100% Guilt-Free Self-Care
242 episodes - English - Latest episode: 1 day ago - ★★★★★ - 39 ratings100% Guilt-Free Self-Care because you know you need it to live your best life and feeling guilty isn’t helping you do it. You may believe self-care is selfish. It isn’t. You may believe you are broken. You aren’t. From exercise to mindset to books that will change your life, Tami is here to remind you that you matter and self-care is the foundation to your dream life.
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Episode 233: Feeling Good About Saying No
July 11, 2024 06:22 - 1 hour - 97.6 MBShow notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-233 This week in the 2024 Summer Podcast Series, we are headed way into the archives back to episode 11 of the 100% Guilt-Free Self-Care podcast: How to Say No the Wholehearted Way with Rosie Molinary. Rosie is one of my dearest friends and teachers. She writes life changing books, creates beautiful pieces of art and tells a damn good story. Rosie is the creator of the Summer of Intentionality and her lessons in using her time int...
EP 232: Why Fill Your Cup Before 💩 Hits the Fan
July 04, 2024 07:54 - 12 minutes - 17.3 MBShow notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-232 I have such a complicated relationship with the 4th of July. It is my mom’s birthday and she’s been gone 9 years. She would be so proud of the life and business I have built helping women with self-care and rebalancing the domestic labor at home while also helping to create more equity in the US. I am so sorry she isn’t here to see it. Independence Day hits differently for me now. Living through historical times is no joke. The ...
EP 231: Laughing and Learning Throughout Motherhood with Tara Clark of Modern Mom Probs
June 27, 2024 06:58 - 57 minutes - 78.5 MBShow notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-231 How are you? Any vacation plans to share? I would love to hear about your trips, your traditions and how you spend your time away from home when you get it. I didn’t grow up with yearly vacations so this is all new territory for me. Please share! Are you on Threads? I am one of those weirdos that loves meeting new people on social media platforms, so when it started I jumped right in. It reminds me of what Twitter was back in the...
EP 230: More Time Means More Joy with Christine Landis of Peacock Parenting
June 20, 2024 07:12 - 1 hour - 91.8 MBShow notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-230 Our guest this week used to work in corporate America and this is what she had to say about becoming a parent: Most people want to leave work behind when they get home, but I found myself leaning into the leadership qualities from my past work life. I naturally turned to experts, built teams to support my partner and me, and recognized that I valued my time differently than every other parent I knew. And interestingly, I seemed t...
EP 229: The One To Call When You Need An Assistant with Ashley Chang CEO of Sundays
June 14, 2024 02:56 - 1 hour - 92.5 MBShow notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-229 How are you? Remember that time in the 90s when Hilary Clinton said it takes a village to raise a child? It turns out she had visited Africa and that it is a very common African proverb attributed to her, but I digress... I could sorta see it then, but the notion that we are all interconnected and rely on one another in small and big ways has been made clear especially during the pandemic. Family Success Team is a term I came u...
EP 228: Is It Me or ADHD with Patricia Sung of Motherhood in ADHD
June 07, 2024 17:18 - 1 hour - 151 MBShow notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-228 (We had some technical difficulties last week, so here’s what would have happened if we didn’t.) We are counting down the days until school's out for the summer break and also until the first day of school. Eight and 75 respectively. Last week, I shared the Summer of Intentionality with you, and we have been implementing those plans to squeeze the most out of the season. If you’d like to create a memorable summer for your fami...
EP 227: What’s Saving My Life Right Now + The Best Summer Ever
May 31, 2024 16:20 - 23 minutes - 31.7 MBShow notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-227 May was a LOT. I am so happy to be heading into the summer season to make some memories, finish some projects, read a lot and spend time with my family. Around here we call this season the Summer of Intentionality. I learned about it from my pal Rosie Molinary. Rosie met a boy at a college party who could recite long poems from memory. She was impressed and asked him how he was able to do it. His answer is what became the SOI....
EP 226: Everyone Has Stories to Tell with April Pertuis
May 23, 2024 07:07 - 1 hour - 107 MBShow notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-226 In this week’s podcast I am talking all things storytelling and speaking with someone who has decades of experience. Meet April.
EP 225: Failure, Addiction and the Long Game with Jess Lahey
May 16, 2024 07:37 - 1 hour - 86.1 MBShow notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-225 One of the most pivotal life choices I ever made was changing my career from politics to teaching. [You can read about my unconventional career path]. Before studying to be a teacher I had a very fixed mindset. I believed that people were smart or not. I believed that you were born with it or you weren’t. I believed failure was the end of the line and the worst thing that could happen. The philosophical nature of my yoga pract...
EP 224: Beyond Your Wildest Dreams with Melissa Llarena
May 09, 2024 07:11 - 1 hour - 106 MBShow notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-224 I have been meeting with tons of interesting women doing amazing work in the world, taking a class on branding, preparing for a couple of speaking events and handling some big parenting challenges. In other words, I am ready for a little R&R this weekend for Mother’s Day. So many have told me lately that all they want for Mother's Day is some silence and solitude, perhaps a meal they don’t have to think about or clean up after...
EP 223: Life Beyond The Classroom with Sara Torpey
May 03, 2024 07:00 - 1 hour - 111 MBShow notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-223 Welcome to Maycember! If you are a parent or teacher you know that May is just as busy as December (thank you Holderness family). It’s also the season when we start looking towards summer break and beyond. Are you a teacher, helper or giver with something to teach? Would you like to make income from your ideas? This week’s podcast guest Sara Torpey can teach you how to do just that.
EP 222: What Self-Care is Decades Into Your Life with author Jennifer Louden
April 25, 2024 01:59 - 1 hour - 93.1 MBShow notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-222 Have you read You Can Heal Your Life? I only understood about every third word, but one big takeaway is: change is possible and you have the power to make it happen. I was sold on the concept, but I needed something a bit more practical to help me in my everyday life. Then I found this book, and everything changed. It set me on the path I am on today. The Women’s Comfort Book: A Self-Nurturing Guide for Restoring Balance in...
EP 221: Five Years!
April 19, 2024 07:30 - 25 minutes - 35.5 MBShow notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-221 Five years ago I published my first 100% Guilt-Free Self-Care episode. I promised myself I would release a season because I knew I had ten things about self-care I wanted to share with you. I had no idea what the show would grow into. 🤯 Over the five years, we have learned from so many authors I admire. We have seen how self-care impacts women in all kinds of industries and professions. Deep dives into Enneagram and Getting ...
EP 220: Organizing The ADHD Home with Kat Green of Badass Homelife
April 12, 2024 07:10 - 1 hour - 125 MBShow notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-220 Today's guest is Kat Green, she's a perpetually curious and laid-back individual, a minimalist, and the proud owner of Badass Homelife. She is an ADHD Organizing Specialist and absolutely loves helping neurospicy folks find systems that work for them. I hope you’ll give my interview with Kat a listen.
EP 219: Sharing Our Stuff and Adult Friendships with author Laura Tremaine
April 04, 2024 07:54 - 1 hour - 117 MBShow notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-219 After I attended an author's panel last year I introduced myself to Laura Tremaine. It was a super nerdy moment for me because I love her books and podcasts. I love her storytelling. I am super intrigued by her. Our backgrounds are very different—she grew up in very conservative Oklahoma, and I grew up in the liberal San Francisco Bay Area. But she moved to Los Angeles in her 20s and has talked about how that has impacted her. ...
EP 218: More Equity for Everyone with Fair Play author Eve Rodsky
March 28, 2024 07:03 - 1 hour - 125 MBShow notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-218 For more than a decade, I have been talking to people about self-care. Some would say I am a self-care evangelist because it saved my life. It is the only thing that keeps us from being burnt out. It is the fuel for feeling good enough in your life to keep going in our desire to make the world a better place. “I don’t have enough time” is one of the most often expressed reasons why women aren’t doing the self-care that they need....
EP 217: My Birthday Wish for Us
March 22, 2024 07:58 - 33 minutes - 45.8 MBShow notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-217 It’s my birthday week, and I am having a lot of feelings. Spring feels like another new year; it is election season, and I am now entering my mid-50s. Now seems like a good time to share my birthday wishes with you. You can find them in this week’s podcast episode. Some may surprise you, and others may not.
EP 216: Telling Your Story Without You Being There with Calvina Nguyen
March 14, 2024 07:51 - 1 hour - 107 MBShow notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-216 I’ve got moms on the brain. Yesterday was the 9th anniversary of my mom’s death and I am so bummed she isn’t here to see how well I am doing, how much my daughter is growing and how the world is changing for the better. She would 100% be my biggest cheerleader in my work. I even talked a lot about moms in this week’s podcast. I interviewed Calvina Nguyen of Your Brand Spark. Calvina was born in China and moved to the US when she ...
EP 215: Redefining Media and Midlife with Jennifer Cooper
March 07, 2024 07:31 - 1 hour - 101 MBShow notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-215 How are you this late winter transitioning into spring? This week in my Facebook group I asked what magazines people read when they were in their teens and early 20s. Turns out a lot of us read Seventeen. Lots of others read Sassy and Jane. Ms. Magazine, Bitch, Bust got some shoutouts and even the ever-nerdy Utne Reader. Those magazines helped us feel less alone. We could find out what other GenXers or Millennials across the co...
EP 214: Money Freedom with Maureen Paley
February 29, 2024 08:00 - 1 hour - 106 MBShote notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-214 In this week’s podcast, Maureen Paley of the Financial Autonomy for Women podcast and I got a chance to talk about all things money and self-care. Money is a touchy topic for a lot of women. Given our very recent history of being able to have credit in our own names, loans without a male co-signer, and the ability to purchase property to build generational wealth, it makes perfect sense that we struggle when it comes to money. ...
EP 213: Creating Greater Impact with Melissa Camilleri of Stand for the And
February 22, 2024 07:36 - 1 hour - 113 MBShow notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-213 Melissa Camilleri is the Co-founder of Stand for the And Education Company and the Impact Incubator. With over 20 years as a credentialed educator, a professional leader in training and development, and a decade in digital marketing, Melissa guides successful service providers to maximize their impact and their income with one-to-many offers. Over the last five years alone, she and her business partner, Angela Greaser, have hel...
EP 212: Letting Go of Mom Guilt with JoAnn Crohn of No Guilt Mom
February 15, 2024 08:41 - 1 hour - 97.3 MBShow notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-212 In this week’s podcast, I got a chance to interview Joann Crohn from No Guilt Mom.
EP 211: What Is Saving My Life Right Now
February 08, 2024 08:58 - 22 minutes - 31.2 MBAll this rain in Northern California has reminded me that we are still six weeks out from spring and my urge to curl up with my cat, a blanket and a book make total sense. No need to rush because spring will be here soon enough. Over in my Facebook group I asked everyone what is saving your life this week. The answers were varied and I got some great ideas for my own list. In this week’s podcast, I am sharing What Is Saving My Life.
EP 210: You Are Never Too Late
January 25, 2024 07:28 - 12 minutes - 17 MBShow notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-210 In this week’s podcast, I am sharing my thoughts on being behind and not feeling like you have enough time. Show links: Take Back Your Time Challenge Deferred Maintenance + Fair Play
EP 209: Goals You’ll Crush in 2024
January 18, 2024 21:49 - 13 minutes - 18.6 MBShow notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-209 In this week’s podcast, I am sharing my thoughts on goal setting. Show links: Take Back Your Time Challenge Deferred Maintenance + Fair Play
EP 208: A Little Happier in 2024
January 12, 2024 11:04 - 15 minutes - 21.4 MBShow notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-208 During this time of year, I let myself rest while I ponder what I want in the new year. This time of year I am all about laying the foundation for the year by day dreaming and planting seeds. Later in the spring when there is more light and action energy I will get to making those dreams into reality. In other words, a slow start to a new year still allows plenty of time for reaching goals and changing habits. In this week’s p...
EP 207: Seven Reminders to Myself You Can Borrow if You Need to as We Start the New Year
January 05, 2024 09:08 - 29 minutes - 39.8 MBI don’t know about you, but my 2023 was HARD. People I love were displaced by flooding, tree damage and other consequences from historic weather events. I had so many health related issues that came with pain and we had way more sickness than usual. It felt like one thing after another, so I am happy to have a fresh start. Even though I believe we can hit reset any time, 2023 felt like it needed a hard reset. In this week’s podcast, I am sharing seven reminders to myself you can bo...
EP 206: Fair Play Isn’t Just for Families
December 14, 2023 11:50 - 15 minutes - 21 MBShow notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-206 Lately, I have been getting so many questions about how to make Fair Play work in fill-in-the-blank living situation/family structure that I have been thinking about how all of my living situations could have been made so much easier and better if I’d had this framework. I don’t know about you, but I could have used some guidance and/or direct instruction about how to take care of a house. I had chores growing up and learned some...
EP 205: How Fair Play Helped Me Not Hate My Husband at the Holidays
December 07, 2023 08:56 - 18 minutes - 24.8 MBShow notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-205 In this week’s podcast, I how CPE helped me not hate my husband at the holidays.
EP 204: NOvember Wrap Up
November 30, 2023 08:51 - 16 minutes - 22.4 MBShow notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-204 In this week’s podcast, I am sharing a few of the benefits of saying NO.
EP 203: Three Free Gifts for Your Family and Friends
November 23, 2023 08:09 - 10 minutes - 15 MBShow notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-203 I am sharing a few conversation starters that have helped my family feel loved and appreciated this fall.
EP 202: Holiday Gift Guide
November 16, 2023 07:57 - 17 minutes - 23.6 MBShow notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-202 In this week’s podcast, I am sharing some things on my gift wishlist and other things I highly recommend because I already have them and love them.
EP 201: Invisible Work: Valuing & Rebalancing The Mental Load at the Holidays
November 09, 2023 08:35 - 18 minutes - 25.7 MBShow notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-201 In this week’s podcast, we are about how we can make the invisible work visible and we can rebalance the mental load.
EP 200: NOvember - The Beginning of the Busiest Season of the Year
November 02, 2023 07:51 - 18 minutes - 25.4 MBShow notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-200 In this week’s podcast, we are diving into the intersection between NOvember and rebalancing the mental load at home during the holiday season. Show links: Fair Play Interest List
EP 199: What If Superwoman Married a Giant Kid
October 26, 2023 13:51 - 22 minutes - 30.7 MBShow notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-199 In this week’s podcast, we are back to the Fair Play Fall Series and diving into the roles we play in our partnerships. Knowing what role each person is bringing to the Fair Play game can help us see how we can invite our partner into the conversation, ultimately, that can help us navigate taking care of our families in a more equitable way. No matter if you find yourself married to a Giant Kid, a Traditionalist, a Where’s the Bu...
EP 198: Get This Off My Plate
October 19, 2023 07:12 - 20 minutes - 28.2 MBShow notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-198 In this week’s podcast, we are returning to the Fair Play Fall Series and diving into the concept surrounding “help” at home and the notion of fairness. Show links: Fair Play Interest List
EP 197: Microjoys: Finding Hope (Especially) When Life Is Not Okay with Cyndie Spiegel
October 12, 2023 07:05 - 1 hour - 89.6 MBShow notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-197 In this week’s podcast, we are taking an intermission from the Fair Play Fall Series and diving into the concept of Microjoys with Cyndie Spiegel. Show links: Fair Play Interest List
EP 196: Minimum Standard of Care
September 28, 2023 10:00 - 18 minutes - 25.4 MBShow notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-196 In this week’s podcast, the Fair Play Fall Series continues. I am digging into living your values and the Minimum Standard of Care in the Fair Play System. Show links: Fair Play Interest List
EP 195: Never Ending To-Do List
September 21, 2023 06:01 - 21 minutes - 29.6 MBShow notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-195 No one wants one more giant time-sensitive thing on their to-do list. Speaking of to-do lists…what’s on yours? At home,3 no doubt you are dealing with at least some of this: Dealing with the mail Paying bills Grocery shopping Home goods shopping Home maintenance Dishes Laundry Pets Garbage Cleaning Cooking weekday and weekend meals Calendar keeper Childcare outside the home Watching kids inside the home Transpo...
EP 194: Time Is the Greatest Fight You Will Ever Have
September 14, 2023 07:43 - 25 minutes - 35.4 MBShow notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-194 In this week’s podcast, the Fair Play Fall Series continues. I am diving into the toxic time messages we’ve internalized and how Fair Play can help. I hope you’ll give it a listen. You can find all the episodes and show notes at www.tamihackbarth.com/podcast Show links: Fair Play Interest List
EP 193: Data, Definitions and a Big Call In
September 07, 2023 08:30 - 25 minutes - 34.7 MBShow notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-193 In this week’s podcast, the Fair Play Fall Series continues. I am diving into the data around unpaid labor and the beliefs we need to unlearn in order to create more equity in our homes. It isn’t a fight between genders because we all suffer under the current system. I hope you’ll give it a listen. You can find all the episodes and show notes at www.tamihackbarth.com/podcast. Show links: Fair Play Interest List
EP 192: Wouldn’t It Be Nice to Have Time for Yourself
September 01, 2023 07:44 - 19 minutes - 27.2 MBShow notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-192 In this week’s podcast, I am happy to introduce you to the why behind the Fair Play Method. It isn’t just splitting up domestic labor more equitably so we create a more balanced workload. It is also about creating Unicorn Space for all the adults in the household. I hope you’ll give it a listen. You deserve Unicorn Space of your own, and Fair Play gives you the tools to get it. Show links: Fair Play Interest List
EP 191: It’s Not Just You. It’s Time for Fair Play.
August 24, 2023 07:28 - 27 minutes - 37.3 MBShow notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-191 We are back from our annual beach redwoods vacation and seven days from starting school. For me, this week is like the one between Christmas and New Year's. The exciting stuff has happened, I am not sure what day of the week it is, and there is a whole lot of New Year energy swirling around. This week used to be the worst week of the year for me. My teacher spouse returned to work, and I was left without any childcare. I...
EP 190: Make That Appointment. Your Future Self Will Thank You.
August 17, 2023 19:35 - 1 minute - 2.11 MBHello from Humboldt County, California! I am at the beach this week enjoying some cool coastal fresh air, reading under an umbrella, and walking in the redwoods. Our annual summer vacation is so relaxing and restorative. We stay at the same place, so we know what to expect, and it makes packing and unpacking so easy. We follow the same daily rhythm of breakfast at home, adventure in the morning, lunch out, quiet time in the afternoon, and dinner at home. We mix in old fav...
EP 189: How to Be An Adult (from the archives)
August 10, 2023 06:27 - 56 minutes - 77.9 MBShow notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-189 Is it just me, or do you also sometimes look for the how to be a grown up manual? Growing up in the 70s and 80s I had to figure out a lot of stuff on my own — without Google or YouTube or even a ride to the library often enough to keep up with my questions. Quite frankly I don’t know if I was qualified for the job 🤣🤣. I have even asked various therapists over the years if I am on the right track for being a good grown up. Thank...
EP 188: Summer Cooldown (from the archives)
August 03, 2023 09:48 - 11 minutes - 16 MBShow notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-188 How is it where you live? Unsurprising to anyone, it is hot, hot, hot in Sacramento. I am trying my best to roll with it, but this time of year, I am looking longingly at my boots and sweaters. I am very much looking forward to soup season. In this week’s podcast, I am resharing an episode about the best ways to cool it down in the heat. I hope you will give it a listen and share with me your tips for keeping yourself s...
EP 187: How To Make the Finances Work for What You Really Want (from the archives)
July 27, 2023 07:33 - 15 minutes - 21.2 MBShow notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-187 If I had a dollar for every time someone said, “It must be nice to be able to afford fill-in-the-blank service, product or vacation,” I would be a very rich woman. The reason I can afford so many things is (of course, generational wealth and the privilege of being college educated and white), but also, I put my money into my personal values. I value education, so I say no to spending hundreds at Target on cute home decor I don’t ...
EP 186: Books Good Enough to Read Again (from the archives)
July 20, 2023 07:00 - 28 minutes - 38.4 MBShow notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-186 In this week’s podcast, I am resharing my list of books that have made such an impact on me that I return to them over and over again. Fair Play gave me the language to work with my partner on making sure we were both taking responsibility for our house and child. We’d set out to have an equitable relationship, and even we fell into some gendered defaults. I love this book so much that I have added Fair Play Facilitator to my pro...
EP 185: Books That Changed How I Live My Life (from the archives)
July 13, 2023 07:38 - 26 minutes - 36.1 MBShow notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-185 How is your summer going? Are you enjoying the Summer of Intentionality? I hope so. I have heard from some folks that they love having a framework to make the season special even when they have a full-time non-academic job. Knowing how you want to spend your time on the longer days gives them a purpose, and that feels good. If you haven’t started yours yet, it isn’t too late! Modify the SOI and make it yours. Maybe make a sh...
EP 184: How to Have The Best Summer of Your Life (from the archives)
July 06, 2023 07:40 - 17 minutes - 23.5 MBShow notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-184 What are some of your summer rituals? We celebrate the last day of school with shave ice and breakfast out on the patio at Tower Cafe on the first day of summer break. We get together with my dad for Father's Day and leave my husband at home so he can enjoy his most treasured Father’s Day present, alone time. We sign up for the summer reading program, we visit Humboldt County and we set learning goals. Our summers are an am...