The Queer Confidence Podcast
204 episodes - English - Latest episode: 8 days ago -Want to become more confident? This show is for you. Learn tips for intimacy, dating, relationships, sex, people pleasing, boundaries, and more so you can confidently be your authentic self. Join Coach Alex Ray (he/she/they) and LGBTQIA+ guests. Visit coachalexray.com to learn more.
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Horizontal Hostility
January 21, 2021 10:00 - 30 minutes - 20.7 MBOne of the biggest enemies to progress within the LGBTQIA+ community, is our own community. Horizontal hostility is when members of the community knock down other members of the community and it needs to stop. When we pull others in the community down, we ALL go down. Instead, we have to work together to raise the community from within if we ever want to reach the status of equality and love we are seeking. In this episode, I teach you how to Catch where you yourself are contributing ...
Failing Your Way To Success with Stuart Blues
January 14, 2021 10:00 - 55 minutes - 38.4 MBAfter last weeks episode on goal setting and to continue helping you with your New Years resolutions, I wanted to bring on Stuart as a guest for todays show. And you’ll see why… Stuart started a podcast last year with a friend, but things didn't go too well after they realized they had different visions for the future of the show. Then he hit quite a few bumps in the road last year personally and professionally, in addition to what we are all experiencing with COVID-19. In today’s episode...
Making Resolutions That Work
January 07, 2021 10:00 - 37 minutes - 26 MBIn today’s episode, we talk about making New Year’s resolutions that work. Often we set goals too small so we can avoid feeling bad if we don't accomplish them. And then we try to just put our head down, act tough, and muscle our way to success only to be exhausted when the result doesn’t happen fast enough. In this episode, I teach you how to: Find joy in the process of goal-setting. Set goals that are impossible without freaking your brain out. Strategically work backwards when setting...
Money Fears
December 31, 2020 10:00 - 1 hour - 45.6 MBIn today’s episode, we discuss fears around money. There's all this anxiety around talking about money.... so let's talk about it! I feel like I have lived 2 completely different lives this year as far as money. Had I met myself now back in January I would think I was an alien! So today I'm breaking down all the thought changes I made so you can learn from my growth. And now you can have my one year of growth in only one hour! In this episode, I teach you how to: Take the fear out of mone...
Overcoming Burnout with Meghan Johnson
December 25, 2020 10:00 - 47 minutes - 32.7 MBToday I have a special bonus episode for you featuring coach Meghan Johnson! In today's episode, Meghan Johnson shares how to overcome burning out, and thrive without hustling. Support the show (https://brave.fit/coaching)
Loving Your Body
December 24, 2020 10:00 - 35 minutes - 24.7 MBIn today’s episode, we discuss loving your body. It's human nature to constantly be looking for more reasons to not like ourselves. In this episode, I teach you how to: Start to view your body as unique, not flawed Accept that your body is already 100% lovable And find a more effective motivation for fitness Changing your body won’t make it more lovable. But loving your body may lead to change. Support the show (https://brave.fit/coaching)
Turning Anxiety into Enthusiasm w/Sharon-Rose McNeil
December 21, 2020 10:00 - 39 minutes - 27 MBToday I have a special bonus episode for you featuring a sales expert, Sharon- Rose! In today's episode, Sharon-Rose shares how she helps people turn their anxiety into enthusiasm that sells! Connect with Sharon-Rose here: Website: www.honorsales.com Instagram: instagram.com/sharonrosemcneil Facebook: facebook.com/honorsales Support the show (https://brave.fit/coaching)
Fear Of Success
December 17, 2020 10:00 - 29 minutes - 20.5 MBIn today’s episode, we discuss the fear of success. Sometimes, we procrastinate on the journey to achieving a goal because we are afraid of the unknown. In this episode, I teach you how to Stop letting the fear of change get in the way of your success. Deal with the changes that come from succeeding. Overcome the fear of being rejected. 2020 hasn’t been the year we wanted, but the year we needed. Don’t let the unknown scare you away from going after what you really want. Take th...
How To Stop Procrastinating
December 10, 2020 10:00 - 21 minutes - 14.6 MBIn today’s episode, we discuss how to stop procrastinating. When you are procrastinating, you're sabotaging your future self. Eventually, you're going to have to do that thing you don't wanna do right now. So, why not save yourself the trouble? In this episode, I teach you how to: Figure out why you're procrastinating. Start working on the thoughts that create motivation. Take care of your future self by budgeting your time efficiently. Remember, inconvenience now will lead to convenie...
Toxic Relationships
December 03, 2020 10:00 - 30 minutes - 21.3 MBIn today’s episode, we discuss toxic relationships, and why you keep finding yourself in an unwanted pattern. In this episode, I teach you how to: Understand why you keep getting into toxic relationships Start healing your relationship with yourself before jumping into a relationship. Begin to explore the fact that you're 100% lovable. Start identifying the difference between what's healthy and what's comfortable. Remember, there are as many shitty people as there are good people out t...
People Pleasing
November 26, 2020 10:00 - 34 minutes - 24 MBIn today’s episode, we discuss people-pleasing. People-pleasing is just manipulation in drag. It’s a way to make others happy but by doing so, you just end up feeling shitty about yourself. In this episode, I teach you how to Stop seeking validation & approval from others. View your self-worth as constant at 100%. Identify the difference between what’s easy and what’s right. Quit trying to change how others see you. People-pleasing puts more pressure on you. More pressure to make oth...
Bravery in Adversity w/ Mike D'Angelo
November 23, 2020 10:00 - 51 minutes - 35.7 MBIn today’s episode, I discuss what being brave looks like on a day to day basis with my good friend Mike D’Angelo. In times of distress, being brave isn’t always easy. Being brave takes balls. In this episode you’ll learn how to: Stop limiting yourself to societal expectations. Create a mindset based on what you can do, not what you can’t. Be authentic to yourself Demonstrate bravery on a day to day basis. Follow Mike on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mikeoftheangels/ Support ...
BONUS- Bravery in Adversity w/ Mike D'Angelo
November 23, 2020 10:00 - 51 minutes - 35.7 MBIn today’s episode, I discuss what being brave looks like on a day to day basis with my good friend Mike D’Angelo. In times of distress, being brave isn’t always easy. Being brave takes balls. In this episode you’ll learn how to: Stop limiting yourself to societal expectations. Create a mindset based on what you can do, not what you can’t. Be authentic to yourself Demonstrate bravery on a day to day basis. Follow Mike on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mikeoftheangels/ Support ...
Toxic Gay Culture
November 12, 2020 10:00 - 52 minutes - 35.9 MBIn today’s episode, I want to share my perspectives with you on changing toxic gay culture. In order to even have this clarity, I had to get some coaching myself. I realized that while I have a love for this community, I have been feeling ANNOYED by the toxicity of our culture. You know what I mean: the comparison, judgement, cattiness, it sucks! But the truth is, we, as a community, are the only ones who can make heal it. And that starts with us each doing our own inner work. In this ep...
Going From "I'm Garbage" To True Self Love w/Corey Spade
November 05, 2020 10:00 - 53 minutes - 37 MBToday I have a special guest with me. Corey Spade and I have been friends through Instagram for about a year now, and 4 months ago I started coaching him. On our first consultation he told me “I’m garbage and I don’t think you can help me.” He was deep in self loathing. Now 4 month later, he is standing up for himself at work, looking in the mirror with love for his body, and beginning plans for opening his own restaurant. He’s on FIRE! I’m beyond proud of him and so excited for you to h...
Avoiding Bad Decisions
October 29, 2020 09:00 - 39 minutes - 26.9 MBIn today’s episode, I teach you how to avoid making “bad” decisions. (Like the bad decisions of the main characters in every horror movie ever!) Spoiler: “bad” decisions don’t exist. Your brain was seeking pleasure, avoiding pain, and trying to conserve energy to make a decision. At that very moment, you made the best decision possible with the information that was provided. In this episode you’ll learn how to: Make decisions with your future in mind, while learning from the “bad” ones. ...
Loneliness
October 22, 2020 09:00 - 38 minutes - 26.1 MBIn today’s episode, I teach you how to deal with loneliness. Loneliness can come in two different forms: The feeling when being physically alone. Feeling alone and in your head, even when you’re surrounded by people. In this episode you’ll learn how to: Feel grounded when you are with people or physically alone. Grow your authenticity to become more confident Connect with yourself to heal the relationships you have with your thoughts. Enjoy the process of people coming and going in ...
Fear Of Failure
October 15, 2020 09:00 - 35 minutes - 24.1 MBIn todays episode I teach you how to overcome fear of failure. You’ve got tons of great ideas, but your brain wants to find all the ways it could go wrong before you even start. In this episode you’ll learn how to: change your relationship with failure start and complete large goals and separate yourself from your work Failing doesn’t make you a failure. Failing is learning. I have failed so many times! And I continue to fail my way towards success. The only true failure is quitting....
Changing Bad Thoughts
October 08, 2020 09:00 - 18 minutes - 12.4 MBA thought is just a bunch of neutral brainwaves..... it's as simple as that. Now, what you do with those brainwaves is up to you. Your judgment is what determines if a thought is "good" or "bad", based on your past lived experiences and perspectives. If you truly want to change your thoughts, you need to look at them objectively. Instead of worrying about if your thoughts are good or bad, ask yourself if they are serving you! Support the show (https://brave.fit/coaching)
Three Habits That Kill Success
October 01, 2020 09:00 - 37 minutes - 25.9 MBIn order to succeed, you need to let go of three habits. Habit 1: Saying I don’t know how or I can’t. Habit 2: Chasing shiny new good ideas. Habit 3: Doing the same thing over and over again but with more effort and expecting a different result. The reason you are stuck is because you keep wanting to solve using new actions. But you can change your actions all you want, if you don't also change your thoughts, you will still end up with the same 'stuck' result. Support the show (https:...
My Mental Health Journey
September 24, 2020 09:00 - 42 minutes - 28.9 MBIn today’s episode I am excited to share with you the details of my own mental health journey. This is my most vulnerable episode yet. I share how my chronic depression was diagnosed in 2nd grade. Why I hit absolute rock bottom 3 years ago. And the simple thought changes I’ve learned since then that took me from hopeless depression, to genuinely loving life. The 5 main thought changes in this episode are: OLD I’m not enough. NEW I am enough. I am 100% lovable without changing anything....
The Hustle
September 17, 2020 09:00 - 41 minutes - 28.3 MBThe hustle happens when you believe it's up to your actions to control the value other people see in you (or your product). The hustle happens when you believe that you will become more valuable once you make a million dollars, have the car, the relationship, etc. How hard you work does not define your value. How much money you make does not define your value. Value has nothing to do with circumstances or actions. It has everything to do with your thoughts. Value is created through your...
Good Days and Bad Days
September 10, 2020 09:00 - 22 minutes - 15.5 MBLife is half & half. There are going to be great, wonderfully amazing fantastic days, full of unicorns and rainbows. There are going to be awful, terrible, no good very bad days clouded by storms. And then, there are going to be the days in between. But the key to all of them is accepting each day exactly as it is. We aren’t supposed to have all good days. Support the show (https://brave.fit/coaching)
What Is Coaching?
September 03, 2020 09:00 - 21 minutes - 14.8 MBCoaching IS NOT therapy. Therapy acts to address how past experiences are affecting you now. Coaching allows you to change your thoughts in the present to create what you want in your future. The beauty of coaching is that every coach has their own way of doing things. No coach does things the same, allowing you to learn and grow according to what your goals are. Coaching acts as a means of creating the life you thought you couldn't have. So what are you waiting for? Support the show...
Step Five: Action Plan
August 27, 2020 09:00 - 25 minutes - 17.3 MBYou've become so brave through these past 4 episodes. Now, it's time you need an action plan. A means of holding yourself accountable. A way to apply everything you've learned over the past 5 weeks. The opportunity to create the life you didn't think was possible. My friend Andrew who made the bread has his own podcast TrekUp. Each episode is a topic regarding education or pursuing your future career. Check it out now at https://www.xtrekpoint.com/podcast-trekup.html This episode is...
Step Four: Determination To Press On Even When....
August 20, 2020 09:00 - 23 minutes - 16.4 MBYou have worked on your identity. You have worked on your willingness to face fear. You have developed the confidence to be authentic. But things will still go wrong on the journey. Why? Because failure is inevitable. When we trust the process, failure acts as a tool to move us forward. When we treat failure as an obstacle, it holds us back. What others see as an obstacle, you can see as an opportunity; it's all about perspective. To stay determined, we must accept that the journ...
Step Three: Confidence To Be Authentic
August 13, 2020 09:00 - 27 minutes - 18.7 MBThe fear of judgement is one of our biggest hinderances to success. But what if you were not afraid to be yourself? Can you imagine how that would feel? This is something you must realize. You are enough. The only way to overcome your scared shitless goal is to be yourself and take pride in it. Today’s episode will teach you how to break down your fear of judgement so you can live authentically. It's time! This episode is part of a series on the 5 Steps To Becoming Brave. You can dow...
Step Two: Willing To Face Fear
August 06, 2020 09:00 - 23 minutes - 16.5 MBWhat are you scared of? What's holding you back from crushing your goals? Bravery is not the absence of fear. Bravery is the willingness to face it. You will have to encounter fear on this journey; there's no way around it. Now what you do with that fear is completely up to you. What's the worst that could happen?! A feeling. The perception of pain is always worse than the pain itself. The only way to smash your scared shitless goals is with a willingness to overcome fear. Today’s ...
Step One: Identity Crisis
July 30, 2020 09:00 - 28 minutes - 19.3 MBWho are you now? Who do you want to be? This week’s episode kicks off step one of the five-episode series to becoming Brave. Living Brave starts with an identity crisis. You’ve been stuck because you currently identify as someone who cannot achieve your goal. Your identity is what creates your results. Today’s episode will walk you through what you need to do and how you need to change your mindset to become the version of you that you want to be. This episode is part of a series on t...
How To Become Brave
July 23, 2020 09:00 - 24 minutes - 17 MBDo you have a goal that you really want to achieve? It just keeps nagging you. You feel like you were born to do this thing, but you are overwhelmed at the thought of even starting. It's not too late. You can start on that goal today. All you need is bravery. Bravery is… The willingness to face fear. The confidence to live authentically. And the determination to keep going in the face of adversity. It's the key to accomplishing a goal, a real goal, one that scares you shitless. In to...
Now Is The Best Time
July 09, 2020 09:00 - 36 minutes - 25 MB2020 is a year of major, much needed changes. I've made a big decision. This is something I’ve been thinking about for a long time, that I finally decided to put into motion. So often we are waiting for the perfect time to take action. The best time is always now. I’m so excited to share this big change with you and continue to grow as a Brave family. -Coach Alex Ray Support the show (https://brave.fit/coaching)
Two Types of Thinking
July 02, 2020 09:00 - 25 minutes - 17.8 MBWhy is it so hard to be productive? If you’ve feeling overwhelmed and unorganized lately, I can help. Believe it or not, there are two types of thinking that you unconsciously use in your day-to-day routine. And tapping into one of them could seriously change your life. Support the show (https://brave.fit/coaching)
The Journey
June 25, 2020 09:00 - 9 minutes - 6.73 MBAccomplishing your goal is NOT the best part. This week’s episode is about appreciation. Let’s dive deeper. We need to appreciate where we are now, and how we got here. The present is a gift that we don’t always take advantage of. I want to share with you something that I think is so important. The journey is actually the best part! Support the show (https://brave.fit/coaching)
How To Be Uncomfortable
June 18, 2020 09:00 - 40 minutes - 27.9 MBIt's okay to be uncomfortable. But we have to confront our feelings. We don't want to be comfortable with the injustices in the world right now. But rather than ignoring these feelings or trying to make them go away, we need to confront our feelings. Too often we try to rush to a better feeling, but sitting in discomfort is actually okay. The key is to get comfortable being uncomfortable. I had a great conversation with Life Coach Tandy last week that changed my life. Visit Life Coach Tan...
Brave Conversation on Racism w/ Life Coach Tandy Pt. 2
June 12, 2020 09:00 - 46 minutes - 31.8 MBThis is part 2 from yesterday’s conversation with Life Coach Tandy. I sat down with my new friend Life Coach Tandy and we had a brave conversation on racism. Tandy shared so much wisdom in this episode. Get ready for some great truth bombs. I also got really honest with biases that I have been discovering within myself over the past few weeks. These are subtle thoughts that I hated realizing. But part of being brave is being willing to explore ourselves and to recognize when we are ...
Brave Conversation on Racism w/ Life Coach Tandy Pt. 1
June 11, 2020 09:00 - 40 minutes - 27.6 MBOn this episode I sat down with my new friend Life Coach Tandy and we had a brave conversation on racism. Tandy shared so much wisdom in this episode. Get ready for some great truth bombs. I also got really honest with biases that I have been discovering within myself over the past few weeks. These are subtle thoughts that I hated realizing. But part of being brave is being willing to explore ourselves and to recognize when we are wrong. I hope this episode encourages you to have brav...
Creating Confidence
June 04, 2020 09:00 - 38 minutes - 26.3 MBHave you noticed that taking a compliment can be difficult? Without thinking about it, we typically downplay whatever was complimented after saying thank you. Why? Confidence is a practice. It doesn’t come from anything externally like losing weight, making money, or landing your dream job. Instead, confidence comes through first establishing your identity, as I talked about in last week’s episode. And second, by continually appreciating your own abilities or qualities. Support the s...
Envisioning Your Future Self
May 28, 2020 09:00 - 22 minutes - 15.6 MBIt all starts with who you want to be. If you’re struggling to become the person you want to be, you’re probably going about the process backwards. Most people identify themselves as who they are currently or who they were in the past. But your transformation is not in your past, it’s in your future. In order to become that future self, you need to start by identifying as that person right now. Today I’m going to teach you how. Support the show (https://brave.fit/coaching)
Identity Crisis
May 21, 2020 09:00 - 29 minutes - 20.1 MB“I’ll be more confident when I hit my goal.” “I’ll have more friends if I weigh less or look different.” Your weight does not define your identity. We’re all guilty of thinking that it does. But how do you get over that negative mindset? First, you have to recognize it. In this episode I’ll teach you how. Support the show (https://brave.fit/coaching)
Don't Miss Out On Now Ft. Wisdom From Ryan Moran
May 15, 2020 09:00 - 6 minutes - 4.84 MBWe always focus on what comes next, what we’re looking forward to or dreading. Why can’t we just focus on now? Today in a short bonus episode, I talk about wisdom from Ryan Moran that really helped me with my daily life, especially during this pandemic. Support the show (https://brave.fit/coaching)
Celebrating Wins
May 14, 2020 09:00 - 27 minutes - 19.2 MBDo you beat yourself up about small failures too? What about small wins? Celebrating wins is important to staying sane and even staying motivated. Even the small stuff counts. Today’s episode is about how to change your perspective so you can stay motivated even when you feel stuck. This will also be a way to successfully keep motivation in your daily life. We would love to hear from you! If you would like to share your wins, send them to [email protected] so we can feature you in our n...
All About Alcohol
May 07, 2020 09:00 - 28 minutes - 20 MBFood is fuel. But is alcohol really fuel? Drinking (or lack thereof) is a big part of your fitness journey. What does it mean to you? The choice between fitness and drinking is something I have always grappled with. In today's episode I talk about my experience with alcohol and what it has meant to me and my personal fitness journey. Support the show (https://brave.fit/coaching)
Healing Your Relationship With Food w/Meg Cocco
April 30, 2020 09:00 - 36 minutes - 25.4 MBWhat do you let the scale or your pant size mean about you? In this week’s episode my friend and past clients Meg Cocco got very vulnerable and shares how her previously unhealthy relationship with food and the scale affected her life. She shares how food became her way of finding control when life got chaotic. And out of that she developed an eating disorder. How do you perceive your relationship with food? Would you like to change it? Would you like to heal it? Support the show (http...
Creating Motivation
April 23, 2020 09:00 - 18 minutes - 13 MBWhat is motivation? How exactly do you keep it? Why is it so important? What if I told you that you are always motivated? You are either motivated to do something you're proud of, or motivated to do something easy. In today’s episode I teach you how to create purposeful motivation, and then how to keep it. Support the show (https://brave.fit/coaching)
How to Change Your Habits
April 16, 2020 09:00 - 26 minutes - 18.1 MBWhat is a habit? How do you create new ones? And how can you quit bad habits? In today’s episode I help you understand all this so you can create healthier habits, change negative habits, and get rid of habits that are holding you back from your goals. Instead of butting your head against a wall to change your habits, I’m going to teach you today to actually create cravings that serve you and get you closer to your goals! Habit change is the key to creating permanent lasting fitness resul...
Welcoming Everyone To Fitness
April 15, 2020 09:00 - 56 minutes - 38.8 MBThere are so many methods of fitness out there. And you may have heard of this scary crazy cult-like one called CrossFit. But it’s not quite what you may think it is. Finding CrossFit almost 5 years ago was a critical turning point in my fitness journey because it helped me see working out as fun instead of necessary torture or what I “should” do. Today I talk with the founders of Fairwinds CrossFit about their philosophy and how they make sure all people feel more than welcome at their “b...
Getting Unstuck
April 09, 2020 09:00 - 33 minutes - 23.3 MBAre you feeling stuck right now? Are you not able to make progress because you are too stressed? Or is guilt keeping you in a shame circle? Today I help you get unstuck so you can continue to make progress. Difficult things are inevitable. Life promises you bad with the good. Its either hard now and easy later, or easy now and hard later. By taking it easy, because you feel guilt or shame about the past, or feel stressed and overworked in the present, you make it harder to reach your goals....
The Need For Carbs
April 02, 2020 09:00 - 25 minutes - 17.4 MBToday I share with you why our bodies actually need carbs. I’ll explain to you the good that carbs do for your body and when you most need them. The truth about carbs is that they are completely necessary for life. Our bodies need carbs because they are our body’s fuel source. The problem isn’t carbs, it’s the over consumption of carbs. Or for some of you, you may just not be consuming the right kind of carbs at the right time. Instead of demonizing carbs as an evil thing, try looking at ...
Eating for Fat Loss
March 26, 2020 09:00 - 22 minutes - 15.6 MBIn today’s episode, I share with you one simple change you can make to the way you eat to promote fat loss. You’re actually going to need to eat more! New clients come to me all the time worried that they will have to be hungry like every diet they have ever tired. Restrictive dieting may have exciting results at first, but they always end in a plateau. Our system at Brave is to give you the keys to a sustainable way of eating that keeps the weight off FOREVER. By feeding your body through...
Freeing Perspectives 2
March 24, 2020 09:00 - 23 minutes - 16.1 MBIn yesterday's bonus episode, we share the first half of our powerful discussions from last weeks Fear and Anxiety coaching call. Today is the second half of that call. In today's part 2 everyone chimed in with some tips for working from home more efficiently and effectively. We also discussed: Being extra productive while quarantined Conquering boredom Getting fit during quarantine And purging the house/spring cleaning If you'd like to join any of these free coaching calls in the futur...