Finding You: An Evoke Therapy Podcast
985 episodes - English - Latest episode: 4 days ago - ★★★★★ - 133 ratingsEvoke Therapy Programs is an experientially based therapeutic program serving adolescents, young adults, parents, couples, and families. Email the host [email protected]
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Episodes
Co-Parenting - Ep 508
December 14, 2022 16:31 - 1 hour - 99.7 MBDr. Brad Reedy covers co-parenting. Whether divorced or married, couples can help their children by following some key guidelines such as: separating their need form the child's need, not parentifying the child, and focusing on one's own growth rather than the co-parent's, among many others.
Self-Forgiveness: The Greatest Gift (Q&A) - Ep 507
December 09, 2022 15:55 - 47 minutes - 65.3 MBDr. Brad Reedy answers questions about how or if parents can help their "almost adults" see the effects of their actions on the family, how to know whether to bring a child directly home after wilderness or send them to another program, whether to do a family Intensive as a final step before a child returns home from treatment, and how best to support a sober child in danger of relapse, among others.
An Interview with Cori Wright - Ep 506
December 09, 2022 00:08 - 34 minutes - 31.3 MBDr. Reedy welcomes Evoke Therapy's Cori Wright. Cori works with adolescents and young adults in Evoke's Wilderness Therapy Program and she shares her journey into the field. She talks about the gift of regulating the nervous system using somatic experiencing and the outdoors. She explains how therapists set the stage for a client's healing through the process of co-regulation with the therapist via deep listening. She shares how becoming a mother has carved out deeper compassion and humility ...
Winter and the Holidays at Evoke - Ep 505
December 07, 2022 14:47 - 1 hour - 85 MBDr. Brad Reedy talks about what the winter season is like for Evoke students: how they stay warm and healthy, how they mark the winter holidays, and how their varied emotions about not being home for the holidays can lead to important insights.
The Myth of Self-Sabotage (Q&A) - Ep 504
December 05, 2022 15:00 - 50 minutes - 70.1 MBDr. Brad Reedy took live questions regarding a son's self-sabotage, how to "be close with" your teenager, what to do when your child is engaged in illegal activity, and self-forgiveness.
Authentic Gratitude - Ep 503
November 30, 2022 16:43 - 56 minutes - 77.7 MBDr. Brad Reedy discusses his habit of practicing mindfulness rather than gratitude. He shares how sometimes redirecting oneself to gratitude when one is feeling difficult feelings--looking on the bright side--can drift into toxic positivity or a denial/avoidance of uncomfortable feelings. Alternatively, when one is mindful, one can feel and manage the difficult feelings as they arrive--and then also naturally appreciate and feel grateful for life when things are going well. He also elaborates...
Debunking the Virtue of Guilt (Q&A) - Ep 502
November 23, 2022 16:30 - 1 hour - 56.2 MBDr. Reedy takes live questions from parents on the topics of the guilt, shame and self-care. He explains how that in order to expand our skills as a parent, we need to let go of our guilt.
Evoke's Re-launched Young Adult Program - Ep 501
November 18, 2022 15:24 - 47 minutes - 65.5 MBDr. Brad Reedy details the immense growth and change going on in the young adult brain as well as their attendant behaviors. He then discusses Evoke's updated Young Adult program, which makes space for their growth and change employing expeditions, adventure, mindfulness, service, as well as a newly added therapeutic Intensive, among other activities.
Secure Attachment: You'll Know It When You Feel It (Q&A) - Ep 500
November 11, 2022 16:48 - 53 minutes - 74.4 MBDr. Brad Reedy took questions about how to know when you have formed a secure attachment, how not to absorb your teen's moods, how to get in alignment with your spouse about parenting issues, and what codependency does--and doesn't--mean, among others.
Evoke's Three Founding Principles - Ep 499
November 09, 2022 16:59 - 1 hour - 85.1 MBDr. Brad Reedy reviews, explains, and illustrates Evoke's Three Founding Principles: 1. Know Your Truth 2. Express Your Truth 3. Heal in Relationships
The Way We Do One Thing Is the Way We Do Everything (Q&A) - Ep 498
November 08, 2022 17:41 - 26 minutes - 36.1 MBDr. Brad Reedy answers live questions regarding what a relationship can look like with a fully adult child and how to regard the concept of boundaries as well as how to set effective ones, among others.
The Identified Patient - Ep 497
October 27, 2022 16:33 - 1 hour - 94.2 MBDr. Brad Reedy discuses the concept of the Identified Patient. When a family focuses its efforts on saving, fixing, or helping one specific family member, that person becomes the Identified Patient. Once this person has been identified, it can absolve or in some way prevent the family from looking at their family system as a whole and each of themselves as individuals. This set-up can prevent or impede anyone in the family from doing the true growth work they need/want to do. Dr. Reedy talks ...
Letting Go and Accepting What Is(Q&A) - Ep 496
October 25, 2022 18:57 - 56 minutes - 78.4 MBDr. Brad Reedy took live questions. He spoke about learning how to be curious and non-judgmental in our reactions to our children, how to hold a boundary once it's been set, and the stages of a wilderness stay, among other things.
Changing Seasons: Learning to Let Go of Old Ideas, Relationships, and Contexts - Ep 495
October 12, 2022 15:59 - 57 minutes - 79.7 MBAs autumn leaves drop from the trees, Dr. Brad Reedy talks about the changing seasons of our lives and how in order to grow, the biggest lesson we must learn is to let go. Tonight he specifically elucidates Key Three from the Three Keys to Enlightenment mentioned in his book, The Audacity to Be You.
Creating Healthy Attachments (Q&A) - Ep 494
October 05, 2022 14:44 - 47 minutes - 65.4 MBDr. Reedy took live questions about how best to create a healthy attachment with your child, how to navigate a client/therapist relationship, how to manage the financial stresses of sending your child to treatment, and whether birth order can determine parent/child enmeshment, among others.
How to Handle it When Your Child Turns 18 in the Wilderness - Ep 493
September 22, 2022 17:07 - 1 hour - 90.5 MBDr. Brad Reedy talks about how to handle your child turning 18 while away at treatment, i.e. meaning what to do if and when they exercise their legal ability to leave or "walk out" because they are now adults. Yet in an approach that will appeal to many more than just those in this specific circumstance, he discusses it through a lens focused on understanding and outgrowing codependency, not counting on outcomes, and setting boundaries that will reinforce your own self-care and mental health.
An Interview with Dr. Gabor Maté and The Myth of Normal - Ep 492
September 13, 2022 19:00 - 53 minutes - 49.3 MBDr. Reedy welcomes Dr. Gabor Maté to the podcast. A renowned speaker and bestselling author, Dr. Gabor Maté is highly sought after for his expertise on a range of topics including addiction, stress, and childhood development. Dr. Maté has written several bestselling books, including the award-winning In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction, When the Body Says No: Exploring the Stress-Disease Connection, and Scattered: How Attention Deficit Disorder Originates and What Y...
An Interview with Dr. Gabor Mate and The Myth of Normal - Ep 492
September 13, 2022 19:00 - 53 minutes - 49.3 MBDr. Reedy welcomes Dr. Gabor Maté to the podcast. A renowned speaker and bestselling author, Dr. Gabor Maté is highly sought after for his expertise on a range of topics including addiction, stress, and childhood development. Dr. Maté has written several bestselling books, including the award-winning In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction, When the Body Says No: Exploring the Stress-Disease Connection, and Scattered: How Attention Deficit Disorder Originates and What Y...
Self Care is not Selfish (Q&A) - Ep 491
September 09, 2022 16:10 - 42 minutes - 58.5 MBDr. Brad Reedy answers questions about how to balance taking care of self and others and shedding old notions about both, drug testing your child when they are living at home, how not to micromanage a child who has recently returned home from treatment, and others.
Differentiation and Codependency: Becoming Responsible for Your Life - Ep 490
September 07, 2022 15:43 - 59 minutes - 82.9 MBDr. Brad Reedy starts his broadcast with the words: "If we talk about connection and intimacy, we must first talk about boundaries and individuation." What follows is a meditation on the importance of becoming a "Self," how boundaries actually *foster* intimacy, and how codependency kills it.
An Interview with Mary Warren, Ed Consultant and Parenting - Ep 489
September 04, 2022 15:00 - 26 minutes - 24.6 MBDr. Reedy welcomes Educational Consultant and Parent Coach, Mary Warren to the broadcast. Mary and Brad discuss the challenges people face during transitions, specifically the challenges of moving from Wilderness Therapy to a Residential Treatment Program or Therapeutic Boarding School.
The Shadow and Feeling Overwhelmed (Q&A) - Ep 488
September 02, 2022 15:00 - 50 minutes - 46.1 MBDr. Reedy takes live questions from parents on the topics of the shadow, when we feel overwhelmed by parenting, and how to create an emotionally space for someone while still maintaining our boundaries
What to Look for in a Therapist and Therapy - Ep 487
August 31, 2022 15:52 - 1 hour - 92.7 MBDr. Brad Reedy discusses some of the ways you can know whether your therapist is right for you--or not. He also explains how to think about and approach therapy in order to get the most out of it.
Guilt and Shame as Barriers to Parenting (Q&A) - Ep 486
August 24, 2022 16:04 - 57 minutes - 52.7 MBDr. Brad Reedy answers questions about how to get over the guilt and shame of seeing your child wrestle with the same difficult issues you do, how to research and choose a therapeutic boarding school, and how or if to intervene when you know your child is engaging in risky behaviors. He also supports a parent who reports an abusive therapist and addresses another who wants to know how to authentically connect with her teenage son who has a potential personality disorder.
Finding You, Finding Connection, and Finding Family: What is right for me? - Ep 485
August 19, 2022 16:21 - 1 hour - 103 MBDr. Brad Reedy discusses the three types of therapeutic Intensives Evoke offers: Finding You, Finding Connection, and Finding Family. He elucidates Evoke's practice of Attachment-based therapy and how and why it helps. He also offers and in-depth description of each Intensive, as well as its benefits.
What to Do When You've Reached Your Limit (Q&A) - Ep 484
August 17, 2022 15:41 - 1 hour - 89.5 MBDr. Brad Reedy addresses questions about what to do when you feel you've tried everything and your soon-to-be adult child rejects it all, how to proceed when your child "doesn't believe in boundaries," and finding balance between curiosity and consistency, among several others.
What Is Wilderness Therapy and How Does It Work? - Ep 483
August 11, 2022 13:50 - 1 hour - 89.8 MBDr. Brad Reedy talks about wilderness therapy and how it can be effective for struggling children and young adults--and their families. He covers how being in a therapeutic setting in the wilderness forces a digital detox, fosters grit and mindfulness, allows clients to play again, all while exposing them to positive mentoring and experiential therapy. Wilderness therapy is especially effective with resistant adolescents and allows kids to build self-esteem through tangible accomplishments. I...
The "Dents" We Make in our Children (Q&A) - Ep 482
August 09, 2022 13:18 - 1 hour - 87.3 MBIn a live Q&A parents asked questions about a child with a potentially devastating mental health diagnosis, the basics of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and how it might help, what to do when you are overwhelmed by guilt about the ways you have "dented" your children, and one parent reached out expressing fear and loneliness because her son's involvement in gangs has left her feeling like she has no parental peers in the treatment world.
Finding Meaning in the Second Half of Life: Reflecting on the work of James Hollis - Ep 481
August 04, 2022 17:11 - 1 hour - 97.4 MBDr. Brad Reedy, recently back from vacation, speaks of lessons learned during his time off, through the lens of the works of Dr. James Hollis, a Jungian psychoanalyst. One of Dr. Reedy's opening quotes from Hollis's book The Middle Passage, perfectly previews this talk: "But such is the first [half of] adulthood: full of blunders, shyness, inhibitions, mistaken assumptions, and always, the silent rolling of the tapes of childhood. If one had not set forth and made those mistakes and crashed i...
An Interview with Clement Wilson - Ep 480
July 29, 2022 21:55 - 40 minutes - 55.6 MBDr. Brad Reedy interviews public school social worker and Evoke Intensives therapist and coach, Clement Wilson.
Guest Host Travis Slagle on The Myth of Being Good - Ep 479
July 27, 2022 22:15 - 53 minutes - 74.7 MBEvoke Intensives Clinical Director, Travis Slagle talks about the myth of being good, and how our need to be "good," bred into us from the earliest parts of our lives, can destroy our agency and authenticity. "It's better to be a Self, than to be 'good.'"
An Interview with Casie Fariello - Ep 478
July 18, 2022 16:01 - 28 minutes - 39 MBDr. Brad Reedy talks with Casie Fariello, co-founder of Other Parents Like Me, a subscription-based online platform designed to support young people with mental health and substance abuse challenges.
Become Selfish Like the Buddha (Q&A) - Ep 476
June 30, 2022 23:08 - 52 minutes - 72.2 MBDr. Reedy takes questions from a live audience. He discusses how to hold boundaries and develop greater capacity for those we love. He explains how the foundation of compassion develops as we take care of ourselves and do what some might consider selfish.
Become Selfish Like the Buddha - Ep 476
June 30, 2022 23:08 - 52 minutes - 72.2 MBDr. Reedy takes questions from a live audience. He discusses how to hold boundaries and develop greater capacity for those we love. He explains how the foundation of compassion develops as we take care of ourselves and do what some might consider selfish.
Book Review: No Bad Parts by Richard Schwartz, PhD. with a Forward by Alanis Morrissette - Ep 475
June 24, 2022 14:40 - 54 minutes - 75.9 MBDr. Brad Reedy discusses the book No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model by Richard Schwartz, PhD. He covers Schwartz's writings on the parts of the self, the eight C's of Internal Family Systems, and other concepts elucidated in the book. Reedy ends with key takeaways from the work that overlap with Evoke's philosophy. Find out more at www.evoketherapy.com
Influencing vs Controlling Our Kids' Behavior (Q&A) - Ep 474
June 22, 2022 15:42 - 58 minutes - 81.4 MBDr. Brad Reedy answers questions about what to do when you discover your child might be into dangerous pastimes or behaviors, how to feel and contain your anger so you can then be a safe container for your child's feelings, and how to best support your child while they are in wilderness. He also addresses a parent who will be taking in a Ukrainian refugee, the value of somatic experiencing, and family visits to the wilderness, among others.
Parental Trauma: Share Your Stories - Ep 473
June 16, 2022 15:09 - 1 hour - 86.9 MBDr. Brad Reedy did a short discussion of parental trauma, including how to think about it and some key take aways for handling it. He then invited parents to share their tough stories, to show everyone that they are never alone in their trials. Parents opened up about dilemmas that felt terrifying and unsolvable. They shared about overdoses, run aways, relapses, and seemingly intractable behavioral problems. The goal in this episode was not to troubleshoot and help parents solve their problem...
An Interview with Noel Koons - Ep 472
June 12, 2022 13:21 - 1 hour - 95.8 MBDr. Reedy welcomes Evoke Intensives therapist Noel Koons to the broadcast. Noel covers topics that ranger from Taoism to mindfulness to Fining Nemo as he explains how he helps clients move through difficult and painful emotions to find themselves and heal.
Is It Compassion or Is It Guilt? (Q&A) - Ep 471
June 10, 2022 14:17 - 58 minutes - 81.1 MBDr. Brad Reedy answers questions about compassion vs. enabling, guilt, the nature of addiction, and co-dependency. He also talks about what to do when your therapist may not be the right fit, how much to share with your children about your own personal growth journey, and whether/what to tell a child's potential new school about their time in the wilderness.
The Evoke Clinical Vision - Ep 470
June 08, 2022 15:06 - 1 hour - 89.8 MBDr. Brad Reedy explains the Evoke Clinical Vision. He explains the Cycle of Health and Wholeness, what Experiential Therapy is, what Attachment Theory is, and why we base our care on it. He then walks through some memorable quotes that have important ways of thinking behind them. He finishes with the Three Keys and explains the Shame Cycle.
What is "The Work?" (Q&A) - Ep 469
June 01, 2022 15:00 - 58 minutes - 80.5 MBDr. Brad Reedy answers questions about what he means when he refers to "the work," how to handle it when the work feels too hard, and what to do when your co-parent is not doing their work. He also answers questions about when one's child is ready to leave wilderness, whether and how Evoke supports spirituality/religion and its practice for its students, along with several other questions.
Let's Talk About Sex - Ep 468
May 25, 2022 15:58 - 1 hour - 84.8 MBIn this podcast, Dr. Brad Reedy talks about sex as it relates to parenting teens and young adults. He covers topics such as consent, promiscuity/sexual "acting out," sexual double standards for boys and girls, and how to walk the line between privacy and safety for a child who is under 18. He also makes the case that parents' attitudes/shame/hang ups about sex will have an impact on how their children feel about sex, how they talk about it, and how safe they feel opening up about it.
Why Wilderness? Why Therapy? (Q&A) - Ep 467
May 19, 2022 17:22 - 1 hour - 85.2 MBDr. Brad Reedy took live questions about how therapy can help us, why and how wilderness therapy creates positive change, Evoke wilderness's different phases, and Evoke's parent mentoring program. He also addressed what to do when visiting an adult child with severe OCD, how to think about writing a will when you have a struggling child, and how to manage your own life and health when you have a child with multiple behavioral and mental health issues.
An Interview with Christian Snuffer - Ep 466
May 18, 2022 16:55 - 29 minutes - 53.4 MBEvoke therapist Christian Snuffer joins the podcast and discusses his journey from wilderness therapy to the Evoke Intensive team. Christian discusses his integrative approach, including psychedelic assisted psychotherapy.
The Masculine and Feminine Energy in Each of Us - Ep 465
May 10, 2022 14:24 - 1 hour - 88.6 MBDr. Brad Reedy explains the definitions of masculine and feminine energies and how they differ from the terms "sex" and "gender." He then goes on to discuss the qualities of each and how we are at our best when we accept and cultivate a balance of both within us. He also touches on toxic and healthy masculine and feminine traits.
A Parenting Paradigm Shift (Q&A) - Ep 464
May 06, 2022 03:23 - 57 minutes - 79.8 MBDr. Brad Reedy took live questions about what happens when a child goes directly home from wilderness, what to do when we wound our children, holding a boundary against marijuana in the home, and how to find the balance between being self-focused and others-focused, among many others.
Evoke Family Work and Family Walkabouts - Ep 463
April 28, 2022 14:49 - 55 minutes - 76.7 MBDr. Brad Reedy talks about the importance of parent work, both while their child is away at wilderness/treatment, but also as a routine practice. He shares, "Doing your own work isn’t about 'You caused it, you broke it, you gotta fix it.' Doing your own work is modeling for your child to do *their* work.” In this context he also discusses Family Walkabouts at Evoke, and why they can be a benefit to all.
Toxic Families (Q&A) - Ep 462
April 21, 2022 13:08 - 59 minutes - 81.9 MBDr. Brad Reedy took your live questions. He addressed toxic families and how to (or not to) live with them, wilderness solos, and the benefits of attending an Evoke Intensive therapeutic retreat. He also discussed the impact of siblings vs parents on family systems and adoption.
Wilderness Solos: A Tool to Find Your Voice - Ep 461
April 20, 2022 15:22 - 55 minutes - 76.8 MBDr. Brad Reedy discusses the concept of wilderness solos, the practice of Evoke students taking time away from the group and on their own during their stays. He likens the solo to Joseph Campbell's hero's journey, where the circumstances in the hero's life compel them to go deep within themselves, understand who they truly are, and experience life-changing revelations because of that reflection.
When the Work Gets Difficult (Q&A)- Ep 460
April 14, 2022 15:40 - 52 minutes - 72.4 MBDr. Brad Reedy took live questions about individuation vs. rebellion, what to do when a child doesn't honor your boundaries, and what families can do toward their growth and healing while their child's away at wilderness. He also discusses how to think about the concept of a higher power in recovery groups if you are not religious, and what to do when you are doing your work and growing, but difficult emotions are overwhelming you as you do that healing.