True Identity
82 episodes - English - Latest episode: about 1 month ago - ★★★★★ - 13 ratingsNikki Houseman is a relationship and dating coach, certified athletic trainer, published author, and Jesus follower who helps you thrive in your relationships, dating, and to find your true identity. But she won't be doing this alone! Along with solo shows, Nikki interviews people in these various areas to have them share their journey and expertise with you.
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Making a List About Your Future Partner
June 11, 2024 01:00 - 12 minutes - 11.3 MBDo you know what you are looking for in a partner? Do you know the characteristics and traits they would have? If you answered no to these questions, it may be time to sit down and write out a list of what you are looking for in a future partner. I'm not talking about physical traits. I'm talking about if they love Jesus, are loyal, outgoing, fun to be around, have a sense of humor, have integrity. Someone suggested I write out a list of what I was looking for in a future husband. I sear...
Changing Your Mindset Around Online Dating
May 28, 2024 00:30 - 12 minutes - 11.6 MBThere was a point in time when I was set on meeting my future husband “organically.” I had this dream that I would meet him through friends, mutual friends, or doing something I love. I didn't want my story to be "we met online." With diving into my relationship with Jesus, working on myself, and truly wanting to be with a quality guy, I started to change my mindset around online dating. My mantra became it doesn't matter how I meet my husband, it's who he is. With this shift I was able ...
You Don't Need to Change Who You Are to be Dateable
May 14, 2024 01:35 - 19 minutes - 18.1 MBMaybe you think the reason you are not dating the people you want or aren't dating at all is because of who you are. Maybe you feel you need to change aspects of who you are in order for people to want to date you. I'm here to tell you this is not true! If you feel this way, maybe it's because you are lacking self confidence. In this episode I share pratical tips for you to boost your self confidence and start attracting the people you want/should date! I have created a document for you to...
What is Dating Coaching?
April 09, 2024 15:39 - 13 minutes - 18.7 MBYou may be wondering, what is dating coaching? I want to share what dating coaching is and what it looks like to have a coach. Stay tuned until the end of the episode where I will share 2 health tips with you! You may be unsure what life coaching is and certainly what it means to have a dating coach. In this episode, I hope to answer some of those questions and give you a glimpse as to what it may look like to have a dating coach / working with someone like me. I share health tips with yo...
The Hardest Part About Being Single
March 19, 2024 05:00 - 16 minutes - 22.1 MBWhat is the hardest part about being single? This is a question I’ve been reflecting on recently. It has brought up some hard moments for me and I share these with you. This is a vulnerable question and I give you an honest answer. I had moments of crying myself to sleep because I was so sad and disappointed. I decided I needed Jesus in those moments. I also chose to dwell on what I did have not what I didn’t have. I share what those are with you. If you haven’t already, listen to the e...
15 Green Flags in a Relationship
March 07, 2024 02:33 - 21 minutes - 29.1 MBGreen flags, much like a green light, are the go ahead. They are good signs things are going in the correct direction in your relationship. Green flags are what you want in a partner and things to look for when you are dating. 1. Self Confidence 2. Respectful 3. Integrity 4. Relationship with God 5. Own hobbies 6. Solid group of friends 7. Driven and Hardworking 8. Asks good questions 9. Healthy Boundaries 10. Emotionally Mature 11. Intentional and Takes Initiative 12. Knows how ...
15 Red Flags to be Aware of in a Relationship
February 07, 2024 05:30 - 24 minutes - 34.1 MBToday we are going to discuss red flags, what they are and how to determine if there is a red flag in your relationship. If you are not in a relationship, these are good to keep in mind when you do enter into a relationship or start dating. Red Flags are a warning sign. They may not be deal breakers, but definitely a discussion would need to be had. There are some red flags that would be deal breakers. Today I am going to share 15 red flags with you. I have created a document with these red...
The Foundations of Marriage and How to Prepare for Marriage
January 23, 2024 16:58 - 21 minutes - 30.2 MBIn this episode, I discuss the foundations of marriage according to a book I've been reading. It's call "Happy Wives Club" by Fawn Weaver. If you are a wife and haven't read this book, I encourage you to do so. She visits 12 countries, 6 continents, with 1 mission, to find the secret of marriage. She interviews a number of married couples and they all say the same secret! I dive into what the Bible says the role of a husband and wife are. I mention Ephesians 5:22, 25 saying wives submit to...
Do Not Settle On a Partner
January 09, 2024 14:00 - 16 minutes - 22.1 MBYou may be thinking, will I ever meet someone worthwhile? Will it ever be my turn? Will dating lead me to meeting someone I want to spend the rest of my life with? The answer is YES! DO NOT SETTLE! I had a coworker tell me I needed to compromise what I was looking for in a partner. I’m so glad I didn’t listen to her. You do not need to compromise or settle. I know it can be hard. I had moments I would meet someone and think, I guess I could date this person, yet they didn’t have some key tr...
How I Prepared to be a Wife While Single
December 19, 2023 14:00 - 17 minutes - 23.4 MBDon't waste away the season you are in looking forward to the next one. Once I came to the realization that I could accomplish many goals I had and work on becoming the best version of myself, the more fulfilled, and purposeful I felt in my singleness. I had a deep desire to be married, so I decided to use the time of singleness to prepare myself to be the best wife I could be one day. I've now been married for 10 months, and my husband and I are happy and have a healthy relationship. In th...
Interview with Kristy Alexander Garvanne: Her Beauty Business, the Joys of Singleness, God's Timing
December 06, 2023 20:37 - 40 minutes - 56.2 MBI chat with my friend Kristy about entrepreneurship, her business, singleness, and meeting our husbands later in life. In this episode she shares about how and why she started her business. She had a dream at 15 years old of having a skin care line one day, and many years later her dream became a reality. This episode is filled with lots of wise nuggets and encouragement for those of you who are single and how to prepare. Some things we shared God doesn't give us desires to be cruel Ma...
Number One Thing to Ensure You Are In a Healthy Relationship
November 21, 2023 14:05 - 12 minutes - 11.5 MBThe number one thing to ensure you are in a healthy relationship… Do you know what it is???
Marriage Does Not Complete You.
November 07, 2023 14:00 - 12 minutes - 11.6 MBMarriage does not complete you. It does not solve your problems. It does not fix things that need fixing. Single friend, I see you. You are enough. You are not forgotten. You are important. You are in a VERY important season you will never get back! Don't take it for granted. Don't wish it away for the next thing. Now is the time to do the things you've been wanting to do. You have no distractions, you don't have another person you need to split your time with. Now is the time to dive deep...
Interview with Sylvia Crawley Spann: Former WNBA Athlete, Global Coach, Influencer, and Entreprenuer
October 24, 2023 13:00 - 1 hour - 77 MBIf you don't know Sylvia, you will want to listen and learn all she is up to! She and I met going on a mission trip with Athletes in Action. We went to Barcelona, Spain with a group of D1 collegiate women basketball players. She was their coach and I went as the Athletic Trainer and one of the leaders. It was an incredible trip and we learned so much about ourselves and God! It's time for a reunion! Sylvia has a wellness collection, co-owner of Monarch Magazine, she played in the WNBA, and ...
Interview with Addy Stroller: College Athlete Now Business Owner, Our Trip to Spain, Dating Coaching
October 10, 2023 13:00 - 31 minutes - 43.2 MBAddy and I talk about all things in this interview. We share about how we met going on a unique mission trip to Barcelona, Spain. How she is now a business owner of Add to Life, an online platform for fitness coaching, after being a D1 Collegiate Athlete. She asks me about my business and what I have to offer, and we talk about the book that I published. It's neat we can support and promote each other's businesses. This is how it should be! I am so proud of her and all she has accomplished...
Interview with Jess Dahl: Single, Dating, Dreams to Reality Mastermind
September 26, 2023 13:00 - 55 minutes - 75.7 MBJess and I talk about singleness, dating, and how she helped me through the mastermind to become clearer on my business plan. I thought I was going to work with a different demographic, but through her guidance, I realized I wanted to work with singles to help them thrive and prepare for a relationship. You are in for a treat! I am now offering one on one coaching! Click here to learn more! nikkihouseman.com/coaching If you want to start your own business or nonprofit, Jess is opening up ...
The Gift of Friendship
September 12, 2023 13:00 - 12 minutes - 16.7 MBSurround yourself with people who love, support, challenge, and encourage you. Who will have your back. Pick you up when you fall down. Laugh with you, cry with you. Be excited for you! A safe place to be yourself, to be unashamed. I recently got together with my friends from college and it made me realize what a blessing it is to have a solid group of friends to do life with. It is a breath of fresh air when you get to be around those people that you feel so comfortable you don't have to...
Let's Talk Boundaries
August 29, 2023 04:17 - 16 minutes - 23.3 MBBoundaries can be a hard topic to discuss in a relationship, but necessary. It’s important to establish boundaries before you are in a relationship. Decide for yourself what your boundaries are and that will make it easier to have a conversation with the person you are dating. Let's talk about 1. Sexual Boundaries 2. Physical Boundaries 3. Belief Boundaries 4. Time Boundaries I am now offering ONE ON ONE COACHING!! Learn more on my website nikkihouseman.com/coaching A FREE guide just...
My Dating Story
August 15, 2023 13:00 - 21 minutes - 29.4 MBI started praying for my husband over 10 years ago. I had a very prominent experience in 2013 that I chose to take as I sign I would one day be married. However, I didn't know how long it would take. In this episode, I share what that experience was and my journey of discouragement and frustration that was turned into restoration and hope. God is good and He has the perfect timing! I became a relationship and dating coach after all I have been through. I myself had a relationship and datin...
I Feel Convicted to Tell You
March 30, 2023 16:26 - 17 minutes - 23.7 MBThree year ago I wrote a book and I feel convicted to talk about the subject of my book, the Holy Spirit. This is a part of the trinity not many churches talk about or they are unsure of, afraid of. I'm here to tell you miracles, healing, spiritual gifts like speaking in tongues all still happen today! Do you have faith to see it? This is definitely more common in other countries most likely because they are open to it and have faith. Here in America the spiritual realm is seen as strange an...
What Defines Identity?
May 31, 2022 15:00 - 13 minutes - 18.7 MBI spoke with 40 students at a FCA (Fellowship of Christian Athletes) meeting a few weeks ago. In this episode, I share with you what I shared with them, because I feel it is relevant to all of us. I asked them, what is identity and where does your identity lie? We can get so caught up in the things of this world and they can become who we believe we are. What happens if that very thing you pride yourself in, whether it’s your career, sport, activity, is gone in an instant? Anything can happe...
Give Up Your Timeline
April 15, 2022 15:00 - 10 minutes - 14.2 MBDo you have a plan for your life, but your plans never seem to work out the way you hope they would? This couldn't be more true for me. I have made plan after plan, and they don't seem to go as I had hoped. I planned to be married by the time I was 26 and have kids before 30. Guess what? I'm 33 and still not married and no kids! What do you do when this happens? In my time of waiting and uncertainty, I've turned to God and focused on my relationship with him. I've come to realize that I need...
What to Do When you Feel Defeated or Burnt Out
March 29, 2022 18:18 - 14 minutes - 13.6 MBThis is a raw episode addressing the pain, suffering, and loss people are experiencing right now. Maybe you are feeling burnt out, defeated by the world around you. Where are you finding your hope? What are you doing to get yourself through it? Do you have a trusted friend to talk to? Do you spend quiet time journaling and sitting at the feet of Jesus? This episode offers hope and a place for you to come and find support. As a life coach, I help people through making difficult decisions. I g...
What is an Athletic Trainer?
February 21, 2022 23:50 - 17 minutes - 24.2 MBMany people confuse athletic trainers with personal trainers. I know they sound similar, but they have many differences. I'm here to clear that up for you! If you've been curious about the sports medicine world, this episode will give you a better understanding of what we do as athletic trainers. I share stories about working with athletes and how I got into the world of AT. I also give a life update and it involves athletic training. Here is the link to the episode about my crazy injury s...
What's Really in the Food We Eat?
February 11, 2022 16:17 - 7 minutes - 9.89 MBWhy is it important to read the labels of the foods, beverages, and even the products we use on our bodies and around the house? Because the front of a product can be deceiving and we don't know what's actually in the product until we read the ingredients. We live in a toxic world and we need to be aware and mindful of the things we are putting in our bodies. This will help us to live a happy, healthier life! I give tips on what to look for and make it simple when something like this can see...
The Importance of Reading Food Labels
February 11, 2022 16:17 - 7 minutes - 9.89 MBWhy is it important to read the labels of the foods, beverages, and even the products we use on our bodies and around the house? Because the front of a product can be deceiving and we don't know what's actually in the product until we read the ingredients. We live in a toxic world and we need to be aware and mindful of the things we are putting in our bodies. This will help us to live a happy, healthier life! I give tips on what to look for and make it simple when something like this can see...
Why Workout Barefoot?
February 02, 2022 17:00 - 9 minutes - 12.6 MBI started working out barefoot while doing my at home workouts. It not only was different and added a twist to my workouts, but I realized the many benefits that come with it. In this episode I share 3 benefits with you and if you listen to the end you will get a BONUS benefit. Give it a try and when you do, let me know how it goes! You can DM me at instagram.com/nikkiromani or send me an email [email protected] I have a videos series of foam rolling and stretching techniques for you ...
What is a Life Coach and How Do I Know if I Need One?
January 26, 2022 15:00 - 15 minutes - 21 MBA Life coach is like a guide. Someone to help clarify your goals, identify what may be holding you back from those goals, and create strategies to overcome obstacles along the way. I discuss how to know WHEN and IF you need a coach. I share my personal experience of how I decided to get into life coaching and who I wanted to help after being in an accident and having the life I knew at the time stripped from me. Here is a link of the detailed story of my accident with pictures http://nikkiro...
How to Know When it's Time to Leave
January 19, 2022 14:00 - 7 minutes - 9.73 MBAre you in a current situation that makes you unhappy whether it's a job, a living situation, a relationship? I share with you 4 questions to ask yourself to figure out if it's time to leave or stick it out. I also guide you in how to figure out what's next. What lights you up? What are you passionate about? Click here to subscribe to my podcast. Have you read my book yet? nikkiromani.com/book book is also available on audible nikkiromani.com/audible
I Ain't Single No More
January 06, 2021 12:00 - 13 minutes - 19 MBSingleness and dating have been quite the journey for me. My first and last boyfriend was in high school (we were on and off throughout college), and I dated 2 guys from then until now. So yeah, I know what it means to be single. Two years ago, I got a matchmaker (what's a matchmaker you ask? Find out here.) and have been on and off of dating apps. NOTHING. Honestly, nothing happened. My matchmaker couldn't find me a date and I was getting discouraged and wondering if this would ever happ...
CHAPTER TWO: The Fear of Rejection
January 01, 2021 23:02 - 11 minutes - 15.5 MBIn the beginning of 2020, I published a book! It's not only available in paperback on Amazon, but also in audio form on Audible. In this episode, I share chapter two straight from my audiobook recording. If you missed chapter one you can click here to go to that episode. I would encourage you to listen to it first. I hope you enjoy and listen to the book in it's entirety by going to nikkiromani.com/audible.
My Mom Interviews Me about My Book
October 05, 2020 16:16 - 42 minutes - 58.9 MBBack in March, when my mom and I were on a girls ski trip that turned into a mountain get away because the ski resort was closed due to the beginning of COVID... we decided it would be fun to do an interview. This was around the same time my book was about to be published, so we thought it would be fitting if she interviewed me about my book. I share the process of writing the book, how I felt God calling me to this assignment. I share background about some of the stories I wrote in the b...
Chapter One: A God You've Never Met
April 22, 2020 18:55 - 8 minutes - 11.5 MBI'm sharing a sneak peek of the book I wrote. It's available now in paperback form on Amazon. nikkiromani.com/book It will be available in audiobook on Audible, however, it's not available yet. I thought it would be fun to share chapters here with you. Today I am sharing Chapter 1. I've been receiving encouraging feedback from those who have read it already, which makes all the time, tears, discomfort, and excitement worth it! I hope you will join them. nikkiromani.com/book
MY BOOK RELEASE MARCH 20th
March 18, 2020 10:30 - 7 minutes - 10.1 MBTHIS IS THE WEEK! This Friday, March 20th, my book that I've been working on for almost 3 YEARS, will be available to the world!! I have ALL THE FEELS, honestly, I'm feeling so many emotions. In this episode, I share with you what I'm feeling- like being on a rollercoaster. I also share how I got to where I am today being a PUBLISHED AUTHOR. If there's something you have been talking about doing, DO IT! I dare you. Go to Amazon to purchase my book A God You've Never Met: Who is the Holy...
Introduction from my Audiobook
March 04, 2020 11:30 - 6 minutes - 9.62 MBYou are some of the first to listen to this! Last weekend, I went to my mom's recording studio to record my audiobook! It's a rendition of my paperback. I wanted to give people an option to be able to listen to my book. As my podcast family, I want to share this with you. In this episode you will get to hear what my audiobook will sound like. Recording an audiobook is no easy task. I'm learning that first hand. It's a process and my mom and I are still in the editing stages. But it will be...
About My Book
February 12, 2020 11:30 - 11 minutes - 15.2 MBWhen I tell people I am writing a book, I'm asked two questions: What is your book called? What is your book about? In this episode, I answer these questions. I share the story behind writing the book in the first place. It was never a goal or dream of mine to write a book. Never saw never. God gave me this opportunity and I refused at first. He was gracious enough to give me second and third chances but after 2 months of refusing, he gave me an ultimatum that I couldn't refuse anymore. ...
What Having a Matchmaker Has Taught Me
February 06, 2020 03:40 - 10 minutes - 14.9 MBI have a matchmaker. You know, like the movie "Hitch"? Yeah, that's my life. And I have my dad to thank. Thank you Dad! I share how this all came about and how he got involved. You will be entertained I'll tell you that much. I still laugh about it. It's been a year and I've learned many valuable lessons that I want to share with you. There have been many laughs, but also disappointment. Spoiler alert... I haven't been on a single date. Yep, that's right. It's been a year and nothing. This...
Reflections from the Whole Leader Retreat
January 29, 2020 18:29 - 14 minutes - 20.1 MBOn the previous episode, I interviewed my friend Jessica Dahl who is the founder of Your Whole Purpose. She put on the Whole Leader Retreat, which I had the pleasure of attending here in Southern CA. Takeaways: Surrounded by like-minded women wanting to change the world! New friends to collaborate with Beautiful peaceful place Healthy food Yoga Workshops Identity How to find rest and rejuvenate Letting go of the past, focusing on the present, speaking vision into our futu...
Lead Your Whole Life with Jessica Dahl
December 18, 2019 11:30 - 31 minutes - 43.6 MBThis is an interview with holistic wellness and life coach Jessica Dahl. She shares how she got into this space (she never set out to do so...). She shares all that she is doing now from one on one coaching, wellness coaching, leader retreats, author of a book, and so much more! No wonder she and I are friends. Jess is leading an upcoming retreat in Southern California in the wine country of Temecula January 2020. What a great way to start the new year! I'll be there and she has a couple ...
Why You Need a Mentor
December 12, 2019 05:03 - 11 minutes - 15.6 MBWhy is it important to have someone speak into your life? Why is it important to have someone to bounce ideas off of? They will push you to be better. They can be a sounding board. They can help you make decisions by talking it through. Hopefully they are wiser than you and can offer their insight on the matter. What to look for in a mentor? Do you share similar beliefs? Do you like the outcome of their life thus far? Do you like their character? Are they a step or more ahead o...
What is Your Identity?
November 20, 2019 11:30 - 11 minutes - 16.4 MBDo you realize the thing you put your identity in, if it’s a worldly thing, can be taken away at any moment? If or rather when it does, who are you? Identity is the qualities, beliefs, personality, looks and/or expressions that make a person; self-image. who you are, the way you think about yourself, the way you are viewed by the world and the characteristics that define you. Ask yourself these questions: How do I view myself? How am I perceived by the world? What are my character...
We Need to be Awakened
November 07, 2019 01:30 - 10 minutes - 14.7 MBThere's one word I've been hearing over and over. It has been sticking out to me. I've heard it in songs, people have said it, the name of my church is this... AWAKEN Hillsong recently released an album and the song "Awake my Soul" has been playing on repeat in my home. My church is called Awakening International. I watched a documentary movie on Youtube called "Sheep Among Wolves Vol. 2" and they talk about the awakening of the people of Iran starting an underground church and it's rapi...
How Resting Helped Me PR
October 02, 2019 10:30 - 10 minutes - 14.9 MBLast week I talked about burnout. The feeling as though life is passing you by too quickly and you can't keep up! If you feel tried and exhausted, you may be experiencing burnout. Listen to that episode by clicking here. This week I share with you how resting actually helped me beat some personal records in weight lifting and helped me to feel strong while riding 60 miles on a road bike. I took some time off, slept more, listened to when my body needed to stretch or go for a walk instea...
How to Overcome Burnout
September 18, 2019 10:30 - 20 minutes - 27.9 MBAre you tired? Are you feeling run down? Are you feeling as though life is moving so fast you can't keep up? You may be experiencing something called BURNOUT. If you feel yourself shutting down, unable to get stuff done, or loosing motivation, your body is trying to tell you something. I know how this feels from personal experience. I share with you 7 ways to overcome burnout whether it's in life or in regards to the sport you play if you are an athlete. Life throws so much at us, b...
Home from Barcelona
August 28, 2019 10:30 - 19 minutes - 26.5 MBI recently returned home (less than a week ago!) from an unforgettable experience all because I sent a cold email 2 months ago. I put myself out there and told whoever was at the other end of the email who I was- a life coach and athletic trainer passionate about helping others find their identity in Jesus. Within 24 hours I received a reply asking me if I could get on a phone call as soon as possible. This was the beginning of an answer to my prayer I didn't know I needed. This wonderful...
Surround Yourself with People Who Make You Better
August 14, 2019 10:30 - 8 minutes - 11.6 MBYou are like the 5 people you surround yourself with. Who are you surrounded by? Are they challenging you and pushing you to become the best version of yourself? Do they inspire you to be better? I was talking with a friend of mine about this and she is one that inspires me to be better. I also have been seeking out mentors who challenge me and offer me advice both for my spiritual, physical, and mental growth. What about you? Who is in your life that inspires you? Who is someone that co...
Teamwork Makes the Dream Work
August 07, 2019 10:30 - 9 minutes - 12.5 MBAre you a part of a team? Whether you are an athlete on a sports team or an employee a part of a work team, working together does create the dream. I've been playing volleyball since I was 12. I was on a volleyball team from ages 12-21. I played volleyball in jr. high through college. After graduating it was hard not having that team dynamic, but then I realized I'm a part of a team in many aspects of my life. I'm on a team at work, when I go on mission trips, and even when I compete with ...
Preventing Muscle Cramps
July 31, 2019 10:30 - 9 minutes - 12.5 MBWhat do you do when you have muscle cramps? Do you lay there in agony and pain? How would you prevent muscle cramps? As an athletic trainer, I see many athletes get muscle cramps. Did you know this can be avoided? IT CAN by staying hydrated! How much water are you drinking? Do you know how much you should be drinking? I give other helpful tips on how to stay hydrated, but also what to do if you are experiencing muscle cramps. I'll give you a hint... it has to do with sodium. In this e...
Writing a Book Part 2
July 17, 2019 10:30 - 9 minutes - 13.7 MBI am writing a book. It’s been 2 years in the making and I’m coming close to the publishing end. It seems so surreal at times. In this episode, I want to share with you what I’ve learned along this journey. This is part 2 because in part 1 I share with you why I started writing the book and how I got started. So if you want to hear the back story, listen to that episode first. Writing a Book Part 1 Throughout the entire process I have asked for help. God told me to tap into my resourc...
Training for a Triathlon
July 10, 2019 10:30 - 11 minutes - 16.2 MBWhether you are training for a triathlon, another race of some kind, a hike….these steps will help you feel more prepared. I felt the most prepared when I hiked Mt. Whitney a few years ago. I did research, spoke to people who had done it before, did training hikes, cross trained, elevation trained, etc. While I was on the hike, it was hard, but I felt good. I felt prepared. This only comes with training- physically, and mentally. 5 Steps: Put it on the calendar Give yourself at least...