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Back to Basics! Somatic Experiencing: Safety and self-Advocacy in Finding the Right Provider
Complex PTSD Recovery: We Are Traumatized Motherfuckers - July 05, 2024 14:21 - 23 minutes ★★★★★ - 152 ratingsFinding a practitioner for safe Somatic Experiencing is half the battle. Here are 5 easy S's to use as a guide. Free video version. Subscribe as a free member on patreon to get all the bonus freebies delivered to your inbox! Or choose your tier of choice when you're ready for the 400+ episod...
Transcripted Video! Back to Basics: Embodiment Tips and Tricks
Complex PTSD Recovery: We Are Traumatized Motherfuckers - June 30, 2024 14:02 - 1 hour ★★★★★ - 152 ratingsThe real challenge in Somatic Experiencing? In CPTSD it means "working through the memory of being you." Here are my embodiment tips and tricks, hopefully lending some ideas about how to aid yourself in that effort.
Back to Basics: Somatic Experiencing
Complex PTSD Recovery: We Are Traumatized Motherfuckers - June 29, 2024 10:29 - 27 minutes ★★★★★ - 152 ratingsWhat IS somatic experiencing, and how necessary is it for recovery? It's a complex topic for the complex-PTSDers - let's start the conversation. https://www.patreon.com/posts/106982208/
4.6. Acting out, Help-rejecting complaining, and Passive aggression; The (most) Immature Defenses
Complex PTSD Recovery: We Are Traumatized Motherfuckers - June 27, 2024 10:23 - 27 minutes ★★★★★ - 152 ratingsReady to learn about the maladaptive tendencies of your most difficult relational partners? When we don't believe we're "entitled" to a need or emotion, we vent it into (unwise) action. Let's discuss the immature cognitive patterns we/others may still be utilizing to keep our brains "safe." We'l...
Back to Basics: Defining "Mindfulness, MetaCognition, and Traumatic Training"
Complex PTSD Recovery: We Are Traumatized Motherfuckers - June 21, 2024 14:35 - 54 minutes ★★★★★ - 152 ratingsIn our last BtB episode I used some poorly-understood words. Let's define "Mindfulness," "MetaCognition," and "Traumatic Training" as we use a common example of a traumatic lesson-turned-maladaptive-habit that rails so many of us: emotions = punishment. Git ready for another holistic discussio...
The Basics of Trauma Recovery
Complex PTSD Recovery: We Are Traumatized Motherfuckers - June 15, 2024 11:56 - 59 minutes ★★★★★ - 152 ratingsFree to all! It's been pretty "advanced" round here. Let's take ten steps back and outline the 7 pointers everyone REALLY needs to know about PTSD and brain rewiring.
PS - Capitalistic and Narcissistic self-Defense Mechanisms
Complex PTSD Recovery: We Are Traumatized Motherfuckers - June 13, 2024 11:39 - 11 minutes ★★★★★ - 152 ratingsA BONUS for ya, as we start talking about defense mechanisms. We take on roles of employer or employee, and the defense mechanisms that allow us to maintain our assigned roles "for safety" flow from there. CHEERS FUCKERS
4.5 Narcs, Defense Mechanisms, & (non)Recovery: Intellectualizing, Rationalizing, and Reactionary Decision Making
Complex PTSD Recovery: We Are Traumatized Motherfuckers - May 28, 2024 22:44 - 27 minutes ★★★★★ - 152 ratingsWe've learned that narcs don't generally recover because of their "creative narration" abilities. Now, let's talk about some of the ways they spin those stories. Today, we start our examination of self-defense mechanisms by looking at the purposes of Intellectualization and Rationalization. Then...
4.4. Pathological Structuring of Narcissists (Or, No Integrity without Integration)
Complex PTSD Recovery: We Are Traumatized Motherfuckers - April 24, 2024 21:08 - 22 minutes ★★★★★ - 152 ratingsThey'll shake your hand while pissing on your leg, plead and then pulverize promises, and generally give the sense that they're one hundred people who share a face. But why? Let's talk about narcissist personality structuring that ranges from neurotic to psychopathic, but never hits the mark of...
"Feel good about yourself." For Real. Building self Esteem x Parts Work
Complex PTSD Recovery: We Are Traumatized Motherfuckers - April 17, 2024 13:31 - 42 minutes ★★★★★ - 152 ratingsFrom the private Patreon stream, a special release epiaode! "Just feel good about yourself!" Great. Except your brain was drafted uponst narratives of self-derogation for 'safety.' So, now what? Let's talk about using the concept of adaptive narcissism and the self-supporting traits it encompas...
4.3. Healing with "Adaptive Narcissism" and Uniqueness | Leveraging Stigma for Permissive self-Healing
Complex PTSD Recovery: We Are Traumatized Motherfuckers - March 27, 2024 11:06 - 40 minutes ★★★★★ - 152 ratings"Just feel good about your authentic self and don't let anyone wreck your recognition of specialness." Right. Let's talk about what may be holding us back from achieving this safe, centered, self-supportive, resilience-boosting psychological station, and the easiest way to achieve the "healthy s...
4.2. Filial Obligation Narratives, Ambivalence, Perception, and Guilt
Complex PTSD Recovery: We Are Traumatized Motherfuckers - February 22, 2024 22:58 - 24 minutes ★★★★★ - 152 ratingsWhy is the decision to sacrifice or save our brains so difficult to make? Let's talk about subconscious narratives we probably all carry, the ambivalence-guilt connection, and the power of perception on caregiving burden. Find the transcript at t-mfrs.com Looking for the 9 full episodes on th...
4.1. Making of a Vulnerable Narcissist
Complex PTSD Recovery: We Are Traumatized Motherfuckers - January 30, 2024 21:30 - 19 minutes ★★★★★ - 152 ratingsA big 'nouncement; so long TMFRS! Then let's talk about what constitutes a VulNarc versus "a person with CPTSD." Where does the chronic manipulation come from? How are recovery resources used for trauma-unhealing? What's up with the hostility and antagonism? . Lots to cover in this mashup of "...
3.12b. Sex on Parts and Survival Programs
Complex PTSD Recovery: We Are Traumatized Motherfuckers - December 15, 2023 13:59 - 24 minutes ★★★★★ - 152 ratingsThis year we spoke about Intimacy. Now it's time to confront *Intimacy.* Let's look at the discrepant programs that live inside of us, gathered across a lifetime of adaptation to extreme events and unhealthy narratives. We're talking Sexual Healing vs. Internal Family Systems and deprived needs....
3.12a. Transference, Projection, Monkey-barring, Displacement
Complex PTSD Recovery: We Are Traumatized Motherfuckers - December 11, 2023 17:57 - 21 minutes ★★★★★ - 152 ratingsWe're tying up loose ends in our discussion of relationships! Today, discussing the cognitive copy-pastes we accidentally carry out between past and present relationships - and they ways they set us back in our recovery goals while creating abusive dynamics. Need more thoughts about transferen...
Self-abandonment vs your best Spanksgiving
Complex PTSD Recovery: We Are Traumatized Motherfuckers - November 22, 2023 17:17 - 34 minutes ★★★★★ - 152 ratingsLet's cut the brainy shit, the real answer to surviving the holidays is not abandoning yourself. Need more holiday support? Don't we all. For all the other holiday freebies, just hit up patreon.com/traumatizedmotherfuckers. Search "holiday" to find releases from the past for no cost, or subscri...
3.11. Ten Destructive Responses that Set Off Trauma Defenses
Complex PTSD Recovery: We Are Traumatized Motherfuckers - November 03, 2023 10:44 - 47 minutes ★★★★★ - 152 ratingsBack to NonViolent Communication! Here are 10 things the experts say destroy our attempts at vulnerable disclosures and requests. Just in time for the holidays, let's talk about why these conversational reactions burn our t-brains and why people are programmed to use them, anyways. For the ful...
3.10. Chronic deprivation, self-sabotage, psychosomatic illness, and abuse dynamics
Complex PTSD Recovery: We Are Traumatized Motherfuckers - October 20, 2023 11:47 - 32 minutes ★★★★★ - 152 ratingsWe learn to neglect ourselves at an early age and then everything goes to hell forever after. Stuck in unfixable suffering, toiling away with ineffectual attempts to comfort ourselves, and possibly... destroying our own lives, in an attempt to end the self-deprivation through backdoor methods. ...
3.9b Ending Deprivation and Rehabbing yer Brain with NonViolent Communication
Complex PTSD Recovery: We Are Traumatized Motherfuckers - September 29, 2023 10:54 - 27 minutes ★★★★★ - 152 ratings"Depression is the reward we get for being good children." NVC helps yer relationships, sure. But it'll also rewire your t-brain trashhabits, emotional misunderstandings, and shit perspectives if you use it solo. Let's talk about the roots of the worst of us; our unmet needs and beliefs that d...
3.9a NonViolent (Effective) Communication
Complex PTSD Recovery: We Are Traumatized Motherfuckers - September 15, 2023 10:18 - 36 minutes ★★★★★ - 152 ratingsEver feel "unheard"? Well, here's the key to getting your point across and sparking collaboration rather than opposition. Today, we're talking about NonViolent Communication (NVC) - the 4 step framework for communicating effectively about emotions and unmet needs without stimulating defensive...
3.8b. Shitpologies (AKA non-apology apologies)
Complex PTSD Recovery: We Are Traumatized Motherfuckers - September 01, 2023 16:28 - 23 minutes ★★★★★ - 152 ratingsSo, how do we apologize "the right way"... Rather than creating MORE damage through half-assed "I'm sorrys"? Today, let's talk about the 5 points for offering a real apology for sake of true relational healing... And four examples of how NOT to apologize, unless you actually want to make the em...
3.8a. The Key to Healing Relational Ruptures (and two people)
Complex PTSD Recovery: We Are Traumatized Motherfuckers - August 16, 2023 18:34 - 17 minutes ★★★★★ - 152 ratingsHow DO we heal what's been broken? I've got a short phrase for you - it's what we've all needed to hear all along. And let's talk about the timeless wounds patched up by real apologies, as we prepare to talk about shitty apologies next time. Hail yerSelf and Cheers Fuckers. Git the transcrip...
Extra "survival Fs" to give in relationship; Fronting and Feigning
Complex PTSD Recovery: We Are Traumatized Motherfuckers - July 27, 2023 11:24 - 28 minutes ★★★★★ - 152 ratingsWe all know about the 4 survival Fs at this point. But how about the additional F reactions- Fronting and Feigning? Let's talk about learned reactions that keep us feeling safe in relationship... while rotting out the connection, engaging manipulation tactics, and using fear as a self-defense. ...
3.7. Determining "Are they a good relational partner?" before committing
Complex PTSD Recovery: We Are Traumatized Motherfuckers - July 15, 2023 16:29 - 33 minutes ★★★★★ - 152 ratingsWe've talked a lot about committing fully to relationships and overcoming our conflicts together, through examining the subconscious wounds that actually underly our relational upsets. But here's my question: Is that realistic? Today, we talk about getting clearer on the contents of our poten...
Mailbag! Episodic memory integration, internal recalibration, borderline fears, and beyond
Complex PTSD Recovery: We Are Traumatized Motherfuckers - June 27, 2023 10:58 - 51 minutes ★★★★★ - 152 ratingsLet's run through a bunch of messages today, and end on a trauma recovery inspired tune - sent by a gifted MF putting their skills to good use for all of us. We'll talk about fearing borderline diagnoses, redesigning life to meet our recovery needs, the utility of journaling and trauma narration...
3.6b Overcoming spiraling conflicts in trauma-impacted relationships
Complex PTSD Recovery: We Are Traumatized Motherfuckers - June 16, 2023 12:56 - 27 minutes ★★★★★ - 152 ratingsEver feel like "the issue" isn't really "the issue" in relational conflict? That's because the real issue is buried under layers of protective instincts that keep us unable to fully connect or communicate... but very capable of fighting, endlessly. Let's talk about "conscious relationships" and...
3.6a. Lost love and authentic connection; the fragmented brain explanation
Complex PTSD Recovery: We Are Traumatized Motherfuckers - June 05, 2023 11:41 - 28 minutes ★★★★★ - 152 ratingsWhy do we start close relationships and love connections feeling one way... only to watch them disintegrate, become survival-based, and turn into "resentment"? Let's walk through the easiest explanation ever told; pulling in our Internal Family Systems education to discuss the greatest relatio...
3.6 Lost love and authentic connection; the fragmented brain explanation
Complex PTSD Recovery: We Are Traumatized Motherfuckers - June 05, 2023 11:41 - 28 minutes ★★★★★ - 152 ratingsWhy do we start close relationships and love connections feeling one way... only to watch them disintegrate, become survival-based, and turn into "resentment"? Let's walk through the easiest explanation ever told; pulling in our Internal Family Systems education to discuss the greatest relatio...
Mailbag! "I feel unfixably 'wrong' and sabotage everything"
Complex PTSD Recovery: We Are Traumatized Motherfuckers - May 25, 2023 16:54 - 40 minutes ★★★★★ - 152 ratingsThe perfect email to reflect the topic of the month - needing to understand our own unconscious brains before we set them loose on others - is here! Let's hear from a young listener out of Ohio (sorry) who asks about the continual feeling of "wrongness" that's been birthed from {TW} childhood se...
Early lessons in relational danger: "When the perp is your savior" by Leanne
Complex PTSD Recovery: We Are Traumatized Motherfuckers - May 19, 2023 12:29 - 26 minutes ★★★★★ - 152 ratingsSo we're littered with vulnerability and trust issues... and plenty of recentish events can dominate our reasoning about "why." But really, those interpersonal shuttdown instincts likely started a lot earlier. We carry unseen wounds from decades ago that stack up to create sky-high obstacles t...
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