All We Cannot Say
48 episodes - English - Latest episode: about 4 years ago -A podcast about love, sex, joy and heartbreak.
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43: All Things Yoni with Rosie Rees
April 28, 2020 09:14 - 1 hour - 88 MBRosie Rees is a sex toy entrepreneur, taboo trail-blazer and social media button-pusher. She is the creator of Yoni Pleasure Palace, founder of the Women's Nude Yoga and one of Australia's leading Sex & Relationship Coaches. Rosie believes that getting naked - both physically and non-physically - is the key to self acceptance, healing body image and creating lasting relationships. Based in Perth, Western Australia, Rosie also normalises same-sex families and advocates early-childhood sex ...
Virtual Domination with Papaya Day Truly
March 17, 2020 06:59 - 55 minutes - 76.6 MBEverything is about sex. Except sex. Sex is about power. And this applies particularly so to the erotic art of BDSM, an ancient realm of knowledge from which the feminine archetype of the dominatrix is born. Otherwise known as a domme, she enjoys taking control and how to wield her psycho-sexual power. In this episode, we talk to Papaya Day Truly, a modern domme based in Hawaii. Papaya Day Truly offers digital domination (or virtual domination) to men who want to improve the quality of the...
The Surprising Truths About STIs with Jenelle Pierce
February 11, 2020 05:36 - 1 hour - 104 MBHave you ever wondered what the most common symptoms of an STI are? Or what the difference between an STI or an STD is? Or where to get properly tested for an STI? In this episode we’re speaking with Jenelle Pierce of the STI Project, a non-profit organisation that seeks to prevent modern-day STIs and to break down STI stigma. Jenelle contracted herpes when she was 16-years-old, and in 2012, quit her job as an accountant to fulfil her purpose full-time. Jenelle Marie Pierce (she/her) is...
Redefining Sensuality with Eleanor Hadley
January 28, 2020 09:13 - 1 hour - 86.1 MBEleanor Hadley is on a mission to redefine sensuality and what it means to be a sensual being. The creator of Sensual Yoga, she’s also an ex pole dance instructor/studio owner, and has a background in community development. She combines her passion for movement, sensuality, femininity, self love and healing to help others feel more connected, powerful and whole. The story behind Sensual Yoga Transformations after a break up Exploring an integrative approach to sexual wellness Colonic ...
Reigniting Desire with Kaycee Polite
January 28, 2020 08:04 - 53 minutes - 73.7 MBKaycee Polite is a licensed sex therapist and social worker from Texas with an infectious enthusiasm for pleasure and sexual health. She’s been sharing this passion with her clients for over 18 years, always pushing the agenda of experiencing pleasure, sexual health and the importance of how to communicate sexual needs. In addition to her work as a sex therapist, she has experience addressing issues of depression, anxiety, bi-polar disorder, personality disorders, and has spent the pas...
38: All the Fucking Mistakes With Gigi Engle
January 28, 2020 07:00 - 43 minutes - 59.9 MBGigi Engle is back for the season five launch of All We Cannot Say. Sexologist and now a published author, Gigi is a writer and sex-positive professional who preaches confidence, feminism and unabashed pleasure-seeking. She’s no Carrie Bradshaw – she’s authentic, unfiltered and 100% funnier. In today’s episode, we talk about: Being a freelance writer and moving from New York to Chicago to London Her journey from journalist to certified sexologist and sex educator Taylor Swift’s eg...
37: Good Hard Fun with Fine Bone
August 08, 2018 05:06 - 58 minutes - 80.9 MBWith a litany of erotic accoutrements to pique our fascination and adventurous side, we're spoiled for choice now more than ever. But what if the best sex toys of all were simple, accessible, and made ethically? It's a question Ffion set out to answer 5 years ago when she launched Fine Bone. The goal? To create the perfect porcelain dildo for everyone with a vagina. After sampling several prototypes and asking friends to test-drive each, Prudence was born – a body safe, porcelain dildo th...
36: Five books to love or hate this season
July 25, 2018 01:06 - 25 minutes - 34.8 MBAside from filling my brain with audio material to expand my love and sex life, books are my favourite source of knowledge. So in this solo episode of All We Cannot Say, I decided to review a handful of books that have impacted my beliefs in the past year. In this episode, I talk about: Your chance to win $100! Simply complete the audience survey to go in the draw. Temporarily Yours by Elizabeth Bernstein – a great intro to the politics of modern sex work. Becoming Wise by Krista T...
35: How to foster empathy for more meaningful conversations with Kate Kenfield
July 03, 2018 12:06 - 1 hour - 87.1 MBWe’re often taught that listening is the key to a meaningful, expansive conversation. But I’d like to extend our emotional skillset further – empathy is the key to connection and richer relationships. Yet isn’t empathy something that’s we’re intrinsically inclined to do? Aren't we taught how to show empathy through lived experience? Not necessarily so. In fact, empathy is a skill that must be mastered and cultivated, much like learning an instrument. This is where Kate Kenfield’s work b...
34: Tantra for the rest of us with Sarrah Rose
June 20, 2018 07:47 - 58 minutes - 80.7 MBTantra is an ancient art that conjures up a whole range of descriptions. And as an ancient art, for some its application and meaning is not so easy to grasp. So what is Tantra? After 2 years of debating whether I was ready to explore Tantra on this podcast, Sarrah Rose reached out to me on Instagram. With an accessible approach to the esoteric practice, Sarrah Rose makes Tantra easy for the rest of us (but by no means less powerful). Confused about Tantra? Here’s a definition that you’l...
33: Becoming cliterate with Dr Laurie Mintz
May 17, 2018 05:18 - 54 minutes - 50.2 MBI'm thankful to live in a time and place where progressive thinking and equality are celebrated. Do you feel the same way? If you do, you might be just as eager to embrace Becoming Cliterate (2017, HarperOne) with both hands (or just one, if you catch my drift). Dr Laurie Mintz created this resource for people everywhere with clitorises – and those who love them – to fully embrace their orgasmic potential. Because with straight, cis-gendered women receiving the least orgasms, it seems we as...
32: Imagining Equality with GiGi Engle
May 09, 2018 04:37 - 53 minutes - 49 MBI believe in using your voice and tiny lived experienced for endless creation. And so does Gigi Engle, All We Cannot Say alumni, writer and professional sex educator. It takes a grand supply of chutzpah to be vocal AND heard on the internet, and with the force of her words and audacious attitude, Gigi makes herself heard as a woman standing up for all women. Haven’t heard of her? It’s a hard moment in our culture to pay attention to anyone with reverence, yet seldom is there someone as noi...
31: Let Us Survive with Liara Roux
May 09, 2018 04:32 - 48 minutes - 44.8 MBOn April 11, Trump signed into law two new bills that sex workers say will literally kill them. The bills - Fight Online Sex Trafficking Act (FOSTA) and Stop Enabling Sex Trafficking Act (SESTA) makes websites liable for the content they publish. This means that many online services - that host adult content are now taking down user websites and user accounts to avoid legal action. Many online activists - primarily consensual sex workers - have criticised the bill for attacking freedom of ...
30: Thriving in Sex Work with Lola Davina
December 22, 2017 07:42 - 1 hour - 91.3 MBThis particular episode comes at a time when it’s essential to talk about the experiences of sex workers. In the past week, not only was December 17 international day to end violence against sex workers, but December 19 also marked one year since exotic dancer Stacey Tierney died. Stacey's body was found at Dreams Gentlemen’s Club in Melbourne, 12 hours after she was seen partying with several patrons. Her death is believed to be caused by a drug overdose, but no confirmation of this has bee...
29: Addressing Stigma and Shame with Luna Matatas
December 06, 2017 01:45 - 57 minutes - 79.5 MBLuna Matatas was married once. After a divorce and a sexual renaissance of sorts, she discovered a new-found energy for exploring her sexuality as a curious and empowered woman. Today, she helps singles, couples and new divorcees to traverse new, erotic terrains. From navigating anal sex etiquette, to how using Tinder for a threesome, to pegging and all manner of other taboo activities, this episode explores a wide scope of topics. In this episode, we talk about: O School Kate McCo...
28: Is ethical porn a fantasy or the future of adult entertainment?
November 15, 2017 00:07 - 48 minutes - 67.3 MBHave you ever stopped to think about where your porn comes from, or if porn actors receive fair pay? These aren’t generally pressing questions for the average porn consumer as they scroll through their search results for a 5-minute clip. But as with all parts of consumer culture, it’s important for us to think about how we can support higher and more ethical production standards. Euphemia Russell is a pleasure and sexuality educator in Melbourne. In this episode, we spoke to her about the s...
27: Deciphering the elusive female libido with Lauren White
October 31, 2017 10:36 - 57 minutes - 78.9 MBA low libido is one of the most common sexual complaints for women. It’s also Lauren White’s area of expertise and her passion. Lauren is a sexologist based in Brisbane, who assists her many satisfied clients to reinvigorate their sexual power and their intimate lives. Through her one-on-one sessions and workshops, she helps women to release their psychological blocks that prevent them from fully stepping into their sexuality. In this episode we discuss the elusive female libido, as well ...
26: Why You Chose the Wrong Person
October 15, 2017 23:58 - 10 minutes - 14.9 MBIt's easy to discount our behaviours as instinctive and unshakeable. The way we think and act is often perplexing, even when we’re at our most self-aware. But what we might not be aware of is that there are different systems for thinking and acting, and with the right tools and mindset, we can learn how to manipulate these systems. The result? More self-control, self-awareness, and the ability to change your life. In this minisode, we’re delving into behavioural psychology, how our unconscio...
25: Being Honest with Peter C. Hayward
October 01, 2017 19:41 - 43 minutes - 39.5 MBCan you truly be friends with a previous partner? This is a question we’ve explored previously on the blog and on the podcast. But what readers and listeners might not be aware of is that All We Cannot Say is inspired by an honest conversation between two exes who achieved what many set out to do, but fail: friendship without borders. Board game designer Peter C. Hayward and artist Honour Eastly (otherwise known as SJ) co-host Being Honest With My Ex, a podcast that explores what happens w...
24: The Sex Myth with Rachel Hills
August 02, 2017 02:37 - 54 minutes - 49.5 MBRachel Hills is the author of The Sex Myth, a highly accessible but nonetheless meaty piece of new non-fictional feminist literature. So what exactly is the sex myth? If you’ve ever been burdened by societal rules on ladylike behaviour, you’ll understand the pervasive sense that your sexual appetite might not fit the norm. Is everyone having sex but you? Or perhaps you feel shamed for your casual encounters? It’s been fifty years since the sexual revolution, yes, but there’s a new power at ...
23: Sex positive education for teens with Row Murray
July 19, 2017 02:45 - 1 hour - 55.2 MBMany of us believe that teen sexuality is something to be avoided and shamed – and that if we’re to be responsible parents, sisters and brothers, it’s also something we need to do our best to prevent from happening. There are a lot of reasons for this view. One is that STIs are higher than they ever were before. But is this because sex, in and of itself, is to blame? According to the Huffington Post, children get their education from porn at as young as 11 years of age. This means that kid...
22: Manhood and mental health with James Ferne
July 19, 2017 02:43 - 49 minutes - 45.6 MBMen, on average, die five years younger than women, and researchers believe that a big part of that gap is about social isolation. In other words, men are dying before women, to some extent, due to a lack of support amongst men themselves. It’s also true that there’s a tendency for men to avoid seeking care for depression and our cultural norms discourage men from seeking help for mental illness. In the interest of discussing these alarming statistics from someone with more experiential wi...
21: Should you break up? with Meg Luscombe
July 19, 2017 02:42 - 59 minutes - 54.5 MBOnce a couple's Oxytocin rollercoaster comes to a grinding halt, they face a plethora of romantic and personal dilemmas. Whereas once you might have let conflicting values and certain behaviours slide throughout your honeymoon period, you might begin to question your future together once the rosey hue of new love has faded. The question is: should you break up? In this episode, we speak to fellow podcaster Meg Luscombe. She is a Melbourne-based life and relationship expert who facilitates ...
20: Overcoming fear and anxiety
May 08, 2017 20:39 - 55 minutes - 75.8 MBNew to All We Cannot Say? This episode is a great place to embrace fresh perspectives on love psychology, emotional resilience and sexual EQ. Episode 20 is a recap of the most popular episodes from Season Two, with a focus on overcoming fear and anxiety. From learning how to communicate, to initiating respectful casual sex, this episode ties together a plethora of concepts which all have one unique attribute in common: a need to readdress our fears with new skills. Whether that's a fear of...
19: Modern masculinity with Alex White
April 23, 2017 21:37 - 1 hour - 122 MBIn 2017, there’s never been a better time to rally for social change, both on a micro and macro level. It's why All We Cannot Say exists - to challenge our perceptions of love and sexuality, and to help readers and listeners enhance their EQ. Yet with identity politics and conflict at the fore of our cultural consciousness, we're discovering the future is uncertain for equality. It begs the question: what does this mean for our notions of gender and sexuality? Do we need a new definition of ...
18: Conscious Dating with Kaila Perusco
April 09, 2017 21:38 - 53 minutes - 72.8 MBYou know how the story goes. Boy swipes right. Girl swipes right. Boy and girl meet. Boy and girl date, ghost, and repeat. It’s a modern love story, no? If you’re feeling defeated and romantically stifled, there is a better way to date. If you've become apathetic with the prospect of meeting a genuine soul to connect with, conscious dating is for you. Conscious Dating is not altogether a new concept. But thanks to individuals like Kaila Perusco, it’s an approach to dating that’s bec...
17: What it feels like for a girl
March 26, 2017 19:00 - 1 hour - 90 MBLast year I found a group of women online who not only focus on promoting their professional identities, but simultaneously (and perhaps not intentionally), work to remove the shame and stigma of erotic labour. There’s room for selfies, humour, friendship and sharing values, and we’re invited to watch and participate. It’s a world that’s open to the general public, and the ease in which you can find these communities makes them easy to access. So, I reached out to a few and heard crickets. ...
16: Life of a sex columnist with Gigi Engle
March 13, 2017 01:21 - 53 minutes - 49 MBBeing a professional sex columnist is a trope that often brings up allusions to a certain curly-haired dame with an extensive shoe collection. Cigarette dangling from her mouth, she breaths out disdain for the trail of hearts and emotional debris left in her wake, as she types her prophecy into the internet universe. But it’s 2017, and with our sexual openness, WIFI connections and the added layer of complexity that online dating brings to relationships, we need a new breed of guru. Some...
15: Dating with depression and anxiety
February 26, 2017 23:32 - 1 hour - 118 MBThere’s a tendency to overdramatise and often romanticise depression and anxiety. A whole litany of tropes spring to mind - the tortured artist, the mysterious girl with sad eyes, the neurotic genius. But mental health is far from glamorous, and I would argue, far form being a big deal. Everyone experiences moments of despair and extreme stress, but when it comes to clinical depression and anxiety, these add another layer of complexity to the already confusing world of dating. In this epis...
14: Future of Sex with Bryony Cole
February 12, 2017 19:06 - 46 minutes - 105 MBHave we reached peak dating app apathy? Does technology have a place in the bedroom? These are questions I went to Bryony Cole with. As the host of The Future of Sex Show, Bryony uses her podcast as a means to explore the brave new world of physical intimacy. Featuring interviews with sex and tech thought leaders, The Future of Sex is a deep dive into a new world of intimacy crossed with innovation.
13: Disability and Sexuality with Kirsten Schultz
January 30, 2017 14:28 - 1 hour - 171 MBSexuality and disability are two subjects that Kirsten Schultz explores on her blog Chronicsex.org. Growing up with multiple illnesses, Kirsten had to navigate her sexuality in a world that had very little online resources for those with disabilities. Today, she creates safe spaces both online and offline for others to educate themselves, self-reveal, and find validation outside of an ableist mindset.
12: Vulvodynia Treatment with Hope Kramer
January 29, 2017 13:00 - 58 minutes - 133 MBExperiencing pain during sex? It’s not just you - it might be vulvodynia. Chronic vulval pain is not something that’s so easily diagnosed, and in fact, many women don’t even realise they have it. But through searching forums online, Hope Kramer learned how to heal herself after Western Medicine failed to find a cure. As the founder of the Sex Book Club in Sydney, Hope is on a mission to promote awareness of this debilitating syndrome, and encourage women to openly embrace their sexuality an...
11: The Future Of Marriage with Erik Newton
January 29, 2017 13:00 - 1 hour - 211 MBDo 50% of all marriage really end in divorce? Is the marriage rate up, or is it down? It seems that the world is more and more confused about marriage now than ever before. Here’s what we do know - the average for marriage has risen from 18 to late 20s/early 30s, and Australians now favour long-term de factor relationships over exchanging rings. And it’s the same for Americans too, with roughly 25% of US millennials taking a stroll down the aisle, according to research from the Pew Research...
10: Everything Is Waiting For You
December 04, 2016 19:00 - 34 minutes - 47.5 MBA very personal monologue from Valencia in Spain. It’s the last episode of season one and this time I’m flying solo. Find out what I’ve been up to overseas for the past three months, the problems with travelling solo as a woman, beauty as a commodity, international Tinder culture, my first date with a polyamorist, co-living in Spain, attachment theory, and what’s up next for All We Cannot Say. Hint: it’s growing!
10: Teaser Trailer
December 02, 2016 17:49 - 1 minute - 1.79 MBA sneak peak of an incredibly honest discussion about mental health in episode 10.
09: Changing directions with James Dominguez
November 20, 2016 14:47 - 1 hour - 84.9 MBHere’s a startling and lesser known fact: bisexuals endure the worst mental health problems of anyone based on their sexuality. We’re prone to higher rates of depression, anxiety, self-harm and suicidal thoughts, according to a 2012 report. All of this is distinct from homophobia, because a large amount of this prejudice comes from the rest of the rainbow community. In Episode 9, James Dominguez of the Bisexual Alliance Victoria talks to us about navigating your sexuality in a world that lov...
09: Teaser Trailer with James Dominguez
November 18, 2016 18:42 - 3 minutes - 5.13 MBAnd we’re back. Here’s a sneak preview of episode #9, out Monday November 21. James Dominguez of Bisexual Alliance Victoria speaks to about bisexual erasure, bi-phobia, and why visibility is our most powerful tool in a heteronormative world.
08: How to find and make love last - Pierz Newton-John
October 23, 2016 17:00 - 1 hour - 89.9 MBPierz Newton-John is a psychoanalyst and published author who teaches classes on love and relationships for the School of Life in Melbourne. In this episode, we talk about the danger of following your feelings, the unconscious mind and how it affects us day-to-day, the importance of people’s complexities, when the perfect time is to end a relationship, the biggest mistake people make when choosing partners, love languages, the anxiety of overwhelming choice in an age of dating apps, and of ...
08: Teaser Trailer with Pierz Newton-John
October 21, 2016 11:12 - 2 minutes - 3.42 MBA sneak preview of episode #8, out Monday October 24! Psychoanalyst and published author Pierz Newton-John teaches classes at The School of Life in Melbourne. His content focuses on how to make love last and includes lots of romantic myth busting.
07: Going To Our Safe Space - Melina Mariposa Cassidy
October 10, 2016 02:36 - 59 minutes - 81.8 MBType in ‘relationship anarchy’ into Google and you’ll likely come across Mel Mariposa’s blog. Mel is a relationship counsellor in Canada who specialises in coaching those who practice ethical non-monogamy. She helps them to redevelop, redefine and recreate their own emotional landscapes so that they can refine their relationship philosophies. The result is partnerships that are more in alignment with your own wants and needs, along with respecting other’s boundaries.
06: Love Is A Doing Word - Damien Tapley
September 25, 2016 00:00 - 1 hour - 94.6 MBIn Episode 6, Camilla interviews ex musician Damien Tapley, now a creator of therapeutic, spiritual experiences. How do you connect from a selfless place? Can you feel the joy of life through sleeping around? What even is sleeping around? Do soul mates exist? How do you send off your smoke signal? And what are the TOP 3 most important relationships you’ll have in your life?
06: Teaser Trailer with Damien Tapley
September 23, 2016 15:26 - 2 minutes - 3.57 MBA sneak preview of episode #6, out Monday September 26! Damien Tapley talks to Camilla about casual sex and slut shaming. When does sleeping around turn from good fun to god awful? Listen in to find out.
05: Yoni Massage with Vanessa Muradian
September 11, 2016 21:18 - 52 minutes - 72 MBIn Episode 5, Camilla sits down with sexologist and yoga teacher Vanessa Muradian of Mia Muse, a premium lifestyle and sensuality brand. From Vanessa’s tranquil little zen den in Melbourne, they talk about running a high quality, high end and environmentally friendly adult business that encourages women to embrace intimacy and deepen an understanding of their sexuality. Through offering her special Pleasure Weekend Workshops and her Sensual Yin Yoga flow classes, Vanessa supports and educate...
04: Moving Towards
August 28, 2016 21:04 - 1 hour - 63.2 MBLife coach and meditation teacher Erin Kyna talks to us from Mama Hawaii. In this episode we’re talking all about self-respect, and how to make love last. How do you manage expectations at the start of a relationship? How do you stay independent throughout your marriage? How do you go about navigating your sexuality in a hetero world? And how do you take responsibility for your own emotions?
03: More Than Two
August 03, 2016 11:20 - 1 hour - 55.1 MBRelationship counsellor and head of PolyVic Anne Hunter joins Camilla to talk about polyamory in 2016. What happens when you step off the relationship escalator? How do you explore ethical non-monogamy? What's the number one conversation you need to have with your partner? And how do you navigate relationships without labels?
02: Naked with Strangers
August 03, 2016 10:58 - 59 minutes - 54.8 MBLaura Cordero joins Camilla for all the wines and falafel. They talk reality TV and Laura's upcoming appearance on SBS series Undressed, being disappointingly hetero, Freudian theory, Alain de Botton, accepting the love we think we deserve, male feminists, and misadventures with Tinder.
01: It's the Worst
August 03, 2016 10:57 - 50 minutes - 45.9 MBThe first episode of All We Cannot Say. Host Camilla has a heart to heart with artist Robyn Wilson (Flutter Lyon) after dealing with the end of a new relationship. Why is love the worst? Why is love the worst drug of all? And how do you get your fix once the romance has gone?
00: Teaser Trailer
July 28, 2016 00:34 - 4 minutes - 4.14 MBA sneak peak of what's to come for Season One. Writer and feminist Laura Cordero and host Camilla Peffer talk about combining love and work. Can one inspire the other? And why are relationships like business transactions? Do we all secretly date with our dads in mind?