Feminist Wellness
278 episodes - English - Latest episode: 16 days ago - ★★★★★ - 851 ratingsThe Feminist Wellness podcast offers empowering holistic medicine, psychology and life coaching advice for smart women who believe they can live powerful, fulfilling lives with more self-worth, self-love, and true self-care. Equal parts nervous system science and witchy woo, Victoria brings it all together to help you see how your socialization, conditioning, and family blueprint are keeping you feeling stuck in life.
If you’re ready to shake the codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing thoughts that keep you searching for external validation, putting yourself last and everyone else’s needs and opinions of you first, this is the show for you.
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Ep #122: Unlocking Codependency with Kylie McBeath
June 17, 2021 07:00 - 49 minutes - 40.6 MBI am beyond delighted to share a conversation I had with the remarkable and amazing Kylie McBeath on her podcast Zura Health. Kylie quizzes me on my journey through and away from codependency, and how I help folks do the same. We’re discussing why this work is as vital as it is profound, and where the best place is for you to start if you feel drawn to take it deeper. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/122
Ep #121: Getting Anchored: Negative Self-Talk
June 10, 2021 07:00 - 25 minutes - 21 MBAs always, my goal is to help you see that you can lovingly hit pause when you notice mean self-talk, and instead connect inward, ground yourself, and start creating a new narrative. There is so much to be gleaned from coming to understand the stories you’re using and why, and I’m offering simple steps that will help you free yourself from the negative self-talk patterns that aren’t serving you. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/121
Ep #120: Trauma Therapy and Somatic Practices with Andrea Glik, LCSW
June 03, 2021 07:00 - 54 minutes - 44.4 MBJoin Andrea and me this week as we discuss trauma therapy and where it’s headed these days, the impact of the language we use in the context of trauma, and the difference between being triggered versus activated, just to name a few! Our conversation doesn’t just stop there though, so you don’t want to miss this episode! Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/120
Ep #119: Hurt Feelings: Why You Don’t Need a Thicker Skin
May 27, 2021 07:00 - 14 minutes - 12.3 MBI'm offering you a more truthful and caring approach to experiencing your rich emotional landscape. Developing a thicker skin is the opposite of what you really need, and I’m showing you where to start if you’re struggling to detach yourself from other people’s thoughts and opinions about you. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/119
Ep #118: Getting Anchored: Boundaries
May 20, 2021 07:00 - 34 minutes - 28 MBSetting boundaries isn’t a particularly new concept and you’ve likely heard of them, but it’s possible you’re not using them in a way that serves you. You may believe that setting boundaries is about trying to control other people’s behaviors, but I want to show you how it’s actually a huge act of kindness for yourself and those you love. I challenge you to tune into your body and see why you might not be getting real about the boundaries you want to set in your life. Get full show notes a...
UPDATED: Ep #117: Saying Yes from Obligation: How to Say No from Love
May 13, 2021 07:00 - 18 minutes - 15.4 MBDiscover what’s going on in that beautiful brain of yours when you find yourself saying yes from obligation. I’m sharing why this habit of attempting to please others at your own expense is never sustainable, and what you can consciously decide to do instead to put yourself and your real desires first. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/117
Ep #116: Getting Anchored: Be Your Own Watcher
May 06, 2021 07:00 - 24 minutes - 20.5 MBTune in this week as we kick off with a replay of episode two from way back when! One of the most helpful ways to get anchored in yourself, to see how you can transform your thought patterns and somatic experience of life, is to keep coming back to these tools, to reconnect with these lessons, and to relate in a new and different way that helps you grow even more. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/116
Ep #115: Understanding Beyond Mindset with Lauren Cash
April 29, 2021 07:00 - 49 minutes - 40.2 MBLauren Cash and I discuss the roots of perfectionism, nature versus nurture, and the beauty of recognizing the complexity of our humanity when we’re doing thought work. Lauren also has a scientific background and knows how to bring the fun, so we’re nerding-out about psychology, physiology, and sharing our own stories of getting to the bottom of what’s going on in our brains and our bodies. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/115
Ep #114: Choosing the Wrong People
April 22, 2021 07:00 - 11 minutes - 9.98 MBTune in this week to discover a more feminist, empowering way for you to think about yourself and the people you love. We’re all doing the best we can in any moment, and I love you and believe in you too much to ever think you’re defective, so neither should you. And when you start down this path, I promise you’ll see that there is nothing to gain from beating yourself up for being you. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/114
Ep #113: Of Course They Did!
April 15, 2021 07:00 - 10 minutes - 9.25 MBJoin me this week as I share a super helpful tool that my sister and I came up with years ago to navigate the world together. It’s the most simple and easy concept to start implementing into your life, and it’s going to help you live in true acceptance of the people in your life exactly as they are. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/113
Ep #112: Listener Q&A Volume 2
April 08, 2021 07:00 - 27 minutes - 23.1 MBFrom doing the work of overcoming codependency when your partner actively uses substances to learning how to trust your intuition, and whether thought work applies to those of you with an ADHD diagnosis, I’m exploring it all. So join me today and please keep those questions coming in! Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/112
Ep #111: Curiosity
April 01, 2021 07:00 - 22 minutes - 18.4 MBJoin me on the podcast this week as I show you the power of curiosity and how it steers you in the direction of living with intention, trusting yourself, and getting your needs met. This is truly the key to fully seeing and changing the habit of externalizing your self-worth, and I’m offering guiding questions here for you to start inviting this energy of not knowing into your life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/111
Ep #110: Codependent Friendships
March 25, 2021 07:00 - 26 minutes - 22 MBWhen we’ve been living with codependent habits, building healthy relationships can be challenging. To help you along today, I’m sharing the red flags to look out for that signal a codependent friendship, and as always, how to remedy it. I’m inviting you to start visualizing what a more balanced and healthy connection could look like and what is required of you to start that process right now. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/110
Ep #109: Somatics: Living From Your Neck Down
March 18, 2021 07:00 - 34 minutes - 28.5 MBListen in this week to discover how you might currently be disconnected and disembodied. I’m sharing how the somatic framework can provide the space for your mind-body connection to be understood on a deeper level, and how it has helped me anchor and come home to myself to live an intentional and aligned life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/109
Ep #108: Wanting a Goal vs. Wanting a Feeling
March 11, 2021 08:00 - 20 minutes - 17.4 MBJoin me on the podcast this week as I show you why the notion of telling yourself you’ll be happy or worthy when you get “there” is so problematic, and what to do instead to create sustainable, life-long healing and shift out of your default thinking patterns. I’m inviting you to try a practice of checking in with your heart’s wildest desires and to see how you can cultivate that feeling within yourself right now. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/108
Ep #107: Thought Work 101
March 04, 2021 08:00 - 19 minutes - 16.6 MBJoin me today to discover what the thought work protocol entails and how our thoughts lead to our results. For those of us living with codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits, having this framework not only illuminates the stories and social conditioning that are running unconsciously, but it gives us the tools to attend to ourselves with the level of love and care we are truly worthy of. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/107
Ep #106: Self-Sacrifice
February 25, 2021 08:00 - 26 minutes - 21.6 MBListen in this week to discover what keeps us in a cycle of self-sacrifice and the remedies to help you stop putting yourself last. Doing the work of believing you are worthy of everything you want and need is not easy, but I promise it is so worth it, and I’m sharing how you can start figuring it out for yourself. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/106
Ep #105: Buffering vs. Conscious Distraction
February 18, 2021 08:00 - 32 minutes - 26.8 MBTune in this week to discover the difference between buffering and conscious distraction. Taking a moment to intentionally distract from a powerful emotion helps you use your physiology to your benefit, and I’m showing you the hints from your mind and body that signal you may need a break, and some of my favorite easy ways of doing this in my own life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/105
Ep #104: Pressured Perfectionist Procrastination
February 11, 2021 08:00 - 20 minutes - 16.7 MBJoin me this week to discover what the pressured procrastination story often looks like and why it drives you to put things off until the very last minute. If this is a life-long habit that has been integral to the way you function, I assure you there is another way. So as always, I’m laying out the remedy so you can show up without pressure, to let self-love guide you instead. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/104
Ep #103: Meditation Doesn’t Work for Everyone
February 04, 2021 08:00 - 24 minutes - 20.3 MBTune in this week to discover why dropping into your emotions and body can feel dangerous, and why the frame in which you think about meditation might be making your experience of it even more excruciating. I’m showing you what you may need if meditation isn’t working for you right now, and the alternatives you can try instead to ease into the practice of building up mindfulness. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/103
Ep #102: What if It’s Not a Problem?
January 28, 2021 08:00 - 22 minutes - 19 MBListen in this week as I show you why habitually calling something a problem is a common tendency in codependent thinkers, and the work required for you to shift your mind and energy to see the alternative. I’m sharing the antidote so you can start seeing the possibilities available for you when you stop living life filled with urgency, pressure, and worry. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/102
Ep #101: Managing Other People’s Emotions
January 21, 2021 08:00 - 24 minutes - 20.4 MBListen in this week to discover why trying to manage other people’s emotions is not actually a caring thing to do, and how you're lying to yourself if you believe it is. I’m showing you how supporting those you love lies in honoring their real feelings, and I’m sharing the remedies you can use to begin to reprogram the code that tells you it is your job to fix or change their emotions. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/101
Ep #100: My Biggest Takeaways
January 14, 2021 08:00 - 26 minutes - 21.6 MBLife is full of beautiful, intense, confusing, and challenging lessons, seven of which I will be sharing with you all in today’s episode. These are the biggest takeaways I found on the road to reclaiming my body, mind, and spirit; the road to overcoming codependency and knowing my worth and value. I hope my life lessons inspire you to remember all the ways you’ve grown too. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/100
Ep #99: The Perfect Time for Your Dreams is Now
January 07, 2021 08:00 - 19 minutes - 16.5 MBMy loves, the perfect time for your dreams is right now. I’m showing you the science behind why we often choose the path of least resistance, and how to start rewriting the stories that are keeping you stuck in the perfectionistic waiting game so that you can stop putting off pursuing your dreams. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/99
Ep #98: The Power of Yet
December 31, 2020 08:00 - 20 minutes - 17.2 MBIf you want to learn how to start doing something new for yourself with peace, self-love, and dedication to your own growth, listen in. The gut-punching fear of trying something new is totally normal, and I’m sharing the remedies and the most important tool that will reframe how you approach doing something you’ve never done before and may even guide you in celebrating failure along the way. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/98
Ep #97: Believing in Your Goals, Believing in Yourself
December 24, 2020 08:00 - 38 minutes - 31.2 MBJoin me this week as I urge you to set realistic goals that honor your humanity, instead of the perfectionist thought fantasy goals that often leave you exhausted, frozen, and stuck. Believing in yourself and your dreams is something you truly deserve, and I’m showing you how to start this practice in this episode. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/97
Ep #96: Why Celebrating Matters
December 17, 2020 08:00 - 31 minutes - 25.6 MBListen in this week to discover how prioritizing celebrating yourself breaks through habits that might not be serving you right now. You deserve to celebrate every moment because they add up to a life of learning to put yourself first, and that is the most important work you can do for yourself. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/96
Ep #95: Getting Real About How You Feel
December 10, 2020 08:00 - 29 minutes - 24 MBListen in this week as I show you why it’s okay for things to feel terrible and how so many of us often try to see the bright side when things suck. I’m calling BS on this, and instead, I’m inviting you to prioritize acknowledging what’s hard, how it’s impacting you, and getting real about how you feel. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/95
Ep #94: Empaths and Other People’s Emotions
December 03, 2020 08:00 - 23 minutes - 19.7 MBJoin me on the podcast this week as I outline the experience of being an empath that I see in my clients, and why this is completely normal, even if you don’t identify as an empath but have these tendencies. This ability can be absolutely delightful, but as always, I’m offering a few remedies today for when it isn’t serving you in your life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/94
Ep #93: Pleasure
November 26, 2020 08:00 - 31 minutes - 26.1 MBJoin me on the podcast this week as I demonstrate what true pleasure means, and why we’ve all been sold this false story about its importance and the role it plays in our lives. It’s challenging work to start experiencing pleasure and embracing it without guilt or shame, and I’m inviting you to try it out today. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/93
Ep #92: Radical Self-Responsibility
November 19, 2020 08:00 - 33 minutes - 27.5 MBJoin me on the podcast this week as I show you the power of taking radical self-responsibility and 5 remedies that will help you start doing so. Shifting into a place of ownership is so empowering, and practicing this will help you live with wild presence and intention. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/92
Ep #91: Listener Q&A Volume 1
November 12, 2020 08:00 - 43 minutes - 35.5 MBTune in this week as I address some common questions around using the thought work protocol and demonstrate how codependency, people-pleasing, and perfectionism can all play such huge roles in many of the problems you face in your day-to-day lives. And if you have a question for me that you’d like some coaching around, make sure to get in touch! Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/91
Ep #90: Overthinking Doesn’t Make You More Prepared
November 05, 2020 08:00 - 23 minutes - 33.3 MBTune in this week as I share all the tools and resources I’ve used over the years to support myself when I notice my brain overthinking. It’s a classic thought habit for those of us with codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing tendencies, and I’m outlining the action steps you can take to show yourself love and care when your brain starts looping in overthinking. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/90
Ep #89: Why Complaining Never Helps
October 29, 2020 07:00 - 28 minutes - 40.5 MBListen in this week as I show you why complaining never serves you, and how to navigate life when things aren’t what you want them to be. I’m outlining a few key questions you can ask to identify if you’re complaining, so you can make the intentional choice to do something different with your precious time and energy. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/89
Ep #88: False Positivity
October 22, 2020 07:00 - 27 minutes - 22.8 MBListen in this week to discover the hazards of false positivity and how to start acknowledging the truth of your feelings instead. This habit is just your loving brain’s way of trying to protect you, but it’s causing you to push away your real struggles, blocking yourself from finding true, long-lasting solutions and living with intention. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/88
Ep #87: Saying What You Mean & Believing Other People
October 15, 2020 07:00 - 19 minutes - 28.1 MBWhen you’ve lived your life deferring your decisions to other people in an attempt to keep them happy, declaring your true desires and needs can be challenging, to say the least. Having spent a lifetime of not directly communicating also means it’s a struggle to believe what other people tell you, and today, we’re diving into how these habits are not serving you. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/87
Ep #86: Rejection Has Nothing to Do with Your Worth
October 08, 2020 07:00 - 28 minutes - 40 MBListen in this week as I share why rejection hurts so much and how it’s holding you back in your life. Staying in fear of rejection is no way to live, my darling, and it’s certainly not the path to living with intention, so I’m showing you how you can reframe it for yourself with a step-by-step remedy. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/86
Ep #85: Guilt Guilt Guilt!
October 01, 2020 07:00 - 20 minutes - 29.3 MBListen in this week to discover the difference between guilt that is helpful to experience versus beating yourself up. Creating guilt around every inconsequential thing you do or say doesn’t drive self-loving action, so I’m inviting you to bring your awareness inward, to pause, and to ask if the guilt story you’re telling yourself is serving you. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/85
Ep #84: Living with Intention
September 24, 2020 07:00 - 33 minutes - 27.2 MBJoin me this week as I show you what living with intention means, and what unintentional living often looks like. You might feel right now that you don’t have the capacity to make bold decisions or to take courageous action, so I’m offering you some guiding questions that will help you identify what you want in every aspect of your life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/84
Ep #83: Constraint of Thought
September 17, 2020 07:00 - 33 minutes - 27.6 MBJoin me this week to discover what constraint of thought means and how it touches on every aspect of healing codependency, perfectionism, and people-pleasing. Constraining your thoughts is actually freeing and allows you to live more expansively, and I can’t wait for you to see how transformative it can be in your own life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/83
Ep #82: Urges: Restricting vs. Allowing
September 10, 2020 07:00 - 33 minutes - 27.5 MBListen in this week to discover why your self-worth isn’t based on doing the “right” things and how the thought pattern of restriction is playing out in your life. The more you can learn to build internal trust by allowing your urges and making informed choices, you’ll find that you are able to ride the waves when they appear, instead of letting them drown you. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/82
Ep #81: The Science Behind Feeling Stuck
September 03, 2020 07:00 - 39 minutes - 32.6 MBJoin me this week as I outline the 3 reasons why you might feel stuck right now. I’ll be showing you how looking at this through the lens of our polyvagal nervous system can help us truly understand why this happens, and as always, I’ll be sharing my remedies to close out the show, so that you can start working with your sweet protector responses, instead of against them. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/81
Ep #80: Healing Isn’t Linear
August 27, 2020 07:00 - 27 minutes - 22.5 MBJoin me this week as I show you the true goal of healing work, and how you can support your healing journey by always coming back to you and opening up space for curiosity. You have an unending capacity to ground, love, and care for yourself, and I hope this episode serves to guide you along the way. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/80
Ep #79: Conflict Avoidance
August 20, 2020 07:00 - 28 minutes - 23.2 MBJoin me this week as I show you what it means to be conflict-avoidant, and as always, share the remedies to this thought habit. You get to be mindful of times where you’re shrinking away, less worried about the fallout that could happen, and reparent yourself to recognize that you are safe with the steps that I’m laying out for you here today. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/79
Ep #78: Minimum Baseline Thinking
August 13, 2020 07:00 - 24 minutes - 20.2 MBListen in today to discover how you can start making the minimum baseline a consistent practice. Your inner perfectionist is likely going to kick up a fuss, objecting to the tiny commitments you start making for yourself, but I guarantee that implementing this technique will completely transform your relationship with yourself, and from there, you’ll be able to follow through on new commitments and goals from a place of true self-love. Get full show notes and more information here: https:/...
Ep #77: Self-Care: Have Your Dinner Before Dessert
August 06, 2020 07:00 - 22 minutes - 19 MBListen in today as I give you a new framework for thinking about self-care. It doesn’t have to look like a spa day, as is commonly represented to us, but just an act of prioritizing stillness however you can in your life. I’ll be outlining the ways in which codependency, perfectionism, and people-pleasing thought habits often disconnect us from our true wants and needs, and how to start filling your cup up first so you can then be of service from a place of overflow. Get full show notes an...
BONUS: How to Get Rid of Perfectionist Programming in Your Brain
August 05, 2020 18:51 - 1 minute - 1.91 MBJoin Victoria a free webinar all about how you can Overcome Perfectionism - Aug 12th 2020 7 pm ET/4 pm PT - sign up at VictoriaAlbina.com/perfectionismwebinar
Ep #76: Acceptance and Closure
July 30, 2020 07:00 - 43 minutes - 35.9 MBWelcome to the final installment of my mini-series on apologizing. Over the last few weeks, we’ve taken a really deep dive into the anatomy of apologies and mastering the language of apologies, and today, I’ll be sharing what to do if someone won’t accept your apology, how to accept an apology yourself, and how to give yourself closure when you don’t get the apology you want. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/76
Ep #75: Mastering the Language of Apologies
July 23, 2020 07:00 - 37 minutes - 30.7 MBListen in this week as we explore the language around the resistance to apologizing, the importance of recognizing the difference between intent and impact, and the reframing of some common terms we use so that we can find our power and strength. This process is all about practicing apologizing in a way that serves you, and not about perfecting it or doing it "better," so you can step into living an intentional life with radical self-love every day. Get full show notes and more information...
Ep #74: The Dangers of False Pre-Apologies
July 16, 2020 07:00 - 35 minutes - 29.3 MBJoin me on the podcast today as I show you what false pre-apologizing is and why we do it. It can show up in so many different ways, and it’s crucial to investigate the impact this behavior has on us. There is never a need to falsely pre-apologize, and I’m showing you why and how doing this is so disempowering. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/74