Men's Mental Health Show
158 episodes - English - Latest episode: 9 days ago -An Australian production, The Men’s Mental Health Show is on Radio Blue Mountains 89.1 most Tuesdays between 11am and 1pm, or you can find podcasts and further information at www.mensmentalhealthshow.com. Join your host Bradley Spillane (0404077666) and guests who have an interest in mental health either personally or professionally. Each week we discuss an array of topics that help men to understand their thoughts and emotions, and to recognise that being vulnerable is not a sign of weakness, but rather a sign of courage, strength and bravery.
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Ep 54: How to be a good father
May 13, 2021 23:22 - 1 hour - 83.6 MBOn today's episode of MMHS with the esteemed presenter of the morning show on Radio Blue Mountains Ron Green, we discuss his son coming out to him at the age of of 24 and his immediate instinct of protection and later involvement in the organisation PFLAG - Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays. The way he talks about his son's sexuality as enriching his life is a true inspiration. www.pflagaustralia.org.au on Facebook - IDAHOBIT Blue Mountains for 2021 events for International day ...
E 54 - Softening
May 05, 2021 07:25 - 1 hour - 113 MBMMHS 4/5/21 - In today's episode with psychotherapist Boudi Maassen and mental health speaker Craig Ball, we discuss the concept of softening as a positive movement for men to be more aware of their inner life and comfortable talking about their emotions. I also do a role play using my past experiences of shame and dread in relation to gambling. Boudi Maassen - 0424416969 Craig Ball - Men's Mental Health Transformation Facebook group
Ep 53 - Finding your voice
April 28, 2021 05:49 - 1 hour - 105 MBMMHS 27/04/21 - For the first time, Boudi Maassen, psychotherapist, hosts the Men's Mental Health Show due to losing my voice, and Nic Danta inputs with his original music and life experiences. We explore concepts of becoming a good ancestor, the importance of relationships, the power of words, threshold moments of change and dealing with trauma. Boudi Maassen, psychotherapist - 0424 416 969 Nic Danta - music on bandcamp
Ep 52 - Still I rise
April 20, 2021 06:50 - 1 hour - 95.1 MBMMHS 20/04/21 - Today's guest is everything a man should be - honest with yourself, taking ownership of your actions, vulnerable and caring. Adam Miller shares his journey with us and shows what a difference kindness makes. Apologies for some short breaks in the recording and remember to reach out should this episode trigger you. Boudi Maassen - 0424416969
Ep 51 - Second chances
March 30, 2021 04:42 - 1 hour - 93 MBMMHS 30/03/21 - This week we have a champion of a bloke in Glen Collis join psychotherapist Boudi Maassen and myself. Now a senior drug and alcohol counsellor at the The Glen Centre on the Central Coast, Glen has overcome his own difficulties of drinking and drugging to block out childhood scars and fit in the egotistical world of champion boxing. He's still a fighter, fighting for the underdog, but not with his hands anymore. He is an inspirational Aboriginal fella with so much wisdom t...
Ep 50 - From loss to learning
March 23, 2021 04:54 - 1 hour - 100 MBMMHS 23/03/21 - On the 50th episode of the Men's Mental Health Show, we reflect on the essence of the show - strength through vulnerability, asking RUOK, reaching out, finding language to talk about our emotions, importance of purpose, removing stigma, developing prosocial qualities of empathy, compassion and altruism. Find Matt Tonks' music on iTunes or band camp. Reach Boudi Maassen, psychotherapist, on 0424416969.
Ep 49: unconditional respect
March 16, 2021 05:00 - 1 hour - 92.6 MBMMHS 16/3/21 - In today's great show with Nic Danta, Craig Ball, Boudi Maassen and myself, we discuss the importance of accepting ourselves unconditionally irrespective of success or failure, and how to bring about a profound change of heart and real change, in particularly unconditional regard for others. Craig Ball - www.changeseminars.com, [email protected], mens mental health transformation facebook group Nic Danta - bandcamp and YouTube (black dog) Boudi Maassen - 04244169...
Ep 48 - Wise being - being wise
March 09, 2021 05:01 - 1 hour - 95.7 MBMMHS 9/3/21 - A great show today guys with special guest Geoffrey Stoddart, psychotherapist Boudi Maassen and myself. We discuss wisdom journeys, resourcing and challenging yourself, relating in an authentic way, father and son camps, and the men's table. Habitus father and son camp - March 27-28 in Kiama - [email protected] The Men's Table - www.themenstable.org Boudi Maassen - 0424416969
Ep 47: maturing and elder-ing
March 02, 2021 05:20 - 1 hour - 98.5 MBMMHS 2/3/21 - A great show today with amazing music by Sam Samantha Sly, team member Blue Phillips, psychotherapist Boudi Maassen and myself. We discuss everything from emotional health, group stages (forming, storming, performing and mourning), maintaining fitness especially as we age, being prepared for the what ifs in life, working as a team in relationships and finding a source of consolation. Boudi Maassen - psychotherapist 0424 416 969.
Ep 46: Grounded in the present
February 09, 2021 04:35 - 1 hour - 99.3 MBMMHS 9/02/21 - In this first episode for 2021, I am joined by Boudi Maassen, psychotherapist, Garry Sims, R U OK ambassador and community policeman, and Nic Danta, singer, songwriter and school principal. We discuss how we make it through personal struggles, this age of uncertainty or complex problems of our time- anchoring, controlling the things we can control and most importantly being responsive to the signs of struggle in others and making our community a place of refuge. Suicide call ...
Ep 45: courtship and union
December 09, 2020 06:17 - 1 hour - 110 MBMMHS 8/12/20 - In this episode, Chris Zumwalt and his wife Rachael Brady tell the amazing story of their meeting and journey together, with insights from psychotherapist Boudi Maassen and beautiful music by Rachael Brady. Chris Zumwalt - [email protected], mentoring and coaching Rachael Brady - check out on iTunes Boudi Maassen - 0424 416 969, psychotherapist
Ep 44: A stigma-less world
December 01, 2020 04:58 - 1 hour - 126 MBMMHS 1/12.20 - In today's show with experienced mental health advocate Nic Newling, psychotherapist Boudi Maassen and musician Matt Tonks, we discuss listening without judgement and recreating the therapeutic atmosphere of a psych ward in the wider community so that we can do away with stigma. In particularly, having respect for each other's struggles without it needing to take a suicide to make people take caring seriously. Nic Newling, mental health advocate and guest speaker - www.the...
Ep 43: Mental hygiene
November 24, 2020 08:08 - 1 hour - 91.9 MBMMHS 24/11/20 - Garry Sims, RUOK ambassador, talks with Boudi Maassen, psychotherapist, and myself about mental hygiene, things we can do to look after our wellbeing such as good sleep, restricting screen time, being grateful, being kind, being in the moment, achievement activities and positive engagement in the community. Also, looking after each other, we can appreciate our uniqueness, remember anniversaries that may trigger people's emotions, know people and their normal so we can recogn...
Ep 42: Lived experience ladies show
November 20, 2020 02:48 - 1 hour - 111 MBMMHS 18/11/20 - On today's special ladies edition of the Men's Mental Health Show we have the incredible Bronnie Spitz hosting, psychotherapist Boudi Maassen's valuable input as always and two inspirational women - Penny Holbrook and Eleni Psillakis - sharing their lived experience of mental illness and how they now contribute to the community. Penny's story provides insight into the kinds of events that can trigger suicidal ideation including sexual harassment and suicide in the family, as ...
Ep 42: Lived experience ladies show
November 19, 2020 10:25 - 1 hour - 92.7 MBMMHS 18/11/20 - On today's special ladies edition of the Men's Mental Health Show we have the incredible Bronnie Spitz hosting, psychotherapist Boudi Maassen's valuable input as always and two inspirational women - Penny Holbrook and Eleni Psillakis - sharing their lived experience of mental illness and how they now contribute to the community. Penny's story provides insight into the kinds of events that can trigger suicidal ideation including sexual harassment and suicide in the family, as...
Ep 41: Emotional Intelligence and existential dread
November 10, 2020 04:29 - 1 hour - 122 MBMMHS 10/11/20 - Phenomenal show today guys. Twelve year old Ace Evergreen shares her incredibly deep and soulful original music along with her mother Rachael, and today's guest Gary Caganoff shares stories of his travels both worldly and spiritual. Today's show is a great reminder that experiences of awakening can be emotionally tumultuous and appear like mental illness when another approach is called for. Importantly, anyone can open themselves to self realisation or alleviation of mental p...
Ep: Emotional Intelligence and existential dread
November 10, 2020 04:29 - 1 hour - 122 MBMMHS 10/11/20 - Phenomenal show today guys. Twelve year old Ace Evergreen shares her incredibly deep and soulful original music along with her mother Rachael, and today's guest Gary Caganoff shares stories of his travels both worldly and spiritual. Today's show is a great reminder that experiences of awakening can be emotionally tumultuous and appear like mental illness when another approach is called for. Importantly, anyone can open themselves to self realisation or alleviation of mental p...
Ep 40: Lads and leadership
November 03, 2020 04:47 - 1 hour - 113 MBMMHS 3/11/20 - Today psychotherapist Boudi Maassen and I are joined by Craig Ball and Blue Phillips, two retired veterans with experience in leadership and a passion for helping build resilience in men. Boudi Maassen - 0424 416 969 Craig Ball - Men's Mental Health Transformation Facebook Group Support after suicide - www.standbysupport.com.au
Ep 39: Family estrangement
October 27, 2020 03:48 - 1 hour - 116 MBMHS 27/10/20 - A bobby dazzler of a show today guys. Boudi Maassen, Matt Tonks and I have a deep and meaningful discussion about family estrangement and the techniques we can use to deal with it and hopefully overcome seemingly irreconcilable differences. I talk about not holding grudges, making amends and persistence in showing your love. Matt talks about good listening and embracing imperfection. Boudi encourages us to be in the moment because it allows you to disengage from your wound...
Ep 38: Love and loss
October 13, 2020 03:44 - 1 hour - 98.8 MBMMHS 13/10/20 - Awesome show today guys with Paul Sims, Nic Danta and Boudi Maassen. Paul is an amazing man whose overarching message is "there's no greater asset in the world than your friends and acquaintances." A great reminder to look out for each other and value the meaningful conversations we can have when we put people first. Boudi Maassen -0424416969.
Ep 37: Post traumatic Growth (audio problem fixed)
September 30, 2020 04:46 - 1 hour - 107 MBMMHS 29/09/20- In this special edition of the Men's Mental Health Show, Craig Ball, ADF veteran and men's mentor, joins Boudi Maassen , Matt Tonks and I for a talk on how to grow through trauma and pain. Unlike the term resilience, which most people understand as bouncing back, the term post traumatic growth encapsulates the idea that we are never the same again after such shifting life events but we can be better versions of ourself. Boudi Maassen (psychotherapist)- 0424 416 969. Craig's...
E 37: Post traumatic growth
September 29, 2020 06:50 - 1 hour - 96.9 MBMMHS 29/09/20 - In this special edition of the Men's Mental Health Show, Craig Ball, ADF veteran and men's mentor, joins Boudi Maassen , Matt Tonks and I for a talk on how to grow through trauma and pain. Unlike the term resilience, which most people understand as bouncing back, the term post traumatic growth encapsulates the idea that we are never the same again after such shifting life events but we can be better versions of ourself. Boudi Maassen (psychotherapist)- 0424 416 969. Cra...
Ep36: Embracing change
September 22, 2020 04:36 - 1 hour - 73.1 MB22/09/20 - Together with psychotherapist Boudi Maassen and Chief Inspector Garry Sims we talk about how people deal with change, whether it be to find a voice after a period of being mute, choosing not to follow a family pattern of suicide, reconnecting with family we've been estranged from, or adjusting to rules we never would have imagined pre-pandemic. Boudi Maassen - 0424 416 969
Ep 35: The Longevity of Relationships
September 16, 2020 03:50 - 1 hour - 97.7 MBMMHS 15/09/20 - With Blue Phillips recently celebrating his 50th wedding anniversary, on this 35th episode of the MMHS , Boudi Maassen, Blue Phillips and I discuss the longevity of relationships. Blue credits his approach of family first rather than duty first for their success, and I too see not having the right priorities as contributing to my marriage breakdown. Boudi talks about the need to develop respective complexity journeys in a relationship as opposed to codependency to avoid a...
Ep 34: Suicide prevention and transcendence
September 08, 2020 06:34 - 1 hour - 96.4 MBMMHS 8/9/20 - Today psychotherapist Boudi Maassen and I talk about what helps prevent suicide when helping someone (even if that someone is yourself): not allowing yourself to be pushed away, making a contractual agreement, allowing time for trauma to subside, providing an opportunity for transcendence to occur, finding a sense of meaning, redefining what success is from accumulating wealth to attaining internal wellbeing or an ability to sit still and comfortably with the inevitable disapp...
Ep 33: DV and becoming better men
September 01, 2020 07:18 - 1 hour - 84.9 MBMMHS 1/09/20 - In this edition of the Men's Mental Health Show Boudi Maassen and I are joined by Christopher Smith, a Community Development Coordinator at Belong Neighbourhood Centre and part of a group called Mountain Men Against Violence. In addressing the issue of domestic violence, we talk about men reaching out for help to change their behaviour, taking their armour off, dealing with shame, identifying a sense of entitlement, saying sorry, learning from mistakes and ultimately becoming...
Ep 32: Unity and community
August 25, 2020 20:41 - 1 hour - 95.1 MBMMHS 25/08/20 - For this episode of the Men's Mental Health Show we are honoured to have Gundungurra elder David King joining us again and welcoming us to country. For the first time on the show Matt Tonks brings his keyboard along for his live performance. Together with psychotherapist Boudi Maassen we talk about the importance of connection, belonging, not judging and being antiracist. Your GP should be your first point of contact to rule our physical health issues, set up a Mental Heal...
Ep 31: Self forgiveness
August 19, 2020 22:35 - 1 hour - 87.9 MBMMHS 18/08/2020 - In this episode of MMHS with just Boudi Maassen and I, Boudi explains the four steps of self forgiveness: responsibility, remorse, restoration and renewal. Boudi also reads some poems including one by Matt Tonks. Boudi Maassen - 0424-416-969.
Ep 1: Suicide - Starting the conversation
August 08, 2020 06:01 - 47 minutes - 43.8 MBHere is the first episode of the Men's Mental Health show. So grateful to my guests Wes and Andrew. It's a pretty nervous start but onwards and upwards from here. Very proud to have had my brother Dan do the theme song too. We talk about lifeline's accidental counselling course, and the most powerful message Wes learnt from the presenter of that course Liz White is it doesn't matter what you say but that you are listening and coming from a place of love.
Ep 2: Living with autism
August 08, 2020 06:01 - 45 minutes - 41.9 MBAnother amazing show today. A huge thanks to this guy Benji Young who's a single father of two boys with autism and himself has Aspergers, ADHD and PTSD. This episode provides an insight into autism and the stigma that surrounds it. Benji is nothing short of inspirational; his courage, determination and just general way of getting about life gives us all strength and hope.
Ep 3: Living with Bipolar
August 08, 2020 06:01 - 59 minutes - 54 MBIn this episode I'm way out of my comfort zone, on air by myself, talking about myself and being very raw. I share my life story including denial of my diagnosis and self medication, through various clinic admissions and a suicide attempt to eventual arrival at a place of acceptance and how the right medication has changed my life. I'm living proof that people can change, that if you seek and accept help things can get better, that there is hope.
Ep 4: Cuzza Canes
August 08, 2020 06:01 - 1 hour - 71.6 MBHaving formed an entire winter cricket club after the loss of Andre Curry, the Cuzza Canes show us all how to create camaraderie and positivity out of something so devastating. This episode isn’t one to miss. There are many life lessons here that could potentially help each and everyone of us. Steve Curry, Andre’s brother, speaks from the heart and his words are raw and so incredibly insightful for a man who lives with the pain of his brothers loss each and every day but somehow manages to sp...
Ep 16: Inspiration and determination
August 08, 2020 06:00 - 1 hour - 83.7 MBIntroducing the remarkable and wonderful Kathryn Gene, a qualified naturopath, hypnotherapist and mother of five. As a young mother Kathryn was diagnosed with agoraphobia but instead of letting her anxiety and panic attacks get a hold of her life, Kathryn began a journey of introspection to conquer her demons. We are joined by regular guests RU-OK? ambassador Garry Sims and local muso Nic Danta.
Ep 17: All of Life's Lessons
August 08, 2020 06:00 - 1 hour - 85.8 MBToday our guest is Blue Phillips, an ex-serviceman who spent more than fifty years in the army. He shares his life's lessons with us along with insights from local psychotherapist Boudi Maassen and local muso and school principal Nic Danta.
Ep 19: Fathering
August 08, 2020 06:00 - 1 hour - 89.7 MBI speak with psychotherapist Boudi Maassen and local muso Nic Danta about fathering starting with the birth of our children and looking at the various stages of growing up. We also reflect on our own upbringing and relationship with our fathers throughout life, as well as the power of awe.
Ep 18: Domestic violence
August 08, 2020 06:00 - 1 hour - 86.3 MBThis week psychotherapist Boudi Maassen and veteran of 50 years military service Blue Phillips talk with me about domestic violence and men's relationships with women, along with music from local muso Nic Danta.
Ep 9: Adversity and resilience
August 04, 2020 05:51 - 1 hour - 71.1 MBWe talk about adversity and mentoring with Pete Palmer, coach of the under 20s North Sydney Bears, Garry Sims, RUOK ambassador, and Nic Danta, principal of the Penrith Valley Learning Centre and this week's singer/songwriter. In response to Nic's song about his friend who took her life, Garry makes the point that everyone's life is valuable. He says he will also be giving an RUOK presentation at the biennial NSW Police Force Aboriginal employees conference at Goulbourn later in the year bec...
Ep 8: Psychotherapy
August 04, 2020 05:50 - 1 hour - 92.2 MBPsychotherapist Boudi Maassen and I demonstrate how psychotherapy works with the aim of helping men understand that therapy is not too uncomfortable or frustrating once you’ve developed some rapport, and to hopefully encourage more men to seek help. Matt as always blends his soul soothing tunes in the breaks, as well as providing, like Boudi, his invaluable input and questions such as that about the difference between psychology and psychotherapy.
Ep 7: Walk N Talk for Life
August 04, 2020 05:50 - 1 hour - 76.8 MBThis is a special edition of the Men's Mental Health Show following the inaugural Blackheath Walk N Talk for Life. It gave me great pleasure to have Shannon Nevin on the show along with Garry Sims, R U OK? ambassador, and Matt Tonk with his amazing music. All these men are living proof that by spreading kindness and taking whatever action we are good at, we can have an impact and save lives.
Ep 6: Psychotherapy perspectives
August 04, 2020 05:50 - 1 hour - 96.9 MBPsychotherapists Boudi Maassen and Robin Woodsford share their perspective of men's mental health, with live music by Matt Tonks. These two Kiwi lads have worked in the industry for a very long time and have great insight. Matt asks "do men not have the language to talk about their inner world or are they too scared to be vulnerable enough to use language to talk about their inner world?" As far as tools go for getting out of the rumination loop, we discuss the importance of connection, se...
Ep 5: Living with treatment resistant depression
August 04, 2020 05:49 - 1 hour - 81.3 MBMeet Creese Syred, The Tattooed Tradesman. Creese came from an abusive and violent upbringing and moved several times as a child starting from England to Australia, then from Bondi to life in the hardened western suburbs of Sydney. Creese shares his story on what it’s been like living with depression, including a suicide attempt in 2004, and how medication and a sustainable healthy relationship with his love Jane has made his love of living. He’s a real character to say the least folks.
Ep 15: Helping someone who is struggling
July 27, 2020 09:23 - 1 hour - 91.1 MBToday, psychotherapist Boudi Maassen, Chief Inspector Garry Sims, local muso and school principal Nic Danta and myself as host discuss how to help someone who is struggling, which is the essence of the RUOK movement of which Garry is an ambassador. Bradley talks about coming from a place of love and being nonjudgemental. Boudi stresses not trying to offer solutions but rather ask questions like "What has helped you in the past?" Garry talks about knowing the signs and being on the lookout ...
Ep 14: Resilience and recovery
July 27, 2020 06:18 - 1 hour - 71.1 MBPsychotherapist Boudi Maassen, Chief Inspector Garry Sims and local folk artist Nic Danta discuss resilience and recovery in relation to the recent catastrophic fires. Photo: RFS fireman Sean Clapham
Ep 13: Post Traumatic Stress Disorder
July 27, 2020 06:17 - 1 hour - 82.7 MBOur guest this week is Matt Ranson, ex police officer and current disability service taxi driver, a remarkable man who found freedom from his post traumatic stress disorder through helping others. We are also joined by Gary Simms, Chief Inspector and mental health advocate, as well as Matt Tonks who performs live music.
Ep 12: Paying it forward
July 27, 2020 06:17 - 1 hour - 96.7 MBToday I am joined by wellness advocate Penny Holbrook who talks about her lived experience of bipolar, as well as musicians Matt Tonks and the delightful Felicity Tonks. Penny talks about her troubled upbringing, and her experience of going to a clinic at 41 years of age to learn skills to manage her bipolar and learn to love herself. Felicity celebrates good men and credits men for coming on the show to have real conversations.
Ep 11: Father and son
July 27, 2020 06:16 - 1 hour - 94.1 MBToday I am joined by a phenomenal teenager Sax Nevin along with his father Shannon Nevin and psychotherapist Boudi Maassen. Live music and commentary by Matt Tonks once again.
Ep 10: Picking yourself up
July 27, 2020 06:16 - 1 hour - 86.6 MBToday's guest is Jamie Gray who shares his own battles with depression, and all things musical with Matt Tonks. I’ve known Jamie since my school years and he is now a professional photographer and the Content Editor at the Mayne Media Group. The passing of one of his best friends to depression 3 yrs ago along with his own personal challenges has added to his personal growth and development. Jamie is about to undertake several key projects which are aimed at redefining how Mainstream media e...
Ep 21: Anzac Special
July 11, 2020 06:29 - 1 hour - 71.7 MBOn this Anzac special of the MMHS, I'm joined by local war veteran Blue Phillips who gave over 50 years of service to his country. We talk about military history, these crazy times and how we are coping with the challenges in our lives. Blue recites an emotional poem too.
Ep 24: Coping with PTSD
July 11, 2020 06:29 - 1 hour - 73.4 MBToday I speak with Matt Ransom and Marty, two retired policemen who talk about their journey with PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder). From the incidents that haunt them to the moment they realise they have a problem, the treatments that have helped and the 'secondary PTSD' their families have suffered, their stories teach us so much about where we have come from and what we still need to do to deal with this unfortunate aspect of working on the frontline. Unfortunately only three people a...
Ep 23: Regulating emotions
July 11, 2020 06:28 - 1 hour - 83 MBToday I am joined by local psychotherapist Boudi Maassen and his patient of fourteen years Shannon Decker who talks about what he has learned through psychotherapy. We also talk about resistance to getting help and the benefits of things like group work, such as those offered through Relationships Australia, and just listening. Shannon also talks about how he has come to love and channel his manic energy, whilst Boudi talks about embracing our neurodiversity.