Build A Life After Loss Podcast
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Ep #70 Spirituality
February 12, 2020 11:00 - 19 minutes - 15.6 MBGrief affects your spirituality. Spirituality involves your feelings. In grief, your emotions are overwhelmed so you can’t feel the spirit like you did in the past. But it doesn’t have to be that way forever. All the great teachers have emphasized the need for a spiritual practice. Consider how you can incorporate a spirituality as […]
Ep #69 Motivation
February 05, 2020 11:00 - 27 minutes - 22.5 MBWhat motivates you? You have seen your motivation wane during your season of grief and you’re not sure what to do about it. In this episode we’ll talk about what helps you to increase your motivation, internal versus external motivation and how grief affects your motivation. Are you looking for more grief support? Register today […]
Ep #68 It Starts with Desire
January 29, 2020 11:00 - 26 minutes - 21.3 MBEverything starts with desire. The choices you make are motivated by your desires. Of course, our choices affect our outcomes. If you want better outcomes, start by educating your desires. I quote a lengthy section of Dr. Joe Dispenza’s article Let Your Past Life Be Your Past Life. You can find that article here: https://drjoedispenza.net/blog/change/let-your-past-life-be-a-past-life/ […]
Ep #67 Increasing Hope
January 22, 2020 11:00 - 19 minutes - 15.9 MBHope for your future is essential to healing. On today’s episode we’re going to explore ways to increase your hope. Hope in healing and a desire to heal are a couple of the most important feelings to cultivate when you’ve experienced a loss. There are dozens of ways to increase your hope and today I’ll […]
Ep #66 Overcoming with Amy Oestreicher
January 15, 2020 11:00 - 37 minutes - 30.1 MBAmy Oestreicher is the epitome of overcoming challenges and rebuilding a life after loss. In just a few short months, at only 17 years old, she lost trust, lost her grandparents, lost her health and the future she expected to have. You will love her optimism and her wisdom. Like me she believes firmly that […]
Ep #65 Perfectionism
January 08, 2020 11:00 - 24 minutes - 19.4 MBI believe everyone has some perfectionism tendencies. On this episode we’ll discuss how perfectionism is hurting you, how to notice your perfectionism and what to do about it. Also, I share the most important thing you can do to combat perfectionism. This one thing is huge and will make a massive difference in your life. […]
Ep #64 The Power of Choice
January 01, 2020 11:00 - 29 minutes - 23.6 MBEvery day and multiple times a day we are making choices. Even when we don’t think we’re making choices, we’re making choices. Viktor Frankl said, “Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” In this episode, […]
Ep #63 Honoring Our Grief with Catherine Praiswater
December 25, 2019 07:55 - 50 minutes - 40.4 MBYou’re going to love getting to know Catherine Praiswater. She takes us into her story and shares her gentle wisdom with us. I love Catherine’s calm and gentleness. She really emphasized our unique relationships and how that influences the way we grieve and mourn. Catherine uses her unique interests and talents to honor her father […]
Ep #62 Preception is Reality
December 18, 2019 11:00 - 18 minutes - 15.3 MBPerception is your reality. Which means that how you see things and how you interpret your world is how you will experience your life. Even the way you perceive your own grief will create your experience with grief. In today’s episode we’ll talk about how grief during the holidays changes your perception and how you […]
Ep #61 Can Gratitude Replace Grief?
December 11, 2019 11:00 - 23 minutes - 18.9 MBCan you replace grief with gratitude? While moving from grief to love and gratitude is the ultimate goal, you can’t just replace grief with gratitude. A gratitude practice is beneficial, but you can’t avoid the grief by focusing on gratitude. You can however improve your life here and now by remembering gratitude along the way. […]
Ep #60 Supporting Others in Their Grief
December 04, 2019 11:00 - 22 minutes - 18.1 MBWhether you’ve experienced tremendous grief or not, you will be touched by grief when a close friend or family member goes through difficult times. If you have experienced loss and grief, you may be called on to help others understand grief and how to support others. Love is always the answer. But how do we […]
EP 59 Stages of Grief
November 27, 2019 11:00 - 24 minutes - 20 MBThe traditional 5 stages of grief suggest that we move through stages of denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. You may experience grief as outlined in the 5 stages, but more than likely you may not and that’s ok. Grief is less about stages and more about the roller coaster of emotions that accompany grief. […]
EP #59 Stages of Grief
November 27, 2019 11:00 - 24 minutes - 20 MBThe traditional 5 stages of grief suggest that we move through stages of denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. You may experience grief as outlined in the 5 stages, but more than likely you may not and that’s ok. Grief is less about stages and more about the roller coaster of emotions that accompany grief. […]
Ep #58 Helping Yourself and Your Kids Through Divorce with Jami Lowder
November 20, 2019 11:00 - 45 minutes - 36.6 MBMy special guest today is Jami Lowder. In today’s episode you will hear how Jami has navigated two divorces and used good self-talk to deal with her losses. Also, she shares how she helped her four boys to navigate life’s challenges. Jami Lowder is a single mom to four handsome little boys, and she resides […]
Ep #57 Emotional Illiteracy
November 13, 2019 11:00 - 23 minutes - 19.5 MBAs a society we are super focused on achievement and intellectual prowess. We have forgotten our humanity. What makes us human is our emotions. Our feelings are clues to what we’re thinking which is where it all comes from. And the more clarity we can get around our emotions the more clarity we have around […]
Ep #56 Surrendering to What is
November 06, 2019 11:00 - 23 minutes - 19 MBThings go wrong or not as you envisioned. It’s part of life! What do you do when things don’t go as expected? Do you fight against reality in a futile attempt to change what is? Do you assign a harsh, negative meaning to it, such as “I can’t do anything right?” You can’t change the […]
Ep # 55 Why I Do What I Do and Why You Don’t Have To
October 23, 2019 10:00 - 30 minutes - 24.8 MBNext month we’ll be celebrating one year of Build a Life After Loss! In today’s podcast I wanted to share my thoughts about why I do what I do. I’ll tell the story of what led to the founding of Build a Life After Loss, which is a business that supports people who are grieving […]
Ep #54 Limiting Beliefs
October 16, 2019 10:00 - 28 minutes - 23.2 MBLimiting Beliefs can get us without our even realizing what’s going on. We do something we regret, and it morphs into “I always do the wrong thing.” If we thought about it, we know it’s not totally true, but we’ve gotten into the bad habit of thinking of ourselves that way. These limiting beliefs can […]
Ep #53 Forgiving Others and Yourself
October 09, 2019 10:00 - 26 minutes - 21.1 MBForgiveness can be hard because we confuse forgiveness with condoning hurtful behavior. Condoning behavior means we agree with the behavior. Forgiving behavior means we are ready to let go of the hurt in order to release ourselves from the anger and pain. Sometimes, forgiving yourself can be even harder than forgiving others. An important element […]
Ep #52 Coming Back After Loss with Shelby Forsythia
October 02, 2019 10:00 - 1 hour - 54.1 MBOn this episode of Build a Life After Loss, I welcome a very special guest, Shelby Forsythia. Shelby is the very talented host of Coming Back: Conversations on Life After Loss. Coming Back is one of the first grief podcasts that I listened to a couple of years ago when I first became interested in […]
Ep #51 Goal Shifting
September 25, 2019 10:00 - 17 minutes - 13.9 MBThe GPS system didn’t exist when I first learned to drive. You could drive for hours in the wrong direction before you received feedback that you were on the wrong course. Now the GPS system helps us course correct quickly. Creating your own GPS system – Goal Position Shift – can help you to course […]
Ep #50 Taking 1% Responsibility
September 18, 2019 10:00 - 16 minutes - 13.9 MBTaking 1% responsibility means recognizing that we can’t change what has happened, but we do have influence over our reaction to what’s happened. Taking 1% responsibility means noticing where we aren’t taking responsibility. Taking 1% responsibility means deciding what we want. Love, Julie Books mentioned in this episode: The Grief Recovery Handbook by John W. […]
Ep #49 Creating Balance
September 11, 2019 10:00 - 35 minutes - 28.7 MBAs humans we want to be improving. We want to be setting and reaching goals. But striving will create imbalance in our life if we aren’t actively paying attention to how we’re spending our time and our energy. Creating balance is a system not a destination. You are not going to arrive at balance. You […]
Ep #48 Lessons Learned While Playing
September 04, 2019 10:00 - 22 minutes - 17.9 MBLessons come in all shapes and sizes. Sometimes lessons are learned through super hard experiences! But sometimes lessons come while we’re playing. That was my experience a couple of weeks ago as I enjoyed some downtown with my grandkids on the beach. I was reminded of some important lessons about life that I want to […]
Ep # 47 From Pain to Power
August 28, 2019 10:00 - 24 minutes - 19.5 MBMy own journey through grief and rebuilding went something like this: Capable to devastated, to coping, to capable, to empowered, to thriving. I didn’t travel through these phases of my healing in a linear pattern. This snapshot of my path represents a simplified overview of many years of work. For me, knowing that there is […]
Ep #46 Finding Answers with Heidi Swapp
August 21, 2019 10:00 - 59 minutes - 48.2 MBHeidi Swapp and her family were devastated by the death of her son Cory by suicide in 2015. Because of Heidi’s business she found herself facing heartbreaking grief in the public eye. She has handled this unexpected tragedy with unimaginable grace. Heidi and her husband made the brave decision to be totally honest about what […]
Ep #45 Strengthening Your Mind
August 14, 2019 10:00 - 18 minutes - 15.2 MBActivating or strengthening our mind, from my experience, takes two components. One is a way to release our painful emotions without taking it out on others. The other component of strengthening our mind is a way to input the good, the healthy, the invigorating into our mind. In this episode, we’ll talk about things that […]
Ep #44 Thoughts on Death and Dying
August 07, 2019 10:00 - 19 minutes - 15.8 MBWith the recent death of my father-in-law, I’ve been reflecting on death and dying. I’ve also been thinking about grief and the conflicting feelings accompanying grief. I’ve been very aware of and working on applying everything I know about grief. The importance of being patient. That action heals the pain not just time. There is […]
Ep #43 Regret
July 31, 2019 10:00 - 17 minutes - 14.3 MBFrom a Psychology Today article we learn, “Regret is the second-most common emotion people mention in daily life, some studies show. And it’s the most common negative emotion. …we’re continually rewriting history in our heads instead of playing the cards in our hand.” When we try to live with no regret, we become perfectionists which […]
Ep #42 Grief Following a Diagnosis with Tamara K. Anderson
July 24, 2019 10:00 - 54 minutes - 44.2 MBMy special guest on today’s podcast is Tamara K. Anderson. She shares her story of loss of expectations for the future with two autistic sons. We sometimes don’t consider that a diagnosis can create feelings of grief but that’s what today’s story is all about. Tamara shares the experience of receiving the devastating news that […]
Ep #41 Simplicity
July 17, 2019 10:00 - 24 minutes - 19.4 MB“Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication.” Leonardo DiVinci Simplicity is essential when you’re dealing with grief and loss. Simplify your schedule. Simplify your responsibilities and activities. Make the room in your life that’s necessary to grieve your loss. To do the work. We can’t get away with not doing the work. Do the work and enjoy […]
Ep #40 Belief
July 10, 2019 10:00 - 14 minutes - 12.2 MBThe Google Dictionary definition of Belief is “an acceptance that a statement is true or that something exists.” When we think a thought over and over again it creates a belief. Many beliefs about grief just aren’t true even if the thought is prevalent. Like just keep busy and be strong. If we discover a […]
Ep #39 Hierarchy of Needs
July 03, 2019 10:00 - 20 minutes - 16.5 MBMany people believe that after a devastating loss we must carry our grief within us forever. I don’t believe that we do and here is my response. I’ve had some horrible, grief experiences. My brother’s death by suicide, a divorce, life-altering health issues and the death of my 10 year old daughter Carrie and my […]
Ep #38 We’re Made For This
June 26, 2019 10:00 - 20 minutes - 17 MBThinking that our loss shouldn’t have happened, isn’t helpful, even if it’s where we start. It doesn’t have to be where we end. In this episode, we’re going to delve into resiliency, ironman triathletes and how life happens for us even when it doesn’t feel that way. Want some help navigating your loss, reach out […]
Ep #37 Feelings
June 19, 2019 10:00 - 25 minutes - 20.7 MBLearning about your feelings — how to feel them, where they come from and what to do with them — will change your life. I promise. It’s liberating. It’s freedom. I love it and I know you will too. It’s worth the effort to do the work and understand your feelings. If you’re ready to […]
Ep #36 New Thoughts
June 12, 2019 10:00 - 30 minutes - 25 MBThis is the third part of the Power of Thought series. This week we’ll talk about how to direct our brain, how to create new thoughts in order to create new results, and how new thoughts relate to grief and loss. I’m going to give you lots of examples. Part one of the Power of […]
Ep #35 Circumstances vs. Thoughts
June 05, 2019 10:00 - 27 minutes - 22.1 MBCircumstances are different than our thoughts. The facts are different than our thoughts. But sometimes we think they are the same. They’re not. Knowing the difference makes all the difference. The biggest shift I had toward happiness was recognizing that my thoughts were optional. That I could look at a circumstance and choose the thought. Game […]
Ep #34 Mental Health
May 29, 2019 10:00 - 21 minutes - 17.8 MBMay is Mental Health Awareness Month. This week, the last Wednesday of May, we’re going to talk about what mental health is, how our thoughts create our results and how we can train our brains to do the heavy lifting to enjoy the best mental health available to us. This is the first part of […]
Ep #33 Avoiding Victim Mentality
May 25, 2019 20:20 - 21 minutes - 17.9 MBWe’ve gone through some hard times. Really, really hard times! People are sympathetic and say things like “I have no idea how you are functioning.” “How do you go on?” “How do you endure that?” We can see why it would be extremely easy to think of ourselves as a victim. We have the pity […]
Ep #32 Dealing With Disappointment
May 15, 2019 10:00 - 28 minutes - 23.4 MBBeyond the really, really tough stuff, like devastating losses and grief, we need to be prepared to deal with the day to day, week to week disappointments. Disappointment is part of our human experience. It’s to be expected, so let’s expect it and prepare for it because we know it’s coming. Let’s not just automatically […]
Ep #31 From Grief to Grace, An Interview with Rebecca Tervo
May 08, 2019 10:00 - 45 minutes - 36.4 MBI’m super excited to share my interview with my friend and fellow coach, Rebecca Tervo. She shares the decisions she made to move forward with life after her son’s death and how she learned to create a life of purpose and joy. Rebecca’s 17 year old son Trevor, died unexpectedly by suicide in 2012. Her […]
Ep #30 Personal Development After Loss Part 2
May 01, 2019 10:00 - 34 minutes - 28.1 MBLet’s continue our discussion about personal development after loss and grief. Where do we start? Tiny habits each day can make a remarkable difference. So let’s start there. Routines create habits and habits create lifestyle. In this episode I explain a 2-minute routine that you can start doing tomorrow that can get your life heading […]
Ep #29 Personal Development After Loss Part 1
April 24, 2019 10:00 - 23 minutes - 19.2 MB“If I could, I would give every griever permission to be however they need to be, for as long as they need to.” -Jess McCormack These words spoke to me as I read Jess’s article Loving A Grieving Friend – Even When It’s Hard at Still Standing Magazine online. We’ve probably all had that friend […]
Ep #28 6 Ways to Improve Relationships
April 17, 2019 10:00 - 32 minutes - 26.1 MBLoss and Grief can be very hard on our closest relationships. In this episode we’ll explore some steps we can take to improve our relationships. We’ll talk about how we can love someone even when we don’t necessarily agree. And what to do when you’ve expressed your desires and they aren’t met. Have a wonderful […]
Ep #27 How to Deal with Emotional Triggers
April 10, 2019 10:00 - 37 minutes - 30.2 MBI realized I had a lot more to say about music and specifically about inspirational music, so in this episode I start with a part 2 on music. Then I get into triggers. Emotional triggers are normal after a devastating loss. They come with the grief territory. We pass by a place we used to […]
Ep #26 How Music Can Help You
April 03, 2019 10:00 - 20 minutes - 16.8 MBMusic is powerful. It can stir your emotions. It can change a mood. When you’re grieving, you need ways to move your energy to let go of strong, sorrowful emotions and to fill up with uplifting emotions. In this episode, we’ll explore the power of music to help you heal, assist you in expressing your […]
Ep #25 Circumstances Do Not Define You
March 27, 2019 10:00 - 19 minutes - 15.6 MBIt’s easy to get trapped into thinking our circumstances determine our feelings and behaviors. Super easy. We don’t even know we’re doing it. That’s why it’s easy to be the victim, because we give all our power away. And to the people that we are least likely to want to give control to. In this […]
Ep #24 The Marathon
March 20, 2019 10:00 - 27 minutes - 22.6 MBIn some ways we can compare our loss journey to that of a Marathon runner. The runner gives 100% to the race. They give their mental, emotional and physical strength, plus all their preparation to race day. We experience our grief at 100%. We give our mental, emotional, spiritual and even physical, our life experiences, […]
Ep #23 Judgment
March 13, 2019 10:00 - 24 minutes - 20.2 MBJudgment comes from our thoughts. How we see ourselves, how we see others and how we think others see us. It all comes from our thoughts. When you change your thoughts, you change your life. Literally. I admire the work of Byron Katie, who teaches a four question turn around that gives us new perspective […]
Ep #22 The Snare of Negativity
March 06, 2019 11:00 - 23 minutes - 19 MBRecently, the Academy Awards aired on TV and millions tuned in to watch the Oscar winners. The commentators talked about who said it best and who wore it best which always leads to who didn’t say it well and who didn’t wear it well. Do you ever watch reality tv like The Oscars or The […]