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#414: What Is The Relationship Between Creativity & Negativity?

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#413: Are You Avoiding Or Processing Your Emotions?

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#412: How Can You Facilitate Reflection To Increase Awareness?

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#411: Relationship Between Authenticity, Insecurities, Trust & Being Fake in Relationships

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#410 What Are We Attached To?

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#409: Where Does Your Desire For Control Come From?

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#408: Down With Other Peoples' Pain (OPP. Empathetic Leadership.

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#407: Comfort Or Character? Energy & Emotion Management (Snow Day Episode)

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#406: How Do You Discover Your Passion With Author & Entrepreneur, Brian Ellwood

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#405: The False Self vs The True Self. Army Apache Pilot & VetPCS Owner, Jason Anderson

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#404: Amy The Life Coach Stumps The Chump

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#403: Completely Emotionally Hijacked & Overwhelmed - Real Story & Analogy.

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#402: There Are No Good Or Bad Emotions.

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#401: How Good Are You At Putting Yourself In Someone Else's Shoes? Empathetic Leadership.

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#400: Are You Overwhelmed? Are You Emotionally Constipated?

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#399: 3 EQ Mafia Lessons - About Leadership & The Internal & External Environments (an Exercise)

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#398: 3 of Noble's Dysfunctions As Examples of How To Coach Someone Through Their Dysfunctions.

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#397: 3 EQ Lessons From The BJJ Mats - From A Marine Corps First Sergeant.

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#396: What Is Your Definition Of Friendship & Relationship? Story From My Business Cult Days.

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#395: How Good of a Learner Are You? What Is The Relationship Between EQ & Being Coachable?

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#394: Helpful Advice For Major Life Transitions From Conversation With Special Forces Soldier

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#393: Interview With Author & Master Coach, Marion Franklin

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#392: 3 Coaching Insights From Author & Worldclass Master Coach, Marion Franklin.mp4

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#391: Huge Insight From Jordan Peterson On The Impact Of Our Environments

Boom! This one is fire.    Jordan Peterson was sharing this insight w/Joe Rogan on the role, nature & effect of different environments on our psyches, mindsets & motivations.    I’ve done multiple episodes on the power of different environments on our lives.    What environments bring the best out of you?  Mountains Beaches Cities Wooden chairs Comfy chairs Bright rooms Dark rooms Suit & tie Dresses Shorts Sweats   Jordan P. took it to another level. He ...

#390: How Do You Assess the Emotional State of Someone?

Why is this question relevant?    There are a number of relevant scenarios for this question:  Parenting Leadership Coaching Developing teams Navigating conflict Maximizing a team or individual’s momentum   If the emotional state of someone is not considered, it could affect their ability to receive whatever guidance or leadership you’re attempting to impart.    How aware are you of others’ emotional states?  How do their emotional states affect your leadership effe...

#389: I Completely Wasted A Client's Time Or Did I?

Real client story of a client telling me at the end of our coaching session he learned absolutely nothing. He got nothing out of it.    I was taken aback b/c I’ve never heard that before in the 25 years I’ve been coaching leaders.   Professionally he’s fairly dialed in, but personally he definitely has some room for improvement.    In his EQi2.0 assessment, it was clear he’s lacking the EQ element of Impulse Control.    My line of questions was specifically exploring some ref...

#388: Homeschool High School Senior Talks Mental & Emotional Health Tools, Hall Matthews

Great conversation with a high school senior about how his mother intentionally taught him tools to be as mentally & emotionally healthy as possible.   Some topics we discussed: When & how his mother began teaching / training him about EQ. Are we putting in emotional “rocks” into our loved ones backpacks or are we helping take out emotional “rocks” from their backpacks?  The emotional safety / support system of his family EQ tools he learned in high school The impact learning th...

#387: What If You Don't Fit In? With Modern Badass Author, Parissa Behnia.

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#386: Air Force NCO Shares His Toxic Gaslighting Story, HeroFront Podcaster, Josh White

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#385: Relationship Between Sales & EQ With Donald Kelly AKA The Sales Evangelist.

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#384: The EQ Differences Among Generations.

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#383: 5 Ways to Navigate Your Next Emotional Valley.

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#382: Competition & Self-Worth. Another Lesson From BJJ

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#381: How Self-Awareness & Coachability Led To A Massive Client Breakthrough.

#380: Questions To Assess Your Leadership. How Well Do You Lead Yourself?

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#379: 3 Lessons Learned From Another Failure At Home_1

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#378: Your EQ IS Affecting Your Personal & Professional Lives Whether You Realize It Or Not.

#377: 3 Leadership Lessons Learned From Jacob, Former NCO In the 82nd Airborne Division

ust had a great “Discovery Lunch” w/Jacob! It had been 15 - 20 years since the last time we spoke!    Jacob & I served in the same military unit at Ft. Bragg in the 82nd Airborne Division many years ago.   He was an amazing leader back then & it was so encouraging & inspiring to hear how successful he still is in his current company.   Their organization is having some unique challenges. They’ve doubled or tripled since he joined the team 8 years ago. They have the same systems &...

#376: Do You Hold On To Issues Or Do You Process Them? A BJJ Story

Had a conversation outside the BJJ gym after class & spoke to one of the gym members there. They were crying & very emotional. A couple folks walked by. It’s helpful to learn what to say to someone when they’re struggling or emotional. Most don’t do a good job w/that. I definitely didn’t in my pre-EQ days.   The question that was asked to me was “How do you know if you’re just digging up stuff from the past or you’re actually processing & working through something?” Excellent question!  ...

#375: What Has Led To The Most Growth In Your Life?

Tonight was the 2nd day I rolled w/Josh, a 24 y/o Psychology major in college in his 5th week of Brazilian Jiu Jitsu.    He shared an impactful story w/me after our 2nd roll tonight in class.    What has created or lead to the most growth in your life?    What are some of the lessons you learned from those specific times in your life?    How often & intentionally do you pursue deliberate discomfort?    What’s 1 thing you could start doing to slowly introduce more intentional dis...

#374: The Power & Gift of Hospitality With Billy & Beth & How They Impacted Me.

I spent a weekend w/an amazing family a month back that left an amazing impression on me.    Billy & Beth have the gift of hospitality. They picked up that gift / superpower from their parents and grandparents.    I share some of my lessons learned from spending a weekend w/both parents & their awesome kids.    Here are some of the questions that came up for me:    How do you make others feel when they’re around you?    What emotions do others feel when they leave your prese...

#373: The Power of Self-Awareness & Discovering the Emotional Origin Story From a Real Client

Many leaders aren’t as self-aware as they think they are. That has been my experience in working with & conducting psychometric EQ assessments w/many leaders over the past few years.    This particular leader is very self-aware & made some connections in his own life & family of origin that were super powerful. This awareness & understanding of how he, in this case, developed a serious performance-based mindset in all his relationships, meaning he only felt loved & valuable if he was per...

#372: What Comes First - Better Habits or Better EQ?

What comes first - the chicken or the egg?    What comes first - to lead yourself or leading others?    What comes first - better habits or better EQ?    What comes first - better behaviors or better emotional health?     This is actually a current conversation I’m having w/other coaches. Some great thoughts & dialogue that are definitely sharpening me in my own personal & professional growth journey.   What are your thoughts? What comes first?    How has it played ou...

#371: EQ Exercise & Real Client House On Fire Growth Story

Whew…this has been a recent intense journey w/a client who reached out to me a couple months ago with a “911” call about his personal life, his family & his job.    His house is (at the time of this episode) still on fire…BUT…HE is no longer on fire like he was 2 mos ago.    “If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at begin to change.”    He has grown SO much over the past 2 mos b/c when he reached out to me, he took full ownership of the areas of his life h...

#370: How To Get Better Results (But Not With Goals) With Dr. Jean Oursler, CaveManBrain.com

Dr. Jean has a PhD in Business Psychology & is the owner/creator of the successful consulting practice CavemanBrain Business Growth System.     Her clients increase their new business development by 25% with just 5 hours a week by using her "done for you" new business development system.   Working with a Harvard Neuroscientist, she developed the Caveman Brain Domination System to increase your new business development results. It is based on how your brain operates during the new bus...

#369: A Leader Is Only As Good As Their Ability To Handle Conflict & How To Deal With The Adult Toddler Tantrum

s this true? “A leader is only as good as their ability to handle conflict.”    One of my clients shared that w/me recently.    It body slammed me b/c I was an absolute train wreck at conflict yet considered myself a “good” leader (whatever that means).    The only mental/emotional file I had for “conflict” was negative.    I had never seen an example in my life of “good conflict” or conflict done well.    So not only was I terrible at conflict, I was terrified by conflic...

#368: It’s Ok To Not Be Ok. Are You Ready? A Real (Brutal) Client Story.

Whew, this one is difficult. I just wrapped up a coaching session w/a client that is going through a very, very challenging life phase.    He tried to play it off by saying “It’s all good. I’m good. It’s all gonna work out.”    I told him he doesn’t have to play the tough guy w/me. I know he’s tough. He’s very strong. He also needs to allow himself to experience the intensity of the emotions he’s going through & will continue to go through while he’s in this situation.    How pre...

#367: Coach to Global Executives & Author. Dr. Margaret Herffernan, Questions for Leaders.

Check out this bio!  Dr. Margaret Heffernan produced programmes for the BBC for 13 years. She then moved to the US where she spearheaded multimedia productions for Intuit, The Learning Company and Standard&Poors. She was Chief Executive of InfoMation Corporation, ZineZone Corporation and then iCast Corporation, was named one of the "Top 25" by Streaming Media magazine and one of the "Top 100 Media Executives" by The Hollywood Reporter.   The author of six books, Margaret’s third book, ...

#366: 10 Questions & Some Insights From Interview With Author & Global CEO Coach, Dr. Margaret Heffernan

This was such a great interview!  These are some of the questions that were brought up & some insights I gleaned from my interview with Dr. Margaret Heffernan, author & mentor to global CEOs: How did you start your journey to becoming a world-class leader? What annoys you? Who encourages you?  What did you discover about creating the type of environment that would bring the best out of others? Why are leaders not good at caring about others? What are some of the areas you’ve ob...

#365: Who Annoys You & Why?

When is the last time you’ve thought about who annoys you & why?    This is a real scenario & some real folks we know that tend to fit in this category for me.    It might be helpful to make a list of the people that annoy you.    Then, see if you can identify the reasons why those particular people annoy you.    What does that list of people say about you?    What do the things that annoy you about those particular people say about you?    I’ve asked God to reveal in...