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How Not to Screw Up Your Kids

282 episodes - English - Latest episode: 24 days ago - ★★★★★ - 3 ratings

The How Not To Screw Up Your Kids podcast is for parents, grandparents, educators, and anyone else who wants to be part of a movement to raise confident children who grow up believing in themselves. With twice weekly episodes - on Monday's you'll find shorter Bucket Emptying episodes, with longer episodes each Thursday.

The greatest gift we can give our children is self-belief. It will get them further in life than any qualification and is absolutely possible for each and every child; we just need the right information and support around us to teach them. The old saying ‘it takes a village to raise a child” couldn’t be more true than now.

Parenting has got a whole lot harder; not just because we are busier than ever but because our children are growing up in an ever changing, fast-paced world, which is so different to the one we grew up in.

Our children have more pressure to be better, look better, do better, and in a world where lives are so publicly scrutinised and commented on through social media it’s really no wonder we’re seeing mental health problems sky rocketing amongst children, teens, and young adults.

What you can expect from this podcast are honest conversations about parenting. We’ll talk confidence resilience, anxiety, managing tech, and all the topics you’d expect as well blowing the lid off the widely help misconception that children are innately resilient. They’re not!

This podcast is for people who want to get real about parenting. You understand it can get messy sometimes and aren’t afraid to admit it. I have had more than my fair share of messy and I will no doubt share these with you along the way.

I won’t dress things up but I will always give you something practical to take away and use in each and every episode.

My guests and experts will be real people who have overcome their own adversities and bring with them a message to us as parents, as well as inspiring stories.

So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation.

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Episodes

Managing Digital Devices Part 1

January 17, 2024 23:30 - 19 minutes - 26.5 MB

I'm joined by my daughter to talk honestly about how she managed her own digital devices as part of her digital journey in the hope it helps you as parents have those conversations with your children. Here are the highlights: (2:30) Catherine’s journey with digital devices (5:25) Ages/stages and platforms (7:30) Navigating friendships with parents digital device rules (12:35) Instagram is a moment in time and not always real (16:19) Support your child on their journey We had so much t...

Bucket Emptying Episodes; How Do We Regulate Our Own Emotions?

January 14, 2024 23:30 - 10 minutes - 14.9 MB

As parents, it's not uncommon to feel overwhelmed by our own emotions, which can make it challenging to help our children manage theirs. But don't worry, I'm here to help!  In this week's Bucket Emptying podcast episode, I share some practical tips to help you regulate your own emotions, so you can in turn help your children manage theirs.  💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend 💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in ...

24 for 2024

January 10, 2024 23:30 - 28 minutes - 38.9 MB

Ditch the resolutions and set 'promises & intentions' instead. Helping children build their confidence is all about day to day behavioural changes. This is a super practical episode with a great free resource to get you started. Here are the highlights: (2:25) The top resolutions and who sets them  (5:50) Let’s look at it differently (8:00) Why intention setting is so useful for the whole family (14:00) The Imagination Game (16:20) How would this feel? (19:35) Now let’s look at what...

Bucket Emptying Episodes; How To Get Your Children To Help Around The House

January 07, 2024 23:30 - 6 minutes - 8.37 MB

Are chores causing arguments in your home? In this week's Bucket Emptying podcast episode, I'll explain the importance of shifting the language we use to encourage family members to work together in maintaining the home.  💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend 💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes 💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube 💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the epi...

Managing Explosive Emotions

January 03, 2024 23:30 - 24 minutes - 33.5 MB

How should we respond to a child or teen who swears, is physical and aggressive when they experience big emotions? We might not recognise our child or teen in these moments. I will share my top tips of what to do in the moment to diffuse things, and how best to approach the education piece in order to distinguish future explosive outbursts. Here are the highlights: (2:15) Recap from Ep 134  (5:00) Explosive behaviours (7:50) Don’t be drawn into name calling or abusive language (10:40) ...

Bucket Emptying Episodes; Learning To say No!

December 31, 2023 23:30 - 11 minutes - 15.2 MB

Learning to say no can be a game-changer.  Do you often find yourself saying yes to everything and everyone, only to regret it later? Setting boundaries takes practice and can be challenging, but it's worth it. In this week's Bucket Emptying episode I share my tips on how to learn to say no and prioritise what matters most.  💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend 💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes ...

Managing 'Big' Emotions

December 27, 2023 23:30 - 31 minutes - 43.7 MB

How a child or teen manages those 'big' emotions speaks volumes about their current well-being. I take a belts and braces approach covering why they may struggle with their feelings, how we ought to react in the moment, and how we can help them find more appropriate ways of responding. Here are the highlights: (3:15) What are big emotions? (6:00) 4 principles of emotional behaviour (11:10) Consider your child’s emotional stage not chronological age (15:45) 3 things to do in the moment ...

Bucket Emptying Episodes; Managing Overwhelm Over the Festive Season

December 24, 2023 23:30 - 10 minutes - 14 MB

Happy Christmas everyone 🎄 Are you feeling overwhelmed during this festive season? Don't worry, I've got you covered!  In this week’s Bucket Emptying podcast episode, I'm sharing 3 tips to help you manage expectations and make the most of this wonderful time.  💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend 💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes 💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube 💚 Acces...

Encouraging Independence

December 20, 2023 23:30 - 25 minutes - 34.7 MB

Independence is the foundation to self-esteem and confidence. Independent children have stronger social skills, greater academic success, and fare better in life. So how do we foster independence? I'll share my top five tops. Here are the highlights: (0:35) What do I mean by independence? (3:00) Reflect - what are you doing to model these skills? (3:28) Encourage your child to make mistakes (8:55) Give choices wherever possible (14:08) Give stage appropriate responsibility (16:30) E...

Bucket Emptying Episodes; Should I Lie About Santa?

December 17, 2023 23:30 - 7 minutes - 10.7 MB

Have your children started asking if Santa, the Tooth Fairy, or the Easter Bunny are real? Are you struggling with the dilemma of whether or not to tell your children the truth about these mythical figures? In this week's Bucket Emptying episode, I answer a listener's question on this very topic. Tune in to find out my take on this age-old parenting predicament.  💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend 💚 Complete the listener poll to let me ...

Stress-free Festive Holidays

December 13, 2023 23:30 - 23 minutes - 32.3 MB

It is aptly named the ‘silly season’ for a reason; all routine and rationale goes out the window. Unrealistic expectations and huge pressure to be one big happy of family can have us all pulling our hair out whether it's festive season or summer holidays. I'll share my five top tips to keep you sane. Here are the highlights: (3:00) Where are your flash points?  (8:55) Have realistic expectations (14:00) What’s your exit strategy? (16:45) Try not to take things too seriously (18:40) Hav...

Bucket Emptying Episodes; How Much Screen Time?

December 10, 2023 23:30 - 11 minutes - 15.4 MB

As a CEO of your family, you might be wondering how much screen time is appropriate for your children. While there is no one-size-fits-all answer, you can guess I have an opinion.  In this week's Bucket Emptying episode I'll help you work out your child's 'big rocks' to start the calculation. 💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend 💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes 💚 You can watch the Bucket Empty...

Unmotivated Children!!!

December 06, 2023 23:30 - 26 minutes - 35.9 MB

Is it our responsibility to push our children so they achieve what they are capable of? Goodness knows where they'd end up if we didn't?!! I'll share why I think this approach is flawed and might actually back-fire. I'll also share what we should be doing instead. Here are the highlights: (2:20) Mistakes and failure  (4:45) Two types of motivation (7:15) Three parental choices (9:50) Setting standards and expectations (14:00) Remember growth mindset (17:45) Mastery goals matter, not ...

Monday 4th December -Parental guilt

December 03, 2023 23:30 - 8 minutes - 12.3 MB

As a parent, guilt can often feel like an unavoidable part of the package. It can be overwhelming, but it doesn't have to be. In fact, there are ways to manage parenting guilt.  In this week’s Bucket Emptying episode I’ll share my top tips. 💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend 💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes 💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube 💚 Access the free resources ...

Nutrition And Well-being

November 29, 2023 23:30 - 38 minutes - 53.4 MB

We hear so much now about the importance of food and nutrition not only for our children’s physical health but also their emotional mental health. Lucinda shares her top tips and explains why ‘gut health’ is as important for children as it is for adults. You really are in for a treat! Here are the highlights: (2:30) Importance of gut health for teens and tweens (10:30) Lactobacillus is so important for neurotransmitters (15:20) Eat the rainbow (16:44) Zinc and the importance of breakfas...

Bucket Emptying Episodes; Mealtime Management

November 26, 2023 23:30 - 10 minutes - 14.1 MB

Mealtime management is a crucial skill that can greatly impact the lives of all members of the family.  Meals create not only an opportunity for our children to fuel their bodies, but time to connect with each other and learn great life skills. 💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend 💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes 💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube 💚 Access the free resour...

Bucket Emptying Episodes; Supporting Children With An Alcoholic Spouse

November 19, 2023 23:30 - 14 minutes - 20.4 MB

Supporting children with an alcoholic spouse can be challenging, but there are steps you can take to help them cope wit this difficult situation. This week's Bucket Emptying episode answers a listener question about this sensitive situation and I'll share my 3 tips. 💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend 💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes 💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube 💚...

Neurodiversity Behavioural Strategies

November 15, 2023 23:30 - 31 minutes - 42.8 MB

1 in 5 children are described as neurodivergent; affecting the way they experience, understand and interact with the world. I'll share the common characteristics neurodivergent children share - whether they present with Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder, Autistic Spectrum Disorder, or Dyslexia - and most importantly the best behavioural strategies to support them. Here are the highlights: (1:20) Neurodivergence context (4:16) Characteristics of neurodivergence (15:30) Be quick wit...

Bucket Emptying Episodes; Managing Change

November 12, 2023 23:30 - 10 minutes - 14.1 MB

Managing change can be a challenging task for anyone, including children. However, with the right guidance and support, children can develop effective strategies to cope with, and adapt to change. I'll share my tips to help. 💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend 💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes 💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube 💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the...

Personal Responsibility; The Key To Success

November 08, 2023 23:30 - 26 minutes - 35.9 MB

Doing what you are told and taking responsibility are two very different things. We all want children who take ownership for their decisions - it's a life skill they will forever use. How we instil it in them can seem very elusive but it actually lies in the little day to day things. I'll share my top 7 tips which work regardless of your child's age. Here are the highlights: (3:30) Make your bed – a simple, but profound responsibility (6:22) Encourage independence (9:50) Provide bigger ...

Bucket Emptying Episodes; How Do We Manage Our Children's Homework?

November 05, 2023 23:30 - 11 minutes - 16 MB

💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend 💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes 💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube 💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.

When Tech Takes Over

November 01, 2023 23:30 - 25 minutes - 35.2 MB

This episode is for you if you are finding tech and its use has become totally out of control in your family. Whether that's teens permanently in bedrooms or constantly on games consoles. I'll share what you can do practically to move away from constant battles to a little more calm. Here are the highlights: (4:23) Accept you’re now on a journey (6:00) You set the framework in your home (7:58) Audit your own tech use  (8:50) Understand your child/teen’s use of tech (12.33) Start with ...

Bucket Emptying Episodes; Juggling Work, Parenting & Other Responsibilities

October 29, 2023 23:30 - 10 minutes - 14.8 MB

As the saying goes, ‘we all juggle multiple hats’ as parents and finding balance seems to be illusive to most of us. Some days we feel we’re acing it, yet I think I speak for most of us when I say we more often than not feel like we are constantly teetering on the edge of overwhelm.  The struggle is real and in today's bucket emptying episode I'll share my tips to help you have a more balanced week. 💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend 💚 C...

Highly Sensitive Children??

October 25, 2023 23:30 - 29 minutes - 40 MB

I'll share my thoughts on this personality trait and what it means for children who we feel might be highly sensitive. There are always dangers in labelling children - least of all communicating their traits as fixed - so I will give you my honest advice on how best to navigate this new found knowledge. Here are the highlights: (2:00) Defining a highly sensitive person (6:25) Let’s put this in context (11:18) Please don’t label your child  (14:45) Remember the brain is a muscle (19:3...

Bucket Emptying Episodes; Cheerful Treats & Grumble Chores

October 22, 2023 23:30 - 8 minutes - 12.1 MB

Are you a parent struggling to keep your children motivated during school holidays? Look no further! In this week's bucket emptying episode, I share my tips on how to turn grumble-inducing chores like food shopping, shoe shopping, and dentist visits into cheerful treats that your children will love. This simple strategy helped me keep my kids motivated when they were young, and they can work for you too! 💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one frie...

Resilience Is What Matters

October 18, 2023 23:30 - 34 minutes - 47.1 MB

Resilient children have an ability to withstand or recover quickly from difficulties, they remain flexible and adaptable to life’s challenges and bounce back from setbacks. A resilient person still experiences stress and big emotions - they simply respond to them differently than people who aren’t resilient. I'll share the 7 C's of resilience and how we can foster these at home. Here are the highlights: (0.45) Why does resilience matter? (7:15) 7 C’s of resilience (11:48) Competence can...

Bucket Emptying Episode; When Should We Push Our Kids?

October 15, 2023 23:30 - 10 minutes - 15 MB

As parents, we want our children to grow up and be the best version of themselves. However, it's important to remember that children need to be challenged, but not to the point where they crack under the pressure. Finding the balance can be a delicate task. Let me talk you through my thoughts. For more help with confidence listen to Episode 2: Confidence 💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend 💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know wh...

Conversations To Have With Boys

October 11, 2023 23:30 - 29 minutes - 39.8 MB

It’s not easy being a boy. Social expectations of masculinity are everywhere - don’t cry, be strong, keep your emotions in check! I’ll share the five conversations we should be having with our sons, nephews, godsons and male friends. Here are the highlights: (1:03) Birth-rate for boys is higher than girls (3:00) Challenge male stereotypes (6:55) Mental health is as important as physical health  (13:15) Be conscious of confidence comparisons (18:30) Risk-taking (22:18) Communication i...

Bucket Emptying Episodes; Help - My 4 Year Old Keeps Interrupting!

October 08, 2023 23:30 - 9 minutes - 12.7 MB

As parents, we all want our children to be bright and intelligent, but sometimes they can struggle with social etiquette.  This week's listener's question raises a common issue: how to handle a child who won't stop interrupting despite being repeatedly told it's rude. While there's no one right answer, I’ll share some strategies that could be helpful. 💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend 💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you...

Managing Big Emotions

October 04, 2023 23:30 - 24 minutes - 34.2 MB

We’ve all been there right? Whether it’s because we’ve said ‘no’ to something, asked them to do something they don’t want to do, or called ‘time for dinner, bed, bath, school, homework etc ……. and they’ve totally lost the plot. Their reaction seems so disproportionate, you’d think we’d cut off a limb, and yet to them it’s the end of their world and to us we’re struggling to know what to say and how to keep our own emotions in check. Join me as I share the three main reasons why children st...

Bucket Emptying Episodes; I've Caught My Teen Vaping

October 01, 2023 23:30 - 11 minutes - 15.4 MB

Are you a parent who recently discovered that your teen is vaping? You're not alone. In a recent listener question, a parent expressed concern over their teen's vaping habits.  As a parent, it's crucial to have an open and honest conversation with your teen about the dangers of vaping and why they are choosing to do it.  💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend 💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes 💚 Y...

Bucket Emptying Episodes; My 3 year Old Won't Do What I Ask!

September 24, 2023 23:30 - 12 minutes - 16.8 MB

Struggling with a toddler who won't listen can be a challenging experience for any parent. A recent listener question asked for help with a 3-year-old who seems immune to traditional discipline methods like the naughty step and reward charts. If you're in the same boat, know that you're not alone! It can be tough to find the right approach that works for your child. Keep trying different methods and remember to stay patient and consistent. 💚 Let's grow our village together, please share ...

My Parenting Journey

September 20, 2023 23:30 - 30 minutes - 42.1 MB

Warning: This episode contains personal experience of child loss, childbirth and grief. I thought it might be helpful to share my early parenting journey in as honest way as I can. As a heads up I am going to share experiences of loss and grief, which for some of you may trigger your own loss or grief. Go gently with yourself, and choose what is best for you - whether you listen or whether you skip this episode - be kind to where you are right now.  Here are the highlights: (2:50) I had n...

Bucket Emptying Episodes; Help My 8 Year Old Viewed Pornography!

September 17, 2023 23:30 - 10 minutes - 14.7 MB

Warning: this episode briefly discusses types of pornography children may see online. As parents, we never know when our children will be exposed to adult content. A listener's 8-year-old son had stumbled upon pornography whilst on a friend's phone. I'll share my insights on how to approach this with your child, emphasising the importance of open communication and age-appropriate education. It's never too early to start these conversations and equip our children with the tools to navigate...

Self-Harm

September 13, 2023 23:30 - 29 minutes - 40.5 MB

1 in 5 children aged between 10-18 years is self-harming and the numbers being admitted into hospital is rising - particularly in younger children. As parents what do we need to know about self-harm? What causes it and how we can help our children and teens if they self-harm? Here are the highlights: (1:15) What is self-harm? (3:30) What are the signs to look out for? (6:30) 1 in 5 children is initially self-harming (7:55) Why do children and teens self-harm? (13:20) What to do in the...

Bucket Emptying Episodes; Sleep Struggles

September 10, 2023 23:30 - 11 minutes - 16 MB

Sleep is so important for children and yet we often have so many issues getting our children to bed. This episode responds to a listener question asking to how to help their child with sleep struggles. If you need more support with this topic please also listen to Episode 5: Bedroom Routines and Sleep 💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend 💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes 💚 You can watch the Buc...

Family Secrets

September 06, 2023 23:30 - 23 minutes - 32.2 MB

Every family has a past which they want to shield their children from. It may be a relative with an addition, a past severe mental health issue, a criminal record or simply something you have not yet found the right way to talk to your children about. I will share my tips on if, when, and how we have these conversations with our children. Here are the highlights: (2:30) Why it’s important to share family information (6:45) Timing is everything (7:50) Try to avoid it being a big conver...

Bucket Emptying Episodes; Parenting Styles

September 03, 2023 23:30 - 10 minutes - 14.7 MB

One of the major contributors to filling our bucket is challenges around parenting with our partners. The biggest problem can be when we have different parenting styles to others involved in raising our children.  Do you know your parenting style? Find out in the accompanying resource. 💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend 💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes 💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Epi...

My Daughter and Neurodiversity

August 30, 2023 23:30 - 40 minutes - 56.3 MB

A very candid and honest conversation with my daughter about her neurodiversity. She opens up about feeling different to her friends from an early age - they seemed to play very differently. She shares why a diagnosis helped her know herself, her experience of medication, and how she's navigating life day to day. There are also come parenting do's and don'ts. Here are the highlights: (2:30) Catherine shares her experiences pre-diagnosis (10:01) Let’s talk about the diagnosis (14:30) He...

Bucket Emptying Episodes; Gratitude

August 27, 2023 23:30 - 9 minutes - 12.4 MB

Daily gratitude will help empty your bucket! There is mounting evidence that the practice of gratitude not only makes us feel happier, but it also increases resilience, self-esteem, improves self-control and mental health.  It’s even better if you write it down. You can purchase your Shine Planner here or a gratitude journal here   ADD HIGHLIGHTS 💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend 💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd ...

Back To School

August 23, 2023 23:30 - 29 minutes - 39.9 MB

I'm talking “Back to School’ and how we can prepare our children and teens to go back to school, start school for the first time, transition to junior school, senior school, boarding school or university. Whether you are listening to this before you child starts school or is well into the school term, the principles I share are helpful at any point in time when you need to reset patterns of being and behaviour which aren’t optimal for school and getting the best out of school and education....

Bucket Emptying Episodes; Help - My 6 year Old Wants A Mobile Phone!

August 20, 2023 23:30 - 10 minutes - 14.8 MB

This week's bucket emptying episode addresses a common question: should 6-year-olds have phones? As a parent, I understand the temptation to give in to our children's requests, but in this case, it's important to consider the reasons behind it. In this episode, we explain why we believe that 6-year-olds do not need phones. Tune in to find out more! 💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend 💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd...

Unhelpful Statements About Parenting!

August 16, 2023 23:30 - 27 minutes - 38 MB

Everyone's got an opinion about parenting. The most irritating ones are the naive comments made by people who aren't parents themselves! At the least they are an irritant at their worst they are damaging to our wellbeing. Join me as I rant a little - then offer you some (hopefully) wise words to navigate more peacefully through them. Here are the highlights:  (2:00) Parenting is one of the hardest things we’ll do (3:40) Naïve conversations about parenting (5:30) Gender stereotypes are h...

Bucket Emptying Episodes; My child Won't Eat

August 13, 2023 23:30 - 9 minutes - 13 MB

Battles with our children at mealtimes can create stressful family situations. It’s helpful to identify why your child won’t eat, is it texture, specific food types or a phobia? Please trust your gut instinct as a parent and if you are concerned, please consult your GP for medical advice. If your child struggles with eating you might find these additional episodes helpful: Ep 9: The Link Between Children’s Emotional Wellbeing and Nutrition with Lucinda Miller Ep 96: Nutrition for ADHD wi...

Anxiety; Taking Children from Angst to Courage

August 09, 2023 23:30 - 20 minutes - 16.7 MB

I published this first episode about Anxiety in June 2021, and it has been hugely popular. I've recently had lots of requests for help around anxiety, so thought it was a great time to republish it. As they say 'repetition is the mother of learning, the father of action, which makes it the architect of accomplishment!' Even if you listened back in 2021, I think you'll find it useful to listen again, especially if your child is currently struggling with anxiety. In the episode I talk about ...

Bucket Emptying Episodes; Sunday Planning

August 06, 2023 23:30 - 10 minutes - 13.9 MB

One of the most important things we can do as parents is spend some time as a family, each week, taking time to check in and see what’s working and what we need to adjust going forward. Did you have a family planning meeting this week?  💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend 💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes 💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube 💚 Access the free resources ment...

Summer Readiness

August 02, 2023 23:30 - 28 minutes - 38.9 MB

How can we use a chunk of time - usually the summer, but not always - to work on readying our child for something? This might be a school / nursery start, a transition, or simply learning to be independent and confident. I share my top five tips and a free resource to help you get your child on board. Here are the highlights:  (3:10) Work with the end in mind (6:40) Focus on the overall skills that your child is learning rather than the specific task (14:43) Be creative in how your chil...

Bucket Emptying Episodes; Why Does My Child Keep Saying No?

July 30, 2023 23:30 - 8 minutes - 11.9 MB

We simply ask our child to do something and repeatedly get the answer… No! It can be incredibly frustrating. We know our children naturally go phases of saying no, but what can we do to help minimise the repeated no answer?  I’ll talk you through a few quick strategies which should help, whatever the age of your child. 💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend 💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes 💚 Yo...

Everyone Else Is...

July 26, 2023 23:30 - 32 minutes - 44.6 MB

Whether it's your child pulling the age old nag "everyone else is / has", or you get caught in the parental comparison that "everyone else is, so maybe we should" I'll help you navigate this minefield from both sides. Here are the highlights:  (3:10) Understand that the request comes from wanting to fit in (6:40) Acknowledge what the request means to your child (8:36) Avoid lecturing! (10:50) Focus your response around ‘every family is different’ (17:08) Consider an allowance (22:30)...

Bucket Emptying Episodes; Morning Routines

July 23, 2023 23:30 - 11 minutes - 16.3 MB

As parents we often find ourselves in patterns and cycles which have become habitual, and which don’t serve us, or our family. Maybe we tolerate behaviour because we’re too exhausted to make the change, or we know we are likely to encounter challenges, so we maintain the status quo to keep everyone happy? A good morning routine helps us step out of auto-pilot and more into conscious parenting. I challenge you to try my SHINE Daily Practice for one week! Let me know the difference you notic...