How Not to Screw Up Your Kids
282 episodes - English - Latest episode: 24 days ago - ★★★★★ - 3 ratingsThe How Not To Screw Up Your Kids podcast is for parents, grandparents, educators, and anyone else who wants to be part of a movement to raise confident children who grow up believing in themselves. With twice weekly episodes - on Monday's you'll find shorter Bucket Emptying episodes, with longer episodes each Thursday.
The greatest gift we can give our children is self-belief. It will get them further in life than any qualification and is absolutely possible for each and every child; we just need the right information and support around us to teach them. The old saying ‘it takes a village to raise a child” couldn’t be more true than now.
Parenting has got a whole lot harder; not just because we are busier than ever but because our children are growing up in an ever changing, fast-paced world, which is so different to the one we grew up in.
Our children have more pressure to be better, look better, do better, and in a world where lives are so publicly scrutinised and commented on through social media it’s really no wonder we’re seeing mental health problems sky rocketing amongst children, teens, and young adults.
What you can expect from this podcast are honest conversations about parenting. We’ll talk confidence resilience, anxiety, managing tech, and all the topics you’d expect as well blowing the lid off the widely help misconception that children are innately resilient. They’re not!
This podcast is for people who want to get real about parenting. You understand it can get messy sometimes and aren’t afraid to admit it. I have had more than my fair share of messy and I will no doubt share these with you along the way.
I won’t dress things up but I will always give you something practical to take away and use in each and every episode.
My guests and experts will be real people who have overcome their own adversities and bring with them a message to us as parents, as well as inspiring stories.
So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation.
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Episodes
A Step by Step Guide to Helping Children Move Out of Their Comfort Zone
September 22, 2021 22:30 - 35 minutes - 49.9 MBIn this episode I am going to take you through a step by step guide to helping your children move out of their comfort zone. By comfort zone I mean that place where they are coasting - doing things they are familiar with and not stretching themselves beyond that. Moving out of their comfort zone is all about trying new things, meeting new people and all the slightly scary things they always so ‘thank you but no thank you to’ not because they don’t want to do them - rather they feel far too s...
Ep 015: The Secrets to School Success
September 15, 2021 23:30 - 29 minutes - 41.2 MBIn this episode I am talking about the secrets to school success and it has nothing to do with academics! As parents we must always keep in mind the end goal, which is to raise children who become confident, resilient adults equipped to live life happily and successfully - whatever success looks like for them NOT US!!! I will share with you my top three tips and how you can implement these in your family today. Here are the highlights: {1:16} There's not much time to reflect a...
The Secrets to School Success
September 15, 2021 22:30 - 29 minutes - 41.2 MBIn this episode I am talking about the secrets to school success and it has nothing to do with academics! As parents we must always keep in mind the end goal, which is to raise children who become confident, resilient adults equipped to live life happily and successfully - whatever success looks like for them NOT US!!! I will share with you my top three tips and how you can implement these in your family today. Here are the highlights: {1:16} There's not much time to reflect as par...
Ep 014: Dr Maryhan’s Childhood Story
September 08, 2021 23:30 - 37 minutes - 52.4 MBThis is a very personal episode where I share my childhood story. Whilst I have very fond memories of growing up, I never quite felt comfortable or confident in who I was. I am convinced this is why I do what I do, and why I do it the way I do it. I hope this episode will help you as a parent see things from the viewpoint of a child, and how they experience the world. It’s also a reminder that you cannot judge a book by its cover. Here are the highlights: {4:00} A typical middle ...
Dr Maryhan’s Childhood Story
September 08, 2021 22:30 - 37 minutes - 52.4 MBThis is a very personal episode where I share my childhood story. Whilst I have very fond memories of growing up, I never quite felt comfortable or confident in who I was. I am convinced this is why I do what I do, and why I do it the way I do it. I hope this episode will help you as a parent see things from the viewpoint of a child, and how they experience the world. It’s also a reminder that you cannot judge a book by its cover. Here are the highlights: {4:00} A typical middle child...
Ep 013: Why Punishments Don’t Work
August 25, 2021 23:30 - 25 minutes - 36.3 MBIf you’re anything like me, you have probably read a dozen books in an attempt to get your children to do more of what you ask. Why don’t they listen and do what we ask them to do first time and why is it so hard?!! Traditional books talk about discipline and punishment, which in my view only creates power struggles, battle-lines and confrontation and no-one wants these. In this episode I will explain why using an approach focused on consequences works each and every time, talk you throu...
Why Punishments Don’t Work
August 25, 2021 22:30 - 25 minutes - 36.3 MBIf you’re anything like me, you have probably read a dozen books in an attempt to get your children to do more of what you ask. Why don’t they listen and do what we ask them to do first time and why is it so hard?!! Traditional books talk about discipline and punishment, which in my view only creates power struggles, battle-lines and confrontation and no-one wants these. In this episode I will explain why using an approach focused on consequences works each and every time, talk you through...
Ep 012: A Conversation with Dr Maryhan’s Children
August 18, 2021 23:30 - 46 minutes - 65.2 MBThis episode Dr Maryhan’s children talk about their childhood. We hear about sibling rivalry, meltdowns in the car because of spellings, competitiveness and Catherine’s childhood trauma thanks to Maryhan’s passion for gardening!! The children also talk candidly about how they have managed tech, social media, comparisons and becoming confident adults. Here are the highlights: {3:45} Most valuable lessons from parents {7:53} The garden center trauma {11:07} Dealing with social m...
A Conversation with Dr Maryhan’s Children
August 18, 2021 22:30 - 46 minutes - 65.2 MBThis episode Dr Maryhan’s children talk about their childhood. We hear about sibling rivalry, meltdowns in the car because of spellings, competitiveness and Catherine’s childhood trauma thanks to Maryhan’s passion for gardening!! The children also talk candidly about how they have managed tech, social media, comparisons and becoming confident adults. Here are the highlights: {3:45} Most valuable lessons from parents {7:53} The garden center trauma {11:07} Dealing with social media ...
Ep 011: Secrets of a Happy Family
August 11, 2021 23:30 - 32 minutes - 45.7 MBThis episode is all about the secrets to a Happy Family. Now I am going to be upfront here - there is no such thing as a perfectly happy family - that’s just not reality. What I am going to talk about are the key components we need to master to make family life as harmonious as we can possibly make it. And the biggest secret is about managing our own expectations. The three core components I will cover are: Siblings relationships Roles within the family Communication Here...
Secrets of a Happy Family
August 11, 2021 22:30 - 32 minutes - 45.7 MBThis episode is all about the secrets to a Happy Family. Now I am going to be upfront here - there is no such thing as a perfectly happy family - that’s just not reality. What I am going to talk about are the key components we need to master to make family life as harmonious as we can possibly make it. And the biggest secret is about managing our own expectations. The three core components I will cover are: Siblings relationships Roles within the family Communication Here are the h...
Ep 010: Anxiety Part 2
August 04, 2021 23:30 - 33 minutes - 47.3 MBThis episode is all about practical strategies. How can you as a parent, educator, grandparent, aunt, uncle, or nanny help a child in those moments of angst? I’ll explain why it is so important to help our children recognise where their anxieties show up in their body, and how the techniques help alleviate the overwhelm. I’ll talk you through four strategies to help build your child’s unique toolkit, and how they can use them to go from angst to courage Here are the highlights: ...
Anxiety Part 2
August 04, 2021 22:30 - 33 minutes - 47.3 MBThis episode is all about practical strategies. How can you as a parent, educator, grandparent, aunt, uncle, or nanny help a child in those moments of angst? I’ll explain why it is so important to help our children recognise where their anxieties show up in their body, and how the techniques help alleviate the overwhelm. I’ll talk you through four strategies to help build your child’s unique toolkit, and how they can use them to go from angst to courage Here are the highlights: {1:2...
Ep 009: The Link Between Children’s Emotional Wellbeing and Nutrition with Lucinda Miller
July 28, 2021 23:30 - 46 minutes - 64.9 MBIn this episode I get to share the podcast microphone with Lucinda Miller; the best selling author of two family cookbooks, and an incredible Naturopath. There is mounting evidence of the link between good gut health and mental health and wellbeing. Lucinda explains how this link works in practice without blasting us with science, and then gives us some super practical ways, as parents, we can encourage our children to eat more of the good stuff! Whether you are a parent, grandparent,...
The Link Between Children’s Emotional Wellbeing and Nutrition with Lucinda Miller
July 28, 2021 22:30 - 46 minutes - 64.9 MBIn this episode I get to share the podcast microphone with Lucinda Miller; the best selling author of two family cookbooks, and an incredible Naturopath. There is mounting evidence of the link between good gut health and mental health and wellbeing. Lucinda explains how this link works in practice without blasting us with science, and then gives us some super practical ways, as parents, we can encourage our children to eat more of the good stuff! Whether you are a parent, grandparent, a...
Ep 008: Managing Tech and Digital Devices
July 21, 2021 23:30 - 21 minutes - 31.4 MBThis is such a huge topic so I am going to try to cover as much as I can so I can give all of you, whether you have a 2 year old all the way up to a 22 year old, some useful, practical advice to start using today. To keep things nice and simple this episode is for you if….. You haven’t yet parted with an electronic device and you want to know how to best set the right ground rules. Your child already has a tablet, mobile phone, gaming console and you are pulling your hair out trying to...
Managing Tech and Digital Devices
July 21, 2021 22:30 - 21 minutes - 31.4 MBThis is such a huge topic so I am going to try to cover as much as I can so I can give all of you, whether you have a 2 year old all the way up to a 22 year old, some useful, practical advice to start using today. To keep things nice and simple this episode is for you if….. You haven’t yet parted with an electronic device and you want to know how to best set the right ground rules. Your child already has a tablet, mobile phone, gaming console and you are pulling your hair out trying to m...
Ep 007: A Personal Mental Health Journey with Kim Burrows
July 14, 2021 23:30 - 44 minutes - 61.7 MBIn this episode I am joined by Kim Burrows who shares their personal mental health story with us. We know there is a rising mental health crisis and by talking so candidly about their journey Kim helps us as parents see things from the perspective of a child. An opportunity not to be missed! Kim’s mental health journey started at just 6 years old!!! Now at 30 years old, Kim has a real drive to advocate and talk opening about their mental health journey in the hope it helps others find...
A Personal Mental Health Journey with Kim Burrows
July 14, 2021 22:30 - 43 minutes - 61.7 MBIn this episode I am joined by Kim Burrows who shares their personal mental health story with us. We know there is a rising mental health crisis and by talking so candidly about their journey Kim helps us as parents see things from the perspective of a child. An opportunity not to be missed! Kim’s mental health journey started at just 6 years old!!! Now at 30 years old, Kim has a real drive to advocate and talk opening about their mental health journey in the hope it helps others find t...
Ep 006: Parenting and Co-Parenting
July 07, 2021 23:30 - 24 minutes - 35.1 MBParenting is harder now than it has ever been. We are busier than ever, juggling more, and we don’t always share the same views as our partner about how to best parent. It’s then a whole different minefield to navigate if you and your partner have split and are now co-parenting; not always amicably. This podcast episode is for you if….. You want to be more consistent with your parenting You are prepared to take a really honest look at how you parent - warts and all You want practic...
Parenting and Co-Parenting
July 07, 2021 22:30 - 24 minutes - 35.1 MBParenting is harder now than it has ever been. We are busier than ever, juggling more, and we don’t always share the same views as our partner about how to best parent. It’s then a whole different minefield to navigate if you and your partner have split and are now co-parenting; not always amicably. This podcast episode is for you if….. You want to be more consistent with your parenting You are prepared to take a really honest look at how you parent - warts and all You want practical...
Ep 005: Bedroom Routines and Sleep
June 30, 2021 23:30 - 30 minutes - 42.9 MBSleep is so important for children and yet we often have so many issues getting our children to bed! This podcast will look at ways we can establish good bedtime routines, how we help children who need us there in order to fall asleep as well as those children who struggle to switch off that busy brain. I will also be talking about extra considerations we need for our teenagers, particularly around devices. Here are the highlights: {1:30} Sleep is the librarian of the brain {3:36} A b...
Bedroom Routines and Sleep
June 30, 2021 22:30 - 30 minutes - 42.9 MBSleep is so important for children and yet we often have so many issues getting our children to bed! This podcast will look at ways we can establish good bedtime routines, how we help children who need us there in order to fall asleep as well as those children who struggle to switch off that busy brain. I will also be talking about extra considerations we need for our teenagers, particularly around devices. Here are the highlights: {1:30} Sleep is the librarian of the brain {3:36} A bed...
Ep 004: The Two Most Common Ways to Screw Up Your Kids
June 23, 2021 23:30 - 15 minutes - 22.4 MBThe two most common ways we screw our kids up don’t come from a place of neglectful parenting. Quite the contrary, they come from a place of feeling we need to be A*** otherwise we’re not a good parent. This often means losing who we are in the process – as everything becomes about our children – at the expense of everything else!! What I will share in this episode comes from a place of love not criticism, and if we can master these two common mistakes, parenting gets a whole load easier,...
The Two Most Common Ways to Screw Up Your Kids
June 23, 2021 22:30 - 15 minutes - 22.4 MBThe two most common ways we screw our kids up don’t come from a place of neglectful parenting. Quite the contrary, they come from a place of feeling we need to be A*** otherwise we’re not a good parent. This often means losing who we are in the process – as everything becomes about our children – at the expense of everything else!! What I will share in this episode comes from a place of love not criticism, and if we can master these two common mistakes, parenting gets a whole load easier, ...
Ep 003: Anxiety; Taking Children from Angst to Courage (Part 1)
June 18, 2021 23:30 - 20 minutes - 17.9 MBFor some context - the latest data suggests 1 in 6 children has a probable mental health challenge - so in a typical state school class of 30 children that’s 5 children in each and every class in every school from aged reception all the way up to year 11 struggling with their mental health. Now, not all will have anxiety - but understanding the basic principles around mental health are key if we are going to turn the tide on this scary epidemic - and it starts young!!! In this episode we...
Anxiety; Taking Children from Angst to Courage (Part 1)
June 18, 2021 22:30 - 20 minutes - 17.9 MBFor some context - the latest data suggests 1 in 6 children has a probable mental health challenge - so in a typical state school class of 30 children that’s 5 children in each and every class in every school from aged reception all the way up to year 11 struggling with their mental health. Now, not all will have anxiety - but understanding the basic principles around mental health are key if we are going to turn the tide on this scary epidemic - and it starts young!!! In this episode we w...
Ep 002: Confidence
June 16, 2021 23:31 - 18 minutes - 13.9 MB“The most valuable lesson we can teach our children is how to be happy and confident with who they are. Everything else falls into place when they truly believe in themselves.” That is my absolute honest belief and it’s not because I don’t value education and what qualifications give our children - it’s just without confidence children can never ever really reach their full potential - and who wants a child growing into an unfulfilled adult??? Join me as I blow the lid off what Confidenc...
Ep 001: Managing Emotions
June 16, 2021 23:30 - 27 minutes - 20 MBWe’ve all been there right? Whether it’s because we’ve said ‘no’ to something, asked them to do something they don’t want to do, or called ‘time for dinner, bed, bath, school, homework etc ……. and they’ve totally lost the plot. Their reaction seems so disproportionate, you’d think we’d cut off a limb, and yet to them it’s the end of their world and to us we’re struggling to know what to say and how to keep our own emotions in check. Join me as I share the three main reasons why children s...
Confidence
June 16, 2021 22:31 - 18 minutes - 13.9 MB“The most valuable lesson we can teach our children is how to be happy and confident with who they are. Everything else falls into place when they truly believe in themselves.” That is my absolute honest belief and it’s not because I don’t value education and what qualifications give our children - it’s just without confidence children can never ever really reach their full potential - and who wants a child growing into an unfulfilled adult??? Join me as I blow the lid off what Confidence ...
Managing Emotions
June 16, 2021 22:30 - 27 minutes - 20 MBWe’ve all been there right? Whether it’s because we’ve said ‘no’ to something, asked them to do something they don’t want to do, or called ‘time for dinner, bed, bath, school, homework etc ……. and they’ve totally lost the plot. Their reaction seems so disproportionate, you’d think we’d cut off a limb, and yet to them it’s the end of their world and to us we’re struggling to know what to say and how to keep our own emotions in check. Join me as I share the three main reasons why children st...
Trailer: How Not to Screw Up Your Kids
June 10, 2021 10:49 - 8 minutes - 7.04 MBWelcome to the How Not to Screw Up Your Kids podcast; I am Dr Maryhan and I will be your host. Join me to find out more about what to expect in upcoming episodes from me and my guest experts. I will also share an analogy, which for me best describes our role as parents, and I would invite you to consider it each time your children present you with a challenge, decision or a dilemma. To access the free resources mentioned in this podcast visit: https://drmaryhan.com/library