Curious and Curiouser Podcast
103 episodes - English - Latest episode: over 4 years ago - ★★★★★ - 68 ratingsCurious and Curiouser is hosted by Clinical Social Worker and parenting expert, Tracey Biebel, and acupuncturist and fitness enthusiast, Cayly Christensen. This podcast is a place to ask questions, contemplate the answers, and (hopefully) cultivate some contentment while living in the uncertainty of it all. We’ll talk about body image, relationships, sex, business, motherhood, anxiety, fitness, nutrition, and anything else about which we find ourselves feeling particularly curious. Come ask questions with us. It’ll be fun. We promise.
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Episodes
Episode 102: Curious & Quarantined
March 19, 2020 17:31 - 43 minutes - 39.7 MBIn this episode, Tracey & Cayly are talking about how they've been personally affected by the COVID-19 situation & what they're doing to move through these circumstances. Cayly talks about making the difficult the decision to close her clinic & Tracey talks about moving to a virtual model for all client sessions. To work with Tracey in an online capacity, please visit her website www.traceybiebel.com. Cayly is also offering virtual sessions, both for herbal consultations and for breathwork...
Episode 101: Simplicity, Ease, & the Life-Changing Magic of Doing Less
February 12, 2020 16:09 - 34 minutes - 31.7 MBIn today's episode, Tracey and Cayly are catching y'all up on what they've been doing over the past 9ish months and talking all about how doing less, simplifying their lives, and prioritizing ease has been a game changer for them both.
Simplicity, Ease, & the Life-Changing Magic of Doing Less
February 12, 2020 16:09 - 34 minutes - 31.7 MBIn today's episode, Tracey and Cayly are catching y'all up on what they've been doing over the past 9ish months and talking all about how doing less, simplifying their lives, and prioritizing ease has been a game changer for them both.
Episode 100: Scarcity, Relationships, Transitions, & Saying Goodbye to the Podcast
May 15, 2019 22:34 - 48 minutes - 44.7 MBWell, we’re here! Our 100th and final episode. Tracey and I thought it was only fitting to spend some time talking about goodbyes and transitions as we say farewell to this project after two years of making it. In this conversation, we talk about relationships, identity, scarcity, and a concept Brene Brown calls “foreboding joy.” We hope you enjoy this discussion. Topics discussed include: Our feelings about saying goodbye to the podcast Staying in relationships too long because you’re ...
Episode 99: Attachment Styles, Social Decluttering, Building Intentional Community, & the Power of Leaving the Door Open in Relationships
April 24, 2019 17:42 - 53 minutes - 48.6 MBWell, friends, we’ve only got two episodes of the podcast left, including this one. Whaaaat? I know. It’s coming fast. For this week’s conversation, Tracey and decided it would be fun to revisit some popular topics from past episodes to offer new insights and advice where possible. We’re talking relationships, building intentional community, navigating through conflict in intimate partnerships, and social decluttering. We hope you enjoy this discussion! Specific topics include: Being inte...
Episode 98: Emotional Fragility, Curing Anxiety, Cultivating Confidence, & Raising Resilient Kids
April 17, 2019 04:31 - 51 minutes - 46.7 MBThis week, Tracey and I are talking all about emotional fragility, normalizing uncomfortable feelings, tools for navigating difficult emotions, and asking the question: Can you cure anxiety? Specific topics discussed include: Why do we treat humans like we’re emotionally fragile? Even babies are not emotionally fragile Why we’re like cockroaches Why anxious is just a feeling state and how it’s beneficial Anxiety is not an illness Relationship between emotional fragility and anx...
Episode 97: Podcasting, Privacy, Success, & Why You Should Start Before You’re Ready
April 10, 2019 15:50 - 40 minutes - 37.5 MBAs the podcast winds to a close, Tracey and I wanted to take some time to discuss our reasons for starting the podcast, what it’s brought into our lives (hint: not fame or fortune), and why we’re choosing to discontinue making it. We also talk about why you should just do the thing already, why personal projects are still worthwhile even if nobody knows about them, and why we should all ask ourselves more often: Why am I doing this? Specific topics include: Why we started the podcast ...
Episode 96: Projection, Procrastination, Shame, & Ignoring the Elephants in Our Rooms
April 03, 2019 15:30 - 38 minutes - 35.4 MBOn this week’s episode of the podcast, Tracey and I are asking: Why do we insist on ignoring the elephant in the room? We’re talking about all the different kinds of elephants we pretend not to see — in our relationships, in our health, in our work, etc — and how ignoring the elephants negatively impacts our lives. Specific topics discussed include: Different kinds of elephants we ignore Why we’re afraid that acknowledging an elephant might be the end of a relationship How ignoring e...
Episode 95: On Being Adult Babies & the Hidden Magic of Being Boring
March 20, 2019 04:05 - 37 minutes - 34.5 MBOn this week’s episode of the podcast, Tracey and I are talking all about routine, being boring, & the idea of re-parenting yourself in adulthood. The question around which this discussion revolves is: Does “boring” routine actually give you more space to be interesting and creative? This is the topic Specific topics discussed include: Why Tracey and I both love routine Why we resist routine How routine frees up brain space Routine as a way to re-parent yourself Maslow’s hierarch...
Episode 94: The Unsexy Truth About Changing Your Life & Why the Process is More Important Than the Outcome
March 13, 2019 04:38 - 56 minutes - 51.4 MBThe truth about transformation? It is super unsexy. Tracey and Cayly are talking all about why this is true and asking the following question: How do you buy into the process of change when the outcome isn’t guaranteed? Specific topics discussed include: There is no formula for healing Letting go of a specific expectation/outcome Meditation isn’t a magic bullet True change happens in small habits done consistently over time We will always get triggered Committing to healing re...
Episode 93: What If That's Not Yours to Carry? How to Stop Taking on Other People's Problems & the Healing Power of Being Witnessed in Your Pain
March 06, 2019 16:34 - 43 minutes - 39.6 MBThis week’s question is: How do you know when you’re holding something that’s not yours to hold? Tracey and I talk about how you can inadvertently take on the emotions of others, how to recognize when you’ve done so, why it’s not actually helpful to feel your loved ones feelings with them, and what to do instead. Specific topics discussed include: How we can absorb other people’s emotions and pain without even realizing it Emotions are highly contagious Our brains as problem solvers ...
Episode 92: Magic, Healing, Intergenerational Wounds, & Why Taking Care of Yourself is Not Self-Indulgent
February 27, 2019 02:56 - 41 minutes - 37.6 MBOn this week’s episode of the podcast, Tracey and Cayly are talking about self care, healing, and magic, asking the question: Is taking care of yourself selfish? Or is it a gift you give to everyone else in your life? They talk about healing intergenerational pain, daily acts of self care, embracing woo, and how prioritizing yourself makes you a more available to those around you. They also talk about not taking it all so seriously and how you might be inspiring people in your life withou...
Episode 91: People Pleasing, Setting Boundaries, & Why You Are Allowed to Change Your Mind
February 20, 2019 06:01 - 47 minutes - 43.5 MBToday’s episode is all about boundaries. What ARE boundaries? What does setting boundaries actually look like? Tracey and Cayly explore these questions and more in this wide-ranging conversation. They talk about why knowing what you want is the first step in setting boundaries, people pleasing and martyrdom, why having boundaries will make other people uncomfortable (especially if they have poor boundaries), and how to help your kids establish boundaries by modeling healthy behavior. Othe...
Episode 90: How Tidying Up With Marie Kondo Might Lead To Divorce, an Identity Crisis, & Becoming Your Best Self
February 13, 2019 06:14 - 48 minutes - 44.4 MBToday’s conversation is all about habit change, identity, Marie Kondo, & how small changes can have big impacts in our lives. Also: What Tracey and Cayly believe is missing from the cultural conversation around building better habits and letting shit go. Specifically, the questions they’re asking are: What prevents us from sustaining change? How do we get in our own way? Topics discussed include: - Cayly and Tracey’s experiences with the Marie Kondo method - How small changes...
Episode 89: How the Substances (& Media) We Consume Affect Us in Ways We Don’t Always Realize They Do
February 06, 2019 03:23 - 35 minutes - 32.9 MBToday on the podcast, Tracey and Cayly are talking about all the things we regularly consume and asking: Are they doing what we think they’re doing? They talk about alcohol, caffeine, sugar, podcasts, news, marijuana, and more, and discuss the myriad ways these things might be negatively impacting our lives without us even realizing they’re doing so. Specific topics discussed include: - How alcohol increases anxiety over time even if it can feel like it eases anxiety in the mome...
Episode 88: Healthy Masculinity, Shame, & Our Thoughts on That Gillette Ad
January 30, 2019 05:51 - 38 minutes - 35.6 MBFor today’s episode of the podcast, Tracey and Cayly decided to talk about that Gillette ad that’s been all over the internet, and asking the question: Did the ad send the message that was intended? Tracey and Cayly had very different first impressions of the ad, and this unexpected difference was the jumping off point for this conversation. Other topics discussed include: - Our first impressions of the commercial - How we filter everything through our own experiences and cont...
Episode 87: Anxiety, Your Amygdala, & Being a Highly Sensitive Person
January 23, 2019 14:08 - 44 minutes - 40.6 MBAnxiety: friend or foe? This is the topic for this week’s episode of the podcast. Tracey and Cayly talk about their own experiences with anxiety, how they’ve learned to cope with these feelings, and what their anxiety has taught them. They also talk about not using anxiety as a crutch or an excuse and offer tips on how to engage with your anxiety in more productive ways. Other topics discussed include: Why the goal is not to eradicate anxiety Cayly’s experience of panic attacks du...
Episode 86: Train Your Body, Train Your Mind — How Physical Discomfort Builds Emotional, Psychological, & Cognitive Resilience
January 16, 2019 14:38 - 44 minutes - 40.9 MBThis week’s conversation is all about how physical discomfort can enhance our capacity to tolerate emotional, psychological, and cognitive discomfort. Specifically, we’re asking the question: Why is pushing outside your comfort zone on a regular basis important? Topics discussed include: - Practicing physical discomfort - How Crossfit helped Tracey gain confidence to get divorced - How long distance running helped Cayly get through the initial phases of starting a business ...
Episode 85: Resistance, Rejection, & How Anxiety Can Help You Grow
January 09, 2019 03:39 - 46 minutes - 42.6 MBIn this week’s episode, Tracey and Cayly are talking all about resistance and are asking the following questions: What if you don’t feel like it? Should you do it anyway? Specific topics include: - Being in a funk in the new year - Cayly’s short period of depression at the end of last year - How sitting in the funk can become a habit - Why we resistance is normal and why we resist doing things we actually really care about - How the big picture heaviness can exacerbate our ev...
Episode 84: Non-tangible Signs of Growth, Being Your Own Guinea Pig, & Intention-Setting as Self-Experimentation
January 01, 2019 20:10 - 53 minutes - 48.6 MBHappy New Year, y’all! For this week’s episode of the podcast, Tracey and Cayly are doing a bit of a year in review and talking about how they are approaching intention-setting this year. Specific topics include: - What’s something you’ve done this year that would surprise the you of the previous year? - More subtle indicators of growth and celebrating our evolution - Recognizing non-tangible accomplishments - Do we plan to set in intentions this year? - Alternatives to resol...
Episode 83: Toxic People, Bids For Connection, & Cultivating Resonance in Relationships
December 21, 2018 14:33 - 35 minutes - 32.4 MBIn this week’s episode, Tracey and Cayly are talking about the difference between a toxic person and someone who just isn’t compatible with you. They’re discussing the overuse of the term “toxic people” and why they are not huge fans of this verbiage. They also talk about bids for connection, how to build resonance with another person, and how to know when it’s time to let go of a relationship, including friendships. Other topics include: - Why socially decluttering someone doesn...
Episode 82: Prioritizing Sex, Seeing Yourself As a Sexual Being, & Rekindling the Spark in Long-Term Relationships
December 12, 2018 06:13 - 45 minutes - 42.1 MBThis week’s episode is about one of Tracey & Cayly’s favorite topics: Sex. Specifically, they’re talking about why it’s so common for the spark to go out in long-term relationships and offering advice on what to do to rekindle it when it does. They also talk about the importance of cultivating your own sexual energy and why scheduling sex doesn’t make it any less sexy. Other topics include: - Balancing safety/security and sexy/lusty-ness in a relationship - Making sex a priori...
Episode 81: Advice For Our Younger Selves
December 05, 2018 16:27 - 40 minutes - 36.9 MBTracey and Cayly actually had a different topic planned for this week’s episode. But when they sat down to record, they were both feeling a little heavy and sad. And then they started reflecting on the past year and celebrating how far they’ve both come. Which led to this conversation, in which Tracey and Cayly discuss all the advice they would give their younger selves if given the opportunity to do so. This includes advice about sex, dating, relationships, body image, risk-tasking, and a...
Episode 80: On Being a Good Listener, Embracing the Awkward Silence, & Slowing Down to Resolve Conflict in Relationships
November 27, 2018 21:23 - 47 minutes - 43.2 MBOn this week’s episode, Tracey and Cayly are talking about how to be a good listener and actually hear what someone else is saying instead of just waiting for your turn to talk when in the midst of a challenging conversation or conflict. They talk about leading with empathy, and how doing so does not necessarily mean you agree with what the other person has said. They also talk about how doing the work on yourself as an individual is essential to being present with and showing up for o...
Episode 79: You Don’t Have to Put Up With Nonsense & Other Truths About the Holidays
November 14, 2018 17:14 - 45 minutes - 41.5 MBIn this week’s episode, Tracey & Cayly are talking about how to not let the holidays suck the life out of you by managing expectations around interactions with family and taking responsibility for the role you are playing in perpetuating potentially unpleasant dynamics around this time of year. Specific topics discussed include: - Being aware of the energy you are bringing into the situation - Letting go of the idea that you can change people - Why you don’t have to engage wi...
Episode 78: When Tragedy Strikes Someone You Love & How to Empathize Without Surrendering Your Joy
November 06, 2018 22:10 - 39 minutes - 36 MBToday, Tracey and Cayly are taking on a slightly somber topic, as they discuss what to do in the wake of tragedy, particularly when it unexpectedly strikes someone you love. The question they start with is: Are you allowed to be joyful when someone you know is grieving? Specific topics discussed include: - Why it’s okay to compartmentalize grief sometimes - How grief and joy can coexist - Why you don’t have to (and shouldn’t) take on your partner or close friend’s emotions ...
Episode 77: On Recovering From Infidelity & Betrayal, & Navigating Jealousy in Relationships
October 30, 2018 20:01 - 48 minutes - 44.7 MBThis week’s episode is a juicy one, y’all. Tracey and Cayly are discussing infidelity, betrayal, and jealousy in relationships. They talk about why cheating isn’t always a black and white issue, how to recover from infidelity, why jealousy is normal and not something about which to feel ashamed, and how to recognize the signs that betrayal might be on its way. They also talk about self-betrayal, sex, emotional affairs, and how to find the balance between lust and safety in long-term pa...
Episode 76: Self-Trust, Ignoring the Noise, & Why It's Okay If People Don't Like You
October 24, 2018 04:56 - 47 minutes - 43.4 MBThis week’s podcast episode is all about how to ignore the noise and trust yourself enough to make the decisions that are in your own best interest. Tracey and Cayly talk about why caring about what others think of us is normal and what we can do to combat this impulse. They also discuss: - The ways women are conditioned to be overly accommodating and why this does more harm than good - How we can start figuring out what we actually want - Why we need to advocate for ourselves with...
Episode 75: Kavanaugh, the Supreme Court, & Where We Go From Here
October 11, 2018 04:56 - 41 minutes - 38.2 MBOn this week’s episode of the podcast, Tracey and Cayly are talking about Brett Kavanaugh and his confirmation to the Supreme Court, and offering some thoughts on what we can do in the wake of this horrendous decision. Other things discussed include: - How to talk to kids (both boys and girls) about this subject - Why we shouldn’t despair - Why we can’t allow ourselves to become apathetic - How we can affect real change right now and focus on the things we can control - W...
Episode 74: The Upside to Stress & Why Discomfort is Essential to Growth
October 03, 2018 05:16 - 44 minutes - 41 MBIs there an upside to stress? Is stress essential? These are the questions Tracey and Cayly are tackling today. They talk about the importance of discomfort and why we shouldn’t rescue our children from it,why stress is essential for building resilience, and why the way we talk about stress changes how it affects us physiologically. Cayly also talks about her experience having frequent panic attacks while in grad school, and describes her approach to overcoming this obstacle. And Trace...
Episode 73: Grief, Depression, Motherhood, & New Rites of Passage for Women
September 26, 2018 04:31 - 38 minutes - 35.7 MBOn this week’s episode of the podcast, Tracey and Cayly are talking about grief — which is a topic our society doesn’t quite know how to handle. They talk about the differences between depression and grief, grieving both obvious things (i.e. death, divorce, etc.) and the loss of things that are maybe not so obvious, as well as the grief over things that will never be. They talk about our rush to pathologize grief, why letting go isn’t always so simple or easy, and the importance of rit...
Episode 72: On Feminism, High Heels, Toxic Masculinity, Abortion Rights, & the Sex Industry
September 19, 2018 04:47 - 39 minutes - 36 MBOn this week’s episode of the podcast, Tracey and Cayly are talking all about feminism. Do they consider themselves to be feminists? Should we all be feminists? Are there things about the current feminist movement with which Tracey and Cayly disagree? They also talk about what it means to be a good feminist, the sex industry, toxic masculinity (and non-toxic masculinity), abortion rights, biological differences between the sexes, their complicated relationships to femininity, and so mu...
Episode 71: Emotional Labor, Conflict in Relationships, & Why We Need to be Wiling to Rock the Boat
September 12, 2018 04:33 - 44 minutes - 40.7 MBThis week’s question is: Is it reasonable to ask someone to care about certain things as much as you do? In this conversation, Tracey and Cayly are talking about emotional labor in relationships and how to approach this topic in a partnership when it feels like one person is carrying more of the load. Enjoy this episode and, as always, please consider leaving a review or 5-star rating in iTunes if you’re a fan of a show. Tracey and I would really appreciate it! And, finall...
Episode 70: Breakups, Self-Forgiveness, & Why We Aren’t Entitled to Closure
September 05, 2018 05:27 - 43 minutes - 39.8 MBThis week’s episode is all about closure. Why do we seek it? How can we get it? Do others owe us closure when a relationship ends? Can we get closure on our own or does it require participation from another person? Join Tracey and Cayly as they tackle these questions, talk about how they’ve found closure in their own lives, and offer advice on how to find closure on your own when the person with whom you have ended a relationship isn’t available to assist in that process. Enjoy t...
Episode 69: Approval-Seeking, External vs. Internal Rest, Meditation, & Why It’s Okay to Stay Small Sometimes
August 22, 2018 03:33 - 1 hour - 56.9 MBWhose approval are you seeking? On this week’s episode, Tracey and Cayly have a meandering conversation sparked by this question, exploring all the ways we seek approval and how we can learn to stop looking outside ourselves for validation. They discuss why we continue to seek approval from our parents even as adults, how social media can exacerbate this need for external validation, how meditation and visualization can help us change these behaviors, and why it’s okay if you wan...
Episode 68: Money, Shame, & Why Financial Literacy is Essential For Women
August 08, 2018 02:17 - 1 hour - 56 MBJUICY TOPIC ALERT! Today, Tracey and Cayly are talking all about money. It’ s an important topic that they believe often gets overlooked in the health and wellness industry. So get ready for an open, honest, transparent dialogue about a subject that makes most of us uncomfortable. Tracey and Cayly talk about money in partnerships and what it means to either combine or not combine finances. They talk about navigating friendships when your income is either significantly higher or l...
Episode 67: 15 Tips to Make Dating Not Suck & Relationships More Fulfilling
July 25, 2018 01:54 - 1 hour - 71.2 MBThis episode was such a fun one to plan out and to record, y’all! Tracey and Cayly have compiled a list of fifteen dating tips, taken both from their own life experience and their professional knowledge. And don’t worry! Most of these tips are just as useful for folks who are already in long-term relationships or even married, so the episode has a little something for everyone. You'll have to listen to the show to get the full list, but here are just a few to give you a sneak pee...
Episode 66: Dating, Personality, Femininity, & Why It Might Be Okay That You’re Like That
July 11, 2018 01:46 - 1 hour - 56.6 MBEpisode 66: Dating, Productivity, Femininity, & Why It Might Be Okay That You’re Like That In this week’s episode of the podcast, Tracey and Cayly are asking the question: Is it okay that I’m like this? In this discussion, they talk about dating, masculine and feminine energies, being messy people, the stable nature of core personality traits over our lifetime, how to make change while also honoring who you are, and what questions to ask yourself before changing a behavior or h...
Episode 65: Body Image, Beauty Ideals, & the Moralization of Physical Appearance
June 27, 2018 13:15 - 1 hour - 55.8 MBOn this week’s episode of the podcast, Tracey and Cayly are revisiting a topic they first discussed on two of the earliest episodes of the show last year. They’re talking body image, and asking the following question: How does our body image impact our ability to be present and engaged in our daily lives? Just a few of the topics discussed during this conversation include: where our culture’s physical ideals come from, how we are taught to moralize physical appearance, why the m...
Episode 64: Emotional Neglect, Success, Striving, & What Our Society Gets Wrong About Happiness
June 12, 2018 22:01 - 1 hour - 61.3 MBThis week’s episode of Curious & Curiouser was inspired by a listener email Tracey and Cayly received following the tragic deaths of both Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain last week. Given the outward success both of these public figures had achieved and the fact they both took their own lives, our listener wanted to know our thoughts on the following questions: 1. What is happiness? and 2. What are we ultimately striving for? For this conversation, Tracey and Cayly use...
Episode 63: Energy Leaks, Relinquishing Control, & Staying in Your Sphere of Influence
June 06, 2018 15:45 - 36 minutes - 33.1 MBThis week’s episode is about all the ways we leak energy in our lives by trying to control things over which we don’t actually have control. Tracey and Cayly are talking about what this looks like for them and asking the question: What happens when we try to reach outside our sphere of influence? They are offering advice on how to stop leaking energy in this way and discussing specific examples from their own lives. They explore the tendency towards trying to control our partners in r...
Episode 62: Growing Up in a Conservative Evangelical Community with Special Guest Staci Humphrey
May 30, 2018 15:02 - 42 minutes - 38.5 MBOn this week’s episode of the podcast, Tracey and Cayly are talking to special guest, Staci Humphrey, about her experience growing up in a Conservative Evangelical community in eastern Oregon. We talk about her journey away from this community as a teenager and adult, and how the experiences of her childhood continue to impact her worldview today, especially as she is now raising two young boys of her own. Tracey and Cayly are thrilled to bring this conversation and hope it reson...
Episode 61: Women, Alcohol, & the Glamorization of Drinking
May 23, 2018 16:09 - 47 minutes - 43.4 MBThis week’s episode has the potential to ruffle some feathers. Because Tracey and Cayly are talking about the glamorization of drinking in our current cultural climate and the potentially negative effects of this kind of marketing. Specifically, Tracey and Cayly are asking the question: Is our society currently normalizing alcoholism for women, especially moms? Deep breaths before this one, friends. Any of you who know Tracey or Cayly personally also know they both enjoy a...
Episode 60: Diet Culture, Ketogenic Diet, Weight Bias in Medicine, & Diversity in the Wellness Industry
May 16, 2018 17:04 - 52 minutes - 47.9 MBIn today’s episode of the podcast, Tracey and Cayly are welcoming back Liz Winters of Sprout Wellness to discuss nutrition and how her approach to nutrition has changed since her appearance on the show last year. Specifically, this conversation explores the ketogenic diet and why it might not be great for women long-term, metabolic flexibility and why it’s important that your body is able to access both carbohydrates and fats for energy, and how Liz helps her clients make more consciou...
Episode 59: Pelvic Floor Health, Core Strength, Diaphragmatic Breathing, & Postpartum Recovery
May 09, 2018 14:54 - 41 minutes - 38.3 MBThis week on Curious & Curiouser, Tracey and Cayly are welcoming back Liz Winters of Sprout Wellness (http://www.sproutwellnesspdx.com/). If you are a long-time listener of the show, you’ll remember Liz from episodes 14 and 15. Which means you already know how fabulous she is. If you’re a new listener, here’s what you need to know: Liz Winters is a nutritional therapy practitioner, crossfit coach, and the Regional Director for Birthfit NE Portland (https://neportland.birthfit.com/). S...
Episode 58: Science, Religion, Spiritual Bypass, & Why We Want to Believe in Something
May 02, 2018 14:23 - 39 minutes - 36.6 MBThis week’s episode of the podcast came about after an impromptu rant by Cayly recounting her spiritual trajectory thus far in her life and her admission that she feels a little bit lost right now with regard to what she believes. In this conversation, Tracey and Cayly ask the question: Why do we want to believe in something? They both explore their spiritual and religious histories, including Cayly’s journey from Mormonism to atheism to Buddhism, and Tracey’s path from pop culture Ch...
Episode 57: Unhealthy Relationship Dynamics & How to Recognize When You’re Playing Victim, Rescuer, or Persecutor
April 25, 2018 13:27 - 40 minutes - 37.2 MBHow do you recognize your role in an unhealthy relationship dynamic? This is the question Tracey and Cayly are asking on this week’s episode of Curious and Curiouser. Using the framework of the drama triangle — a social model originally conceived by Psychologist Stephen Karpman — Tracey and Cayly talk about how to recognize when you’re falling into an unhealthy relationship dynamic, identify which role you are playing, and start moving towards a healthier version of that role. Tracey a...
Episode 56: Loneliness, Self-Reliance, & Why It’s Okay to Not Be Okay
April 18, 2018 01:41 - 38 minutes - 35.6 MBGood news! Tracey’s back this week, y’all. Hooray! And our topic for today’s show is loneliness. Specifically: What is loneliness actually about? Both Tracey and Cayly had challenging weeks last week. While Tracey was recovering from a medical procedure and Cayly was dealing with some emotional turmoil, they both found themselves struggling to reach out for help and finding themselves feeling extra lonely as a result. In this conversation, Tracey and Cayly talk about why asking ...
Episode 55: How Anxiety REALLY Feels & Why Deep Breathing Might Not Be the Answer
April 11, 2018 05:26 - 19 minutes - 17.7 MBHey y’all. Today’s episode of Curious & Curiouser is a little bit different. With Tracey out of commission this week (more on this in a future episode), we had planned to just skip a week of recording and give our listeners a chance to catch up on past episodes. But then, I (Cayly) decided to record this little mini episode on a whim in order to share a story about my experience of anxiety with a real-world example from my life last weekend. In this story, I talk about narrowly avoidin...
Episode 54: Identity, Ego, Existential Crises, & How We Define Ourselves Over Time
April 04, 2018 03:10 - 36 minutes - 33.6 MBThis week, Tracey and Cayly are talking all about identity and how it changes over time. They discuss their experiences of getting older, how they’ve had to let go of old identities along the way, and ways in which this process has been challenging for them personally. They also talk about the role social media plays in how we establish our identities and define ourselves over time, and the importance of not depending upon outside validation to determine your worth in the world. ...