The Worst Things People Say to Justify, Minimize, and Excuse the Abuse You’ve Experienced [168]

I have two presents for you.

One is a regift. The other is brand-spanking, hot-off-the-waffle-press new. 

First, I compiled some of the best (and by “best” I mean absolute trash and worst) things people say to Christian women in abusive marriages when they seek help or divorce. 

Second, I’m giving you a comeback. A burn-it-to-the-ground, shred-it-to-cheddar-cheese, drop-the-mic, break-the-wrist-and-walk-away comeback for every single one.  

I know how hard it is to stand before people who attack your character, deny your reality, determine your destiny, and demand your unquestioning allegiance…to your own destruction (in this case…as a married woman). The endless, useless, conflicting platitudes they give instead of real help and logical advice. 

I also know how gutted you feel, how tongue-tied and mind-mushed you are when people spout off what sounds holy and bossy and right but is actually idiotic and damaging. 

So unwrap your presents (press play) and revel in the ridiculous while I slaughter these silly arguments once and for all. 

And you can regift these babies with my blessing. 

In this episode:

The stupid strawman: “It takes two to tango.”The annoying adage: “You’re not perfect either.” The pointless platitude: “Christians are called to suffer well.” The ridiculous reasoning: “Hurt people, hurt people.”The airheaded argument: “Your husband isn’t acting like a Christian, so he’s now your mission field.”Cooking-with-gas comebacks for these…and more. 

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