EQ Gangster

151 How EQ Impacts Our Spiritual Perspective, A Weird Prophecy Over Me

How do you think our emotional health or emotional intelligence impacts our faith or view of God?   What’s your view of God?   What impacted that view or perspective of God?    What emotions come up when you think of God?    Where did those emotions come from?   What stories do you have about God or faith?    Where did those stories come from?   A lady prophesied over me at church on Sunday.   She prophesied over someone else prior to sharing her prophecy abou...

#150: The Emotional Journey of the Military VA Process & What I Wish I Knew

What I wasn’t prepared for was the emotional journey of having to go back through my military past.   I had not addressed or dealt with any of my past military emotional issues / injuries.   It might be helpful to refer to this episode while going through the military VA process: EQE Ep. 120: 3 Emotional Tools to Improve Your Emotional Bandwidth https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/eq-for-entrepreneurs/id1497445408?i=1000513514299   Realize that discussing your military exp...

#149: The EQ Gangster Rebrand & Remodel

The journey Of how we arrived at EQ for entrepreneurs.   And the journey of how we arrived at EQ Gangster and EQ Mafia.   What makes you unique?    Who is your audience?    Who do you bring the best out of?    Who is drawn to you? Why?    Who have you helped get success or transformation?         EQ Accelerator Course: https://www.eqforentrepreneurs.com/eqa   FREE E-BOOK “THE RESILIENT ENTREPRENEUR” https://www.eqforentrepreneurs.com/treguide    ...

#148: How Do You Develop Boldness? Does It Even Matter?

EQE Ep. 148, How Do You Develop Boldness? Does It Even Matter?   This episode we explore how emotional health & emotional intelligence impacts boldness.    What is boldness? How do you define boldness? Where does it come from? What does it do for you? How does it serve you? Can you do ‘boldness’ wrong? Can you recognize healthy vs. unhealthy boldness? How bold are you? Is boldness only reserved for certain personalities? Is your boldness coming from a healthy or unh...

#147: Lessons from 81 Pitches to National & Regional Media, The Importance of Connection

Closed 85% of my pitches to National & Regional Media Representatives (69 of 81).    Showed me the relevance & importance of emotions, emotional health, & emotional intelligence in our country today.   Who is not being impacted by so many different emotionally charged events over the past 12 - 18 mos.   How many of us have been trained on how to effectively identify & manage our emotions?   Many of my “pitching” peers would have been more effective had they had more self-awar...

#146: Massive Proof of Growth Milestone, Not Overwhelmed or Shutting Down

Thank you for watching & listening    Thank you for rating, reviewing, subscribing & sharing. If you haven’t yet, it would really mean a lot if you did just take 30 seconds to rate & review & share a meaningful episode.   Highest of highs last 24 hrs & then this morning hit some pretty low lows w/news from a dear friend who lost his 26 y/o daughter & mother of a 2 y/o.    I briefly shared a little about the highs & lows in the last episode.   For those that didn’t catch the l...

#145: Massive Sex Breakthrough

My wife & I have struggled w/our sex lives for the vast majority of our 25 year marriage.   She had abandonment issues which led her to become what’s known as an Intimacy Anorexic. That’s someone who has an addiction to avoid intimacy…& not just sexual intimacy, but even in social relationships & family relationships.    I had self-image, self-worth, low-EQ issues which led me to refrain from ever speaking up to ever share my thoughts on my desires or love languages.    Some of t...

#144: Emotionally Healthy Homeschooling w/CEO of Classical Conversations, Robert Bortins

#143: Do You Have Any Lingering Bitterness? (from a recent trigger)

I was just triggered from being semi-attacked.   It caused me to do some reflection.   Do you know anyone that has been bitter & jaded for months or years?   What are they like to be around?   How happy or pleasant are they?   How does their negative emotional state affect / impact their life?   Have you ever been jaded or bitter?   What have you been angry or upset about the longest?   Have you taken time to reflect on any unaddressed emotional issues in your...

#142: The Importance of Emotional Bandwidth

Story: teacher w/little to no emotional bandwidth.    How much emotional bandwidth do you have?   How much does it take to overwhelm you or trigger you?    Do you have a high emotional “tolerance”?    Do the smallest things upset you?   Do you always carry around a low-grade anxiety or stress?   Do you carry around a low-grade frustration or anger?   What do you think the benefits are of having a greater emotional bandwidth?   If you’d like a scientific emotio...

#141: The Power of Hugs from a 2nd Generation Hugger

Story of the “hug line” that was 75 people long in Australia.   Story of my dad, as an ER doctor, giving hugs to his patients and watching them immediately calming down.   The physical & emotional power of a hug.   Why my hugs are a couple extra seconds.   What stories do you have around physical touch?   What emotions do you have surrounding physical touch?   If you’d like a scientific emotional intelligence assessment, visit eqforentrepreneurs.com/training for more ...

#140: Actual EQ Results in Coaching Session With Director of International Sales, Ryan

He react to crises differently based on recent cyber attacks on my company.   He thinks about my responses differently.   EQ has changed his parenting.   He shares a neat parenting story w/his son & how he has been able to practice his EQ on and with his son & helping his son work through his own emotions.   The power of his reflection times.   Applying his EQ to golf.   If you’d like a scientific emotional intelligence assessment, visit eqforentrepreneurs.com/trainin...

#139: Have You Ever Mistrusted Your Partner? (Recent epiphany)

An exciting opportunity has arisen in our lives.   As I was sharing my excitement about it, my wife shared how she didn’t think it was gonna happen for us.   That was an odd comment coming from her.   When we had the opportunity to explore that emotion further, she discovered that it was an emotional survival mechanism b/c of all the times I crushed her dreams & goals in the past.   I had a long track record of getting excited & spun up about a goal and then never follow thro...

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An exciting opportunity has arisen in our lives.   As I was sharing my excitement about it, my wife shared how she didn’t think it was gonna happen for us.   That was an odd comment coming from her.   When we had the opportunity to explore that emotion further, she discovered that it was an emotional survival mechanism b/c of all the times I crushed her dreams & goals in the past.   I had a long track record of getting excited & spun up about a goal and then never follow thro...

#138: Insights & Inspiration From One of My Corporate Clients, Ryan

Insights & inspiration from one of my Corporate clients   Who do you inspire?   Where are you at in your EQ growth journey?   What are the “consequences / benefits / ripple effects” of your current emotional health state?    List all the areas in your life where you would like to grow & improve.   There’s a very good chance your emotional health could be currently impacting your growth or effectiveness in one or many of those areas.   Unaddressed emotional issues don’...

#137 How Are You Doing? No, Really? How Well Do You Take Care of Yourself?

Story of Youth Group leader    How EQ impacts life transitions   Lower EQ can hinder, hamper or exacerbate life transitions.   Higher EQ can reduce, minimize or make life transitions smoother.   What systems of recharging or menu of ways you can take care of yourself do you have immediately accessible?   Swimming stroke efficiency analogy    If you’d like a scientific emotional intelligence assessment, visit eqforentrepreneurs.com/training for more info. To get on t...

#136: EQ Tool, Thought Analyzer (EQ Membership Sneak Peek)

Thought Analyzer   A tool to think about what you’re thinking about.    Think, feel, do.   There’s always a process that happens before we arrive at an action.   Many of us are just not aware of what that process is.   If you understand that process, you can deconstruct it.   Book recommendation:  Cleaning Up Your Mental Mess, Dr. Caroline Leaf   Case study: It’s actually unhealthy to be self-aware with no self-management tools.    Facts: objective vs subjec...

#135: I'm Feeling Terrible Today & I'm Ok With It Part II

What is the difference between stewing and giving yourself permission to feel unpleasant emotions?   Treat them as guests to your house.   Be curious about them.   Suspend judgment and evaluate stories and inaccurate beliefs.   What can you learn about those “guests” at your house?   Do you know them all by name?   You don’t have to let them spend the night or move into your house.   And at a minimum, identify who they are, which emotions they are and when you hav...

#134: I'm Feeling Terrible Today & I'm Ok With It

When is the last time you allowed yourself to feel unpleasant emotions?   How “good are you” at allowing yourself to feel unpleasant emotions?   How are your energy levels when you’re feeling unpleasant emotions?   What is the quality of your decision making when you’re not feeling good?   What are some productive ways to allow yourself to feel unpleasant emotions? Take care of yourself.   Allow yourself to feel unpleasant emotions.   Establish boundaries so that yo...

#133: What Is the Relationship Between Performance and Connection Part II

How would you define “good, healthy relationships”?    Everyone’s answer is probably going to be different based on your personality and current level of emotional intelligence.   What type of relationship has brought the best out of you?   What type of relationship has maximized your performance?   One major point to mention regarding the connection between relationships & performance is motive.   Motive matters.   Intent matters.   Check out 3 of our Episodes on...

#132: What Is the Relationship Between Performance and Connection?

What is the connection between performance and relationship?   How do relationships affect / impact performance?   Have you ever experienced a negative or toxic relationship? How did that impact your performance?    What relationships impacted your performance positively?    How can you be more intentional at deepening & developing your relationships to maximize both your’s & their performance?    If you’d like a scientific emotional intelligence assessment, visit eqforen...

#131: What Risks & Emotions Are Attached to Your Dreams & Goals

Each of our dreams & goals has certain associated risks.   Have you done a risk-reward analysis of the dreams & goals you’re currently pursuing?   Have you done an emotional assessment / evaluation of the risks attached to your goals & dreams?   Emotions, whether we’re aware of them or not, impact our every decision & behavior.   Do your emotions control you or are you in charge of your emotions?   For those wanting to take the next step of your own emotional growth journ...

#130: Emotions Are Exhausting & the Mood Meter App to Increase Self-Awareness

God told us to sell the house…and that was it.   This episode is very closely related to the last episode.   I get sooo emotionally attached to every single property we visit…CO, MT, ID, SD…   I’ve gotten frustrated at that.   It’s exhausting to feel & experience emotions…   If you’re new to your emotional growth journey, give yourself plenty of grace, space & patience as you begin to allow yourself to feel emotions that you may not have been aware of your entire life…lik...

#129: Trust, Gideon & Noble—How Does Trust Impact Your Relationships?

What’s impacting your ability to trust or not trust?    What are the consequences of your ability or inability to trust?    What is the relationship between trust & your desire to control?    How does control serve you?    How is a lack of trust impacting your relationships?    It has seemed to stunt the growth of any relationship where I don’t trust.    Have you been burned before in relationships?    What vows, commitments or promises have you made consciously o...

Episode 128: 4 Massive Insights & Practical Application to Grow Your Resilience

The ups & downs of being a leader and entrepreneur.   Growing your emotional capacity.   Resilience—the ability to handle adversity, failure, change & pressure in a positive way. -John C. Maxwell   Stress & anxiety affects us physically, mentally & emotionally.   The Resilient Entrepreneur handbook: eqforentrepreneurs.com/tre   How resilient are you?   Unaddressed emotional issues don’t get better over time.   Be proactive at dealing w/your emotions.   Your...

#127: 3 Consequences for Unaddressed Emotional Issues

1.) You have no boundaries, so you cross others boundaries and are typically completely unaware that you’re doing it (ask me how I know) AND you allow yourself to be mistreated and/or walked on or over b/c you have no boundaries for yourself either.   2.) You don’t know where you begin & end and where someone else begins and ends so you can get into codependent & very emotionally needy relationships that end up being very unhealthy.   3.) Unaddressed emotional issues don’t get better...

#126: 3 Lessons from My VA Mental Health Counselor Appointment

How frequently do you get triggered?   How intensely do you get triggered?   Are you aware of why you’re triggered?   How quickly do you realize you’re triggered?   How long does it take for you to come down off your “trigger”?   Do you have more emotional injuries to work on that you’re unaware of?   How do you know?   How can you be sure?   How do you know if you’ve healed an emotional injury?   For those ready to take your emotional health & emotional i...

#125: Insights from Getting Triggered Yesterday

How often do you get triggered?   How intensely do you get triggered?   How long do you stay triggered?   When do you become aware that you’re triggered? What have you learned about yourself when you get triggered?   For those ready to take your emotional health & emotional intelligence to the next level, check out EQforEntrepreneurs.com/eqa  For those interested in taking a scientific assessment of your emotional intelligence & getting a 1-on-1 session for me to interpre...

#124: How Teachable Are You & What Impacts It?

In every single relationship we have, we are both delivering our emotional intelligence or lack thereof and on the receiving end of the emotional intelligence or lack thereof.    How teachable are you?   Scale from 1-10?   Is it important to you to be teachable?   Could you be more teachable?   What are some things that impact one’s teachability?   maturity pride hubris humility curiosity  values emotional intelligence which I feel would directly impact yo...

#123: How To Understand Your EQ Assessment w/15-Year EQ Coach, Hassan

Hassan has worked extensively with both the military and the private sector for 15 years.   We are able to impact and grow our emotional intelligence.   Are your current behaviors serving you most effectively?   If not, you can choose different behaviors by intentionally growing your EQ. Our emotional health impacts us professionally AND personally.   Some folks see positive EQ growth at home which gives them confidence to try it at work.   Work on 1 - 3 emotional subsc...

#122: Massive Emotional Breakthrough After 20+ Years for My Wife

How I’ve lost 45 lbs in 7 months   How I’ve been consistent at Brazilian Jiu Jitsu for the past 7 mos   How my physical health has been impacted by my emotional health   The massive breakthrough Kathy had this week after 20 years of being unaware and self-sabotaging.   How her unhealthy abandonment issues affected her physical health.   For EQi Scientific Assessment  www.EQforEntrepreneurs.com/training   Questions? [email protected]   8-Week EQ Cour...

#121: Author of Becoming A King, Morgan Snyder. Are You Wholehearted?

Are you wholehearted?   What are the consequences of not being wholehearted?   How do you become wholehearted?   What do you want?   When you’re dead & your loved ones are giving your Eulogy, what will they say about you? What do you want them to say about you?   When do you feel death?   When do you feel loved? Finish this sentence, “I am loved when _________________.”   Where do we avoid or engage at all costs in our lives?   Where do you need to risk?   ...

# 120: 3 Emotional Tools That Will Improve Your Emotional Bandwidth

Write down the areas in your life causing you stress & anxiety.   List all the emotions surrounding each of those areas causing stress.   Set timer for 1 min and allow yourself to feel each of the individual emotions in each of the areas causing stress for 1 min on each emotion.   Write a letter to each of the people that may be causing you stress. Don’t feel as if you need to actually give the letter to them. Just write the letter.   EQ Accelerator Course: https://www.eqfo...

#119: The Power of the Flow State in Your Life

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#118: Lessons from Rolling with an Olympic Athlete

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#117: The Gratitude Bridge to Confidence from West Point’s Center of Enhanced Performance Director, COL Darcy Schnack

Some of West Point’s newer leader development programs   West Point’s Return To Learn program    Concussion Protocols   Daniel Goleman’s Emotional Intelligence model   Relationship between EQ and optimal human performance   Self-regulation   Confidence   5 Different Mental Skills performance mindset confidence imagery attention control / self-regulation goal setting   So many developmental lessons to learn from failure.   Failure is part of the l...

#116: What Breakthroughs Have You Had Recently

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#115: What Kind of Friend Are You?

A few interesting stories of “friends”.    How do you define “friendship”?   How do you define “friend”?   What kind of friend are you?   Are you the type of friend you want?    Have you verbalized your friendship expectations?    Have you not verbalized your friendship expectations and still expect your “friends” to meet that unspoken standard they don’t know about nor have they agreed to it?   What qualities are important to you in a friend?

#114: How Your Emotional Maturity Impacts Your Decision Making

Over 20 years in business   Over 10 different start-up businesses    Takes lots of mental & emotional energy to make hundreds & thousands of decisions as an entrepreneur.    Especially in times of crisis.   An entrepreneur should hopefully thrive in adversity b/c of the nature of an entrepreneur.   It takes lots of emotional intelligence to wear so many different hats as an entrepreneur.    Your EQ will either limit you as an entrepreneur or help you thrive as an entr...

#113: Who Are You Thankful For? Who Is Thankful for You?

2 calls from out of the blue   You never know who is watching you & how you’re living your life.   How often do you let your friends know that you’re thankful for them?   How good of a friend are you?   How can you be a better friend?   Be specific w/how someone has impacted you.   2 years before my dad died, every time he & I talked on the phone, he would tell me 3 things: I love you. I believe in you. I’m proud of you.   How thankful are you?   Thankfu...

#112: What Is Your Emotional Capacity & Emotional Agility as a Leader?

Seems like emotional intelligence & emotional capacity are directly proportional.   What triggers you?   What overwhelms you?   What shuts you down?   A lot of information and a lot of new information would’ve typically shut me down.    As soon as I started feeling overwhelmed, I journaled my thoughts and used a mind map which helped tremendously.    This has also impacted & improved my emotional & mental agility.   How mentally agile are you?   How emotionall...

#111: 7 Points Connecting Emotional Intelligence & Influencing Others

From 3 major social media influencers Michael Stelzner (Social Media Marketing Events) Jasmine Star (Instagram) AJ Wilcox (LinkedIn)   1 - Secure in themselves 2 - Had courage, faith 3 - Desire to add value, impact & influence others 4 - Emotionally present & available 5 - Reflection: how do we make others feel 6 - Self-awareness & self-management to find & discover & share their voices, gifts, strengths 7 - What are your gifts, strengths & superpowers to share w/others...

#110: 8 Questions to Assess Your Decision Making Process & Authenticity

What does your decision making process reveal about you?   How authentic are you? How do you know?   Are you self-aware enough to accurately answer those previous questions?   8 Questions to Assess Your Decision Making Process 1 - What decisions have you made recently? 2 - Why did you make them? 3 - Did someone want you to make those decisions? 4 - Did you truly have the freedom to make those decisions?  5 - What values drove your decisions? 6 - Did the outcomes & the...

#109: Still Not Getting Traction? Focusing on the Symptom or the Source?

Why am I still failing in certain areas of my life?    Symptom or source?   Skillset or EQ?   Is “just do more work” enough?   Is “I just have to work harder” all there is?   Is “you just don’t want it bad enough” truly accurate?   How many of you are operating at your max capacity?   How many of you have been told to just work harder? or You’re not working hard enough? Most people.   By focusing on the symptom, I was consistently failing.   As soon as I s...

#108: The Consequences of Childhood Trauma

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#107: How Our Emotional Health Impacts Our Faith With Sarah Jackson

Fun questions Childhood story Faith background   What does it mean to live a certain way as it relates to your values or upbringing?   How church community came alongside her during difficult times.   Are your inner & outer world congruent?   Do your actions align with your values?   How do you deal with disappointment?    Dysfunction among faithful followers   A community who loves well doesn’t settle for false peace.   What do you do when you’re disappoi...

#106: Encouraging Tips from Being & Not Grinding in the Valley

How we handled losing $90,000 in 2020.   Goal: Go through our valley w/peace, faith, trust, confidence, peace & patience.   Rather than stress, anxiety, worry & concern.   2 Corinthians 5:7 Hebrews 11:1 2 Corinthians 4:8-9 Philippians 4:10-13,19   5 “Results” of trusting God   Valley Questions: What can you learn from your valley? Can you be patient through the valley until your mountain top comes? Can you be patient through the winter until your Spring comes?...

#105: How To Be You, Loudly

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Ep 104: How I Became An Emotional Stuffer

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#103: Importance of EQ in Corporate America, from Executive Recruiter, Patrick Gray

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