EQ Gangster

#241: Highest Ranking Air Force NCO on Leadership & EQ, Former Diamond 1, Manny Pineiro.

#240: High EQ for Unhealthy Reasons, Habit & Behavior Audit to Come From Healthy Place

This episode is sponsored by LimaCharlie Network. Visit https://www.limacharlienetwork.com/ to connect with other amazing Active Duty Military & Prior Service Podcasters & Influencers.    In this episode I share a couple insights from a recent Coaching client w/very high Emotional Intelligence scores.    How emotionally intelligent are you?    Where did you develop your EQ from?    When did you start your EQ journey?   Why did you start working on your emotional growth?  ...

#239: How Do You Manage Your Energy Levels With Flatter CEO Brittany Chiang

If you’re ready to take your emotional growth to the next level, join the EQ Mafia at https://www.eqgangster.com/.

#238: Are You a People Pleaser Addict or Do You Know One?

This episode is sponsored by the EQ Mafia, a safe, supportive, encouraging, empowering emotional fitness community committed to helping each other grow & heal to maximize our gifts & bring our best to the world. Visit eqgangster.com for more details.   In this episode, I discuss the characteristics and consequences of being a people-pleaser addict for 4 decades.   I also share some of the blessings & benefits of finally being on the other side of my people-pleasing addiction.    ...

#237: How To Manage Your Valleys By Men's Group Founder, Sean Gallan

What a tremendous guy with an amazing story!    Surfer, International DJ, Entertainment & Tech CEO to crippling illness that left him bedridden for years back to a successful entrepreneur & founder of the tremendously valuable resource for men called Mens Groups.   Here are some of the questions we discussed about his journey:   What was the pivot point for you that led him to start taking ownership of his emotional growth?   How did you transform your identity from successfu...

#236: Maximizing & Optimizing the Valley Funk (Part II)

Check out Episode 234 for Part 1 of discussing / addressing the valley.   In Brazilian Jiu Jitsu, I’m very comfortable in very uncomfortable positions. Why can’t I have that same mindset w/my emotions?    All things related to life’s valleys & funks.    Why am I so keen to run away from my valleys rather than lean into them?    How do you maximize your valleys?    How intentional are you at learning from your valleys?    How can you be more intentional at learning fro...

#235: How Did Your Childhood Affect Your Adulthood With Superhero & Lovable Leader, Jeff Gibbard

Wow, such an engaging interview w/Jeff! Can’t wait for you all to hear his skinny! Here are some of the questions we discuss:   How did your childhood contribute to where you’re at today?    What issues do you feel your parents had that affected / impacted you?    How did you become emotionally intelligent?    How can 1 develop that ability to begin questioning ourselves & challenging ourselves?    How did you take ownership of your emotional health?    How can one ge...

#234: EQ Exercise That Helped Me Get Out Of A Short Funk (In-The-Valley Exercise)

If you’re ready to take your emotional growth to the next level, join the EQ Mafia at https://www.eqgangster.com/.

#233: How To Improve Your Overall Wellbeing With West Point Grad, Helicopter Pilot & Executive Wellness Coach, Traci Fisher

How would you rate your overall well being?    How would you define your overall well being?    What factors contribute to your well being?    In this fun interview, Traci shares her process for ensuring one creates the best, most effective well being possible through her proven, time-tested tools.   She puts a fun spin on “Wellness” & “Being” & talks about her principle of “Wellbeingness”.    She shares about discovering, designing, & daring.    She also discusses a ...

#232: How Are Your Boundaries Serving You? How To Do A Boundaires Audit.

  This episode is sponsored by ClassicalConversations.com.   How aware are you of your (personal & professional) boundaries?    How are your Boundaries serving you?    How effective are your Boundaries?    This episode is all about analyzing & evaluating your Boundaries to see if you might be due for a Boundaries overhaul.    Be sure to check out:  Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend https://www.christianbook.com/boundaries-when-take-control-your-life...

#231: How Is Your EQ Affecting Your Relationship With Food? Conversation With Hannah & Ciara (Food, Freedom Confidence Fb Group Founders)

We discuss each of our respective stories created around food and how those stories impacted our lives.    Hannah & Ciara share how to change those potentially unhealthy stories to create a healthier more productive relationship w/food.   Where do your stories around food come from?    How are they serving you?    Hannah & Ciara share some great tips & advice on how to begin creating healthier relationships around food.    Food Freedom Confidence Fb:  https://www.facebo...

#230: The (Healing) Power of Validating & Affirming Others. How To Increase Your Ability to Connect With Others (EQ Mafia Sneak Peak)

This episode is sponsored by the EQ Mafia. If you’d like to join a safe, supportive, equipping community of like-minded leaders that are all working on our emotional fitness, check out the EQ Mafia. Visit eqgangster.com for more details.   One of the best ways to connect more effectively & more deeply with others is to validate & affirm their emotions.    How often do you validate & affirm others emotions?    Why don’t you do it more often?    When is the last time you felt s...

#229: What Does Your Emotional Fitness Program Look Like? Air Force Veteran, Former Cop, Successful Entrepreneur, Dom Faussette

Such a great conversation w/a very successful entrepreneur, speaker, executive coach, author & Air Force Veteran, Dom Faussette!    Be prepared for a very real, eye-opening conversation that is akin to verbal smelling salts.    He shares some relatable, convicting stories of how he went from being suicidal to sucessful entrepreneur.    He also shares some very somber, convicting stories from when he was a Police Officer & some of the lessons he learned from growing up in the hood. ...

#228: I Almost Did Irreparable Damage To My Family. You Can Behave Differently Than How You Feel. You Are Not Your Emotions.

This episode is sponsored by Lima Charlie Network. Visit limacharlienetwork.com for more details.   Whew, this story still nearly sends shivers down my spine when I reflect back on this moment in my past.   I’m so incredibly thankful to be on the other side of this story.   Emotions make terrible masters.    How in control are you of your emotions? How about when you get frustrated, upset or angry?    If you’re ready to take your emotional growth to the next level, join the...

#227: Toxic Cultures & EQ With Work Culture Consultant, Brittinay Lenhart

Have you ever been blinded by your loyalty to a toxic leader or toxic leadership environment?    Have you ever seen others blinded by their own loyalty even at the expense of how they’re getting treated by the toxic leader?    How did it feel to watch others get mistreated as a result of their own loyalty to the leader or the organization?    How is culture impacted by the EQ of leaders?   Work Culture Consultant, Brittinay Lenhart, shares some great thoughts from her own exp...

#226: What Is the Balance & Relationship Between Resilience and EQ? The Ranger Creed & A Question from a Retired Ranger Command Sergeant Major, Dale Roberts

This episode is sponsored by the EQ Mafia.    What do you think the relationship between Resilience & EQ is?  What does the Army Ranger Creed have to do w/resilience or EQ?    Can you be resilient w/out having a high EQ?    Can you have a high EQ w/out being resilient?    In this episode I explore some of those questions.     If you’re ready to take your emotional growth to the next level, join the EQ Mafia at https://www.eqgangster.com/.

225: What Is The Relationship Between EQ & Strengths With StrengthsFinder Certified Coach, Marta Haut

Have you ever thought about how your emotional intelligence impacts or “interacts” with your Strengths?    How does operating in your Strengths impact/affect your energy levels?    What is your recovery time when operating in your Strengths vs when you’re not operating in your Strengths?   If you’re not emotionally intelligent, your Strengths can actually be weaknesses.   Learning how to utilize your Strengths is an excellent way to increase your Self-Awareness, a critical co...

#224: Do You Have a Partner or Colleague With a Low EQ. How Do You Handle It? - 13 Lessons

#223: From Enlisted Soldier to West Point to a Psychiatrist to Successful Entrepreneur, Dr. Chuck Weber Shares Excellent Mental Health Insights (EXPLICIT)

Dr. Weber started growing his emotional intelligence at 8 y/o playing a game w/his friends.   We also discussed some of the following questions:  How important is mentorship & coaching in one’s EQ growth journey?   How does EQ impact effective coaching & mentorship relationships?    What are some common defense mechanisms?    Where does denial come from?   Where does our sense of self come from?   What have you learned about people?    How do we look for the good in...

#222: 20 Lessons on Emotions to Encourage & Empower You

This episode is sponsored by LimaCharlieNetwork.com.   Here are some great insights I’ve discovered on my own emotional growth journey and learning from my leadership coaching clients’ emotional growth journey’s:    Here is the first 10 lessons. The final 10 lessons are on the podcast / YouTube episode.   1.) You are not your emotions.   2.) Your emotions are real.   3.) Your emotions are data / information.   4.) Your emotions are not who you are.   5.) When feelin...

#221: Ep 221  From Colombia to U.S. Navy to Overcoming Toxic Male Leadership to Owner/CEO, Jean Payne Shares Her Amazing Journey

This episode is sponsored by LimaCharlieNetwork.com.    Jean shares how her father sent her to the U.S. from Colombia when she was just 15 years old.    She was in 4 different high schools & then joined the Navy.   She encountered some toxic male leadership in Corporate America & finally said “enough is enough” when she started her own company.   She shares her operating principles as a CEO and how she ensures a culture of safety, value & respect.   She openly shares her ...

#220: The Impact of Emotions On Our Cognitive Thinking (Magic Mind)

This episode is exclusively sponsored by Magic Mind! Visit http://magicmind.co/noble for more details! Enter ​​”noble20” for a 20% off your purchase of the world’s first productivity beverage!   I share some interesting insights that Dr. Mark Mayfield shared with the EQ Mafia tonight.    What is the cognitive impact of our emotions?    How is our thinking, productivity, and quality of our decisions impacted by our emotions?    What is the impact of the quantum energy of our emo...

#219: White House Intern, Harvard Law Grad, Corporate Attorney, Julian, The Importance of Mental Health

Julian shares his fascinating story about how he crushed every academic endeavor he pursued from UC Berkeley, to New York University to Harvard Law School and even into being a successful corporate attorney…he then found himself wrapped up in consistent & overwhelming anxiety. He ended up quitting cold turkey as an attorney to seek how he could get mentally & emotionally healthier.    What questions are you asking yourself about your mental & emotional health?    How frequently do yo...

#218: The Emotional Rollercoaster of Kids Growing Up (Spring Canyon, Buena Vista CO)

This is an episode I’d recommend checking out on YouTube because of my backdrop in Buena Vista, CO!    Whew, this was a rough weekend for me due to the emotions hitting me hard about our teenage daughter growing up so quickly.   In this episode, I share what I did to help me calm down emotionally from all those big emotions and also some thoughts on parenting & boundaries as our children get older.   If you would like to check out the events at Spring Canyon Conference Center, vi...

#217: 217 How This Young Entrepreneur Views Society, Success & Therapy

How many of you were living your dream life at 25 years old?    O’licia is living her best life & NOT keeping up with the Joneses.    O’licia shares some amazing insights as a young 25 y/o entrepreneur & podcast host about how she protects herself from society and manages to still march to the beat of her own drum.   She also has an amazing testimony about her therapy experience.   Diaries of High Achievers Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-diaries-of-high-...

#216: How Do Emotions Impact Our Learning? And A Funny Ranger School Story.

This episode is sponsored by Filter It Through a Brain Cell podcast. For more info, visit https://www.filteritthroughabraincell.com/.    I kick off this episode with a funny Winter Ranger School story during the Mountain Phase. It was a humorous interaction with one of my Ranger Instructors.   How tuned in are you to learning?    What’s the relationship between EQ & learning?    How intentional are you at learning?  What leadership insights have you learned?    What hav...

#215: Interview with Author Alex Gil On Dealing With Anxiety, Productive Coping Mechanisms & Eudaimonia

This episode is sponsored by the EQ Mafia. If you’re ready to take your emotional growth to the next level, join the EQ Mafia at eqgangster.com. We discuss some great points that Alex covers in his book, “Identity”. See below for his book details.   Here are some of the topics we discuss:  Eudaimonia Trauma Emotional regulation ideas Brazilian Jiu Jitsu Emotional reframing techniques Gratitude journaling   I definitely recommend his book!   If you’re ready to take y...

#214: The Struggling EQ Millionaire With EQ Leadership Stats

This episode is sponsored by Filter It Through a Braincell podcast. Visit filteritthroughabraincell.com for more info & to learn how to think critically!   This is a story of how a young “successful” millionaire is destroying his business by having a low EQ.    You cannot outrun a low EQ.   A low EQ will catch up w/you.   How will your EQ and/or your partner’s EQ impact anything you attempt to do together…whether it’s business, a joint venture, a project, a military mission or ...

#213: So You Wanna Be An EQ Coach, Life Coach, Counselor or Therapist? Here’s Something To Consider.

This episode is sponsored by ​​https://www.limacharlienetwork.com/.   I discuss some things to consider if you are interested in becoming some type of Coach or Therapist.   Why are you interested in something like that?    What value would you bring to your clients?    Who would your target audience be?   There is a massive disclaimer that I would love to encourage / challenge you with if this is a career field you’re wanting to pursue.   And it’s so worth it!   I...

#212: Recovering People Pleaser, Jahmaal Marshall, Shares His Journey From Challenging Childhood to LinkedIn Influencer & Impacter

Jahmaal’s father struggled with drugs & alcohol.    How did your childhood affect you…not only as a child, but also as an adult?    Have you processed the emotional injuries you received during your childhood?   Your childhood IS impacting you…are you aware of it?   Jahmaal shares some powerful insights that he learned from his challenging childhood.   Some of his connections gave me insight into my own childhood & people-pleasing addiction.   Books: When People Are B...

#211:How Do You Recharge? What Impact Does Recharging Have In Your Life?

#210: Does First Time Obedience in Parenting Lead to People Pleasing?

This episode is sponsored by Lima Charlie Network. Learn more at LimaCharlieNetwork.com.   Does first time obedience in parenting lead to people-pleasing in children?   Does first time obedience prevent a child from having free will & independence?    What leads to people-pleasing? How can we be more intentional at validating & affirming others’ emotions–our spouse, children, co-workers & teams?   What do you think is the relationship between first-time parenting & emotiona...

#209: How Might Self-Sabotage or Imposter Syndrome Impact Your Blessings?

Has self-sabotage ever impacted your decisions or blessings?   Do you feel worthy?    Tremendous blessings…how do you handle them?    Are you freely able to accept all that God & life have for you?

#208: Korn Ferry Executive Talent Consultant,  West Point & Harvard Business School Grad, Kate Shattuck

Such a fun interview!    Some amazing life lessons from when her purse was stolen.    How she maximizes failure.   The role EQ plays in finding Executive talent.    If you’re ready to take your emotional growth to the next level, join our EQ Mafia at https://www.eqgangster.com/.

#207: How Emotionally Available & Present Are You For Your Family, Friends & Colleagues?

A brief discussion about my wins & failures of 2021 & how I thought about them as a former people-pleaser addict.   My failures in 2021:  https://www.facebook.com/noble.gibbens/posts/10158974881152968   My wins in 2021: https://www.facebook.com/noble.gibbens/posts/10158958955912968   The McKinsey & Company article I discuss about how women managers are more emotionally available & supportive in 5 different areas than their male manager counterparts: https://www.mckinsey.com/...

#205: Lessons Learned While At a Speaking Engagement at Camp of the Woods in NY

I share some of my lessons learned while in Speculator, NY at Camp of the Woods for a speaking engagement.    We spoke on the impact of emotional intelligence on relationships & personality.   There was even a triggering experience that barely registered on my radar. It would have normally sent me through the roof.    So thankful for the emotional fitness journey God has had me on.   If you’re looking for a fun camp for your family or your children, definitely check out the b...

#204: Do You Know When To Shut Up & Start Asking Questions? Are You Sure? 

Are you aware when your passion can overtake your self & social awareness?    How did it make you feel when you ran into a very passionate person who didn’t know when to shut up & stop talking?    How does it make you feel when you’re in conversation with someone who never asks you any questions?    How often do you interrupt others in conversation–family, friends & co-workers?   How does it feel when someone interrupts you?   If you’re ready to take your emotional growth...

#203: Start Your New Year Off With Emotionally Healthy Goals & EQ Fitness Plan, Go A.P.E.D.!

This episode is sponsored by ReachUp magazine! You can find out more about this non-profit, ReachUp at https://reachupmag.org/.    A humorous Brazilian Jiu Jitsu story leads us into a discussion about our effectiveness w/goal setting & how we can become even more effective at goal setting in 2022.    I encourage you all to start a consistent, healthy emotional fitness program that I call Go A.P.E.D., in 2022.   If you’re ready to take your emotional growth to the next level, join...

#202: What’s Your Emotional Intelligence Inventory of 2021?

This episode is sponsored by LimaCharlieNetwork.com, an amazing team of active duty & military veteran podcasters! Check out more info at https://www.limacharlienetwork.com/.   Get ready! This episode has a lot of great, questions to use during your After Action Review (AAR) of this past year.    Reflecting on the questions in this episode will help you gather insights & lessons learned from 2021 & begin 2022 with a great emotional awareness & maybe even game plan on how to make 2022...

#201: My Dad Died 13 Years Ago On This Day & I Still Miss Him

Whew, this was an emotional episode for me.    I share my thoughts on the importance of grieving & mourning loved ones and a few practical steps on how to grieve & mourn in a healthy productive way.   There are also a handful of challenging questions to reflect on about your own emotional availability for those closest to you when they’re going through difficult times.    Also a thought on what you want your family legacy to be.   If you’re ready to take your emotional growth...

#200: 2 Years In Review. Interviewed By My Wife on 200 Episodes. 

Kathy asked me some really interesting questions that were great to reflect on over the past 200 episodes.   I’d love to hear how some of you would answer some of these questions, too!    Sign up for our New Year Emotional Intelligence 5-Day Challenge, too! Link is below.    If you’re ready to take your emotional growth to the next level, join our EQ Mafia at https://www.eqgangster.com/.

#199: Are You As Teachable As You Think You Are? How Is Your Degree of Teachability Impacting You?

What’s the goal of emotional intelligence?   How teachable do you think you are?    How does your level of teachableness impact your performance?    Two components in the EQi Assessment that make the EQ assessment unique: the Decision Making Composite & the Stress Management Composite. The EQ sub-element, Reality Testing, is in the Decision Making component.    How accurate is your Reality Testing? How is your Reality Testing impacting or even possibly negatively impacting yo...

#197: 2 Massive Breakthroughs (Boundaries/Cutting People Off & Learning)

Two conversations led to two massive breakthroughs that have eluded me for at least 4 years.    One breakthrough came from a podcast interview I did w/@amythelifecoach where she helped uncover why I have a tendency to cut people out of my life if they violate one of my boundaries.   The other breakthrough came via a conversation w/my wife who helped me understand what has been hindering my learning capacity.    How good are you at discovering the origin story of your emotions & b...

#196: Your Family Genogram, How Is Your Family of Origin Impacting You Personally & Professionally

Have you ever done a Genogram before?    This episode shares a phenomenal exercise to better understand some of the reasons of why you do what you do.    A “genogram” is a family “map”.  It’s a great visual way to better understand your family history and how your family history may be impacting your leadership & your personal & professional behaviors that may not be healthy or productive for you anymore.   I learned this exercise from Peter & Geri Scazzero in their One Day Emo...

#195: West Point Grad & Business Mgr On Relationships, Ed Stover

d Stover is a West Point grad, Class of 1996 & played on the Army football team that went 4 - 0 against the Naval Academy. He’s a successful business manager and is absolutely amazing at relationships. He shares some excellent insights about maintaining important relationships.   Be your authentic, genuine self.   Invest in relationships.   Be relationally curious.   Put yourself in other people's shoes.   Let people know you’re thinking of them.   Ed Stover (LinkedIn...

#194:Huge Childhood Epiphany on Current Behavior, My High Independence

This episode shares a recent insight into one of my childhood emotional origin stories around my strong desire for Independence.    Independence is one of the 15 elements of Emotional Intelligence.   My Independence score on my EQi Assessment was very high, but I never understood why.   To begin healing an area in your life, even if it is a “good area” (like strong independence), discovering the origin story of that area is critical.   If you’re ready to take your emotional g...

#193: Mindfulness, Hugs & the Power of Words With Author & Voice Actor, Rob Actis

Rob Actis is the author of the #1 bestselling book The Law of Action. A lifelong go-getter, action taker and serial entrepreneur, Rob used the Law of Action to achieve his lifelong dream of speaking on TV, radio, and, to become a successful audiobook narrator of over 30 titles available on Audible.com.   He shares his journey where he discovered his purpose & passion very early on in life & he pursued it relentlessly while encountering numerous challenges & difficulties. His daughter alm...

#192: Flatter Leadership Company Chairman & USMC(R) on the Intersection Between EQ & Leadership

Courage is the foundation of leadership.   Where does courage come from?   Where does drive or charisma come from?    Is leadership a function of nature or nurture?   If you’re not uncomfortable, you’re not growing.   I’m a life long-learner.   As a life-long learner, I’m always a novice.   How have you gotten comfortable in leadership?   Leadership continuum: Technical component Cognitive component Emotional component    Do I want to engage in Emoti...

#191: Lessons & Reminders From My 25 Year West Point Reunion (Part 3)

Some relationships will produce a return & some won’t & that’s ok. Invest in relationships anyway.    Does your time budget reflect the value you say you put on relationships?    Be sure to establish healthy boundaries in both your personal & professional relationships. The consequences can be minuscule or catastrophic.    Don’t underestimate or overlook the value of relationships.    Healthy relationships come from emotionally healthy individuals.    It takes emotional I...

#190: Lessons & Reminders From My 25 Year West Point Reunion (Part 2)

It is exciting learning about & discovering people.    Active listening (w/your whole body) is rare.    Every person you meet is an opportunity to grow, learn & sharpen your listening skills (&, therefore, empathy).    Every conversation is an opportunity to make someone feel important, seen, heard & valued with intentional, active, curious listening.    How am I structuring my life to match my core values?    We’re not wealthy but I’m so thankful we’re Billionaires regar...