Build A Life After Loss Podcast

Ep #21 Grief and Moving Forward

February 27, 2019 11:00 - 29 minutes - 24 MB

Let’s talk about grief. What is it? How does it compare to mourning? And do we get to decide when we’re done grieving? Hint: yes!!! Let’s talk about how we get to decide what we think and feel. No one else. Just us. Let’s choose wisely. Want to meet? Just let me know here: http://buildalifeafterloss.com/work-with-julie. […]

Ep #20 Loss and the Law of Attraction

February 20, 2019 11:00 - 30 minutes - 25 MB

Oversimplifying the Law of Attraction can leave you thinking that somehow you caused your loss because of negative thoughts. I don’t think that’s useful at all! In fact, I believe that not everything that happens to you is a result of your thoughts. Thinking that the loss of your child is due to something that […]

Ep #19 Self Worth

February 13, 2019 11:51 - 17 minutes - 14.5 MB

Your worth is a given. It has been there all along. It’s not tied to your doing, it’s tied to your very existence. As you’re vigilant about redirecting your thoughts that aren’t useful, you can increase your understanding of your worth. One definition for self worth is “the sense of one’s own value or worth […]

Ep #18 Don’t Believe Your Thoughts

February 06, 2019 11:00 - 22 minutes - 18.3 MB

Question your thoughts. Seriously, don’t believe everything you think. Your thoughts are not the truth. Your thoughts are your interpretation of what’s happening. Your thoughts determine how you feel and act and ultimately your results. So choose wisely. Choose your conscious thoughts deliberately. Get in the habit of choosing. Your subconscious mind is trying to […]

Ep #17 Major Life Shifts After Loss

January 30, 2019 11:00 - 27 minutes - 21.9 MB

Major shifts occur in your life after a devastating loss like the death of a child. It can feel like an earthquake that flattens a town; except that town is you. Our bodies and minds are intricately connected. By being aware of that connection and honoring it we can be intentional about rebuilding our mind […]

Ep #16 Showing Up

January 23, 2019 11:00 - 32 minutes - 26.2 MB

In our grief and loss it’s difficult to show up, to agree to commitments, because of our erratic emotions. We’ll talk about why that’s ok, how to be human and be compassionate toward ourselves and others. We’ll discuss the opportunity to be intentional about showing up for what’s important to us and leaving the rest […]

Ep #15 Suffering is Optional

January 16, 2019 11:00 - 15 minutes - 12.4 MB

“Pain is inevitable but suffering is optional.” This quote is often attributed to Buddhist teachings. In today’s episode we’ll explore the grief, pain and suffering that’s associated with loss. The concentration camp prisoner Viktor Frankl famously wrote, “Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. […]

Ep #14 You Aren’t Crazy

January 09, 2019 11:00 - 20 minutes - 16.9 MB

My friend Brandi Dayton, whose son died 3 years ago, said, “We need to know we aren’t crazy, what’s normal and that we will one day be ok.” Her comment inspired this episode. It’s natural to feel like you’re crazy after a loss because you may experience crazy thoughts, you can’t concentrate and you live […]

Ep #13 Processing Grief

January 02, 2019 11:00 - 27 minutes - 22.5 MB

As a society we aren’t good at feeling our emotions. We learn to use our intellect but not our emotions. Feeling your feelings is an important element of processing grief. As you’re patient and loving toward yourself you can allow your feelings to come forward without added anxiety and fear. In this episode, I also […]

Ep #12 You Are Not Alone

December 26, 2018 11:00 - 22 minutes - 17.9 MB

Your grief over losing your child may leave you feeling depressed and anxious. You may also feel isolated and alone. Because of your depression you may find yourself pulling away from people and the support you want. You may feel that no one understands you. Feeling that way can be lonely too. Even the way […]

Ep #11 Create Vision

December 19, 2018 11:00 - 18 minutes - 15.3 MB

After a major loss, like losing a child, it’s not unusual to find that your interests and ambitions have changed. It might be time to create a new vision for your life because “a to-do list is not a vision.” In this episode, I explain how to create vision, how to know through contrast what […]

Ep #10 The Magic of Gratitude

December 12, 2018 11:00 - 21 minutes - 17.3 MB

Gratitude is magic even in our grief. I share more of my story and my experience with devastating loss, grief and gratitude. Also, in this episode I tell you the beautiful story of Jessica Swift, her profound grief in losing her young husband and her overwhelming gratitude. She beautifully illustrates the juxtaposition of these seemingly […]

Ep #9 Positive Psychology

December 05, 2018 11:00 - 21 minutes - 17.5 MB

Today we’re talking about the discipline of Positive Psychology, what it is, and how it can help us as we struggle with grief and coming back to a place of well-being and happiness. In today’s episode I mentioned Abraham Maslow and Dr. Martin Seligman, both of whom are considered two of the five founding fathers […]

Ep #8 Grief Myths

November 28, 2018 11:00 - 17 minutes - 14.4 MB

What do we believe about grief that’s not helpful? We’ll explore some common misconceptions and why we might believe that. Many of our myths about Grief come from things that we learned growing up that don’t serve us. As we examine these myths we can determine what we want to believe now so that we […]

Ep #7 What Others Say and Do

November 21, 2018 11:00 - 15 minutes - 12.7 MB

We spend so much energy concerned about what others say and think or what they may say and think. It’s a waste of time. No matter what we do in an effort to control what others say and think, they still get to decide. Despite our best efforts we truly have no control over other […]

Bonus Episode. Anticipating the Holidays After Loss

November 17, 2018 11:00 - 8 minutes - 6.85 MB

When you’re experiencing the pain from the loss of your child, the holiday season can be particularly tricky. One of the best things we can do for ourselves is be kind and loving. Let the emotions arise and be ok with it. Participate and enjoy the holidays as much as you can, but it’s ok […]

Ep #6 Choose Hope

November 14, 2018 11:00 - 16 minutes - 13.6 MB

Truly do your very best to choose hope despite your loss. If we believe that we will always be mourning and that there is no way to move beyond the excruciating pain of loss we won’t look for hope. If we believe that if we give up mourning we’ll be letting go of our child, […]

Ep #5 Changing a Bad Attitude

October 20, 2018 00:19 - 13 minutes - 15.4 MB

Has anyone ever told you that you have a bad attitude? Have you ever wondered what that means? We know what it looks like. We know what it feels like. But where did it come from and how do we change it? We’ll explore the anatomy of a bad attitude. Until we know what it […]

Ep #4 Love Yourself

October 19, 2018 15:00 - 14 minutes - 11.8 MB

I’m pretty sure we all feel certain that we should be kind and loving to others. It seems right and noble. Why don’t we offer this same level of respect to ourselves? Doesn’t it make sense that if it feels great to love others that it should feel equally great to love ourselves. I seriously […]

Ep #3 What Helped During My Grief Part 2

October 19, 2018 14:20 - 15 minutes - 13 MB

In this second of two parts, I explore five additional things that helped me in my early grief and beyond. I found that the activities that helped varied from social to spiritual to physical. Some of these activities I’ve continued, and some I’ve continued in a different form as my life has shifted and changed […]

Ep #2 What Helped During My Grief Part 1

October 19, 2018 14:15 - 15 minutes - 17.5 MB

Just a couple short years after my children died, a distant acquaintance suddenly became a young widow with young children. My heart ached for her. I wanted to do something to help but I didn’t know her well and I didn’t live near her so I wrote a letter. I wrote a letter of all […]

Ep #1 We All Have a Story

October 19, 2018 14:00 - 12 minutes - 10.3 MB

We all have a story. Your life story is important. It’s what makes you who you are. Also, the way we interact with our story develops overtime. When you think about it, the uniqueness in each of our lives is astounding! Absolutely, no two people on the planet share the same story even within the […]