Latest Familysystems Podcast Episodes
Roberta Omin On When the Therapist Becomes the Patient
The Therapy Spot - August 21, 2017 18:33 - 24 minutes ★★★★★ - 32 ratingsWhat happens when a therapist falls seriously ill and has to enter medical treatment? Should therapists share this information with their clients? How can that impact the relationship between therapist and client? To address those questions, I interviewed Roberta Omin, LCSW, who has worked in th...
Out of Change Comes Brilliance: Navigating the Unknown
The Therapy Spot - August 07, 2017 21:34 - 31 minutes ★★★★★ - 32 ratingsLast week, I noticed a trend with my clients: change and transition. Each and every one of them came to me with their anxious parts up, worried about change. I can’t say I blame them. When we’re in transition, it feels like a giant wave has just knocked us off our feet. We flounder in the water,...
Bad Habits and IFS: Change Your Perspective, Change Your Self
The Therapy Spot - July 24, 2017 22:01 - 25 minutes ★★★★★ - 32 ratingsFrances used to bite her fingernails. She tried everything to stop that habit! First, she put stickers on her nails, but she always removed them without even noticing. Then, she painted her nails with a bitter substance, but even the bad taste couldn’t stop her. Naturally, Frances felt extreme...
Horizontal Listening: Is it What You and Your Partner Need? (Hint: Yes!)
The Therapy Spot - July 10, 2017 21:36 - 17 minutes ★★★★★ - 32 ratingsWe don’t always see eye to eye with our partners, and sometimes we have trouble communicating in these situations. Unfortunately, that often leads to conflict between the two of you. Do you end up going “out” with feelings like sadness, anger, or frustration? Or do you go “in,” shut down, and st...
Find Out What IFS Can Do For You — Elizabeth Gilbert Already Did!
The Therapy Spot - June 26, 2017 21:39 - 23 minutes ★★★★★ - 32 ratingsPerhaps best known for her book Eat Pray Love, prolific author Elizabeth Gilbert discussed using the IFS lens in her recent piece on Oprah.com! I love seeing IFS in the media. Elizabeth did some “deep diving” to examine the conflicting emotions she felt in reaction to a friend’s toxic behavio...
The Three Stages of Love: An Interview with Rebecca Neelis
The Therapy Spot - June 13, 2017 00:04 - 21 minutes ★★★★★ - 32 ratingsAs summer blossoms in the northern hemisphere, I see new couples strolling hand in hand during my nature walks. The telltale signs — goofy grins, starry eyes, and constant contact — make new love obvious. Thanks to movies, TV, and Facebook, many of us think of those signs as love itself. In real...
Martha Sweezy, Ph.D., on Shame, Guilt, and Self Compassion
The Therapy Spot - May 29, 2017 23:50 - 36 minutes ★★★★★ - 32 ratingsI welcomed the opportunity to discover what my fellow IFS practitioner Martha Sweezy had to say about shame. Martha weighed in on important issues at the core of shame, such as: What is shame and why is it important? How do we learn to shame ourselves and others? How can criticism and blame...
Practice Makes Perfect, Especially With Self Love
The Therapy Spot - May 22, 2017 18:25 - 21 minutes ★★★★★ - 32 ratingsIf you’ve spent most of your life focusing outward, rather than inward, you’re not alone. Luckily, you can pause, reflect, and connect with yourself. Reflection lets us get to know (and love!) ourselves from the inside out. For more, visit: bethrogerson.com
Take Down Your "Shame Wallpaper" with Self Compassion
The Therapy Spot - May 15, 2017 21:34 - 28 minutes ★★★★★ - 32 ratingsThis week, let’s talk about shame. If you’re like me, you might have a physical reaction just to the word itself! When I read it, I want to curl up into myself and disappear. Since the roots of shame often go back to our childhoods, it might look like the wallpaper — you don’t even notice it ...
Feeling Overwhelmed? It's Time to Take a Time Out!
The Therapy Spot - May 08, 2017 21:47 - 13 minutes ★★★★★ - 32 ratingsDuring our daily lives we might get overwhelmed by many different emotions, such as: Sadness. Perhaps you’ve suffered a loss or an injury and you can’t seem to stop dwelling on it. Frustration. Your co-worker made an error, and now you have to fix it — as if you don’t have enough to do! Ang...
Low on Motivation? Here's Your 3-step Procrastination Prescription
The Therapy Spot - May 02, 2017 00:23 - 21 minutes ★★★★★ - 32 ratingsWe all experience periods of apathy, low mood, or low motivation. These periods can show up in different ways: “The things I need feel far away and out of reach.” “With everything on my plate, I don’t even know where to start — so I never start!” “I know all the things I’m supposed to do, b...
Is Your Relationship Off-Balance? You Might Have Entered a "Mystery Spot"
The Therapy Spot - April 24, 2017 22:02 - 16 minutes ★★★★★ - 32 ratingsHello and welcome back to the Therapy Spot! This week, let’s talk about those times when our relationships go topsy-turvy. Have you and your partner reached the point where you can’t tell up from down or left from right? Have things just stopped making sense? Chances are, you’ve stumbled into a ...
“Real growth happens slowly”: Susan Reyland on Productive Discomfort
The Therapy Spot - April 17, 2017 20:13 - 13 minutes ★★★★★ - 32 ratingsYoung or old, male or female, we have all lived through periods of discomfort. If you’re like me, even the word might make you cringe! The feeling often comes from change, loss, or other disruption to our comfort zone. So, what is productive discomfort? Shouldn’t we avoid that feeling as much as...
What to do When Your Self Critic Becomes a Bully
The Therapy Spot - April 10, 2017 21:40 - 15 minutes ★★★★★ - 32 ratingsDon’t let the name fool you: just like all of your parts, your Self critic means well! Like a sheepdog, it “herds” you over to possible solutions by being critical and judgmental. Those little nips at your heels help keep you out of a rut, and moving forwards. Sometimes, however, this self-cri...
Attention and Presence: Stan Tatkin on Security in Relationships
The Therapy Spot - April 04, 2017 00:58 - 25 minutes ★★★★★ - 32 ratingsHave you ever pulled away from your partner out of fear they might leave you? Or maybe what you really fear is your partner getting too close. Both of these situations arise from insecurity, which can seriously wreak havoc on your relationship. If you’re going through something like this right...
Taking Care of Yourself in a Difficult Relationship
The Therapy Spot - March 28, 2017 10:00 - 21 minutes ★★★★★ - 32 ratingsSometimes, despite our best efforts, we hit a “bump” in our long term relationship that becomes a mountain. Every day, more and more extremes show up, making things harder instead of easier. Just like muscles, our relationships can become inflamed. When the relationship is inflamed, both parti...
The Self Care Platform
The Therapy Spot - March 21, 2017 10:00 - 23 minutes ★★★★★ - 32 ratingsThis episode looks at how you need to actively prioritise taking care of your Self. When you fail to notice that you are exhausted or depleted in some way, things can get out of control. On this week's show, I provide a framework just how to take better care of your Self and encourage you to b...
Don't be Matt and Heather: Stop Resisting Changes in Your Relationship!
The Therapy Spot - March 14, 2017 00:53 - 18 minutes ★★★★★ - 32 ratingsOver time, Matt and Heather's relationship had gotten off course, and Heather’s attempts to “course correct” kept failing. Heather felt frustrated with Matt. “He doesn’t talk to me about important things, or even initiate conversation. Why even try?” Matt, however, felt defeated. “She always...
Stuck in Bad Behavior Patterns? Just Remember: You Are Not a Rat!
The Therapy Spot - March 07, 2017 02:00 - 22 minutes ★★★★★ - 32 ratingsThis week, I’d like to share a piece of wisdom with you. This little tidbit of information holds the key to finally changing behavior in your relationships that just isn't working. Are you ready? Here it is: you are not a rat. Let me explain. For more, visit: bethrogerson.com
A Natural Prescription to Heal Depression
The Therapy Spot - February 28, 2017 11:00 - 38 minutes ★★★★★ - 32 ratingsRe-realeased February 27, 2017 Originally published September 8, 2015 This week’s episode of The Therapy Spot breaks down common misconceptions about the nature of anxiety and depression, and offers 12 ways you can alleviate depression – naturally. For show notes, visit: bethrogerson.com
Feeling Low on Motivation? It's Time to Nurture Your Manager Parts
The Therapy Spot - February 20, 2017 23:19 - 21 minutes ★★★★★ - 32 ratingsHave you ever caught yourself thinking, “It’s just one of those days” as you look over your to-do list? No matter what you do, you just can’t seem to get started on those tasks you know you need to accomplish. You don't feel this way because the tasks on your list are impossible — unless you’...
Fighting With Your Sweetie? Mona Barbera Says, Give Them A Gift
The Therapy Spot - February 13, 2017 21:13 - 21 minutes ★★★★★ - 32 ratingsHello and welcome back to the Therapy Spot, everyone! I’d like to wish each and every one of you a very happy Valentine’s Day. Whether you celebrate with your partner, friends, or your children, today is a wonderful day to express your love. Today, however, I’d like to talk about something a l...
Why Should You Get to Know Your Vulnerable Parts?
The Therapy Spot - February 07, 2017 01:07 - 30 minutes ★★★★★ - 32 ratingsEvery single one of our parts, from firefighters to managers to exiles, only wants to help us. Unfortunately, sometimes we dislike the way they go about it. We may feel scared, or anxious, and try to avoid and ignore those parts. As many of my clients right now could tell you, this is a losing b...
Too Hot? Too Cold? Give Your Relationship A Temperature Check
The Therapy Spot - January 30, 2017 18:33 - 19 minutes ★★★★★ - 32 ratingsWhen it comes to connecting warmly with your partner — that is, not too hot and not too cold — the logical path doesn’t always work. Over time, this may lead to a feeling of isolation between you and your partner. So how do we turn up the connection, keep the kindness, and get the warmth and s...
Stuck in Addiction? You Can Get Unstuck with the Three P's
The Therapy Spot - January 23, 2017 20:31 - 18 minutes ★★★★★ - 32 ratingsA friend of mine quit smoking after many years. People often asked him that age old question: “How did you do it? How did you quit?” His answer: “I had a lot of practice.” Changing your lifestyle isn’t easy — but with the Three P’s, it doesn’t have to be so hard. For more, visit: bethroger...
This Year, Forming New Habits Doesn't Have to be Hard!
The Therapy Spot - January 16, 2017 21:49 - 16 minutes ★★★★★ - 32 ratingsThis week, let's talk about how to adjust our habits. Say that this year, you set the intention to be healthier, stronger, and more active. You envision a routine where you swim twice a week, commit to weight training, and start drinking green smoothies for breakfast. Sounds like a great plan!...
Your Self Care Road Map: Get on the Path to Self Today!
The Therapy Spot - January 09, 2017 23:29 - 22 minutes ★★★★★ - 32 ratingsWith everything else going on in our lives, Self care is a balancing act. When we prioritize taking care of others and completing tasks, we tend to lose sight of ourselves. As a result, we feel less excited, less connected to others, and “checked out” of our lives. Add on travel, time zone chang...
Set Intentions to Create a New Year That Fits You Best
The Therapy Spot - January 02, 2017 22:31 - 15 minutes ★★★★★ - 32 ratingsWelcome back to the Therapy Spot! I hope the first few days of the new year have been full of love for all of you. Here in Sweden, we keep the spirit of the new year alive through January with the traditional farewell God fortsättning. This directly translates to “Good continuance.” I don’t kn...
How to Stop Playing "the Blame Game" in Your Relationship
The Therapy Spot - December 19, 2016 22:47 - 16 minutes ★★★★★ - 32 ratingsRaise your hand if you’re guilty of playing “the blame game” with your spouse or partner. You can’t hear it, but I’m raising my hand too! Whether you call it projection, denial, or displacement, blame is a destructive conflict resolution method. Let's get untangled from that pattern and try some...
Your Anger has Something to Tell You. Do You Know How to Listen?
The Therapy Spot - December 13, 2016 01:02 - 24 minutes ★★★★★ - 32 ratingsHello and welcome back to the Therapy Spot! Now, don’t get mad, but this week I’d like to talk about something you might prefer to ignore. That’s right: even though this time of year is supposed to be about peace on earth and good will towards men, I want to talk about anger. For more, visit: ...
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