DBT & Me
163 episodes - English - Latest episode: 24 days ago - ★★★★ - 110 ratingsDialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) was created by a woman named Marsha Linehan in the 1980s. The skills she created are now taught all over the world. DBT can improve depression, anxiety, borderline personality disorder, and other mental health struggles. We are Kate and Michelle, two mental health therapists in Seattle, WA. We have been teaching DBT groups as a team for years. Whether you've never heard of DBT before or are experienced with DBT skills, this podcast is here to help you use DBT skills in your daily life.
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Episodes
Mindfulness and Wise Mind from a Spiritual Perspective
March 27, 2024 07:00 - 1 hour - 66.9 MBKate and Michelle talk about practicing mindfulness and wise mind from a spiritual perspective. They discuss 4 key goals of mindfulness, 5 contemplative practices for accessing wise mind, elements of mystical experiences and their personal experiences with practicing mindfulness and wise mind spiritually. Support the show If you're a mental health professional/student and want to join us to learn more about our insider tips for launching and leading DBT groups, sign up for our next coffee ...
Recovering From Invalidation
February 28, 2024 08:00 - 1 hour - 53.3 MBKate and Michelle talk about reasons when invalidation can be helpful and painful. They also talk about 12 ways DBT can help with recovering from invalidation after it happens, sharing their personal experiences along the way. Support the show If you're a mental health professional/student and want to join us to learn more about our insider tips for launching and leading DBT groups, sign up for our next coffee hour group on April 1, 2024 here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/856399653417 If ...
Q & A Episode 58
February 19, 2024 08:00 - 42 minutes - 29.4 MBKate and Michelle answer listener questions about going beyond "studying" DBT, recovering after being taken advantage of, handling feelings of jealousy, and disagreeing with family members about different morals/values. Support the show If you're a mental health professional/student and want to join us to learn more about our insider tips for launching and leading DBT groups, sign up for our next coffee hour group on April 1, 2024 here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/856399653417 If you want...
Biosocial Theory
January 31, 2024 08:00 - 1 hour - 50.7 MBKate and Michelle discuss DBT's biosocial theory and explain how our ability to regulate our emotions is impacted by our physiology and our social environment. If you want to learn more about the podcast Kate will be a guest on, you can check out their website: https://speakthescience.com/miss-behavior-journal-club-podcast/ Support the show If you're a mental health professional/student and want to join us to learn more about our insider tips for launching and leading DBT groups, sign up f...
Creating a Life Worth Living
December 27, 2023 08:00 - 1 hour - 55.7 MBKate and Michelle discuss what it means to create a life worth living. They share how they are personally doing this as well as what they struggle with. They each share skills that can help you move closer to creating a life worth living for yourself. TRIGGER WARNING: Please note that material that may be triggering is discussed from 3:20-4:36, 27:50-28:00 and from 37:31-37:44. Support the show If you're a mental health professional/student and want to join us to learn more about our insi...
Q & A Episode 57
December 11, 2023 08:00 - 40 minutes - 27.9 MBKate and Michelle answer listener questions about struggling with persistent depression, skills for self-hatred, online DBT groups, and how to effectively express disappointment. If you'd like to sign up for the free DBT peer support group through Kate's clinic, you can do so at this link: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/dbt-discussion-group-tickets-518237601617 Support the show If you're a mental health professional/student and want to join us to learn more about our insider tips for launchi...
"DBT for Everyone": Learn all about our new book!
November 29, 2023 08:00 - 1 hour - 48.6 MBKate and Michelle's book, "DBT for Everyone: A Guide to the Perks, Pitfalls and Possibilities of DBT for Better Mental Health" is now released! They talk more in-depth about the structure of the book, plus they each read some favorite excerpts. Two lucky winners of free, signed copies are announced at the end! Support the show If you're a mental health professional/student and want to join us to learn more about our insider tips for launching and leading DBT groups, sign up for our next coff...
Want to win a free copy of our book? Listen to this!
October 25, 2023 07:00 - 10 minutes - 7.06 MBThere's no October monthly episode today (lots has been going on in our lives!), but coming up in November we will be taking a deep dive into talking more about our BOOK! November 21st is the release date and we can't wait to share more about it with all of you. If you want to be entered to win a free copy, join our Patreon at the link below. The link is also below to order off of Amazon. Thank you for all your support! Support the show If you're a mental health professional/student and wa...
DBT and Codependency
September 27, 2023 07:00 - 1 hour - 56.5 MBKate and Michelle discuss what codependency is (and isn't), how it relates to borderline personality disorder and which DBT skills may help reduce codependency in relationships with others. Support the show If you're a mental health professional/student and want to join us to learn more about our insider tips for launching and leading DBT groups, sign up for our next coffee hour group on April 1, 2024 here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/856399653417 If you want to sign up for Kate's free D...
Q & A Episode 56
September 11, 2023 07:00 - 47 minutes - 32.9 MBKate and Michelle answer listener questions about whether or not to move in with a partner who is not seeking mental health treatment, diving deeper into using DBT, struggling with cleaning, and how to keep using skills when your group is on a hiatus. Support the show If you're a mental health professional/student and want to join us to learn more about our insider tips for launching and leading DBT groups, sign up for our next coffee hour group on April 1, 2024 here: https://www.eventbrit...
How We've Been Using Skills
August 30, 2023 07:00 - 1 hour - 50.6 MBKate and Michelle each talk about three recent life events they've experienced over the past month that led to them using DBT skills personally. TRIGGER WARNING: Material that may be triggering is discussed from 34:20-41:17. If you're a mental health professional/student and want to join us to learn more about our insider tips for launching and leading DBT groups, sign up for our next coffee hour group on September 4th, 2023 here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/688895804897?aff=oddtdtcreat...
Q & A Episode 55
August 21, 2023 07:00 - 35 minutes - 24.8 MBKate and Michelle answer listener questions about coping after you've set boundaries with someone, struggling with children who are refusing to go to school, the difference between GIVE and DEAR MAN, and talking to an adult child about doing DBT in an in-patient setting. Support the show If you're a mental health professional/student and want to join us to learn more about our insider tips for launching and leading DBT groups, sign up for our next coffee hour group on April 1, 2024 here: h...
Q & A Episode 54
August 07, 2023 07:00 - 40 minutes - 27.9 MBKate and Michelle answer listener questions about coping with loneliness after a breakup, whether or not to do DBT in a group and/or individually, skills for de-personalization and de-realization, and using check the facts with medical conditions. Support the show If you're a mental health professional/student and want to join us to learn more about our insider tips for launching and leading DBT groups, sign up for our next coffee hour group on April 1, 2024 here: https://www.eventbrite.com...
Being a Borderline Doctor with Carly Krespan
July 26, 2023 07:00 - 1 hour - 52.7 MBKate and Michelle are joined by special guest Carly Krespan to talk about her experiences of going through medical school and becoming a mental health provider while also having a personal diagnosis of Borderline Personality Disorder. Carly shares her story and talks about experiencing unfair treatment due to her mental health history. She also provides suggestions for those who want to enter the medical field, but fear backlash due to their mental health. TRIGGER WARNING: Material that ma...
7 Key Principles of DBT/Skills Training Assumptions
June 28, 2023 07:00 - 1 hour - 49.4 MBKate and Michelle discuss what DBT calls "skills training assumptions" and provide their thoughts on these seven key principles of dialectical thinking. TRIGGER WARNING: Material that may be triggering is discussed from 21:14-21:42. If you're a mental health professional/student and want to join us to learn more about our insider tips for launching and leading DBT groups, sign up for our next coffee hour group on July 3rd, 2023 here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/645780576087 If you want ...
Q & A Episode 53
June 12, 2023 07:00 - 49 minutes - 34.2 MBKate and Michelle answer listener questions about starting DBT groups, skills to use for various forms of grief, worrying about becoming a mom with a BPD diagnosis, and goals for parent/child relationships. Support the show If you're a mental health professional/student and want to join us to learn more about our insider tips for launching and leading DBT groups, sign up for our next coffee hour group on April 1, 2024 here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/856399653417 If you want to sign up f...
Calling all mental health professionals! We need your help!
June 07, 2023 07:00 - 10 minutes - 7.3 MBWe've been leading coffee hour groups for a couple months and we would love it if you're open to taking 5-10 minutes of your time to answer a few quick questions for us so we can make this offering the best it can be! Here's the link to the survey questions: https://forms.gle/RjyC9zXmY34tWGzg9 If you want to sign up for our July coffee hour, you can do so here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/645780576087 Support the show If you're a mental health professional/student and want to join us to ...
Alternate Rebellion
May 31, 2023 07:00 - 1 hour - 45.1 MBKate and Michelle discuss a distress tolerance skill used for addictive behaviors called alternate rebellion. They give personal examples from their lives to demonstrate ways this skill can be applied to situations outside of addictions and offer their own tips for how to implement it in your life. TRIGGER WARNING: Material that may be triggering is discussed from 45:18-46:35. If you're a mental health professional/student and want to join us to learn more about our insider tips for launc...
Q & A Episode 52
May 15, 2023 07:00 - 41 minutes - 28.9 MBKate and Michelle answer listener questions about struggling with a friend's unhealthy romantic relationship, "falling out of love" with DBT, using mindfulness when you feel like you're losing control, and changing sleep habits. TRIGGER WARNING: Please note material that may be triggering is discussed from 1:43-2:15. Support the show If you're a mental health professional/student and want to join us to learn more about our insider tips for launching and leading DBT groups, sign up for our n...
Self-Soothing Kits
April 26, 2023 07:00 - 1 hour - 52.3 MBKate and Michelle talk about how to make self-soothing kits by sharing their own personal experiences with making their own kits, when to use self-soothing, and suggestions to make sure you avoid common pitfalls when trying this out. If you're a mental health professional/student and want to join us to learn more about our insider tips for launching and leading DBT groups, sign up for our next coffee hour group on May 1st, 2023 here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/may-2023-coffee-hour-market...
Q & A Episode 51
April 10, 2023 07:00 - 1 hour - 44.3 MBKate and Michelle answer listener questions about coping with the aftermath of being "split" on by a friend, free/low-cost DBT resources, managing anger and relapsing with self- harm. TRIGGER WARNING: Material that may be triggering is discussed from 36:30-1:02:55. Support the show If you're a mental health professional/student and want to join us to learn more about our insider tips for launching and leading DBT groups, sign up for our next coffee hour group on April 1, 2024 here: https:...
Turning the Mind / Radical Acceptance Part 2
March 29, 2023 07:00 - 1 hour - 61.5 MBKate and Michelle discuss the importance of using the "turning the mind" skill in the context of finding radical acceptance and teach the four steps of turning the mind. They also both share recent situations in their lives that they are working on radically accepting and discuss the three most common barriers to radical acceptance. Support the show If you're a mental health professional/student and want to join us to learn more about our insider tips for launching and leading DBT groups, si...
Major Announcement: We Wrote a DBT Book!
March 29, 2023 00:00 - 21 minutes - 15 MBKate and Michelle wrote a book! The title is "DBT For Everyone: A Guide to the Perks, Pitfalls and Possibilities of DBT for Better Mental Health", coming out in November 2023! Listen to this short episode to learn more about how the book came to be and what you can expect from it. Support the show If you're a mental health professional/student and want to join us to learn more about our insider tips for launching and leading DBT groups, sign up for our next coffee hour group on April 1, 202...
Q & A Episode 50
March 20, 2023 07:00 - 45 minutes - 31.3 MBKate and Michelle answer listener questions about struggling with self-love, when to disclose a mental health diagnosis to a romantic partner, disapproving of choices a sibling makes, and coping with family members distancing themselves. Support the show If you're a mental health professional/student and want to join us to learn more about our insider tips for launching and leading DBT groups, sign up for our next coffee hour group on April 1, 2024 here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/856399...
DBT and Emotional Eating with Dana Lawson
February 22, 2023 08:00 - 42 minutes - 29.6 MBKate is joined by Dana Lawson to talk about DBT and emotional eating. Dana talks about what emotional eating is (and isn't) and what specific DBT skills are most useful for addressing it if it's something you struggle with. Support the show If you're a mental health professional/student and want to join us to learn more about our insider tips for launching and leading DBT groups, sign up for our next coffee hour group on April 1, 2024 here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/856399653417 If you...
DBT and Teens with Katie May
January 25, 2023 08:00 - 35 minutes - 24.7 MBKate and Michelle are joined by Katie May to talk about using DBT with teens. Katie uses her personal experience as a troubled teen combined with her clinical know-how as the leader of a DBT group practice (specifically for teens!) to share insight about how to use DBT successfully with this age group. Whether you're the parent of a teen or a clinician who works with teens, this episode is for you! Support the show If you're a mental health professional/student and want to join us to learn m...
Q & A Episode 49
January 09, 2023 08:00 - 39 minutes - 27.3 MBKate and Michelle answer listener questions about forgiveness after splitting, emotional self-harm, struggling with a relationship ending, and coping with a difficult housemate. Support the show If you're a mental health professional/student and want to join us to learn more about our insider tips for launching and leading DBT groups, sign up for our next coffee hour group on April 1, 2024 here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/856399653417 If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer sup...
Review of DBT Apps
December 28, 2022 08:00 - 1 hour - 54.6 MBKate and Michelle review four free DBT apps: DBT Coach, DBT Travel Guide, DBT Trivia and Quiz, and Simple DBT Skills Diary Card. For each app, they provide an overview of its features and discuss what they each liked and disliked about it. Support the show If you're a mental health professional/student and want to join us to learn more about our insider tips for launching and leading DBT groups, sign up for our next coffee hour group on April 1, 2024 here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/8563...
Q & A Episode 48
December 19, 2022 08:00 - 40 minutes - 27.9 MBKate and Michelle answer listener questions about the validity of temporary emotions, returning to practicing skills, creating a life worth living, and how long it takes to see the results of using DBT. TRIGGER WARNING: Material that may be triggering is discussed from 18:21-19:20. Support the show If you're a mental health professional/student and want to join us to learn more about our insider tips for launching and leading DBT groups, sign up for our next coffee hour group on April 1, 2...
See you next month!
November 30, 2022 08:00 - 1 minute - 972 KBDue to a technical issue when we were recording a couple weeks ago, we don't have an episode to put out today as we typically would. We will be releasing it on December 28th so we will see you all then! Support the show If you're a mental health professional/student and want to join us to learn more about our insider tips for launching and leading DBT groups, sign up for our next coffee hour group on April 1, 2024 here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/856399653417 If you want to sign up for K...
Q & A Episode 47
November 07, 2022 08:00 - 49 minutes - 33.7 MBKate and Michelle answer listener questions about choosing a new therapist, participating in an anti-depressant medication study, having a mother with BPD, and attachment wounds with friendships. Support the show If you're a mental health professional/student and want to join us to learn more about our insider tips for launching and leading DBT groups, sign up for our next coffee hour group on April 1, 2024 here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/856399653417 If you want to sign up for Kate's ...
Using DBT Skills in the Workplace
October 26, 2022 07:00 - 1 hour - 55 MBKate and Michelle talk about three common struggles with work: difficult relationships with co-workers/customers or clients, burnout, and personal life negatively impacting work. For each challenge, they review different skills that can help overcome it. Support the show If you're a mental health professional/student and want to join us to learn more about our insider tips for launching and leading DBT groups, sign up for our next coffee hour group on April 1, 2024 here: https://www.eventbr...
Q & A Episode 46
October 17, 2022 07:00 - 44 minutes - 30.4 MBKate and Michelle answer listener questions about willfulness, missing being sick, breakdowns triggered by childhood messaging, and holding your breath during TIPP. TRIGGER WARNING: Please note material that may be triggering is discussed from 8:24-8:30 and from 12:46-13:00 Support the show If you're a mental health professional/student and want to join us to learn more about our insider tips for launching and leading DBT groups, sign up for our next coffee hour group on April 1, 2024 here:...
What is RO-DBT?
September 28, 2022 07:00 - 1 hour - 57.3 MBKate and Michelle provide an introduction to RO-DBT (Radically-Open Dialectical Behavior Therapy). They talk about over-control vs. under-control, how over-control develops and how RO-DBT can help with it, along with adding in a few skills to practice. Support the show If you're a mental health professional/student and want to join us to learn more about our insider tips for launching and leading DBT groups, sign up for our next coffee hour group on April 1, 2024 here: https://www.eventbrit...
Q & A Episode 45
September 12, 2022 07:00 - 1 hour - 41.3 MBKate and Michelle answer listener questions about how to not go back to a romantic partner, handling splitting, self-hatred, and euthanizing a pet. TRIGGER WARNING: Material that may be triggering is discussed from 25:13-27:03 and from 33:28-34:25. Support the show If you're a mental health professional/student and want to join us to learn more about our insider tips for launching and leading DBT groups, sign up for our next coffee hour group on April 1, 2024 here: https://www.eventbrit...
REST and RESISTT
August 31, 2022 07:00 - 1 hour - 49.7 MBKate and Michelle talk about two new distress tolerance skills, REST and RESISTT. They describe each skill in-depth and talk about when to use them. Support the show If you're a mental health professional/student and want to join us to learn more about our insider tips for launching and leading DBT groups, sign up for our next coffee hour group on April 1, 2024 here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/856399653417 If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer support group, you can sign up h...
Q & A Episode 44
August 15, 2022 07:00 - 51 minutes - 35.3 MBKate and Michelle answer listener questions about addressing racism, school refusal, being on the receiving end of anger, and getting over a romantic relationship. Support the show If you're a mental health professional/student and want to join us to learn more about our insider tips for launching and leading DBT groups, sign up for our next coffee hour group on April 1, 2024 here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/856399653417 If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer support group, you...
Reflecting on Roe: Our Reactions to the SCOTUS Decision
August 08, 2022 07:00 - 24 minutes - 16.7 MBKate and Michelle each share personal stories and responses to the Supreme Court's decision from June 24, 2022 to overturn the 1973 Roe v. Wade ruling. Support the show If you're a mental health professional/student and want to join us to learn more about our insider tips for launching and leading DBT groups, sign up for our next coffee hour group on April 1, 2024 here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/856399653417 If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer support group, you can sign up...
Q & A Episode 43
August 01, 2022 07:00 - 53 minutes - 36.7 MBKate and Michelle answer listener questions about not knowing what is triggering emotions, conflict with a housemate, ongoing disappointment, and dreaming of things you want but can't have. Support the show If you're a mental health professional/student and want to join us to learn more about our insider tips for launching and leading DBT groups, sign up for our next coffee hour group on April 1, 2024 here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/856399653417 If you want to sign up for Kate's free DB...
DBT Skills for Dating
July 27, 2022 07:00 - 1 hour - 42.8 MBKate and Michelle talk about DBT skills that may be helpful for getting to know new romantic partners/going on first dates, determining whether to become exclusive with someone, and coping with rejection if a romantic relationship ends. Support the show If you're a mental health professional/student and want to join us to learn more about our insider tips for launching and leading DBT groups, sign up for our next coffee hour group on April 1, 2024 here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/8563996...
Interpersonal Effectiveness Role Playing Examples
June 29, 2022 07:00 - 1 hour - 47.1 MBKate and Michelle take turns role playing different examples of using DEAR MAN, GIVE and FAST from the interpersonal effectiveness module. Support the show If you're a mental health professional/student and want to join us to learn more about our insider tips for launching and leading DBT groups, sign up for our next coffee hour group on April 1, 2024 here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/856399653417 If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer support group, you can sign up here: https...
Q & A Episode 42
June 27, 2022 07:00 - 47 minutes - 32.9 MBKate and Michelle answer listener questions about finding wise mind, coping with PTSD symptoms at work, struggles with self-love, and being an introvert in a group of extroverts. TRIGGER WARNING: Material that may be triggering is discussed from 20:01-21:45. Support the show If you're a mental health professional/student and want to join us to learn more about our insider tips for launching and leading DBT groups, sign up for our next coffee hour group on April 1, 2024 here: https://www.e...
Q & A Episode 41
June 13, 2022 07:00 - 1 hour - 43.2 MBKate and Michelle answer listener questions about supporting a partner who is thinking of suicide, online dating resources for finding a partner who cares about mental health, returning to taking care of mental health in spite of significant trauma and dealing with other people's boundaries. TRIGGER WARNING: Please note that material that may be triggering is discussed from 2:08-20:30, 30:25-30:34 and 44:02-44:10. Support the show If you're a mental health professional/student and want to j...
Understanding Depression and How DBT Can Help
May 25, 2022 07:00 - 1 hour - 57.6 MBIt's our 100th episode! Kate and Michelle talk about nine depression symptoms and DBT skills that can help each one. TRIGGER WARNING: Material that may be triggering is discussed from 1:08:15-1:16:35. Support the show If you're a mental health professional/student and want to join us to learn more about our insider tips for launching and leading DBT groups, sign up for our next coffee hour group on April 1, 2024 here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/856399653417 If you want to sign up for K...
Understanding Anxiety and How DBT Can Help
April 27, 2022 07:00 - 41 minutes - 28.7 MBKate (minus Michelle for this episode) talks about how DBT skills can help with different types of anxiety (generalized anxiety, social anxiety, panic attacks, and agoraphobia). Support the show If you're a mental health professional/student and want to join us to learn more about our insider tips for launching and leading DBT groups, sign up for our next coffee hour group on April 1, 2024 here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/856399653417 If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer supp...
Q & A Episode 40
April 25, 2022 07:00 - 43 minutes - 29.9 MBKate and Michelle answer listener questions about being in a place of "just existing", invalidation by medical professionals, the cycle of pushing someone away when they want to be close, and how to refrain from looking at an ex's social media. TRIGGER WARNING: Material that may be triggering is discussed from 2:36-4:55 and from 14:15-15:34. Support the show If you're a mental health professional/student and want to join us to learn more about our insider tips for launching and leading DBT ...
Q & A Episode 39
April 11, 2022 07:00 - 48 minutes - 33.7 MBKate and Michelle answer listener questions about adult tantrums, experiencing invalidation from a partner, feeling emotionally numb in a relationship, and coping with the stress of working in the veterinary field. TRIGGER WARNING: Material that may be triggering is discussed from 24:07-24:10 and from 32:45-33:15. Support the show If you're a mental health professional/student and want to join us to learn more about our insider tips for launching and leading DBT groups, sign up for our next...
Using DBT with ADHD
March 30, 2022 07:00 - 1 hour - 45.9 MBStruggling with ADHD (Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder) can make it feel really hard to use DBT skills. Kate and Michelle talk about modifying mindfulness skills to be more accessible to those with an ADHD diagnosis and different strategies that may help with being successful in a DBT program. Support the show If you're a mental health professional/student and want to join us to learn more about our insider tips for launching and leading DBT groups, sign up for our next coffee hour ...
Q & A Episode 38
February 28, 2022 08:00 - 40 minutes - 27.6 MBKate and Michelle answer listener questions about employers not keeping their word, experiencing a lack of support from a therapist, being expected to apologize, and changing thinking when something feels “ruined.” Support the show If you're a mental health professional/student and want to join us to learn more about our insider tips for launching and leading DBT groups, sign up for our next coffee hour group on April 1, 2024 here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/856399653417 If you want to ...
Q & A Episode 37
February 14, 2022 08:00 - 56 minutes - 39.2 MBKate and Michelle answer listener questions about setting boundaries with housemates, speaking up in the workplace, skills for Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD), and journaling. Support the show If you're a mental health professional/student and want to join us to learn more about our insider tips for launching and leading DBT groups, sign up for our next coffee hour group on April 1, 2024 here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/856399653417 If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer supp...