Calm AF
333 episodes - English - Latest episode: 18 days ago - ★★★★★ - 60 ratingsCalm AF is the podcast for people who are hard on themselves: the over-thinkers, people-pleasers, energy managers, perfectionists, and over-achievers. Kristen Finch is a life coach who teaches you how to quiet the incessant negative chatter inside your head - and how to axe your anxiety - so you can manifest the life you are meant to live. Grab a coffee and join in, because today is the day you get Calm AF.
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BONUS EPISODE: The Rules of the Roles
September 03, 2021 09:00 - 18 minutes - 24.8 MBIn today’s episode, I’m sharing the steps you need to take to unlearn your old stories and create the life you want: find the rules, question the rules, rewrite the rules, rewire your mind. I'm teaching this in depth in Rewired AF, a 6-month group coaching program beginning September 14th. To learn more, go to https://kristenfinch.com/rewiredaf Schedule a free consult call to see if the group is right for you here: https://kristenfinch.as.me/rewiredAF
Self-Love and the Importance of Routine
September 01, 2021 09:00 - 27 minutes - 37.7 MBRoutines will create more INTENTION and ATTENTION on the areas of your life that you want to be more present in, and will help you always be moving towards your future self.Because Your time, without structure, disappears quickly. Today I’m going to share with you 3 routines that will change your life: a morning routine, an evening routine and intentional time blocking.
Self-Worth: The Seeds and the Garden
August 25, 2021 09:00 - 25 minutes - 34.5 MBWhatever thought you plant in your subconscious mind is what will grow there. The subconscious mind isn’t judging anything. That’s not its job. It’s not questioning ANY thought seed you plant. It’s just there to grow the thought into a belief. So today, let's talk about tending to your thoughts to make sure the ones that serve you have the strongest roots.
What Your Anxiety Is Costing You
August 18, 2021 09:00 - 19 minutes - 27.1 MBIn this episode, I dive into some of the ways anxiety is eroding your quality of life, and what it's actually costing you. Anxiety is costing you money, relationships, connection, time, and so much more. That's why it's so important to learn how to calm the f**k down.
Self-Worth: Being Yourself Is Not Harder Than the Alternative
August 11, 2021 09:00 - 27 minutes - 37.6 MBClients tell me that it’s hard to be yourself. It’s HARD to speak your truth. It’s HARD to set boundaries. It’s HARD to prioritize your SELF in your own life. But they don't recognize how much more difficult it is to live in a constantly self-limited way. It is SO MUCH EASIER to live your life as YOURSELF than what you’re doing now. That's what today's episode is all about. Grab a coffee and let's do this.
Powerless Against Anxiety vs. Empowered With Anxiety
August 04, 2021 09:00 - 19 minutes - 27.2 MBIt’s not so much what you do when anxiety hits. Those in-the-moment strategies are helpful, but you really also need to be paying attention to how you think about anxiety, and your thoughts about your anxiety. So this episode is about shifting your mindset and learning how to stop feeling powerless to your anxiety. One of the keys that gets missed to managing anxiety from beginning to end is to become empowered in your thoughts about your anxiety. Let's dig in.
Self Worth: Practicing It So It Sticks
July 28, 2021 09:00 - 23 minutes - 32.9 MBSelf-help. You've listened to all the podcasts, read all the books, learned all the tools. And still, the instant a challenge arises, you drop everything you've learned and go right back to your old habits. SO helpful. I have been there and this episode is all about how to transform these ideas into tools you actively use every day.
Throwback Episode: 10 Habits to Drop Now
July 21, 2021 09:00 - 20 minutes - 28.1 MBThis was one of the most loved and thought-provoking episodes of 2020. I recorded this just before the pandemic shut down the world, and it’s called Top 10 Things to Quit in 2020 – not that 2020 offered too much to keep. Anyway, these remain true today, over a year and a half later. Enjoy!
Throwback Episode: Feel Like You're Drowning
July 14, 2021 09:00 - 7 minutes - 10.3 MBDoes it ever feel like life is overwhelming like you’re drowning and right at the last second you get a gasp of air before heading back under, before going head-first back into life? This episode from October 2019 is all about that.
Throwback: Accepting What Is
July 07, 2021 09:00 - 7 minutes - 9.75 MBAcceptance does not mean giving in, agreeing, or condoning. It is only the acknowledgment of what is. Today, we’re going all the way back to 2019. I loved this client's story so much because it is THE CLASSIC objection I hear when I tell people that before they can change something, they have to accept it.
Throwback Episode: Push Pause
June 30, 2021 09:00 - 12 minutes - 17 MBThrowback Episode! Today’s throwback is one of my most deeply personal stories where the lesson was clear, present, painful, and absolutely life-changing. It's all about PUSHING PAUSE: what it means, how it serves you, and how to do it. Enjoy.
Meet The Lizard
June 23, 2021 11:30 - 26 minutes - 36.6 MBWhen your Lizard Brain is in charge, your body will feel panic. The boss, the teenager, the toddler stay mostly in your head. The Lizard moves into the body so it's easy to spot.In today's episode, I'll teach you how to tame The Lizard when she shows up and grabs the reins in your brains.
Meet The Teenager
June 16, 2021 11:30 - 15 minutes - 20.7 MBYou inner Teenager shows up under similar circumstances to The Toddler, but the way she shows up is much different. How you respond to her makes all the difference in your ability to access your highest, most Calm AF self. This episode is all about The Teenager - may God have mercy on our souls.
Meet The Toddler
June 09, 2021 11:30 - 14 minutes - 19.9 MBWhen The Boss gets tired and clocks out, your inner toddler is free to run amok. That’s when she is most dangerous. So let’s talk about it. In this episode, I teach you how to recognize The Toddler, when and why she shows up, and what to do when your Toddler is on her rampage.
Meet The Boss
June 02, 2021 11:00 - 14 minutes - 19.7 MBLast week I introduced you to the coaching concept I created called The Team. The team is a motley configuration of thinking habits that steer your mind through just about every situation. Today, we'll talk about The Boss because The Boss, in my experience coaching people, is the loudest and most ACTIVE team member of all.
The Team
May 26, 2021 11:00 - 11 minutes - 15.7 MBIn this first in a series of five episodes, I introduce you to your Team, a motley confederation of thinking habits that steer your mind through just about every situation.
Empowered Thinking vs. Positive Thinking
May 19, 2021 09:00 - 15 minutes - 21 MBI do NOT teach positive thinking, I teach empowered thinking. I’m not interested in trying to trick your brain into believing things that aren’t true, I want you to OWN your thoughts and know that YOU are in control of them and your beliefs. In this episode, I explain why I don’t teach positive thinking AND tell you how EMPOWERED thinking is the way to change your life.
Prioritizing Self-Care
May 12, 2021 07:30 - 13 minutes - 17.9 MBWhen you feel better in your mind and body and soul, the rest of your life feels better. Instead of procrastinating or shutting down because you’re exhausted, you move quicker and get more done. Prioritizing your self care allows you to still do the things that need to get done without feeling resentful while you’re doing it.
Internal vs External Validation
May 05, 2021 07:00 - 16 minutes - 23.1 MBThis episode is all about validation and the two ways we experience it: from external sources and from our own thoughts. We'll dive into how relying on external things for validation causes and perpetuates problems - not the least of which being what I call "fragile happiness." Then I'll explain how you can take radical ownership of your feelings about yourself and your worth. Grab some coffee and let's do this.
Creating Your Future Self
April 28, 2021 06:48 - 16 minutes - 23.3 MBThis episode is all about getting to your future self without taking the torture path. Because here's the truth about creating the future you want: if the journey there SUCKS, you're not going to feel better when you arrive. If you don't feel worthy along the way, you definitely will not feel like you're enough when you get there. In other words, happy endings do not come from unhappy journeys
Feeling Pain Without Suffering
April 21, 2021 07:00 - 19 minutes - 26.9 MBMost of us are taught that any feeling except happiness is something to be avoided. But, human beings are emotional creatures. Emotional capacity is literally coded into our DNA. In this episode, I explain the difference between "clean pain" - which is unavoidable - and "dirty pain," which is absolutely avoidable.
Choose Growth Over Comfort
April 14, 2021 07:00 - 17 minutes - 23.8 MBIf you want to change anything, at all, you've got to be willing to feel discomfort. Changing how you feel about your life, deciding to leave a toxic job or a toxic relationship, finding your forever person. Whatever it is, discomfort will accompany change. And if you want to feel better, calmer, happier, more content, more FREE...you have to choose growth over comfort. For a deeper dive, visit kristenfinch.com.
Your Feelings
April 07, 2021 06:41 - 25 minutes - 34.5 MBYour relationship with your emotions is probably not super healthy...and this is not your fault.The ways we were taught to interpret and to deal with our emotions may have been legacy, but legacy does not equal healthy, does not equal true. In this episode, we unpack the baggage of our emotions, together. For a deeper dive and free registration to my Master Class, visit kristenfinch.com.
3 Step Process to Stop Overthinking and Make Better Decisions
March 31, 2021 06:47 - 13 minutes - 18.7 MBOverthinking does not help you make better decisions. In fact, it has the opposite effect. Here’s my 3-step process to help my overthinkers.
3 Step Process to Stop Over-thinking
March 31, 2021 06:47 - 13 minutes - 18.7 MBThis is easily one of the most valuable episodes I've ever published. Today I'm teaching you HOW to spend less time in your over-thinking, procrastination, and worry loops. Because when you break the cycle of over-thinking, getting stuck, giving up, stopping, and starting over...everything changes. It's a 3 step process: Directions & Deadlines, Decide & Do, Evaluate & Repeat.
Over-thinking is Undermining
March 24, 2021 07:00 - 12 minutes - 16.6 MBYou are super-smart. So it seems logical that the more brainpower you throw at a problem, the longer you analyze it from every possible angle, the more likely you are to achieve total clarity and make the perfect decision. You need to knock that off, and in this episode I explain why.
How to Be Calm AF
March 17, 2021 07:00 - 16 minutes - 22.8 MBThis is an extraordinary episode for a number of reasons. First, it's a deeply personal story for me. I'll take you through some moments in my life that were...we'll say, challenging. The overnight loss of my fiance, Mike. My dad's avoidable and yet, totally unavoidable death from alcoholism. A rocky period in my marriage. And I'll relate how I was able to work my way through these moments and come out the other side ready for more of life's magic.
You Are 100% Capable Of Rewiring Your Thoughts
March 10, 2021 08:00 - 16 minutes - 22.6 MBMAKE SURE TO SUBSCRIBE! You are not the ONE HUMAN incapable of rewiring your thoughts. It is absolutely possible for you to drop your old limiting beliefs and create the future you want. It's called neuroplasticity and today I'm giving a super simple example of a new neural pathway I recently created. Ready to have accountability and support while you REWIRE? I am the perfect person to help. I'm so excited to talk to you!
Change Your Brain (Part 4: Change Your Life)
March 03, 2021 08:00 - 29 minutes - 40.6 MB***Make sure you are subscribed to this podcast...ch ch ch changes are coming!*** In today's conclusion to the Change your Life series I'm sharing the 5 steps that will allow you to rewire your brain for happiness. I'll also teach you the 4 most common reasons people give up before the brain changes.
What's Keeping You From What You Want (Part 3: Change Your Life)
February 24, 2021 08:00 - 33 minutes - 46 MBMAKE SURE YOU ARE SUBSCRIBED TO THIS PODCAST (changes coming!!) In today's throwback episode I'm sharing the 7 most common faulty thought patterns that keep you from creating what you want. Ready to change your life for real and for good? Apply to work with me 1:1.
What You Think Matters More Than What You Do (How to Change Your Life: Part Two)
February 17, 2021 08:00 - 20 minutes - 18.3 MBToday is part 2 of the 4 part Change Your Life series from April 2020. We've been programmed to believe that willpower and grit and pushing through and taking action is what's going to create success. But no. What you do DOES matter, but what you THINK matters more. If you are constantly moving through your life beating yourself up, being hard on yourself, focusing on feeling bad to motivate yourself, your'e going to burn out. Today I'm sharing why: ~ all circumstances are neutra...
Your Conscious and Subconscious Minds (How to Change Your Life: Part One)
February 10, 2021 08:00 - 25 minutes - 35.6 MB(This episode was originally aired in April 2020). You cannot create lasting lifelong changes if you keep thinking the same way you’re thinking now. In order to change your life, you must change your thoughts. In order to do THAT, you need to understand WHY your thinking matters and HOW your thinking actually does create your reality. In part one of How To Change Your Life, I’m sharing: ~ why it feels hard to create real change that *lasts* ~ why most people aren't able to create...
Active anxiety vs Passive Anxiety
February 03, 2021 08:00 - 21 minutes - 29.3 MBThis week I'm teaching your the difference between active and passive anxiety, how to recognize it in yourself and how to manage it so that you can calm your mind and achieve what you want to achieve. Apply to work with Kristen
Why You're Unintentionally Fighting to Stay Stuck (And How To Stop)
January 27, 2021 08:00 - 17 minutes - 23.6 MBIn today’s episode I’m letting you in on something you might not even realize you’re doing: fighting harder for what you DON’T want instead of what you DO want. I’m going to tell you why and how to stop. Schedule a consultation call with Kristen
Approval Seeking People Pleasers
January 20, 2021 08:00 - 22 minutes - 31 MBToday’s episode is all about approval seeking behaviors and people pleasing. I’ll share how to KNOW if you’re an approval seeking people pleaser AND 5 thoughts that you can borrow that will help shift you out of approval seeking behaviors and into your full power. Apply to work with Kristen
How To Be Your TRUE Self
January 13, 2021 08:00 - 24 minutes - 33 MBWhat is my purpose? It's a question I hear ALL the time. And most people think it's a really deep question with a big answer. But I think it's super simple. Your purpose is to BE the realest, most authentic YOU your can be. The problem? You've learned SO much about who you *should* be, and what you're *supposed* to look like. Today I'm diving in and sharing: ~ True Self vs Learned Self ~ Why becoming your True Self requires UNLEARNING and REWIRING ~ How to figure out who the...
The Power of Setting Intentions
January 06, 2021 08:00 - 13 minutes - 19.2 MBIf you want to stop going through the motions and really BE who you’re here to be, that doesn’t happen on accident. It happens when you decide. Intentionally. Today I’m going to share what intentions are, WHY you need to be setting intentions, how to set intentions and how to REMEMBER your intentions. apply to work with kristen
Resolution Writing Workshop 2021: How To Write Goals That You LOVE
December 30, 2020 08:00 - 37 minutes - 51.1 MBToday's episode is half podcast, half goal writing workshop. In my world, we don't write goals because there's something wrong with you that needs to be fixed. We write goals that align with who you REALLY are, underneath the doubt, negative mental chatter, and fear. When you write goals that align with how you want to feel, you don't need willpower and you don't give up. Grab your notebooks, Gorgeous Soul. Because today is the day that we do this. Apply to work with Kristen in 2021.
How To Rest Without Feeling Guilty
December 23, 2020 08:00 - 21 minutes - 29 MBI mean...you *want* to rest. But every time you sit down, the thoughts start... "I don't have time" "I have too much to do" "If I have free time, I should be productive" In today's episode I'm gonna turn your thoughts about resting, your thoughts about being productive, your thoughts about resting being something other people have time for UPSIDE DOWN. Because, Gorgeous Soul, resting is the MOST PRODUCTIVE THING YOU CAN DO. And I'll prove it in today's episode. --------------...
Setting Goals That Stick in 2021
December 16, 2020 08:00 - 18 minutes - 27.2 MBTwo weeks until the new year. HALLELUJAH! Today we’re talking about how to set goals that stick! I’m sharing the top reasons people get stuck or give up on their goals and how to fix that. If you have any trouble with any of the links, please email [email protected] for assistance. To receive the goal writing workshop, click here to be added to the email list. As soon as the class is ready, you will receive a link to view straight to your inbox. (If you are already on my email...
How To Stop Worrying About What Other People Think
December 09, 2020 08:00 - 23 minutes - 33.2 MBApply to work with Kristen One of the biggest obstacles people face when making changes in their life is the fear of what other people are going to think of them. They want to change their career, but are worried about what their parents will think. They want to set boundaries but are afraid people will their they’re mean. In today’s episode I’m sharing 4 tips on overcoming the fear of other people’s opinions about you.
Lack Thinking vs Abundant Thinking
December 02, 2020 08:00 - 17 minutes - 24 MBToday we’re talking about the difference between lack thinking and abundant thinking. Lack thinking is “I need to change something so I can feel worthy”. It often creates temporary change. Abundant thinking is “I feel worthy AND I want to change something” and creates sustainable change. Listen in to learn about the difference and how to switch from lack to abundant thinking so you can create the future you want to create. Apply to work with Kristen Sign up for for the mailing lis...
Getting Out Of A Funk
November 25, 2020 08:00 - 16 minutes - 22 MBI’m beginning to book clients to begin in 2021. Click here to set up a free discovery call and fill out an application or go to www.kristenfinch.com You know the feeling....you have a few days in a row where you are KILLING it. You feel inspired and motivated and productive. And then? You wake up and it’s gone. Without a trace. SO annoying...the dreaded FUNK. In today’s episode I’m going to turn your funk upside down by suggesting that there is actually no such thing as a funk. Just a ...
You Can Do Hard Things
November 18, 2020 08:00 - 20 minutes - 27.5 MBApply to work with Kristen If you want to change anything in your life, you're going to have to do something (or lots of things) that feels hard. Your brain, by default, will do annnyyyyything to avoid the hard thing. It just wants you to stay safe....even if that means staying exactly the same. In today's episode, I'm going to teach you what you're going to experience when you DO the hard thing. I'll share with you: ~ what happens before, during and after you do the hard thing ~...
You Are Not Broken And You Don’t Need To Be Fixed
November 11, 2020 08:00 - 24 minutes - 22.1 MBSchedule a consult call here. Gorgeous Soul, You are not broken. You are not a problem to be solved. You are not a project to be fixed. Who you ARE is not fundamentally WRONG....you’ve just believed it because you were taught it. Today I’m sharing three thoughts to move you towards self acceptance: 1. Who you are, how you are wired, is NOT a mistake 2. Other people’s beliefs about WHO YOU SHOULD BE come from their own opinions projected onto you. 3. When you stop believing ...
Feeling Your Feelings
November 04, 2020 08:00 - 19 minutes - 27.1 MBApply to work with Kristen If you want to change something in your life, you're going to have to stop trying to hurry up and FIX your feelings. You're gonna have to FEEL them. In today's episode I share: ~ what feelings actually are ~ why you are afraid to feel your feelings all the way through ~ 3 common thoughts you have about feelings that keep you stuck and what to think instead
Stop Consuming, Start Implementing (AKA: It’s Time to Level Up)
October 28, 2020 07:00 - 14 minutes - 19.7 MBApply to work with Kristen With 100+ episodes under our belt, Show Up and Love is ready for an up-level. BUCKLE UP, BUTTERCUPS. I’m going to level up and teach you more advanced concepts and coach you a little harder. You’re going to level up by becoming an active implementor of the tools that I teach you. If you want to *actually* change your life, you cannot passively consume self-help, personal development or inspirational quotes on the internet...you have to sit down and BECOME...
Throwback: Self Worth
October 21, 2020 07:00 - 34 minutes - 46.8 MBToday’s throwback’s episode is the most downloaded, listened to, commented on episode of all 100 episodes. And there’s a reason: it’s the heart and soul of this podcast, the meat and potatoes of the message I share: WHEN YOU KNOW YOU ARE WORTHY, YOUR LIFE WILL CHANGE. Apply to work with Kristen
Throwback: Boundaries, Bouncers And Self Worth
October 14, 2020 07:00 - 18 minutes - 25.2 MBWork with Kristen When you are working on believing you are worthy, you need to fiercely protect your growth. Today’s throwback episode is all about how to set boundaries.
Throwback Episode: Addicted to Approval
October 07, 2020 07:00 - 21 minutes - 30 MBApply for Kristen's 6 month individualized coaching program Today's episode is a repeat, but for a very specific reason....after celebrating 100 episodes together, we're going to level up. I'm going to start sharing information at a deeper level. I want you to have a solid foundation for some of the key concepts so when I return with brand new episodes, you're ready.