Calm AF
324 episodes - English - Latest episode: 10 days ago - ★★★★★ - 60 ratingsCalm AF is the podcast for people who are hard on themselves: the over-thinkers, people-pleasers, energy managers, perfectionists, and over-achievers. Kristen Finch is a life coach who teaches you how to quiet the incessant negative chatter inside your head - and how to axe your anxiety - so you can manifest the life you are meant to live. Grab a coffee and join in, because today is the day you get Calm AF.
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The Dysregulated Nervous System: You Need to Learn the Basics
April 17, 2024 09:00 - 20 minutes - 28.4 MBThis episode is absolutely essential learning because until you have a different understanding of your own nervous system, you will always be chasing the next tool that might help you calm down. ~ Take the Nervous System Pattern Quiz here! ~ Access the FREE Nervous System Course here! Not yet a member of Calm AF Life? ~ Join here to pay in full ~ Join here for payment plan ~ Or if you have questions before joining, simply click here to set up a 30 ...
The Dysregulated Nervous System: Vacillators
April 10, 2024 09:00 - 24 minutes - 33.4 MBThere are 3 main dysregulation patterns: Hypervigilance, hypovigilance and vacillators. This episode is all about Vacillators, of which I number. And if you didn’t take your quiz yet, to find out which pattern you use the most, check the show notes, take the quiz. ~ Take the Nervous System Pattern Quiz here! Not yet a member of Calm AF Life? ~ Join here to pay in full ~ Join here for payment plan ~ Or if you have questions before joining, simply click ...
The Dysregulated Nervous System: Hypovigilance
April 03, 2024 09:00 - 19 minutes - 27.2 MBThere are 3 main dysregulation patterns: Hypervigilance, hypovigilance and vacillators. This episode is all about Hypervigilance. And if you didn’t take your quiz yet, to find out which pattern you use the most, check the show notes, take the quiz. ~ Take the Nervous System Pattern Quiz here! Not yet a member of Calm AF Life? ~ Join here to pay in full ~ Join here for payment plan ~ Or if you have questions before joining, simply click here to set up ...
The Dysregulated Nervous System: Hypervigilance
March 27, 2024 14:38 - 23 minutes - 31.8 MBThere are 3 main dysregulation patterns: Hypervigilance, hypovigilance and vacillators. This episode is all about Hypervigilance. And if you didn’t take your quiz yet, to find out which pattern you use the most, take the Nervous System Pattern Quiz here! Not yet a member of Calm AF Life? ~ Join here to pay in full ~ Join here for payment plan ~ Or if you have questions before joining, simply click here to set up a 30 minute call. ~ To inquire about wor...
Which Nervous System Pattern is Keeping You Stuck?
March 20, 2024 09:00 - 21 minutes - 29.8 MBTo learn how to be and stay in calm AF energy, you have to get to know your internal dysregulation patterns. When you get to know your own nervous system and how you behave when you’re dysregulated, you can start taking control of your own energy (instead of feeling powerless to everything happening outside of you). ~ Take the Nervous System Pattern Quiz here! Not yet a member of Calm AF Life? ~ Join here to pay in full ~ Join here for payment plan ...
A Quick Detox from Folk Wisdom
March 13, 2024 09:00 - 16 minutes - 23.1 MBIs the folk wisdom living rent-free in your head ACTUALLY serving you and making your life better? Probably not. Here's to playing now and working later. To join the Calm AF Life waitlist, click here. To inquire about working with me in 2024, click here.
The Fun Bucket: Having More Fun Drives Better Results
March 06, 2024 10:00 - 25 minutes - 34.8 MBIf you’re not prioritizing FUN in your day-to-day, then you are missing out on major benefits to your health, relationships, career, and even your bank account. To join the Calm AF Life waitlist, click here. To inquire about working with me in 2024, click here.
The Leap Day Podcast
February 28, 2024 10:00 - 19 minutes - 26.8 MBI like to think of Leap Day as a bonus 24 hours and I think about it this way: if I were at the end of my life and I was gifted an extra 24 hours, how would I spend that day? To join the Calm AF Life waitlist, click here. To inquire about working with me in 2024, click here.
Choose Growth Over Comfort (Replay)
February 21, 2024 10:00 - 17 minutes - 23.8 MBIf you want to change anything, you've got to be willing to feel discomfort. Changing how you feel about your life, deciding to leave a toxic job or a toxic relationship, finding your forever person. Whatever it is, discomfort will accompany change. And if you want to feel better, calmer, happier, more content, more FREE...you have to choose growth over comfort. For a deeper dive, visit kristenfinch.com. To join the Calm AF Life waitlist, click here. To inquire about working...
Why You Should ABSOLUTELY Practice Self-Love
February 14, 2024 10:00 - 24 minutes - 33.6 MBThere are so many reasons why we all need to prioritize a healthy, loving relationship with ourselves. It makes life simpler. It makes you feel better. You have more confidence. You set and enforce boundaries easier. It’s easier to love other people. It’s easier to let other people love you. So, ignore the gimmicky, click-baity, product-pushing headlines about self-love and get busy truly loving on yourself. To join the Calm AF Life waitlist, click here. To inquire about worki...
Remembering What Matters When Life Sucks
February 07, 2024 10:00 - 15 minutes - 21.3 MBLife hands us “opportunities to grow” (yuck) when we least want them, when we feel least prepared for them, when we just don’t have room or time or energy for them. Here’s to keeping what really matters in your mind, heart, and soul when these ass-ortunities come knocking. To join the Calm AF Life waitlist, click here. To inquire about working with me in 2024, click here.
How to Stop a Thought Spin-Out (Replay!)
January 31, 2024 10:00 - 27 minutes - 37.1 MBWhen you’re in the middle of a thought spin out, your mind’s brakes are overridden by the nervous system. Here’s how to resume control. To join the Calm AF Life waitlist, click here. To inquire about working with me in 2024, click here.
Fire Your Inner Boss
January 17, 2024 10:00 - 25 minutes - 35.1 MBSelf trust, self belief, self acceptance, and self compassion will get you to the finish line of your goals WAY faster than self berating, self criticism, self sabotaging. So if your inner boss treats you like shit, it’s time to fire her and choose a more worthy leader. To join the Calm AF Life waitlist, click here. To inquire about working with me in 2024, click here.
Danielle’s Calm AF Journey, Part 2
January 10, 2024 10:00 - 39 minutes - 54.4 MBMy client Danielle shares how she has transformed from someone who prioritized everyone else before herself to someone who prioritizes herself, her goals, and her life. To get your ticket to the Calm AF Goals Workshop on January 14th (or to get the replay) click here. To join the Calm AF Life waitlist, click here. To inquire about working with me in 2024, click here.
Danielle’s Calm AF Journey
January 03, 2024 19:28 - 43 minutes - 60.1 MBMy client Danielle shares her Calm AF journey in this delightful conversation! To get your ticket to the Calm AF Goals Workshop on January 14th (or to get the replay) click here. To join the Calm AF Life waitlist, click here. To inquire about working with me in 2024, click here.
5 Tips to Uplevel from “Goal-Setting Master” to Goal Achiever
December 27, 2023 10:00 - 25 minutes - 35 MBIf you SET goals like a f*ckin’ boss but struggle to ACHIEVE them, these 5 tips will change your life. To get your ticket to the Calm AF Goals Workshop on January 14th (or to get the replay) click here. To join the Calm AF Life waitlist, click here. To inquire about working with me in 2024, click here.
What Do You Want?
December 20, 2023 10:00 - 18 minutes - 26.1 MBWhat I’ve found over the years is that this question: WHAT DO YOU WANT? is one of the hardest questions for women to answer. If you are not giving yourself permission to want what you want, these three obstacles are probably the reasons why. Join my Future Self Course! Interested in joining Calm AF Life? Tap here to join the waiting list. Interested in working with me but not sure where to start? Tap here.
This Sh!t Works
December 13, 2023 10:00 - 20 minutes - 27.9 MBI could not be prouder of – or happier for – my clients who recently found themselves not only USING but totally benefitting from the Calm AF Life tools that they’ve been steadily and consistently adopting in our group and 1:1 coaching. And here’s the key: they are reaping major transformations through relentless commitment to the process. Interested in joining Calm AF Life? Tap here to join the waiting list. Interested in working with me but not sure where to start? Tap here.
Waiting for Your Wake-up Call (Replay!)
December 06, 2023 10:00 - 17 minutes - 24.1 MBWHY do we wait for a wake up call to feel ALIVE in our lives..to stop living a life in survival mode and start living our one life NOW. Today, I’m going to share with you the BIGGEST lies we are believing that are keeping us from reclaiming our lives from survival mode hell. Interested in joining Calm AF Life? Tap here. Prefer a payment plan? I got you. Tap here. Interested in working with me but not sure where to start? Tap here.
4 Essentials to Create an Automatic Habit
November 29, 2023 10:00 - 22 minutes - 30.9 MBThanks to neuroplasticity, the brain’s ability to rewire neural connections, you can create any habit you want – especially with these 4 ingredients. Interested in joining Calm AF Life? Tap here. Prefer a payment plan? I got you. Tap here. Interested in working with me but not sure where to start? Tap here.
How Do You Respond to Other People’s Energy?
November 22, 2023 10:00 - 23 minutes - 32.4 MBCalm AF is an energy state where you know you are in control of your feelings, moods, and thoughts AND knowing you aren’t in control of other people’s. When you learn to be calm AF, you aren’t reliant on other people being in a good mood so you can be in a good mood. If you want to actually feel calm, ease, rest, joy, happiness that is dependent on nothing outside of you, you need to learn to be Calm AF. Interested in joining Calm AF Life? Tap here. Interested in working with...
Matthew Perry, Worthiness, and the Power of Opening Up
November 15, 2023 10:00 - 30 minutes - 42.3 MBVulnerability is not just a virtue; it's a lifeline. In the face of struggle, shame, and the overwhelming pressure to prove your worthiness, PLEASE choose vulnerability instead of choosing isolation. Instead of choosing to go it alone, find a person or a community that gets it. Interested in joining Calm AF Life? Tap here. Join me and other Calm AFers in Mexico! Tap here, spots are limited. Interested in working with me but not sure where to start? Tap here.
The Hidden Cost of People-Pleasing
November 08, 2023 10:00 - 21 minutes - 29.4 MBToday I want to talk about the TOLL your people pleasing, perfectionism, energy managing, and overachieving behaviors are having on you. These are not so much character traits as they are your nervous system’s reactions to perceived dangers. And, because mind-body connection dictates that toxic thoughts are poison in the body, it’s important to unlearn these self-defeating habits - and master new ones. Interested in joining Calm AF Life? Tap here. Join me and other Calm AFers...
Breaking a Toxic Thinking Pattern
November 01, 2023 09:00 - 23 minutes - 32.5 MBSometimes when you’re in a rut, you have to just be in it for a minute while you work your way out. But when you’re cycling through a toxic pattern that isn’t changing, you have to think about your future self and shake things up. Join me and other Calm AFers in Mexico! Tap here, spots are limited. Interested in joining Calm AF Life? Tap here. Interested in working with me but not sure where to start? Tap here.
ADHD-Friendly Shui for Neurodivergent People, Part Two
October 25, 2023 09:00 - 38 minutes - 53.4 MBMy ride-or-die, BFF, Feng Shui Genius Amanda Gibby Peters – who, unlike me, does not have raging ADHD – joins me for the second part of this conversation about using your neurodivergent skillset to conquer clutter and boost your home’s energy. HELPFUL LINKS: A Conversation About Clutter with Kristen Finch and Amanda Gibby Peters! RSVP here Meet Amanda Gibby Peters and follow her on IG Listen to House Therapy, the podcast by Amanda Gibby Peters on Apple, Spotify,...
ADHD-Friendly Shui for Neurodivergent People, Part One
October 18, 2023 09:00 - 50 minutes - 69.5 MBMy ride-or-die, BFF, Feng Shui Genius Amanda Gibby Peters – who, unlike me, does not have raging ADHD – joins me for a conversation about using your neurodivergent skillset to conquer clutter and boost your home’s energy. HELPFUL LINKS A Conversation About Clutter with Kristen Finch and Amanda Gibby Peters! RSVP here Meet Amanda Gibby Peters and follow her on IG Listen to House Therapy, the podcast by Amanda Gibby Peters on Apple, Spotify, and everywhere else ...
Creating Time by Slowing the Clock
October 11, 2023 09:00 - 20 minutes - 28 MBBecause life is short and precious, anytime we consider our future, things can start to feel urgent or even unattainable. Living with intention slows the clock so you can create the future you want. 🎉 SPECIAL FLASH BIRTHDAY SALE! 🎉 For 48 hours only, I am offering three of my favorite programs for 25% off: Opposite AF: the short course for neurodiverse couples (regular price $111) Becoming Your Future Self Workshop (regular price $199) AND for the very first time – ...
Being Calm AF When They Aren't
October 04, 2023 09:00 - 23 minutes - 32.4 MBThe most important work I’ve done for myself over the years has been getting calm AF - which, as you now know, is not a permanent state of blissful serenity, but a willful insistence on protecting my own energy no matter what’s going on around me. Because matching someone’s bad energy is not helping me or them or anyone else, it’s just making things harder and worse. Happy Now: Autism, Marriage, and The Journal of Best Practices Ready for daily Calm AF reminders? Click h...
The Calm AF Diet
September 27, 2023 09:00 - 25 minutes - 34.7 MBToday I want to talk about your diet. To be clear, I’m not talking about food or calories or restriction. I’m talking about the Calm AF diet. When you decide that you are going to take your life back, that you are going to prioritize YOUR well being over all other things…When you decide you are ready to let GO of old limiting beliefs, rewire doubts, take the charge away from your fears…Your NEW beliefs are vulnerable. They need constant protection. So you’ve GOT to be mindful and discernin...
The Science of Why You Procrastinate (and How to Stop)
September 20, 2023 09:00 - 19 minutes - 26.1 MBYou don't procrastinate because you're lazy, weak, or lacking willpower. You procrastinate because of brain chemistry – neurotransmitters, specifically. Put on your glasses, grab your pocket protectors, and pull up those pants—we’re going to get nerdy today, Gorgeous Souls! Ready for daily Calm AF reminders? Click here to get on the interest list. Want to work with Kristen but you aren't sure the best way? Click here.
How to Make Calm AF Your Default Setting
September 13, 2023 09:00 - 16 minutes - 22.1 MBWe forget sometimes that we aren’t anxious by default, we LEARNED anxious. You aren’t a people pleaser, you LEARNED people pleasing. You weren't born angry, you LEARNED anger. If being in a state of anxiety, shame, or resentment is a learned habit, that means being calm AF is also a learned habit. Ready for daily Calm AF reminders? Click here to get on the interest list. Want to work with Kristen but you aren't sure the best way? Click here.
What I Wish I Knew Sooner, Part 4: The Truth About Priorities
September 06, 2023 09:00 - 17 minutes - 23.4 MBFiguring out what, at the end of your life, will have made it a life well lived – and figuring out how to stay in pursuit of it – is what I’d teach my younger self. Interested in daily reminders delivered to your inbox? Click here. Want to work with Kristen? Click here.
What I Wish I Knew Sooner, Part 3: The Truth About Optimism
August 30, 2023 09:00 - 16 minutes - 23.1 MBI would go back as early as I could and start teaching my younger self the TRUTH about optimism: there is nothing wrong with CHOOSING to look at the bright side. There is nothing foolish about choosing to focus on the positive. In fact, choosing optimism is the path to resilience. Want to work with me? Tap here to schedule a free consultation.
What I Wish I Knew Sooner, Part 2: The Truth About Feelings
August 23, 2023 09:00 - 19 minutes - 26.7 MBI would go back as early as I could and start teaching my younger self the TRUTH about feelings: they’re normal, they’re valid, and they’re to be felt. Tap here to join me in Calm AF Life. Got questions about Calm AF Life? Tap here to schedule a free consultation with me.
What I Wish I Knew Sooner, Part 1: The Foundational Work
August 16, 2023 09:00 - 17 minutes - 23.6 MBIf I could go back and tell my younger self something that would have saved me the MOST time – I mean years and years of struggling and repeating old patterns – it would be to focus on doing the foundational work of wellbeing before anything else. Tap here to join me in Calm AF Life. Got questions about Calm AF Life? Tap here to schedule a free consultation with me.
Reminder: It Doesn’t Always Go Great.
August 09, 2023 09:00 - 10 minutes - 14.8 MBEven when you’ve prepared, plotted, and planned. Even when you wake up KNOWING that today is the day for big magic. Sometimes shit goes off the rails. The dots don’t connect, the plans unravel, the magic vaporizes. It sucks. And it’s okay. Lifetime access to my flagship coaching program Calm AF Life will be ending later this year. If you want to enjoy all of the content, calls, and coaching for life, tap here to sign up! Not sure if Calm AF Life is right for you? Schedule a free co...
Questioning and Rewriting Rules
August 02, 2023 09:00 - 17 minutes - 23.6 MBThere are SO many unwritten, arbitrary not-really-rules rules that are keeping people from their happiness. What “rules” could you question? Which ones would you rewrite? AND! Lifetime access to my flagship coaching program Calm AF Life will be ending later this year. If you want to enjoy all of the content, calls, and coaching for life, tap here to sign up! Not sure if Calm AF Life is right for you? Schedule a free consult with me and we can discuss it. Xoxo Kristen
While You're Alive, Be Alive (Replay!)
July 26, 2023 09:00 - 21 minutes - 29.3 MBDon’t wait until your wake up call. Live the TRUE life you are here to live - not the one you think you’re supposed to be living. To book your free consult with me, tap here: https://kristenfinch.as.me/freeconsult
Hard Now? Or Hard Forever? (Replay!)
July 19, 2023 09:00 - 18 minutes - 25.7 MBNothing changes without doing things that feel hard. Whether it’s setting a boundary, saying NO to someone, learning how to not let the fear of GUILT stop you from every freaking thing you want to try, or not letting the fear of other people’s opinions dictate how you live your life. So, you have a choice to make when it comes to creating the life you want: hard now, or hard forever? Helpful Links: Calm AF Life: The Lifetime Coaching Program Opposite AF: The online cou...
Do You Feel Like You Don’t Belong?
July 12, 2023 09:00 - 23 minutes - 32.1 MBMost of us are starving for real, authentic connections and deep conversations but we prevent these by telling ourselves that we don’t belong. If this is you, this episode will help you to drop that habit and start living like you belong -- because you do! Helpful Links: Calm AF Life: The Lifetime Coaching Program Opposite AF: The online course for neurodiverse relationships Subscribe to Calm AF on YouTube
Calm AF Forever, Part 1: The Three Components of Permanent Transformation (Replay!)
July 05, 2023 09:00 - 29 minutes - 40.6 MBBeing permanently calm AF is about creating the life that you love - making your life your favorite story. Getting there takes an integrated approach comprising three essential components of wellness: physical, mental, and energetic. Helpful Links: Calm AF Life: The Lifetime Coaching Program Opposite AF: The online course for neurodiverse relationships Subscribe to Calm AF on YouTube
Happy Now: How Dave and I Created a Happy AF Marriage (Part 2 of 2)
June 28, 2023 09:00 - 23 minutes - 32.8 MBDave joins me this week to share his thoughts on how we were able to recover our bestfriendship and build a happy AF marriage after he was diagnosed with Asperger’s, an autism spectrum condition. Helpful Links: Opposite AF: The online course for neurodiverse relationships Happy Now: Marriage, Autism, and The Journal of Best Practices Dave’s book! Calm AF Life: The Lifetime Coaching Program Subscribe to Calm AF on YouTube
Happy Now: How Dave and I Created a Happy AF Marriage (Part 1 of 2)
June 21, 2023 09:00 - 24 minutes - 33.9 MBDave joins me this week to share his thoughts on how we were able to recover our bestfriendship and build a happier marriage after he was diagnosed with Asperger’s, an autism spectrum condition. Helpful Links: Opposite AF: The online course for neurodiverse relationships Happy Now: Marriage, Autism, and The Journal of Best Practices Dave’s book! Calm AF Life: The Lifetime Coaching Program Subscribe to Calm AF on YouTube
Why You Should Absolutely Choose the (Right) Struggles
June 14, 2023 09:00 - 23 minutes - 31.9 MBThe only way to live fully, to be able to connect with LOVE and JOY, is to make room for pain and hard moments. Helpful Links: The Calm AF Future Self Course and Workshop Calm AF Life: The Lifetime Coaching Program Opposite AF: The online course for neurodiverse relationships Subscribe to Calm AF on YouTube “Acceptance Speech after Setting the World Record in Goosebumps” by Andrea Gibson
Unbecoming Your Past Self to Become Your Future Self
June 07, 2023 09:00 - 19 minutes - 26.4 MBLike a caterpillar’s metamorphosis, becoming your future self requires an identity shift. Here’s a little about how to un-become, so you can become. Sign up for the Calm AF Future Self Course and Workshop: https://kristen-finch.mykajabi.com/offers/Lencwohs Calm AF Life – my lifetime program – is online now! Tap here to join. Opposite AF, our online course for neurodiverse relationships, is now live and available to all! Join us! https://kristenfinch.com/oppositeaf ...
5 Steps to Becoming Your Future Self
May 31, 2023 09:00 - 27 minutes - 37.2 MBIf you want to become your Future Self, you can’t just HOPE, you can’t just set a couple goals and sporadically think about them. To become your Future Self you have to change the habits of your Current Self. Here are 5 CALM AF steps to take. IMPORTANT LINKS: Sign up for the Calm AF Future Self Course and Workshop Dave’s bestselling neurodiverse marriage book The Journal of Best Practices! Calm AF Life – my lifetime program – is online now! Tap here to join. Opposite...
A Pep Talk
May 24, 2023 09:00 - 17 minutes - 23.7 MBWe all need a good pep talk from time to time, and here’s yours for this week. It’s about nurturing your own well-being, on embracing your strengths and imperfections, and on practicing self-compassion. Tap here for the quiz: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/62892818eac9eb00184a8a52 Calm AF Life – my lifetime program – is online now! Tap here to join. Opposite AF, our online course for neurodiverse relationships, is now live and available to all! Join us! https://kri...
How to Avoid Old Habits When Creating a New Mindset (Replay!)
May 17, 2023 09:00 - 17 minutes - 23.9 MBOld habits kill new mindsets. Today I’ll share with you the #1 thing you are doing that is keeping your from becoming your future self. The #1 mistake you are making when it comes to transforming one of more areas of your life. The #1 ERROR you are making when manifesting the life you WANT. AND what to do about it. Get the 20 Empowered Questions download here. Calm AF Life – my lifetime program – is online now! Tap here to join. Opposite AF, our online course for neurodiverse rel...
How to Avoid Old Habits When Creating a New Mindset
May 17, 2023 06:14 - 17 minutes - 23.9 MBOld habits kill new mindsets. Today I’ll share with you the #1 thing you are doing that is keeping your from becoming your future self. The #1 mistake you are making when it comes to transforming one of more areas of your life. The #1 ERROR you are making when manifesting the life you WANT. AND what to do about it. You can download a quick and helpful resource at kristenfinch.com/podcast or https://view.flodesk.com/pages/61e743f94cfe7529d668b339
How to Create the Perfect Morning Routine
May 10, 2023 09:00 - 20 minutes - 27.7 MBThere is no such thing as a perfect morning routine for everyone, but there is absolutely a morning routine that is right for YOU. And it’s worth having one because the beginning of your day is your energetic foundation. Calm AF Life – my lifetime program – is online now! Tap here to join. Opposite AF, our online course for neurodiverse relationships, is now live and available to all! Join us! https://kristenfinch.com/oppositeaf Subscribe to Calm AF on YouTube to get eve...