Unscrew You Parenting
150 episodes - English - Latest episode: 4 months ago - ★★★★★ - 16 ratingsThe Unscrew You Podcast is a non-parenting parenting podcast. Join host Rachel Duffy and guests as we shift your perspective on parenting and show you how to start enjoying the journey of parenthood. If you're a type-A high performer who wants to see long term positive results in and out of parenting- you’re in the right spot.
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Rebroadcast: Redefining connection
December 09, 2023 17:00 - 38 minutes - 52.8 MBLast week, we listened to the most downloaded, AKA the most favorite, episode with a guest. In this episode, let's listen again to your most favorite episode without a guest — Episode 124 Redefining Connection. Also tune in to this episode because I have some NEWS to share! Are you subscribed to the Unscrew You podcast? If you’re not, do that today. I don’t want you to miss an episode. Subscribe HERE! Want help with your family? Check out our Secret Podcast, "For the Last Time" - I...
147: Rebroadcast: Your body is your subconscious
December 03, 2023 09:00 - 59 minutes - 81.6 MBDecember is here! If you have been a follower of our podcast, you will know that this last month of the year is the time for choosing the best solo and with guest episodes from the start of the year until last week's episode. In this latest episode of The Unscrew You podcast, listen again to the most downloaded episode with guest: Episode 128 Your body is your subconscious with Dr. Luke Sniewsky. Tune in! Are you subscribed to the Unscrew You podcast? If you’re not, do that today....
Regulating AND Feeling
November 26, 2023 12:00 - 9 minutes - 13.5 MBDID YOU KNOW... that it is okay for children to feel the emotion that they are feeling even if they are regulated? Yes, it's true! Imagine yourself in a scenario where you got very angry and you say that you want to punch someone but you actually didn't do it. You are regulated during that time. It is the same with children! But what if they are dysregulated and they actually hit someone, hit themselves, or throw an intense tantrum? The recent episode of the ...
Mirror, Mirror on the Wall
November 19, 2023 04:00 - 12 minutes - 17.5 MBIs there a person in your life who always triggers you? It could be a friend, your boss, or one of your in-laws. Or are you the same with some of my clients who get easily triggered by their partner especially that they become defensive during an argument, they are judgmental towards you, they don't help in the house chores or in parenting your kids? In this new episode of the "The Unscrew You" podcast, I am going to guide you through an exercise that will help you underst...
How to Correct Without Shaming
November 07, 2023 13:00 - 17 minutes - 23.5 MBSaying hurtful words like "You're stupid!" or becoming physically violent like slapping or throwing objects -- these are some of the unwanted behaviors our children may show in a heated moment. In today's episode of The Unscrew You podcast, I'm going to break down for you why shaming or instilling fear can be an "easier" route to correct your child's behavior in the short term, but a devastating blow to your relationship and their self esteem in the long term. We discuss wha...
Talking about War
October 31, 2023 13:00 - 16 minutes - 22.9 MBThe conflict that is happening in Israel and Gaza brings terrible news of violence everyday. Some of our listeners are directly affected, some are indirectly affected and either way - it is still normal to feel rage or anger in the wake of so many lives destroyed. While feeling these emotions, what can you do, and how do you talk to your child about the news they saw on TV or they learned from school? In this episode of The Unscrew You podcast, let's talk about how to naviga...
Why is my Child So Dramatic?
October 24, 2023 13:00 - 18 minutes - 24.8 MBHave you noticed that sometimes your child reacts to something and it feels like their reaction doesn't match the size of the problem? Why do they have such big reactions to small matters? Why do they have all this drama? When that happens in your family, do you tend to be their ally or the first to judge them? In today's episode, let us talk about why your child is dramatic and why it is IMPORTANT to learn how to navigate these emotions with them. Are you subscribed...
How to Regulate Myself and My Child
October 17, 2023 13:00 - 20 minutes - 27.8 MBThe most common question people ask me is how to regulate themselves and their children in a heated situation. My answer varies from one person to another because there are different pathways to successful regulation. In this latest episode of the Unscrew You podcast, I am going to share one of these pathways which you can immediately practice at home! Are you subscribed to the Unscrew You podcast? If you’re not, do that today so you don’t miss when a new episode dr...
Homework Resistance
October 10, 2023 13:00 - 25 minutes - 35.2 MBHow many of you have been in a situation where you are absolutely exhausted, duct taping yourself together somehow. And then one person just asks a small ask of you but it's enough to just tip you over the edge and then you completely lose it. This goes the same with your child, who had a full day at school, who complains when it's time to do their homework. In this latest Unscrew You episode, I will give you some tips on how to connect with your child and lessen the drama c...
Remember Who You Are
October 03, 2023 13:00 - 24 minutes - 34 MBDo you catch yourself feeling resentful or angry because of your circumstances or because of someone in your life? If so, you might be unintentionally leaking your personal power....and that is the #1 culprit of resentment.... On this episode, I walk you through identifying resentment, and what to do about it once you've realized you're suffering from chronic low grade resentment, feeling stuck and unable to create the relationships you want in your life. Are you sub...
The Risks of Parenthood & Entrepreneurship with Brandon Lucero
September 26, 2023 13:00 - 1 hour - 141 MBEntrepreneurship and parenthood have a lot in common. Risks, vulnerabilities, lessons and personal growth. On today’s episode I chat with Brandon Lucero, host of the New Generation Entrepreneur podcast and founder of New Generation Mastery, an online mentorship that helps course creators and coaches increase sales by mastering their messaging. Brandon is my own mentor in messaging, he’s also a dear friend and most recently, he’s my partner in crime as I operate as COO of his company. He’...
Childhood Wounding is Normal
September 19, 2023 13:00 - 16 minutes - 22.1 MBDid you read that right? Yes you did. No, I am not talking about abuse, neglect, or the big T. I am referring to inevitable childhood wounding that occurs despite the fact that you are doing your best as a parent to provide them a happy childhood. Tune in to learn more about childhood wounding and how you can help your child navigate it. Are you subscribed to the Unscrew You podcast? If you’re not, do that today. I don’t want you to miss an episode. Subscribe HERE!...
Dysregulation Blocks Listening
September 12, 2023 13:00 - 13 minutes - 18.3 MBParenting a child between the ages of 3-12 is supposed to be the golden years of parenting. But what happens when you still feel exhausted, guilty, and ashamed because you have a child that doesn't listen to you unless you yell? Likely, this isn't your fault or your child's fault, but rather because dysregulation blocks listening and connecting. In this episode we look at possible signs of dysregulation and then talk about how to regulate your child and help them with their emotions...
Conscious Adult Relationships
September 05, 2023 13:00 - 21 minutes - 28.9 MBDo you sometimes catch yourself in an irate mood because your partner is not helping on some house chores? Are you often disappointed because your partner is doing a different way of parenting? Are you flabbergasted that your partner still keeps on doing the same mistake despite your constant reminder? This new podcast episode gives some insights on how to handle these situations and many more in your adult relationship. You might find the solution you've been lookin...
Consciousness Isn't Enough
August 29, 2023 13:00 - 10 minutes - 14.7 MBAre you aware that the way you were raised by your parents affects the way you raise your child? If your answer is yes then you have taken the first step of being a conscious parent. But not to spoil your fun, being aware is not enough. It is even worse when you are aware about it but you're not acting on it. However, I don't blame if you haven't reached the next level. It's not an easy journey to push through than just being aware. In this new Unscrew You podcast episode, I...
Summertime as a Mom, CEO & COO
August 22, 2023 13:00 - 27 minutes - 37.5 MBParenting doesn't take a break for summer! As a parent, how do you manage work and time with your kids especially when they are at home all summer long? On this episode we dive into ways you can give your kids a fun summer and handle their emotions -- and your own -- during getaway trips and especially during big family gatherings. Spoiler: Summer is an opportunity for you and your children build meaningful connection and set you up for success when school resumes. A...
Your Emotional Thermostat
August 15, 2023 13:00 - 10 minutes - 14.2 MBHey there, lovely listeners! Welcome back to another episode of The Unscrew You Podcast. Today, we're diving into a very interesting topic – the "emotional thermostat" – and how it totally relates to managing our reactions and behaviors, especially when it comes to parenting. Picture this: just like how a room thermostat keeps things comfy at a specific temperature, our emotional responses are guided by an internal emotional thermostat. So, when you're all fired up and ready to yell at the ...
Teaching kids how to manage money with Mari Collins Harris
August 08, 2023 13:00 - 42 minutes - 58.8 MBShould you give your kids an allowance? How do you control how they spend money? Is there a way for you to track their spending? Should you let them make mistakes? How do you teach them good money skills? These questions and more are explored this week in the conversation I had with Mari Collins Harris. Mari is a passionate entrepreneur and devoted mother of 3 young children. She is the founder of Ketshop, a parent-approved shopping app. Ketshop empowers kids to manage their own ...
Living and parenting big, bold, brave after tragedy with Clint Hatton
August 01, 2023 13:00 - 1 hour - 87.7 MBClint Hatton - father, husband, transformational life coach who has trained over 8000 leaders with a track record for creating energy, delivering dynamic content, and giving audiences the tools to transform their lives immediately and live... Big, Bold, and Brave! Clint helps humans unclutter their thoughts, clarify priorities, and create actionable plans that empower them to become their best version! Clint was awarded the 2017 Distinguished Leadership Award as a Global Influencer by i...
How to Become Untriggerable
July 25, 2023 13:00 - 25 minutes - 34.4 MBHow do you stop getting triggered? The million $$ question for most parents.... In this episode I break down the steps to becoming untriggered so you can finally start feeling proud of how you show up with your kids. If you've lost it on your kid in the last 24 hours, and you're interested in diving deeper into triggers and learning ways to handle difficult situations, check out my private podcast "For the Last Time." Want help with your family? DM me “HELP” and my team wil...
Your Body is Your Subconscious with Dr. Luke Sniewski
July 18, 2023 13:00 - 1 hour - 82.9 MBGet ready for an awesome podcast episode featuring Dr. Luke Sniewski, a somatic healing expert. As a Wellbeing Coach and Somatic Therapist, Dr. Luke Sniewski integrates his broad personal, academic, and professional experience into a unique approach for helping others. He utilizes compassionate inquiry, somatic practices, and healthy lifestyle strategies to help clients experience more vitality, authenticity, and inner peace in everyday life. The core of his work is reconnecting cli...
Sibling Jealousy
July 11, 2023 13:00 - 37 minutes - 50.8 MBIn today's episode we explore sibling rivalry and jealousy, prompted by a question in my DMs on Instagram from a parent of an adopted child experiencing jealousy. In the episode we talk about sibling dynamics, the similarities between adult arguments and children's rivalry, common scenarios of sibling rivalry and where jealousy comes from. If sibling rivalry is something you deal with in your family - tune in to the episode!! Want help with your family? DM me “HELP” ...
The High Achiever as a Parent with Faiza Sheikh-Mian
July 04, 2023 13:00 - 44 minutes - 61.7 MBToday’s episode is so juicy! We have therapist and holistic coach Faiza Faiza Sheikh-Mian as our guest and together we talk about what it’s like for a high achiever as a parent, how high achievement gets in the way of things, how we help ourselves when it does and lots more! In Faiza's work with clients, she focuses on evidenced-based practices while integrating mind body soul healing because her experience in the field showed her that clients were seeking deeper levels of healing and awar...
Doing more for your kids is the WORST way to be a good parent
June 27, 2023 13:00 - 28 minutes - 39.4 MBIn this episode of The Unscrew You Podcast, I challenge the common belief that striving to be a good parent can lead to fulfillment, highlighting how it can actually result in suffering. This episode explores the reasons behind the constant sacrificing and overburdening that parents experience, attributing it to societal conditioning and the expectation of eventual recognition and appreciation from their children. Contrary to this mindset, I suggest that excessive sacrifice is not the soluti...
#124 Redefining Connection
June 20, 2023 20:30 - 36 minutes - 49.7 MBWhen I tell parents they need to connect with their kids, they often tell me they ARE. If you feel you are doing everything to connect with your kids yet still aren’t seeing changes in behavior - pull up a chair, this episode is for you. Int his episode we dive into what is actual connection and why you haven’t seen results even though you’ve been putting in the time and energy. Want help with your family? DM me “HELP” and my team will reach out to you to see how we can support you! Tag ...
#123 Consciously Navigating Big Change
June 13, 2023 20:00 - 28 minutes - 39 MBSometimes we deal with huge changes in life: death, divorce. moving, adding another child to the family etc. How do we navigate these “giant” changes that often bring up many feelings of uncertainty, instability etc. so that we can also guide our kids through these changes? Hint: these “BIG” changes, are not always so big…. How? Tune in and find out and then share with me how you too can shift how you navigate big changes! Want help with your family? DM me “HELP” and my team wi...
#122 Mom Rage
June 07, 2023 01:00 - 15 minutes - 21.1 MBMom Rage. That feeling that you might be calm on the outside but you’re SEETHING on the inside…. Or that feeling when your blood boils and you EXPLODE like a volcano: we all have been there at one point or another, this is mom rage and it’s a sure sign YOU have crossed your own boundaries… Listen to the episode to understand why and let me know what you think! Want help with your family? DM me “HELP” and my team will reach out to you to see how we can support you! Tag me while you’re l...
#121 What Nervous System State Do You Parent In?
May 31, 2023 03:06 - 20 minutes - 28.2 MBIn this episode we break down the 3 main states of the nervous system. Green, Red and Blue. I’ve categorized it in a faulty simplistic way because for the purpose of our discussion it’s good enough, and none of us are brain scientists….So although we always are going from one state to another, there is a state that we find ourselves in the most, and this episode will help you know which one is your most common nervous system state, and if it isn’t Green, what you can do to start changing tha...
#120 Emotionally Safe Homes
May 23, 2023 23:00 - 17 minutes - 29.4 MBWe all want to create an emotionally safe environment for our kids to grow up in, but…..what does that even mean? What does it look like? How are we inadvertently creating UNsafe environments for our kids right now?? Tune into this episode to find out!!! Want help with your family? DM me “HELP” and my team will reach out to you to see how we can support you! Tag me while you’re listening on Instagram! @rachelduffyhere If you enjoyed this episode and it inspired you, I would love to ...
#119 Effective Parenting in 7 Steps
May 16, 2023 17:00 - 25 minutes - 41.1 MBAre you a high achiever, type A person, go-getter or just someone who values productivity and efficiency?? This is your episode! I break down what it takes to be effective as a parent in this episode - skills I myself had to UNlearn from decades as a type-A high achiever in the corporate world…..and then RElearn brand new skills to be effective in my family… Want help with your family? DM me “HELP” and my team will reach out to you to see how we can support you! Tag me while you’re...
#118 Toxic Family with Susan Gold
May 09, 2023 22:00 - 42 minutes - 57.8 MBSensitive topic alert - if you have kids around, you might want to put your earbuds in! Today’s guest is a remarkable woman who shares with us her journey through childhood trauma and how she rose from it. Susan is an author, Consultant and Coach. She's found a way to perceive exceptional challenges, and challengers, as an opportunity for soul growth and conscious evolution. Her memoir, “TOXIC FAMILY: Transforming Childhood Trauma into Adult Freedom”, is the personal and professional t...
#117 Half a Century Taught Me This
May 02, 2023 23:00 - 25 minutes - 41.1 MBI had a BIG birthday!!! To celebrate, I am reflecting on the top 5 (or 6) lessons I learned in the last 5 decades of life on this planet. Lessons that not only changed my life, but changed my parenting…. Which one is your fave??? Want help with your family? DM me “HELP” and my team will reach out to you to see how we can support you! Tag me while you’re listening on Instagram! @rachelduffyhere If you enjoyed this episode and it inspired you, I would love to hear your biggest takea...
#116 Real Life Runner with Angie Brown
April 25, 2023 22:00 - 49 minutes - 67.8 MBWhat does running have to do with parenting? Glad you asked because on today's episode we’re talking about it with running coach and mother, Angie Brown. Dr. Angie Brown, DPT is a mom, wife, entrepreneur, coach, and physical therapist that is the founder of the Real Life Runners Training Academy and Real Life Runners podcast that she hosts alongside her husband, Kevin. Together we discuss motherhood, mental and physical health and the intersection between them. Fun fact about Ang...
#115 I Have A Secret!
April 19, 2023 04:02 - 24 minutes - 33.5 MBToday I’m sharing with you a secret - a secret podcast I’m creating specifically for parents who want to do the deeper work of becoming untriggered. The creation of this secret podcast was inspired by the parents I work with inside of Powerfully Grounded Parenting accelerator and what they said to me was they wanted me to do a workshop for them specifically on triggers and how to work through them, so we did, I created a workshop just for them- this is one of many perks of being inside my...
#114 Child Suicide
April 11, 2023 20:00 - 46 minutes - 63.5 MBThis topic is sensitive, so please skip it if you are not in a mental space to talk about suicide and suicide ideation in children. Today’s guest is Melody Murray, a licensed marriage and family therapist working in private practice. Melody is a former mental health assessor at Seattle Children’s Hospital and she helps us understand suicide and how to handle it as parents, if we suspect our kids are thinking about harming themselves to this degree. I thoroughly enjoyed having her...
#113 Mindset of a Powerfully Grounded Parent
April 05, 2023 01:00 - 23 minutes - 32.1 MBIn this episode I share with you some powerful mindset shifts you can adopt for yourself if you want to start changing your experience with your kids. Yes, we do need to build skills. Yes, there are strategies. Definitely you need to take action. AND the mindset piece of parenting is just as important. No strategy, not tactic, no action will work unless you have the right mindset and similarly, the mindset alone is not enough. On many episodes we get into the strategies, but in ...
#112 Wherever You Go, There You Are
March 29, 2023 03:16 - 16 minutes - 22.8 MBIn this episode I share with you 3 lessons from my recent masterminds in NYC, that you can apply in your family today if you want to see an uplevel in how you show up as a parent. I’m a huge believer in surrounding yourself with people who inspire you, push you to evolve and compassionately hold you accountable. We are all human, we all have blindspots and we all tell ourselves stories that limit us. IT’s human nature. We can either just be limited by our own stories and narratives, or...
#111 Screw the Status Quo
March 22, 2023 01:30 - 17 minutes - 23.3 MBTrigger warning - this episode will challenge you! Ever had this thought that it would be great to have deeper connection in your family, but at the same time, things are “good enough” or “okay” right now, you’re getting by, as long as you don’t ruffle too many feathers or breathe too deeply, you’re somehow holding it together and that status quo is something you’ve learned to be ok with? This episode is a challenge to the status quo that you may have learned to accept, so buckl...
#110 Yelling Has Long Term Effects on Brain Development
March 15, 2023 01:00 - 13 minutes - 19.2 MBIf you're a parent with kids 12 and under and you’re finding yourself… Yelling 3x a week or more just to get your kids to listen to you… Then feeling guilty because you know it’s damaging to your kids… Then feeling frustrated because 2 hours later you’re in the same.damn.situation… Meanwhile all you want is to have peace in your family, raise respectful kids who listen to you without you having to yell at them, but you don’t know how to do that and also stay regulated, mainta...
#109 The Carousel You Can’t Get Off….
March 07, 2023 23:30 - 25 minutes - 35.4 MBDoes everything feel like a struggle to you? You might be stuck in a “Struggle Pattern” or a “Chosen Pattern”… In this episode we unpack 2 common patterns I see with families I work with. Tune in to learn about patterns and how they repeat 🔂 one generation after another .. If you're a parent with kids 12 and under, looking to have peace in your family while also raising respectful kids who listen to you without you having to yell at them, but you don’t know how to do that and als...
#108 Calm Families in 7 Mins or Less
March 01, 2023 00:00 - 27 minutes - 43.5 MBDoes everything feel like a struggle to you? if you're a parent with kids 12 and under, looking to have peace in your family while also raising respectful kids who listen to you without you having to yell at them, but you don’t know how to do that and also stay regulated, maintain boundaries or even understand your kids’ behaviors - here’s what you need to know. Chances are you're falling into one or more of the common traps that smart, good parents get into without even realizing it...
#107 Birth is not just about your baby being born…..
February 22, 2023 05:41Eye opening convo with an amazing woman, mother and birth coach: Ella Goldberg is a mom of two boys and a Lamaze Certified Childbirth Educator with a background in maternal and child health. Through her online courses, she supports expecting parents as they navigate pregnancy through postpartum. Ella and her family reside in Israel, and spend their summers at camp in the Pocono Mountains. We talked about why many women struggle to release their birth stories even though both they and t...
#107 Birth is not just about your baby being born…..
February 22, 2023 05:41Eye opening convo with an amazing woman, mother and birth coach: Ella Goldberg is a mom of two boys and a Lamaze Certified Childbirth Educator with a background in maternal and child health. Through her online courses, she supports expecting parents as they navigate pregnancy through postpartum. Ella and her family reside in Israel, and spend their summers at camp in the Pocono Mountains. We talked about why many women struggle to release their birth stories even though both they and t...
#106 Conscious & Healing
February 14, 2023 17:00 - 1 hour - 88.2 MBWe’re talking today with Dayna Ciarfalia, also known as the conscious healing mama. Dayna shares with us her journey from trauma to triumph, as she navigated her childhood wounds, a divorce and motherhood with 2 young kids. She is a true inspiration and I know you will learn from her wisdom. Motherhood CAN be your biggest and best opportunity to experience internal freedom - Dayna is a perfect example of that! Follow her HERE https://www.instagram.com/the.conscious.healing.mama/ ...
#105 3 Minutes of Coaching is Enough
February 07, 2023 17:00 - 20 minutes - 33.4 MBWhat can you actually achieve in 3 minutes of coaching? Enough to give you a major A-Ha....Listen to this episode as I unpack for you how my client, E, brought up the roughhousing between her 2 boys and how she struggles to manager herself in those moments and how in 3 mins of coaching I helped her figure out why and what to do to change. Want help with your family? DM me “HELP” and my team will reach out to you to see how we can support you! Tag me while you’re listening on Instagram! ...
#104 Eating Disorders in Kids
February 01, 2023 04:52 - 50 minutes - 72.7 MBWe’re talking today with Danielle Magen, licensed clinical social worker specializing in eating disorders and co-occurring conditions in adults, adolescents and families. I am a New York based clinical social worker. Danielle is passionate about empowering people in their recovery so that they can move towards actions that align with their values and priorities. As part of her training, she focused on behavioral interventions, mindfulness, and person-centered approaches that rely on the s...
#103 Raising Powerfully Grounded Kids Part 3
January 24, 2023 21:00 - 12 minutes - 22.8 MBRaising Powerfully Grounded Kids - is that even a thing? What does that mean and why should we do it? In this part 3 of 3 parts, we break down what it means to raise powerfully grounded kids and we expand on one of 3 must haves for us to accomplish this goal: ONE PARENT. Tune in and see for yourself why! Listen to Part 1 https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/raising-powerfully-grounded-kids-part-1/id1558240208?i=1000593628680 Listen to Part 2 https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/...
#102 Raising Powerfully Grounded Kids Part 2
January 17, 2023 21:00 - 16 minutes - 28.7 MBRaising Powerfully Grounded Kids - is that even a thing? What does that mean and why should we do it? In this part 2 of 3 parts, we break down what it means to raise powerfully grounded kids and we expand on one of 3 must haves for us to accomplish this goal: KIDS WHO LISTEN. Tune in and see for yourself why! Listen to Part 1 https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/raising-powerfully-grounded-kids-part-1/id1558240208?i=1000593628680 Want help with your family? DM me “HELP” and my tea...
#101 Raising Powerfully Grounded Kids Part 1
January 11, 2023 04:55 - 17 minutes - 29.9 MBRaising Powerfully Grounded Kids - is that even a thing? What does that mean and why should we do it? In this part 1 of 3 parts, we break down what it means to raise powerfully grounded kids and we expand on one of 3 must haves for us to accomplish this goal: BOUNDARIES. Tune in and see for yourself why! Want help with your family? DM me “HELP” and my team will reach out to you to see how we can support you! Tag me while you’re listening on Instagram! @rachelduffyhere If you enjoyed t...
#100 Interview with a Powerfully Grounded Kid
January 04, 2023 07:14 - 25 minutes - 41.1 MBWe are celebrating our 100th episode!!!! To honor this milestone, I thought I’d share an extra special guest with you, so today we’re talking to one of my sons: Daniel. Through this short but sweet interview, I hope you get a glimpse of what it’s like being Powerfully Grounded as a kid. Daniel would love to know if you liked this episode and if you want more of him on the podcast? Let us know! Want help raising kids without raising your voice? DM me “HELP” and my team will rea...