Untangle & Thrive Podcast

Covid-19

What is your relationship with the virus COVID-19?   In this episode, I am going to discuss threat responses with our Covid-19 relationship.   All our bodies have a relationship with Covid-19.  For some people, it sparks outrage, others terror.     Whatever the case, it is critical to see how your relationship is impacting your life and organizing either resourceful or unhelpful behaviors.   Many of my clients have trauma bonded with Covid-19. As things start to reopen, the chaos of fear...

Untangle Whiteness

Whiteness is like an addiction: cunning, powerful, baffling.   Many of us are waking up from a Whiteness morphine drip.  It is confusing, disorientating, and liberating.   I am working with the work Whiteness to help people locate their unconscious relationship with it. When you think about it, none of our problems are technically difficult to explain.  Their difficulty resides in they are disconnected or in unconsciousness conflict.   In coherency, our creative powers are boundless.   ...

Denial & Harmonics

In this episode, we are going to look at how denial keeps a system in place.   I am going to talk about White Fragility and how we can hide behind the "good person", the "non-racist", the "one who has no problems" and YET we are in total denial.   I am gonna talk about how denial serves to keep us in a system that offers us an advantage.  It also doesn't ask anything from us.   People, let's puncture denial.  Let's greet reality even though it is messy, uncomfortable, and often s...

Untangle Denial & Create Harmonics

In this episode, we are going to look at how denial keeps a system in place.   I am going to talk about White Fragility and how we can hide behind the "good person", the "non-racist", the "one who has no problems" and YET we are in total denial.   I am gonna talk about how denial serves to keep us in a system that offers us an advantage.  It also doesn't ask anything from us.   People, let's puncture denial.  Let's greet reality even though it is messy, uncomfortable, and often shame-base...

Southern Racism

Let's talk about Southern Racism.   In this episode, I am sharing my Southern shame and the struggles of racism I had to confront within my family.   Let's talk about people who enable old systems fo racism to stay in motion. Let's get uncomfortable and look are our own voiceless enabling.   Let's confront all the times we let racial slurs pass and said nothing, did nothing.   Let's come together behind the silence of shame and rattle awakening. Let's form new voices that match our hum...

Coupleship Shame

In this episode, we are diving into couple's shame and what to do about it.     Many times we stay stuck in the shame, not sure how to mobilize into a harmonious union again.     Things need to get addressed, issues need to be voiced in a healthy way, and space needed to help to discover each other again.     This episode is not only for the ladies, so gentlemen come to this space to gather some ideas of what you can do to move forward.     I must say, coaching couples is by far the ...

Shark Waters

In this episode, I am going to teach you how to UNTANGLE a trigger.   Whether it is flight anxiety, asking for a raise, asserting your needs, whatever!   We need to get out of the Shark Water of emotional triggers.   We need to find new land to support our life more optimally.   Grab a piece of paper and pen to work the 3 Steps as a Triangle Formation.   Many people need the 3 Untangle Steps to be broken apart to better engage.  This Triangle Exercise has helped many!   Stay with me, t...

Freeze

How do we unlock ourselves from shutting down or thaw a freeze?     Many of us, struggle to stay connected.  We trained ourselves early in life to shut down or freeze to survive overwhelming sensations.     But that doesn't mean we need to build a life around a shut-down state!   We can learn skills to emerge out of a freeze and reclaim our lives.     It all starts with the body.     Join me as I walk you through my process to unwind from a freeze.  

mothering

Let's talk about Mother's Day and the need for mothering.   Why do we become unavailable for mothering?   What is the difference between fixing ourselves and healthy mothering?   How do we cultivate healthy internal mothering to crawl us into new experiences? 

Imagination

Imagination is the ability to engage with present reality and form a mental image of something that is not perceived through the five senses.   Our imagination can hijack us in unhelpful ways or we can learn skills to master resourceful imagination.   Everyone possesses a certain degree of imagination ability.   Imagination makes it possible to experience a whole world inside the mind.  It gives the ability to look at any situation from a different point of view and to mentally explore t...

Medicine

In this episode, we will explore our relationship to medicine.   What is your medicine?   Some of us try to find medicine in booze, pills, donuts, or shopping. This medicine is trying to buffer isolation, pain, confusion, disconnection.  Often, we try to control or dominate these behaviors because part of us is terrified to let them go.  Instead of managing the wars of self-hate and disconnection, we want to create space to explore our unconscious relationship with our medicine or with l...

The Space of Transformation

In this episode, you will learn: How our response to a crisis or a difficult challenge is EVERYTHING.  How to gather clarity with our unconscious and why we need to understand it.  Why we need to wrap our arms around the Space of In-Between  to transform our lives.   Instead of fighting with reality, we need to organize it differently to access a deeper organizing intelligence.  As we do, we create the conditions to thrive, no matter our external circumstances.   To learn more about ou...

Celebrate Freedom

Purposeful freedom requires responsibility and commitment.  It requires we work differently to access clarity, energy, vision.  Without vision, we don't know what to do in the world.    We become stuck in the weeds of surviving everyday stresses, out of flow with life.  H ow we arrive to our committed vision is unique to each one of us.   In this episode, I am exploring this conversation from a spiritual and religious lens.  It is Passover. I want to draw forward elements of this holid...

Harmonize Your Time

In this episode, we reconnect our body's intelligence with time.  Time is not a heavy, complicated relationship. It is always there, always waiting for our undivided attention.   Many of us need to remember a time before the trauma of life and fear overtook our experiences.  Let's reconnect to the wonders of our body, of nature, of life.  Let's create time to support a harmonize life of connection.  Check out our Untangle Live Workshops:  www.untangleandthrive.com

Creativity Amid Chaos

In this episode, we will explore how poetry and creative expression helps us connect in ways the mind cannot.   Why we all need stabilizing floors to access creativity How poetry, dance, painting help us access aliveness, present reality, and connectedness How we need to build skills to be with ALL of our feeling, the chaotic and terrifying as well as the profound and beautiful Join us every Saturday for an Untangle Workshop, sign up here:  www.untangleandthrive.com   

Stay Sane in Lockdown

You will learn:  How to  locate creative ways to organize inside of a stressful time.  How to become more robust as we confront challenges in new ways.   How to work with your time, physical, emotional, and mental health actively    How to look toward nature, expand connectedness, and access stillness to stay sane, restore balance, and elevate our self-care.  During this global crisis, I am offering free Saturday Untangle Workshops.   Please visit:  www.untangleandthrive.com to sign up...

Handling Crisis

II have been helping people convert crisis states into thriving states for over 20 years: financial crisis, addiction, divorce, loss, etc.  In this episode, we will learn why we need to regulate our response to systematic collapses in order to thrive in the face of difficulty. The stock market collapse, the global shutdown, and our individual response will either drive more disorganization or create an environment of awakening.   Let's come together to strengthen connectedness, love, and ...

The Commitment Rule

What you will discover:   What is the 100 percent commitment rule  How commitment terrified me for so long and what I had to do to untangle it.   How we waste so much time, energy living in the ambivalence of a 99 percent or 50 percent commitment. Ambivalence consumes our energy without producing results.  In this episode, I want to help you locate your commitment block, untangle it, and jump into new water, paving the way for meaningful results.  For information regarding our Untangle...

The Virus of Panic

What we will discover:  Our response to pain either creates more panic or neutralizes safety.  We are exploring the cycles of panic with the stock market, coronavirus, and global systems and how people, as well as the stock market, organize intelligence and data to establish a bottom.   What a bottom in the stock market looks like, and how it parallels  to our bottoms.   In a time of uncertainty, we tend to either overreach into aggressive responses or disconnect by putting our heads in ...

Politics, Trauma, & Swing

What you will discover: How unresolved trauma is recreated through family systems, which bleeds into organizational and political systems. When we are threatened by another party or person, we struggle to locate the reality, cultivate present awareness, and create strong leadership. When all our energy is going towards fighting unseen wars, we unconsciously create more massive battles. The brain science of the Swing Voter and why we ALL need to become a Swing Voter for optimal brain heal...

Money Shame

In this episode, you will discover: The Origins of our Money Story How much energy you waste by managing a broken money story How to locate your money story, understand their dynamics to change it Why connecting with your desires for money can create murkiness and confusion

Untangle Worry

We all worry in some ways. Many of us have big worries, others of us have smaller worries. Many of us work to get rid of worry by over drinking, overeating, please pleasing, or avoiding. This only keeps the cycle of worry in play. On the other side of worry is some really important information that you are going to want to access if your are planning to create the life you really want. Instead of managing worry, we need skills to locate how worry is servicing us. Worry is an emotion that...

Triggers & Kobe Bryant Air Balls

In this episode, we're diving deep into triggers. W Why we avoid, deny, and fight our triggers and what we can do about it.  We'll talk about lessons from Kobe Bryant's air balls in 1997.  Kobe's response to this humiliating, embarrassing trigger allowed him to locate the weak spot to transform into success.  Often, we avoid our triggers because they are confusing, overwhelming, and uncomfortable. This has many of us pull away, isolate, or pick up the energy-draining fights.  In this ep...

Part 3: The Creative Self

What You Will Discover: This is the 3rd Part of the Series. When you are stuck in the past, you are locked away from your Creative Self System. You are surviving sensations versus learning to belong to new sensations. The Creative Self is the Part of us that can capture our freedom, the freedom to move, belong, and commit. This Part of us integrates wholeness and peace. This Part of us cultivates wellness by accessing the energy of joy, love, and harmony. , clears space from the Tangle...

Part Two: The Organizer Self

What You Will Discover:  The Organizer Self is the part of us that WAKES up to present reality, clears space from the Tangled Self system to locate attunement, and restore trust.  A creative technique to dissolve your mismatched message, unwind from it, and learn yourself into a message that harmonizes your purposeful life.    I will teach you tips on how to strengthen your Organizer Self by untangling a stressed, disorganized relationship in your life.    To Learn About Our Life Skills...

Part One: The Tangled Self

Stop the Self-Hate. Restore Your Dignity

To Learn About Our Life Skills Program visit: www.untangleandthrive.com/program   WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER How Punitive Self Talk creates trauma bonds. What is a trauma bond? How we become stuck in the mindset of “What the Hell is Wrong with Me Mindset?” We don’t build a life managing the symptoms of a disorganized system.  The system producing our current life will NOT be the system to transform our lives.  I will give you an example of how I unconsciously left behind my body over chil...

The First

What you will discover The basic premise of the "Untangle Method" and how it reflects the workings of the body and brain. How our limited capacities with connection leads us into disorganization. The system organizing our horrible results will not be the system which transforms them. Reorganizing system capacity versus changing our thoughts creates transforming results. How to locate and get safe with trying things and having your first experience. A quick meditation to receive pleasur...