Talk Your Poly Off
96 episodes - English - Latest episode: almost 3 years ago - ★★★★★ - 13 ratingsIn this podcast we will explore many aspects of Polyamory and ethical non-monogamy while sharing our relationship adventures and the knowledge/experiences of our guests. We are recording from the beautiful Pacific Northwest and enjoy sharing and discussing this loving lifestyle.
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Valentine's Day & Polyamory
February 10, 2020 08:00 - 52 minutes - 72.2 MBValentine's Day, a day of love. Isn't every day a day full of love when you're polyamorous? Some of us don't like being told by a holiday when we should love someone. Others take the day as an extra special reminder to appreciate those we love. However you look at it we all have to manage our relationships a bit differently when it comes to this time of year. Do you plan in advance to avoid Feb 14th or do you discuss your expectations at all making sure nobody is let down? We talk...
Parenting In Polyamory, part 2
February 03, 2020 09:00 - 1 hour - 83.3 MBMonsuta has raised three children to adulthood and has three grandchildren. He has been open about polyamory to his children early on. Lili is a mom of younger children and is navigating through poly parenting post divorce. Bella has never had children of her own but has come into relationships where her partners have children. We use our combined experiences to discuss the broad discussion of poly parenting from three unique perspectives as we work through this discussion. Find Po...
Parenting in Polyamory, part 1
January 27, 2020 09:00 - 52 minutes - 72.8 MBMonsuta has raised three children to adulthood and has three grandchildren. He has been open about polyamory to his children early on. Lili is a mom of younger children and is navigating through poly parenting post divorce. Bella has never had children of her own but has come into relationships where her partners have children. We use our combined experiences to discuss the broad discussion of poly parenting from three unique perspectives as we work through this discussion. Find Po...
Happy Anniversary!
January 20, 2020 09:00 - 58 minutes - 81 MBWe've had such a roller coaster ride in our first year of bringing Talk Your Poly off to our listeners and we are so glad to have taken the time to do this show! In this episode, we do a year-in-review to reflect on where we've been and take the time to discuss how we've grown because of this poly-podcast journey. We don't just point out favorite episodes, we also show how we've grown as polyamory practitioners thanks to our discussions here so you can see how we are practicing what...
Surprising Your Partner
January 13, 2020 09:00 - 49 minutes - 68.6 MBMonsuta shares some saucy details of his birthday party, including some sexy nude oil wrestling. He shares his experience with an intimate gift created by loved ones. Bella explains how she came up with the ideas for this event and how she brought it all together. All of these scandalous and sordid stories lead directly into the topic of discussion this week on how to plan surprise parties for partners in polyamorous relationships, along with some of the obstacles poly folks encount...
Getting To Know The Person In The Mirror
January 06, 2020 09:00 - 1 hour - 90.9 MBThe key component to your polyamorous life, even more than honesty and communication, the one thing you can't practice polyamory without...is YOU! Learning who you are, how you work, and what motivates you is a truly fundamental aspect of how you will maneuver through a life of relationships and love. Many tests exist out in the world of the internet to help you figure yourself out a little bit and we at Talk Your Poly Off have started the path of self exploration with you by taking...
Resolutions For 2020
December 30, 2019 09:00 - 1 hour - 91.4 MBBella, Monsuta, and Lili come together to discuss that magical thing which happens at the beginning of each new year....the resolution! Whether you enjoy them or turn a nose up at them, resolutions play a big part in our society. Sure, not everyone sticks to them and many fall to the wayside but there's so many which do take hold and so many people make changes for the better! We are open to change and committing to a fun way of change, like resolutions can be a good time! We talk ...
Poly Holidays
December 23, 2019 08:00 - 1 hour - 90.6 MBThe holiday season is tough for everyone in different ways and even in a monogamous life there are challenges, how do those challenges differ for those of us in the polyamorous life? The holidays are such a special and magical time for Bella so this episode was extra fun to make for all of you, our polyam fam <3. While our holidays may differ from yours or you might have beliefs that your partners don't, we can all still come together and celebrate love. If you can find a way to...
Year End Performance Reviews
December 16, 2019 09:00 - 35 minutes - 49.1 MBReviews are an aspect of measuring team members in the workplace. When done properly, they provide insight on areas where team members have improved, where the business relationship needs work, and provide marker points for conscious development. Goals and benchmarks help enhance the success of the company. When it comes to romantic relationships, just like the workplace, people want to see and measure the success of the relationship which is a lot of the reason why relationship es...
Fresh Eyes on Polyamory
December 09, 2019 09:00 - 1 hour - 87.7 MBOne aspect of the polyamory world, especially in our technology age, is how much more ethical nonmonogamy has become and how much it has grown to be more accepted thanks to a more open minded society and tools like the internet. Because of this, people new to the nonmonogamy culture join our communities on a daily basis. Today, Monsuta interviews Lili, a mom recently out of a fifteen year marriage who has found polyamory. In our discussion, we take a look at how this subculture of s...
Let's Spend The Night Together
December 02, 2019 08:55 - 1 hour - 84.3 MBOne of the daily practices of managing polyamory is where we sleep in a world of multiple partners. Who gets to sleep together and when is alone time essential? We discuss the benefits and pitfalls of sleeping alone versus sleeping with a partner. We also try to piece together how to successfully sleep in a bed with multiple partners and basic overall logistics behind multiple bedroom arrangements. As with many of our episodes, this week gives food for thought, not just for a polyam...
Thankfulness
November 27, 2019 10:00 - 44 minutes - 60.5 MBSurprise! Happy thankfulness day! Bella and Monsuta are both so thankful for the community which has grown from this podcast that they had to get out a surprise episode on the subject of gratefulness. For additional episodes and content, come join our Patreon! Follow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On. Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show. For the kinkier polyamorists, cum join our TYPO Kinkster Fetlife Group Also, check out our T...
Just A Small Town Poly
November 25, 2019 08:30 - 50 minutes - 70 MBSmall towns and cities are vastly different environments, both physically and culturally. These differences are especially prevalent when it comes to polyamory. We take a moment to examine some of these differences and how a polyamorist might navigate through each environment. For additional episodes and content, come join our Patreon! Follow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On. Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show. Also, check out ...
On Loss And Grief
November 18, 2019 10:00 - 1 hour - 90.1 MBThis show is dedicated with love to Tatianna Gwynne, a wonderful girl with a shiny soul who has left this world too soon. You are missed every day. We are never prepared for loss and, despite what schedule we prefer to keep, the unexpected does happen and when it does, you find your life turning upside down. We take this episode to help figure out how to process the loss of a close friend and discuss how grief affects a polyamory life. Our resources for you this week: The Five Sta...
Tips for Direct Intentional Communication
November 11, 2019 08:00 - 1 hour - 85.9 MBLet's talk DIC, Direct Intentional Communication and how it affects our relationships. Monsuta and Bella role play some scenarios you might find yourself in when it comes to relationships, especially polyamorous relationships, and how we mess them up with vague communication and how to better them with DIRECT communication. We talk about a few take away tips to improve your communication and talk about some common pitfalls we've all done. Join in the conversation about how we can al...
Ego in Relationships
November 04, 2019 10:00 - 1 hour - 106 MBCheck out these awesome resources! Ego and Pride: How Does It Really Affect Our Lives 25 Ways To Kill The Toxic Ego That Will Ruin Your Life How To Kill Your Ego Follow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On. Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show. Also, check out our Twitter, I Love Poly. Our Instagram is I Love Poly Cares. We even have a Tumblr. Join our shiny new Fetlife group. And a LinkedIn page. You can also hit up our website and b...
Polyween!
October 28, 2019 09:00 - 1 hour - 94.4 MBDirect links to the podcasts we enjoy: LORE My Favorite Murder And That's Why We Drink Monstrosity The Creeping Hour Two Girls One Ghost Sword And Scale Follow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On. Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show. Also, check out our Twitter, I Love Poly. Our Instagram is I Love Poly Cares. We even have a Tumblr. Join our shiny new Fetlife group. And a LinkedIn page. You can also hit up our website and bookmark i...
Compassion Is Action with Heart
October 21, 2019 08:00 - 1 hour - 85.2 MBComing from a place of compassion when it comes to relationships and the world around us, is a powerful tool. Learn how to improve your communication by adding more compassion. In this weeks episode we approach communication from a compassionate place. Where would our relationships be if we could remember to put ourselves in their shoes and listen to understand? We cover the differences between sympathy, empathy, and compassion and give you 8 tips for improving your compassionate ...
Accountability
October 14, 2019 10:00 - 37 minutes - 51.6 MBBella and Monsuta take accountability on this episode. They discuss how taking accountability improves not just your relationships with partners but also how it helps you grow as a person. Resources for our polyam fam. How To Improve Accountability by Insperity Responsibility Vs Accountability from Partners In Leadership The Importance of Accountability In Your Relationships by Flourish Counseling Is Your Partner Holding You Accountable or Just Taking Inventory by Vicki Tidwell Pa...
Personal Boundaries
October 07, 2019 10:00 - 1 hour - 84.2 MBDiscussion revolving around boundaries and some aspects, including preferences, compromise, soft limits, hard limits, rules, and codependency.
Walk The Walk With Your Self Talk
September 30, 2019 10:00 - 1 hour - 94.5 MBThey say we are our own worst critic, they say we are our own worst judge, they're right. But what if we could actually flip the script on our inner dialogue and change the way we treat ourselves? How could our life change if we talked to ourselves like we talked to a loved one, a friend, or someone else in need of support? In this episode, Bella and Monsuta dig into the aspects of internal monologue and the effects of how we speak to ourselves in an attempt to understand how the sp...
Emergency Check In
September 23, 2019 10:00 - 23 minutes - 21.4 MBHey there Polyam fam, our regularly scheduled episode has been pushed out due to a medical emergency. We didn't want to leave you hanging so we had a discussion on one method to help partners in a struggle, processing emotions through a move, and even gave a little homework for all of you. Please forgive the raw, unedited episode and thank you for understanding. Love you all and we promise, next week we will get back to our regularly scheduled programming!
Polyamory Camping Break
September 16, 2019 10:00 - 25 minutes - 34.5 MBThis time around, we take a break from discussing big topics and instead, share some great experiences we made over the weekend on a camping trip with folks in our polyamory community, including some fun and cheeky shenanigans. This episode is dedicated to George the Salamander, our unofficial mascot of the Raab campgrounds and to his friend, the Blue Jay and the Chipmunk. Check out the Bagby Hot Springs Also, here's a couple games for you if they aren't in your collection yet: F...
Self Care In Your Underwear
September 09, 2019 10:00 - 1 hour - 83.5 MBEpisode 23 falls on a special day for Monsuta as this is the 30th birthday from his shooting (sure, call it an anniversary if you feel so inclined). For his 30th birthday, we will celebrate with a full and in-depth conversation about self-care and making sure you're writing the best story for the main character of your life (spoiler warning....it's YOU). *Happy birthday Monsuta!* Taking care of yourself is a crucial aspect of polyamory. This is the first step for taking care of par...
Processing Emotions and Feelings
September 02, 2019 10:00 - 1 hour - 87.8 MBBella and Monsuta ride some great feels and intimate lows (but not a new motorcycle, there is no new motorcycle) to playfully discuss the serious business of processing emotions and feelings. Processing can be extremely difficult and doing it alone may not always be the best option. If you would like to find a therapist to help you work through some of the difficulties of your life, you can search your local phone directory, get a referral from a loved one, do a web search, or even...
My Guilt And My Shame
August 26, 2019 10:00 - 50 minutes - 69.6 MBMonsuta and Bella dive deeper into their personal experiences with guilt and shame as well as how each emotion affects their ability to operate within relationships and with life, in general. Guilt is one of the difficult emotions to feel and to process in any relationship so we really dissect this emotion in ways to understand how it works and how it is a guiding factor in life. As promised in the episode, here are some links to help each of our polyam fam understand and accept gui...
An Episode Of Lists
August 19, 2019 10:00 - 1 hour - 83.6 MBBella and Monsuta each take time to discuss five skills they've developed to better their relationships, from direct communication to guilt management. They both also share three skills they are seeking to improve. Is there anything on heir lists which struck home for you? Let your hosts know by email (address is below). Follow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On. Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show. Also, check out our Twitter, I L...
Chatting Over Cheese
August 12, 2019 10:00 - 42 minutes - 58.7 MBThis week is a special, 'cozy up to your hosts' kind of week where you get to learn a little about us. We talk about the things we like, share some feelings about polyamory, and even walk down memory lane a time or two. Take the opportunity to connect back through our Facebook page, specifically the post where you get to share a song with meaning to you. Speaking of songs, we talk about the time we met with the band HAIL SAGAN and how cool they are. You can hit up their Facebook Pa...
Solo Polyamory With Katie
August 05, 2019 10:00 - 42 minutes - 57.7 MBAn aspect of Polyamory is solo practice, polyamory which doesn't necessarily ride the relationship escalator. Another polyamory practice is relationship anarchy in which a person doesn't subscribe to traditional labels and standards of what a relationship "should" be. Today, Katie, a practicing soloist and anarchist, discusses polyamory with us from a different perspective. Today's definition of a relationship anarchist came in part from THE CUT's article on the topic, written by K...
Unpacking Emotional Baggage
July 29, 2019 10:00 - 56 minutes - 77.7 MBEmotional baggage, we've all got it, we don't always want it, so what do we do with it? This week, Bella and Monsuta take some time to give your life luggage the Marie Kondo treatment. We share how to be aware of the excess and what to do with it, as well as what to get rid of. Some of the resources we utilized while packing this episode: Dr. Seth Myers and the 3 basic signs of emotional baggage Chris Hart and the Five Steps The Emotional Baggage Check website Follow our Facebook ...
Riding The Relationship Escalator
July 22, 2019 10:00 - 52 minutes - 72.3 MBThis week is a rollercoaster of relationship discussion as Bella and Monsuta talk our poly off about the infamous relationship escalator and what it means. We bring up milestones of a partnership, mindfulness in navigating this deepness of connection, what it all means for your future and even take the time to look back on it all. www.polysingleish.com “Stepping Off the Relationship Escalator: Uncommon Love and Life” by Amy Gahran Follow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get You...
The New Relationship Energy Factor
July 15, 2019 14:00 - 1 hour - 86.6 MBYou know those feelings you get when you first start dating someone and everything about them is perfect and you just can't get enough time with them? That's new relationship energy and it is not only a big factor in your non-monogamous journey but also a widely common phenomenon. So we take some time to try understanding this addictive experience in an attempt to build healthily from it. Check out these bonus links to get a feel for these feels. Thoughts on NRE from Zhahai Stewart...
We Crush Your Head
July 08, 2019 14:00 - 40 minutes - 56.3 MBA common phenomenon which happens in the polyamory circles is developing and feeling crushes. The harmless little feels you catch when someone new comes into your world. We dig deep into them to help get an understanding of why we have them and what impact even these little feels can have on our world. Follow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On. Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show. Also, check out our Twitter, I Love Poly. Our Insta...
The Good, The Bad, And The Ugly- A Dinner Discussion
July 01, 2019 14:00 - 38 minutes - 53.4 MBBella and Monsuta take advantage of a lightning storm to discuss the best....and worst...personality traits they bring to a relationship while Monsuta makes dinner in the dark. In this episode, we look into the abyss of what a person brings to the relationship table, both good and bad, and how to handle these traits in one's self and with one's partner. Follow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On. Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show...
Self Care and Polyamory
June 24, 2019 14:00 - 38 minutes - 53.1 MBMonsuta is knee deep in comic books while he and Bella delve into the subject of self care. Each host shares different methods of self care. We even get a surprise guest appearance from the son of Monsuta who engages fully into this episode. Follow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On. Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show. Also, check out our Twitter, I Love Poly. Our Instagram is I Love Poly Cares. We even have a Tumblr. Join our shi...
Long Distance Relationships
April 29, 2019 14:00 - 53 minutes - 72.9 MBWe welcome our guest host Peaches so we can all talk our poly off about long distance relationships. Peaches and Monsuta are long distance partners who bring real world experience to this episode and Bella provides insights from the outside, looking in. We realized toward the end of this recording, we could not capture enough of the LDR relationship dynamic in one episode so we will be airing periodic updates to this episode as the three of us are together. Follow our Facebook page...
Deeper Relationship Connections
April 22, 2019 14:00 - 46 minutes - 64.2 MB#NormalizeLove This episode, we decide to get into bed to record this episode. The bed is a more intimate environment which helps us discuss the vulnerable topics of deepening our connections with people we care about for stronger emotional bonds. We share our love languages and discuss how to use the five languages to know your loved ones better. We also highlight how sexuality or sensuality can bring more profound aspects of relationship to light and even get a little mushy whil...
Poly Kinkery
April 15, 2019 14:00 - 49 minutes - 68 MBToday's (slightly longer) episode is about kink, what kink is, safety practices for getting your kink on, and how kink and polyamory co-exist. We will talk about sexy stuff like power exchange dynamics and fetishes and will discuss responsible things like safety and negotiation. So, pull up a seat and let's get sexy. Follow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On. Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show. Also, check out our Twitter, I Love ...
3 Tips For Deeper Connections
April 08, 2019 01:00 - 37 minutes - 51.9 MBBella's struggles in flirting helps us discuss how to improve our communication skills for stronger connections and more security within ourselves so we can provide ourselves and each other a healthier, more confident life. We talk through three steps of personal growth: 1. Live like birds 2. Active thought awareness 3. Tearing down (and keeping down) the walls. This episode is dedicated in loving memory to Monsuta's dear friend and brother, Garth Brinson, a true practitioner of th...
Choosing Whether Or Not To Be Out With Polyamory
April 02, 2019 14:00 - 37 minutes - 52.1 MBLevels of being out Total secret (100% closed doors) Partial out (maybe in friend circles but generally not family or work) Totally out (shouting from the rooftops) How open are you? Social media - relationship status, tagging, sharing pictures Public outings - Running into friends, family, co-workers, and the like Family events Deciding when, how and whom to come out to is quite the challenge and there are a lot of resources for you out there. Here are our 4 basic tips to h...
Jealousy, The Green Eyed Monster
March 25, 2019 14:00 - 50 minutes - 70.1 MBJealousy & envy are both feelings most of us have at some point or another. J is the fear of losing something you already have while envy is wanting something you don't have. Both of these feelings are similar to to other universal feelings. Throughout our research, studies suggest there are 5 universal feelings across cultures (fear, happiness, anger, shame, sadness) and all the extra feelings we have can typically be put into one of these categories. There are 3 levels to jealo...
The Meta Game Of Dating
March 18, 2019 14:00 - 31 minutes - 43.1 MBWe have made it to the date, let's talk about how to move through the first date. Are you going to date alone? Are you looking to date with a partner as a couple? What do each of these look like? How soon do you discuss poly, how much do you discuss poly or your other partners? If the date goes into building some kind of relationship, how much do you date before potentially introducing the new person to your polycule? Providing you do poly from an involved standpoint, when to i...
Tips On Getting Out There
March 09, 2019 23:15 - 30 minutes - 41.8 MBYou've decided to open yourself up for relationships but, where to start? Bella and Monsuta take some time to discuss options and provide tips on how to get out there, whether you're trying to meet in person or have a chance to meet online. From bar hopping to meetups, social events to dating apps- we help wingman for connection. Follow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On. Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show. Also, check out our Twi...
Just What The Doctor Ordered
March 02, 2019 08:10 - 37 minutes - 52.1 MBOur dear friend JJ joins Bella and Monsuta as we discuss physical and mental health and how it affects how we poly. WE go in depth on obstacles we face with health issues, how we get support from partners and friends, and what these issues do to our schedules and time. Follow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On. Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show. Also, check out our Twitter, I Love Poly. Our Instagram is I Love Poly Cares. We even...
I Have Questions
February 03, 2019 03:00 - 30 minutes - 41.3 MBFollow our facebook page. Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show. Also, check out our Twitter page. Our Instagram is here. We even have a Tumblr. You can also hit up our website and bookmark it so you can watch us as we grow. ;) Finally, we welcome listener input, feel free to send us an email with your thoughts at [email protected]
Welcome To Polyamory
January 20, 2019 02:39 - 33 minutes - 45.4 MBWelcome all of our polyam fam to the premiere episode of our discussion podcast, Talk Your Poly off. Meet your hostess with the mostest, Bella, along with her partner who has a face made for radio, Monsuta! In this first discussion, we will jump into what polyamory is and how we got into it. Pull up a chair, take a load off, and talk your poly off with us. Follow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On. Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the s...