Episode 82: Prioritizing Sex, Seeing Yourself As a Sexual Being, & Rekindling the Spark in Long-Term Relationships

This week’s episode is about one of Tracey & Cayly’s favorite topics:  Sex. Specifically, they’re talking about why it’s so common for the spark to go out in long-term relationships and offering advice on what to do to rekindle it when it does. They also talk about the importance of cultivating your own sexual energy and why scheduling sex doesn’t make it any less sexy.

Other topics include:

- Balancing safety/security and sexy/lusty-ness in a relationship

- Making sex a priority

- Why it’s important to continue nurturing yourself as a sexual being

- Why novelty and spontaneity are essential to long term relationships

- How we lose the spark in relationships and why it’s common and normal for this to happen

- The importance of talking about sex outside the bedroom

- Why masturbation is important as a form of self-care

- Talking about fantasies with your partner

- How judgment gets in the way in the bedroom

- Reframing the role sex is playing in your life in a long term relationship

- And more!

Tracey and Cayly hope you love this episode as much as they loved recording it! As always, reviews and 5-star ratings are greatly appreciated. Please head over to iTunes (https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/curious-and-curiouser-podcast/id1229955279) to leave one today if you haven’t yet. It only takes a few minutes and does a lot to help us reach a wider audience with the show!

Resources:

She Bop (https://www.sheboptheshop.com/)

Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski (https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1476762090?ie=UTF8&tag=caylymarisa-20&camp=1789&linkCode=xm2&creativeASIN=1476762090)

Ev’Yan Whitney (https://www.instagram.com/evyan.whitney/) (https://sexloveliberation.com/)

John Gottman and Gottman Institute (https://www.gottman.com/)

Esther Perel (https://www.estherperel.com/) and Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence (https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0060753641?ie=UTF8&tag=caylymarisa-20&camp=1789&linkCode=xm2&creativeASIN=0060753641)

Maegan Megginson (ccstpdx.com)

Piquing Our Curiosity:

Select CBD (https://selectcbd.com/), Cayly’s favorite CBD tincture. She recommends the Lavender tincture and uses it regularly for both anxiety and sleep. Find it here (https://selectcbd.com/collections/cbd-drops/products/lavender-cbd-drops-1000mg).