Higher Self & I
343 episodes - English - Latest episode: 14 days ago -Higher Self & I is the podcast for ambitious female entrepreneurs who are ready to achieve and sustain mind-blowing results in their biz. It’s a show that will release you of your victim mindset and give you complete freedom and energy to jump into the self you always knew you could be. Each week, Rebecca Haydon will help you lock your mindset into gear and empower you to step into the person you always knew you were meant to be - a bad-ass CEO who is here to claim her freaking millionaire life!
You can connect with Rebecca on Instagram @_rebeccahaydon_. To work with Rebecca, head to rebeccahaydon.com.
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29. Celebrating YOU: Motivational Magic
June 01, 2021 01:00 - 2 minutes - 2.31 MBThis is time for you to reflect. Reflect on how far you have come. All the things that you've achieved. And to celebrate that, celebrate the fact that you are one of a kind, amazing, so proud of yourself, and what you've done. And all the things that you've been through from all the ups and all the downs, you know that there is an important lesson in every single one of these things, an important lesson that can stick with you and stay with you forever. Because ev...
How to Bring in a Juicy Flow of Consistent Clients
May 27, 2021 02:00 - 26 minutes - 24.1 MBIf you are struggling to bring in that juicy flow of consistent clients, you’re not alone. So many female business owners with big dreams and goals deal with the same thing (how do I know - because I was there too 🙋🏼♀️) Do you know how they turned it around? 1. They stopped looking for the HOW ❓ Constantly wanting to know ‘the how’ can seriously trip you up, stop you in your tracks, and completely allow you to get in your own way. Think of the last client you signed, did y...
28. How to Bring in a Juicy Flow of Consistent Clients
May 27, 2021 01:00 - 26 minutes - 24.1 MBIf you are struggling to bring in that juicy flow of consistent clients, you’re not alone. So many female business owners with big dreams and goals deal with the same thing (how do I know - because I was there too 🙋🏼♀️) Do you know how they turned it around? 1. They stopped looking for the HOW ❓ Constantly wanting to know ‘the how’ can seriously trip you up, stop you in your tracks, and completely allow you to get in your own way. Think of the last client you signed, did you...
It's Already Yours: Motivational Magic
May 25, 2021 02:00 - 2 minutes - 2.13 MBImagine turning up every day, as if everything is already your reality. Everything that you want, everything that you dream about, everything that you want to bring into your life is already here. Close your eyes right now. Because we're about to bring it in. I want you to feel, how it feels to have the things that you want, how you're showing up to that every single day. What thoughts are you having? What feelings do you have? How do you show up for yoursel...
27. It's Already Yours: Motivational Magic
May 25, 2021 01:00 - 2 minutes - 2.13 MBImagine turning up every day, as if everything is already your reality. Everything that you want, everything that you dream about, everything that you want to bring into your life is already here. Close your eyes right now. Because we're about to bring it in. I want you to feel, how it feels to have the things that you want, how you're showing up to that every single day. What thoughts are you having? What feelings do you have? How do you show up for yourself, f...
How I Show Up With Confidence and Share My Message When It Feels Good For Me!
May 20, 2021 02:00 - 21 minutes - 19.6 MBHave you ever wondered how I show up with confidence and share my message when it feels good for me? Well let me show you… 1. I pushed through my fears of judgement. Moving from a career as a professional performer into a mindset coach was a BIG SHIFT for me. I was forever playing another character and now I get to be me. This bought MANY a fear up but I KNEW that my message, my knowledge, and my passion was ALWAYS bigger than the fear of people judging me. Never let the m...
26. How I Show Up With Confidence and Share My Message When It Feels Good For Me!
May 20, 2021 01:00 - 21 minutes - 19.6 MBHave you ever wondered how I show up with confidence and share my message when it feels good for me? Well let me show you… 1. I pushed through my fears of judgement. Moving from a career as a professional performer into a mindset coach was a BIG SHIFT for me. I was forever playing another character and now I get to be me. This bought MANY a fear up but I KNEW that my message, my knowledge, and my passion was ALWAYS bigger than the fear of people judging me. Never let the mes...
What Do I Want? : Motivational Message
May 18, 2021 02:00 - 2 minutes - 2.83 MBHave to, Should, Must... All of these words are external to us, external from us, trusting ourselves, trusting you. When we look outside of ourselves, when we stop listening in to how we want to show up, who we want to be, how we want to be every single day, whether in your business, whether online, and we start actually looking from within, listening from within, trusting from within. That's where the magic is. So right now, I want you to stop, stop where you are...
25. What Do I Want? : Motivational Message
May 18, 2021 01:00 - 2 minutes - 2.83 MBHave to, Should, Must... All of these words are external to us, external from us, trusting ourselves, trusting you. When we look outside of ourselves, when we stop listening in to how we want to show up, who we want to be, how we want to be every single day, whether in your business, whether online, and we start actually looking from within, listening from within, trusting from within. That's where the magic is. So right now, I want you to stop, stop where you are. ...
Stand in Confidence with Your Services Online
May 13, 2021 02:00 - 14 minutes - 13.3 MB“I want to be selling my services with confidence and talk about them regularly online” Before I start working with clients they get a journal prompt document sent to them. One of the things I see come up, again and again, is they want to be confident with their services and be able to talk about them online. A big shift for me and my business was when I ACTUALLY started talking about my services, how you can work with me, and what the transformation looks like because ye...
24. Stand in Confidence with Your Services Online
May 13, 2021 01:00 - 14 minutes - 13.3 MB“I want to be selling my services with confidence and talk about them regularly online” Before I start working with clients they get a journal prompt document sent to them. One of the things I see come up, again and again, is they want to be confident with their services and be able to talk about them online. A big shift for me and my business was when I ACTUALLY started talking about my services, how you can work with me, and what the transformation looks like because yes,...
Step Into Confidence and Align Your Business With You: Motivational Magic.
May 11, 2021 02:00 - 3 minutes - 3.15 MBWe all have a mission on our heart. We all have a message we want to share. We all have moments in our life where the message and the mission don't feel quite right. But every time you tap into your values, you seek out what feels right to you. You speak about things that align to you in your life. And you get so clear on what lights your soul, what fills your cup. And at that moment, at that moment, you need to stand and say, "This is me, this is my message, this i...
23. Step Into Confidence and Align Your Business With You: Motivational Magic.
May 11, 2021 01:00 - 3 minutes - 3.15 MBWe all have a mission on our heart. We all have a message we want to share. We all have moments in our life where the message and the mission don't feel quite right. But every time you tap into your values, you seek out what feels right to you. You speak about things that align to you in your life. And you get so clear on what lights your soul, what fills your cup. And at that moment, at that moment, you need to stand and say, "This is me, this is my message, this is my missio...
Are You Fearing Success?
May 06, 2021 02:00 - 16 minutes - 15.2 MBI’ll never forget when I stood in the kitchen turned to my boyfriend Dan and said ‘I’m anxious, it all seems too good to be true...’ It was hard because through my business journey I had had success (more than I gave myself credit for - let’s be honest) but I had never had it consistently. It had been EXTREME highs, followed by EXTREME lows. Regularly. Months where I would do great. Months where I would make nothing. And that moment I stood in the kitchen, I had ...
22. Are You Fearing Success?
May 06, 2021 01:00 - 16 minutes - 15.2 MBI’ll never forget when I stood in the kitchen turned to my boyfriend Dan and said ‘I’m anxious, it all seems too good to be true...’ It was hard because through my business journey I had had success (more than I gave myself credit for - let’s be honest) but I had never had it consistently. It had been EXTREME highs, followed by EXTREME lows. Regularly. Months where I would do great. Months where I would make nothing. And that moment I stood in the kitchen, I had be...
Step into Your Success : Motivational Magic
May 04, 2021 02:00 - 3 minutes - 3.19 MBSuccess. Feeling successful, being successful, having success every single day. That's what we want But so often, I see women fearing that success. Fearing what success might bring, fearing what that success might look like. Will I be judged, will I have time. But you know exactly what it looks like. It looks like when you journal or you close your eyes and you see your dreams and your goals come to life. That's what success is, you're ready. I know...
21. Step into Your Success : Motivational Magic
May 04, 2021 01:00 - 3 minutes - 3.19 MBSuccess. Feeling successful, being successful, having success every single day. That's what we want But so often, I see women fearing that success. Fearing what success might bring, fearing what that success might look like. Will I be judged, will I have time. But you know exactly what it looks like. It looks like when you journal or you close your eyes and you see your dreams and your goals come to life. That's what success is, you're ready. I know y...
Are You Sharing Your Story Online?
April 29, 2021 02:00 - 33 minutes - 30.7 MBI moved to Australia in 2019 with nothing more than 1 suitcase and 1k, now this story becomes a valuable marker within my business. Are you sharing your story? Here's how to start 👇🏻 Step 1: I got SUPER clear on my purpose. 🙌🏻 Purpose is my NUMBER ONE value, and when doing anything in business or life for that matter I always need to know and be clear on the purpose. When you know your purpose, understand what you are here in this crazy world & start living from t...
20. Are You Sharing Your Story Online?
April 29, 2021 01:00 - 33 minutes - 30.7 MBI moved to Australia in 2019 with nothing more than 1 suitcase and 1k, now this story becomes a valuable marker within my business. Are you sharing your story? Here's how to start 👇🏻 Step 1: I got SUPER clear on my purpose. 🙌🏻 Purpose is my NUMBER ONE value, and when doing anything in business or life for that matter I always need to know and be clear on the purpose. When you know your purpose, understand what you are here in this crazy world & start living from tha...
We've Always Got Our Breath: Motivational Magic
April 27, 2021 02:00 - 3 minutes - 3.13 MBFeel that - that breath in, and breath out. Connecting you back to yourself, connecting you in more ways than you think. Feel the breath, feeling your body, and know that you can always come back to it at any point. Breathing in, breathing out, something we do so subconsciously through the day. But the power when you start to think about how you can bring yourself back into the present. And that's a gift, a gift that you've always had within you. And you'll always hav...
19. We've Always Got Our Breath: Motivational Magic
April 27, 2021 01:00 - 3 minutes - 3.13 MBFeel that - that breath in, and breath out. Connecting you back to yourself, connecting you in more ways than you think. Feel the breath, feeling your body, and know that you can always come back to it at any point. Breathing in, breathing out, something we do so subconsciously through the day. But the power when you start to think about how you can bring yourself back into the present. And that's a gift, a gift that you've always had within you. And you'll always have ...
What’s working and what do you enjoy? Then keep doing it! Interview with Jess Fynn from Social Quest Media.
April 22, 2021 02:00 - 40 minutes - 37 MBToday I speak to Jess Fynn, the gorgeous business owner of Social Quest Media, Jess is a Business & Marketing Mentor and also a YouTube strategist & editor. "I'm Jess the owner of Social Quest Media! I help female entrepreneurs show up powerfully online using strategy & flow so that they inject more fun into their business and make more money. I also own and operate a video marketing agency where we fully edit busy entrepreneurs' YouTube videos and offer VIP days to create a profitable...
18. What’s working and what do you enjoy? Then keep doing it! Interview with Jess Fynn from Social Quest Media.
April 22, 2021 01:00 - 40 minutes - 37 MBToday I speak to Jess Fynn, the gorgeous business owner of Social Quest Media, Jess is a Business & Marketing Mentor and also a YouTube strategist & editor. "I'm Jess the owner of Social Quest Media! I help female entrepreneurs show up powerfully online using strategy & flow so that they inject more fun into their business and make more money. I also own and operate a video marketing agency where we fully edit busy entrepreneurs' YouTube videos and offer VIP days to create a profitable a...
Letting Go of the How: Motivational Magic
April 20, 2021 02:00 - 2 minutes - 2.84 MBHow. Yeah but how. How many times do you ask yourself this every single day? I couldn't even begin to imagine how many times I've needed to know the how and you know what, nine times out of 10, it just happened. So this is your permission slip, your permission slip from me to you, to let go of the how. Release the how, release the need to know, get comfortable with being uncomfortable of not knowing the how, because when we release the how we start focusing on opportuni...
17. Letting Go of the How: Motivational Magic
April 20, 2021 01:00 - 2 minutes - 2.84 MBHow. Yeah but how. How many times do you ask yourself this every single day? I couldn't even begin to imagine how many times I've needed to know the how and you know what, nine times out of 10, it just happened. So this is your permission slip, your permission slip from me to you, to let go of the how. Release the how, release the need to know, get comfortable with being uncomfortable of not knowing the how, because when we release the how we start focusing on opportuniti...
Birthday Special : Why Your Limiting Beliefs Are Holding You Back
April 15, 2021 02:00 - 23 minutes - 24.3 MBCLICK HERE TO SECURE YOUR SPOT AND BOOK IN MY LIMITED BIRTHDAY SPECIAL & THE ONLY EXCLUSIVE HOURLY 1:1 PROGRAM I AM OFFERING, WELCOME TO... ✨ THE BELIEF BUSTER ✨ (OFFER ENDS IN 7 DAYS) Nothing holds us back like limiting beliefs about ourselves. Especially because so many of our beliefs about ourselves are filled with emotional attachements, insecurities and baggage that often must be unraveled before we can challenge the belief! It’s not safe to stay where you are because i...
16. Birthday Special : Why Your Limiting Beliefs Are Holding You Back
April 15, 2021 01:00 - 23 minutes - 24.3 MBCLICK HERE TO SECURE YOUR SPOT AND BOOK IN MY LIMITED BIRTHDAY SPECIAL & THE ONLY EXCLUSIVE HOURLY 1:1 PROGRAM I AM OFFERING, WELCOME TO... ✨ THE BELIEF BUSTER ✨ (OFFER ENDS IN 7 DAYS) Nothing holds us back like limiting beliefs about ourselves. Especially because so many of our beliefs about ourselves are filled with emotional attachements, insecurities and baggage that often must be unraveled before we can challenge the belief! It’s not safe to stay where you are because it doesn’t ...
Welcoming in Your Higher Self: Motivational Magic
April 13, 2021 02:00 - 3 minutes - 3.45 MBWelcome to your higher self. The woman who knows, who knows how she shows up, how she behaves, how she acts, and how she feels. She's there, right in front of you. gleaming, glowing, and absolutely standing in her power. Welcome her in. Every day she is here with you. She may knock on the door. Are you gonna listen to me today? But she knows. She knows all the answers because she's been through it. She knows what you're capable of. She knows what you're going to a...
15. Welcoming in Your Higher Self: Motivational Magic
April 13, 2021 01:00 - 3 minutes - 3.45 MBWelcome to your higher self. The woman who knows, who knows how she shows up, how she behaves, how she acts, and how she feels. She's there, right in front of you. gleaming, glowing, and absolutely standing in her power. Welcome her in. Every day she is here with you. She may knock on the door. Are you gonna listen to me today? But she knows. She knows all the answers because she's been through it. She knows what you're capable of. She knows what you're going to achieve. And...
Keep Going and Your Reality Will Catch Up With You: Interview with Megan Rose.
April 08, 2021 02:00 - 42 minutes - 39.4 MBToday I have the beautiful Megan Rose joining me on the podcast, Megan is an Embodiment Coach helping you to activate your feminine fire energy and unlock your authentic voice. She is all about leading in Goddess vibes and magnetically attracting more love, money, soul clients✨ This interview was very special to me as Megan and I have had similar journeys not only in business but in life too. Connect with Megan here - https://www.instagram.com/megan_rose_coaching/ Let's Con...
14. Keep Going and Your Reality Will Catch Up With You: Interview with Megan Rose.
April 08, 2021 01:00 - 42 minutes - 39.4 MBToday I have the beautiful Megan Rose joining me on the podcast, Megan is an Embodiment Coach helping you to activate your feminine fire energy and unlock your authentic voice. She is all about leading in Goddess vibes and magnetically attracting more love, money, soul clients✨ This interview was very special to me as Megan and I have had similar journeys not only in business but in life too. Connect with Megan here - https://www.instagram.com/megan_rose_coaching/ Let's Conne...
Let's Take the Leap : Motivational Magic
April 06, 2021 02:00 - 4 minutes - 4.59 MBEver felt like you are on the edge of something amazing, standing right on the edge. Big breath in. It's just you, and the open air. And that air represents your comfort zone. That open-air is where the magic happens. And you know, you know inside, all you need to do is take the leap. Take the leap of faith. Knowing that as you jump off that edge, something's someone the universe, whoever you believe, will catch you. Catch you as you smell and elevate and ...
13. Let's Take the Leap : Motivational Magic
April 06, 2021 01:00 - 4 minutes - 4.59 MBEver felt like you are on the edge of something amazing, standing right on the edge. Big breath in. It's just you, and the open air. And that air represents your comfort zone. That open-air is where the magic happens. And you know, you know inside, all you need to do is take the leap. Take the leap of faith. Knowing that as you jump off that edge, something's someone the universe, whoever you believe, will catch you. Catch you as you smell and elevate and el...
Addiction to Approval and How to Move Through It
April 01, 2021 02:00 - 21 minutes - 20.1 MBI really wanted today to come from the heart purely because the addiction to your approval and people-pleasing has probably been the biggest thing that I've had to work on since I started myself in the self-development world. So let's dive into the addiction to approval: What are you getting externally from seeking approval? How could I give that internally to myself? Could I let go of wanting to get approval? Could I allow myself to give myself approval (love) directly? S...
12. Addiction to Approval and How to Move Through It
April 01, 2021 01:00 - 21 minutes - 20.1 MBI really wanted today to come from the heart purely because the addiction to your approval and people-pleasing has probably been the biggest thing that I've had to work on since I started myself in the self-development world. So let's dive into the addiction to approval: What are you getting externally from seeking approval? How could I give that internally to myself? Could I let go of wanting to get approval? Could I allow myself to give myself approval (love) directly? Start lo...
Our Fate Lives Within Us : Motivational Magic
March 30, 2021 02:00 - 2 minutes - 2.19 MBOur fate lives within, you only have to be brave enough to see. Brave enough to look within, for the answers, to block out the external noise and to find that true purpose. Your true values and love, are the reason why you are here and every time you become brave enough to see the things that you truly want in life, that is when the magic starts to evolve. When you open and unlock the gate for everything that you've suppressed for so long, and tell yourself I am ready. ...
11. Our Fate Lives Within Us : Motivational Magic
March 30, 2021 01:00 - 2 minutes - 2.19 MBOur fate lives within, you only have to be brave enough to see. Brave enough to look within, for the answers, to block out the external noise and to find that true purpose. Your true values and love, are the reason why you are here and every time you become brave enough to see the things that you truly want in life, that is when the magic starts to evolve. When you open and unlock the gate for everything that you've suppressed for so long, and tell yourself I am ready. I'm re...
Express NOT Suppress, being uniquely YOU in business : An Interview with Ashleigh Smart.
March 25, 2021 02:00 - 49 minutes - 45.4 MBToday I have Ashleigh Smart joining me on the podcast. Ashleigh is a personal branding & marketing coach, empowering women to stand in their truth, share their unique message & become magnetic through building their personal brand to attract dream clients. We share our experience of growing through our business, what we learned only the way and how we tap into our unique self everyday within our business. You connect with Ash here - @citrineandsol_ Get in Touch... Website...
10. Express NOT Suppress, being uniquely YOU in business : An Interview with Ashleigh Smart.
March 25, 2021 01:00 - 49 minutes - 45.4 MBToday I have Ashleigh Smart joining me on the podcast. Ashleigh is a personal branding & marketing coach, empowering women to stand in their truth, share their unique message & become magnetic through building their personal brand to attract dream clients. We share our experience of growing through our business, what we learned only the way and how we tap into our unique self everyday within our business. You connect with Ash here - @citrineandsol_ Get in Touch... Website -...
Courage To Be... : Motivational Magic
March 23, 2021 02:00 - 3 minutes - 3.73 MBCourage. Courage to take action, courage to be brave, to be bold, to be beautifully you, exactly how you are in the here and now. Courage. The ability to do something that frightens one, bravery. To have the courage to say yes to those scary things, and do it anyway. To be able to stand in the face of worry, maybe a little scared and to say, You know what... Life is too short to play small. And I today have the courage. I have the courage to ...
9. Courage To Be... : Motivational Magic
March 23, 2021 01:00 - 3 minutes - 3.73 MBCourage. Courage to take action, courage to be brave, to be bold, to be beautifully you, exactly how you are in the here and now. Courage. The ability to do something that frightens one, bravery. To have the courage to say yes to those scary things, and do it anyway. To be able to stand in the face of worry, maybe a little scared and to say, You know what... Life is too short to play small. And I today have the courage. I have the courage to ta...
Are Your Habits Holding You Back - Part Two What To Do Next.
March 18, 2021 02:00 - 19 minutes - 18 MBYou've journaled, you've tracked your habits, and decided which ones no longer serve you... So, what do we do next? Let's dive into my 7 steps to start to embrace your Higher Self Habits. 1. Start with Small Adjustments 2. Self-discipline - Once you make the Decision, Commit to it 3. Identify All Your Triggers 4. Celebrate the small wins 5. Build it into your routine - Habit Stack 6. Give yourself grace 7. Focus on one at a time Apps/Books Mentioned in the Po...
8. Are Your Habits Holding You Back - Part Two What To Do Next.
March 18, 2021 01:00 - 19 minutes - 18 MBYou've journaled, you've tracked your habits, and decided which ones no longer serve you... So, what do we do next? Let's dive into my 7 steps to start to embrace your Higher Self Habits. 1. Start with Small Adjustments 2. Self-discipline - Once you make the Decision, Commit to it 3. Identify All Your Triggers 4. Celebrate the small wins 5. Build it into your routine - Habit Stack 6. Give yourself grace 7. Focus on one at a time Apps/Books Mentioned in the Podc...
Your True North : Motivational Magic
March 16, 2021 02:00 - 3 minutes - 3.41 MBLie with me for a moment, and look up to the stars, twinkling in the sky, showing us where to go. With every star that shines, you see you, shining like the star that you are, the person that you are becoming. And every time you look up to that night sky, you know that you are following your North Star. Things might come across your path that starts to guide you away from that star. But you know, and you feel when that's happening, don't you. So every time you...
7. Your True North : Motivational Magic
March 16, 2021 01:00 - 3 minutes - 3.41 MBLie with me for a moment, and look up to the stars, twinkling in the sky, showing us where to go. With every star that shines, you see you, shining like the star that you are, the person that you are becoming. And every time you look up to that night sky, you know that you are following your North Star. Things might come across your path that starts to guide you away from that star. But you know, and you feel when that's happening, don't you. So every time you c...
Are your habits holding you back?
March 11, 2021 04:54 - 16 minutes - 17.4 MBAre your habits holding you back? We live our life through habits. Everyday moving through subconscious motions that allow you to go from activity to activity without necessarily thinking about them. A habit is a routine of behaviour that is repeated regularly and tends to occur on a subconscious level. Now some of our habits are good, healthy habits that keep and hold you accountable to achieving great things in your life, however some habits that you are subconsciously doing at the mo...
6. Are your habits holding you back?
March 11, 2021 03:54 - 16 minutes - 17.4 MBAre your habits holding you back? We live our life through habits. Everyday moving through subconscious motions that allow you to go from activity to activity without necessarily thinking about them. A habit is a routine of behaviour that is repeated regularly and tends to occur on a subconscious level. Now some of our habits are good, healthy habits that keep and hold you accountable to achieving great things in your life, however some habits that you are subconsciously doing at the mome...
Everyday you have the CHOICE! : Motivational Magic
March 09, 2021 03:38 - 3 minutes - 5.86 MBCHOICE. Let's talk about choice. Because every single day, you wake up with choice, choice of how you feel, choice of the thoughts, choice of how you act and behave. A choice. Every single day, in every single way, you have the choice. The choice to feel something better, the choice to be bigger, the choice to be braver, the choice to be bolder, the choice to be stronger, and every single day, it's up to you. It really is up to you. You, you get to choose, you get to change tho...
5. Everyday you have the CHOICE! : Motivational Magic
March 09, 2021 02:38 - 3 minutes - 5.86 MBCHOICE. Let's talk about choice. Because every single day, you wake up with choice, choice of how you feel, choice of the thoughts, choice of how you act and behave. A choice. Every single day, in every single way, you have the choice. The choice to feel something better, the choice to be bigger, the choice to be braver, the choice to be bolder, the choice to be stronger, and every single day, it's up to you. It really is up to you. You, you get to choose, you get to change those...
The Path of Least Resistance
March 04, 2021 03:55 - 23 minutes - 24 MBIf it's clear you cannot achieve your goals, don't change your goals, change your actions. 1. Our view point is limited depending on what state we are in. 2. The 2mm rule - the smallest changes can yield the greatest results. (Video - https://youtu.be/r9x6kvcBLK8) 3. The quality of your life depends on the quality of your questions. 4. We can’t see beyond our conditioned beliefs. What beliefs are going to take me to the next level 5. Reduce or eliminate the addiction to approv...