is a big deal, and suspect it touches a lot of the others. Getting to know and healing it should have a big impact. However, the conversation is kind of rough. I am quite sick today and I need a nap. I think we are both having connection problems which is quite frustrating and hampers our ability to comm...
211: Jo A. revisits
April 13, 2023 08:23 - 54 minutes - 49.6 MB🔸 The comic-book villian, the wicked witch, the judge's judge, and a 3 year old gets a name. Jo had a list of parts, but we went to some new places instead. No bad parts. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I was determined to try new things today, spent an extra 20 mins prepping for this call. New things worked well. I need to listen back to this one. Also testing out a new way to make/retrieve notes. I want to have: 1. Notes about last call 2. ideas to try with specific caller 3. ideas ...
210: Jo A. revisits
April 13, 2023 07:23 - 54 minutes - 49.5 MB🔸 "It has to be 100%": judgmental / insistent on Jo having a particular meditation practice. Afraid if we don’t get it right the monster will come… Leads us to a sleeping baby. And here is Dick Schwartz on Tolle: https://youtu.be/pplRt2OA8N4?t=957 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Why Jo week? Because these calls are 6+ months old, and I also I felt I was not bringing the curiosity and compassion that she and this project deserve. These conversations aren't a good representation of my ...
209: Justine A. revisits
April 11, 2023 08:23 - 1 hour - 63.1 MB🔸 "Reveling in her fury", an unburdening. Seems we have (enough) trust from the sharp thinker, the cynic, the fear. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Exile: "I can't do it". Hopeless, resigned, aching, flat. Age 7-8 "Hard to grow up in my family. Had to stop caring, feeling, expecting." 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Didn't have the explicit permission from all protectors in this convo, but we had touched base with each of them repeatedly throughout others. Re:...
208: Mio A. revisits
April 09, 2023 08:19 - 1 hour - 72.5 MB🔸 Making space for the exile. Slow is fast. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): "Don't take it away from me, leave me empty" Needs space and to be seen. Afraid to share true wants, ferocity Almost invisible The black kettle. The bottom of the well. Believes she's not deserving, selfish, not wanted, ugly, untouchable. Suppressing hunger, wants. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: My language around witnessing, I could have been more directive. But exile wanted s...
208: Mio A. revisits (Wrong order, should go before 202)
April 09, 2023 08:19 - 1 hour - 72.5 MB🔸 Making space for the exile. Slow is fast. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): "Don't take it away from me, leave me empty" Needs space and to be seen. Afraid to share true wants, ferocity Almost invisible The black kettle. The bottom of the well. Believes she's not deserving, selfish, not wanted, ugly, untouchable. Suppressing hunger, wants. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: My language around witnessing, I could have been more directive. But exile wanted s...
207: Daniel A. revisits
April 07, 2023 09:08 - 1 hour - 57.9 MB🔸 As many parts, but now one at a time. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): The caretaker Self hate and anger “stand up for yourself” ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itunes YouTube How to leave a review - iPhone
206: Rosie A. revisits
April 05, 2023 09:08 - 25 minutes - 23.4 MB🔸 "I'm not ok with me". Rosie shares 2 techniques she's discovered for connecting with exiles. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: We planned to just chat today, maybe not do IFS. Only the "IFS" part of that conversation is being published. I think we both walked away with some disappointment or frustration about the rest of it, and I'm concerned that will interfere with our ability to work together. I'm sorry, Rosie. The lesson is one I keep having to learn: don't mix business and pleasure...
205: Olivia A. revisits
April 03, 2023 16:29 - 1 hour - 81 MB🔸 Productivity, distraction, the burden of being too much, a bullet in the heart. What is fun? What is love? Attention, listening, cringe, the feeling of invasion when a mother is "lovey". And Jerry. Also Olivia has been texting me to check in every day for about 15 days as of this writing. Something new! 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Testing the possibility of connection, hope, without suggesting the usual process of unburdening first felt edgy. Maybe, in a way, I wanted to evoke th...
204: Justine A. revisits
April 01, 2023 08:53 - 52 minutes - 48.5 MB🔸 The familiar knot in the solar-plexus, the binging firefighters, the skeptic "this is all made up, don't trust your intuition", the busy thinking mind, big and sharp, the fear of going too fast to the knot, the fear of the busy thinker, only a child after all, the caretaker (3rd person), guarded and nervous "you'll fuck it up", and overwhelm at the vastness of such a system. All sounds normal to me! *Use the link at bottom of show notes to find your ACE score! 🎓 What I'd like to do dif...
203: Rachel A. revisits
March 30, 2023 08:48 - 1 hour - 63.4 MB🔸 Begin again. A focused conversation, starting with targeting an exile "not good enough". 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Anger Afraid of being walked on, of "not good enough" of "not having a voice". Thinks Rachel is 12 Needs her to go slow, to be with it constantly (not wait till it's triggered), to hold its hand, and to listen to a lot more that it has to share. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: If I sounded impatient at end of call, it was more concern that...
202: Mio A. revisits
March 28, 2023 08:08 - 1 hour - 70.8 MB🔸 The caretaker and associates have been pushed to their limits. We finish what we started with that exile. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): The exile age 6 & 9 & 13 & 17... Torn between the longing to be taken care of, and the fear that if it falls into that softness, it will lose everything and be judged. Shame, pain, loneliness, desperation, fury, and being misunderstood 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I started with "any parts?" to gauge Mio's connection wit...
202: Mio A. revisits (Wrong order, should go after 208)
March 28, 2023 08:08 - 1 hour - 70.8 MB🔸 The caretaker and associates have been pushed to their limits. We finish what we started with that exile. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): The exile age 6 & 9 & 13 & 17... Torn between the longing to be taken care of, and the fear that if it falls into that softness, it will lose everything and be judged. Shame, pain, loneliness, desperation, fury, and being misunderstood 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I started with "any parts?" to gauge Mio's connection wit...
201: Daniel A. revisits
March 26, 2023 13:43 - 58 minutes - 53.8 MB🔸 Parts we may have bypassed: The caretaker, keeping other feelings from being overwhelmed. "When I allowed it to express it anger, it got much more honest" 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Sorry dear listener, I didn't mean fuck *you*, I meant fuck the *concept* that there is an audience to please. I was just trying to make a point to Daniel's "need to entertain" part, that catering to listeners detracts from catering to parts. Our work and safety come first. Calls aren't live-streamed....
200: Olivia A. revisits
March 23, 2023 21:00 - 1 hour - 61.8 MB🔸 Going direct with "Afraid he's right". We also talk grief, forgiveness, and accountability. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): The Un-deserver, a 14 y.o. moralist. "If you're guilty, you're the worst person ever. Accept it" Doubts IFS will help you feel better, and "feeling better" means excusing wrong. "I know I could have done more" and everyone dismissed that. The exile, feels like she's the worst. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I was at max freestyle today...
199: Justine A. revisits
March 10, 2023 16:50 - 54 minutes - 49.8 MB🔸 "...it's all made up" The Skeptic doesn't trust me, the process, or Justine. Justine takes the direct route, attains Hubble-vision. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): The skeptic, "No one can be trusted". Thinks she's 3. The exile: pain around the heart. The sea anemone, the nebula. Nestled in. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I was extra quiet, could have been more directive. I didn't want to tread on her direct experience. But instead of merely "talking more" I ...
198: Rachel A. revisits
March 07, 2023 08:41 - 1 hour - 71.6 MB🔸 Worthlessness parts came up as result of last call. We talk about our work together, and concerns about public Discord conversations, then attempt to go to it, but "beating myself up" keeps coming in. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): "Beating self up" Afraid she'll go along with others' decision, not take care of herself Thinks she's 12? Needs Rachel's presence, and for her to take care of herself 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I found the message Rachel was...
197: Mio A. revisits (J Edit)
March 06, 2023 05:00 - 1 hour - 175 MB🔸 "Everything being taken away" a 2 year old in a hurricane, whose wants haven't mattered. We discuss "agendas". 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Protector afraid "I would drop all my wants, if it doesn't do it's job, I wouldnt exist at all." Exile "afraid it will pretend it will go along", it just wants quiet moments. ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscri...
196: Olivia A. revisits (J Edit)
March 05, 2023 09:42 - 1 hour - 163 MB🔸 Possible ADHD diagnosis brings up "Not good enough" exile. "Blocking / fear of freaking out" and "Agenda" show up along the way. Strategies for solo parts work. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Agenda: concerned about blocking parts, won't be able to manage. And concerned about not getting results from this process. Blocking needs to know it will be respected, concerned contact with the exile will be too much, cause freak out, overwhelm of emotion (internally and ex...
195: Aandraya A. revisits (J Edit)
March 01, 2023 07:57 - 58 minutes - 133 MB🔸 A grownup protector-in-exile: "back to bed", sick-mentality. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): P: Superhero, formerly called Wonder Woman, wants to do all the tasks, minimize and forget the pain, "prove I'm ok" P/E: Go back to bed, not worth it. Too scary. Too much to do. Might still be sick. Nothing I do makes a difference. No help, no one understood. Couldn't take care of daughter. Rather be in community, and just relaxing. Thinks Aandraya is early 40s Needs fu...
194: Ian A. revisits
February 27, 2023 09:25 - 1 hour - 60.5 MB🔸 Salvation. The Devil. A sliver of light. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Doubt about getting into routine "Last is not an option". Spiritual healing The Devil. Keeps the 3 year old. Fear of "not knowing what to do" The 3 year old... ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itunes YouTube How to leave a review - iPhone...
193: Daniel A. revisits
February 25, 2023 09:23 - 1 hour - 66.5 MB🔸 "The truest essence" 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Anger and grief (one part) lead us to "tired of being judged", apprx 4 years old. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I was lagging behind, and a lot of what I said didn't come out right. Partly because fasting, brain at half power. There's also just a lot going on. For example, with exile we have the stressed out part along for the ride, a 10 year old joining in, the machine gun self-hate, and another part conc...
Pro: Islena Faircrest with Jo A.
February 21, 2023 06:15 - 1 hour - 67.1 MB🔸 Somatic therapist & yoga teacher since 2000, Islena Faircrest is an IFS & trauma informed transformational coach, serving clients globally via zoom. She facilitates the healing power of learning secure attachment in relationships, and aids individuals & families in their healing journey towards empowered living. A mother of two young adults, and former doula and prenatal educator, she's therapeutically guided folks of all ages for 23 years, taught Yoga teacher trainings, and retreats ...
192: Mio A. revisits
February 19, 2023 09:57 - 1 hour - 66.5 MB🔸 Feeling threatened by her daughter. Hopelessness, judgement, the 13 year old, and the parts she protects. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): 13 year old Afraid of becoming her mother, and pushing down these wants from younger times, perhaps exemplified by Mio's daughter at age 5 Rather be Laughing, hugging, twirling in a pretty dress, relaxing. Carefree! Thinks Mio is 45 (age when daughter was 5) Needs reassurance, twice/day checkins. 🎓 What I'd like to do differe...
191: Olivia A. - first call
February 18, 2023 13:37 - 1 hour - 50.9 MB🔸 Shaming, anxiety and plenty of others have objections to Olivia's excitement about IFS. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Shaming (manager), and Frustrated with Shaming Exile: "my needs, being myself, is too much for them" Caretaker Agenda "hurry up", change them Shaming thinks shes 11, needs Olivia to spend more time understanding. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: My first thought is "I'm talking too much". If you compared my approach with other calls, yes it...
190: Jo A. revisits
February 15, 2023 09:47 - 43 minutes - 40 MB🔸 Anxiety about the job that starts next week, but coming from a different part. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): 12 year old. Forced to be over achiever, fake it. Too many moves, too many hard classes and high expectations from dad. Afraid he’ll, they’ll point and laugh 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I didn't ignore either, but still wondering if we should focus more on check-ins, and if I should have been more directive, returning us to the 3 year old. ----- ...
189: Justine A. - first call
February 13, 2023 09:44 - 43 minutes - 40 MB🔸 The "thinking part" holds it all together, and points to an exile in utero. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Thinking part, always active Tightness head, face, eyes, jaw, brain Afraid nothing would get done, a nonfunctioning heap, and perhaps abandonment, loneliness Needs: Simple! Just "how are you?" every day 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Spotty internet connection was a challenge, otherwise I felt good about this one. (Again correlates with how good I fee...
188: Rachel A. revisits
February 11, 2023 09:42 - 1 hour - 56.5 MB🔸 A check-in check-in and the judge judge. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): The judge of others The judge of the judge 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Listening back a couple weeks later I hear the frustration in my tone. I might say "there's not a right or wrong answer" but my tone can imply that I think there is. I could hear those parts in her being triggered, but I felt like I needed to paint the picture. Perhaps it's the first time I've fully described the...
187: Aandraya A. revisits
February 09, 2023 09:36 - 49 minutes - 45.5 MB🔸 The pressure of going along with external, inconsistent beliefs. We pick up where we left off and find an exile (who protects another) to unburden. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): 17 - 21 year old, protecting the middle-schooler Chest and throat Feels horrible, alone, misunderstood, lost. Rather be skiing! Needs occasional check-in, to be reminded that she doesn't have to have it all figured out, and that there are lots of alternative viewpoints. 🎓 What I'd lik...
186: Ian A. revisits
February 07, 2023 09:20 - 37 minutes - 34.5 MB🔸 Addiction, survival, the animal in the zoo, conscious blending. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: We didn't set out to do IFS today so I didn't prepare in my usual ways. Ian just had his wisdom teeth removed yesterday is somewhat sedated. Not sure what I would have done differently, just making note. ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: I...
185: Jo A. revisits
February 05, 2023 09:10 - 53 minutes - 49 MB🔸 Concerns about a new job, that she won’t know what to do and will be shamed. A three-year-old who always has to know things (or pretend to) goes through an unburdening. ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itunes YouTube How to leave a review - iPhone 👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionairre
184: Daniel A. revisits
February 03, 2023 09:09 - 53 minutes - 48.5 MB🔸 Through a sandstorm we arrive with an exile*, murderous rage says it wants out, and we get creative in handling overwhelm. *I assume 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Running from danger, "We need to save me" protects/related to: Hopelessness "you'll get nowhere" and anger "you didn't want us so we don't want you". Suppression of rage. Anger toward parents. Anger toward parts that don't trust Self Idolizing parents. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I was just...
183: Rachel A. revisits
February 01, 2023 09:07 - 1 hour - 64.1 MB🔸 Still a part feeling left out. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Feeling rushed during unburdening is tough, but I take responsibility for it. To prevent in future: 1. spend less time chatting pre-session. 2. be more efficient / direct in targeting. As far as being efficient with exile, I think slow is fast. For example, notice we came to "the mother" last? Mother and Brother in one re-do! I'm sick again today. I need a plan B when I'm feeling sick. Perhaps developed with caller. Ra...
182: Brandon A. revisits
January 30, 2023 09:01 - 34 minutes - 31.5 MB🔸 Another lightning round. A Protector → Protector → Exile setup? The driven one, the void, and what lies beneath: a lot of pain. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): The Void Afraid if it doesn't do it's job, Brandon ceases to exist Rather be comfortable Needs Brandon to bridge the disconnect 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I've had some difficulty following Brandon in the past. He goes deep in awareness of feelings/sensations, and names them, but I'm a couple ste...
181: Mio A. - first call
January 28, 2023 08:56 - 1 hour - 64.7 MB🔸 "I'm getting a new friend!" Mio has done a little parts work with a therapist, but never like this. Powerful. She said later: "This session has gotten me to a new depth, it's actually so simple, and so essential. I have worked with and diaried about it, but I'vve never been able to unpack it." 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): To be loved without being abandoned 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: What do you think? Would we call that an exile or protector? We went...
180: Hanna A. revisits (J edit)
January 27, 2023 05:00 - 54 minutes - 12.6 MB🔸 Two teams battle over an exile who doesn't want to be alive. We go for it. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): The Director, action taker, and planning part The Resistance: "no action", "no planning", and "avoid, go outside" The exile: "Life is hard, there's no point", wants a new family 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I was eager to address the resistance parts, but she said she already had. Also I was considering the planning, director, etc. to be protectors, b...
179: Daniel A. revisits
January 26, 2023 07:57 - 1 hour - 68.6 MB🔸 A new record? 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): 1. Afraid of overwhelm 2. Fear of being misunderstood Exiles: Worthlessness, ashamed of free and open play, "I shouldn't exist" 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: There were a couple times where I made assumptions or could have listened more closely, to be even more efficient! Note: it may have sounded like I was merely encouraging fantasizing, but that was not my intention. I don't believe it's necessarily therap...
178: Rachel A. revisits
January 24, 2023 07:51 - 1 hour - 70.4 MB🔸 "Oh it's you, mommy" 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): The possessive part doesn't want to share (the attention) The 6-7 year old feels worthless 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I felt like I was on the edge of being too insistent, especially once the blocking part came up, but we did it! ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or com...
177: Ian A. revisits
January 22, 2023 07:49 - 1 hour - 56.2 MB🔸 Abstract! A manager/critic that can't go along with contentedness. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Toothy gear. Throat Rather be sippin juice Age 8, knows Ian's real age Needs supervision 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I enjoyed the convo. It was not typical, but I'm not sure what I would have done differently. Technical difficulties were distracting (internet went out at home) ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: ...
176: Aandraya A. revisits
January 20, 2023 07:48 - 57 minutes - 52.6 MB🔸 Parts-work hangovers, and meeting the critic. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Critic, maybe overlapping with Anger Upper body Afraid of being misled, also of feeling diminished, confused Rather be relaxing Thinks she's 14 Needs Aandraya to speak up 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I didn't call it a "figuring out part" in this convo, maybe I should have been more direct about that. We had just 20 minutes available to shift into exile work, so I decided agai...
175: Jo A. revisits
January 18, 2023 07:45 - 56 minutes - 52.1 MB🔸 “How many parts are there? When are we going to be done?” A protector wants Jo to just get over it. We spend half our time with him and the other half with the related exile, a fearful 4-year-old. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Exile: 4 year old, don’t let anybody in, even you. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I think Ive been studying IFS too much recently. Sometimes 8 potential responses form in my mind, I'm overwhelmed with options. I did try a couple new on...
174: Daniel A. revisits
January 16, 2023 08:25 - 1 hour - 70.9 MB🔸 Romance, Demons, invisible walls and black magic. Laughter, tears, revenge. Fear of rejection, worthlessness, overwhelm. Distrust of self. And a toddler. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I'm celebrating! I vowed to figure out whatever was causing a chronic ailment of mine, which had a major impact on my ability to access Self, and I think I succeeded. Today is day one. It would have persisted another 10 years if not for IFS. (Touched on with Pro Kerpelman.) I finalized the negotiations...
173: Rachel A. revisits
January 14, 2023 08:19 - 1 hour - 57 MB🔸 Rachel is happy! Is that a part? Is anyone getting left behind? ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itunes YouTube How to leave a review - iPhone 👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionairre
172: Frauke A. - first call
January 12, 2023 08:15 - 59 minutes - 54.3 MB🔸 Frauke is about to receive an award, but a part doesn't want it. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): In chest, hot Concerned about not being understood. Deeper concerns point to teenage part, pain of not belonging, not being enough. Rather relax Needs to be able to witness from a distance, and to find some authentic feedback. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I was surprised by the young part showing up, and with that level of emotion. Had this not been our first ...
171: Rosie A. revisits
January 10, 2023 11:25 - 56 minutes - 51.7 MB🔸 It's good. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): "Too much me, too much need." Badness. Yearning for heartfelt connection. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I think I pulled us off-track at least a couple times. Maybe I was having too much fun! ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itunes YouTube How to leave a review -...