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(Reupload for Spotify) 297: Bee A. revisits
October 31, 2023 19:36 - 1 hour - 58.4 MB🔸 Puzzle pieces: Sex, "Hurry", Dad 🔹 Parts: P: Walk fast, hurry, don't miss a thing. Bull in a china shop to get to healing. Pleasure: make it quick. Or you'll be hurt. P: Slow down, Afraid of exposure. Pushed, dragged, overlooked, judged. Just hear me. E: The hurt part(s) (*not contacted) 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Ah, that's why the pros use intake forms! Picked the wrong day to skip call-prep, I was scattered from the start. Sometimes I forget how much this all means to me,...
315: Mio A. revisits
October 30, 2023 08:00 - 1 hour - 91.9 MB🔸 Shame exile - part 3. A little thing for a little wound. 🔹 Parts: E: Shame grows out of the house, Mud stamps E: An open wound, waiting to be soothed, a soft collar. Not asking, not demanding. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: My tone was off. I can kinda forget my role when someone is working like this. My skeptical sounding questions were not intended to be "devil's advocate", but protector's advocate! Mio and exile didn’t need me facilitating their side of things, so I was keepi...
314: Theresa A. revisits
October 28, 2023 08:00 - 1 hour - 58.3 MB🔸 Time out; Keep going. 📌 Theresa followed up (a couple months later): I took all of that time off (along with some that COVID demanded) and every moment of it was absolutely necessary and now I feel so peaceful and spacious. Thank you for your contributions to my peace. 🔹 Parts: P: Take time off/out. Stop w the Input, deal with: P: intensity junkie /adhd hyperfocus! P: Fear of money stuff, The anxious waitress, needs a smoke break. Get your money *make your own decisions*. (that exile ...
313: Clare A. revisits
October 24, 2023 08:00 - 52 minutes - 48.3 MB🔸 Rose petals. Being a 12 year old with a baby. 🔹 Parts: 12 yo, neeeds time off and rose water. Baby, grey, too tightly wrapped, suffocating. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Well im glad I asked! (In that first minute when I could have not). It’s uncomfortable, often for me, cuz I don’t want to nag. But I'm getting over that; it’s too important not to do it, so it's better to say it with the wrong words than not at all. After rehoming baby, I was in a “quit while we’re ahead" mind...
312: ⏫️ Brandon A. revisits
October 23, 2023 08:00 - 1 hour - 88.7 MB1️⃣ Anger is caring *** 2️⃣ Death checking in... 🔹 Parts: 2️⃣ P: Slowing down P: Tenacity P: Not good enough 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: 1️⃣ We started late and ended early. Brandon's decisions. When we had our last call, I was feeling very hopeful, it sounded like we were having some more of a breakthrough, at least in the way we work together. He said, he wanted to get in more frequently, and I was looking forward helping him get to some of these more elusive parts. But Br...
311: Olivia A. revisits
October 22, 2023 11:00 - 1 hour - 78.4 MB🔸 LSD, "Dying is an option" & The Big Realization. 🔹 Parts: P: Gloom. Life is worthless, no point in continuing, constantly drowning P: Agenda part has stepped back! "Stop being so serious about IFS" P: Don't give me false hope that healing is possible 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: One of my first impulses (left unspoken) with un-deserver was “well, step back and let us try”. And that idea came up later. So part of me is thinking “we had the target, we had the MVSE (minimum viabl...
309: Charlotte A. revisits
October 16, 2023 08:00 - 1 hour - 77.1 MB🔸 Everyone needs a friend. 📌 J's dream here 🔹 Parts: Choking, dying, burning. Saint forgives all. Rage, red, tasmanian devil, sweating fire. Aligned with The olympian Afraid of the pathetic, complicit mother. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Not feeling well today. Multiple tech problems (before and during call) didn't help. ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, g...
310: ⏫️ Bee A. revisits
October 16, 2023 08:00 - 2 hours - 130 MB1️⃣ Take a nap, let me tie your shoes. And James solo. *** 2️⃣ Internal plate smashing w/ The Compassionate One. 🔹 Parts: 1️⃣ P: The cotton ball, fog, shut it down, take it nap, resembles my mother. "This is too much for you, lemme tie your shoes for you... You don’t know what you’re doing. You can’t even follow instructions. You’re not smart enough you’re not strong enough you are handicapped. If you try you’ll fail, disappointed." P: Will crush hope! Thinks im 9 or 10 Would rather pl...
308: Genie A. revisits
October 15, 2023 08:00 - 1 hour - 64.3 MB🔸 I'm in charge. Don't forget! Song: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FTQbiNvZqaY 📌Genie followed up: Had another vivid “house” dream last night. This time it was a real house where I used to live - all the others have always been made up houses. And this house where I used to live had been totally renovated by these other people that were living in it now. Knocked down walls, kitchen moved to the other side of the house, and the flat downstairs was actually livable! It was beautiful! I w...
307: Mio A. revisits
October 14, 2023 08:00 - 1 hour - 82.6 MB🔸 Shame exile - part 2: The magic house. 🔹 Parts: E: Baby E: Guilty one. Year older than: E: Shame. In garden, blue overalls. Hyper focused, looking out for danger. “Do you understand what it means to protect my shame?”"I don’t know how to play" P: Fixing part doesn’t want her to feel ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itunes YouTube ...
306: Theresa A. revisits
October 12, 2023 08:00 - 1 hour - 69.1 MB🔸 A different space. Receiving the rain. Songs: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wB9YIsKIEbA https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=298mC2COSJg 📌 Theresa followed up: That was such a cool adventure. I get it in a deeper way now that I'm not sure I can explain. I'm so impressed with my parts, and I'm learning that, while there are a lot of things that need to be healed in there, sometimes all you need to do is reconnect to the part and see its beauty and intelligence in full sun. (I know that's al...
305: Clare A. revisits
October 10, 2023 08:27 - 1 hour - 63.4 MB🔸 The rock, the rose, butterflies & sunshine. 🔹 Parts: P: The rock. Heaviness. Wants to let the rock heaviness go Needs my permission to let it go. Why? Butterflies. Thinks that I am 49, when I was considering divorce. E: 12yo. Twisted in knots, Dense, alone, tired. Wants to stretch, wants to be 12 but “doesn’t need to”. The other girls chit chat about boys, wearing pink… needs undemanding time. Protects: E: The baby, beautiful. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I had a sudden insigh...
304: ⏫️ Justine A. revisits
October 08, 2023 08:00 - 2 hours - 136 MB1️⃣ Revisiting a river in China. 2️⃣ Spacey or Spacious? "I don't ever know not thinking" 🔹 Parts: 1️⃣ P: The thinking part, it's a caretaker. Let’s not go in the body ever again. 20-21, moved out, traveled, alone, crying and looking for answers by the river. No relief from pain from: E: The hurt ones. grateful and relieved. Early abandonment, attachment. A nest, pillow, a teddy, a cat. 2️⃣ P Juggling, thinking, too busy. I can’t stop. Have to go round and round, cuz there’s no other...
303: Scott A. revisits
October 06, 2023 08:00 - 1 hour - 70.9 MB🔸 A haunted place, a ghost town. The hooks are in. 📌 Scott followed up: Was really interesting for me how things rapidly unfolded at the end as we were wrapping up. I was trying to engage that part at the door of a former friends house, at the time I was in college-- someone he felt let him down, didn't really love him. And he needed help and guidance desperately at that time. He thought that I was the exile. I knew because I felt all of this flood of exile energy, but I also showed him that...
302: Olivia A. revisits
October 04, 2023 08:00 - 1 hour - 62.3 MB🔸 Olivia & James cordially invite you to Relaxing Time! 🔹 Parts: Agenda part wants to be free Shaming: relaxing is all you ever do. This freedom isn’t deserved. Watch out, you’re gonna be weird in some way ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itunes YouTube How to leave a review - iPhone 👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionna...
301: Brandon A. revisits
October 02, 2023 04:00 - 33 minutes - 30.3 MB🔸 Lightning is so crackling & chaotic... let's call this a light-*beam* round. 🔹 Parts: E: I don’t matter P?: Fear that that’s true, fear of connecting. Dad left, grandpa died. Needs B to heal E and to sit with its emotions. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I think I did it already. I wish it was cognitive/mental/emotional, then I could tell you how. But it’s physical/energetic. Will you tune out if I say "chakra"? (Part of me: “I will!!”) I'm not saying we should throw out our books...
300: Genie A. revisits
September 30, 2023 08:00 - 1 hour - 75.5 MB🔸 0-1000: The Avalanche. And a house without secrets. 🔹 Parts: P: Distractors: "It's all in the past" Don't want to hear about any of those feelings from age 5, 15, 20, 30. Classroom of maniacs. P: The 24/7 manager, orange mesh. Keeps a growing list of all disturbances, because even one can bring on the big one (obliteration). P: The dark part, dense, like a black hole, event horizon. Can bring clouds to the park. Doesn’t care, it just is. Can make me disappear. 🎓 What I'd like to do d...
299: Mio A. revisits
September 28, 2023 08:00 - 1 hour - 72.8 MB🔸 Sitting quietly. "Not facts or stories, but feelings." 🔹 Parts: Enveloped in shame, zombied. A 7 year old in blue overalls. Needs Mio to let go of fixing, speed, tangible results; just witness, be there and not run away. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: When Im this quiet it’s not because I'm thinking “I should be quiet”, it’s not a “technique” I'm employing… usually I just have nothing to add. Of course there’s a part desperately searching: "Say something clever! What dots can I c...
298: Clare A. revisits
September 26, 2023 08:00 - 1 hour - 77.1 MB🔸 Live Live IFS! Out of control: A tsunami, prairie fire, & baby. “I just don’t see how that could possibly work”. 🔹 Parts: P: Heavy, Loyal, responsible. Protects the baby from: P: Skinny, Mad, wants to kick. Wants to dance! "Uncontrollable anger" Worried the child will unfold... Needs time, entertainment, and geographic space. Magic good, wildfire bad. E: The baby 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: We were both a little more nervous when starting, but the non-alcoholic beer was an e...
297: Bee A. revisits
September 24, 2023 12:35 - 1 hour - 58.4 MB🔸 Puzzle pieces: Sex, "Hurry", Dad 🔹 Parts: P: Walk fast, hurry, don't miss a thing. Bull in a china shop to get to healing. Pleasure: make it quick. Or you'll be hurt. P: Slow down, Afraid of exposure. Pushed, dragged, overlooked, judged. Just hear me. E: The hurt part(s) (*not contacted) 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Ah, that's why the pros use intake forms! Picked the wrong day to skip call-prep, I was scattered from the start. Sometimes I forget how much this all means to me,...
296: Charlotte A. revisits
September 22, 2023 08:00 - 1 hour - 65.3 MB🔸 Stay in the lines, you two 🔹 Parts: P : Get it done, the fighter pilot P: The teacher, her bosses, her students, her pension, her drinks… wants to be funny, likes to read, loves little student minds “tryin to unlock all of their potential, Afraid of getting in trouble, losing her books, being called oppressive/abusive, drinking herself into the ground, being laughed at. Needs an emotional grans E: Another kid in the class, super aggressive and lazy E: See last call 🎓 What I'd like t...
294: Scott A. revisits
September 20, 2023 09:00 - 1 hour - 77.6 MB🔸 The peacemaker(s) and the frustrated part(s). 📌New milestone: On our last call, my 363rd recording, I forgot to hit record. 363 in a row! See recap below "Do Differently" 📌 Scott followed up: Back on solo work today. Had a rough Sunday, triggering experience. Finally able to get some space because there was just so much noise in my system. But so interesting that I was able to put a critical part that was raging into a room, and the noise was instantly turned down. I listened but was st...
293: Justine A. revisits
September 18, 2023 08:00 - 1 hour - 72.8 MB🔸 Showstopper: Life & IFS — without Live IFS?? 🔹 Parts: Groundless, panic. Not sleeping. Not playing around. I don't have the answers, not good enough, not worthy. Desperate to be the one. Please see me. Life or death. Battered, cowering. You can't do this. Thinking, just keep thinking. Don't touch anything, you don't know what you're doing. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Justine requested we just talk about this, to not do a session. That's why I'm not going there. Throwing some ...
292: Olivia A. revisits
September 16, 2023 08:00 - 1 hour - 63.9 MB🔸 Can parts cause inflammation? Disapproval from on high: “I'm going to be found out, punished, I'm the one who’s wrong”. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I try to gather Self energy in preparation for every call, and today I felt 10/10. But when the call started, I quickly went from feeling courageous and clear to nearly spacing out. Afterward I tried diagnosing and realized: back pain in this posture. "Accessing Self-energy isn't a cognitive process I can put on a flashcard? Damn!",...
🎛️291: Genie A. revisits
September 14, 2023 05:00 - 1 hour - 80.4 MB🔸 Sitting with the part that gets annoyed with my mother! 🔹 Parts: P: Annoyed with mother, putting it all in storage, like a hoarder. Unsafe, unhealthy, threatening. P: "Thats ridiculous, grow up" P: "Don't go there, it will mean you're a bad person" P: "If you're a bad person... it's not worth it" P: "Mom is good. Don't negate her" 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I could probably move 2x speed especially in initial targeting, but we're having such fun! ----- 🗳 Send anonymous fe...
291: Genie A. revisits
September 14, 2023 05:00 - 1 hour - 80.4 MB🔸 Sitting with the part that gets annoyed with my mother! 🔹 Parts: P: Annoyed with mother, putting it all in storage, like a hoarder. Unsafe, unhealthy, threatening. P: "Thats ridiculous, grow up" P: "Don't go there, it will mean you're a bad person" P: "If you're a bad person... it's not worth it" P: "Mom is good. Don't negate her" 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I could probably move 2x speed especially in initial targeting, but we're having such fun! ----- 🗳 Send anonymous fe...
290: Mio A. revisits
September 12, 2023 08:00 - 1 hour - 68.6 MB🔸 "Am I evil?" Buried under layers of shame. Why so heavy handed? 🔹 Parts: Grandpa, mom, and me (Don’t kill her, shame her, and 7 yo zombie) 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: New record for me: least amount of talking? Why explain, when her parts can? I also avoided connecting the mom (and grandpa) images to this protector. 1. Because maybe it didn’t quite fit 2. Not entice the story-teller, dot-connector. ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Dis...
289: Clare A. revisits
September 10, 2023 13:53 - 1 hour - 68.7 MB🔸 The tallest tree; grounded. 📌 Clare followed up: Still have “my girls” (the first one with the tools and the second one from the box) with me. We are making our way across the prairie together… They are super sweet and having a great time And the song by Mei-lan: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H_U5jiW3YFw 🔹 Parts: P: The leader, grounded, on the path. Grounding rod. Picking up where I wasn’t able to P: The train puller. Frustration with: E: The Weaker one cant move. "Leave me alone...
288: Bee A. revisits
September 08, 2023 04:00 - 1 hour - 59.3 MB🔸 "You're handicapped and that's ok." It replaced my mother. 🔹 Parts: Pull to go. Frustrated with: Don’t go there. Let me tie your shoes for you. The weakness detector. Rather be celebrating, and pointing out *real* weaknesses in a gentler way. Exile, 14, overwhelmed by disappointment “you’re not college material” 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: That may have been a good session, but I was kinda out of it. Reduced curiosity, more explanatory. I track how I feel when I wake up every ...
287: Brandon A. revisits
September 06, 2023 08:00 - 1 hour - 56.4 MB🔸 Conquering fear. To be or not to be (Self) 🔹 Parts: 7 to 10 year old, incapable, not enough Early teens, distraction, addiction P: give up. You can’t parent them, you’ll just make it worse confirming you’re incapable. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Do differently… with or without hindsight? Yes I'm taking shots in the dark, maybe I'm railroading. That’s what it (a part of me at least) feels like: I can’t keep up when I follow, so I need to quickly lay down track, to get ahead of...
286: Theresa A. revisits
September 04, 2023 08:00 - 57 minutes - 52.4 MB🔸 The limit; driving over. 📌 Theresa followed up: been feeling more connected, curious, playful in my massage practice the last few days, even with an injury I managed to sustain the same day we laid Miss N. Dependent down for her nap. 😄 AND! Ever since this conversation, I have not “gone over the limit” on massages, which was something I had been trying to do for years, failing miserably until we met her. Editor's note: that' 3 months! 🔹 Parts: P: Tired of so much massage therapy, conc...
285: Jovan A. revisits
September 02, 2023 04:00 - 1 hour - 60.4 MB🔸 “This isn’t what life is supposed to be like” 🔹 Parts: 6yo. Never want to grow up. Terrified, confused, depressed. Isolated, infinitely trapped. Not looking forward to Marriage, dating, working… stay in room. Wants fun. Wants a stable peaceful environment. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I started on the wrong foot. I think Jovan has been no-notice late or absent to our last 3 scheduled meetings, and my frustration there is extra sticky because it’s directed inward, around my calend...
284: Scott A. revisits
August 31, 2023 04:00 - 1 hour - 78.8 MB🔸 A perfect day for nervous. Don't feel joy, don't feel good, or then you'll talk and get in trouble. 🔹 Parts: Focus on one thing, the purest, vs. Dabble Critical brother Nervous makes me look bad, Has the mic, Look cool Nervous w sessions, Never felt welcome, Nervous about being on call w james E: Preschool, kindergarten being squeezed, ground down Bad experience w discipline, huge group of kids Sour milk He was a talker, talk in class, have to stay in his room all night, give ...
283: Justine A. revisits
August 29, 2023 08:00 - 1 hour - 79.2 MB🔸 Round 2: A way out. You are fear, and I am here. 🔹 Parts: It hurts so much that she doesn't matter enough. 14 yo doesn't want to be a parent 4 yo Don't look at me! 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I usually schedule zero interaction w humans on my lowest/grumpiest day (day 2 of fasting), but I was certain we wouldn't get this wrong. At times it might have sounded that way, I wasn't clear, added to the confusion/concerns about the redo-ing process. And who doesn't have wary parts, f...
282: Olivia A. revisits
August 27, 2023 08:00 - 1 hour - 79.5 MB🔸 A clearer view ... a sense of hope ... things are better than they’ve been, but … 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Maybe I should have quit while we were ahead. But I don't have much of a protocol or policy to do so. Maybe that's because I haven't compiled the data showing that after about an hour, my body starts to ache, I gotta pee, I'm late for dinner, and those things do affect my presence. On the other hand, we were in such a magical place, I didn't want to be the one to end it. A...
281: Charlotte A. revisits
August 25, 2023 08:00 - 1 hour - 75 MB🔸 Touch or drown; a statue worn down by unwanted touch. Self is the water, Self is the lifeguard. 🔹 Parts: P: The school teacher, manager of the fury, 70yo, "Be tough, not prissy, you're fine", rather be doing big thinking, creating a language program, in a nice office. P: The judge of the school teacher "She's repressive" Ps: Fears of the furious exile: "She's a sociopath/school shooter", "I'm scared of her", "I'm not good enough to understand and help her" E: 6,7 Strapped in school ...
280: Genie A. revisits
August 23, 2023 06:59 - 50 minutes - 58.7 MB🔸 I am the host now! Testing Mother Bear energy. 📌Genie followed up: https://liveifs.com/2023/06/23/genies-blanket/ Hi James, Well that was an interesting experience LOL. Thanks for hanging in there. I hope the only problem the thunderstorm caused was your internet dropping out. I hung out with the little one for quite a while. She was happy to look around - but not to leave me. She stayed on my lap underneath the blanket, and kept checking back to look at my face to make sure I was stil...
279: Mio A. revisits
August 21, 2023 08:00 - 1 hour - 64.9 MB🔸 Guilt & Shock. What is the connection between "Dont stop me" & Shame? 🔹 Parts: Don’t stop me needs: not to be stopped or rationalized, Not to be judged, for Mio to go slowly, don’t pretend to take on more than she can, to keep other protectors out of the exile work. peace, acceptance, compassion, trust, love, space, and recognition for itself, and the one it protects. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I went off script today. This protector sounded rather exiley, given how we stumbled...
278: Clare A. revisits
August 19, 2023 08:00 - 57 minutes - 52.2 MB🔸 "We used to feed ducks at the pond, when I was little" 🔹 Parts: The 14yo: Independent, but wishes she knew things, had more tools, about life, talking to people, trusting people. What self worth means and how to apply it. Her toolbox is limited. The 7,8yo: Loves the ducks, Be good, don't get in trouble, don't get shoes dirty. Been here too long. Wants her mom. (Not sure which one. Both?): Wants to hold hands, have an opportunity to ask "what makes the leaves turn brown", rebuild what ...
277: Bee A. - first call
August 17, 2023 08:00 - 1 hour - 56.1 MB🔸 “You’re gonna believe, and you’re gonna be alone” Muzzling the dreamer. 🔹 Parts: E: Dreamer has a broken heart. Armored, heavy, disconnected. Wants to imagine something better. Flood of water. Age 14, 15 P: "Dreamer is dangerous!" The hope detector/squasher, the bad guy. Wringing her hands. Her scroll: times she kept us alive. (Murder, suicide, divorce, illness). P: “It’s ok just have a little sugar” You don't have to be so strict! 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Sometimes I bre...
276: Justine A. revisits
August 15, 2023 08:00 - 1 hour - 65 MB🔸 “Im here with and for her, she’s not alone anymore” Justine can do it! 🔹 Parts: “I don’t know how to do this” The good girl, Do it right, be a good podcast participant. Lonely cold painful, didn't think anyone would ever come. 13-14 "asked mom if I could go to therapist..." ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itunes YouTube How to leav...
275: Theresa A. revisits
August 13, 2023 08:00 - 1 hour - 57.5 MB🔸 My little demon child. Making it right when parts-work goes wrong. 🔹 Parts: E: The 7 year old (aged throughout unburdening). Mom gave away cat, “I am capable of anger”. P: Image protector. keep the bows in your hair, admit you love your mom, and don’t let them think you’re a demon child. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Exile's message was “I am capable of anger”, and what she wanted wasn’t simply to burn the house down, but to have that capability granted/respected. Re: what I sai...
274: Olivia A. revisits
August 11, 2023 08:30 - 1 hour - 58.4 MB🔸 Making time to grieve. Can love save the day? 🔹 Parts: The un-deserver "Accept the facts: you could have done more, you didn't, so you're the worst". Afraid of overwhelm from grief, afraid of being uncaring, and of moving on. The manager "Dont accept it: you couldn't have done more. If you accept you could have prevented it, you'll never be able to get over the loss". (So, also afraid of overwhelm from grief?) E: I'm not enough, I don't deserve good things ----- 🗳 Send anonymous fee...
273: Jo A. revisits
August 09, 2023 08:00 - 1 hour - 63.3 MB🔸 Laughter, tears, & good news! We both bring something new today. 🔹 Parts: P: stay busy! The boy controlling robots E: world is too cruel, helpless, I'm responsible. age: 4 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I think I did a lot of things better today, inspired by Bill Tierney. There’s some thing about how he organizes his thoughts and the work, methodical but not constrained. He's directive, but neither commanding nor or reserved about it, whereas I often feel like I’m on edge, gambli...
272: Scott A. revisits
August 07, 2023 08:00 - 1 hour - 56.4 MB🔸 "A warmth in my heart" for "lights-out, don't go there." 📌 Scott followed up: Thanks for the session once again. I feel like you're having to work pretty hard sometimes in our sessions to keep me on track. But I really appreciate your trying to keep me focussed. Its been a little intense for me sometimes. Tonight got me a little off guard though. I was riding high from that session on Monday, and thinking, OK what's next?! I got a little dose of humility though, and for the better. Humilit...
271: Brandon A. revisits
August 05, 2023 08:30 - 46 minutes - 42.7 MB🔸 "A sense of awe" Another speed run. 🔹 Parts: P: The Dreamer/Planner (fear of boredom and alone) P: The Consumer/Addict (fear of boredom and alone) P: The parent yelling "youre weak" (fights Consumer) E: The ~6yo. Alone a lot as a child. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Incredible what we can accomplish in 40 minutes, especially considering 10 of those are in silence. I feel like I'm finding that middle way I referenced in our last call. We meet every ~2 months or more. That coul...
270: Charlotte A. - first call
August 03, 2023 08:00 - 1 hour - 64.7 MB🔸 "What kind of mother...?" Humiliated and betrayed: a mother in exile. Charlotte has been playing with IFS for over a decade, and is a frequent listener, but this is her first session with a practitioner. 🔹 Parts: E: the mother: worried, abandoned, betrayed, robbed, confused, hurt, desperate, deprived, dispairing. (And guilty acknowledging any upside). Seen as a loser by: P: You have shit to do! No time to cry. Self improvement, gym, dating. P: Nihilist. Death in life better than deat...
269: Genie A. revisits
August 01, 2023 08:00 - 1 hour - 70.9 MB🔸 Wonderland, a family story, and the part they left out. 🔹 Parts: P: Concern. Smooths the path, keeps from tripping up, stumbling around. Always scanning the environment internal and external. Rather be floating, doing barrel rolls. Thinks Genie is: E: Impulsive, oblivious little kid. Age ~5. Intimidated and feeling awful. ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating,...
268: Mio A. revisits
July 30, 2023 08:00 - 1 hour - 60.4 MB🔸 "How dare you!" Continuing our last convo, we encounter the Rage in Red. 🔹 Parts: P1,2: The Tranquilizer and Pushing away P3: The guilt pushes down the rage P: Rage, "Something is being violated, what is happening is not right, how dare you!" Afraid, without it, I would have become a zombie, or insane, or suicided. Wants to be: Seen, Heard, To express its wants and get a reasonable reaction, Not to be violated, Not to feel guilty, Respect. Need a way to express, and needs the Guil...
267: Clare A. revisits
July 28, 2023 09:00 - 55 minutes - 50.8 MB🔸 “There’s something coming”. Meandering, parts meet Self. 🔹 Parts: P: The steel core, intellectual, the stopper (but also saying don’t stop there?). The bridge, "don’t collapse, don’t be weak." Needs a moat. ? The can stomper P: The lookout, thinks she’s 12 E: The 12 year old 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I was kinda lost, drifting, through a lot of this convo. My questions weren’t very pointed or clarifying, and it felt like a “first timer” convo. But I assume that's fine, to...