When positive parenting doesn't work with SPICY kids...

Heidi answers the following question in this episode:

"Hi Heidi, why doesn’t positive parenting work on my spicy 8 year old? My 10 year old is so different and much more dutiful, compliant and easy. My 8 year old is aggressive, violent and hates any talk about feelings. It feels like we are all walking eggshells. My husband yells and isn’t as patient as me, but I lose it too, as nothing seems to work. I could talk about feelings and validate the emotions of my 10 year old but Mr 8 hates any kind of emotional chat. Why is he like this?"

Heidi answers this question by discussing:

emotional regulation and how it's such a key issue for SPICY kidsthe two main beliefs SPICY kids have about themselveshow needing choice, feeling anxious and angry outbursts are all interconnecteda discussion around the belief a lot of people have that these kids are choosing to be this way and are just disrespectful, strong willed and defiantwhat to do and say when your child says 'I hate you!' or 'I'm running away!'

Mentioned in this episode:

SPICY Masterclass: https://www.heidirogers.com/spicy-kids-register-full The SPICY Method is a framework Heidi uses, more info can be found here: https://www.instagram.com/p/CWZ2_hcP_Bc/ Wish you knew more parents who 'get' what its like to have a SPICY child? Want to pick Heidi's brain monthly on what to do? Join our support group: https://www.heidirogers.com/spicy-parents-club-registration