All Therapists are Jerks, and . . .
168 episodes - English - Latest episode: 7 months ago - ★★★★★ - 40 ratingsThe quote "All Therapists Are Jerks" from Marsha Linehan, creator of Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), refers to the fallibility agreement within consult groups. The mission of the podcast is to help educate on the use of DBT skills and philosophy and to make them more accessible to the average listener and in particular those with loved ones who struggle with emotion regulation difficulties.
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Episodes
Ep 31. Lessons Learned from Chronic Invalidation
November 30, 2019 21:13 - 15 minutes - 9.48 MBEpisode 31. In this episode, Ulland and Jo discuss three common lessons learned from invalidating environments including confusion, hopelessness and crisis=connection. Jo probably cusses a couple of times. Ulland discloses a shocking detail that he has a friend who is a dentist, and again pretends to know more than he likely does.
Lessons Learned from Chronic Invalidation
November 30, 2019 21:13 - 15 minutes - 9.96 MBEpisode 31. In this episode, Ulland and Jo discuss three common lessons learned from invalidating environments including confusion, hopelessness and crisis=connection. Jo probably cusses a couple of times. Ulland discloses a shocking detail that he has a friend who is a dentist, and again pretends to know more than he likely does.
Ep 30. Biosocial 1.3: Environmental Invalidation
November 27, 2019 05:22 - 35 minutes - 20.6 MBEpisode 30. In this episode, Jo and Ulland redo the biosocial theory—at least the third third. This section covers invalidating environments. This episode also can be found on YouTube under the channel "All Therapists are Jerks".
Biosocial Environmental Invalidation
November 27, 2019 05:22 - 35 minutes - 19.9 MBEpisode 30. In this episode, Jo and Ulland redo the biosocial theory—at least the third third. This section covers invalidating environments.
Biosocial 1.3: Environmental Invalidation
November 27, 2019 05:22 - 35 minutes - 22.2 MBEpisode 30. In this episode, Jo and Ulland redo the biosocial theory—at least the third third. This section covers invalidating environments. This episode also can be found on YouTube under the channel "All Therapists are Jerks".
Ep 29. Biosocial 1.2: Behavioral Dysregulation
November 27, 2019 05:19 - 33 minutes - 18.8 MBEpisode 29. In this episode, Jo and Ulland redo the biosocial theory—at least the second third. This section covers behavioral dysregulation. This episode also can be found on YouTube under the channel "All Therapists are Jerks".
Biosocial 1.2: Behavioral Dysregulation
November 27, 2019 05:19 - 33 minutes - 20.4 MBEpisode 29. In this episode, Jo and Ulland redo the biosocial theory—at least the second third. This section covers behavioral dysregulation. This episode also can be found on YouTube under the channel "All Therapists are Jerks".
Biosocial Behavioral Dysregulation
November 27, 2019 05:19 - 33 minutes - 18.1 MBEpisode 29. In this episode, Jo and Ulland redo the biosocial theory—at least the second third. This section covers behavioral dysregulation.
Ep 28. Biosocial 1.1: Emotion Dysregulation
November 27, 2019 05:16 - 24 minutes - 14.4 MBEpisode 28. In this episode, Jo and Ulland redo the biosocial theory—at least the first third. This section covers emotion dysregulation.This episode also can be found on YouTube under the channel "All Therapists are Jerks".
Biosocial 1.1: Emotion Dysregulation
November 27, 2019 05:16 - 24 minutes - 15.2 MBEpisode 28. In this episode, Jo and Ulland redo the biosocial theory—at least the first third. This section covers emotion dysregulation.This episode also can be found on YouTube under the channel "All Therapists are Jerks".
Biosocial Emotion Dysregulation
November 27, 2019 05:16 - 24 minutes - 13.9 MBEpisode 28. In this episode, Jo and Ulland redo the biosocial theory—at least the first third. This section covers emotion dysregulation.
Difficult Conversations
November 07, 2019 05:05 - 27 minutes - 16.5 MBEpisode 27. In this episode Ulland and Jo review how to have difficult conversations. How to win at tug of war. Maybe keeping the cowl on is a good idea--just in case, Kylo. Much of this episode has to do with how one needs to be aware of one's own ability to regulate in the moment to be effective.
Ep 27. Difficult Conversations
November 07, 2019 05:05 - 27 minutes - 14.7 MBEpisode 27. In this episode Ulland and Jo review how to have difficult conversations. How to win at tug of war. Maybe keeping the cowl on is a good idea--just in case, Kylo. Much of this episode has to do with how one needs to be aware of one's own ability to regulate in the moment to be effective.
Ep 26. Parenting with DBT
November 01, 2019 03:50 - 49 minutes - 28.2 MBEpisode 26. In this episode Ulland and Jo review various skills and principles within DBT that can be used in parenting. Examples are given. Validation and dialects are common themes.
Parenting with DBT
November 01, 2019 03:50 - 49 minutes - 30.7 MBEpisode 26. In this episode Ulland and Jo review various skills and principles within DBT that can be used in parenting. Examples are given. Validation and dialects are common themes.
Relational Dimensions
November 01, 2019 01:59 - 13 minutes - 8.96 MBEpisode 25. In this episode, Ulland and Jo review in the moment interactions through the use of Lorna Smith Benjamin's Interpersonal Reconstructive Psychotherapy. The dimensions are a dialect between disconnection and connection, and control versus emancipation.
Ep 25. Relational Dimensions
November 01, 2019 01:59 - 13 minutes - 8.96 MBEpisode 25. In this episode, Ulland and Jo review in the moment interactions through the use of Lorna Smith Benjamin's Interpersonal Reconstructive Psychotherapy. The dimensions are a dialect between disconnection and connection, and control versus emancipation.
Relational Mindfulness
October 31, 2019 02:25 - 18 minutes - 11.9 MBEpisode 24. In this episode Ulland and Jo review relational mindfulness. Reactivating relationships is central to this episode for relationships that have grown distant with conflict. Jo dishes on an ex-roommate and how she was affected by distance in the relationship. Special continued thanks to Alan Fruzzetti and his training for DBT in family therapy.
Ep 24. Relational Mindfulness
October 31, 2019 02:25 - 18 minutes - 11.3 MBEpisode 24. In this episode Ulland and Jo review relational mindfulness. Reactivating relationships is central to this episode for relationships that have grown distant with conflict. Jo dishes on an ex-roommate and how she was affected by distance in the relationship. Special continued thanks to Alan Fruzzetti and his training for DBT in family therapy.
Parenting Dialects
October 31, 2019 01:38 - 35 minutes - 22.4 MBEpisode 23. In this episode, Ulland and Jo review the common parenting dialects. Several examples are given for normal behavior and pathological behavior. Most examples are from Jo's childhood. Ulland was such a good child. Just ask his Mom.
Ep 23. Parenting Dialects
October 31, 2019 01:38 - 35 minutes - 20.5 MBEpisode 23. In this episode, Ulland and Jo review the common parenting dialects. Several examples are given for normal behavior and pathological behavior. Most examples are from Jo's childhood. Ulland was such a good child. Just ask his Mom.
Dialectical Philosophy
October 29, 2019 04:35 - 35 minutes - 21.8 MBEpisode 22. In this episode Ulland and Jo review dialectical philosophy with examples. Like how common house plants eat humans. How if you could visit yourself in the past you COULD shake your own hand. How everything is connected and there are many ways to view things. Like how difficult it is to define what our essence is. Here uncertainty is sacred. And no mysteries will be solved. Not by us. Not ever.
Ep 22. Dialectical Philosophy
October 29, 2019 04:35 - 35 minutes - 19.8 MBEpisode 22. In this episode Ulland and Jo review dialectical philosophy with examples. Like how common house plants eat humans. How if you could visit yourself in the past you COULD shake your own hand. How everything is connected and there are many ways to view things. Like how difficult it is to define what our essence is. Here uncertainty is sacred. And no mysteries will be solved. Not by us. Not ever.
Gratitude for Listeners
October 29, 2019 03:11 - 11 minutes - 6.16 MBUlland and Jo take a brief moment to express gratitude for listener support of the podcast. We have been podcasting for 8 weeks and have had about 1300 downloads in that time. We are grateful for the opportunity to share something we are passionate about on a platform we did not even consider could be global. We are quite excited about a strong presence in Australia, and even in exotic, non-English speaking northern European countries like Finland, Sweden and Poland. We are enjoying a smat...
Behaviorism
October 27, 2019 16:48 - 58 minutes - 36.2 MBEpisode 21. In this episode Ulland and Jo review behaviorism with some real world examples. Jo talks about peeing in pants, and Ulland encourages micturating on cheerios. Ulland makes a possibly sexist comment revealing he believes gossip magazines are targeting women and that men might not grocery shop as much as women do.
Ep 21. Behaviorism
October 27, 2019 16:48 - 58 minutes - 36.6 MBEpisode 21. In this episode Ulland and Jo review behaviorism with some real world examples. Jo talks about peeing in pants, and Ulland encourages micturating on cheerios. Ulland makes a possibly sexist comment revealing he believes gossip magazines are targeting women and that men might not grocery shop as much as women do.
Ep 20. The Shame Narrative
October 05, 2019 16:51 - 1 hour - 41.8 MBEpisode 20. In this episode Ulland and Jo review attachment theory and how it can be relevant to DBT and working with emotionally reactive individuals. The Positive and Negative Realities and Fantasies are reviewed, and how they are relevant to the secondary targets fo DBT. Multiple clinical and life examples are given. Skills are necessary to move from the Shame Narrative of the Fantasies to the Positive Reality. This can only be accomplished by first moving through the Negative Reality b...
The Shame Narrative
October 05, 2019 16:51 - 1 hour - 41.4 MBEpisode 20. In this episode Ulland and Jo review attachment theory and how it can be relevant to DBT and working with emotionally reactive individuals. The Positive and Negative Realities and Fantasies are reviewed, and how they are relevant to the secondary targets fo DBT. Multiple clinical and life examples are given. Skills are necessary to move from the Shame Narrative of the Fantasies to the Positive Reality. This can only be accomplished by first moving through the Negative Reality b...
The Secondary Targets
October 04, 2019 19:50 - 55 minutes - 28.5 MBEpisode 19. In this episode Ulland and Jo discuss the secondary targets. They are common dialects in the average person and are amplified in times of emotional dysregulation. They are Active Passivity vs. Apparent Competence, Emotional Vulnerability vs. Self-Invalidation, and Unrelenting Crisis vs. Inhibited Grieving. Understanding secondary targets becomes useful for predicting behaviors while also helping with understanding what skills and techniques are most likely to help.
Ep 19. The Secondary Targets
October 04, 2019 19:50 - 55 minutes - 31.8 MBEpisode 19. In this episode Ulland and Jo discuss the secondary targets. They are common dialects in the average person and are amplified in times of emotional dysregulation. They are Active Passivity vs. Apparent Competence, Emotional Vulnerability vs. Self-Invalidation, and Unrelenting Crisis vs. Inhibited Grieving. Understanding secondary targets becomes useful for predicting behaviors while also helping with understanding what skills and techniques are most likely to help.
Ep 18. Accurate Expression of Emotion
September 29, 2019 18:48 - 28 minutes - 17.2 MBEpisode 18. In this episode Ulland and Jo review Accurate Expression of Emotion. They also review primary, secondary, and tertiary emotions. Two examples are given with sadness as the primary emotion. In the examples, shame and anger are the secondary and tertiary emotions experienced. Validation is also important within an emotionally safe relationship so that accurate expression of emotion can occur.
Accurate Expression of Emotion
September 29, 2019 18:48 - 28 minutes - 17.1 MBEpisode 18. In this episode Ulland and Jo review Accurate Expression of Emotion. They also review primary, secondary, and tertiary emotions. Two examples are given with sadness as the primary emotion. In the examples, shame and anger are the secondary and tertiary emotions experienced. Validation is also important within an emotionally safe relationship so that accurate expression of emotion can occur.
Ep 17. Mindfulness of Current Emotion
September 25, 2019 05:00 - 29 minutes - 17.5 MBEpisode 17. In this episode Ulland and Jo review Mindfulness of Current Emotion.
Mindfulness of Current Emotion
September 25, 2019 05:00 - 29 minutes - 17.5 MBEpisode 17. In this episode Ulland and Jo review Mindfulness of Current Emotion.
Conflict Resolution
September 24, 2019 02:26 - 55 minutes - 32.3 MBEpisode 16. In this episode Ulland and Jo review facets of conflict resolution, which includes the use of DEAR MAN and several mindfulness skills as well as accurate expression of emotion to be discussed in a future episode. Ulland and Jo try to resolve the conflict when Jo and crew went to Qdoba Thursday without him. Leaving him all alone with a heaping pile of sadness, tissues and self pity.
Ep 16. Conflict Resolution
September 24, 2019 02:26 - 54 minutes - 31.2 MBEpisode 16. In this episode Ulland and Jo review facets of conflict resolution, which includes the use of DEAR MAN and several mindfulness skills as well as accurate expression of emotion to be discussed in a future episode. Ulland and Jo try to resolve the conflict when Jo and crew went to Qdoba Thursday without him. Leaving him all alone with a heaping pile of sadness, tissues and self pity.
Ep 15. Interpersonal Effectiveness
September 20, 2019 04:44 - 45 minutes - 27.2 MBEpisode 15. In this episode, Ulland and Jo review interpersonal effectiveness. Skills reviewed are DEAR MAN, GIVE and FAST. Examples are given. The content becomes the basis for effective conflict resolution which will be address in the next episode.
Interpersonal Effectiveness
September 20, 2019 04:44 - 45 minutes - 26.8 MBEpisode 15. In this episode, Ulland and Jo review interpersonal effectiveness. Skills reviewed are DEAR MAN, GIVE and FAST. Examples are given. The content becomes the basis for effective conflict resolution which will be address in the next episode.
Levels of Validation
September 19, 2019 04:43 - 35 minutes - 20.3 MBEpisode 14. In this episode Ulland and Jo discuss the levels of validation. Several examples are given.
Ep 14. Levels of Validation
September 19, 2019 04:43 - 35 minutes - 20.8 MBEpisode 14. In this episode Ulland and Jo discuss the levels of validation. Several examples are given.
Ep 13. Validation
September 18, 2019 03:51 - 44 minutes - 26.9 MBEpisode 13. In this episode Ulland and Jo review validation in detail as one of the more important acceptance strategies. Several examples of validation and invalidation are given.
Validation
September 18, 2019 03:51 - 44 minutes - 26.3 MBEpisode 13. In this episode Ulland and Jo review validation in detail as one of the more important acceptance strategies. Several examples of validation and invalidation are given.
The Five Dysregulations
September 17, 2019 03:50 - 29 minutes - 18.2 MBEpisode 12. In this episode Ulland and Jo discuss emotions, thoughts and behaviors within CBT and the addition of relationships and identity as other areas of significant focus within DBT. Examples for the five dysregulations are provided for emotional, behavioral, cognitive, relational, and identity dysregulations.
Ep 12. The Five Dysregulations
September 17, 2019 03:50 - 29 minutes - 18.4 MBEpisode 12. In this episode Ulland and Jo discuss emotions, thoughts and behaviors within CBT and the addition of relationships and identity as other areas of significant focus within DBT. Examples for the five dysregulations are provided for emotional, behavioral, cognitive, relational, and identity dysregulations.
Mindfulness
September 15, 2019 17:02 - 32 minutes - 20 MBEpisode 11. In this episode Ulland and Jo review mindfulness in general and why it is the core skill in DBT, and how it can be helpful for life in general.
Ep 11. Mindfulness
September 15, 2019 17:02 - 32 minutes - 20.5 MBEpisode 11. In this episode Ulland and Jo review mindfulness in general and why it is the core skill in DBT, and how it can be helpful for life in general.
Ep 10. Wise Mind
September 15, 2019 16:58 - 15 minutes - 9.59 MBEpisode 10. In this episode Ulland and Jo discuss Wise Mind, one of the mindfulness skills within DBT.
Wise Mind
September 15, 2019 16:58 - 15 minutes - 9.51 MBEpisode 10. In this episode Ulland and Jo discuss Wise Mind, one of the mindfulness skills within DBT.
Ep 9. The HOW Skills
September 15, 2019 16:57 - 36 minutes - 22.5 MBEpisode 9. In this episode, Ulland and Jo review the HOW Skills of mindfulness which include non judgmentally, one-mindfully, and effectively.
The HOW Skills
September 15, 2019 16:57 - 36 minutes - 22.2 MBEpisode 9. In this episode, Ulland and Jo review the HOW Skills of mindfulness which include non judgmentally, one-mindfully, and effectively.