19: Modern masculinity with Alex White

In 2017, there’s never been a better time to rally for social change, both on a micro and macro level. It's why All We Cannot Say exists - to challenge our perceptions of love and sexuality, and to help readers and listeners enhance their EQ. Yet with identity politics and conflict at the fore of our cultural consciousness, we're discovering the future is uncertain for equality. It begs the question: what does this mean for our notions of gender and sexuality? Do we need a new definition of masculinity to support more equality? Is the future really female? And how do we support each other to embrace growth, equality, and social and political change?
These are just a few of the pressing questions that permeate our cultural milieu. And it’s why I approached Alex White of The Man Lab, a Melbourne-based coaching service for modern men seeking strategies for personal growth and a healthier sexuality.
With his multi-modal approach to coaching, Alex helps his clients enhance their relationships and sex lives through exploring healthy masculinity, spirituality and sexuality. The result is a modern practice that enhances his clients’ sex lives and relationships, and aids in fostering a greater connection to self through deeper self-awareness.

 

Modern masculinity and other things discussed in this episode:

Alex’s life as a UX designer, and how human behavioural psychology influences his work as a coach
How do you become a life coach? Do you need a psychology degree?
Male initiation ceremonies in Australia
The Mankind Project
Vipassana meditation
Digital detoxes
Mindfulness
Being a workshop junkie, and extending that workshop high once 'reality' hits
How is a life coach different from a therapist, psychologist or counsellor?
How to healthily process emotions physically, rather than mentally
What is masculinity in 2017? Do we need to redefine masculinity? How do we do this?
The difference between male and female, masculine and feminine
The problem with gendering the body and behaviour
How to recognise a masculinity/femininity imbalance, and what to do about it
Feminism, equal pay, and equal rights
Gender stereotypes
The core attributes that define a healthy adult
The best time to think with your dick - all the time!
Why I think Drake is a healthy role model for modern healthy masculinity, and why Alex doesn’t agree with me
What does a good masculine role model look like?
How to cultivate presence physically and mentally for better conversations and relationships
The art of practical self love through applied touch
The problem with ‘boys will be boys’
It Didn’t Start with You
Why inherited family trauma affects generations, and how to stop the vicious cycle
How to balance science with traditional methodologies
Why modern men NEED social rites of passage to mark adulthood, and how to find them in Australia
The number one reason men seek a coach, and the first step to releasing that trauma
Why calling a TIME OUT is the healthiest way to deal with conflict
How to facilitate safety and maturity in an argument with your partner
The easiest way to incorporate a simple, effective meditation practice into your daily life
Headspace app
How men can embrace more feminine qualities, and why balance is the key to a healthy, happy life
The best exercises for starting your day off right
The WORST WAY to balance your energy
What practices make for a good coach, and how to spot a bad coach a mile away
The best way that women can support men
Why stepping away and doing nothing is a powerful act
How to ensure that your needs are REALLY heard by your partner

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