Finding You: An Evoke Therapy Podcast
998 episodes - English - Latest episode: 1 day ago - ★★★★★ - 133 ratingsEvoke Therapy Programs is an experientially based therapeutic program serving adolescents, young adults, parents, couples, and families. Email the host [email protected]
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Episodes
An Interview with Noel Koons - Ep 472
June 12, 2022 13:21 - 1 hour - 95.8 MBDr. Reedy welcomes Evoke Intensives therapist Noel Koons to the broadcast. Noel covers topics that ranger from Taoism to mindfulness to Fining Nemo as he explains how he helps clients move through difficult and painful emotions to find themselves and heal.
Is It Compassion or Is It Guilt? (Q&A) - Ep 471
June 10, 2022 14:17 - 58 minutes - 81.1 MBDr. Brad Reedy answers questions about compassion vs. enabling, guilt, the nature of addiction, and co-dependency. He also talks about what to do when your therapist may not be the right fit, how much to share with your children about your own personal growth journey, and whether/what to tell a child's potential new school about their time in the wilderness.
The Evoke Clinical Vision - Ep 470
June 08, 2022 15:06 - 1 hour - 89.8 MBDr. Brad Reedy explains the Evoke Clinical Vision. He explains the Cycle of Health and Wholeness, what Experiential Therapy is, what Attachment Theory is, and why we base our care on it. He then walks through some memorable quotes that have important ways of thinking behind them. He finishes with the Three Keys and explains the Shame Cycle.
What is "The Work?" (Q&A) - Ep 469
June 01, 2022 15:00 - 58 minutes - 80.5 MBDr. Brad Reedy answers questions about what he means when he refers to "the work," how to handle it when the work feels too hard, and what to do when your co-parent is not doing their work. He also answers questions about when one's child is ready to leave wilderness, whether and how Evoke supports spirituality/religion and its practice for its students, along with several other questions.
Let's Talk About Sex - Ep 468
May 25, 2022 15:58 - 1 hour - 84.8 MBIn this podcast, Dr. Brad Reedy talks about sex as it relates to parenting teens and young adults. He covers topics such as consent, promiscuity/sexual "acting out," sexual double standards for boys and girls, and how to walk the line between privacy and safety for a child who is under 18. He also makes the case that parents' attitudes/shame/hang ups about sex will have an impact on how their children feel about sex, how they talk about it, and how safe they feel opening up about it.
Why Wilderness? Why Therapy? (Q&A) - Ep 467
May 19, 2022 17:22 - 1 hour - 85.2 MBDr. Brad Reedy took live questions about how therapy can help us, why and how wilderness therapy creates positive change, Evoke wilderness's different phases, and Evoke's parent mentoring program. He also addressed what to do when visiting an adult child with severe OCD, how to think about writing a will when you have a struggling child, and how to manage your own life and health when you have a child with multiple behavioral and mental health issues.
An Interview with Christian Snuffer - Ep 466
May 18, 2022 16:55 - 29 minutes - 53.4 MBEvoke therapist Christian Snuffer joins the podcast and discusses his journey from wilderness therapy to the Evoke Intensive team. Christian discusses his integrative approach, including psychedelic assisted psychotherapy.
The Masculine and Feminine Energy in Each of Us - Ep 465
May 10, 2022 14:24 - 1 hour - 88.6 MBDr. Brad Reedy explains the definitions of masculine and feminine energies and how they differ from the terms "sex" and "gender." He then goes on to discuss the qualities of each and how we are at our best when we accept and cultivate a balance of both within us. He also touches on toxic and healthy masculine and feminine traits.
A Parenting Paradigm Shift (Q&A) - Ep 464
May 06, 2022 03:23 - 57 minutes - 79.8 MBDr. Brad Reedy took live questions about what happens when a child goes directly home from wilderness, what to do when we wound our children, holding a boundary against marijuana in the home, and how to find the balance between being self-focused and others-focused, among many others.
Evoke Family Work and Family Walkabouts - Ep 463
April 28, 2022 14:49 - 55 minutes - 76.7 MBDr. Brad Reedy talks about the importance of parent work, both while their child is away at wilderness/treatment, but also as a routine practice. He shares, "Doing your own work isn’t about 'You caused it, you broke it, you gotta fix it.' Doing your own work is modeling for your child to do *their* work.” In this context he also discusses Family Walkabouts at Evoke, and why they can be a benefit to all.
Toxic Families (Q&A) - Ep 462
April 21, 2022 13:08 - 59 minutes - 81.9 MBDr. Brad Reedy took your live questions. He addressed toxic families and how to (or not to) live with them, wilderness solos, and the benefits of attending an Evoke Intensive therapeutic retreat. He also discussed the impact of siblings vs parents on family systems and adoption.
Wilderness Solos: A Tool to Find Your Voice - Ep 461
April 20, 2022 15:22 - 55 minutes - 76.8 MBDr. Brad Reedy discusses the concept of wilderness solos, the practice of Evoke students taking time away from the group and on their own during their stays. He likens the solo to Joseph Campbell's hero's journey, where the circumstances in the hero's life compel them to go deep within themselves, understand who they truly are, and experience life-changing revelations because of that reflection.
When the Work Gets Difficult (Q&A)- Ep 460
April 14, 2022 15:40 - 52 minutes - 72.4 MBDr. Brad Reedy took live questions about individuation vs. rebellion, what to do when a child doesn't honor your boundaries, and what families can do toward their growth and healing while their child's away at wilderness. He also discusses how to think about the concept of a higher power in recovery groups if you are not religious, and what to do when you are doing your work and growing, but difficult emotions are overwhelming you as you do that healing.
"Contexts" by J.D. Gill (book review, part two)- Ep 459
April 05, 2022 16:00 - 1 hour - 84.9 MBIn this second part of the book review of "Contexts" by J.D. Gill, Dr. Brad Reedy dissects the destructive nature of binary thinking, the importance of safety in healthy attachments, and how rebellion happens and what it signifies.
That “Tube” We See Through (Q&A) - Ep 458
April 01, 2022 17:56 - 58 minutes - 81.3 MBDr. Brad Reedy answers parents’ questions about what to do when their child, who is back from treatment, starts smoking weed again, how to handle defiance, and how to avoid seeing your child or partner in a predetermined “tube.” He also covers questions about author J.D. Gill’s new book "Contexts" and his latest book, "The Audacity to Be You."
An Interview with Justin Baldoni: Connection in the Struggle to Be Human - Ep 457
March 30, 2022 16:00 - 52 minutes - 96.7 MBDr. Brad Reedy welcomes actor and director, husband, father and human, Justin Baldoni to the podcast. Justin shares about the work that went into writing his book, “Man Enough: Undefining My Masculinity.” Justin shares his perspectives on God, life, and family from the perspective of the Baha’i faith. Brad and Justin talk about the growth that can only come from failing and struggling. Justin shares his “why” about doing your own personal work. The special aspect of Justin’s words are how cha...
"Contexts" by J.D. Gill (book review, part one) - Ep 456
March 24, 2022 13:55 - 1 hour - 93.5 MBIn the first of this two-part series, Dr. Brad Reedy discusses the book Contexts, newly released by his therapist and mentor Dr. J.D. Gill. The book dissects the meaning and importance of contexts—familial, societal, and behavioral, among others—when endeavoring to understand one’s Self and Others. This understanding, this “seeing” as Gill might call it, can help turn judgment into compassion, leading to a more authentic and honest way of living.
Art, Therapy, and the Unconscious: An Interview with Caitlin Connolly - Ep 455
March 18, 2022 16:36 - 1 hour - 126 MBDr. Reedy welcomes renown artist Caitlin Connolly to the podcast. Caitlin shares her perspectives on motherhood, activism, feminism, and duality. Caitlin uses her art to give a voice to themes that often lie just beneath the surface of the conscious mind. She shares insight into her accidental journey into feminism and the challenge of dialectics—holding two seemingly opposite ideas at the same time. She talks about exploring all of life, the light and the dark, and how such a pursuit adds de...
Art, Therapy, and the Unconscious: An Interview with Caitlin Connolly - Ep 454
March 18, 2022 16:36 - 1 hour - 126 MBDr. Reedy welcomes renown artist Caitlin Connolly to the podcast. Caitlin shares her perspectives on motherhood, activism, feminism, and duality. Caitlin uses her art to give a voice to themes that often lie just beneath the surface of the conscious mind. She shares insight into her accidental journey into feminism and the challenge of dialectics—holding two seemingly opposite ideas at the same time. She talks about exploring all of life, the light and the dark, and how such a pursuit adds de...
The Opposite of Addiction is not Sobriety…It Is Connection Q&A
March 17, 2022 13:02 - 1 hour - 86.1 MBIn this Q&A Dr. Brad Reedy discusses how to handle it when your child, who is back from wilderness, starts to smoke pot again. He answers other questions about how not to let the symptoms of your problems distract from the root of your problems, what one parent could do about being triggered when attending the Evoke recommended 12-Step programs, and how to “detach with love.” He also addresses what to you do when it seems like your child is not really doing the work out in the field and how t...
The Opposite of Addiction is not Sobriety…It Is Connection (Q&A) - Ep 454
March 17, 2022 13:02 - 1 hour - 86.1 MBIn this Q&A Dr. Brad Reedy discusses how to handle it when your child, who is back from wilderness, starts to smoke pot again. He answers other questions about how not to let the symptoms of your problems distract from the root of your problems, what one parent could do about being triggered when attending the Evoke recommended 12-Step programs, and how to “detach with love.” He also addresses what to you do when it seems like your child is not really doing the work out in the field and how t...
The Opposite of Addiction is not Sobriety…It Is Connection (Q&A) - Ep 455
March 17, 2022 13:02 - 1 hour - 86.1 MBIn this Q&A Dr. Brad Reedy discusses how to handle it when your child, who is back from wilderness, starts to smoke pot again. He answers other questions about how not to let the symptoms of your problems distract from the root of your problems, what one parent could do about being triggered when attending the Evoke recommended 12-Step programs, and how to “detach with love.” He also addresses what to you do when it seems like your child is not really doing the work out in the field and how t...
Trying to "Solve" Another's Anxiety (Q&A) - Ep 453
March 04, 2022 16:31 - 1 hour - 93.8 MBDr. Brad Reedy took your live and pre-submitted questions. He answered questions about the value of psychiatric evaluations, "rescuing" our children, what happens to a child when one household seems more "stable" than the other, and whether or not there is such thing as "healthy codependency" (there isn't), among many others.
Attunement vs. Codependence - Ep 452
March 02, 2022 16:43 - 1 hour - 85.9 MBDr. Brad Reedy defines Attunement and Codependency and describes the differences between them. While it might feel like a fine line divides them, once you understand the effects of each on the family, that fine line widens to a large gap. Attunement is quite simply seeing and responding to the child’s needs. Codependency is projecting onto the Other your needs and meeting your needs through the Other. He also discusses the effect of healthy attachments and attunement on the family system and ...
Giving Your Loved Ones the Right to Feel (Q&A)- Ep 451
February 23, 2022 19:31 - 1 hour - 84.9 MBDr. Brad Reedy addresses a few questions that essentially ask: What do I do when my [child, parent, significant other] is feeling [a certain emotion]? He responds: When we give people the “right” to feel their feelings it helps them—and ultimately us—process and then let go of the harder or negative feelings. Then we can all start making decisions from the right place--not from control or fear or guilt or outcomes. Our decision making is then driven by something higher. He also talks about ho...
Giving Your Loved Ones the Right to Feel (Q&A) - Ep 451
February 23, 2022 19:31 - 1 hour - 84.9 MBDr. Brad Reedy addresses a few questions that essentially ask: What do I do when my [child, parent, significant other] is feeling [a certain emotion]? He responds: When we give people the “right” to feel their feelings it helps them—and ultimately us—process and then let go of the harder or negative feelings. Then we can all start making decisions from the right place--not from control or fear or guilt or outcomes. Our decision making is then driven by something higher. He also talks about ho...
Healthy Boundaries and Harriet Lerner’s “The Dance of Anger” - Ep 450
February 17, 2022 16:00 - 1 hour - 119 MBDr. Reedy revisits his favorite book on boundaries, “The Dance of Anger,” by Harriet Lerner. He talks about how guilt and fear must be faced for us to set boundaries and become who we are. He explains that anger is a signal that we need to take better care of ourselves. He also explains how we do everything (blame, argue, guilt others, complain, rage, debate, reason, etc.) except set a boundary to get others to change to avoid doing the harder work.
"You Can't WIn; You Can Only Choose How to Lose" (Q&A) - Ep 449
February 03, 2022 16:43 - 1 hour - 87.3 MBDr. Brad Reedy took your live and pre-submitted questions. Tonight he answered questions about treatment-resistant teens, how to give yourself a time out when you're in lockdown, and what effect having high expectations on your kids actually has, among others.
"You Can't Win; You Can Only Choose How to Lose" (Q&A) - Ep 449
February 03, 2022 16:43 - 1 hour - 87.3 MBDr. Brad Reedy took your live and pre-submitted questions. Tonight he answered questions about treatment-resistant teens, how to give yourself a time out when you're in lockdown, and what effect having high expectations on your kids actually has, among others.
Trauma Responses: How to Recognize & Re-route Them
February 02, 2022 18:12 - 1 hour - 89.7 MBDr. Brad Reedy defines trauma responses, discusses how to recognize them (i.e., If it’s hysterical, it’s historical), and then talks about ways to begin the process of moving past these automatic reactions into more intentional behaviors and response flexibility. “As parents, it is important for us to understand our trauma responses when we are trying to be a safe person for our kids. Trauma is inescapable, healing is elective,” says Dr. Reedy.
Trauma Responses: How to Recognize them and Re-route Them
February 02, 2022 18:12 - 1 hour - 89.7 MBDr. Brad Reedy defines trauma responses, discusses how to recognize them (i.e., If it’s hysterical, it’s historical), and then talks about ways to begin the process of moving past these automatic reactions into more intentional behaviors and response flexibility. “As parents, it is important for us to understand our trauma responses when we are trying to be a safe person for our kids. Trauma is inescapable, healing is elective,” says Dr. Reedy.
Trauma Responses: How to Recognize & Re-route Them - Ep 448
February 02, 2022 18:12 - 1 hour - 89.7 MBDr. Brad Reedy defines trauma responses, discusses how to recognize them (i.e., If it’s hysterical, it’s historical), and then talks about ways to begin the process of moving past these automatic reactions into more intentional behaviors and response flexibility. “As parents, it is important for us to understand our trauma responses when we are trying to be a safe person for our kids. Trauma is inescapable, healing is elective,” says Dr. Reedy.
Doing the Best You Can Q&A - Ep 447
January 27, 2022 15:18 - 59 minutes - 82.5 MBParents ask questions about how wilderness works for kids with ASD, whether regular at-home drug testing is a good strategy, and how much to disclose to your children about your own growth work and learning. Dr. Brad Reedy also shares important thoughts on empathy and boundaries: "Don’t let your empathy rob you of your boundaries. We parents can sometimes do that and it allows us to compromise and sacrifice things that we need for ourselves."
Doing the Best You Can (Q&A) - Ep 447
January 27, 2022 15:18 - 59 minutes - 82.5 MBParents ask questions about how wilderness works for kids with ASD, whether regular at-home drug testing is a good strategy, and how much to disclose to your children about your own growth work and learning. Dr. Brad Reedy also shares important thoughts on empathy and boundaries: "Don’t let your empathy rob you of your boundaries. We parents can sometimes do that and it allows us to compromise and sacrifice things that we need for ourselves."
Divorce, Blended Families, Step-parenting, Single-parenting, & Co-parenting - Ep 446
January 26, 2022 16:54 - 1 hour - 86.9 MBDr. Brad Reedy talks about many iterations of the family system and shares thoughts on how to approach each. Key messages: “When you talk about the other parent, you are talking about part of your child.” Choose “good enough.” Give up the need to be right. Learn to separate your need from your child’s need. Focus on what you can control. Your co-parenting relationship is modeling to your kid how to manage conflict in their lives. He also addresses parental alienation.
Full Circle: A Conversation with Mackenzie Phillips - Ep 445
January 21, 2022 16:00 - 52 minutes - 95.8 MBDr. Reedy welcomes Mackenzie Phillips to the broadcast. Mackenzie, the daughter of musical royalty, climbed aboard the acting-train when it pulled into town. She created a successful acting career and is best known for her roles on “American Graffiti,” “One Day at a Time,” and “Orange is the New Black.” And in 2008, after a public arrest at LAX, she made her way towards recovery from addiction and mental health issues. Today, Mack works with individuals and families looking to free themselves...
The Boundary is the Evidence of the Self Q&A - Ep 444
January 19, 2022 18:09 - 1 hour - 83.2 MBA parent wonders how to accept and contain her daughter’s “big” personality and moods when she feels so depleted and overwhelmed herself. Dr. Reedy says: The child does not need you to be perfect—they just need you to own your imperfection as yours. By demonstrating healthy self-care. By learning to apologize. And then by being ok with them being angry and disappointed when you do. Other parents ask about ODD, adoption/attachment issues, wilderness life nuts and bolts, and more.
The Boundary is the Evidence of the Self (Q&A) - Ep 444
January 19, 2022 18:09 - 57 minutes - 105 MBA parent wonders how to accept and contain her daughter’s “big” personality and moods when she feels so depleted and overwhelmed herself. Dr. Reedy says: The child does not need you to be perfect—they just need you to own your imperfection as yours. By demonstrating healthy self-care. By learning to apologize. And then by being ok with them being angry and disappointed when you do. Other parents ask about ODD, adoption/attachment issues, wilderness life nuts and bolts, and more.
"What Happened to You?" by Dr. Bruce D. Perry & Oprah Winfrey (book review) - Ep 443
January 12, 2022 20:19 - 1 hour - 95 MBIn this webinar, Dr. Brad Reedy reviews the book “What Happened to You” by Dr. Bruce Perry & Oprah Winfrey. Dr. Reedy praised the book as being a great introduction to trauma work while also shifting the narrative away from "What is wrong with you?" toward "What happened to you?" In essence, the book suggests looking at people’s behaviors and struggles through the lens of their history and past experiences instead of looking at them as symptoms. Dr. Reedy discusses how the brain stores traum...
Book Review of What Happened to You? by Dr. Bruce D. Perry and Oprah Winfrey - Ep 443
January 12, 2022 20:19 - 1 hour - 94.7 MBIn this webinar, Dr. Brad Reedy reviews the Book “What Happened to You” by Dr. Bruce Peery & Oprah Winfrey. Dr. Reedy praised the book as being a great introduction to trauma work while also shifting the narrative away from "What is wrong with you?" to "What happened to you?" In essence, the book suggests looking at people’s behaviors and struggles through the lens of their history and past experiences instead of looking at them as symptoms. Dr. Reedy discusses how the brain stores traumatic...
Managing Our Own Mental Health First (Q&A) - Ep 442
January 05, 2022 21:22 - 1 hour - 117 MBDr. Brad Reedy discusses school shootings and how to manage your own anxiety about them before trying to help your kids. He also covers how to share your experience with your kids without giving them advice. Says Dr. Reedy, “Mental health is about becoming our most authentic self. At Evoke we don’t think of it as 'being good' or getting the 'right' answer. So the idea of advice doesn’t even fit into our paradigm.” Additionally, he elaborates on how, when it comes to any kind of relationship, ...
Managing Our Own Mental Health First Q&A - Ep 442
January 05, 2022 21:22 - 1 hour - 87.2 MBDr. Brad Reedy discusses school shootings and how to manage your own anxiety about them before trying to help your kids. He also covers how to share your experience with your kids without giving them advice. Says Dr. Reedy, “Mental health is about becoming our most authentic self. At Evoke we don’t think of it as 'being good' or getting the 'right' answer. So the idea of advice doesn’t even fit into our paradigm.” Additionally, he elaborates on how, when it comes to any kind of relationship, ...
Couples Work: Intimacy & Betrayal - Ep 441
December 29, 2021 16:00 - 1 hour - 140 MBDr. Reedy tackles the issue of intimacy and betrayal and couples. He talks about the dynamics that contribute to betrayal in each partner and in the couple. He talks about how problems in a marriage are most often present during courtship, in the early phases of romantic love. Dr. Reedy explains that talking is a taking thing and listening is a giving thing. He also encourages couples to understand the difference between loving and needing. Lastly, he exhorts individuals to do their work, exp...
The True Heroic Task in Parenting (Q&A) - Ep 440
December 16, 2021 21:47 - 54 minutes - 75.3 MBDr. Brad Reedy takes your live and pre-submitted questions. Tonight he addresses an array of topics from how to support a child with a Borderline diagnosis to whether or not to try to prevent your child from running with the "wrong crowd" to the best way to address school shootings with your school-aged children.
The Impact of Peer Groups and Milieu on Your Child - Ep 439
December 09, 2021 17:00 - 1 hour - 112 MBThe Impact of Peer Groups and Milieu on Your Child - Ep 439 by Dr. Brad Reedy
Finding Your Inner Child - An Interview with Tiffany McKelvy - Ep 438
December 03, 2021 17:00 - 48 minutes - 88 MBDr. Reedy welcomes inner-child coach, Tiffany McKelvy. Tiffany helps the all-grown-up-but-still-very-lost children of toxic family systems find their way home to their most embodied, authentic selves. Through connecting with and reparenting their inner child, these individuals have the opportunity to disrupt the trauma loops that keep parts of us trapped, afraid, and disconnected from the whole of our beings. By engaging in this work, Tiffany’s clients are able to pull themselves out from ben...
High Quality Boundaries Q&A - Ep 437
December 02, 2021 17:00 - 58 minutes - 106 MBDr. Brad Reedy discusses control vs influence and healthy detachment, and how when you are familiar with these concepts and trying to live them, your boundaries by definition are clearer and better. He also touches on codependency and how it shows up as us giving people what we want or need and calling it helping them. And he tackles the myths and inaccuracies in the phrase “trust the process” when it comes to therapy.
An Interview with Alex White - Ep 436
December 01, 2021 16:05 - 41 minutes - 75.2 MBDr. Brad Reedy welcomes Evoke Intensives therapist Alex White to the podcast. Alex is a talented clinician that brings a wealth of passion and experience as a group facilitator and experiential therapist. Alex's warmth, relatability, and professional skills allow him to foster deep connections with Evoke participants. His love for learning and genuine curiosity towards life is palpable. Combined with an extensive clinical background, Alex’s presence and authenticity naturally conveys a feelin...
An Interview with Anthony Salerno - Ep 435
November 29, 2021 21:54 - 37 minutes - 69.4 MBDr. Brad Reedy welcomes Evoke Wilderness therapist Anthony Salerno to the podcast. Anthony shares his journey through the ranks of wilderness therapy in becoming a primary therapist. Anthony shares his approach and how he is able to stoke his passion for creating meaningful interventions at the individual, family, and group levels. Combining this rich set of clinical interventions with stories drawn from his own life experiences allows Anthony to guide students and families through the often ...
Thoughts on Thanksgiving, Ways of Thinking, and Attachment - Ep 434
November 24, 2021 15:11 - 57 minutes - 105 MBTonight, in anticipation of this week’s Thanksgiving holiday Dr. Brad Reedy speaks about how gratitude cannot be forced, how problems cannot be solved at the same level of consciousness at which they were created, and how the most fundamental need is to be truly seen and heard by the ones we love.