Tell The Others
30 episodes - English - Latest episode: 10 months ago -Listen in as clinical psychotherapist Heidi Rogers speaks with ordinary people about their extraordinary lives. Heidi also provides professional insight into some of parenting's toughest challenges. Uplifting tales of personal growth, overcoming adversity, mental health and life lessons that inspire us to ‘tell the others’...
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Self-compassion: that’s just self-pity, right?
June 27, 2023 13:00 - 47 minutes - 32.9 MBSelf-compassion was by far the most transformative concept that changed my life when it was at its darkest. But YOU don't need to hit rock-bottom or spend 20 years working in mental health to learn the most effective ways to extend self-compassion AND to understand the massive transformation it can create in your life. You have me! And I'd love to share some of what I've learned over the years. Which means... you're invited to my FREE virtual training - Finding Self-Compassion In A Criti...
They have no clue what it’s like to parent a SPICY child... but they’re the first in line to give you advice 🫠
June 19, 2023 11:00 - 17 minutes - 12.2 MBParenting a SPICY child is often lonely, exhausting, isolating and overwhelming. I know because I have a SPICY child myself, and I see ya’ll in private practice every week 🤣 We live in a society that says children should all fit into a neat little box of behavior and personality… and if they don’t… well… it must be the parents’ fault! But most of society has no clue what it’s like to parent a SPICY child! Join me as I break down some of the myths surrounding self-compassion, and why maki...
Why is my child strong-willed and so difficult?! (AKA: 'Spicy')
August 30, 2022 02:00 - 32 minutes - 22.2 MBHeidi answers the following question in this episode: "Hi Heidi, why doesn’t positive parenting work on my spicy 8 year old? My 10 year old is so different and much more dutiful, compliant and easy. My 8 year old is aggressive, violent and hates any talk about feelings. It feels like we are all walking eggshells. My husband yells and isn’t as patient as me, but I lose it too, as nothing seems to work. I could talk about feelings and validate the emotions of my 10 year old but Mr 8 hates any...
When positive parenting doesn't work with SPICY kids...
August 30, 2022 02:00 - 32 minutes - 22.2 MBHeidi answers the following question in this episode: "Hi Heidi, why doesn’t positive parenting work on my spicy 8 year old? My 10 year old is so different and much more dutiful, compliant and easy. My 8 year old is aggressive, violent and hates any talk about feelings. It feels like we are all walking eggshells. My husband yells and isn’t as patient as me, but I lose it too, as nothing seems to work. I could talk about feelings and validate the emotions of my 10 year old but Mr 8 hates any...
Therapy Isn’t The Only Pathway To Healing
August 12, 2022 00:00 - 1 hour - 43 MBEver wondered if transformation was possible for you, or if healing yourself was even an option outside of therapy? I chatted with my colleague and fellow therapist, Tom Ahern this week, all about our journeys in self-healing and managing our mental health. It was fascinating to dive deep into the topic and explore the idea that therapy isn’t the only route to self-healing (pretty wild - coming from two therapists!). Some of the questions we discuss: What does self-healing mean anyway? ...
Thinking positive won't make you happy
August 01, 2022 03:00 - 10 minutes - 7.43 MBOne of the most common things people say to me is, "I know if I could just change my thinking and be more positive, then I’d be happy. I know it's my fault I'm unhappy because of the thoughts I choose". If it were THAT simple and just 'thinking happy thoughts' was the key to everything, then the world would be a really happy place. But it's not, because it's not that simple. Taking a 'bottom up approach' is a much easier way to find happiness. When we begin the practice of noticing how we...
Should I have my child assessed?
July 27, 2022 04:00 - 18 minutes - 12.8 MBI often hear from parents: "My child’s teacher has recommended my son / daughter have an assessment to understand their behaviors a bit more. I’m not sure how I feel about this. I think a label will hurt them long-term and I don’t want them to be treated differently." In this clip, I share my thoughts on this and provide some guidance around WHY an assessment may or may not be helpful. I hope it helps! -- Instagram: www.instagram.com/heidirogers_ Facebook: www.facebook.com/heidirogers...
How to promote a healthy body image in your children
June 24, 2022 07:00 - 1 hour - 77.2 MBJoin Heidi and Vanessa (a trauma therapist and Licensed Mental Health Social Worker) on their deep dive into all things body image, and how to find freedom in food. Some of the topics covered: What determines health? What is body neutrality? Easy ways to promote healthy body image to your kids How to protect your kids from developing a negative body image Labeling foods "good" or "bad" Emotional eating, and what to do if you or another family member is doing it The ideal meal time ex...
How to parent a teenager
May 26, 2022 05:00 - 28 minutes - 19.6 MBI wanted to share a recent question I received in my parenting group about teenagers and their unique challenges. It opened a HUGE can of worms as I honed in on the real issue behind this mom’s concerns - a loss of control. Q: “My 17-year-old is staying in her room and isolating, not talking to us as much as she used to. I’m worried something is going on. Can you help?” It’s such a classic scenario that can lead to feelings of rejection, sadness and a loss of control for parents. But is ...
How to parent a teenager... or a child of ANY age
May 26, 2022 05:00 - 28 minutes - 19.6 MBI wanted to share a recent question I received in my parenting group about teenagers and their unique challenges. It opened a HUGE can of worms as I honed in on the real issue behind this mom’s concerns - a loss of control. Q: “My 17-year-old is staying in her room and isolating, not talking to us as much as she used to. I’m worried something is going on. Can you help?” It’s such a classic scenario that can lead to feelings of rejection, sadness and a loss of control for parents. But is ...
Why does my child have anxiety when their life seems pretty easy?
May 12, 2022 02:00 - 22 minutes - 15.5 MBOne of the common questions I hear in my private practice is ‘Why does my child have anxiety, especially when they have nothing to be stressed about?’ While it’s easy to view their anxiety as ‘attention seeking’ or ‘being dramatic’, the key message they need from us is: you are safe, and I can help you. With that in mind, we need to reframe the way we view anxiety and understand how - and why - it shows up in our children. Join me as I dive into the origins of anxiety, how it manifests in...
Heal Your Relationship With Dieting And Find Freedom In Food
March 03, 2022 07:00 - 1 hour - 62.5 MBMental Health Social Worker and nutritionist Vanessa Preston joins me to discuss the ways women are healing their relationship with their bodies and making room in their lives to pursue what's -actually- important to them. Her online program, the Body And Food Freedom Project, has received rave reviews from my clients, my friends, and moms in my parenting program, and I'm super keen to share her message because I think it's so important for everyone to hear. Vanessa's refreshing take on d...
Winning on Wall Street: Cultivating The Traits Of Success
February 12, 2022 00:00 - 46 minutes - 32.8 MBBeing ‘successful’ is about more than luck. It often involves learning a trade, building relationships, and staying curious - even in the face of adversity and potential failure. Join Heidi as she speaks with Joe Titus, whose experience in the finance sector and on Wall St has taught him a thing or two about the essential personality traits to be successful in any area of life. What to expect in the episode: Is a career on Wall Street worth it? Do you have to be smart to make a lot of mon...
Coping Skills: What they are, and how to build them for ourselves AND our kids
February 06, 2022 23:00 - 52 minutes - 37.3 MBNo matter how mentally healthy, resilient, or happy you are, we all go through times when we’re faced with something difficult. Join Heidi and guest Janine Halloran as they discuss the coping methods that suit unique personalities, and how to identify your own coping skills. What to expect in the episode: What is a coping skill, and why is it important? How do parents implement coping skills? In what ways can parents model good coping skills? Coping skills change throughout your life. W...
School refusal, helplessness and a light at the end of the tunnel
February 01, 2022 20:00 - 55 minutes - 38.4 MBOne of the most common questions I get is from parents is - “how do I deal with a child who is refusing to go to school?” If it's a 6 year old starting school, or a 12 year old not getting out of the car, or a 16 year old refusing to get out of bed….most parents can attest to the frustration and sadness that comes when your child refuses to go to school. I have personal experience with this with my own kids, and I can feel it in my bones when another parent is sharing their painful drop of...
School refusal, helplessness and a light at the end of the tunnel
February 01, 2022 20:00 - 55 minutes - 38.4 MBOne of the most common questions I get is from parents is - “how do I deal with a child who is refusing to go to school?” If it's a 6 year old starting school, or a 12 year old not getting out of the car, or a 16 year old refusing to get out of bed….most parents can attest to the frustration and sadness that comes when your child refuses to go to school. I have personal experience with this with my own kids, and I can feel it in my bones when another parent is sharing their painful drop of...
Grief, loss and cultivating a positive outlook after the death of a loved one
January 04, 2022 03:00 - 1 hour - 50.5 MBThe loss of a loved one creates a new kind of 'normal' and introduces us to a kind of suffering that we have never known. Join me as I speak with special guest Brendan Murray as he opens up about his experiences with death and the loss of his parents. For anyone dealing with the loss of a loved one, Brendan shares some techniques to cope with grief and loss to help you get back to life. What to expect from the episode: Feelings and vulnerability in grief How does losing someone you love ...
Listening And Labeling: Learning About Ourselves And Why We Are 'The Way We Are'
September 16, 2021 01:00 - 1 hour - 59.2 MBHeidi joins writer, podcaster and creator Tom Ahern in this wide ranging discussion on religion, psychedelics, ego, EMDR, toxic masculinity and the art of becoming a better listener. What to expect from the episode: What makes listening the most challenging skill to learn? Ways to become a better listener Why is validation important? Why do some people not want to listen and seem to be just waiting for their turn to speak? Why having an ego isn't always a bad thing How can you help others ...
Why Do We React The Way We Do? Understanding Polyvagal Theory With Justin Sunseri
September 06, 2021 01:00 - 1 hour - 48.2 MBEver wondered why you react the way you do? Or what's behind the quote 'mind-body connection'? Join Heidi for the answers as she dives into Polyvagal Theory with Justin Sunseri of the Stuck Not Broken podcast. Justin shares his expertise on all things Polyvagal Theory, and explores the connection between our behaviors, emotions and the way we respond. Here are the things to expect in the episode: What is Polyvagal Theory and how is it used in therapy? What are the benefits of Polyvagal ...
Online Parenting Program Or 1-On-1 With Heidi: Which Is Better?
August 22, 2021 10:00 - 40 minutes - 27.8 MBIf you're contemplating booking Heidi for a 1-on-1 session OR you can't decide whether her parenting program is right for you, then you don't want to miss this. Heidi walks you through the program and how it works, helps you understand whether it's a good fit, and lays out what you need to do get the most out of it when you join. Learn more about Heidi's parenting program here.
Why This Lockdown FEELS Like The Worst Yet ... And What You Can Do About It
August 11, 2021 05:00 - 52 minutes - 36.1 MBIt feels like this lockdown has been the most damaging to our collective mental health since the beginning of the pandemic. The number of clients I’m seeing with increased anxiety, depression and suicidal ideation is off the charts. So many people are either resuming anti-depressant and anti-anxiety medication, or starting it for the first time. My waitlist is the highest it has ever been, and every therapist I know is in the same situation. We simply cannot keep up with demand as rollin...
Have A Child Who Demands More Parental Attention Than Others?
August 01, 2021 06:00 - 43 minutes - 29.8 MBCancer. Depression. Prison. Anxiety. Anorexia. Addiction. Autism Spectrum. No matter the illness, diagnosis, or challenging behavior… when a family has a child who demands more parental attention than others, it can cause lifelong damage to family relationships – IF – parents don’t take steps to validate the experience and acknowledge the needs of the siblings. Parents I’ve worked with in the past have told me that being the parent of a child who is unwell or has challenging behaviors is “...
You can’t banish anxiety, but you CAN do this…
July 04, 2021 03:00 - 31 minutes - 21.9 MBIf you’re human, there’s a 100% guarantee that you’ve experienced anxiety at some time in your life. If you’re in the minority, you probably don’t feel its effects all that much. Lucky for you! But if you’re in the majority, anxiety can feel like an uninvited guest that shows up EVERYWHERE, sucking the joy out of life. While we can never fully rid ourselves of anxiety, we can learn to manage it. The problem is the majority of us don’t know how to manage anxiety. We all were raised by ro...
I Never Knew I Had An Anger Management Problem Until I Had Kids
June 26, 2021 10:00 - 24 minutes - 17.2 MBI remember when my eldest daughter was nearly two years old, and I was adjusting to having a newborn and a toddler, I found this rage within me that I had never experienced before. It scared me. I reached out to my high school friend Karina (who has three boys a bit older than my kids) and I will never forget what she told me. Karina said, “Heidi, you’re totally normal. I never knew I had an anger management problem until I had kids.” Do you ever ‘lose it’ with your kids? Or have that r...
Climbing back from the brink with Kevin Berthia
May 18, 2020 06:00 - 2 hours - 86.9 MBAfter my interview with first responder, Sergeant Kevin Briggs, I KNEW I had to track down Kevin Berthia, 'the man on the bridge', to hear more of his story. Listen in as Kevin shares his story of adoption, loneliness, helplessness, love, hope and self-worth - all punctuated by his very-public attempted suicide on the Golden Gate Bridge. Berthia made international headlines in 2005 when that gut-wrenching 90-minute ordeal went viral (Google 'Kevin Berthia' to see the harrowing photo). Find...
Intuitive Eating and Managing Your Inner Diet Voice With Vanessa Preston
May 14, 2020 07:54 - 1 hour - 62.6 MBPsychotherapist and mental health social worker Vanessa Preston discusses intuitive eating, ‘Healthy at Every Size’, managing your inner diet voice, body neutrality, self-compassion and setting health goals that aren’t focused on shrinking your body. If you’ve ever struggled with your relationship with food (or your body), this is must-listen stuff! Follow Vanessa at Green Life Psychology, on Instagram and on Facebook.
Suicide Prevention and Crisis Negotiation With Sergeant Kevin Briggs
May 10, 2020 20:46 - 1 hour - 45.1 MBHeidi speaks with retired California Highway Patrolman Kevin Briggs (aka: The Guardian of the Golden Gate Bridge) about his suicide prevention work, his time as a crisis negotiator, managing depression on the job, talking people back from the edge, and his post-CHiPS life. This fascinating look at the life and work of Sergeant Briggs is the first in Heidi’s new podcast series, Tell The Others. Learn more about Sergeant Briggs and his work below: http://www.pivotal-points.com/ http://www.fac...
Harnessing the Power of Breath With Siobhan Macleod
April 21, 2020 21:00 - 46 minutes - 31.7 MBMeet breathwork guru and founder of The Breathwork Shed, Siobhan Macleod. Heidi and Siobhan explore the benefits of breathwork on the body, heart and mind and uncover the why behind the practice. Get a Breathwork 101 lesson and discover why Siobhan and so many others can’t live without this amazing practice. Learn more about Siobhan’s work below: https://thebreathworkshed.wixsite.com/website https://www.instagram.com/the.breathwork.shed/ https://www.facebook.com/pages/The-Breathwork-Shed/...
Beating Cancer and Refreshing Your Mindset With Yasmin Gaté
April 07, 2020 15:00 - 1 hour - 53.2 MBArt teacher and Tiny Cupboard Creatives founder Yaz Gaté talks beating cancer in 2019, finding purpose in life, developing a new mindset around risk, using art to connect with refugees and the amazing healing power of therapy and personal development. Find more from Yaz below: https://www.instagram.com/tiny_cupboard_creatives/ https://www.youtube.com/c/TinyCupboardCreatives
Intuitive Eating and Managing The Inner Diet Voice With Vanessa Preston
April 01, 2020 06:00 - 1 hour - 62.6 MBPsychotherapist and mental health social worker Vanessa Preston discusses intuitive eating, ‘Healthy at Every Size’, managing your inner diet voice, body neutrality, self-compassion and setting health goals that aren’t focused on shrinking your body. If you’ve ever struggled with your relationship with food (or your body), this is must-listen stuff! Find Vanessa below: http://www.greenlifepsychology.com/ https://www.instagram.com/green_life_psychology/ https://www.facebook.com/greenlifepsy...