Flying Free
586 episodes - English - Latest episode: 5 days ago - ★★★★★ - 950 ratingsFlying Free is a support resource for women of faith who need hope and healing from hidden emotional abuse, spiritual abuse, and narcissistic abuse. Because of misogynistic theology taught in controlling and spiritually abusive churches, many Christian women find themselves in destructive marriages where there is an uneven power dynamic. Male partners use their status as a husband to gain power and control over a woman’s mind, emotions, body, social life, finances, and more. When she tries to get help from her equally abusive church environment, she is betrayed and re-abused. Flying Free offers a Christ-centered, gospel-oriented perspective on domestic abuse that protects and honors the voices and autonomy of women. Tune in each week to hear conversations with emotional abuse advocates and fellow survivors who will walk with you on your journey up and out. We hear you. You are not alone. Learn more at https://flyingfreenow.com
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We Need a Sexual Reformation in the Church: Interview with Author Aimee Byrd
July 12, 2022 17:30 - 48 minutes - 110 MB“Don’t try and church it up.” Ever heard that piece of advice? It hits the crux of this episode right in the nethers: biblical manhood and biblical womanhood. Author Aimee Bird offered a more refined and relevant version: “Just because you put the word ‘biblical’ in front of it doesn’t make it so. It’s not an adjective.” If you’re listening to this podcast, I’d bet my milk money you've heard the terms “biblical manhood” and “biblical womanhood” 43,854 times or more, maybe in th...
We Need a Sexual Reformation in the Church [179]
July 12, 2022 17:30 - 48 minutes - 110 MB“Don’t try and church it up.” Ever heard that piece of advice? It hits the crux of this episode right in the nethers: biblical manhood and biblical womanhood. Author Aimee Bird offered a more refined and relevant version: “Just because you put the word ‘biblical’ in front of it doesn’t make it so. It’s not an adjective.” If you’re listening to this podcast, I’d bet my milk money you've heard the terms “biblical manhood” and “biblical womanhood” 43,854 times or more, maybe in th...
Does the Bible Say I Can't Take My Abuser to Court in Order to Divorce Him in 1 Corinthians 6:1-10?
July 05, 2022 17:30 - 39 minutes - 90.9 MBDid you know some people used to use the Bible to support slavery? They would tell slaves that it was God’s will. Want to guess who those people were? Huge surprise: slave owners. It can be terrifying to have someone throw the book—the literal Bible—at you. But you know the saying “Where there’s smoke, there’s fire?” Well, in this case, “Where there’s confusion, there’s crap.” The kind of crap people throw out when they’re desperate to keep you under their thumb. Instead of c...
Does the Bible Say I Can't Take My Abuser to Court in 1 Corinthians 6:1-10? [178]
July 05, 2022 17:30 - 39 minutes - 90.9 MBDid you know some people used to use the Bible to support slavery? They would tell slaves that it was God’s will. Want to guess who those people were? Huge surprise: slave owners. It can be terrifying to have someone throw the book—the literal Bible—at you. But you know the saying “Where there’s smoke, there’s fire?” Well, in this case, “Where there’s confusion, there’s crap.” The kind of crap people throw out when they’re desperate to keep you under their thumb. Instead of c...
How You and Your Faith Community Got Hoodwinked by an Abuser [177]
June 28, 2022 17:30 - 34 minutes - 79 MBDo you wonder how he did it? How your abuser tricked you and blindfolded your church? How he just keeps coming out on top, despite all the evidence pointing to what a sick, twisted, evil person he is? Abuse doesn’t happen in a vacuum. It always involves the community. In this case: the church. Wade Mullen staked his Ph.D. on the study of the hidden tactics of abuse, especially spiritual abuse within religious communities. What he found were patterns of behavior. The slow and st...
How You and Your Faith Community Got Hoodwinked by an Abuser
June 28, 2022 17:30 - 34 minutes - 79 MBDo you wonder how he did it? How your abuser tricked you and blindfolded your church? How he just keeps coming out on top, despite all the evidence pointing to what a sick, twisted, evil person he is? Abuse doesn’t happen in a vacuum. It always involves the community. In this case: the church. Wade Mullen staked his Ph.D. on the study of the hidden tactics of abuse, especially spiritual abuse within religious communities. What he found were patterns of behavior. The slow and st...
Using Art to Heal from Narcissistic Abuse: Interview with Art Therapist Jennifer Kramer
June 21, 2022 17:30 - 37 minutes - 86.6 MB“This was the big whammy… My whole life had been centered around pleasing the abusive person…trying to meet their ever-changing expectations…I really didn’t know who I was anymore.” Art therapist Jennifer Kramer practices what she paints. She’s a survivor of narcissistic abuse and now teaches an art therapy process she developed during her recovery. She discovered that the most powerful part of art-making isn’t what we create — the final drawing or painting. It’s not about making...
Using Art to Heal from Narcissistic Abuse [176]
June 21, 2022 17:30 - 37 minutes - 86.6 MB“This was the big whammy… My whole life had been centered around pleasing the abusive person…trying to meet their ever-changing expectations…I really didn’t know who I was anymore.” Art therapist Jennifer Kramer practices what she paints. She’s a survivor of narcissistic abuse and now teaches an art therapy process she developed during her recovery. She discovered that the most powerful part of art-making isn’t what we create — the final drawing or painting. It’s not about making...
I Don’t Want to Look Like a Bad Christian if I Leave My Abusive Marriage [175]
June 14, 2022 17:30 - 33 minutes - 31 MBAbusers who leave a relationship are as rare as steak tartare. In fact, waiting for an abuser to leave is similar to waiting for them to change. Or asking for a hippopotamus for Christmas. Riding a unicorn. Losing weight on a cake-only diet. Not likely. If abusers are so unhappy with their victims, why don’t they leave first? Because staying fits within the point of abuse: to control you. And unless he’s discovered an excellent and easy alternative, you’re an endless supply for...
I Don’t Want to Look Like a Bad Christian if I Leave My Abusive Marriage
June 14, 2022 17:30 - 33 minutes - 31 MBAbusers who leave a relationship are as rare as steak tartare. In fact, waiting for an abuser to leave is similar to waiting for them to change. Or asking for a hippopotamus for Christmas. Riding a unicorn. Losing weight on a cake-only diet. Not likely. If abusers are so unhappy with their victims, why don’t they leave first? Because staying fits within the point of abuse: to control you. And unless he’s discovered an excellent and easy alternative, you’re an endless supply for...
Are Christian Abuse Victims Supposed to Be Like Job and Just Suffer? [174]
June 07, 2022 17:30 - 31 minutes - 71.8 MBImagine two terminally ill children. Both are given three months to live. For one, there’s nothing doctors can do—death is certain. The disease is incurable and untreatable. For the second, there’s a life-saving treatment available. If it isn’t taken, the next three months will be a slow, excruciating crawl toward the end. If the treatment is started as soon as possible, the child will live and—what’s more—thrive. Family, friends, and church leaders of the second child gather aro...
Are Christian Abuse Victims Supposed to Be Like Job and Just Suffer?
June 07, 2022 17:30 - 31 minutes - 71.8 MBImagine two terminally ill children. Both are given three months to live. For one, there’s nothing doctors can do—death is certain. The disease is incurable and untreatable. For the second, there’s a life-saving treatment available. If it isn’t taken, the next three months will be a slow, excruciating crawl toward the end. If the treatment is started as soon as possible, the child will live and—what’s more—thrive. Family, friends, and church leaders of the second child gather aro...
What Does It Mean to Find Yourself After Getting Out of an Abusive Relationship?
May 31, 2022 17:30 - 20 minutes - 47.8 MBIt’s a thief. Abuse robs us of the truth about ourselves. Abuse steals our sense of safety. Abuse consumes our time and energy. And when we’re overwhelmed by all that abuse has taken from us, we can’t focus on the future or growth or discovery—the things that feed our soul and nurture our lives. So how do we find that little girl full of dreams again? How do we connect to the young woman who had stars in her eyes? Where’s the door to a sense of belonging and self and fulfillmen...
What Does It Mean to Find Yourself After Getting Out of an Abusive Relationship? [173]
May 31, 2022 17:30 - 20 minutes - 47.8 MBIt’s a thief. Abuse robs us of the truth about ourselves. Abuse steals our sense of safety. Abuse consumes our time and energy. And when we’re overwhelmed by all that abuse has taken from us, we can’t focus on the future or growth or discovery—the things that feed our soul and nurture our lives. So how do we find that little girl full of dreams again? How do we connect to the young woman who had stars in her eyes? Where’s the door to a sense of belonging and self and fulfillmen...
Protect Yourself From Financial Abuse with Attorney Lisa Zeiderman
May 24, 2022 17:30 - 43 minutes - 99 MBThe thought of contacting a lawyer made her sick. To live through her abusive marriage was hard enough. Would she have to bare all the details of her twisted reality to someone…and pay them for it? Where would she get the money for that, especially since her husband was hiding his paychecks? Is your story anything like this? I get the hesitation. The fear, the dread, and disgust. Bringing somebody else into your messy life is humiliating. But (and this is a really big but(t)), ...
Protect Yourself From Financial Abuse with Attorney Lisa Zeiderman [172]
May 24, 2022 17:30 - 43 minutes - 99 MBThe thought of contacting a lawyer made her sick. To live through her abusive marriage was hard enough. Would she have to bare all the details of her twisted reality to someone…and pay them for it? Where would she get the money for that, especially since her husband was hiding his paychecks? Is your story anything like this? I get the hesitation. The fear, the dread, and disgust. Bringing somebody else into your messy life is humiliating. But (and this is a really big but(t)), ...
We Are Like the God We Worship
May 18, 2022 04:01 - 29 minutes - 68.5 MBI have a confession. I’m a recovering asshole. Years ago, I had a friend. Her husband cheated on her. Then, he did it again. He kept cheating on her. He wasn’t sorry. Do you know what I told her to do? Stay with him. Pray and stay. Worse, I was proud to tell her this advice. Because I was God’s girl scout, and I knew best. Now, I can easily imagine the grief and further pain my words and assumptions added to her heartbreak. I thought everything was black and white. A + B = ...
We Are Like the God We Worship [171]
May 18, 2022 04:01 - 29 minutes - 68.5 MBI have a confession. I’m a recovering asshole. Years ago, I had a friend. Her husband cheated on her. Then, he did it again. He kept cheating on her. He wasn’t sorry. Do you know what I told her to do? Stay with him. Pray and stay. Worse, I was proud to tell her this advice. Because I was God’s girl scout, and I knew best. Now, I can easily imagine the grief and further pain my words and assumptions added to her heartbreak. I thought everything was black and white. A + B = ...
Does the Bible Say I Have to Give My Abusive Husband Sex on Demand?
May 10, 2022 17:30 - 22 minutes - 51.6 MBYou’re not a toaster. No matter what you've been taught by religious leaders, you’re not a thing to be used. No matter what you’ve been told by your husband, you’re not an appliance to be owned. No matter what you’ve come to believe about yourself, you’re not property — at the mercy of a spouse who wants toast on demand. If you've found yourself tormented over how you’re treated in your marriage, especially when it comes to sex, and you waver between disgust and despairing “su...
Does the Bible Say I Have to Give My Abusive Husband Sex on Demand? [170]
May 10, 2022 17:30 - 22 minutes - 51.6 MBYou’re not a toaster. No matter what you've been taught by religious leaders, you’re not a thing to be used. No matter what you’ve been told by your husband, you’re not an appliance to be owned. No matter what you’ve come to believe about yourself, you’re not property — at the mercy of a spouse who wants toast on demand. If you've found yourself tormented over how you’re treated in your marriage, especially when it comes to sex, and you waver between disgust and despairing “su...
Different Ways Emotional Abusers Don't Take Responsibility for Their Behavior [169]
May 03, 2022 17:30 - 32 minutes - 73.9 MB"He wants to treat me better. He just doesn’t know how." "He says he’s sorry. He really hates how he acts." "He’s struggling. He can’t help it." Do you have these thoughts about your husband? Have these thoughts led to anything good? More peace? Change (on his part)? Hope that lasts? A better marriage? A never-ending bucket of fried chicken? Didn’t think so. I have some other thoughts to offer. You can take them or leave them. They might seem cynical and hopeless on the surfa...
Different Ways Emotional Abusers Don't Take Responsibility for Their Behavior
May 03, 2022 17:30 - 32 minutes - 73.9 MB"He wants to treat me better. He just doesn’t know how." "He says he’s sorry. He really hates how he acts." "He’s struggling. He can’t help it." Do you have these thoughts about your husband? Have these thoughts led to anything good? More peace? Change (on his part)? Hope that lasts? A better marriage? A never-ending bucket of fried chicken? Didn’t think so. I have some other thoughts to offer. You can take them or leave them. They might seem cynical and hopeless on the surfa...
The Worst Things People Say to Justify, Minimize, and Excuse the Abuse You’ve Experienced
April 26, 2022 17:30 - 27 minutes - 24.9 MBI have two presents for you. One is a regift. The other is brand-spanking, hot-off-the-waffle-press new. First, I compiled some of the best (and by “best” I mean absolute trash and worst) things people say to Christian women in abusive marriages when they seek help or divorce. Second, I’m giving you a comeback. A burn-it-to-the-ground, shred-it-to-cheddar-cheese, drop-the-mic, break-the-wrist-and-walk-away comeback for every single one. I know how hard it is to stand before ...
The Worst Things People Say to Justify, Minimize, and Excuse the Abuse You’ve Experienced [168]
April 26, 2022 17:30 - 27 minutes - 24.9 MBI have two presents for you. One is a regift. The other is brand-spanking, hot-off-the-waffle-press new. First, I compiled some of the best (and by “best” I mean absolute trash and worst) things people say to Christian women in abusive marriages when they seek help or divorce. Second, I’m giving you a comeback. A burn-it-to-the-ground, shred-it-to-cheddar-cheese, drop-the-mic, break-the-wrist-and-walk-away comeback for every single one. I know how hard it is to stand before ...
Am I Responsible for Fixing My Husband? [167]
April 19, 2022 17:30 - 38 minutes - 87.1 MBIf you break abuse down to the nitty-gritty, at its heart is something called “emotional childhood.” Abusers think everybody should make their life work. Everyone should cater to their whims. Everybody is responsible for their emotions. For fixing them, moment by moment. They shouldn’t have to do anything. Like a stunted emotional child. If you’re a wife in this situation, you come to believe that you are supposed to fix your husband. You think you’re the only one who can (and tha...
Am I Responsible for Fixing My Husband?
April 19, 2022 17:30 - 38 minutes - 87.1 MBIf you break abuse down to the nitty-gritty, at its heart is something called “emotional childhood.” Abusers think everybody should make their life work. Everyone should cater to their whims. Everybody is responsible for their emotions. For fixing them, moment by moment. They shouldn’t have to do anything. Like a stunted emotional child. If you’re a wife in this situation, you come to believe that you are supposed to fix your husband. You think you’re the only one who can (and tha...
How Churches Can Help Abuse Victims (And How They Often Hurt Them Instead)
April 12, 2022 17:30 - 29 minutes - 68.2 MBIt’s hammer time. I’ve broken down the problems churches face when abuse victims come forward (along with how churches usually react). Then, I smash through the fallacies their hurtful behavior is constructed on. Finally, I provide the building blocks of how to respond to abuse like Jesus did, so the church can be a tool of healing instead of just…tools. Cause there’s no point in demoing a building if you don’t intend to build something better. Here’s how the real church shoul...
How Churches Can Help Abuse Victims (And How They Often Hurt Them Instead) [166]
April 12, 2022 17:30 - 29 minutes - 68.2 MBIt’s hammer time. I’ve broken down the problems churches face when abuse victims come forward (along with how churches usually react). Then, I smash through the fallacies their hurtful behavior is constructed on. Finally, I provide the building blocks of how to respond to abuse like Jesus did, so the church can be a tool of healing instead of just…tools. Cause there’s no point in demoing a building if you don’t intend to build something better. Here’s how the real church shoul...
How Do I Know What Is Real or True When My Husband Gaslights Me? [165]
April 05, 2022 17:30 - 23 minutes - 53.4 MBIs the last thing you googled, “Am I crazy?” or “Why does my husband hate me?” or the literal title of this episode? Bleh. Living in such horrible, constant confusion can make us obsessive. Not crazy obsessive. The “desperate for answers” kind. The “I’m living in purgatory and I hate it!” kind. The “Is it me even though I’m trying so hard?” kind. If you’re looking for a fixed point of reference—a way to know what’s real and true, then you’ve stumbled across something better than...
How Do I Know What Is Real or True When My Husband Gaslights Me?
April 05, 2022 17:30 - 23 minutes - 53.4 MBIs the last thing you googled, “Am I crazy?” or “Why does my husband hate me?” or the literal title of this episode? Bleh. Living in such horrible, constant confusion can make us obsessive. Not crazy obsessive. The “desperate for answers” kind. The “I’m living in purgatory and I hate it!” kind. The “Is it me even though I’m trying so hard?” kind. If you’re looking for a fixed point of reference—a way to know what’s real and true, then you’ve stumbled across something better than...
How Not to Be an Ass: Interview with Author Andrew Bauman
March 29, 2022 17:30 - 43 minutes - 99.4 MB“How Not to Be a Meanie” doesn’t hit the same, does it? “How Not to Act Out Patriarchal Theology, AKA ‘A Chocolate-Covered Turd’” is probably too long. And Andrew Bauman wants to get the attention of men who have bought into domination and called it love, and control and called it protection. The men who feel entitled to women’s bodies and minds and service, all in the name of God. Asses. How does he tackle the problem? One donkey-sized piece at a time. This jam-packed episode...
How Not to Be an Ass [164]
March 29, 2022 17:30 - 43 minutes - 99.4 MB“How Not to Be a Meanie” doesn’t hit the same, does it? “How Not to Act Out Patriarchal Theology, AKA ‘A Chocolate-Covered Turd’” is probably too long. And Andrew Bauman wants to get the attention of men who have bought into domination and called it love, and control and called it protection. The men who feel entitled to women’s bodies and minds and service, all in the name of God. Asses. How does he tackle the problem? One donkey-sized piece at a time. This jam-packed episode...
The One About God and Religion and Hell
March 22, 2022 17:30 - 31 minutes - 71.3 MBThis may be controversial for some of my audience. Twenty years ago, I may have unsubscribed, not understanding what this was actually about. What IS this about? It’s about Who God is. It’s about representing Him well. That’s what Jesus did, and that is our calling, as Christians. This is about the way we view God and how our view impacts the way we live our lives. We either honor the truth about God’s character or we tell a lie about God’s character. This is about a lie I use...
The One About God and Religion and Hell [163]
March 22, 2022 17:30 - 31 minutes - 71.3 MBThis may be controversial for some of my audience. Twenty years ago, I may have unsubscribed, not understanding what this was actually about. What IS this about? It’s about Who God is. It’s about representing Him well. That’s what Jesus did, and that is our calling, as Christians. This is about the way we view God and how our view impacts the way we live our lives. We either honor the truth about God’s character or we tell a lie about God’s character. This is about a lie I use...
What If I Had an Affair While I Was Married to My Abusive Husband?
March 15, 2022 17:30 - 22 minutes - 51.7 MBDid you know that abuse has a bestie? Its sneaky little friend is Shame. Shame is a talkative fellow but very dependable. He hangs on your earlobes and yells: “You’re not perfect, so you can’t point out your husband’s faults.” “You yelled back, so you expect him to stop.” “You pull away emotionally, so you can’t get angry when he stonewalls.” “You hit him after he hit you, so you deserved it.” “You found comfort in someone else’s arms, so you’re just as bad as him.” “You h...
What If I Had an Affair While I Was Married to My Abusive Husband? [162]
March 15, 2022 17:30 - 22 minutes - 51.7 MBDid you know that abuse has a bestie? Its sneaky little friend is Shame. Shame is a talkative fellow but very dependable. He hangs on your earlobes and yells: “You’re not perfect, so you can’t point out your husband’s faults.” “You yelled back, so you expect him to stop.” “You pull away emotionally, so you can’t get angry when he stonewalls.” “You hit him after he hit you, so you deserved it.” “You found comfort in someone else’s arms, so you’re just as bad as him.” “You h...
The Woman They Could Not Silence: Interview with Author Kate Moore
March 08, 2022 17:30 - 39 minutes - 91.3 MBImagine a world where women are property. Where they have no rights — not even to defend themselves against abuse or to claim ownership over their minds…to declare, for instance, that they are not insane. That they shouldn’t be held prisoner in an insane asylum because they disagreed with their husband. That horrifying world you imagined? You're living in it. Of the countless women who’ve gone before you, Elizabeth Packard stands out as one who fought for the oppressed and the ...
The Woman They Could Not Silence [161]
March 08, 2022 17:30 - 39 minutes - 91.3 MBImagine a world where women are property. Where they have no rights — not even to defend themselves against abuse or to claim ownership over their minds…to declare, for instance, that they are not insane. That they shouldn’t be held prisoner in an insane asylum because they disagreed with their husband. That horrifying world you imagined? You're living in it. Of the countless women who’ve gone before you, Elizabeth Packard stands out as one who fought for the oppressed and the ...
An Emotional Recovery Tool That Changes Everything
March 01, 2022 17:30 - 40 minutes - 91.9 MBThe only reason I’m where I am today — divorced from an abusive husband, healed, remarried to a good man, helping others, and thriving — is because of one simple tool. I share it in Flying Free and Flying Higher, my online coaching, education, and support communities that are worth their weight in fat-melting chocolate (please science, make this real). Today, I'm sharing the best thing I have. You get a free, front-row seat to this show. Prepare yourself. Cause I absolutely sta...
An Emotional Recovery Tool That Changes Everything [160]
March 01, 2022 17:30 - 40 minutes - 91.9 MBThe only reason I’m where I am today — divorced from an abusive husband, healed, remarried to a good man, helping others, and thriving — is because of one simple tool. I share it in Flying Free and Flying Higher, my online coaching, education, and support communities that are worth their weight in fat-melting chocolate (please science, make this real). Today, I'm sharing the best thing I have. You get a free, front-row seat to this show. Prepare yourself. Cause I absolutely sta...
Ten Thoughts Confident Women Think When Their Husbands Act Like Jerks [159]
February 22, 2022 17:30 - 28 minutes - 64.3 MBIt’s a beautiful sight, isn’t it? A grown man throwing a tantrum. Stomping around, calling you names, slamming doors. Hits you right in the feels, eh? Or maybe he’s the quiet type of mean. Stonewalling. Sleeping for days. Leaving for hours without warning. However a husband’s jerky behavior manifests, most Christian wives are taught to respond the same ways: Assume you’re the problem. Feel shame. Assume you have to endure his behavior. Feel despair. Assume you have to make...
Ten Thoughts Confident Women Think When Their Husbands Act Like Jerks
February 22, 2022 17:30 - 28 minutes - 64.3 MBIt’s a beautiful sight, isn’t it? A grown man throwing a tantrum. Stomping around, calling you names, slamming doors. Hits you right in the feels, eh? Or maybe he’s the quiet type of mean. Stonewalling. Sleeping for days. Leaving for hours without warning. However a husband’s jerky behavior manifests, most Christian wives are taught to respond the same ways: Assume you’re the problem. Feel shame. Assume you have to endure his behavior. Feel despair. Assume you have to make...
How Will I Know When Enough Is Enough and I Can Walk Away? [158]
February 15, 2022 17:30 - 15 minutes - 36 MB“He doesn’t even have to be kind. I just wish he wouldn’t make every waking moment a nightmare. What else can I do?” she said into the phone. “I don’t know,” her sister said. “You’ve done counseling. And prayed. Asked pastors for help. Read books. Been quiet. Spoken up. Given more sex. You’ve borne the consequences of all his poor choices. You’ve pushed your health to the brink to serve him. For years.” “But I haven’t fasted and prayed for a straight month,” she murmured. “THIS I...
How Will I Know When Enough Is Enough and I Can Walk Away?
February 15, 2022 17:30 - 15 minutes - 36 MB“He doesn’t even have to be kind. I just wish he wouldn’t make every waking moment a nightmare. What else can I do?” she said into the phone. “I don’t know,” her sister said. “You’ve done counseling. And prayed. Asked pastors for help. Read books. Been quiet. Spoken up. Given more sex. You’ve borne the consequences of all his poor choices. You’ve pushed your health to the brink to serve him. For years.” “But I haven’t fasted and prayed for a straight month,” she murmured. “THIS I...
How Do You Break the Cycle of Emotional and Spiritual Abuse? [157]
February 08, 2022 17:30 - 16 minutes - 21.4 MBHit it with a hammer. Done. If only it were that easy. In reality, the cycle of emotional and spiritual abuse feels like a freight train rushing down the tracks of your everyday. An unstoppable force. And if you stand in its way, you’ll be run down. A sad little pancake beholden to the destructive patterns you’ve existed in since…who knows when. My dear. You forgot about two things. First: You can’t stop that train. Second: You don’t need to stop that train to heal and be ...
How Do You Break the Cycle of Emotional and Spiritual Abuse?
February 08, 2022 17:30 - 16 minutes - 21.4 MBHit it with a hammer. Done. If only it were that easy. In reality, the cycle of emotional and spiritual abuse feels like a freight train rushing down the tracks of your everyday. An unstoppable force. And if you stand in its way, you’ll be run down. A sad little pancake beholden to the destructive patterns you’ve existed in since…who knows when. My dear. You forgot about two things. First: You can’t stop that train. Second: You don’t need to stop that train to heal and be ...
What Are the Biblical Grounds for Divorce? (And Other Questions!) [156]
February 01, 2022 17:30 - 24 minutes - 55.2 MBAre you confused over whether you have legitimate grounds for divorce? How should you respond to people who claim you’re cynical and oversensitive when you try to speak against emotional and spiritual abuse? What’s the best way to handle family members, especially children, who think you’re the bad guy in your abusive marriage? What if you’re separated but you just aren’t ready to divorce…and the clock keeps ticking? Limbo is a fun party game…and a lousy place to live. So let m...
What Are the Biblical Grounds for Divorce? (And Other Questions!)
February 01, 2022 17:30 - 24 minutes - 55.2 MBAre you confused over whether you have legitimate grounds for divorce? How should you respond to people who claim you’re cynical and oversensitive when you try to speak against emotional and spiritual abuse? What’s the best way to handle family members, especially children, who think you’re the bad guy in your abusive marriage? What if you’re separated but you just aren’t ready to divorce…and the clock keeps ticking? Limbo is a fun party game…and a lousy place to live. So let m...
Why Gary Thomas' Book, Married Sex, Is Harmful for Christian Women
January 25, 2022 17:30 - 47 minutes - 109 MBIf your husband was sick, would you make yourself ill to help him? If he was starving himself, would you stop eating? If he was an alcoholic, would you start drinking to show support…or supply the liquor…or drive under the influence, so he wouldn’t feel alone? In the hopes that he’d do better? Gary Thomas’ book, Married Sex, is filled with bad advice and horrifying claims just as ridiculous and harmful and dysfunctional as poisoning yourself to try to make a loved one healthy. ...
When Wolves Play Dress Up
January 18, 2022 17:30 - 21 minutes - 48.7 MBIs your husband great at playing dress up? One moment, usually in public, he speaks sweetly, cuddles the baby, and prays over your family. The next moment, usually in the privacy of your home, he glares at you, yells in disgust, and gives you the silent treatment. He’s the sun and a raging storm. He’s heaven and hell. He’s…? How do you figure out reality? How do you come to terms with the oil and water of who he is? And what do you do when nobody believes that he and others...