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Finding You: An Evoke Therapy Podcast

998 episodes - English - Latest episode: 1 day ago - ★★★★★ - 133 ratings

Evoke Therapy Programs is an experientially based therapeutic program serving adolescents, young adults, parents, couples, and families. Email the host [email protected]

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Episodes

How to Change a Child (Q&A) - Ep 519

February 22, 2023 17:21 - 1 hour - 62.8 MB

Dr. Reedy answers question live on various topics like “How to apply lessons from wilderness therapy to home” and “How to confront children or others when we see something in their behavior where they are struggling.” He explains how to avoid confronting defenses and letting our advice or suggestion fail when the other person is not ready to hear it.

The Comfort Crisis, by Michael Easter (Book Review) - Ep 518

February 16, 2023 03:15 - 1 hour - 68.4 MB

Dr. Reedy gives a glowing review of The Comfort Crisis. In his book, Michael Easter expounds on the scientific body of research which shows that humans thrive physically and psychologically through exercise, outdoor activities, and challenges which stress them to moderate degrees. He emphasizes primitive camping, exposure to nature’s harshness, and backpacking as the most effective ways to replicate what our ancestors did that helped them to survive and thrive as a species.

Couple Work, Intimacy, and Individuation - Ep 517

February 10, 2023 03:11 - 1 hour - 71.9 MB

Dr. Reedy talks about marriage and couples. He explains how intimacy is painful, difficult, and requires us to so the work of facing our own issues. He explains how talking tends to be a taking thing and listening tends to be a giving thing. Dr. Reedy explains that the start of the marriage and our ideas and projections on it to give us all our childhood didn’t provide are the energies and issues that later become chasms.

Focus on the “Why” of a Child’s Behavior Rather Than the “What” (Q&A) - Ep 516

February 08, 2023 15:01 - 1 hour - 61 MB

Dr. Reedy takes live and pre-submitted questions from the audience and discusses how we can look beneath the behavioral problems of the child and look into what they are feeling. He also gives examples of how shifting our style from an emphasis on behavioral modification to relationship-connection can create a shift in the child’s life.

How Children Learn, Change, and Grow (Questions from Social Media) - Ep 515

February 01, 2023 15:00 - 1 hour - 61.7 MB

Dr. Reedy takes questions from Evoke's social media followers. He explains how children learn (compared to adults). He talks about how ego, the need to be good or right, is the great barrier to mental health. He also explains how children benefit when they, the parents, make their own anxiety their responsibility.

Parenting and Ego-Death (Q&A) - Ep 514

January 25, 2023 15:00 - 1 hour - 60.6 MB

Dr. Reedy takes live and pre-submitted questions from the audience and discusses the cycle of shame that parents go through when their children give them feedback, or they become aware of their mistakes. He describes how tolerating feelings, what some refer to as an ego death, shows the child that we are a safe base in their lives.

Boundaries & Choosing How to Lose - Ep 513

January 18, 2023 14:57 - 1 hour - 65.1 MB

Dr. Reedy explains the concept of boundaries: where they come from, what they are, and the barriers we have to setting them. He explains that surrender, choosing how to lose, is a key component in developing healthy boundaries.

The More You Know, the More You Realize You Need Therapy (Q&A) - Ep 512

January 11, 2023 15:55 - 1 hour - 64.5 MB

Dr. Reedy takes live and pre-submitted questions from the audience on topics such as “How to help your co-parent,” “Should I allow my young adult to use THC while living at home,” and “How much should I tell my child about my own issues?”

Containing: How Listening Can Lead to Healing - Ep 511

January 06, 2023 22:09 - 1 hour - 101 MB

Dr. Brad Reedy discusses one of the most invaluable tools in building connection with others: the ability to listen and hear what another person is saying without reaction, defense, justification, or retaliation.

Containing: How Listening Can Lead to Healing- Ep 511

January 06, 2023 22:09 - 1 hour - 101 MB

Dr. Brad Reedy discusses one of the most invaluable tools in building connection with others. The ability to listen and hear what another person is saying without reaction, defense, justification, or retaliation.

Supporting a loved one who doesn’t want to step into their own work yet (Q&A)

January 04, 2023 23:40 - 54 minutes - 75.3 MB

Dr. Reedy takes live questions from parents on the topics of the attachment, weather in the field, and navigating a loved one who doesn’t want to do their own work. He explains further how to support someone who is experiencing a lack of a will to go on and gives some great book recommendations!

The Method of Attachment Based Therapy (Q&A) – Ep 510

January 04, 2023 23:40 - 54 minutes - 75.3 MB

Dr. Reedy takes live questions from parents on the topics of the attachment, weather in the field, and navigating a loved one who doesn’t want to do their own work. He explains further how to support someone who is experiencing a lack of a will to go on and gives some great book recommendations!

Wilderness Therapy in the Media - Ep 509

December 21, 2022 16:18 - 1 hour - 113 MB

Dr. Brad Reedy responds to and offers insight on the recent news that has come out regarding wilderness therapy and wilderness therapy alumni experiences.

Co-Parenting - Ep 508

December 14, 2022 16:31 - 1 hour - 99.7 MB

Dr. Brad Reedy covers co-parenting. Whether divorced or married, couples can help their children by following some key guidelines such as: separating their need form the child's need, not parentifying the child, and focusing on one's own growth rather than the co-parent's, among many others.

Self-Forgiveness: The Greatest Gift (Q&A) - Ep 507

December 09, 2022 15:55 - 47 minutes - 65.3 MB

Dr. Brad Reedy answers questions about how or if parents can help their "almost adults" see the effects of their actions on the family, how to know whether to bring a child directly home after wilderness or send them to another program, whether to do a family Intensive as a final step before a child returns home from treatment, and how best to support a sober child in danger of relapse, among others.

An Interview with Cori Wright - Ep 506

December 09, 2022 00:08 - 34 minutes - 31.3 MB

Dr. Reedy welcomes Evoke Therapy's Cori Wright. Cori works with adolescents and young adults in Evoke's Wilderness Therapy Program and she shares her journey into the field. She talks about the gift of regulating the nervous system using somatic experiencing and the outdoors. She explains how therapists set the stage for a client's healing through the process of co-regulation with the therapist via deep listening. She shares how becoming a mother has carved out deeper compassion and humility ...

Winter and the Holidays at Evoke - Ep 505

December 07, 2022 14:47 - 1 hour - 85 MB

Dr. Brad Reedy talks about what the winter season is like for Evoke students: how they stay warm and healthy, how they mark the winter holidays, and how their varied emotions about not being home for the holidays can lead to important insights.

The Myth of Self-Sabotage (Q&A) - Ep 504

December 05, 2022 15:00 - 50 minutes - 70.1 MB

Dr. Brad Reedy took live questions regarding a son's self-sabotage, how to "be close with" your teenager, what to do when your child is engaged in illegal activity, and self-forgiveness.

Authentic Gratitude - Ep 503

November 30, 2022 16:43 - 56 minutes - 77.7 MB

Dr. Brad Reedy discusses his habit of practicing mindfulness rather than gratitude. He shares how sometimes redirecting oneself to gratitude when one is feeling difficult feelings--looking on the bright side--can drift into toxic positivity or a denial/avoidance of uncomfortable feelings. Alternatively, when one is mindful, one can feel and manage the difficult feelings as they arrive--and then also naturally appreciate and feel grateful for life when things are going well. He also elaborates...

Debunking the Virtue of Guilt (Q&A) - Ep 502

November 23, 2022 16:30 - 1 hour - 56.2 MB

Dr. Reedy takes live questions from parents on the topics of the guilt, shame and self-care. He explains how that in order to expand our skills as a parent, we need to let go of our guilt.

Evoke's Re-launched Young Adult Program - Ep 501

November 18, 2022 15:24 - 47 minutes - 65.5 MB

Dr. Brad Reedy details the immense growth and change going on in the young adult brain as well as their attendant behaviors. He then discusses Evoke's updated Young Adult program, which makes space for their growth and change employing expeditions, adventure, mindfulness, service, as well as a newly added therapeutic Intensive, among other activities.

Secure Attachment: You'll Know It When You Feel It (Q&A) - Ep 500

November 11, 2022 16:48 - 53 minutes - 74.4 MB

Dr. Brad Reedy took questions about how to know when you have formed a secure attachment, how not to absorb your teen's moods, how to get in alignment with your spouse about parenting issues, and what codependency does--and doesn't--mean, among others.

Evoke's Three Founding Principles - Ep 499

November 09, 2022 16:59 - 1 hour - 85.1 MB

Dr. Brad Reedy reviews, explains, and illustrates Evoke's Three Founding Principles: 1. Know Your Truth 2. Express Your Truth 3. Heal in Relationships

The Way We Do One Thing Is the Way We Do Everything (Q&A) - Ep 498

November 08, 2022 17:41 - 26 minutes - 36.1 MB

Dr. Brad Reedy answers live questions regarding what a relationship can look like with a fully adult child and how to regard the concept of boundaries as well as how to set effective ones, among others.

The Identified Patient - Ep 497

October 27, 2022 16:33 - 1 hour - 94.2 MB

Dr. Brad Reedy discuses the concept of the Identified Patient. When a family focuses its efforts on saving, fixing, or helping one specific family member, that person becomes the Identified Patient. Once this person has been identified, it can absolve or in some way prevent the family from looking at their family system as a whole and each of themselves as individuals. This set-up can prevent or impede anyone in the family from doing the true growth work they need/want to do. Dr. Reedy talks ...

Letting Go and Accepting What Is(Q&A) - Ep 496

October 25, 2022 18:57 - 56 minutes - 78.4 MB

Dr. Brad Reedy took live questions. He spoke about learning how to be curious and non-judgmental in our reactions to our children, how to hold a boundary once it's been set, and the stages of a wilderness stay, among other things.

Changing Seasons: Learning to Let Go of Old Ideas, Relationships, and Contexts - Ep 495

October 12, 2022 15:59 - 57 minutes - 79.7 MB

As autumn leaves drop from the trees, Dr. Brad Reedy talks about the changing seasons of our lives and how in order to grow, the biggest lesson we must learn is to let go. Tonight he specifically elucidates Key Three from the Three Keys to Enlightenment mentioned in his book, The Audacity to Be You.

Creating Healthy Attachments (Q&A) - Ep 494

October 05, 2022 14:44 - 47 minutes - 65.4 MB

Dr. Reedy took live questions about how best to create a healthy attachment with your child, how to navigate a client/therapist relationship, how to manage the financial stresses of sending your child to treatment, and whether birth order can determine parent/child enmeshment, among others.

How to Handle it When Your Child Turns 18 in the Wilderness - Ep 493

September 22, 2022 17:07 - 1 hour - 90.5 MB

Dr. Brad Reedy talks about how to handle your child turning 18 while away at treatment, i.e. meaning what to do if and when they exercise their legal ability to leave or "walk out" because they are now adults. Yet in an approach that will appeal to many more than just those in this specific circumstance, he discusses it through a lens focused on understanding and outgrowing codependency, not counting on outcomes, and setting boundaries that will reinforce your own self-care and mental health.

An Interview with Dr. Gabor Maté and The Myth of Normal - Ep 492

September 13, 2022 19:00 - 53 minutes - 49.3 MB

Dr. Reedy welcomes Dr. Gabor Maté to the podcast. A renowned speaker and bestselling author, Dr. Gabor Maté is highly sought after for his expertise on a range of topics including addiction, stress, and childhood development. Dr. Maté has written several bestselling books, including the award-winning In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction, When the Body Says No: Exploring the Stress-Disease Connection, and Scattered: How Attention Deficit Disorder Originates and What Y...

An Interview with Dr. Gabor Mate and The Myth of Normal - Ep 492

September 13, 2022 19:00 - 53 minutes - 49.3 MB

Dr. Reedy welcomes Dr. Gabor Maté to the podcast. A renowned speaker and bestselling author, Dr. Gabor Maté is highly sought after for his expertise on a range of topics including addiction, stress, and childhood development. Dr. Maté has written several bestselling books, including the award-winning In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction, When the Body Says No: Exploring the Stress-Disease Connection, and Scattered: How Attention Deficit Disorder Originates and What Y...

Self Care is not Selfish (Q&A) - Ep 491

September 09, 2022 16:10 - 42 minutes - 58.5 MB

Dr. Brad Reedy answers questions about how to balance taking care of self and others and shedding old notions about both, drug testing your child when they are living at home, how not to micromanage a child who has recently returned home from treatment, and others.

Differentiation and Codependency: Becoming Responsible for Your Life - Ep 490

September 07, 2022 15:43 - 59 minutes - 82.9 MB

Dr. Brad Reedy starts his broadcast with the words: "If we talk about connection and intimacy, we must first talk about boundaries and individuation." What follows is a meditation on the importance of becoming a "Self," how boundaries actually *foster* intimacy, and how codependency kills it.

An Interview with Mary Warren, Ed Consultant and Parenting - Ep 489

September 04, 2022 15:00 - 26 minutes - 24.6 MB

Dr. Reedy welcomes Educational Consultant and Parent Coach, Mary Warren to the broadcast. Mary and Brad discuss the challenges people face during transitions, specifically the challenges of moving from Wilderness Therapy to a Residential Treatment Program or Therapeutic Boarding School.

The Shadow and Feeling Overwhelmed (Q&A) - Ep 488

September 02, 2022 15:00 - 50 minutes - 46.1 MB

Dr. Reedy takes live questions from parents on the topics of the shadow, when we feel overwhelmed by parenting, and how to create an emotionally space for someone while still maintaining our boundaries

What to Look for in a Therapist and Therapy - Ep 487

August 31, 2022 15:52 - 1 hour - 92.7 MB

Dr. Brad Reedy discusses some of the ways you can know whether your therapist is right for you--or not. He also explains how to think about and approach therapy in order to get the most out of it.

Guilt and Shame as Barriers to Parenting (Q&A) - Ep 486

August 24, 2022 16:04 - 57 minutes - 52.7 MB

Dr. Brad Reedy answers questions about how to get over the guilt and shame of seeing your child wrestle with the same difficult issues you do, how to research and choose a therapeutic boarding school, and how or if to intervene when you know your child is engaging in risky behaviors. He also supports a parent who reports an abusive therapist and addresses another who wants to know how to authentically connect with her teenage son who has a potential personality disorder.

Finding You, Finding Connection, and Finding Family: What is right for me? - Ep 485

August 19, 2022 16:21 - 1 hour - 103 MB

Dr. Brad Reedy discusses the three types of therapeutic Intensives Evoke offers: Finding You, Finding Connection, and Finding Family. He elucidates Evoke's practice of Attachment-based therapy and how and why it helps. He also offers and in-depth description of each Intensive, as well as its benefits.

What to Do When You've Reached Your Limit (Q&A) - Ep 484

August 17, 2022 15:41 - 1 hour - 89.5 MB

Dr. Brad Reedy addresses questions about what to do when you feel you've tried everything and your soon-to-be adult child rejects it all, how to proceed when your child "doesn't believe in boundaries," and finding balance between curiosity and consistency, among several others.

What Is Wilderness Therapy and How Does It Work? - Ep 483

August 11, 2022 13:50 - 1 hour - 89.8 MB

Dr. Brad Reedy talks about wilderness therapy and how it can be effective for struggling children and young adults--and their families. He covers how being in a therapeutic setting in the wilderness forces a digital detox, fosters grit and mindfulness, allows clients to play again, all while exposing them to positive mentoring and experiential therapy. Wilderness therapy is especially effective with resistant adolescents and allows kids to build self-esteem through tangible accomplishments. I...

The "Dents" We Make in our Children (Q&A) - Ep 482

August 09, 2022 13:18 - 1 hour - 87.3 MB

In a live Q&A parents asked questions about a child with a potentially devastating mental health diagnosis, the basics of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and how it might help, what to do when you are overwhelmed by guilt about the ways you have "dented" your children, and one parent reached out expressing fear and loneliness because her son's involvement in gangs has left her feeling like she has no parental peers in the treatment world.

Finding Meaning in the Second Half of Life: Reflecting on the work of James Hollis - Ep 481

August 04, 2022 17:11 - 1 hour - 97.4 MB

Dr. Brad Reedy, recently back from vacation, speaks of lessons learned during his time off, through the lens of the works of Dr. James Hollis, a Jungian psychoanalyst. One of Dr. Reedy's opening quotes from Hollis's book The Middle Passage, perfectly previews this talk: "But such is the first [half of] adulthood: full of blunders, shyness, inhibitions, mistaken assumptions, and always, the silent rolling of the tapes of childhood. If one had not set forth and made those mistakes and crashed i...

An Interview with Clement Wilson - Ep 480

July 29, 2022 21:55 - 40 minutes - 55.6 MB

Dr. Brad Reedy interviews public school social worker and Evoke Intensives therapist and coach, Clement Wilson.

Guest Host Travis Slagle on The Myth of Being Good - Ep 479

July 27, 2022 22:15 - 53 minutes - 74.7 MB

Evoke Intensives Clinical Director, Travis Slagle talks about the myth of being good, and how our need to be "good," bred into us from the earliest parts of our lives, can destroy our agency and authenticity. "It's better to be a Self, than to be 'good.'"

An Interview with Casie Fariello - Ep 478

July 18, 2022 16:01 - 28 minutes - 39 MB

Dr. Brad Reedy talks with Casie Fariello, co-founder of Other Parents Like Me, a subscription-based online platform designed to support young people with mental health and substance abuse challenges.

Become Selfish Like the Buddha (Q&A) - Ep 476

June 30, 2022 23:08 - 52 minutes - 72.2 MB

Dr. Reedy takes questions from a live audience. He discusses how to hold boundaries and develop greater capacity for those we love. He explains how the foundation of compassion develops as we take care of ourselves and do what some might consider selfish.

Become Selfish Like the Buddha - Ep 476

June 30, 2022 23:08 - 52 minutes - 72.2 MB

Dr. Reedy takes questions from a live audience. He discusses how to hold boundaries and develop greater capacity for those we love. He explains how the foundation of compassion develops as we take care of ourselves and do what some might consider selfish.

Book Review: No Bad Parts by Richard Schwartz, PhD. with a Forward by Alanis Morrissette - Ep 475

June 24, 2022 14:40 - 54 minutes - 75.9 MB

Dr. Brad Reedy discusses the book No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model by Richard Schwartz, PhD. He covers Schwartz's writings on the parts of the self, the eight C's of Internal Family Systems, and other concepts elucidated in the book. Reedy ends with key takeaways from the work that overlap with Evoke's philosophy. Find out more at www.evoketherapy.com

Influencing vs Controlling Our Kids' Behavior (Q&A) - Ep 474

June 22, 2022 15:42 - 58 minutes - 81.4 MB

Dr. Brad Reedy answers questions about what to do when you discover your child might be into dangerous pastimes or behaviors, how to feel and contain your anger so you can then be a safe container for your child's feelings, and how to best support your child while they are in wilderness. He also addresses a parent who will be taking in a Ukrainian refugee, the value of somatic experiencing, and family visits to the wilderness, among others.

Parental Trauma: Share Your Stories - Ep 473

June 16, 2022 15:09 - 1 hour - 86.9 MB

Dr. Brad Reedy did a short discussion of parental trauma, including how to think about it and some key take aways for handling it. He then invited parents to share their tough stories, to show everyone that they are never alone in their trials. Parents opened up about dilemmas that felt terrifying and unsolvable. They shared about overdoses, run aways, relapses, and seemingly intractable behavioral problems. The goal in this episode was not to troubleshoot and help parents solve their problem...

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