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20 episodes - English - Latest episode: about 4 years ago -Join us every Thursday for psychology talk with therapists Ryan and Carey. We cover relationships, therapy, and psychology, with new episodes weekly.
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#17 - The Seven Stages of Relationships
July 03, 2020 01:00 - 1 second - 33 KBDue to a delay with our podcast editor this episode will be released Sunday July 5th. Thanks for your patience! Support the show (https://www.ryananswers.com/podcast)
#16 - If Your Identity Is Your Wardrobe, Roles Are Your Outfits
June 26, 2020 03:00 - 1 second - 33.1 KBDue to a delay with our podcast editor this episode will be released Sunday July 5th. Thanks for your patience! Support the show (https://www.ryananswers.com/podcast)
#15 - Do You Really Know Yourself?
June 19, 2020 01:00 - 1 second - 33 KBDue to a delay with our podcast editor this episode will be released Sunday June 28th. Thanks for your patience! Support the show (https://www.ryananswers.com/podcast)
#15 - Identity and How to Find Yourself
June 19, 2020 01:00 - 26 minutes - 18 MBIn today's episode we cover: Listener question: How do you recover as the perpetrator of an affair? What does it mean to know yourself? How can you not.. you're.. you. 3 ways to get to know yourself better How knowing and accepting yourself changes your relationships Your inner dialogue, and how it can push people away Stuff we missed or didn't have time to talk about can be found in the show notes at ryananswers.com/podcast Please subscribe and rate us if you enjoy the show! We're b...
#14 - The Psychology of Happiness
June 12, 2020 03:00 - 25 minutes - 17.8 MBThere's all kinds of advice on how to be happy, but what does science say? In today's episode we cover: The 84 year long Harvard experiment on happiness The single biggest factor in whether you're happy or not Money - can you buy happiness? Two key exercises to help unlock your personal happiness pathway How culture affects happiness Stuff we missed or didn't have time to talk about can be found in the show notes at ryananswers.com/podcast Please subscribe and rate us if you enjoy t...
#14 - The Psychology of Happiness
June 12, 2020 03:00 - 25 minutes - 17.8 MBThere's all kinds of advice on how to be happy, but what does science say? In today's episode we cover: The 84 year long Harvard experiment on happiness The single biggest factor in whether you're happy or not Money - can you buy happiness? Two key exercises to help unlock your personal happiness pathway How culture affects happiness Stuff we missed or didn't have time to talk about can be found in the show notes at ryananswers.com/podcast Please subscribe and rate us if you enjoy t...
#13 - Anger, Trouble Opening Up, and Short Relationships
June 05, 2020 03:00 - 17 minutes - 12.2 MBDo you have low emotional bandwidth? Here are the symptoms: You get angry quickly You end relationships rather than working through issues You have difficulty expressing yourself You find it difficult to calmly resolve relationship issues You avoid, dismiss, minimize, or numb yourself to avoid feelings You become preoccupied with issues and have trouble focusing on other things In today's episode we cover: Why some people naturally have this, and others have to work at it The two ...
#12 - New Studio Complete! We're Back With 3 Communication Game Changers
May 29, 2020 03:00 - 21 minutes - 15 MBHuge week for us here at WBYI. Our new office is finished, including a room I had built just for our podcast. We also received our first reader question, so we're a pretty big deal now. In today's episode we cover: Reader question: How to deal with boundaries that become isolating? Three communication tips you can use in your relationship right away That's it. A punchy episode today Stuff we missed or didn't have time to talk about can be found in the show notes. Find the show notes a...
#11 - Boundaries: How to Filter Crap Out of Your Life
May 08, 2020 03:00 - 18 minutes - 12.9 MBThe overbearing mother-in-law who drops by whenever she wants. The father who retires from the family business but keeps telling his son what to do. The friend who drinks too much at your dinner party. The colleague who overshares about their personal issues. There are so many examples of boundary issues, so it's no surprise boundaries are one of the most common issues people talk about in therapy. In today's episode we cover: What exactly are boundaries? Do you have to cut people out of...
#10 - Why Are Therapists So Obsessed With Childhood?
April 30, 2020 09:00 - 27 minutes - 18.6 MBIt's a modern cliche featured in at least half of the series I've seen on Netflix lately. A person walks into a generic looking office and a calm, soft spoken figure with round glasses asks them about their childhood. But is it accurate? Or do therapists also focus on the issues happening now, the issues that made you pick up the phone and book an appointment? In today's episode we cover: Do therapists really focus heavily on childhood? What about childhood is relevant to your adult prob...
#9 - Affairs and Infidelity: Why Do People Cheat?
April 24, 2020 03:00 - 35 minutes - 24.1 MBThe single most misunderstood topic in relationships is cheating. There are so many myths, so much information, and so many people on the internet who claim to have the answers. Today, we draw on decades of experience working with couples going through infidelity, and take a look at some of the most common beliefs about cheating. Which do you think are true?: Once a cheater, always a cheater People cheat because of unmet needs in their relationship Some people are just cheaters, some ...
#8 - Special: The Milgram Obedience Experiment
April 17, 2020 03:00 - 26 minutes - 17.9 MBAfter World War 2, American psychologists set out to prove that Americans would never fall for Nazi crap the way Germans did. They set up a clever experiment where a volunteer would be asked to push a button delivering a fatal shock to his fellow man. Their prediction? 0.01% of men would push the button. The result? 65% of men did it. This sent shockwaves through the field of psychology. In our first episode of a special series looking back at landmark experiments, we cover the Milgram ...
#7 - Dealing with Grief and Loss in a Healthy Way
April 10, 2020 03:00 - 22 minutes - 15.4 MBToday we talk about one of the most difficult topics: grief. People often say we need to talk about issues more, but this is one that gets left out. So today we're going to cover: The phases of grieving, and their legitimacy The differences between death, grief, and loss Different types of loss, and how the affect people What it means to process grief, and how to do it in a healthy way How to know if you're suppressing feelings Find the show notes at ryananswers.com/podcast Please s...
#7 - Dealing with Grief and Loss
April 10, 2020 03:00 - 22 minutes - 15.4 MBToday we talk about one of the most difficult topics: grief. People often say we need to talk about issues more, but this is one that gets left out. So today we're going to cover: The phases of grieving, and their legitimacy The differences between death, grief, and loss Different types of loss, and how the affect people What it means to process grief, and how to do it in a healthy way How to know if you're suppressing feelings Find the show notes at ryananswers.com/podcast Please s...
#6 - How to Have Good Long Distance Relationships
April 03, 2020 03:00 - 28 minutes - 19.8 MBDo long distance relationships work? How do you stay connected? Are there times you should rip off the band-aid and go your separate ways? This episode we talk all about long distance relationships and how to stay connected while you're apart. We cover: How to figure out if it's better to break up or go long distance What to do to stay connected when you're far away What it means when you stop missing the person When it's time to readjust your expectations Find the show notes at ryana...
#5 - How to Find the Right Therapist
March 27, 2020 03:00 - 28 minutes - 19.4 MBIt's a huge decision, and if you choose wrong you might end up wasting your time and money. Worse, if it's your first time trying therapy, you might assume therapy doesn't work. In today's episode, we talk about: The number one factor that predicts therapy success and how to find it Different types of therapy and how each of them works The interview process: what you should be asking potential therapists Key factors in making sure your therapist is a good fit What to do if therapy isn'...
#4 - Couples Therapists Break Down Netflix Hit "Love Is Blind" (Part 2 of 2)
March 19, 2020 09:00 - 35 minutes - 24.1 MBA bunch of strangers get together and date without being able to see each other, start saying I love you, and propose within days... all before they even see what the other person looks like. Then, they meet face to face. And get married within a month. We binge watched the series and in this episode we cover: Carlton's bisexuality How shame fuels relationship conflict A play-by-play breakdown of a couple's argument (Diamond and Carlton), with detailed advice on how we would have helped...
#1 - The Real Cause of Communication Problems In Your Relationship
March 12, 2020 09:00 - 38 minutes - 26.6 MBDo you have reoccurring fights in your relationship? Do you or your partner get defensive and shut down? Do you feel like you struggle to communicate? These are all symptoms of the #1 cause of divorce, a specific type of communication issue called attachment conflict. Every relationship experiences this at some point, but for some people they get stuck in a cycle that gets worse over time. In our first episode, we talk about how to: Recognize if you're dealing with attachment conflict I...
#3 - What's the Mental Health Equivalent of the Gym?
March 12, 2020 09:00 - 37 minutes - 25.9 MBPeople often equate being mentally healthy with not having anxiety or depression, but this is like saying you're physically healthy because you don't have heart disease or diabetes. Most people would say being physically health is about diet, sleep, and exercise. In this episode, we cover: What does it mean to be mentally healthy? How do you self-assess your own mental health? Tools for improving your mental fitness Signs that you are becoming mentally unfit When should you see a ther...
#2 - Couples Therapists Break Down Netflix Hit "Love Is Blind" [Part 1 of 2]
March 12, 2020 09:00 - 33 minutes - 22.9 MBA bunch of strangers get together and date without being able to see each other, start saying I love you, and propose within days... all before they even see what the other person looks like. Then, they meet face to face. And get married within a month. We binge watched the series and in this episode we cover: Is love at first sight real? Can you really fall in love in four days? What is love? Are there different types? A play-by-play breakdown of a couple's argument (Giannina and Damia...