Finding You: An Evoke Therapy Podcast
998 episodes - English - Latest episode: 1 day ago - ★★★★★ - 133 ratingsEvoke Therapy Programs is an experientially based therapeutic program serving adolescents, young adults, parents, couples, and families. Email the host [email protected]
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Episodes
A Deeper Level of Consciousness: Think Differently (Q&A) - Ep 433
November 17, 2021 16:03 - 1 hour - 115 MBDr. Reedy talks about learning how to think, listen, and hear others. He also talks about how a compassionate listening can facilitate healing.
In Laws - Ep 432
November 10, 2021 15:15 - 1 hour - 140 MBDr. Brad Reedy speaks about in-laws: dealing with dynamics, their at times intrusive behaviors, and how to set healthy boundaries with them. Much of our success depends on our ability to ally with our spouse while at the same time holding space for ourselves. He talks us through practical aspects of boundary setting, managing our own guilt, and managing the outside resistance to our boundary-setting.
Is “Giving Up” the Answer? (Q&A)- Ep 431
November 03, 2021 16:32 - 51 minutes - 94.9 MBDr. Brad Reedy addresses the question of how giving up—as in letting go of expectations and outcomes—is different than giving up on someone. He also discusses boundaries and how to forgive yourself and accept the complete version of your “horrible, rotten” self no matter how difficult things get at home.
Is “Giving Up” the Answer? (Q&A) - Ep 431
November 03, 2021 16:32 - 51 minutes - 94.9 MBDr. Brad Reedy addresses the question of how giving up—as in letting go of expectations and outcomes—is different than giving up on someone. He also discusses boundaries and how to forgive yourself and accept the complete version of your “horrible, rotten” self no matter how difficult things get at home.
School Refusal - Ep 430
November 01, 2021 20:12 - 1 hour - 119 MBTonight Dr. Brad Reedy talks about school refusal. He suggests that perhaps school refusal isn’t the “problem” but instead is your child’s “solution” to a deeper issue. He offers different ideas to consider such as getting your child tested for learning differences. And he closes by discussing parents’ own evaluation of their goals concerning their children.
An Interview with Theresa Hasting, M.A., LPC-S, LMHC, RSP – Ep 429
October 18, 2021 16:00 - 36 minutes - 65.9 MBDr. Brad Reedy welcomes Intensive’s and Coaching therapist Theresa Hasting to the podcast. Theresa shares her journey from parenting education, wilderness therapy, to the birth of Soul Tending Services. She talks about joining the Intensive and Coaching team and explains how she differentiates coaching from counseling and psychotherapy.
Helping Your Child by Helping Yourself (Q&A) - Ep 428
October 13, 2021 14:49 - 1 hour - 113 MBHelping Your Child by Helping Yourself (Q&A) - Ep 428 by Dr. Brad Reedy
Sibling Trauma - Ep 427
October 06, 2021 14:58 - 1 hour - 139 MBDr. Brad Reedy discusses how to cope and respond to siblings who experience trauma because of the disruption caused by an identified patient. He talks about containing reflecting back to the sibling a sense of “okay-ness.” He talks about the pitfalls of trying to force siblings into treatment or to talk about their feelings before they are ready. He also suggests the parents focus on their own regulation as a means of providing children what they need.
Make Your Life (not your child’s life) Your Project (Q&A) - Ep 426
September 30, 2021 15:30 - 51 minutes - 94.8 MBDr. Reedy takes live question from the audience and talks about the right time to bring a child home after treatment. He talks at length about boundaries and working on yourself. He explains how sibling work is often a parent’s work.
Make Your Life (not your child’s life) Your Project (Q&A) - Ep 246
September 30, 2021 15:30 - 51 minutes - 94.8 MBDr. Reedy takes live question from the audience and talks about the right time to bring a child home after treatment. He talks at length about boundaries and working on yourself. He explains how sibling work is often a parent’s work.
Enmeshment (2021)- Ep 425
September 28, 2021 19:14 - 1 hour - 123 MBDr. Reedy talks all things enmeshment: What is it? Why does it exist? How to we repair it? How does anxiety and codependency figure into the enmeshment dynamic?
When You Have Tried Everything (Q&A) - Ep 424
September 23, 2021 19:45 - 54 minutes - 99.3 MBDr. Reedy takes live question from the audience and responds to parents who have tried everything. He talks about how doing your work changes you, which may result in changing your relationships with others.
Dealing with Manipulation (2021) - Ep 423
September 21, 2021 19:43 - 1 hour - 119 MBDr. Reedy discussed ways that our children and others manipulate us. He explains what creates our vulnerability to manipulation and the work we need to do to be able to resist losing ourselves in relationship to others.
How to Find a Therapist & Supporting Siblings (Q&A) - Ep 422
September 16, 2021 18:16 - 1 hour - 122 MBDr. Reedy take live questions and talks about finding a therapist, and how to find a therapy program when a child is high-risk. He also talks about how to avoid putting pressure on our children when offering treatment or therapy. He explains ways to support siblings of the identified patient.
Dealing with Resistance - Ep 421
September 14, 2021 18:25 - 1 hour - 117 MBDr. Reedy talks about how to engage resistance in others without provoking it and making it worse. He talks about how attachment theory and attachment-based therapy inform therapists and parents about how to deal with troubling symptoms or defenses in children. He explains how "honoring" the defense heals and how the goal is to "find" clients and others rather than try to "fix" them and in finding them, they fix themselves.
Lessons from Heartache & Failure with Sanford Shapiro - Ep 420
September 10, 2021 15:58 - 52 minutes - 96.5 MBDr. Reedy welcomes Sanford Shapiro back to the podcast. Sanford shares the story of parenting a stepson through mental illness, doing our own work, and how neuroscience informs parenting.
Finding Your People (Q&A)- Ep 419
September 09, 2021 14:59 - 58 minutes - 107 MBDr. Reedy takes live questions and talks about how to find people that can support you on your journey. He explains how children need to retain their dignity and how to respect their boundaries while still holding true to yourself.
Self Sabotage - Ep 418
September 08, 2021 19:25 - 1 hour - 83.5 MBDr. Reedy talks about when our children self-sabotage and how understanding primary and secondary gains can prevent reactive parenting.
“I’m Proud of You” (Q&A)- Ep 417
September 02, 2021 16:05 - 55 minutes - 102 MBDr. Reedy takes live questions and talks on the issues of praise and how to make difficult parenting decisions when no option is devoid of risks.
Entitlement & Narcissistic Children - Ep 416
August 31, 2021 15:30 - 1 hour - 126 MBDr. Reedy explains how narcissism and entitlement develop in children. He explains how a parent’s unhealed and unexplored attachment issues impact children. Dr. Reedy explains how understanding the wound beneath the symptom creates compassion and a more effective response to our children. And he warns against shaming children and instead invites parenting into their own work.
Accepting Your Imperfect Self (Q&A) - Ep 415
August 25, 2021 15:30 - 1 hour - 110 MBDr. Reedy takes live questions and talks about relationally based therapy vs behaviorally based therapy. He also explains how accepting yourself as imperfect and flawed is the door to freedom and the basis of the ability to love others. He explains how to separate-out and honor our feelings while maintaining boundaries with our children.
Wilderness in Summer (and other musings) - Ep 414
August 19, 2021 16:00 - 1 hour - 116 MBDr. Reedy talks about how the seasons affect the clinical aspects of the program. He explains how should and shouldn't get in the way of self awareness and self esteem. He also talks about mother and father wounds and how they affect a child’s development.
Learning to Let Go (Q&A) - Ep 413
August 12, 2021 16:00 - 1 hour - 82.7 MBDr. Reedy takes live questions and talks about what it means to let go and how to love our children and support them on their journey.
How to Talk to Your Child (and others) About Wilderness - Ep 412
August 05, 2021 15:06 - 1 hour - 116 MBDr. Reedy explains the theory of wilderness therapy and how to introduce (or not) wilderness therapy to your child. He explains the pitfalls in selling it to your child and empowers parents to avoid justifying their decision to family and friends.
When Does a Child Become and Adult? (Q&A) - Ep 411
August 03, 2021 16:19 - 1 hour - 112 MBDr. Reedy discusses the role of the parent in the child’s life and why a parent’s feelings weigh so heavily on the child’s psyche. He also talks about what to do when a child doesn't respect a #boundary. He talks about how grandparents can support their grandchildren buy learning and doing their own work. This is a live Q&A with family members of Evoke Therapy Programs.
Letters, Phone Calls and Field Visits - Ep 410
July 24, 2021 17:20 - 1 hour - 129 MBDr. Reedy discusses communication in the context of wilderness therapy. He talks about how our communication can reveal family patterns and dynamics and how we can notice our feelings but not react to them. He gives suggestions for approaching a visit to get the most out of it.
Trauma, Mental Health, and Addiction - Ep 409
July 13, 2021 16:14 - 1 hour - 112 MBDr. Reedy takes live questions and talks about various subjects like dealing with your child’s diagnosis, how grandparents can support the process, and understanding the interplay between the disease model of addiction and the mental health/trauma model.
Transitions and Regression (Q&A) - Ep 408
July 01, 2021 20:54 - 58 minutes - 107 MBDr. Reedy takes live questions and talks about various subjects like transitioning home after treatment, how sharing our feelings with our children impacts their development, and the role of parents as teachers for their children.
Transitions (Q&A) - Ep 408
July 01, 2021 20:54 - 58 minutes - 107 MBDr. Reedy takes live questions and talks about various subjects like transitioning home after treatment, how sharing our feelings with our children impacts their development, and the role of parents as teachers for their children.
Parental Grief and Trauma - Ep 407
June 22, 2021 16:36 - 1 hour - 123 MBDr. Reedy explores the trauma and grief of raising a child struggling with mental health issues. He talks about how therapy and 12-Step groups can offer a place to feel and heal. He explains how attachment and attachment trauma relate to trauma and resiliency. He implores parents and other family members to do their own work so they can be present with those struggling, providing a reparative experience.
Repairing Attachment Styles (Q&A) - Ep 406
June 17, 2021 17:13 - 1 hour - 119 MBDr. Brad Reedy discusses how we heal childhood attachment patterns and wounds. He talks about validating feelings but not trying to control feelings and how some skills suggest that when we listen to others’ feelings, we can make they dissipate. He also discusses treating borderline traits and how techniques only show us how to be; they do not dictate what we do and say.
Psychodrama Theory and Practice - Ep 405
June 16, 2021 18:55 - 1 hour - 129 MBDr. Brad Reedy discuss trauma and experiential therapies. He explains how the trauma affects the brain and how psychodrama accesses aspects of ourselves beyond words (talk therapy).
Learning to Own Our Issues (Q&A) - Ep 404
June 10, 2021 17:49 - 56 minutes - 104 MBDr. Brad Reedy takes live questions from the audience and discusses the journey of parenting and how enlightenment is a process of accepting our fallibility. He talks about how owning our issues and doing our work is the first step towards awareness and a step that few people take. He talks about how to think about questions regarding boundaries with our children.
How to Get Support You Need (Ch. 10 JHP book review) - Ep 403
June 08, 2021 21:11 - 1 hour - 122 MBDr. Brad Reedy discusses how to create a support network for yourself. He talks about how our outer world mirrors our inner world. Brad explains how one must learn to require others to treat them well, instead of threatening, pleading, arguing, debating, or begging to be treated well.
Being Enough for Our Children (Q&A) - Ep 402
May 28, 2021 19:42 - 56 minutes - 104 MBDr. Brad Reedy takes live questions from the audience and discusses journey of parenting and how enlightenment is the process of accepting our fallibility.
The Myths of Being Right (Ch. 9 JHP book review) - Ep 401
May 12, 2021 18:51 - 1 hour - 114 MBDr. Brad Reedy discusses the Myths of Being Right, Chapter 9 of The Journey of the Heroic Parent. He talks about how the defense we set up is to protect us from being alone or abandoned. Dr. Reedy explains how being right is a counterfeit form of being who you are, being a self, being a vulnerable human being. He explains how parents can become more human and model this to their children by doing their work and discovering their authentic self.
When Communication Skills Fail (Q&A) - Ep 400
May 06, 2021 18:02 - 55 minutes - 102 MBDr. Brad Reedy talks about what to do when communication skills don't work. He also talks about when to negotiate boundaries and when to stay firm.
When Communication Skills Fail - (Q&A) - Ep 400
May 06, 2021 18:02 - 55 minutes - 102 MBWhen Communication Skills Fail - (Q&A) - Ep 400 by Dr. Brad Reedy
Boundaries and Parenting (Ch. 8 JHP book review) - Ep 400
May 04, 2021 16:50 - 1 hour - 119 MBBoundaries and Parenting (Ch. 8 JHP book review) - Ep 400 by Dr. Brad Reedy
How to Help Children Develop a Sense of Self - Ep 399
April 27, 2021 21:41 - 1 hour - 111 MBDr. Reedy talks about how when we support our children, we must avoid trying to control them even when we think our motives are pure or will prevent them from making big mistakes. He explains how children are not capable of holding their parents’ feelings without suffering some great cost, primarily the loss of the authentic self.
Parental Guilt, Shame, and Your Child (Ch 7 JHP book review) - Ep 398
April 22, 2021 16:18 - 1 hour - 125 MBDr. Reedy destroys myths surrounding guilt and shame. discuss how guilt and shame are not effective tools in parenting and moral development. He explains how we have to tolerate feelings of guilt in order to do the right thing.
When Sharing Your Feelings is Too Much - Ep 397
April 20, 2021 18:41 - 1 hour - 111 MBDr. Reedy takes live questions from audience members and talks on themes of when to share your feelings with your child and how to be support a sibling returning home from treatment.
Control vs. Influence (Ch 6 JHP book review)- Ep 396
April 13, 2021 16:02 - 1 hour - 118 MBDr. Reedy discuss a central theme in his book, distinguishing control from levels of structure and strictness. He talks about how controlling parenting is toxic and involves the use of emotional coercion (shame, fear, guilt, debate, lecturing). He talks about how boundaries come from a place of self-care and demonstrate healthy psychological boundaries. He explains that permissive parents tend to be controlling because they use emotions to manipulate children and to ask children to take care ...
"What We do to Stay Safe Wounds Others" Live Q&A - Ep 395
April 09, 2021 13:49 - 57 minutes - 106 MBDr. Brad Reedy takes live questions from the audience on parenting. He talks about how our wounds and the symptoms created to protect us can hurt those close to us. The tittle of this broadcast is taken from Dr. JD GIll's book. "The Letters of Juliet to the Knight in Rusty Armor."
Stay in the Room: An Interview with Jeff Mclean & Michael Mclean - Ep 380
April 01, 2021 16:00 - 1 hour - 198 MBDr. Brad Reedy welcomes Michael Mclean and Jeff Mclean to the podcast. Michael, the father, is a renowned L.D.S. songwriter, playwright, author, and filmmaker. His son Jeff is an accomplished artist, singer, voice teacher, and actor in his own right. This podcast is as preview for a book the three are writing of navigating the landscape from a conservative, small-town, religious community to a father and son finding each other after the son comes out gay. We talk about faith, God, love, and w...
Getting Rid of "Should" Live Q&A with Dr. Brad Reedy - Ep 394
March 31, 2021 15:00 - 47 minutes - 87.6 MBDr. Brad Reedy takes live questions from the audience. He talks about making parenting decisions from a place of willingness and capacity rather than from a place of should or should not.
Tools for Encouraging Change in Your Children (Ch.5 JHP book review) – Ep 393
March 26, 2021 15:00 - 1 hour - 110 MBDr. Reedy continues to review chapters from his first book, “The Journey of the Heroic Parent.” In Chapter 5, Tools for Encourage Change in Your Children, Dr. Reedy explains behavioral theory and how, for it to be most effective, it must be built on a foundation of self-awareness. He explains, “Before trying to change our child’s behavior, we would be wise to listen to what that behavior is trying to tell us.”
A Parent’s Heroic Journey Inward: An Interview with Meredith Bluestine – Ep 392
March 25, 2021 22:36 - 48 minutes - 89.4 MBDr. Brad Reedy welcomes Meredith Bluestine to the broadcast. Meredith talks about her journey dealing with a child struggling with mental health issues and how it turned her towards looking inward and doing her own work. She talks about a mother’s guilt and shame. She talks about the need to talk with other parents, devoid of judgment, to find healing. She shares a mantra from the poet Maggie Nelson, “It is idle to fault a net for having holes.” We discuss what “doing your own work is” and ho...
Seeing the Unseen: An Interview with Sanford Shapiro - Ep 391
March 24, 2021 13:58 - 59 minutes - 109 MBDr. Reedy welcomes Sanford Shapiro back to the podcast. Sanford talks about "twice exceptional" clients and why it matters. He talks about seeing children and how in our understanding them, we must embrace complexity and mystery. Sanford is Evoke's Learning Specialist and Executive Consultant. He is also the author of "A Light Within" and "A Light Within My Dyslexia."
When to Draw the Line with Your Child - Ep 390
March 23, 2021 15:07 - 57 minutes - 105 MBWhen to Draw the Line with Your Child - Ep 390 by Dr. Brad Reedy