Men's Mental Health Show
158 episodes - English - Latest episode: 16 days ago -An Australian production, The Men’s Mental Health Show is on Radio Blue Mountains 89.1 most Tuesdays between 11am and 1pm, or you can find podcasts and further information at www.mensmentalhealthshow.com. Join your host Bradley Spillane (0404077666) and guests who have an interest in mental health either personally or professionally. Each week we discuss an array of topics that help men to understand their thoughts and emotions, and to recognise that being vulnerable is not a sign of weakness, but rather a sign of courage, strength and bravery.
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Ep 104 - Building social capital
December 06, 2022 03:19 - 53 minutes - 56.9 MBMMHS 6/12/22 - In this episode of the MMHS psychotherapist Boudi Maassen and myself talk with First Nations man Flinn Donovan from MYST - Mountains Youth Services Team - about the work he does preparing the next generation to deal with racism and domestic violence. Boudi Maassen - 0424 416 969
Ep 103 - The breath and life
November 30, 2022 01:53 - 1 hour - 79.1 MBMMHS 29/11/22 - In this episode of the Men's Mental Health Show with psychotherapist Boudi Maassen and paramedic Christian Mortensen, we discuss what the breath means in life and how life ends. Boudi Maassen - 0424 416 969
Ep 102 - The need for courage
November 22, 2022 23:31 - 1 hour - 77 MBMMHS. 22/11/22 - In this episode of the Men's Mental Health Show with paramedic Christian Mortensen, psychotherapist Boudi Maassen and I discuss the need for courage to face the challenges of life without getting stuck Boudi Maassen - 0424 416 969.
Ep 101 - Breaking a repetitive pattern
November 15, 2022 21:38 - 54 minutes - 56.3 MBMMHS 16/11/22 - A great show today guys where psychotherapist Boudi Maassen and I cover a range of topics and talk with mental health advocate Craig Ball about his new book available at reclaimingyourbook.com. Boudi Maassen - 0424 416 969
Ep 100 - New fathering
November 01, 2022 03:40 - 55 minutes - 58.8 MBMMHS 1/11/22 - In this 100th episode of the Men's Mental Health Show, psychotherapist Boudi Maassen and I speak with new father, Brad Orobello. He speaks candidly about the challenges at the beginning of his son's life, being born prematurely, being isolated due to covid and being lactose intolerant, but also of how he has sought help from role models and professionals. and how he is committed to helping his wife and being hands on with his son. Boudi Maassen - 0424 416 969
Ep 99 - A relational stance versus individualism
October 25, 2022 21:03 - 1 hour - 73.6 MBMMHS 26/10/22 - In this episode with psychotherapist Boudi Maassen and local councillor Suzie van Opdorp, we discuss the mental health cost of insecure housing and poverty and challenge the coded message that people at the bottom of the hierarchy are there by their own fault. Boudi Maassen - 0424 416 969
Ep 98 - Emptying the bucket
October 18, 2022 04:25 - 1 hour - 84 MBMMHS 18/10/22 - Another great show with psychotherapist Boudi Maassen and paramedic Christian Mortensen. We discuss how to avoid PTSD and deal with PTSD through strategies such as box breathing, talking with peers, exercise, diet, sleep, socialising outside of work, alternative therapies, religion, therapy etc. Boudi Maassen - 0424 416 969
Ep 97 - New possibilities from shame and loss
October 11, 2022 06:36 - 1 hour - 83.6 MBMMHS 11/10/22 - This is a great episode of the Men's Mental Health Show with psychotherapist Boudi Maassen and paramedic and illustrator Christian Mortensen. Christian shares his wonderful story of the Wak Wak from his time working on Survivor in the Philippines and Boudi reads a great poem: A father's hidden lament. We go on to discuss the problems of feeling ashamed and how to move forward from there. Also, Mountains Men Against Violence meets at Mid Mountains Neighbourhood Centre, 9 Ne...
Ep 96 - Check up from the neck up
September 21, 2022 02:26 - 55 minutes - 58.8 MBMMHS 20/09/22 - In this episode of the Men's Mental Health Show, psychotherapist Boudi Maassen and I talk with Garry Sims, RUOK ambassador. Garry says this year's RUOK message is that no qualifications are needed to ask someone R U OK and we can all look after each other in this way. Boudi discusses how talking with people on the fringes of society leads on from the micro to the macro level or looking at the larger issues in society that impact individuals. Boudi Maassen - 0424 416 969
Ep 95 - Unpacking our family of origin story
September 13, 2022 04:42 - 1 hour - 66.9 MBMMHS 13/09/22 - In this episode of the Men's Mental Health Show, psychotherapist Boudi Maassen and I talk with Stephen Shepherd about becoming better men through longterm one on one therapy or attending men's groups. Boudi Maassen - 0424 416 969
Ep 94 - Coercive control
September 06, 2022 04:42 - 53 minutes - 60.6 MBMMHS 6/09/22 - In this episode of the Men's Mental Health Show, psychotherapist Boudi Maassen explains the proposed coercive control laws whilst questioning legislation as the only method of bringing about change. New understandings of relational fairness require education and resources to assist couples including couple work and men-specific resources. In particularly, couple therapy is an under-utilised tool in the mental health response even though healthy relationships are fundamental ...
Ep 93 - Escaping self imprisonment
August 23, 2022 07:19 - 55 minutes - 57.8 MBMMHS 23/08/22 - In this episode of the Men's Mental Health Show psychotherapist Boudi Maassen and I discuss everything from influencers, coercive control, metabolising emotions, self imprisonment, not globalising a particular relationship problem to a whole gender, changing our story, growing reciprocity, not playing the victim and more. Boudi Maassen 0424 416 969
Ep 92 - A paramedic's perspective
August 16, 2022 08:51 - 1 hour - 88.7 MBMMHS 16/08/22 - In this episode of the Men's Mental Health Show, psychotherapist Boudi Maassen and I talk with Christian Mortensen about his journey to the Blue Mountains and becoming a paramedic. We discuss being on the edge of life and death across the spectrum of acutely suicidal to palliative care. Boudi Maassen - 0424 416 969
Ep 91 - Help for mental health
August 09, 2022 06:37 - 55 minutes - 58.4 MBMMHS 9/08/22 - Psychotherapist Boudi Maassen and I are lucky to have musician Matt Tonks back on the show today to discuss the issues of getting assistance with mental illness and share his soulful music. Boudi Maassen - 0424 416 969
Ep 90 - Ownership - the key to change
July 26, 2022 04:59 - 1 hour - 82.3 MBMMHS 26/07/22 - In this episode of the Men's Mental Health Show psychotherapist Boudi Maassen and I talk with Patrick Benson about his journey of change. Boudi Maassen - 0424 416 969
Ep 89 - Right harmony
July 20, 2022 07:42 - 1 hour - 67.7 MBMMHS 19/07/22 - In this episode of the Men's Mental Health Show, psychotherapist Boudi Maassen and I discuss aloneness versus interdependence, mansplaining, locus of control, core beliefs and gratitude. Boudi Maassen - 0424 416 969
Ep 88 - changing our ways
July 13, 2022 05:03 - 54 minutes - 60.2 MBMMHS 12/07/22 - In this episode of the MMHS with army veteran Blue Phillips, we discuss how the army has changed over the years to better protect mental health. Boudi Maassen - 0424 416 969
Ep 87 - Healing each other
May 31, 2022 05:56 - 54 minutes - 57 MBMMHS 31/05/22 - In this episode of the Men's Mental Health Show psychotherapist Boudi Maassen and I talk with his wife, art therapist Annette Coulter about image, language and feeling in therapy. Annette Coulter's coauthored a book called Introductory Guide to Art Therapy with Susan Hogan. She still practices as an art therapist and supervisor in the mountains and can be reached on 0408 822 080. Her artwork can also be found on instagram: AnnetteCoulter_92. Boudi Maassen - 0424 416 969
Ep 86 - Creativity as therapy
May 25, 2022 04:53 - 1 hour - 71.2 MBMMHS 24/05/22 - In this episode of the Men's Mental Heath Show, psychotherapist Boudi Maassen and I talk with the 'wizard' behind the Winter Magic festival and our City of the Arts, John Ellison who is an artist and retired Cultural Development Officer of the Blue Mountains City Council. Boudi Maassen - 0424416969
Ep 85 - Wellness
May 18, 2022 01:39 - 1 hour - 75.2 MBMMHS 17/05/22 - In this episode of the show psychotherapist Boudi Maassen and I talk with Anthony Loxley, former policeman and author, in depth about the challenges of managing illness and modern life. Boudi Maassen - 0424 416 969
Ep 84 - Improving relationships
May 10, 2022 05:49 - 1 hour - 76.1 MBMMHS 10/05/22 - In this special edition of the Men's Mental Health Show, psychotherapist Boudi Maassen and I speak with Blue Mountains Mayor Mark Greenhill and local Councillor Suzie Van Opdorp about the issue of domestic violence and how it is tied to the need for men to take charge of their mental health by asking for help. Mark is an excellent example of how it is possible to receive psychiatric assistance without it impacting your career as he admitted to being an inpatient in a psychia...
Ep 83 - the power of identity
April 05, 2022 09:19 - 56 minutes - 54 MBMMHS 5/04/22 - An interesting interview today with retired gangster of 35yrs Graham 'Abo' Henry who only learned of his Aboriginal heritage at 65 years of age. Boudi says: "When you don't know who you are, you kind of gravitate towards a mob who look after you and he found a mob in his network clearly. If he had an identity clarified before that, he might have actually had an entirely different life." Interestingly, he always had an awareness of how drugs and alcohol cloud the mind and ...
Ep 82 - Appropriate means to resolve conflict
March 29, 2022 04:48 - 1 hour - 73.6 MBMMHS 29/03/22 - As we have the good fortune of being joined by local councillor Suzie van Opdorp, psychotherapist, Boudi Maassen and I take the opportunity to discuss domestic violence once again including the impact of men who behave as Will Smith did at the Oscar ceremony when he slapped the comedian for a joke he made. Boudi: "Am I willing to accept that there are some modifications I can genuinely make to the way I conduct myself (as a man)?" Boudi Maassen - 0424416969
Ep 81 - Invitations versus accusations
March 22, 2022 03:05 - 52 minutes - 56.9 MBMMHS 22/03/22 - In today's show with psychotherapist Boudi Maassen and I, we discuss so much - death, assumptions, therapy, relatedness and community. A quote from Boudi: "If spirit has breathed into us and given us life its incumbent upon us to live this life well or as best and as deeply as we can." Boudi Maassen - 0242416969.
Ep 80 - Accepting our vulnerability
March 16, 2022 05:41 - 1 hour - 100 MBMMHS 15/03/22 - In today's episode of the Men's Mental Health Show, we have ex police officer Anthony Loxley truth speaking about both the passion and trauma he experienced on the job. Trigger warning about mention of suicide. Quote from Boudi: "We have a lot of work to do to recognise just how vulnerable we are and why we need connection and why we need community policies in place that allow us to really open up when we actually need to so we protect each other's mental health." Boudi Ma...
Ep 79 - The meaning and value of relationships
March 08, 2022 07:22 - 1 hour - 75.6 MBMMHS 8/03/22 - A great episode today with psychotherapist Boudi Maassen and I reemerging from our afflictions of covid and spinal surgery. The emphasis is on valuing our relationships as a way of reducing our anxiety and living a meaningful life of growth and development. Boudi Maassen - 0424 416 969
Ep 78 - Wellness in older age
February 15, 2022 07:52 - 1 hour - 81.7 MBMMHS 15/02/22 - With psychotherapist Boudi Maassen and war veteran Blue Phillips on the show this week we discuss how to improve wellness in old age: the difference between good and bad stress, passions in retirement, importance of stable relationships, looking after your physical health, taking responsibility for your health and asking for help when you need it. Boudi Maassen - 0424 416 969
Ep 77: Kindness and volunteering
February 02, 2022 02:30 - 1 hour - 79.5 MBMMHS 2/02/22 - With RFS volunteer Ron Green and Walk N Talk volunteer Garry Sims, we talk about the mental health benefits of volunteering such as social inclusion, as well as the need for men to deeply listen so that they build relationships and know what needs doing. Psychotherapist Boudi Maassen can be contacted on 0424 416 969.
Ep 76 - Presence not status
January 18, 2022 04:09 - 1 hour - 93.6 MB18/01/22 - For the first show back in 2022 we have guest Matt Tonk who psychotherapist Boudi Maassen aptly describes as a true existential troubadour. His music is a tribute to the recently passed Neil Duncan, a much loved local and inspirational one-handed saxophonist. Much talk about unconditional positive regard, delighting in other people's success, taking an affirmative strengths based approach to each other, letting go of grumblings with the world, being malleable, finding flow, taki...
Ep 75 - Fellowship in difficult times
December 07, 2021 04:16 - 1 hour - 71.8 MBMMHS 7/12/21 - In this final episode of the year, psychotherapist Boudi Maassen, Blue Phillips and I discuss the challenging external realities of our times and upcoming Christmas with the only suggestions for the sense of fear and division to be getting involved non judgementally. Boudi Maassen - 0424 416 969
Ep 74 - Fathering with wisdom
November 30, 2021 07:45 - 1 hour - 84.9 MB30/11/21 - In this father and son episode with Geoff and eighteen year old Kieran, Boudi Maassen and I talk about the realities and opportunities in fathering done well - bonding, humility, attentiveness, focussing on felt experience more than status symbols, journeying and ultimately becoming wise. Boudi Maassen - psychotherapist - 0424416969
Ep 73 - Mental flexibility
November 23, 2021 11:19 - 1 hour - 93.2 MBMMHS 23/11/21 - With regular guest Blue Phillips back in the studio with psychotherapist Boudi Maassen and I, we discuss using mental flexibility to find creative solutions to our present realities whether that be men breaking out of seeing everything in the world as an enemy, collectively regulating capitalism for the common good of the planet, individually finding new ways of being in our bodies and heart that allow us to function better or not fighting the technology that's now ubiquitous...
Ep 72 - In solidarity
November 16, 2021 05:26 - 58 minutes - 64.9 MBWe are very privileged to have the lovely Suzie Van Opdorp share her insights from a life dedicated to helping those in need in our community, a journey with a personal beginning that she carries into her now political life. From managing the bustling Blue Mountains Women's Health Centre, to being an official visitor to inpatients with mental illness, doing case work for MP Trish Doyle, establishing the Blue Fringe Festival Art prize for people with mental illness, and contributing to the ...
Ep 71 - Reverence for life
November 09, 2021 08:46 - 1 hour - 83.1 MBPsychotherapist Boudi Maassen covers all the pieces of the self care pie in this episode - exercise, sleep, investing in relationship, self knowledge, partnering with our doctor and doing our part when the ball is in our court, resurrecting down time for wind wandering, journalling, hobbies and goals. Boudi Maassen is available for psychotherapy in Wentworth Falls or via zoom and can be contacted on 0424 416 969.
Ep 70 - Relationship repair
November 02, 2021 06:06 - 1 hour - 78.1 MBPsychotherapist Boudi Maassen and I talk with Geoff Stodartt, local facilitator of Men's Table, about guidelines for good communication, how not to bottle things up and go off like a firecracker or withdraw, humble pie and remembering our obligations not just our rights. Boudi Maassen - 0424416969
Ep 69: Responding to childhood trauma
October 26, 2021 03:07 - 1 hour - 91.1 MBIn this episode of the show with psychotherapist Boudi Maassen and musician and school principal Nic Danta, we discuss how to deal with childhood trauma, which can come from anything from parents divorcing, witnessing domestic abuse, experiencing abuse, or significant childhood illness. In particular, Nic explains trauma informed practice in his school because children whose brains are in trauma mode aren't receptive to learning until they are coregulated with empathic teachers. Further,...
Ep 68- Boudster Masterpiece
October 19, 2021 06:21 - 59 minutes - 70.4 MBPsychotherapist Boudi Maassen and I are delighted to be back in the studio and on air this week. Boudi has had a lot to say about status anxiety, neurodiversity and the burden of trying to be normal, how breakdowns can become breakthroughs, dissolving misogyny, seeking help with relationships early, regulating emotions and creating safety for all. Boudi Maassen - 0424 416 969
Ep 67- Domestic violence has no gender
October 11, 2021 05:02 - 1 hour - 41 MBMMHS 5/10/21 - In this episode, psychotherapist Boudi Maassen and I talk with mother Karen Brokenshire who tragically lost her son Dylan to suicide after becoming the victim of domestic violence. If men like this are considered deaths by suicide, the whole story of domestic violence may not be reflected accurately in the commonly cited statistics. Perhaps domestic violence isn't so much a gender issue as a human issue. Boudi Maassen - 0424416969
Ep 66: Being true to yourself
October 05, 2021 02:28 - 1 hour - 45.6 MBMMHS 28/9/21 - In this episode of the Men's Mental Health Show, psychotherapist Boudi Maassen and myself talk to a father and son about dealing with impulse control disorder. Being honest with yourself is important after losing your way, as well as not being too quick to shed shame and guilt as they have a protective function against making the same mistakes again. Boudi Maassen - 0424416969
Ep 65: Intergenerational responsibility
September 27, 2021 03:40 - 1 hour - 40.9 MBIn this week's episode, psychotherapist Boudi Maassen and I talk with Nic Danta, Penrith Valley Learning Centre Principal and Shannon Patrick Decker, business owner of Now and Zen landscaping about intergenerational responsibility. In his business, Shannon aims for timeless structures that will last long into the future and he talks about transitioning into the workforce with the help of his parents. In his position as Principal of Penrith Valley Learning Centre, Nic encounters the pro...
Ep 64: Music and poetry
September 20, 2021 05:37 - 1 hour - 34.5 MBA special episode this week with musicians Matt Tonks and Nic Danta discussing music creation with Boudi Maassen, psychotherapist and poet. Watch a video clip of Nic Danta's song Black dog here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QH6fAjXLy3A Boudi Maassen - 0424416969
Ep 63: Ladies show
September 13, 2021 02:58 - 1 hour - 39.5 MBMMHS 7/09/21 - In this episode of the Men's Mental Health Show, psychotherapist Boudi Maassen and I get some women's perspectives whilst talking to Penny Holbrook and Eleni Psillakis. We brainstorm ideas for tackling domestic violence and how to identify when you are in a violent relationship as well as how to help someone who you are worried about and practising self care.
Ep 62: Show them love
September 06, 2021 05:06 - 58 minutes - 32.1 MBIn this episode of the Men's Mental Health Show with Craig Ball, Afghanistan war veteran, singer/songwriter Nic Danta, and psychotherapist Boudi Maassen, we talk about healing trauma in kids, the Afghanistan war, and personal development. Boudi Maassen - 0424 416 969
Ep 61: Rehab and recovery
August 30, 2021 07:55 - 57 minutes - 32 MBMMHS 26/08/21 - In this episode of the Men's Mental Health Show, psychotherapist Boudi Maassen and I talk with recovering drug addict Lachlan about his experiences and lessons through drug rehabilitation. We are given a rare glimpse into the type of childhood experiences that might lead to drug use and the struggles of keeping on the path of recovery. Boudi Maassen - 0424 416 969
Ep 60- Life in lockdown
August 23, 2021 05:19 - 53 minutes - 29.7 MBAfter a few months of being in lockdown, Boudi Maassen and I are back with Garry Sims, recording via zoom and with thoughts on how to make sense of our experiences during this difficult time. Boudi Maassen - 0424 16 969
Ep 59 - There for the long haul
June 22, 2021 06:19 - 1 hour - 112 MBMMHS 22/07/21 - In this episode of the Men's Mental Health Show, we have special guest Gavin Cliff, brother of recently passed Megan Cliff, sharing his family's experience of mental illness and grief, along with music and input from musician Nic Danta and insight from psychotherapist Boudi Maassen . We examine the barriers to seeking help, such as stigma and not treating mental illness like the life threatening illness it can be. Boudi Maassen - 0424 416 969
Ep 58 - The best kind of speech
June 15, 2021 05:06 - 1 hour - 177 MBIn today's episode of the Men's Mental Health Show, musician Matt Tonks shares some new music, psychotherapist Boudi Maassen shares some poetry and the topic is around the best kind of speech - speech that is honest, comes from a place of love and is free from gossip. Boudi Maassen - psychotherapist - 0424 416 969.
Ep 57 - Surrender
June 08, 2021 07:35 - 1 hour - 99.3 MBMMHS 8/06/21 - In today's episode with Buruberongal and Warmali woman Melissa Stubbings and Stand Up Comedian Leon Anderson we cover the need to surrender when we want to get help for addictions, pausing when we are agitated, drawing upon sources of inspiration, treading lightly on country and that it's okay for men and women to have their differences. Boudi Maassen - psychotherapist - 0424416969
Ep 56 - Mental health first aid
June 02, 2021 01:54 - 1 hour - 121 MBIn today's episode of the Men's Mental Health Show, regular guests Penny Holbrook and Blue Phillips discuss new and emerging approaches to mental health crises including the PACER program, which involves trained mental health clinicians attending triple zero callouts for mental health and dedicated courses for mental health first aid. Boudi Maassen, psychotherapist - 0424 416 969 Music by the Swooping Magpies, local band
Ep 55 - Forgiveness, acceptance and letting go
May 19, 2021 01:34 - 1 hour - 95.7 MBMMHS 18/05/21 - In this episode with RUOK ambassador Garry CInsp G Sims and psychotherapist Boudi Maassen, we discuss forgiveness and acceptance, as well as the challenges of letting go of cherished people and projects and even outdated language and ideas. Boudi Maassen - 0424 416 969